Listen Kiddo's I am 55 years old and my wife is 48. We have great sex, and consistently want each other 3-4 times a week! A big help is we go to the gym and workout together. There is no shaming and we go at it for about 48 minutes 5 times a week. Then we have weekend date nights, which are really spending all day together. The secret is to not grow apart! Keeping wanting your soul mate.
Kuddos to you. I'm 53, rarely ever had a date and never so much aa a girlfriend. And there seems to be not a thing I can do about it... everyone assumes I'm married then they assume I must be divorced and then they conclude I must be a leper or something. Geez, it's just.... impossible! 😕
Same here my husband and I really enjoy having sex too. He is 55 and I am 49 and we have sex on average 3 to 4 times a week as well and realized that by changing our diet has really improved our desire for one another. We spend every waking moment that we possibly can with one another and do everything together that right there places a desire of passion and love for each other everyday. Kudos to you guys that is very encouraging
@@jenefermay9010 Thats Awesome!!! My wife and I have become real best friends!!! Sex is the bonus. We have people who think we are weird or odd, because we want to spend all our time together!!! But we also have a lot of people telling us how insperational we are, and how we have motivated them to strengthen their marriages. God bless you and your husband!!!
Kevin... EXACTLY!!! I'm 57 and my wife is 53. She's vegan, I'm mostly vegetarian (occasionally enjoy a burger). We both exercise regularly and weigh what we did in our 20's (we're both very fit for our age). Sex was always good to great between us, but the dietary changes we made about 4yrs ago made a HUGE difference. No problems with erections now. Sex at least 2x/week most weeks, every day when we're on vacation, and sometimes multiple times in a day... Being "empty nesters" now makes it even better... Sex can be loud, spontaneous and anywhere in the house we want. Good times... Being in your 50's is NOT a sexual death sentence if you take care of yourselves people.
Besides biology alot of wives arent getting the attention they did when they first met their husbands and the husbands expect them to perform the same. If you want the same lovin from your wife dont stop pursuing her after youve married her. Date her all of your days. Having said that...some are too little too late.
I'm a 72 y/o widowed 18 months ago. My new partner is 64 and widowed 5 years ago. We both came from loving, long term relationships but we are now having the best sex of both our lives, thanks in no small part to you Dr Malik.
Great video, I am 57 and my girlfriend is 49. I feel like I'm in my 30s again. The sex is unbelievable. Being in love and staying in love with your partner is beneficial makes a huge difference.
My wife and I have been married 32 years. Been together 34 years. We’ve been having amazing sex since we way back to 34 years. I’m so sexually attracted to her
Happy to say, my wife and I are still enjoying a vibrant and exciting sex life at 68 and 65 respectively. We have been married 42 years and have sex pretty much daily. We are both using HRT and I am on low-dose daily cialis, but other than that we are good. These tips are all excellent advice to keep the party going. Thank you Dr. Malik!
@@loveydovey4u why do you find that hard to believe, What's the point in me lying for a couple of likes ?. As you get older you know what each other like enjoy doing and feel comfortable asking to try something new. Maybe you're not with the right person
@@WhiteEnglishI’m in my late fifties and my wife is in her early fifties. We’ve been married 34 years and things are still great so it’s no surprise to me. I just wonder when it all ends sometimes, lol. I see comments of peopling their late 60s and 70s going on just fine. So I guess it will be a while.
@maxandmoose yes I agree I often wonder myself if it will all come to an end soon lol I'm hoping not, As you say plenty of couples in their 60s and 70s are going strong long may it continue for us my friend 😉
Agree I am 73. Still enjoy sex. One thing makes a big difference is a great partner that fully participate and if you wish help you get excited. Very important.
I paused the video at 22 seconds. I'm 60 so I have some insight. Once you hit 40 or 45ish, your body will decline rapidly if you don't work on it. I do lots of pushups and curls, and I work my abdominals. You need to be physically strong. Being stronger makes sex so much better. You can do pushups leaning against the arm of the couch because they're easier. You don't need to do pushups with an extra 50 lbs on your back. Your muscles just need to be toned. Don't just be a lump that keeps getting fatter. Stop eating tons of sugar and drinking a bottle of booze every week. I also love sex with my 65 year old wife because she does "everything." There's no drama. which makes the sex better all by itself. Okay..back to the video...
Yup. People forget that maintaining good conditioning and a clean diet go such a long way. And as you say, the exercise doesn’t have to be intense, just consistent.
Lots of single ladies could really learn from your advice! The few single women where I live (Texas) are either very overweight (and don't think that should be held against them) and/or have had Mr. Wrong's love children (not a particularly attractive trait that either, from my perspective). 😕
My wife of 35 years and I are experiencing many of the same effects of aging bodies. We've replaced some of those with external stimulation and a shift in where we explore eachother for erogenous zones.
How do you address the impact of perimenopause and its devastating effect on lost libido? When one person has absolutely no interest in any sexual contact. This can last for years. It takes a strong marriage to survive this. Your video is good if both people want to, but inconvenient physical limitations exist. Outright loss of libido is a greater concern for those over 50.
Good episode, doc! Appreciate what you do… One thing you didn’t mention was the blue pill. Granted you can achieve orgasm w/ out having an erection but, it’s so much more pleasurable w/ one , regardless of the sexual activity you’re engaging in The online pharmacies of today make the blue pill very affordable. I’m 70 and assumed these pills either didn’t work or had side effects. Wrong on both fronts. They work well, at least for me. That’s my 2 cents. Keep it up…pun intended :-)
My wife and I are in our 60's and she experiences so much pain during intercourse that we have been completely sexless for over 5 yrs. In fact, she won't even let me near the intimate places. The estrogen cream scares her due to the possibility of cancer. What can we try? Thank you.
I had sex with my sister in law for the first time when I was 21. Now I'm 29, I only have sex with older women around 40-50 years. The oldest woman I had sex with was nearly 60 years. I will come back to this video 20 years later.
A big problem for older, single men is finding women who are attractive enough (not just physically) to be worth the trouble. I suspect that older, single women feel the same way. For many of us of both sexes, the physical issues are less than the problem of simply not being connected.
There are just about zero women over 50 that are still available AND have not given up on their bodies years ago. Pretty hard for any guy to get excited over that...
Thanks guys for giving me hope, i am 45 still searching for someone who can act and watch fantasy movies with me , not every day talking about stomach pain, back pain future,plan, sadness, pain, tormented.😮. Ps. I lost my point in between.
It's really thoughtful of you, that you are making a video even for these age ranges mam !! Glad to see your professionalism mam !! Respect from India !! 🥹🙌💐📖📚
YES PLEASE! Video on lubricant ! Thank you for bringing awareness about hormonal changes of menopause and its drastic effect on libido and sexual wellness. ❤
This is great BUT 1. You got the age wrong. Over 50 ????? My fifties were wonderful. If people stay fairly fit then what you say applies to 70s not 50s (maybe its different in the US with the cr.p food). 2. You missed out the emotions - sex is emotional as well as physical. My problem at 70 isnt physical - everything still works well - even get automatic morning erections sometimes, desire for sex just as strong but no partner. There is a dearth of ladies my age who still want sex and keep themselves fit and attractive and interesting. Wasnt true in my 50s - there were many women seeking partners at that age but at 70+ they arent :-( :-( :-(. I miss it so much.
Thank you for mentioning sex and disability. I am a female with a T4 spinal cord injury and I was so afraid to have sex again after my injury and also experiencing recurrent UTI’s (started the UTI’s when I was in the hospital) Thank you for the information!! 😊
I am so sorry for what you went through. I hope you find the happiness in life you are seeking. Remember don't let your disability keep you from living a full life. Speaking as someone with a disability, I know what it is like to feel like you are not on the same level as everyone else but the trick is to not let it hold you back. Best of luck.
I feel so fortunate, im 65 yrs okd & my man exites me almost daily. We have get aex, we do everyhing. Hes had had a hip releasement & im disabled from Seriously diseased spine & 4 back surgeries. Thank you for the info.
My wife passed 3 years ago and a met a wonderful woman. I now know that I can be happy again and see her about 4 days per week. Fortunately, we have sex at night and the following morning. It amazing and I’m having it more now than ever in my life. I will say that I did start eating foods that create nitric oxide, using beet root powder and nose breathing by mouth taping while I sleep most nights. I will never forget my wife, but, the new chapter in my book of life is amazing. I am in my late 60s and have 7 years on my girlfriend (early 60s). PS- neither one of us were ever drinkers or smokers
I think you missed the most important thing. Diet. I will be 73 in 2 months. I am a vegan. I drink 24 oz. pressed drink in the morning. Clean food all day. I hit the gym 3 times a week,and 3 days of cardio. I am hard as a rock. My testosterone was over 700 last yr. I can have sex every day with the right woman. Sometimes more than once a day. I do not take any meds. That will kill anything. If that do not work for you . Get a young girl friend. That alone should solve your problem.
I believe you missed one of the most important if over weight loss it. The other day I thanked my wife for staying a normal size 5’ 3” and around 120 pounds. I am 6’ and 190. All the tricks she mentioned doesn’t work if can’t enjoy what you are looking at. At 64 and 55 the hardest thing is finding comfortable positions, but we have worked it out. Last one of you has to be demanding because it’s to easy to let time slip away.
Speaking as a heterosexual male the only difference between sex as a young man and sex as a more mature man, is that it now takes me all night to do what I used to do all night!
Hmph, no difference for me... no girlfriend when I was younger, and none now either. Doc doesn't seem to have any answers though for Men like me, trapped in single Hell.... 😕
@@michaelshrader5139 hookers bro. That's what gets me over it. I've had 3 awesome hookers the last 3 nights. Have 3 nights rest now before another 3 days of great hooker sex. I live in Thailand where it's more affordable so I can have 3 girls a week
Im 52. I retired to Thailand at 50 and ive had sex with around 80 women. Some as young as early 20s. I was trying to have sex 6 to 10 times a week for the first 8 months but it was really knocking me around. So i left Pattaya city and moved to a village called bang saray 25km to the south. I now have sex 4 times a week only and feel far more energetic and balanced
Great video as always 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿... I'll be 60 in a few months... I have no idea what that will look like as I don't have a partner. And the dating pool is getting smaller 😢😢😢😢...But I will hope for the best as I get education and stay positive about dating and sex after 50 😊
These advice are all good. But I think one essential part is how to stay attractive enough for your partner. Emotional connection is one thing, physical is another.
Dr. Malik: Great video as always! It seems that everywhere I look today there is another advertisement for arousal gels/creams/gummies for women, with a lot of them including CBD. That market seems to have exploded, at least based on all the advertising. Please consider doing a video on what to look for in such products, and if any are really likely to help at all. Thanks for all the great content you continues to being to your viewers!
Thank you that was some very awesome advice I did not know that as you age the nerve endings in your private parts become less sensitive. But I will say this much I'm at an age now I'm in my 50 I like to take it slow and enjoy the body and do a lot of foreplay with my lady.
Being a fitness coach, one client told me that in many women in her family and friends circle, had to remove their uterus due to oversex!!. She said it cause lowering of uterus in women and ultimately removing it. That's why she is very reluctant for sex and allows her partner once in a week sex. She is 41( no menopause) and her partner is 52 both of them are healthy individuals. Please advise is her belief true?
Hi I’m deaf guy, my other deaf friend told me all men over 50 have been “aged” that caused the most beautiful women working as supermodel, strippers or sex workers SWIFTLY refuse to have a relationship with ALL of the men over 50 because of them having erectile dysfunction!!! younger women accept men over 50 for $$$$$ ooooonly is that CORRECT??? plz reply me asap thanks
No girlfriend, like ever. That's my problem, Doc. Too many single Men in Texas, for far too few single women. I know all the best places to NOT meet single gals I swear... 😞 To those who have a wife or girlfriend, cherish those ladies every single day... cause being a single guy, it's pure Hell on Earth I swear.
I recommend any man age 50 or over take 100 mg of DHEA every day in the afternoon or evening with a meal and women take 25 mg every day in the afternoon or evening with a meal
Perhaps I missed it but from a 63 yo male: 1. General health. Take care of your body. So many folks over-weight these days. Get in shape. Stop eating processed foods and sugar. For me, that meant switching to a high protein, high fat, low carb diet and sticking to it. Also, lifting weights 3-5x a week (not cardo -- lifting -- big difference). Totally changed my body composition AND my ability to perform. Also allowed me to get off statins and improved health overall. 2. See a doc about BioIdentical Hormone Replacement Therapy as well as adding CJC1295 peptides (or equiv). This too is a game changer. 3. Men specifically. Buy yourself some cock rings and learn which ones fit you best and how to use them properly. Might takes some time to figure out which ones work best for you but they've never failed me. Can't be too tight. Can't be too loose. They're cheap and effective -- just sayin'
@@winwinwin282828 Not that I can tell. Perhaps a little but not like when I was 18 -30. If you want to increase the volume, Pregnyl works well but it's not easy to get like it once was.
I agree with everything except the cock rings. Especially agree about favoring high protein diets and anaerobic exercise (v aerobic). I'm afraid of cockrings causing damage. One thing that helps me as a 49 yo is periods of semen retention
I invested in a program called "Rock Hard For Life", to help with my ED. It is definitely helping, but also using the Phoenix & a penis pump, also helps.
My wife and I are in our 70s and we still have weekly sex sessions. Thank you for all the help and advise you gives helping millions around the world. Good health and happiness to you. Xxx
@@geno5169I'm 52. I was having sex 6 to 10 times a week only a couple of years ago when I retired to Thailand at 50 but it knocked me around to much but still go for it 4 times a week
I mean, at the rate things are going, it seems like between 50 and 60 will last about 17 minutes, compared to 20-30, which took a long time. Ageing really starts pretty early, and u just don't even notice it until years later, AFAIK. I'm finding the whole business pretty confusing, tbh.
Great video. I'm 63, male. I find I need to be rested, need direct stim to get going, need to have sex on the mind which sometimes requires a deliberate intention, and THEN we have ignition! Lol. None of these things was needed before 55. Old people need not to give up, but to understand that later in life they have to start themselves up with these applications.
Dr. Malik….the video has a physician pointing to the lower spine…S2, S3, S4 more specifically. I offer urologists and ob/gyn’s a device that screens for Sacral Nerve Dysfunction which tests the latency time. If above .45milliseconds then they have SND. Providers have also shared this helps them determine how they would like to help treat their patients for ED and sexual dysfunction. Are you currently offering anything in your office that can do something similar? If not, how are you screening your patients? I love sharing as many options as possible. I can also share with you are screening tool. Love your videos!
First of all the mind needs to be in sync with your partner!! Usually after 40’s most women experience low libido which most of us guys don’t see or understand.
Tell me Doctor. What should a man do when his wife will not let him toch her? Problems with sex go beyond the actual act itself. When the relationship is right it should happen naturally!
Very professional and helpful. I thank you for your comments. I think your shower is good. It should help especially the older characters like me. Thank you.
Hi Dr.Rena Malik It ‘ll be great if you could make videos for on going research work and achievements or progress in that pertaining to treatment of Erectile Dysfunction in men or Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder in women.
I like to use ah pineapple with the core removed. Butt only because I cain't git no satisfaction. I've tried women, butt it jus don't werk for me. I'll be in yer office first thing Monday morning.
Good morning everyone sexual game woman B4 many times I'm doing but now less b cost age 63 sugar patient but put tough fully body volition volume of work anyone
I’m older with the disability. The idea that I’m not going to concentrate on the orgasm but the pleasure is quite depressing. This was not optimistic. Thank you.
Big fan of water based lubes! Also can you give me the link to the video on what you say about the different types of lube. I always love to learn. Thank you ❤
