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5 Tips for EVERY Dad fighting for Custody in Court 

Matthew Harris Law, PLLC
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Mothers always winning custody is a myth. Fathers can actually win the custody battle in court with this evidence and by following these steps.
Chapters:
00:00 - How to Win Custody
00:37 - You’re actively involved in your child’s life.
01:32 - You provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment.
05:01 - You’re an effective co-parent and communicator
06:24 - You seek ways to improve your parenting skills
07:48 - You’re well-represented and prepared for Trial
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You’ve probably heard that Fathers can ONLY win custody of the kids if the Mother is absent or a drug addict, right? WRONG! I’m sick and tired of Fathers giving up on custody because they just presume that Mothers are always going to win.
Here’s the ONE question that the Courts care about when it comes to awarding custody: What is in the best interest of your child?
Contrary to popular belief, winning the custody battle doesn’t require slinging mud at your child’s mother. Remember, snuffing out her candle doesn’t make your candle burn any brighter.
Let me explain how you can prove that YOU are in fact the parent who should get custody because it is in the best interest of your child.
You’re actively involved in your child’s life
“It is much easier to become a father than to be one.”
If you want to win the custody battle, you’re going to have to prove that you’re actively involved in your child’s life.
One thing that attorneys LOVE to do when Fathers are seeking custody is to interrogate you on the stand with rapid-fire questions about all of the teachers, doctors, and counselors in your child’s life.
“Who is your child’s Dentist?”
“Who is your child’s homeroom teacher?”
“How about Primary Care Provider?”
“Who is your child’s best friend?”
“Who is your child’s bully?”
For Fathers who are heavily involved in their child’s day-to-day care, they ace this pop-quiz and leave the attorney looking like a jerk. However, this round of questioning becomes excruciating, and the silence becomes deafening, for Fathers who are seeking custody but can’t answer these simple questions.
Not only do you need to know who these professionals are in your child’s life, but you should also be prepared to answer questions about the last time that you spoke to each of them as well as the topics discussed.
You provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment
“Every father should remember one day his [child] will follow his example, not his advice.”
In your custody battle, demonstrating your ability to provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment is crucial in Court. This involves showcasing not just the physical safety of your home, but also the emotional and developmental support essential for your child's well-being.
Physical Safety and Stability: Start by ensuring your living space is conducive to your child's needs. This means a clean, well-maintained home in a safe neighborhood. Your child should have adequate personal space, such as their own bedroom, to provide comfort and security. It's also important to have safety measures in place, like working smoke detectors, secure locks, and childproofing if necessary, to prevent accidents.
Document the physical safety and stability of your home with pictures of all of these items in your home, your living spaces, and your child’s bedroom.
Emotional Support: A supportive environment goes beyond physical safety; it encompasses emotional and psychological well-being. As a father, you should foster open communication, allowing your child to express their feelings and concerns freely. Be an active listener and validate your child’s emotions by offering reassurance and guidance. Consistent routines and discipline, balanced with love and understanding, contribute to a sense of security and belonging.
Document your emotionally supportive environment by saving the chore schedule your child keeps. Also, keep a journal of the conversations that you have with your child where you discuss fears and provide your fatherly advice.
Educational and Developmental Support: Engage in your child's education by participating in school activities, monitoring their academic progress, and providing a quiet, designated space for homework and study. Encourage extracurricular activities that align with their interests, fostering social skills and personal development.
Document your educational and developmental support by showing the emails between you and your child’s teacher, pictures of you and your child at extracurricular activities, and ask the other parents of your child’s friends if they would testify about your involvement.
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Комментарии : 29   
@j.rivera6402
@j.rivera6402 24 дня назад
I got custody of my son three months ago. It’s attainable. Fight the good fight, brothers.
@WallFlower852
@WallFlower852 3 месяца назад
My husband did everything you listed here…but still lost custody. The mother knew how to manipulate. Even had the child with us 5 days a week until the mother saw the child having a good relationship with us. Then it all went upside down. Child is an adult now. Just wanted to tell our story. Left a lot out cause I could write a book. Never give up Dads!!
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
So heartbreaking! Unfortunately, "justice" isn't always "fair." It breaks my heart when dads do everything they're supposed to do, only to have the courthouse door slammed in their face.
@debbie4503
@debbie4503 3 месяца назад
Two wins to help you Matthew. My Brother received custody for my nieces and my Nephew received custody of his son. All of the children are grown now. They were all allowed to keep in contact with their Mothers when it was safe for them to do so.
@mnbsay9548
@mnbsay9548 3 месяца назад
Wow Hitting close to home here. My son and his daughter are living with us right now and we are going through this process. The mother is a heavy drinking party girl. A couple of months ago she got a drunk driving and she works part time at a liquor store. I could go on but there’s no need. We are not at the custody hearing part yet, still waiting for a hearing date, but are confident my son will prevail.
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
Wow! So sad when a parent puts their own needs before the needs of their child. Hopefully your attorney has you collecting all of the necessary evidence so you'll emerge successful!
@mnbsay9548
@mnbsay9548 3 месяца назад
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLCYes. There’s a large journal/log of all communications and activities. He’s covered.
@LydellAaron
@LydellAaron 17 дней назад
This is great advice, thank you.
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 17 дней назад
Thank you! It is an honor and a privilege to educate. 😁 Be sure to SHARE this video with others in your circle so we can educate as many people as possible!
@LydellAaron
@LydellAaron 17 дней назад
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC your part about the text messages were really good, and a recent reminder of somewhere I could have done better. All this Court process and fatherhood is really an opportunity for growth. I made a bulleted list from your content as a tool for reminder and to check in with self. Dads who are going through this process need and want to grow need reminders like in your content. Men may not share content, here's my story: Early in the process, I shared a post on "signs of alienation for Dad's," which really has good tips, and it was attacked by a flying monkey. So I personally, (I don't know men in general) may be less likely to share posts on this content (especially while they are going through the process) because it could come up in Court as skewed or manipulated, but I do watch and like it and comment. Men going through this process really have to tap deep, go inside, take accountability, improve themselves and ideally have a good therapist and trusted friends and family. Thank you for your content.
@CarmanHarris-fd7uw
@CarmanHarris-fd7uw 3 месяца назад
Outstanding video! Thank you!
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
Thank you! ♥
@Ggdivhjkjl
@Ggdivhjkjl 15 дней назад
That certainly wasn't true in Australia in the 1990's.
@darlenejones-nelson813
@darlenejones-nelson813 3 месяца назад
Great tips for both sides! Ty for posting this useful video. I am looking forward to watching more.
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
Thank you! It is an honor and a privilege to educate. 😁
@parkerottoackley6325
@parkerottoackley6325 3 месяца назад
😂 I'd be nice if mothers would follow these tips !!
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
agreed! All parents need to work together for the benefit of the children.
@andrewmcclellan8808
@andrewmcclellan8808 Месяц назад
Son lived with me for the last three years while his mother was arrested for meth and worse drugs I Proved her still on drugs failed her drug test gal said he should be put back in my custody now two months later got a court date after they said she shouod have the child till then because she stole my son from the school and yet he tells me everytike i get him he wants to come home momey doesnt have clothes for me but ive been forced to pay child support since the court date so she can buy drugs not for our son been same job 7 years make good money coach gis baseball team etc the system is against us
@smbpickles
@smbpickles 3 месяца назад
I just wish peeps would get married and stay married. The good old days ..
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
Amen! I'd gladly take up tax law if it meant marriages never ended and families stayed together. 😢
@debbie4503
@debbie4503 3 месяца назад
They weren't the good old days for me. I'm in my 60's. The best thing my parents could have done for us would have been divorce. Just saying....
@Yourmomsfavoriteplumber
@Yourmomsfavoriteplumber 19 дней назад
Before social media!
@NothingisasitseemsPodcast
@NothingisasitseemsPodcast 3 месяца назад
I think you need to be more honest if you are going to make a video like this. Gender is a HUGE factor in custody. Is it the only factor? No. But it's probably the most important one. BTW I prevailed in a contested custody case, so I speak from experience.
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
Way to go! As to gender, did you know that it is actually illegal for the Court to consider gender or marital status when determining custody in Texas? (Tex. Fam. Code § 153.003)
@NothingisasitseemsPodcast
@NothingisasitseemsPodcast 3 месяца назад
@@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC As I'm sure you already know, no one cares about laws like this. In MA, there are Judges that have been sitting on the bench for decades that have NEVER ruled in favor of a Dad in a contested case. That's provably discriminatory by any reasonable standard, and yet it continues. My understanding from looking at cases from the past 14 years is that TX is slightly better but not great for Dads.
@AUSTIN-ss2zd
@AUSTIN-ss2zd Месяц назад
@@NothingisasitseemsPodcast any good advice on where to look
@laurendavisa
@laurendavisa 3 месяца назад
Hey! 🪴🦜🍁 RU-vid recommended one of your videos, and I must say, you post awesome stuff. I love it, and I want to see you on top! By the way, I was wondering if you or your friend need a video editor or thumbnail designer. I am Mohan, a professional video editor and thumbnail designer with 4.5 years of experience in creating engaging and high-quality videos and thumbnails for RU-vid. If not, please reply with "NO" and I will remove you from my follow-up list. Keep creating amazing content! Best regards, Mohan
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC
@MatthewHarrisLawPLLC 3 месяца назад
Thank you, but we have someone in-house who handles these things.
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