Share relationship issues if you feel things might be tipping into abuse .. then sharing with someone you trust is the first step to getting help and some perspective on the fog you may be in
Number 5 resonated with me. Many times I've spoken about goals to others but end up achieving none of them. The main problem is people will ask you about any strides you have made attaining it. If you haven't made strides they ask you "Why not?" That is a legitimate question that only you can answer. Or if you have a great idea and tell a friend/loved one about it - but then they shoot you down with negative comments. I agree with the finances one - that's your business, not other people's. Talking about problems is part of life - probably better to talk to a mental health professional. It's nice to have outside support from others.
Setting small short term achieveable goals is a good thing. Setting long terms goals is a popular thing in our culture. Everyone is always saying to have these huge goals set out in front of you. That is normally advise you receive from people that have already acheived their large goals. However, when you set very large goals with a time frame and you don't acheive that goal is can be devastating. We tend to be our own worst critics. When we fail to acheive the more lofty time oriented goals we beat ourselves up relentlessly. Which only causes us to be less likely to ever acheive them. It is a good thing to have end goals but I tend to set no time on the long term goals and focus on the small short term goals. Instead choosing to focus on each step that will eventually lead me to where I want to end up. Of course the trick is....that once you get there you always want more. So short answer. Enjoy the journey. Focus on moving forward and leave the end results to themselves. To use a scripture from the Bible. Proverbs 13:12 "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life."
#3 just as with relationships, some families are abusive and sometimes talking to others is the only way to get it solved as abuse victims often need outside help of some kind or other.
@@louierodriguez7264 theres too much to read out there, thats written well and published, heaps of material from 100s of years. this is just lazy propaganda for ad clicks. “do not recommend channel”
Alternate title: "mistakes I keep doing in my life till now" I kept sharing all these things to my friend (except bank balance, I don't have one) and now I feel like he's having control over my life and more often his words strikes my memories and decreases my concentration, this might be my most life changing 3 minutes thanks for uploading I'll herein make sure I don't share my relationship issues (complaining about my partner to others), family issues (people doesn't need to know what ur undergoing right now), mainly weaknesses (never give them a chance to surpass, make u inferior), and goals (exactly, whenever I'll say him that I'll get more marks or I'll work more than him, I never did it till now. So I'll make sure I work the hardest without keeping any limits) thanks for reading peace ✌
#1 isn't always true. Abusive relationships often need to be exposed or at least a third party needs to get involved for it to end. The victims in abusive relationships often can't just talk to their partner and resolve the issue because that partner will just get abusive again in retaliation. Though for regular / healthy relationships it's pretty good advice to not talk about associated problems with others and to instead discuss with the partner.
I see a lot of people posting "I have to talk to someone about this or that issue." To me this video is telling me to not 1) post it online so everyone will see, and 2) tell almost everyone I meet my problems. 3) It's ok to talk to someone you really trust that will not pass your story around or judge you. Be safe everyone.
The only thing I agree with is sharing your problems with the RIGHT people. It's not good to keep things bottles up. Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on .
I see situations where each of these should be shared with other people, you just want to be really disciplined about who you share it with and why. For example, you should talk about salary compensation with others in your field to not get taken advantage of in salary negotiations. If you have a trusted person who's an expert at something you are weak at, it might be worth it to share that weakness to get some help with it.
I pray whoever reads this should become successful. keep fighting for success. the rich stay rich by spending like the poor and investing why the poor stay poor and be spending like the rich yet not investing. Roar! Invest earn and be successful.
Very good info, these issues I thought about myself too, and came to the same conclusions. No use throwing your stuff on the table while others keep things to themselves, don't make that mistake.
I only agree to the extent that these are good things to keep off FB! Lol And they are great things to make sure remain important to yourself, by that I mean don't become wrapped up in other peoples opinions/comments about them. The reason I disagree with not talking about these things, or anything actually, is because the most important things to me are communication, honesty, helping others, and helping yourself. When we share, we teach and we learn. We show that no one is alone in what they are going through and how they feel, and we are comforted by learning from others that we are also not alone. Good information and good points, though. 💙✌
Some of it is good, but it’s all relative. #5 Yes, you have to be careful who you share your goals with, but not sharing because you’ll become less motivated or feel “daunting pressure” in my opinion, is weak. On the contrary, not sharing them or being vague about them gives you an easy out. Broadcasting a VERY specific goal means that if you don’t hit your target, you Failed miserably, you and everyone you told will know it. If that doesn’t light a fire under your belly to make it happen, I don’t know what does. I heard a psychologist mention this, I’ve adopted it and it’s changed my life.
Setting small short term achieveable goals is a good thing. Setting long terms goals is a popular thing in our culture. Everyone is always saying to have these huge goals set out in front of you. That is normally advise you receive from people that have already acheived their large goals. However, when you set very large goals with a time frame and you don't acheive that goal is can be devastating. We tend to be our own worst critics. When we fail to acheive the more lofty time oriented goals we beat ourselves up relentlessly. Which only causes us to be less likely to ever acheive them. It is a good thing to have end goals but I tend to set no time on the long term goals and focus on the small short term goals. Instead choosing to focus on each step that will eventually lead me to where I want to end up. Of course the trick is....that once you get there you always want more. So short answer. Enjoy the journey. Focus on moving forward and leave the end results to themselves. To use a scripture from the Bible. Proverbs 13:12 "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life."
#2 Is very close to the idea that we shouldn't discuss our wages. This is something rich people, our bosses, like to perpetuate as it stops workers finding out the going rate for various types of labour, it stops workers knowing how fair or competitive their wages are; employers take advantage of this and give such workers a crap wage. The bosses decide and thus they know how much everyone is getting paid; it's only fair the rest of us know too.
@@magdalaas yeah, people struggling financially are more desperate so are more vulnerable to being exploited so isn't something to tell the world. Trustworthy people like someone close or a professional fincial assistance expert are the among the few people to tell about it - though bear in mind that most abusers are someone close to their victims and within a position of trust.
Agree to Disagree on Relationship Issues it's lot's of Men and Women being Psychologically Abused, Physically Abused, Financially Abused, Emotionally Abused and all that takes a Toll on Mental Health Issues on People, Some don't know what to do, and in some cases if they had Advice it could save their lives, too many Men and Women k!lling each other Over Relationship's, Somebody needs to know something abusive wise.
Share your bank balance, it's the quickest way to find out people's intentions. Share weaknesses you don't care about and see how people react to them. Share your plans, people will hold you accountable
When I lived in Thailand there were three personal questions Thai people asked that Americans typically wouldn’t ask a stranger in casual conversation when they’re likely never going to see each other again. 1. Next question after asking your profession was how much do you make? Let me be clear on the majority of people including all nationalities that asked about salary were coworkers because it wasn’t stated in our contracts not to discuss it Vs. American contracts. 2. How old are you? Which isn’t a question I ever mind or avoid but many people may find it intrusive when asked their age by someone they just met; e.g, taxi driver, street vendor or stranger on the Sky train. 3. How much do you weigh?
God bless you today and always. I pray that every day be filled with happiness and hope. That as you go through your days, you know happiness and love. That everything in your life turns out for good, because God has His hand on you He was an amazing person.even though his song made me cry because whenever I get a notification for this song I love it because it helps me recall my late wife of which tears run down my eyes how are you today? Well, my name is Harvey,can we Be friend🌹🌺
These are an amazing and excellent information. I have always thought about these wise and reasonable advices. As unfortunate the majority of humans are deceive, jealous, hypocrite, and malicious behavior. Regardless many of us think positive but some humans are cruel, and not with good intentions.
If someone is eager to know intimate details about your life, you need to seriously ask yourself why that is? Idgaf about anyone’s personal life and neither should anyone else…
The reality is: in this modern world we live in, it's not you sharing your information, it's somebody else solicitating/trafficking your information electronically.
Time and place. All of these things are things that could be shared with trusted therapists or friends in appropriate contexts and have both personal and mutual benefit. We can resonate with the idea of keeping some things to onesself; at the same time we must not undermine the value of the shared human experience.
#1 would have me believe this is propaganda. There's 20 examples of relationship issues that should immediately be brought to someone outside of the relationships attention. If your in a relationship, and your being lied to, controlled, manipulated, abused emotionally or physically...IMMEDIATELY TELL SOMEONE and get out. Don't let this crap make you feel bad, if someone is being horrible to you, that's not a secret, that's time to expose.
