5 Things You Should Know When Someone is Actively Dying 

Rebecca, what a beautiful soul you are, and what a blessing you were for your brother!! May all the beautiful memories of your time with your brother sustain you, and help your heart heal. Thank you for sharing your experience. 🌹

Gah. 🙏🏻😭

You offered such a beautiful response to this video. And you have suggested a wonderful way of dealing with a loved one's dying experience. I almost feel like you sent this to me because I am currently in the exact same situation.

I'm tearing up, just imagining those moments for you and your brother... BLESSINGS to you!!💖🙏

That's really beautiful 🙏💖🌹

Absolutely

Thank you I am his sister.🙏🏻❤️

I looked at his eyes, he speaks truly with his heart ….

I felt the same way listening to him speak and I Love how he said that God is calling them home🕊️ I've cried so much hearing his word's and knowing my mom didn't suffer during her last Days and hour's and it's true she was very calm mostly sleeping in peace and that's how she passed away she just gently stopped breathing and then she left me 💔 words can not even begin to express how I feel the pain in my heart is just something I can't even begin to explain because it just hurts so much I loved her dearly I cared for her ever since my father passed away in 1992 I brought her to live with me so she wouldn't feel alone ever again she was 94yrs Old then congestive heart failure came along a few months ago and that's what took her from me😢 God bless this Dr and all the Dr and nurses that care for our loved one's and do their everything to try to make them healthy again.

Yesss❣️🥰✝️👑😇🙏

I think it is lovely you think that I be I have no desire to see anyone

That is beautiful she would of felt so relaxed and not worried that all was gonna be ok ,im cryin sorry

@@donnaf4820 Me too... crying. Heartwarming ♡

Thats just beautiful

I also played guitar for my dad, about five days before he began his transition. He was still able to clap (barely) and tears welled up in his eyes. He was also a musician and brought me into a lifetime of music as well. The last tune I played..."Somewhere over the rainbow".... I love you, Pop. Born 12/17/1937. Died 4/30/2022. Never gone from my heart and now in heaven with his band mates.

Bless you

They really are

Agree!!

So true!!

Yes ❤️❤️

I agree and my daughter Amanda is one of them!

Bless you. I am my mother's full time caretaker. I will be there for her like you were for yours. Man, I just cried so hard.. I wish you the best. 🙏✌️🌼

God bless you

Bless you.

As a daughter you gave your mother the love and care at a scary time in life. I stayed with my dad for 3 weeks. Especially his last week I didn't want him to pass away alone. To me this was very important 💞

I was with my mom and my dad when they took their last breath. It was heartbreaking, but I needed to be there. They were there when I took my first breath and I was there when they took their last. 💕

Indeed!

May the lord be with you and help you recover from what ever is with you.. sickness and death is two different things therefore may you recover all your health and strength🙏

I wish you all the best.

God is unconditional love and I know how peaceful and beautiful the next life is. I had the blessing to be there for a short time during childbirth surgery 44 years ago. Amazingly freeing. God be with you.

How’s everything now

@@ronamartinez8232 on hospice 3 months ago. Hmmmmmm 🤷‍♀️

Amen and ditto

@Cheryl Caine How do you know he's Christian? Why do you think that only Christians can be gentle, compassionate, and respectful?

@@longtermcareexperiences-bi5685 just a guess by the way he spoke he said “when God’s calling you home.”

@@cherylcain890 Yes, but my question was, would you be less comfortable if he were not a Christian? Personally, it wouldn't matter, as long as he was as kind, gentle, and compassionate as this doctor 🕉🕎☯️✝️☪️☮⚛☦

you must be american, thinking only a Christian doctor would be caring. what about a black Christian doctor? acceptable to you?

I’m sorry for your loss 🙏🏻

Yes. Do it for him. God bless. 🙏

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God bless you and help you 💕

I understand your place, my husband died with Covid. To many health issues to overcome it. Prayers for you

I bet she is still not done talking with Dot and Lucille. She must be having an amazing reunion.

You are an angel!! It takes very special people to do the work you have done and I know you are appreciated by not only the family and loved ones, but also by the one making their journey into eternity. To have that love in your heart to care so deeply for people you've never known is a rare quality that few are blessed with. It's a gift and thank God you have used it. ❤❤❤

I too have been a palliative care volunteer for some 20 yr. I have sat with so many people when they passed ( I usually sat with them through the night ). I also stayed with both my parents and my brother as they passed...an immense privilege and healing process. I remember my dad smiling and saying 'the boys were waiting'....they were his 4 brothers who had already passed.

@@susanjacquier5358 LOl

Thank you my friend for being so kind to people when they need it most.

I hear stories, from a hospice chaplain or from friends or a pastor, about how some people just seem to need to be alone when they die. My own mother had a brain tumor and was unable to communicate, but she seemed to hang on until everyone in the family had a chance to say goodbye and then waited till we left to finally let go. It seemed like she instinctively felt a need to be present for us, and then when she was finally alone, she could just go. A priest friend said that in his experience, that’s not uncommon.

You are an amazing daughter any mother would be proud of princess 🙏🏻🌹

I agree. Many people do that before they die. I've been told that they'r communicating with loved ones who have died before them. My mom's been. gone for 22 years too.1999.I miss her too.

There is much more, there is heaven!

…a dying loved one can also smell the scent of a flower. A dear old aunt appreciated this while she was in a coma….so touching.🌹

Fayth Klauka,my mom was in hospice during the final month of her life. On the day she passed, she lay in bed and with outstretched arms, cried out "Help me,God. Help me,God". She was ready, finally, to let go of her pain and leave this world. Until again,Mom. You are loved and missed.

My feelings precisely about this Dr. His comments on this issue are spoken with knowledge of course, but also such compassion. It makes you wish that he was the Dr. caring for when that scary time comes.

I love Dr. Bush’s compassion for people. I, too, wish he could be there at my pivotal time of journey.

So true.

Amen 🙏🏿💜 God bless you Dr. Bush.

God is a useful tool to diminish the fear of dying. The reality of death is for many people too scary.

Sharienne W. I agree, people need to talk about the demonization of opoids and the needless pain and suffering they have condemned the world to endure. My beloved friend Karen died on August 15, 2021 after suffering from non-stop agonizing pain as a result of end stage cancer. They denied her Hydrocodone for the same reason you mentioned and because, "They didn't want to hurt her." That is the most cruel and evil thing anyone can do to someone in horrible pain. She had to endure that pain for 3 months before cancer ate her alive until she died. This pain and suffering is the norm now, I know of many people, including myself, that have serious chronic pain and cannot get the safest pain medication, Hydrocodone. They had no problem prescribing me 2 drugs for pain and both had common side effects of sudden heart attack, stroke, or sudden death! But they would not give me Hydrocodone because it could hurt me. BULL! I refused to take them so my fourth year of debilitating pain goes on. Now millions of people suffer horribly every single day because they have decreed that is the way it will be, no matter how much people suffer. They have an agenda and it is NOT to keep people from getting addicted or to keep them from harm. Sadly, they rule the world and they make the rules and the rest of us are left to suffer, many times, to death! This should not be! I'm sorry your loved one had to pay the price for such wickedness in this world. At last, their suffering in this world is over and they cannot torment them ever again. God bless and keep you all.

Unbelievable. Very sad

So sorry, that should not have happened

@@kathykay2010 So sorry I missed your comment. I wish things weren't this way. I have had chronic pain for years. I searched the medical literature in an effort to find an explanation. I finally realized that I have a mutation that often leads to chronic pain. All you can do is control the pain. I spent 10 years learning physical therapy techniques, massage modalities, trigger points, acupuncture and chiropractic, concentration/hypnosis and more, but finally my blood pressure went so high that my doctor wanted me to take a sample there in the office because it was so high. I just said no. It was time to treat my pain rather than fight it or ignore it. I have been on opioid pain meds since then. I will never forget the first Fentanyl patch I put on. I just melted to the floor in sobs of relief. 30 days later my blood pressure and other blood chemistry went to normal. My BP dropped 30 points. I won't go back to the pain. I have been terrified that my doc would get Covid and die. Our state has a limited number of docs who can prescribe opiates long-term and they rarely take new patients. Even if they do accept patients, my drive goes from less than 3 miles to get to my doctor to at least 100 miles. As difficult as the opioids access is, I think that you might want to consider it. Before opioids my, pain increased every 6 months. I nearly died from NSAIDS and twice the pain medications prescribed were recalled for heart damage risks. My opioid prescription has been raised only once in 18 years of using opioids. I take oxymorphone. One doctor who specializes in opioid pain treatment said that opioid addiction is different from other kinds of abused drugs because opioid addiction is a genetic issue so you don't have higher addiction risk based on the dose or length of use. You either have the mutation or you don't. That's why addiction to opioids is almost constant at around 3%. The reason people are dying now, has far less to do with big pharma and is a result of illegal Fentanyl cut into street drugs. Since Fentanyl is 1,000 times more potent than heroin, it can cause overdoses very easily. They've checked the reports of people claiming Fentanyl poisoning from touching the powder but that's actually a misunderstanding about how the Fentanyl patch worked as opposed to powdered Fentanyl. The company that developed the patch had to make a suspension in the patch to cross the skin barrier. Powder won't go through skin. If you have some powder on your hands and it gets into your mouth, nose or eyes, the powder can cross mucus membranes so wash your hands immediately. Again, I am NOT A DOCTOR so don't take my word for it. You should talk to a pain medication specialist. I have never had a good appointment with a rheumatologist. One I went to literally shrieked as she walked in the door and said "Oh my God you're fat. " That was the appointment. I had to pay the hundred bucks because she didn't accept any insurance. I asked my pain doc how fat causes pain and he just shook his head and said he hated when doctors said that. I have figured out that after 20 years in bed, my weight pulls on my joints and causes pain, but it took 20 years before I reached that point.. But intense pain can kill you. The VA just released a study that found the patients who rated their pain the highest were the most likely to die of pain-induced suicide. They call it suicide, or the awful ones call it addiction... obviously, that's ridiculous because you would not have died if your pain was treated. THAT'S the real danger, not addiction, but suicide from untreated pain. If you have had severe pain constantly for years, you need to see a doctor about your risk and tell them you have untreated pain. The UN has assessed and reported America's poor response to patients reporting pain in chronic and acute cases and labeled the American system a human rights abuse over untreated pain. It is a serious problem. I hope that you find relief and compassionate care. There are several chronic pain organizations. I link with them and other pain patients on Twitter and it keeps me informed about state laws and new legislation about opioids. Please take care.

I’m so sorry this happened .

Thank you for the beautiful sharing....I too learned there was nothing to fear 🙂

I hope you are doing well. So sorry for your loss. You will see her again.

@@shannoninalaska Thank you, and you are 110% correct.

Amen 🙏

I'm so sorry for your loss honey. She is fine, and you were here earth angel. God Bless, take it easy and don't make any big decisions for the next 6 months until you have started to accept your Mum's passing. She will always be with you, and love you. xxx

@@shaunab6805 thank you so much for your kind words Shauna ❤

@@civilpanda9422 my mom and your mom are on the same 🌟 journey my mom just passed Aug 16 I guess I was meant to see this video tonight.. I feel like you it really hurts and so hard to accept yet we will see them Again

@@donnafontaine2799 my sympathy for your loss Donna. these are tough days indeed. i too believe we will see them again so there is some comfort in that. take care of yourself as you grieve xxoo

My sincere condolences to you and your family. My son was killed in August and the loss is excruciatingly painful. Like you, I got to spend time with him at the beach, hung out a week before he was killed and had our last lunch together. He was Christian and made it clear that he was “right with God” and excited for his future. I knew when I answered my phone at 1am that ....that he wasn’t going to make it. He donated his organs saving five lives. God bless! 🙏🏼

Hello Patti, how are you?I’m glad to come across your profile.. i couldn’t resist not to open your profile after reading your comment, immediately i did my heart stopped after seeing you.. I know this is improper and I’m so sorry to infringe on your privacy, forgive me...please do you care for a chat?

@@wendelinerobert6242 ......not the place!

@wendeline Robert. Really???!!! 🤢

Brought tears to my eyes...

Watch out for @wendeline robert ... he's been accosting women on RU-vid with the same pick up line.

Tears in my eyes...thank you for sharing. Such a beautiful gift for you both to be together in this profound way.

What a beautiful bessing!

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My brother was taken off life support today. We were all there. He could hear us.His name was in the Book of Life. He is in heaven. He was only 59. Just two weeks ago he was working and living. Now he is pain free ( years of cancer) making music w God's angels to praise Him.

​@@khappy1286 Thank you for sharing this...I can feel the gratitude and love that surrounded him, that you wrapped him in and still do, and I can feel his for all of you. I can't tell you how much this touched me today and gave me hope. So deeply sorry for your loss, blessings to you and all who loved him as you navigate this time.

That was very kind of you. Retired medical here too. CABGx3 a year ago. I was fully aware of the procedure and process so I was okay even though I have no family left. It was the beginning of Covid-19, so no one could come anyway. I can't imagine how scary the process was for those who didn't know what to expect. I'm sure you were a comfort. Bless your heart.

@@orbs1062You are indeed phenomenon! God bless you.

My 87 year old brother in law who has dementia. Cannot get him to eat more than a few bites every day. Little bit more successful getting him to drink fluids but he has days (usually 2 or 3) where he refuses any food/drink at all. I give him a Boost protein shake and fluids he takes so he can do his meds. He's very uncommunicative and he doesn't want to be bothered with taking a shower. Hope I can get some help professionally since he holds on to his dignity and won't let me help there. He can still walk.but it is painful. Not sure how to care for him!

@@rosetyner7758 ....can you request help thru hospice?? A lot of times as a person’s body is shutting down; it no longer requires food. I wouldn’t force it. God bless!!! ♥️

God Bless You!

Hugs big hugs to you. Don't know what else to say. But I send love 💘 to you.

May you be blessed with all your positive memories of your holiday celebrations with your husband during this initial holiday season after his passing. May your family & friends give you the support YOU NEED in the coming year. Prayers & positive thoughts being sent to you from me.

How was your day today? I hope you had support and love around you, and you go easy on yourself xx

Sandra, How are you doing today, Dec 25th? Praying for you and sending positive energy to you.

@@kimberlyclytle99 thank you so much. I was with wonderful family and it was a blessed day. It's not been easy it has been only the two of us for 25 years. But it will be better, the love of Jesus has kept me strong. Your very special to remember me this way. God bless you.

Wow! So you got what transitioning was directly from her.😊👏

Suzanne I have never heard of such an incredible telling you of heaven is like. 153 people talked to you about your experience with your Mother and Fathers story. Gives me less fear and more understanding what death is like. God bless you for sharing your telling of your remarkable experience.

Suzanne Betts, my father's deceased parents and siblings came to visit him while he was dying. He was so happy to see them and talk with them! He was so ready to go home!

Lord have mercy to all the faithful departed soul's

Hi Suzanne thank you for coming here to share your story with some many people I am sorry for your loss god bless your parents my dad became sick a month ago when he came out of hospital he had this moaning sound he would make he would talk but then go back to this sound it would make me feel he is passing away he would at times get up and walk from his bed to the chair only the. Next day to have no mobility he got aspiration phenomnia Blood pressure up and down so far he has been fine vital signs but this moaning noise he makes he refuses food because he has to have textured diet he has started to pull out his drip needles something he would never do this before only recently and his behavior change to hospital staff just dose not want anything he is always a gentleman and just wants to come home he had mobility up to a month ago I just don't know why this moan is there

Same with my mom i was happy to walk this beautiful women that gave me life to the next phase of her life. Hospice was wonderfull and so helpfull to me. They gave me a little pamplet to read called gone from my sight. I read it with my mom and we both understood what was going on. I didnt want her or i to be afraid of what we knew was inevitable and it helped alot.

Patricia Bilton our hospice nurse gave us the same booklet. I thought it was a wonderful. It described it so well. We are saying goodbye but on the other side they are saying here she comes. What a great homecoming🙏🏻🙏🏻🤗💐

@@patbeutler354 I love your comment; made me smile.

I too couldn't of made it without wonderful hospice people . Thankful always for them as well for help with my mom .

Oh, yes, I feel the same. I was my father's 24/7 caregiver during his final months. His dementia had reached the point where assisted living didn't work. The next stop was a nursing home but it was horrid and I took him out after 3 days and brought him to my home. Oh, it was tough. (My husband and I aren't young.) Every one of the Hospice workers was an angel. And although Dad needed round-the-clock care by the time he died I was thanking God I'd had the blessing of looking after him until the end. In his final days, he had long conversations with my deceased Mom - even joked with her. Once he called out her name and burst out laughing at some shared joke. He also chatted with his mother and his brother. And despite the dementia, he knew me and my husband until the end.

God bless you Hun 💔 From one mother to another 🌹

@@troubletime8684 thank you ❤️

I'm so sorry you lost your daughter

My prayers are with u

God bless you and your daughter. It must be so sad to lose a child that way. I hope and pray her Guides take her Home right away.

My Nanny (grandmother) spoke to my grandpa out of a sound "dying " sleep.She 0pened her eyes and looked at something no one in the room saw. She said" really the thought Pete". Sarcastic tone. Then she went back to sleep. Passed a few hours later. My grandfather passed many years earlier. Umm. Maybe the Sarcastic tone was because they had been divorced a long long time. It would have been interesting to know what he told her.

You should have pursued that confusing issue about the snafu during your grandmother's surgery, and you would likely have won a settlement. That said, it would not have brought her back, but maybe expose unethical people who did not do a proper job. O well....too late now and your Nanna is likely in a great place ! Don't worry and let it all go......it is the past........She would want you to be happy !

Such a terrible thing you had to go through with your dearest Nanna. Good luck Dulcie.

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Im sorry for ur loss. What kind of cancer did thet say it was. Rip

Death is a bit sad cause we miss those lost. My husband, I'm not sure what's going on. He had a mini-stroke 2 weeks ago but he is refusing ALOT of the Dr orders and has lost 45 pounds in 1 month. He talks like your husband did. He's angry about getting old, wetting uncontrollably, and well....no salute. He said he has no desire to eat like he used to. Now, half a burger gets him full. I just don't know what to say.

We are going through this right now with me 33yr old nephew. It is complicatioks from covid. We were just told that they are taking him off life support. All we can do is pray he is at peace and will be with God and passed on loved ones soon

Such important work

@@theresachung703 thanks for your reply.

@@jkth4500 My father is dying now and I cannot tell you how much I respect the work that your daughter does. It takes such a special person to do something that society does not valorize and yet so central to our human experience. Thank you and to your daughter. May both of you be blessed .

@@theresachung703 I'm so sorry to hear that and I hope that he is getting the help he needs on his journey, and that you are too. Losing your parents, no matter what age you are, totally knocks you off your axis. I really, really miss mine. My daughter (the doc one, I only have one), was very close to my parents as both herself and her brother went there after school for few hours before I collected them after work. When my mum died (31.01.2016) we were all with her and she was in medical school at the time, she was so upset, she told me that she hoped I was not offended but that she was like a second mother to her, I am convinced that influenced her decision to specialise in the field of palliative medicine...I only hope that it wont wear her out emotionally (she's only 32). Take care, cherish your moments with your father, tell him you love him often but don't spook him.

@@jkth4500 Thank you for your kindness. I think the work can give your daughter a lot of strength as well. You sound like such a lovely and delightful person. Wishing you much love and happiness!💜

I am very touched and grateful to everyone who has shared precious memories of the last moments of their loved ones dying. Nearly everyone had a similar story to tell, and it was very comforting and moving to read. Thank you. There are so many good people in the world.

My dad changed into a ventriloquist dummy when he died and we put him in a box 🤡👲🏽😂😂😂😂😂😂

Many people I know don't feel their name belongs to them and prefer to not identify with their name So, I'd play it by ear. Also would it be the maiden name or married name, for a married woman? Difficult to know unless their response/expression suggests it does evoke comforts and peace...

@@annacsillag7247 "Many people you know" prefer not to identify with their name? Interesting. I can't think of a single person who falls into a category like that. Regardless, I have to assume that if you're at the bedside of someone in the end of life stage, holding their hand, providing comfort, etc. it stands to reason that they are a loved one with whom you've shared a portion, if not all, of your life. (Unless perhaps you're in the healthcare industry and this person is sadly passing away alone.) Typically, there isn't a lot of guess work here, or having to play it by ear. I'm simply sharing what I learned from those who are well versed on the subject.

@@jlnriddick because you're not adopted, didn't grow up in foster care or don't come from a lineage of enslaved people who lost their African names and were given Scottish or English ones? I was by the bedside of someone all week who died a few hours ago so I will end my message here and hope humility isn't foreign to you for when you next reply to someone you don't share an experience with.

@@annacsillag7247 Regardless of someone's back story, it's presumed you are at this person's bedside due to the relationship you share with them, hence... this is not a stranger to you. If there are issues, you know to avoid them.

As a long time palliative care nurse, I don’t agree with the necessity of saying the full name to the person…many women change their last names that it really isn’t their name…first names are enough. People often feel they have to say something profound, and find this difficult. I tell them just tell the patient that they love them…that is enough. My best friend died a few days ago, and as I was hugging her just before she passed, I told her “I love you so much, thank you for loving me”…she smiled and hugged me back and was gone a few minutes later.

Some people have a strange fixation on eating. Most people in the US could go for months with only water. They can live off their fat and they should, just do that, instead of getting bariatric procedures. Lazy people get their way now, as the government has declared obesity, a disease. It opened the flood gates......Now we have wide beds, wheelchairs etc.......To accommodate the results of a life long of over eating, too many calories and not exercising, patients with a high BMI can have their insurance pay for their stomach staple. We did this to our society by being enablers and "politically correct ". The excuses we have made are not benefitting anyone, except maybe the bariatric surgeons......they can now buy 2 or 3 more Mercedes cars, maybe even a Ferrari . Ha..ha.....

Thank you for this phrase- I was beside myself when my mom was dying and they weren’t ‘feeding’ her. I couldn’t understand nor accept food being withheld from her. But now I understand better. I lost her March /‘20 and I only got to be with her for a couple hours 3 days before she died. They shut down the hospital the next day, due to Covid and I wasn’t permitted to be with her till the end.

@@kuvasz93 At least you can be glad she passed peacefully shortly after seeing her, unlike some of the unfortunate who lasted a long time alone after the lockdowns which was one of the worse crimes they did to people who can never forget or forgive it.

@@linanicolia1363 what does this have to do with this story of dying???

JOANNE CULLEN I said the same things to my father. He actually passed away with a smile on his face.

@@lorij6796 I whispered this into my Husband's ear, once all the kids were there. I told him it was OK to go, we would be ok, and we knew he would be watching over us, and that we loved him so very much. He took his last breath 10 minutes later. A half hour beforehand, the Hospice Nurse told us " This will be an all night thing". I told her " No, it won't, he's ready to go home".

@@reneet5858 My husband was dying of a brain tumour at home. Three of our sons were with us, but one had broken his leg and was absent. The wonderful nurse volunteered to drive to his home and bring him to our home. After he arrived, I told my husband that we were ALL with him…and it was ok to go home now (to God)…he took one last breath and left us, so peacefully.

💗💓💞

What a beautiful and perceptive daughter you had been to your Mom.

Inner work 🤔... I LOVE that... thank you for sharing that... you just changed my life♥️Bless you, how kind of you to share these words...🥰🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙋‍♀️♥️‼️

How comforting to think of it that way. Thank you.

In my mother's last hours I could see that she was preoccupied by something-she looked intrigued, head on one side. She was still able to speak a little and react to us, but there was something more interesting happening. The thought came to me that she was 'busy' with the business of dying. It would have been so like Mam to find it interesting.

@perpetually awesome Hi -- Yes "dumb" things people say sometimes is sad.

@@olwens1368 She was seeing her loved ones who passed before. They came to escort her to Heaven. Same thing happened to my mom. She was staring in the corner, looking intrigued.

I’m very sorry for your loss.

It was him I’m sure. I’m sorry for your loss🙏🏻

My momma just passed from covid pneumonia Sept. 26th, 2021. She was 57 and I am 23 her youngest daughterof 5. I was very blessed to have a similar experience being with her and holding her hand. I read psalm 23-24 and sang worship songs to her and we prayed to God to wrap her in a blanket of comfort, strength and take any fear away.. over and over again throughout this time between songs.. It was heartbreaking but also the most beautiful thing I've experienced in my life. I sang the lily of the valley which was her favorite song. Before the song was over I told her not to tarry to go see Jesus. Within minutes (she was strongly holding my hand till after she passed) I could feel an emptiness that once filled her body and I saw and felt her spirit leaving her body and going upward. Even after she was gone her hand so tightly held mine unlike the other one and other parts of her body that were limp. I eventually had to pry her hand off mine. I didn't stay long after that since I knew her spirit was with Jesus.

@@iiamthej5911 Oh my, Bless your heart. Sept 26th would have been my husband’s 75th birthday. I understand what you meant when you said it was both heartbreaking and Beautiful. Sounds like you gave your mother a beautiful send off. I am so glad you were with her. May she Rest In Peace in God’s blanket of comfort.

@@joycependleton589 Wow, what a touching coincidence. I pray God continues to give you an armour of strength and blanket of comfort during this time. I know it filled his heart to have you with him during his last moments here. It really was exactly what she wanted and needed 💛 now she's with Jesus. Even though I didn't want her to go and I begged God to not take her I know his timing is best and I will never be able to thank him enough for giving me and her the strength and comfort and peace through her last moments here. With him the "worst day of my life" ended up being one of my greatest memories I will cherish forever. I love her so dearly. Thank you for replying, I hope you have a great day. God bless.

They know that they are changing into ventriloquist dummies and they will be put into a box 🤡👲🏽😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Terrie - when a patient has a 'better' moment do things get worse quickly ? My daughter acted that way on a Saturday after having a TIPS procedure done and three days later she passed away.

@@toddb930 sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been to lose your child. that’s a hard question. Unfortunately the answer is, it varies. My grandmother died within a couple hours, but I’ve seen patients last for several days, but not “waking up” again. Each person is so different. Recently, my niece held on for several hours and as soon as her mother left the room for 5 min she stopped breathing and passed.

Rita Miller, I agree. My mom was a survivor of Stage 4 colorectal cancer,twice. She was given 6-9 months both times, and even quit the chemo for good in her 2nd trial, because she hated the way it made her feel. She asked to be released from treatment before going to visit my sister who lived in California at the time. The doctor approved the release, and when she returned from her trip, she got wonderful news--no evidence of new disease!! For the next almost 30 years, she remained cancer-free!! She was always praying, and it was truly miraculous!!

Yes it touched my heart too what a wonderful sensitive man he is... Respect.

GLORY TO GOD!

Amen 🙏

That is exactly how I felt also. What a wonderful thing to hear a doctor use and obviously believe "God is calling them home!"

GOD Bless and comfort you Grant. As a cancer patient, that is my greatest fear and concern, worrying about the toll my end of days will take on my Husband. I will Pray for you tonight along with my prayers for my family.🙏✝️❤️🌻

Mr. Grove - It doesn't matter how much experience and ability one has when one's own heart has been pierced. You gave her a good life and were by her side. At the end, that is worth everything.. Blessings, sir.

@@rosaliegmaye8539 I will pray for you and your family, too, Ma'am. You are going to Paradise as the God who made you is calling you home. The family isn't there yet and it's always much pain for them, even believing in our Lord, because they don't get to go yet. We know Him. He will take care of your loved ones for you. Because He loves them even more than you do. Be at peace, as you comfort your loved ones.

Grant you are truly a good man and may God Bless you as you continue your journey. It was a gut wrenching experience for you and your wife. Just know that she is at a better place.

I lost my husband to a rare cancer also, prayers from Mississippi

I have heard that sometimes a dying person will say very cruel and hurtful things to loved ones. have you known this to happen ?

@@margaretheard9628 I have never heard of this. This doesn't mean it can't happen, but if it were common, I probably would have heard of it.

On my dad's death certificate it died

It said lack of will to survive

The notes are CORRECT this is dysfunctional and inappropriate. I am not from Saudi, but am Arab and Muslim (as I am assuming these other "culture" people were) and these actions are prohibited. Back in the days prior to Islam it was common to do this for your stated comments, but after Islam came it is allowed to be sad and cry (as we all have hearts) but the full blown dramma show is NOT a show of anything but ignorance. We accept God's decree and know we will all return to Him.

Touching.

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and touching story, having gone through a similar experience this resonated so much 💕

That is beautiful and I believe a very accurate description of the birth/death process.

Death is just another journey of life. We don’t know where we’re going or what to expect, that is the scary part. But, if we have faith (each religion is different in their beliefs here), just like in life we had a path, a journey if you will, then why wouldn’t we have one after? Food for thought. IMO.

It is a process that gets radically cut out during trauma deaths. It probably takes a while to get over these, on the other side. I guess they have fourth dimension hospitals when these passing souls may recover. I read that, somewhere in my esoteric researches. I still feel I would prefer the sudden traumatic death instead of a slow one, laying around and unable to move. I am not seeing that......

Wat about pets to visit for last visit my mom was so happy when we took her dog in to visit he was scared but happy to see her

@@cynthiataylor8271 yes, yes I would want my little dog..but he passed few months ago. So sorry about your mom...I'm sure doggy made her happy.

There are several degrees of coma. Often patients will respond to certain stimuli, as music can be a trigger.

I too loved that the Dr said that Nancy. I agree with him ... that it is God calling the dying one Home.

@@stevethomas4353 depends...

I disagree, Nancy. You and millions of others may BELIEVE that "God is bringing the dying person home" but that statement is definitely NOT "So true." A "belief" is just that. Truth involves having FACTS and CERTAINTY, for starters. "Belief" has nothing to do with it.

@@rae0521 true...not everyone goes to be with God when they die. But those of us who believe in Jesus and accept Him as our savior, believe that we do. I cannot prove this to you as fact, as you said. I take this on faith. Shalom 🙏🙏

@@nancyd.6191 I'm curious... How do you decide what to take on faith and what not to? I mean, when you're not using facts or legitimate evidence upon which to base your beliefs, what do you use? Hunches? Intuition? Tea leaves? What others have told you either in words or writing?

that is beautiful, thank you for sharing.

Everyone’s story is a bit different… my loving wife was dying in the hospital, then admitted her to Hospice where she was finally treated with dignity…I just didn’t know how close to death she was… My son and his wife were across town giving birth and rushed over to show her our new granddaughter…upon arrival, she put her arm up on the air with her index finger pointing up… my granddaughter squeezed her little hand to that finger……..It was an amazing moment that will stay with me forever. Norma was gone at 6am the next day, with me by her side. I’m convinced that she waited until she met our granddaughter to pass…

Hello, Thankyou for sharing. I have heard that men recover faster than women, and that three years is normal for a widow to grieve after a long and good marriage. About one year for men. I suppose it depends on the cause of death, also, because with a long terminal illness we often start grieving before the actual departure. One thing , among others, that I find important is to keep on loving our departed dear ones, by being grateful for their qualities, and praying for them. God is Eternal and so is His Love. I still pray for my Papa even though I am confident he is with God. Our prayers now still count for their whole life.

Me too

Hello Maurita, how are you?I’m glad to come across your profile.. i couldn’t resist not to open your profile after reading your comment, immediately i did my heart stopped after seeing you.. I know this is improper and I’m so sorry to infringe on your privacy, forgive me...please do you care for a chat?

@@wendelinerobert6242 .....this video is about dying and what family & friends should expect. Then responses or stories from what family members experienced....it’s not a dating site. It is improper.

@Maurita Schut So sweet! I am going to start doing this with m family. Thank you for sharing

@@kelliez9991 I love that ur family's going to adopt it. It's a wonderful extra way to let the people u love, know it.

Thank you for sharing this with us. 🙏🏻💕

Amazing story ...peace to you and your family

Hallelujah, your Dad bears witness to Jesus and The Bible even in his death. How wonderful his loved ones were there waiting for him. Can you imagine we will see Jesus face to face? I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your father's testimony. It is so inspiring.🙏💐

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Yes u were blessed we aren't getting it that easy with my dad he doesn't know who i am when i saw him yesterday but told my mom i didn't come up to see him at the hospital .his death is going to be the worst i think I've probably witnessed out of our whole family and it's more than i can take. My mom is an angel she's at his side at the hosp 6 hours or more everyday but only 1 person is allowed up at a time on the icu floor we can't even be together at the same time until right at the end. I've said my goodbyes and released him a couple days ago I'm 48 years old but i feel like a little girl inside. It's horrible knowing there's nothing u can do to end their suffering except watch it okay out like a bad movie

Sharon, that is amazing. What I’d call a good death. My mother has primary liver cancer, diagnosed in mid-March. They told us she likely had 2-4 months to live. She’s fading some, but seems fairly steady. I’ve even questioned the diagnosis! So I was interested to read about your husband being so active until the end. My mother is nearly 89 years old. I pray she is blessed like your husband was.

Death is just a step out of the organic body we have been into ; anything natural has to be good. No fear of death here. BTW, Covid is really bio-warfare, if you do a little research. Pandemic ? well sort of.....but mostly a bio-warfare. Looks like your husband had the right idea.....you go when the work is done...How clever ! .

I truly believe that death is not the end of us, simply a transition to the next part of our lives...God bless you

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may I share first my compassion for your pain. And also may I share my favorite yt ministry. Midday Power Surge. @ Prophecy again. We are all facing meeting Jesus. I pray for your comfort.

@@jjshoot2425 , Thank you. She transitioned on November 1st. . My sister and I were each holding her hands as she passed. Seems like yesterday. I miss her dearly but I know she’s with her loved ones and no longer suffering with Alzheimer’s. It’s a wretched disease.

Yes, I agree Alzheimer's is a horrid disease for the patient, and for the loved ones. Know your mom must have found comfort in her children, and her passing. It's a gift you were able to be there when God welcomed her home. Prayers for you and your family. Live well for her. I still talk to mother-in-law, especially when I'm cooking. I couldn't do it without her

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@@ritaflatt7605 , Our Beloved Mother transitioned on November 1st.. She went peacefully with my sister n I by her side, each of us holding a her hands. The grief comes in waves n my sisters are both having a real hard time. That’s not to say that I’m not but I think I’m in a different place when it comes to death. I’m one to keep it to myself. I feel a peaceful feeling for her n I know she’s with her loved ones. I get little n big signs all the time that she’s happy n at peace. I say thank you every time. 💝✨💝 Thank you for reading my comments n thank you for your reply. 💝🌎💝

It is 3 a.m. and I'm sitting at my husband's 99 yr old aunts bedside in the new lift chair that we surprised her with and she has thoroughly enjoyed. She has congestive heart failure and went from independent living to assisted living on the same campus last month after the hospital social worker erred and sent her here instead of rehab next door. (A 3-5 day trip to settle her in to rehab and prep for a move to AL is closing in on 2 months.) She is now on hospice, her lungs are clearly filling, she is struggling to breath and we just pray that she is comfortable until the end....however long that transition period may be. This video and comments are comforting to me as I sit here in near darkness with this dear, amazing soul. Just the two of us, until my husband, her nephew awakes from a much needed rest. We will always cherish this time with her, going through old photos from her childhood and her adventures abroad. An amazing life well lived and hopefully a peaceful transition into the next. 🥰🥰

My Father called out to his brother Sam, whom we didn't ever speak much of (but was loved).

Thank you for sharing, he really must have been a joyful handful.sending prayers for you and your family

My husband was in hospital ..left to die in his own Urine ..bed linen Soaked while nurses stood at the desk talking ..no Compassion

My husband was in hospital ..left to die in his own Urine ..bed linen Soaked while nurses stood at the desk talking ..no Compassion

@@angelamary9493 that's horrible. So sorry that happened. This is one of the reasons why I want to be by my Mom's side all the time.

Thank you.

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Please take her to hospice. Be fair to her so she is not in pain anymore. Hospice makes u comfortable n the family will feel better also. My boyfriend passed not even 2months ago n hospice was the best thing in his condition. He had lung cancer n was 83yrs old but never really sick his whole life til this. He was not in pain thankfully due to hospice n he had the drugs he needed to feel comfortable. It's terrible to see someone u care for in so much pain. Help her! Death is near let her be out of pain for now.

I was also born to parents who were 40 + when I was born. My father had been through many health issues but he did survive his ship being hit by Kamikaze planes off Okinawa leaving him in the ocean for 2 days waiting to be rescued. I was born on the same day as him and he left me way too soon. I did not know any of my grandparents, one died when I was 2. I later became a hospice volunteer after caring for my mother for over 15 years in my home. I was happy my kids got to see her every day to keep her happy but it was difficult for me as my 2 brother's would not even watch her when we had to fly to my mother in law's funeral. Both were nearby and had room but refused. I believe that's why I became a volunteer, to help out those that have nobody.

My mom passed away in 2016, and she was actively dying for 13 days wouldn't let them give her water and food, signed it when she found out she had cancer.

I'm very sorry to read your story and, though it is several months since you posted, I don't know if things have improved for you. I would say forgiveness is key. Forgive your siblings for carrying on and making you feel left behind, forgive your loving parents for leaving you so suddenly and so close together, and forgive yourself for every other thing that haunts you and makes you feel guilty. Your parents loved you and would want you to be able to continue to experience joy and a good life. Grief is very painful (I lost my husband of 34 years very suddenly) and very draining. It takes time to recover physically and the emotions will likely always remain strong. You are allowed to feel sad, angry, have days of hopelessness and regrets, but these should not dominate your thoughts every hour of every day and rule your life. Have you had any grief counselling, or even deep conversations about your feelings with trusted friends? Deep wounds take time to heal, but balm needs to be applied. Reopening the wounds and continually looking into them prevents healing. I do hope and pray you can find a way to work through this difficult time and to feel joy and peace again. Sending you a hug. x

I totally get the “what if”. My grandmother passed away in her home with my son and I by her side. My Mom, who lived with my sister out of state, passed away unexpectedly. My Mom was my confidant, my cheerleader, my everything. My sister asked me to move in with her out of state so that we could grieve together, she had a very good job and didn’t want to leave. Less than 2 years later my Sister passed away unexpectedly. I also think of the “what if’s”, but I was MISSING the here and now, the present. Please accept this recommendation with love, care and acceptance, because I too know what you are going through. In addition to my story, my great uncle passed away and 2 days later my great aunt passed away. We always believed it to be of a broken heart, because she was not sick… Take care…

I totally get the “what if”. My grandmother passed away in her home with my son and I by her side. My Mom, who lived with my sister out of state, passed away unexpectedly. My Mom was my confidant, my cheerleader, my everything. My sister asked me to move in with her out of state so that we could grieve together, she had a very good job and didn’t want to leave. Less than 2 years later my Sister passed away unexpectedly. I also think of the “what if’s”, but I was MISSING the here and now, the present. Please accept this recommendation with love, care and acceptance, because I too know what you are going through. In addition to my story, my great uncle passed away and 2 days later my great aunt passed away. We always believed it to be of a broken heart, because she was not sick… Take care…

So sad no one grieves with you still. Some families just don’t talk about their feelings, discomforts, fears or regrets.I’m sorry.

I'm so sorry for your losses. I know that you have to be heartbroken 💔. I lost my dad when I was only 5. Then in the middle of December 2000. I got a call from my first husband's family. He unfortunately passed away 35 years ago. One of my sister in laws informed me that mom had passed away. I had been close to her since I'd met her in 1982, the year I married her oldest son. The next morning around 6 am my phone rang and it was my step father calling me to inform me that my own mom was in the hospital in a self induced coma. I live in Indy my sister in NC. We talked everyday and talked to moms drs every day as well. They told us that there was no reason to fly out to California at that time and he'd keep us posted. Well my sister and I decided to fly out the next week. We got there on Friday, stayed awhile and then went to our hotel. The next morning we were back in the hospital and she blinked her eyes as we walked by her door but the dr informed me that she was having a automatic movement. She ended up passing that evening after the dr told us to take a break and get something to eat. The hospital called the restaurant almost as soon as we'd settled down. We made it back in time with just a few minutes to spare God bless you 🙏

It is and reincarnation is real and I myself have no plan to come back in another body. I am working on that refusal........No more human bodies !!!!!! done.

It's amazing how we are all taught about the miracle of birth but we are never taught about the miracle of death. As heartbreaking as it was to watch someone I love go through the dying process it was almost an amazing thing to witness. I was given a booklet from hospice that explained the stages of dying and the process was almost page by page.

@@linanicolia1363 what do you want to come back as?

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@@BAndros214 I love that-“The miracle of death…” Peace.

I think that there should be more information - quality information such as in this video - that is easily and readily available. I am amazed that none of the doctors who came out to see my father in his last weeks and days gave me any of this information. I didn’t know what to do. I had never been in that situation before and only wanted to make things as comfortable as I could.

Heartwarming, insightful staff team. To actively participate in death transition is as beautiful as witnessing the birthing of a newborn baby. Being with that special someone is truly a divine moment especially when it is the end of their suffering.

What a touching story that brought tears to my eyes. A wonderful, peaceful end of life experience for your husband and a meaningful, memorable one for your grandson. The handprint project will no doubt be cherished for the remainder of his life!! RIP Grandpa.

This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing these words. My daughter went with her father to his dads bedside at end of life. She wanted to give him water and listen as he spoke of how he wanted things to go. She was ushered out of the room by other family members. She would have had such a good memory if the situation had been as your grandsons. God bless you. 🙏✝️

I feel you. I was too scared to see my grandparents when they were actively dying but I spoke with them on the phone. I don't feel guilty because I always said I love you every time I saw them and called them so I'd rather remember them fro. When they were.alive.

I had the same experience with my mom who passed on 4/6/2022. I was terrified to go in her room . I am a healthcare worker as well .

Thank you for saying this. I was looking for confirmation that these feelings are not just mine. Ive been caring for 7 months and beyond the needs based care I'm not interested in ...bonding.

Oo - ooh, that's very well put John Mc, I like that very much; "" When the eyesof the body close, the eyes of the sole opens! "" That is very profund!!

I am so sorry about your mom. She sounds like a fighter though. 🙂😇

God Bless you for your patience!

Dr many thanks for the information. You have mentioned hearing and feeling are sound till end of earthly life. Why then do medical staff send away family members in the dying minutes