6 High Value Women Boundaries 

As usual excellent advice

A good relationship means these "boundaries" work both ways. Practice what you preach should be a realistic expectation in a true relationship.

1, 4 and 5 will keep you single

@@bilalkhares9337 LOL. I’ll stay happily single then, thank you very much.

@@bilalkhares9337 I assume you're Muslim and expect to have a sugar mommy, take all her money, and then form a harem of women who are with you for the money and power. Lmfao.

LOUDER FOR PEOPLE IN THE BACK👏🏽

Then don't expect him to tell you how much is in his account... 😂

Very well said ❤️

@@Theblackswan55 My own life experiences. 🤣

Never ever saw it like that. But thanks for the mind renewal though

I am glad my content is helping you

You are doing great.you are doing the right thing. Getting yourself prepared and informed saves your energy and mental health.i wish I did it earlier cauz i wasn't very involved when I was single and now after a hard relationship I am learning everything.

a high value woman doesent exist, a woman defines her value by the man she is with

Am single and preparing myself as well 😸

@@Theblackswan55 Yes, no is now my favorite word, was people pleaser for so long that people walked over and over me, then people talking about me behind my back when they are the liers, who KEPT secrets and playing games...I say No, take me home, Money is nothing but paper... anyone who thinks that I'm giving up anything for a favor..dead wrong..put up with liers, womanizer, takers for use me..been there for so many and I get talked about from people who have abused me.. secrets and lies are just Wicked, if I was with a lier who played the field prior but wants to ask me and attack me, that's just wrong..

I respect your opinion on that one. It's a bit bolder than I would naturally be but I agree with you in principle that you don't need to say 'I am sorry'

Also saying sorry is not really apologising in that context but more like sugar coating the no. A further way to do It I would love to or I wish I could but no I cant

@@elefoundation3703 or just politely say no.

Thanks for your comment and suggestion. As someone else pointed out, 'I am sorry' is more so to sugarcoat my objection to do something I don't want to and not really an apology. I do believe the more subtle, and hot n cold you are, the more powerful your message is but it's just a personl opinion. You can be straight to the point and it will have a very similar effect.

Agree 💯 %

Only because people won’t love like Christ and that is the crux. We play church but no one actually will BE THE Church. It’s all an act. The real church in homeless shelters, drug rehab, single moms all alone and poor families feeling ashamed by society. Even “family”

These tips are basic humanity for both men & women. But people listen & learn only when you say to them specifically (like to women) in a specific context (like dating).

@@joyc9323 you didn't got the point, neither of video, nor my statement. Read & understand again.

Exactly, if you think about it. What is the purpose of sharing these things anyway. And people use them against you when things go wrong.

Starting a relationship off on a lie is not a good idea and not something a high value woman would do. Your past is part of you. Hiding these things also shows that you really haven't gotten past them.

Let's view it simply: men are free to ask and you are free to keep it secret. But lying is not acceptable if telling the truth would have driven the man away:it's inducing someone into a relationship. People have the right to have criteria and to enforce them.

​ Yes true regrets

These all are habits that go away with difficulty.

Dani Ka. Ur saying absolutely right.

I agree with this. I keep my life private. So many people try to dig for information.

Absolutely

As I’ve matured… I’ve learned Stages …. Stages of relational intimacy. You don’t tell someone you just met the struggles you have . These things are for people that have known you long enough, that you know whether or not, you can trust them … The same goes for your body …. high value people do not just jump in bed or let someone touch them however they please… that someone that has gained your trust and you’ve learned you can trust them with that kind of intimacy. The same thing with spiritual, if you are religious…. you don’t share your deepest, darkest thoughts and struggles with someone you don’t know well… or someone you are unsure, is going to share those things. You’re allowed to have sections to your secret garden as well … you let people in where you are comfortable

Have you communicated this properly to him, or just assumed negativity & left without understanding him ? Has he not given you the reason why he did what he did ?

@@prathamsrivastava1367 I did. When he asked if we could meet earlier, he didn’t give me a reason (I.e., I have to meet a friend later or whatever) until I flat out ASKED him if he had plans for later, it was THEN that he said yes, he was meeting “a friend who was in town”. I therefore cancelled on him and told him it’s not nice to make plans with someone and bail out on the person to meet with someone else. He then had nerve to speak in hypothetical terms with me by asking “what’s wrong with that? What if you had to meet with your mother before/after meeting with me?” I told him FIRST of all, I’d make it known BEFOREHAND so as to give him a heads up, secondly, I don’t tend to make a habit of making plans with multiple ppl on a given day. He was clearly playing head games with me and clearly, he wasn’t meeting his mother on a Saturday night. On what planet would a single man ditch a single woman to meet with “a friend” on a Saturday evening? That was his SECOND attempt. Fool me once, shame on you….you know the rest.

@@smores8982 you just assumed negativity

@@prathamsrivastava1367 telling someone you want to meet earlier (rather than the intended time) because you plan to leave earlier is common courtesy so as they can also plan accordingly, which he did not do (until I asked him why he wanted to change the meeting time) He also didn’t extend an invitation to me to come along and meet this so-called “friend” he’s meeting and was just going to cut out without giving me advanced notice. He simply deflected by asking me about a hypothetical situation. Now tell me again, what did I assume? Seems you’re a bit gullible

@@smores8982 everything you have written you have assumed. Read it yourself as if it is written by some other person eg. John. You will understand yourself. Next time, don't assume things, ask proper full questions, communicate properly in full sentences and take time to know what actually happened, else you will lose people like this again, and you are not getting any younger. I have been with some girls who assumed negativity and block communication or ran away without telling anything. God bless their mental health. Don't become such. Take it in a positive manner as a constructive criticism, and implement it make better your life. Good luck for relationships.

I have the same issue with my father, but I'm older than you..

@@janas2734 I just hit my 30. So I think you assumed I might be younger 😁 Are you in the similar age range?

@@Miss_Vee993 I'm in my 40s.. Too bad.. and catastrophic experiences with men.. Never mind there's better life out there I believe

@@janas2734 Hang in there, my friend. You are still way too young to give up hope. I am rooting for you! May your all dreams, come true. 🥰 Bless you!

@@Miss_Vee993 ❤

Thank you so much ❤️❤️

It also keeps us happier as we don’t feel the resentment that can arise when we feel we are being taken advantage of.

So true… I was thinking the exact same thing!

This may come with time…. If you and your partner agree to share; or agree not to bother

Neelima Dar. Why.?

@@ramparkash2318 why do you want to know how much a woman makes? Are you staying with a girl for her money? I know this will be countered on me so, I'll say this applies on both.

I agree. I don’t tell how much I make to anyone. If it’s your husband then he has to know since you are combining resources IMO.

It seems you don't mean anything to her yet. No respect for your saying no

That’s not a high value woman…. she is pressuring you to spend on her because “other men want her” She doesn’t want you she wants the idea of a relationship . If she wanted you, she wouldn’t care how much money you spent on her because it doesn’t matter … you would matter. She’s threatening you that she’s gonna go find another man if you can’t “provide for her” like she wants. There’s a ton of RU-vidr, teaching women that that’s “high value” and that’s not true … Being a high value woman has nothing to do with money it has to do with your attitude and how you hold yourself and being healthy enough to be desired by other men, while also being respectful of yourself. You can be high value and poor or high value and rich as a woman …. It also doesn’t mean you’re going to attract a rich person you’re going to attract a healthy person and know how to tell whether someone is healthy or not… This woman is not healthy . She wants to take while you give and that is not a good start to a relationship

Such an honor for me ❤️ thank you

I had a date tell me forget the coffee and just come to his house! He was an engineer. I was so insulted. I blocked his number.

​@@starrjohnson1327& i had lunch with my friend he after that asked me for inappropriate things like he owe me.

Thank you lovely ❤️❤️

Sreetama Guha. You hurt by someone. It's not good for everyone. I would advise you pray to God. Will do better in future.

Sounds like he has issues. You can still forgive him for your sake just not leave yourself vulnerable again

Neither do I owe a duty to disclose them, you have to earn the right to them with time

It's not necessary to disclose it all. Its best to be in the moment.

Not necessary. Like women, men also have their past. So would you openly tell A, B, Cs of your ex relationships without the fear of being judged by your date?

Withholding telling someone everything about you on the first date or the second or third it’s not lying… If they ask directly and you say I’m sorry I don’t feel like our relationship is close enough to have this discussion yet …. That’s not lying. Lying is when they ask you direct question and you actually lie and say the opposite answer then what is true… then when you go try to tell the truth there will be problems. But if you are kindly, honest and say, I’ve just met you and I don’t feel comfortable having this conversation yet until I know whether or not things are going to be serious between the two of us ….. that is not a lie that is being honest. No one deserves your life story the moment they meet you … no one deserves to know the mistakes you’ve made, and what you’ve learned from them just because they might be a possible relationship. I’ve made this mistake before and has burned me in the rear end . I tell people way too much when I first meet them. This last time I met some friends, I took my time and waited until they earned my trust . Things went way better and I could figure out who is playing and who is actually genuine friend. I also learned which friends I can discuss certain things with and which ones I cannot, because they don’t understand. Not every relationship is meant to be the all in all everything. Some people can’t handle some parts of you and that takes time to learn. The last thing you want is to have a ton of information on you and they turn out to be some awful person gossiping about you behind your back and then all of your problems and all all of your secrets are open to anyone they knew. It’s important to know what a person is how they act when things go wrong before you divulge too much …. You should expect it of others as well.

She literally said, except big secrets.

That is true. But would you tell someone you just met all of your life, secrets and deep, dark struggles? No, you wouldn’t . And anyone that expects you to tell you those things until they know you well doesn’t respect you as a person …. I tend to be more open and honest with my self, but I have found when I am too open and honest it’s usually the people who are going to use that information against me that are good at getting out early before they have to make an emotional bond with you as a friend or romantic partner. You won’t even tell a casual friend, your dark thoughts or things that you’re embarrassed that you have done or desired to do unless you really knew that they would not use it against you . This is what we were talking about … you have a right to have a personal thought life and things that you don’t reveal right away to people. It’s an incremental garden with sections you let people into

Thank you 💖💖

Because with the shutdown needless to say everything shut down including my gym membership at 24-hour fitness that I paid two years in advance for. I figured I was playing it smart because that way since I had nowhere to receive the bills I was living in my car I still would be paid for two years and I'd have a place to shower. Nope. No less and the first couple days the police station, all grocery stores, Even the public parks that had a porta-potty outhouse thing had police guarding them so that people wouldn't use them in order fountains. After an almost full 3 days of not being able to poop anywhere, I figured I'd end up in a hospital from holding it so long and exploding. But the security wouldn't let me use the bathrooms at any of the hospitals either. Were technically closed and would not let anyone use the bathroom even for number 2 grocery stores everything physically locked and closed. I didn't know the police station even had a roll up door that locked or any kind of door that locked because a police station is supposed to be and usually is 24/7 They don't close neither do hospitals. Who could have possibly predicted a pandemic of this proportion no less my lucky timing. Despite, I didn't even give one guy a single kiss on the cheek that I didn't want to. But it was a constant irritating uphill battle because like you said low value men have a sense of entitlement towards sex even when they've done nothing for you. I couldn't figure out why so many horrible men we're trying to act like they were some kind of knight in shining armour saving me the damsel in distress by doing me a favor I didn't want so that I would owe doing them a favor for letting them do something pathetic for me. Most of the time it would be an offer of staying with them a night or two or one night at a motel is if that's going to be a big help to somebody in a situation like that anyway no less isn't that what a guy would pay for even with a real date so they're not being put out either way but they do expect you to put out it was ridiculous and consistent too I was almost doing this like an experiment definitely keeping notes and maybe even planning to do a documentary about it afterwards. I even got one of those clickers that bouncers keep in their hand at most bars to keep a head count of who comes in when they take your ID at the front door? I clicked it every time a guy meet an inappropriate advance of any kind I reached well over a hundred in less than a year of being here and did not take anyone up on their offer of course. Looking back on this now, I think the lowest two propositions and the funniest were the laundry guy and the Taco Bell guy! Yes as bad as it sounds. One guy offered a few items at Taco Bell with a straight face for some kind of sexual repayment. 59? 79? 99? Seriously? Wow. And the other guy offered me a place to do my laundry in exchange for sex. One of my friends asked if that included washing and drying? I said I don't know I gave him your phone number to shut them up! The sad thing is both guys all those guys with their chivalrous offerings acted like they were doing me some big favor. The way they were so prepared in their speeches makes me realize I was not the first person they've used this on before and what's even worse is there must be some girls out there that have put out for something as pathetic as laundry or a $5 fast food meal lowering the bar for the rest of us! I guess this is kind of a known thing amongst some circles of life of the barely human species. So I don't like people knowing that I was I guess technically considered homeless. But there was a big difference. I wasn't sleeping outdoors in any kind of danger. I planned to stay in my vehicle because it was safe, free, and just uncomfortable enough to sleep in that I wouldn't sleep all day and it would force me to get up and take advantage of the reason I was even in this s*** hole city in the first place. And you know what? It worked. It was working exactly as planned. I didn't stay in bed for several days at a time at a depression. I was up every day at some point and even had a little daily routine of where I got my filtered water for free from Starbucks, where I microwaved my canned food at the 7-Eleven, where I charged my phones and took my shower at the gym a few blocks away from where I planned on parking legally without any meters or permit required so that I wouldn't slowly accumulate parking tickets that would eventually get my vehicle towed. All of which was in an area I planned on within less than a mile of all of the people I needed to bump elbows with at places like Starbucks and 7-Elevens. I was meeting people everyday in the industry, getting closer and closer to what I needed. Then the Covidiocracy Coronapocalypse. True not everything went according to planned. If you told me 5 years ago I was going to be in a shelter in Beverly Hills I would have thought you were running a fever crazier than Covid could provide. But it happened. That was probably the hardest period of my life and I expected it to be a huge challenge in my planning beforehand, but just not in the way that it actually went down. Still didn't compromise my virtue one bit because I'm one pain in the ass tough cookie, but, I'm still in the midst of self-esteem repair cuz it did mess with my head a little. No no Don't cry For Me Argentina this has got a good ending. One of the things I wasn't expecting that was positive is that I ended up with permanent housing down here. It wasn't part of the plan because I've given up on the idea of section 8 housing long ago when I lived in the Bay Area. The waiting list to even get on the waiting list to be considered for section 8 in Oakland California is 13 years. All of those years you have to actually still have a mailing provable address that says you live in Oakland until you're up for your chance to get in the pool that is ridiculous to me so I gave up on it completely. Now I am in an apartment, a small studio but it's mine, everything's fine, I'm putting myself back together slowly and trying to make fun of Los Angeles and all its shallowness most especially it's horrible horrible selection of low value men I think this should be actually the lowest value man of all because this has the highest amount of homeless people in the country I bet you if you did one of your area poles that would probably match up. I didn't have to compromise any of my boundaries, but I don't like telling people that even just meeting friends right away because who would believe that story? Like I said I'm a rarity, and I'd like to mention that I've been celibate in abstinence by choice not by circumstance like most guys for five chosen years going on 6th October 31st 2022 this year. and that's been solidly enforced through the that homeless period as well. So that says a lot right there about my character and integrity, but that's why I don't want people knowing at first that I ever went through what they would call homelessness because they it was different for me and I really I know I didn't compromise any of my boundary sexually because that's just the pain in the ass kind of person I am but I don't think people would believe that at first I wouldn't so that's something I would like to keep private even like I said from first meeting new friends. I might eventually tell the guy I'm dating that as I get to know him if he really truly gets me maybe a year or two into our relationship? If he's the right guy, he will see on his own that I'm a woman of integrity. However I would never volunteer that at first. Worst case scenario if I tell him about 2 years in, there's no risk because that's right before I usually break up with somebody anyways. So I could tell him that as I'm serving him divorce papers from the relationship?! That way if he tries to use it against me like you were saying or doesn't believe me he was moving out anyways? Ha!! Or maybe let's have unrealistic expectations in a Cinderella movie maybe that would be the moment he would see I was the one and that would be my glass slipper? Okay I know this is an obscure example but I hope that helps?

You are not low value....You are high value....maybe you just have not realized it yet.

I love the love and support of my community ad well. Thank you for being part of it ❤️❤️

RASHMI MUKHERJEE. Buut I'm not agree with your words.

Better to feel lonely with boundaries and your own self respect than lonely in a toxic relationship knowing you betrayed yourself for 'love' that turned out to be crumbs.

It is a strong woman who takes that first option.

@@abeautifulcountry9353 👍🏻 perfect

Being high value is good, but sometimes I’d prefer causal date as long as it’s playful and fun. Enjoy life❤

The right person will show up. Don't give in, you eventually will be miserable from what you "tolerated" to have that connection.

It all depends on your age and his. If you don’t want intimacy by dating, then what are you looking for? You can have a discussion with him early on about what he’s looking for and see if it matches your reasons. Let’s not forget that intimacy is a big motivation for men under 70, so if you’re not attracted by him and don’t want that within a couple of months, then don’t waste your time and his. Most men may expect intimacy within a month, even weeks of meeting.

@@lede1810 thanks for sharing your insight Le De. I am 36 and he is 39. You are right, communication and being honest is the only way to go and probably the feminine way as well. I do want intimacy as well of course but I have experienced several dating situations where after intimacy was early and things did not work out well later. Maybe they were too quick and I just needed a little bit more time.

@@komakino0 I hear you. Too early can take away the emotional bonding and build up which make intimacy that much more meaningful. If he's a decent and classy guy then he'd let you know in a tasteful way that he'd eventually want intimacy, normal at 39. You can play the seductive game to let him know by your actions that you're interested (how you dress, being cute and playful, smiling, remembering what he likes, etc). If you see that he's reciprocating your affections and is deserving of them, you can approach him slowly, holding hands, hugs, etc., until you're comfortable being in close proximity together. Best of luck to you

@@lede1810 thats a sweet one, really liked your insights:) thank you ! xx

Tough! So what if they expect it… if you don’t want to - don’t! Move on. It’s your body!

Then give the kids to adoption. Some of you make your own lives harder

@@feliciaboston6365 then the kid is abused even worse and you build yourself bad karma.

Dr Francisca nish Ali. Ur question is so smart.

I feel this is brain drain from poor countries to the richer ones. There should be one world one currency!!!

@@dr.franciscanishatotalheal . Another beautiful words from you.

@@dr.franciscanishatotalheal I'm agree with your words.One world one currency.

@@dr.franciscanishatotalheal . Good morning. Have a great day.

If his 'one day at a time' last more than a month or two max

I have to disagree...I am confident that I can help any woman become high value if she is willing to put in the work.

If you consider yourself “high value” , I’m pretty sure you were taught or groomed to be. Sounds like you don’t want others to be privy to mannerisms that have a positive effect on a woman’s self esteem.

Of course it's a skill you can learn. It is educating yourself in how you should behave for self-respect.

Everything is a skill. Comes with a mindset. Or u must be modeled this as a child. Nobody is born high value. These are learned through upbringing.

Anything can be taught and learned. Don’t limit yourself