6 CPTSD BEHAVIORS THAT PUSH PEOPLE AWAY | DR. KIM SAGE 

I am so afraid of anger, and I have so much difficulty separating myself from other people's feelings. I am highly empathetic but also scared of anger, mine and others. All I want to do when someone is mad is run away.

1) Overly negative and complaining - a bad habit. 2) Make meaning out of everything and make it about us. Others' anger. - It's all about us regardless of the actual reason. 3) Treating others the way our parents treated us 4) Perfectionist. - Correcting people - too much. 5) Not reading the room - you don't bother seeing how others are feeling in the room - is this the correct time for this subject? 6) Overly over the top fake - to please others.

I've suffered with all of this for 66 years and I don't see me changing after all these years. My life is lonely but I rather be this way than bruised beaten or hurt ever again. Being alone is safer.

I don't trust anyone. I prefer to be alone. I refuse to "change" one more thing about myself. To those who pushed me away because I didn't fit their image of me, good riddance! To those I finally stood up to rendering me a solitary wanderer in this wilderness, Thank you all for showing your true colors. Black n oozy! I was blind and now I see. Me! Good enough just like you.

I’m so aware of myself, I don’t ever want to go out, I’m exhausted of all that’s wrong with me.

Thank you for talking about negativity. I haven’t seen many videos about this. My parents were and are extremely negative, always complaining or making fun of others. I have a compulsion to complain and be negative which is so exhausting and anxiety inducing. It’s becoming easier to stop now that I know why I’m like this and able to stand back and examine my negative thoughts and correct them.

CPTSD-behaviour that may push other people away: 1. Overly negative + using complaining as a glue 2. Over-meaning-making, and responding when a situation is not clear. Propensity to mistrustful interpretation. Can't separate e.g. other's anger from self. 3. Seeing others as proxies for your parents. "Mistaking" other people for our parents. Responding to other people in conflict situations as if the other person is our parent, which may trigger an overly exaggerated response from us, which may be out of proportion. 4. Perfectionist. Being overly focused on getting everything right. Being rigidly self-rightious. 5. Not reading the room. Not having your antennas out sensing what's going on non-verbally (autism-feature). Not paying attention to whether this is the time and place for a paticular conversation. 6. Overly fawning. Over the top gregarious. Extremely positive so your positivity / happyness / helpfulness appear fake.

All the therapy, ceasing alcohol, dope, tobacco, and so on, didn't help. Stress, and the gremlins came for me. The awareness is the key, and recognising gremlins, knowing they are relationship killers.

I’m not sure if I have CPTSD, but I relate to a lot of this & appreciate the insights… I realized how much it triggers me when people talk over me, or I feel like I’m not being heard… the frustration I feel is usually not proportional and I can feel myself overreacting, but can’t seem to stop - not sure why I never linked that back to my childhood… it makes a LOT of sense

Right now i feel like i have busted my ass to be a good person..If anyone wants to reject me for the things i am still working diligently on,they can piss off..I am sick of people anyway.

I had a woman tell me that she didn't want to be friends with me because when I told her about my traumatic childhood it made her "uncomfortable". She shared with me that her father abused her and that she wanted to end her own life because of medical school but when I shared the gist of my childhood (not even specifics) she made it about her. I think some people just lack empathy and compassion for others. I get what you're saying for sure but there are a lot of selfish, unempathetic people who simply will not want to be around you because of the past that you had no control over.

All the medicine, Therapy, reading studying, and Support Groups does not help this! CPTSD😢

I’m not so much inclined to #1, but I have a coworker who’s also a victim of CPTSD, and it’s the exact same way you described your relationship with that other parent. I like her intellectually and appreciate what she stands for. We actually have quite a bit in common and even live in the same neighborhood. But sometimes her negativity can be a little triggering and anxiety-inducing for me. My mom can also be a rather negative person at times, so there’s definitely a bit of my own trauma around that. This coworker also talks a TON, and often interrupts. I’m a high-masking autistic female, so I get a bit overwhelmed with people taking over each other. I’m definitely guilty (or used to be) of some of the other things on the list. Like your son, I had to learn from an early age that correcting everyone wasn’t the way to become popular. Every once in a while, I’ll still correct the record in a conversation if I feel strongly about the subject. But I definitely have stopped correcting minor things to maintain relationships with people over the long term. Also guilty of reading a couple coworkers’ unfriendly moods as them not liking me, and taking it very personally. When, in fact, it may have nothing to do with me, and they’re just deep in their own feelings.

I want to say that there's a good example of the negative complaining without awareness in Stephanie Foo's What My Bones Know. She talks about driving away a friend who recently got a cancer diagnosis by being unconsciously exhausting and complaining about things like racism instead of focusing on them. Personally, I think this behavior is not just a "glue," but comes from wanting to be understood, the cycle of trauma (constantly enduring more), being both overwhelmed and without enough support (so, whenever the cptsd sufferer finally sees a friend, they dump on them), and not being emotionally aware enough/connected to the gravity of things (e.g., much like how trauma survivors might laughingly tell a horrifying story and not anticipate how it affects others). I think it's cruel because it isolates the trauma survivor even further. Narcissists, who don't want to deal with anyone's emotions, will also make the survivor feel especially burdensome for having any needs. So, I hope these other possibilities clarify things for people.

I am 63 - I didn't know complex trauma was a thing until during Covid & hearing a certain person on TV I felt like a lot of things were coming back out of nowhere. But my whole life I kinda struggled with relationships. But then I started reading about high masking autism. And I think it could be both. But knowing about both now ...the people I pushed away weren't really my tribe. And actually I think I had to walk away from more than I pushed away. Because you ket a lot of people step over your boundaries. I didn't realize it was ok to not like lots of people around me, crowds, or all the things I was . Now I do.

I am extremely negative. Especially when something bad happens to me or a small inconvenience arises.. I’m also a huge fawner and I’ve come to realize that through watching your videos.. I really frustrate friends when I never open up or when I make it always about them and never talk about me.. I never understood why it was such an issue when people seem to love talking about themselves lol but overall I see it’s an issue now because of your videos.. it’s kind of sad because I was trained to make everything about everyone else and to neglect myself and I thought that’s what everyone wanted..but the truth is that i don’t feel much enjoyment talking about.. me 😕 I feel I am too boring and uninteresting to really fill up any conversation.. I’ve always just kind of hoped people would want me close because I bring good energy to them.. I never knew that ‘fawning’ was considered a fake tendency ☹️

My trauma came to me as an adult in a horrible long term relationship (7 years). I was 36 and now at 43 diagnosed with PTSD. Was with a narcissistic man. Prior to him, I was the happiest, laid back free spirited woman. I will never be the same again. I definitely lost myself. After being in 2 long term relationships/marriage in the past, I can say this was the worse most horrible experience and I thought I was with bad. I wish professionals can talk about CPTSD as adults from relationships (not parents). My parents are the best thing in my life/past and present. I can appreciate to not have gone through that as an innocent child.

I don't think I push people away by my behaviour but I know I really struggle with maintaining a relationship because I find people really triggering. I know its trauma reactions from my childhood but being around people makes me feel really unsafe. I think the key is to being brave enough to show up as your true authentic self and if people don't like me then that's fine. Hopefully I'll attract people who like me for me.

This is closer to truth than some. Understanding survival instinct and the reciprocal communal psycholgy is the key to healing. We are wounded and suffer with others involved, and we can heal with others involved.

I've also realized me not saying hi first or talking to someone unless they talk to me pushes ppl away... just thought I'd leave pp alone

The everything means something really resonates with me. At an early age when someone said no, I’d head to my room thinking I was in trouble. I scan everything for meaning or to see what’s going on. I’ve struggled with perfectionism, in the past year I’ve gotten into making art out of old or broken toys. Part of this is healing my inner child, who was afraid to really play. I’ve realized some of my best work is done when I don’t judge it and just enjoy the process. My husband jokes and says I must not have had toys as a kid.

I found this video empowering! I see myself in these, and yet I am now catching things in real time and staying soft with myself as I own up to "the thing I bring to the relationship that doesn't work is..." I am longing for deeper intimacy in my close relationships so I am devoted to uncovering old survival skills that are outmoded and noticing what unmet need they might be pointing me towards. Thanks for your transparency and realness.

What about when the people one is complaining about ARE pushy, ARE creepy, ARE demanding, ARE dictatorial. When I feel manhandled and have my privacy constantly invaded and never seem to do right no matter which way I do it, it's hard not to be always complaining!

that's the thing: I know when I'm doing it, but my nervous system is overriding my ability to be " normal!" then, afterwards, I go on to dysregulation, or feel troubled as if I cant control what I've done.

I am grateful to have met this channel,I have learnt alot about myself (avoidant attachment style) which I used to wonder why I had been like that but couldn't explain. All thanks to you Dr Sage because I understand myself now and have embarked on a journey to healing. I feel Abit different and I believe all will be well❤ To those who are still struggling,you are not alone just make sure not to give up on you, the past have gone let's find ways to meet our better self and project towards having the best experience of the rest of our lives Lots of love ❤❤guys

Every time I show the real me it seems to upset people, although it's getting better. I correct because I like to be corrected when I'm wrong. I fawn sometimes because I genuinely want to give as much as I can. If I tell my stories, they usually make people uncomfortable, but slowly I have seen they find it endearing also when I act a little more "human".

Perfectionism...check. Overly-negative...check. Others as proxies for parents...check. Overly fawning...check. Well, at least I'm aware and that's half the battle. Also, all these traits are in all of us to some degree because no human EVER had a perfect childhood.

This is fascinating. I have been treated for C-PTSD, for many years. Also, and only recently, discovered that I am high masking neurodivergent. I'm 70 and this discovery is only a few months old. What you said about the differences between high masking autism and C-PTSD, very enlightening. So much is clicking down through my memories and so much re-thinking and confusing and reframing going on. I am all those things that drive people away but because of the C-PTSD I've kind of make friends with being alone much of the time; my past has made it along the lines of "I'd rather be lonely than wishing I were". I've been treated for C-PTDS...what should I be doing differently or understanding about the high masking neurodivergence? I am having a difficult time trying to find where to go to answer that question and how to treat the condition and the confusing thought processes whenever others are around. People are exhausting. But I finally have a sanctuary and it's time to try to heal.

I push people away. I get anxiety when they get too close. It’s a wonder I was able to get married - twice, but I left both. My last relationship was different. But he passed away after 5 years.

Im overly positive, they all leave, or think im bragging, when i was just finally having a good day.

My problem is that I always keep to myself, and don't really go talk to people because everytime I try talking nothing comes out.

Growing up my mother displaced her aggression (I think she was diagnosed with BPD). Took a lot of physical and verbal abuse. Aggressive behavior of any kind is a trigger sometimes. I am always thinking get out of the way if I think another person is displacing aggression even if it's because of a bad day. In my childhood this usually meant my mom was coming to take it out on you. She displaced her "bad days," moods or "sad days" on me and my siblings. So seeing someone have a bad day meant verbal or physical threats or actions coming to harm me or hurt me or blame. But I have learned to say it's not about me. But their times where I have had people displace their aggressions- not so much violence but like noises, yelling, blaming or door slamming bothers me and it makes feel like I am back in childhood. Thanks for video. I feel I fit in avoidant attachment. Learning how to handle displays of emotions better. Thanks for video and awareness. I never told anyone.

I had to address an issue today that I have been avoiding for a month. After I sharing my truth, I'm feeling sot of flawed, inadequate and ashamed. I'm hoping these feelings go away tomorrow because this is destabilizing. I feel humiliated but I had to disclose a bit about my CPTSD condition to give context about my stand offish Fuck everthing disposition over the last month. We'll see what happens Monday.

We also push away people by not being present in the moment, contrasting experiences, and not listening in general

my mom had bipolar disorder and when she was manic she raged. For years I feared her and watched her every action carefully. When anger started I shut down.

The thing with people’s energy & moods as I experience it as someone with CPTSD & SPS is…people who project their mood outwards effecting the environment aren’t for me. I need people around me who realize their moods can be communicated functionally not passive aggressively to effect the peace of the environment we’re in. I think this also has to do with who I attract as someone who has trauma. It’s really difficult to deal with & causes me to have restrained friendships because I find that behavior intolerable. I used to do the complaining thing which I also think goes hand in hand with gossiping or attracting gossips. Once I stopped engaging with gossip, then I was able to focus on the complaining.

Confusing. In my desperate attempts to NOT be negative, I fawn (#6). It appeared charming and cute when I was young and got me some good jobs. NOW it appears fake and annoying. I dont want to be negative! I dont know how to be "just enough" positive. Im starting to not want to go anywhere or do things bc i dont know how to be now. Im in between jobs and scared out of my mind about getting a new one. I attract co-workers who suck me dry. I will keep studying DBT to see if I can determine some middle ground way to be okay.

Great video! So many great points!

I have been an overly fawning person. This is why I am good at meeting strangers and doing business. But I like to keep people away from me. I don't like intimacy at all. It all just never works out with friendships and family. When I get in relationships I end up trying really hard with the fawning and not really sharing about myself. I get extremely anxious. I tend to pick people that bully me, or not treat me kind.

My granddaughter her school was involved with a shooting. Horrible! She witnessed what no 14 year old should have. Loud bangs and pops set her off. We all went through this because we didn’t know were she was ( and others) for 2 hrs. It’s been almost 2 years . Counseling is a regular and apart of her life. It’s like a war veteran almost. Learning to be brave to live.

This was really helpful, thank you!

This was very helpful to hear these boiled down to everyday interaction. I have these very things to work on. Thanks for the list.

I want you to know that I enjoy your content so much! It's so informative and helpful! I feel so seen and less alone after watching because I know I'm not alone in this journey. Thank you so much! ❤

Dr. Sage thank you for the content you create. You have no idea how much your videos help me understand my mental state and why I feel the way I do better

Unrelated: love that wallpaper. Also this tight shot is so full of textures, yet not distracting!

You are amazing! I’m continually learning! Complaining as a way to bond with a parent in childhood can carry over into adulthood and relationships. It’s a way to bond. I saw that with my mother and brother- now it makes so much sense. I see it with my now partner who has CPTSD. I started catching on to it a little while ago and thought I should find a way to steer away from our conversations going in a commiserating type way. Now I get it! I love it. I know better how to handle it! Thank you 🙏 ❤

Great video. TY Dr. Sage. Namaste

Thank you for the awareness.

This subject deserves a reply.

This is so helpful to me! Some of it was hard to listen to because I see myself in varying degrees in almost all of these behaviors. However, I believe it is important to take ownership of it in order to find healthy relationships with people. (I currently do not have one safe or healthy relationship in my life) I am on a healing journey and watching this video helped me realize that, even though I still have a lot of work to do, I have made progress in certain areas, like being overly people pleasing and needing to find meaning in every little thing. I simply don't have the energy for that anymore nor do I even care to try. Maybe the not caring will fade, but I welcome it for now. Your videos have helped me tremendously. I just found you 6 weeks ago and I every single video I have watched has moved me forward in some way after years of being stuck in the same, really difficult place. Thank you ❤

You put so eloquently and succinctly, the sory of my life. Your videos have been a total game changer for me. Thankyou so much for helping me to reflect and heal ❤

Life is so rhot. I have listened for YEARS to so many podcasts, and I have also been into therapy. Nothing has worked.

Im a hermit trapped in depression. Getting use to it.glad for the thing's i have. 👍

I love the truth in this.. I see myself and a few others in it. Very helpful.. I appreciate the content.

I’m so glad I found this video. I escaped from a narcissist relationship ten years ago and have been studying that behavior, so I’d stay aware of this trap of bondage. I found myself, again in a trap like this. Most of this persons behaviors resembled a narcissist but thanks to my open mindedness and what little I’ve learned about his past, I just couldn’t put my finger in it. He had all the traits of a covert narcissist but something seemed to be missing? One day, when I called him out on guilt tripping others and how wrong it was, when he admitted to me, that he believes it’s not wrong. All this did was, reinforce my judgments of him. After doing a lot of digging in psychology and alternate behaviors, I learned that people who’ve experienced childhood trauma can also appear to resemble narcissistic behaviors.(CPTSD). This has helped me so much to forgive his behaviors. Everything you said about child hood trauma matches the traits of my friend and I can now understand that I may have misjudged him. I think we need to be very careful of the label, “narcissist”. Childhood trauma is very tragic and unlike narcissism, there is hope for one’s life to recover.

This is so real I pushed my partner away tonight. Single asf now. I’m tired of being the reason why other people are upset. I hate to be angry and I try to be overly understanding but nothing works. I’m calling it quits to most things in life fr.

Omg the meaning-making thing, and the proxy for parents too, thank you

People call me negative but I am tethered to reality. Not fantasy land. Zero apologies. All my bank balances are postive though.

You are such a blessing ❤sending love to all.xx

Thank you for talk so in detail and with great empathy and emotion your job and advice is priceless 🙏 I am humbled to have the chance to meet new people great beings who give so much for the growth of the collective 🙏

Great topic, and I do recall doing some of that - as if positivity is somehow bragging, which is something I was always afraid to be seen doing.

I'm glad I found you.

I suffer with all this and at 22 I’ve ruined everything and I can’t deal with the self hate

I love your videos, but I think a new mic would be great.

You just described myself and my two best friends wow did you ever make some things hit home for me? It’s funny how when you’re trying to do self healing it doesn’t happen consistently every day all of a sudden you get breakthroughs that’s where the work and the change happens if you’re willing to work hard.

The gregarious piece....I remember as child being so bigger than life and vibrant (till CPTSD squashed it) and now that I have worked on so much my feelings of happiness are back and I am sunny cheery, complimentary towards others, celebrating their wins, etc. but I worry people see me as too 'much' happy. But am I too much happy? Or is that just who I've always been? I had to be a fawner as a child so I could see how this might tie in. I just can't sort out which it is bc I genuinely am happy for others and enjoy being happy after being dead and depressed for so long.. CPTSD is exhausting. @Dr.Sage I would love if you could do a video on how to work on overcoming over meaning making? I get its a form of hypervigilance but need more skills in this area. I appreciate your channel so much!

Yikes I do a lot of these things 😢Mainly that I am always worried that someone’s mad at me, perfectionism and fawning. It’s like I don’t even know who to be sometimes. Working on taking myself back. Thank you ❤

Thank you!!!!

Great video

I Agree with all of these!! But one I just learned about myself that would of been really valuable to learn earlier that you did reference too. Is Hyper-Independent which is a direct correlation to my upbringing and complete explains my dating life. But would be helpful if you cover it!! Thanks!! 😊

They did stuff to cause arguments and I was blamed it was always my fault in fact my so called mother said that it was my fault for my shitting father and her son having a fight because my farther worked out that it was him who was abusing me but then my father was abusing her daughter who she had with his half brother and to this day I still feel like everything is my fault had so much counseling but the problem is I don't trust no one and feel so alone I am so glad that you do these videos thank you Kim

Sheesh - I find it SOO difficult to NOT be "the corrector". I even annoy myself and often I find myself waiting for an opening AND I HATE THIS because it does make people feel stupid. I don't want to make people feel stupid. But I also hate it when "the record isn't correct". It's so dag gone frustrating.

Feeling called out 😂 Seriously. This is pretty much me in just about every way. Another one I realized I did was I actually was attracted to couples (not sexually) because they provided a stability for me that I never had in my home life. But then I’d be very negative and push them away 😞

So good to have this awareness 😊

I feel like this video can be harmful to ppl with CPTSD, because we are terrified of being a burden and pushing people away all the time anyways. I think it’s bad for me and others to watch this video and have even more fuel to irrationally worry about being a burden and being abandoned. Instead of worrying about these things I think it’s more helpful to communicate with your friends and partners

I fawn and am over pleasant! Used to overshare but aware and self compassion xxx❤❤❤❤

My very first relationship at 38 brought out all my childhood trauma. I didn't even know I had anxious attachment. And me having so many childhood issues pushed my first bf away. He himself isn't healed and so we were not really compatible.😢

What I do that's on this list is that I think so much is about me that actually isn't. It can feel embarrassing. I feel so self centered that I try hard to go the other way and think that nothing is about me. But of course some things are about me and I'm missing the hints.

I don’t like anything negative I don’t usually comment on media. I just don’t trust anyone. I don’t think there’s no one nice out here and the truth is very important. I just like to shut myself off for the world. I trust animals more. I’m independent. I don’t go to talk to no one about anything.

I did this to the person I deeply love... I am 59, she is 57, Three years Nov this year's (we are not gonna celebrate that) It's been a week, and it has gone from I never want to hear, see of have any communication with you whatsoever , you are dead to me (what she said to me) and 3 days later, kinder comunication, and told me to call her in 6 months, So I got a new therapist, bought Mind over Mood, and I am trying to reconnect with myself. For me.

A lot of yesses except for not reading the room I am always overly scanning people, observe them, their responses, looking for reassurance and safety. I'm always alert. I always feel unsafe and anxious around people and want to prevent them getting angry at me. I was brought up by angry parents. I thought that was a part of trauma behaviour, so I don't understand her in this one. Anybody else here who can relate to me?

My trauma brain is Unable to get close to ppl, therefore I'm pushing ppl away. But My awareness thinking brain is always wanting friendship. The two sides conflict😢

That’s why I don’t talk to people.

Sage advice from Death Vallet Scotty: Scotty’s is buried on the hill overlooking the castle. Next to him is his faithful dog Windy. On his headstone, which is a bust of Scotty are his words, “I got four things to live by: Don’t say nothing that will hurt anybody. Don’t give advice-nobody will take it anyway. Don’t complain. Don’t explain.”

#2!!!!!!

Thank you so much for these videos. Numbers two, four and five are particularly relevant to my experience. Number two: If the teachers snapped at the class in general I would fall to bits and hope like hell they wouldn't notice my existence (fat chance for a blind student in a sighted class). For ages I couldn't listen to Alan Rickman playing Snape because it used to trigger me. Number Four: I was the seven-year-old correcting her classmates' grammar, and I also have perfect pitch. number Five is more complex because I'm blind. Therefore, I can't 'read the room' because so much of interaction is non-verbal. I think that if people don't get eye contact they write you out of their universe because they assume you're not interested whether they mean to or not. We're expected to educate you, put you at your ease, do the reaching out because if we don't we're ignored; and then we have to carry the lion's share of the conversation too, as well as try to 'be normal' (whatever that's supposed to be). No wonder I've become such a grumpy old bag. People are such hard work that I mostly socialise online now. At least in that forum I have a modicum of control. 😩

I just pushed a good friend away. 😢

My son is so awesome but he has been a corrector from birth! 😂Thanks for the awesome tips on how to address that. I know it's natural for him and I am not trying to change him. I just want him to turn it down a notch.

Regarding #2: Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Sigmund Freud

Don’t be scared of SOLITUDE. Way less painful . Still see people sometimes or they will get mad.

it's realizing the need , in a person way that comes across sincere. that is where the rubber hits the road. skid marks and all .

When my symptoms are bad, I feel helpless and often will ask for help and feel that I rarely get it when I really need it. And I'm not yhe kind of person who asks very often. It exacerbates the helplessness. I'm going through some very difficult things and I feel absolutely helpless and disappointed. I have been critiqued as being too negative, self-absorbed, and playing the victim. I'm not sure these things are true. But I genuinely need help from friends and family and am completely overwheled and alone because I feel like I pushed everyone away. And now I feel very isolated and angry because I have been through serious amounts of trauma in the past 7 years, and the stress of my situation is overwheming. So I don't know what to do. I never had this problem before. But I was always there for me friends and now that I'm houng through a very difficult situation (as a single mother with NO support) everyone avoids me. I guess that I would have expected some compassion, but I don't feel it from anyone in my life. It's so demoralizing and wearing on my mental health.

I keep repeating the past in my marriage now that I’ve been divorced for 10 years yet I’m I still think of him everyday

How do we stop projecting our narcissistic parent on people? My brain goes back to the past, and that person becomes unsafe. I want to cut them off because of it. I can sometimes be triggered into emotional flashbacks of anger that last for days when someone exhibits the flags of my narcissist. For example, i have friends who ask for money and also try to portray this image of themselves that isn't real to everyone else. They act superior to my husband and i but try to impress everyone else while relying on us way too much. They are also entitled and rely on me too much. They feel unsafe because these traits remind me of my guardian. old anger from my amygdala from my narcissistic guardian amplifies my anger towards these friends. I can see red flags that are there, but it's like my anger is overactive. Instead of feeling like ok, I can distance myself healthily from this person. I have power. I just wind up feeling powerless because I am triggered into a past emotional state. I start analyzing and ruminating about them and then I feel stuck. This is how my brain worked when I was stuck with my abusive narc guardian who betrayed me and blew threw my inheritance and lied. She was relying in my orphan twin and I for Financials without us even knowing. So I can see the specific connections from my narc and my friends that make them feel threatening. I've had 6 years of therapy, and no therapist has been able to help me with that. This is my biggest struggle from this list. I need coffee haha. I hope this makes sense. I've set up boundaries but it's not enough. I still feel so angry and burnt. I just wish I felt empowered not like a victim. I don't want to be a victim.

7:45 this is a good example how having siblings helps teach your children how to socialise successfully and why single child homes develop introverted adults

because I hold myself to a high standard (but always feel like im failing) I often project it on to my partner and criticise him for things he needs to be better at! I am always actively working on myself but sometime you hit a fork in the road of course. when im in that state of lostness I become hardened and critical ! was wondering if that was to do with my Cptsd or possible add ! loved this video , really insightful and I resonated with some of the points for sure !!

Having CPTSD ruins your whole Life!

Do you ad some knowledge about ADHD people who are living with it as long as they know and they just found out. Grateful 🙏

Step mother threatened me my whole childhood, I'm so screwed from all of her harassment

...drinking water friends lol 😅 that was cute