How To Stop Being Boring In Conversation 

All what I got from this video is: "Be more like Ryan Gosling"

“ Want it, but don’t need it.” That’s one powerful sentence.

One thing I notice makes people very likable is to listen intentionally and remember things about your conversation partner, then casually mention those things in a later conversation. It makes the other person feel special for having a place in your memory.

About 8 years ago, give or take, I heard a similar thing on one of your videos that changed my life forever. "Even if things don't go to plan, know that you'll be ok." It really turned my confidence around when I started to put it into practice. I went from a dead-end cleaning job in Scotland to having the guts to move to China for now going on 5 years as a teacher. I've made authentic friends and I am in a great relationship because I now feel comfortable navigating interactions because I WANT to have them, not because I need something from the other person. Thank you, Charisma On Command

Of all the tips in this video, I think the one I have the hardest time with (and many other people, I'm sure) is mixing playful humility with genuinely accepting a compliment. The playful humility isn't necessarily the hard part, but being able to accept a compliment in genuine and charismatic way is tough!

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="16">00:16</a> 1. Go into conversation with intention of having fun <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="207">03:27</a> 2. Tell funny, embarrassing stories from your past <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="351">05:51</a> 3. Create authenticity in your conversations <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="430">07:10</a> 4. Make people feel good around you <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="538">08:58</a> 5. Be playfully humble <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="608">10:08</a> 6. Self validation

Well Ryan is quick witted, and that does at least 60% of the heavily lifting in his charisma lol

I just want to say I was so akward in highschool and your videos got me to a point where I actually can interact with people positively. I have transitioned into more stable stuff now but I was a freelance model for my early twenties and I really think a large part of my success was you teaching me a formula to apply to conversations. So thank you ❤

I absolutely love Ryan cause hes a great example of an extremely likeable and confident person who everyone would love to be around

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after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!

“Do you guys need help with the cameras?” That was so funny, definitely gonna use these tips!😆

I feel it's so rare to see Ford laugh out loud and the fact that Ryan is able to make him do that multiple times IN THE SAME INTERVIEW is remarkable😂🔥

How did you get so good at reading people in these different situations? Truly awesome content. I keep coming back to this channel👍

This video just explained how to be Canadian. Humour, humility and honesty.

Hey, I've learned so much from this channel and would like to make a suggestion for future videos to help the advice be more applicable: using more realistic examples. The celebrity examples are helpful for general principles, but they're mostly performers (celebrities, talk show hosts, etc) interacting with other performers, and the extremely larger-than-life personalities/interactions are not only extremely rare in real life among strangers/acquaintances, but people like that would come off as mentally ill. For example, where I live (Pacific Northwest), touching people at all is very odd unless you're already very close to them, and people don't usually speak in such an animated loud way. Something to consider if you're open to feedback. Regardless, this channel is grade A content, so thank you for it!

“I feel a ken in you” lmao I always knew he seemed nice, is handsome, etc but did not know he was actually funny 😂

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Wow I never paid attention to Ryan gosling before but the man is a charisma legend. Thanks for this video

Being yourself but being the most confident version of yourself is the safest and best thing we can do. We might not all have million experiences to share in conversations but we can all still be fun people to hang out with!

This channel helped me realize that I wasn't an introvert, I just needed to learn communication skills. I am a completely different person, because I can be confident about making jokes and having amazing conversations. So much valuable advice over the years. Thank you Charisma on Command!

To anyone trying to "become confident" let me tell you something: confidence is not something you are born with. Confidence is a skill, a habit, or even, sometimes, an act. The "confident" people around you have spent months, maybe years developing their ways of getting around in social situations and you can do that too, it's easy, but also A LOT of effort and repetition.

These videos have helped me out in my personal life and professional life. I'm less in my head and more in the present and part of me is coming out that I never knew existed and it's making me connect with people at a higher level. It's incredible how small changes in your delivery changes everything. Anyone doubting taking tips from these videos, don't doubt it. take it and own it.

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Ryan is pretty much Stoicism personified - great video example!

This feels so good to believe. I am living vicariously through his confidence. It's no big deal. The sun will rise once more.

Ryan is just a great example of a polite down to earth person

Watching these videos every once in a while has helped alot over the last couple years!!

"The stakes aren't that high" - I appreciate that knowing the ground is underneath you and you're not walking a tightrope

Ryan is a good man. More than that actually.

I already do most of this stuff, but now I know how to use it consciously. Thanks.

This video is about How to never be boring in conversation and how to stop worrying and start living 🎉 Thanks a lot for this great video, hope it goes viral ❤

Loved the video. Ryan is truly amazing!

A truly excellent video!!! Thanks for sharing!

Great supportive clips 👌 Really ties together with the voiceover to make a point.

Needed that message at the end, thanks Ben 🙏🏾

Awesome content like always! Thank you

Its like hes incredibly PRESENT. Amd confident in himself.

"the stakes aren't that high" I needed that. Thank you so much!

Such an amazing collection of ways to make things more positive in life!

I like the video . Thanks for posting this. Honesty is important. So is doing your job and researching before interviewing.

Oh this video was amazing, the best way to start your day thank you so much

The best tips I've never even heard of before! Awesome!

What I learned from this is I need to see more Ryan Gosling interview. "Fecal Jackson Pollock" has me in stitches.

My man took the im literally Ryan Gosling to a whole new level!!!

As an aside: my wife once literally saw Ryan Gosling run into LA traffic to rescue a dog. He legit rescues dogs I guess.

I knew Ryan Gosling before he became famous. After Mickey Mouse Club. He is genuinely a super kind, very thoughtful guy. He’s a rare, unique, amazing soul.

Really helpful! Want more videos like this! 🙂

This is so cool. “You don’t have to be perfect for people to like you”

As someone who has done charisma university, it is actually amazing and great

The guy saying "you're better than that" while Ryan is having the time of his life being Ken 😂😂😂

The self laugh trick were you laughing at a mistake you just made, it's actually very effective and reminded me of of an early 20th century politician and diplomat from my country It's during the talks about the peace talks after ww2 and his giving a speache in English that was basically self-told In some point he realize that he made a mistake pause gives a Naughty smile towards the camera and continues - a master piece

He is a really funny guy! I actually laughed 3 times here 😂😂

Great episode!

Kenergy 😂 Ryan G is hilarious what a great guy to learn from ❤

Ryan is always well dressed and makes every interview more fun. Whereas Ken naked and in the middle of the floor makes things awkward and wondering why I am here. LOL

It's amazing to see just how difficult confidence is for some people. Extrovert personalities understand this better than most when they freely express themselves and receive ostracized belittlement. On the other side of the coin, Introvert personalities can have a tremendous amount of confidence when they're focused and goal oriented.

Fantastic video! Thanks!!

It is flattering to be featured on such a popular channel. Its actually literally me in the thumbnail

Wow, I didn't know I liked Ryan Gosling so much. Thanks for the video.

the video made me a Ryan Gosling fan. no joke the way he is just super good. you have to take over.

Confident is the Freedom of doing anything you want to do. You can get this freedom if you dont expect something from outside, because then you try hard to get this or force that. Hava simple goals for example: A funny conversation, not a that they like you only funny. Or anything else. And if you accept yourself with your strenghts and weaknesses the meaning of other peoble become irrelevant because you know what you are and what you want you dont need a meaning from outside. Thats also the trick to become fearless in society because noone and nothing can hurt you or bring you out of concept because have your own very strong meaning of yourself and about what you want from live. Take this mindset if you want to become free in society. Much Success!

What are the most important soft skills to have? The ability to understand people's motivations. If you don't understand people, they become arbitrary. You'll live in a world where people screw you over for no reason, and you'll waste a lot of energy being angry and depressed. You might also think people's actions have something to do with you when they don't. This will mess with your self-image and hinder your interactions with other people. You'll have a lot of trouble resolving conflicts because good conflict resolution requires both parties to see the other person's side. This will cause you to lose friends and put you at a disadvantage in your career. It also makes people hate you.

The first joke, the Jackson Pollock joke, was also great because it was callback to a joke that the comedian to his left, Greg Davies, had made earlier in the interview.

Best Moments for me. Words in [square brackets] are my own thoughts Each key point I have put a heading for me to refer back to. But also making each key point useful for anyone reading it. For me, my top moments are Embarrassment Awareness Strategy <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="280">4:40</a> Compliment plus Joke <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="488">8:08</a> Superpower Moment <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="707">11:47</a> Ridiculous Comparisons <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="58">00:58</a> It is like the sun. I cannot stare directly at this dish towel !! Deadpan humour must lead to a smirk to show you are joking [so important to smile so then people know it is a safe space. Your face shows seriousness but you break then tension with a smile and a laugh] <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="143">02:23</a> Ryan to interviewer: I feel a kenergy between us. I feel a ken in you [ sounds like You have got a friend in me. Is he changing the words from Toy Story when Ryan says I feel a ken in you. This could be clever word play. In Toy Story 3, Barbie and Ken were 2 characters] Confidence Strategy <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="208">03:28</a> tell stories at your expense. Laugh when you tell them. ‘I wish I could say here you have to wear this but it was my idea to wear this outfit.’ Embarrassment Awareness Strategy <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="238">03:58</a> when you emphasize you are aware it is embarrassing, this invites others to laugh at you. Use this as a go-to story when meeting new people. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="280">4:40</a> When your brain sends your toungue to investigate. Compliment plus Joke <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="488">08:08</a> You know I cant do the string dance. No one can. I had a friend die trying to do the string dance. [This is so funny. I don't know about you, dear reader, but I burst out laughing here !] Calmness Serenity Outlook <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="660">11:00</a> I thought someone had been hurt. Turns out they just read the wrong name off the card. [ High quality perspective moment by Ryan] Superpower moment perspective <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="707">11:47</a> It is a superpower to go into a conversation knowing you don’t need anything from it. Want it don’t need it.

Well done!

Excellent video.

I don't usually comment, but this video was awesome, is important to know that even if charisma doesn't come as natural as other skills one may have, is still just that, a skill, something that can be improved on.

Ryan Gosling is extremely charismatic! His personality is so attractive and damn he's soooo fine!

Loved this video

my best part of this video is " Want it don't need it, u'll have another opportunities and no matter what, u'll be okay".

Gosling is a good role model in social skills and attitude.

I think you just have to be so happy with your life and situation that it just exudes from you. Someone who is suffering financially and not doing well just can’t feel like stirring up a convo

ryan gosling is That Girl for so many reasons

You should do a video on Shawn from Psych, he is very either 1 charismatic, or 2 just the main character.

I don’t need more friends. I’ve got too many as it is. Haha. Thank you for sharing this video!

This is so good

So be Ryan Gosling. Got it.

I've watched all videos from this channel and thought I could use the knowledge i got, but in actual application I freeze and forget what to say 😂

😂as someone who has to drink 4 beers just hang out with my best friend, I'm gonna need to keep watching your videos

These are the people that were having mentors through their lifes and have been taught how to communicate on the best level. A person from broken family with no good look, support from close ones or money has no freaking chance to develop this kind of self confidence to be part of the 'funny' community.

What a great video

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="716">11:56</a> straight up ripped that line right out of Matthew McConaughey's book Green Lights lol...

Every life has positive and negative ingredients that make up one’s history. Take a moment to let gratitude move through you now. Every pain that has grown into wisdom. Everything you know now that you did not know before. Ask how much you like who you are and create kindness around your answer, no matter what it is. Know that you have power over who you want to be.

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I love Ryan

Im imagining that these actors have had a lot of coaching on how to be very charismatic. Of course right? They’re actors. They make it look easy

i cant stop laughing, didnt expect this video to be just ryan gosling

Please do a video on RFK Jr's technique of using "the high ground maneuvar"

I've noticed sometimes when I'm having a conversation especially with ppl i don't know i feel i got nothing to lose and throw one pun after the other, also many people tell me a lot that even though i don't talk much, when I do say wonderful things

I sent learn anything from this I just laughed at watching Ryan gosling all the time

Damn he smooth!

Jajjajajajaja i knew it. I even said " it's like Ryan wanted to play this role his entire life!" Jajjaaja niiiiiice I knew it

im thankful u made a video over me

Great that you finally made a video studying literally me.

This video is full of good advice that could even be used to have a friendly feeling with a stranger which can also be cool, on the other hand I think you have to be careful not to get a notebook in which you will try to respect all the requirements of this video. The problem is that human interactions and seduction are very complex, much too complex to be calculated in advance and during, that's why like Whether you're a racing driver or a musician, it's so intutive that thinking about it slows it down makes it less natural and can cause the crash by taking the example of the racing driver. So for me the best is to take the advice of this video, have them in mind but don't try to articulate around it during a conversation otherwise you lose your naturalness and then you lose absolutely all the charm of a human being

Mr. Charlie it would be great if you create content on Threads as well. We're waiting for you there.

thanks for that last tip

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="148">2:28</a> The interviewer at this point was hysterical 😆😆😂

Amazing 🎉