For those who want to skip through the fluff 0:46 How you convey yourself 3:04 How you convey the relationship 6:58 How the relationship starts 9:44 Your boundaries 11:57 The girls story
This is not so much about female psychology but about how deeply you know yourself and are comfortable with your desires not being in line with social norms. I call this deep congruence and never faking anything. It's how I get away with all my imperfections and look cooler than guys who try to fake perfection. And - this is key! - I am far far happier. Because congruence == happiness. Emotions come and go, happiness is here and now, forever.
I just wanted to take the time to say thanks Todd. This is great stuff you've got me studying your videos now and the results are showing. You also inspire me to improve in all aspects of life.
So powerful. This brought me out of the supplicating, unscalable frame of trying to do things for any girl, to the repeatable, confidence building frame of setting the tone for the girl to follow.
This is definitely a topic that isn't addressed nearly enough. It's great to meet girls, but it's even more important to know how to have healthy relationships that make you happy. www.toddvdating.com
Yeah this one is a game changer, no pun intended. Like he said, this kind of encapsulates game in that it is a way of increasing congruence, conveying value, and observing and rearranging frames.
So much said in one video.... -convey social proof and abundance -good game -convey social proof & abundance (other options -controlling the frame -under testing you pass -Have power and convey what you want Meeting: Day game, night game, work, dating sites, class etc. -what happened before hooking up -so something about it when your have boundaries -uphold boundaries, maintain the relationship and keep it friendly without making the other person hate you. -do not feel forced and coerced -do not tolerate everything -intergrity and decide precursors ahead of time -“set the frame” to put your foot down Sixth: Background and story You need an overlap in what you want as a spectrum and what he wants as a spectrum.
This is mind blowing. I've always wondered why women see to act differently and have a different personailty in their next relationship than with me. I assumed it was because of not knowing themselves or being fake, now I get that it's about the guys on a deep level.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Be honest and try to listen to one another and things will get better. Amazing talk bro! Learning a lot from your videos. Keep it up👍
Nice video! I watch more from the theoretical/ theatrical framework; game isn't for me. I like how you keep a nuance that deconstructs relationship dynamics but doesn't (too much) force the game mentality and respects viewers have different intentions.
Todd, this is a different message to you. The video is very useful pointing out the big picture in starting a relationship. You have had many and serious relationships, that is why I want to ask you - How do you work on the relationship? How do you have the relationhsip under control and how it develops? How do you avoid the emotions and drama before they come up? There must be a proactive way of having conversations where both introduce their expectations and negotiate before things escalate. This is what I call having a mindful relationship. Not by having all the power, but by having the control over its developement. Not having things happen in the relationship unexpectedly, but putting issues on the table and sharing reationally with no drama. Have you had a similar experience? Please share some techniques about going for this option. Thank you for your articulate and specific videos and lessons. Greetings
In my country ppl get married this way since its religious moral country, but other cultures is hard to have such thing before displaying high value. I would say u must chose the wright type of social circle.
Not sure if you'll see this, but you need to approach and conduct yourself in a manner that indicates that you are intentional with your actions. Have the conversation and be upfront about what you're looking for in a partner, what you expect from a partner, the role you can play, who you are, and what you bring. This conversation isn't had in one sitting - this will scare her off because you will come across as manipulative. You have to time it right and be as honest as possible. Don't lie about your intentions, and don't make/let her compromise on her boundaries and expectations. A lot of the time, this kind of honesty allows for a woman to feel like you are trustworthy - as a person, and as someone who will always have her best interest at heart... like a leader. Be self-assured, open, honest, and this takes some vulnerability and work on your end.
This advice is golden. One thing I must say: there are decent women out there. Just be honest, be open, communicate. The women want the same things as you want. Do not think women are different species. Do not think they are your enemies. Otherwise you have lost the gsme because women get to choose.
Very good with the details, I agree with most of this. I believe u should break this down at least to 3 separate videos. Or if ur viewing this and u are confused, take one step at a time until u fully comprehend. Other than that awesome also note that if ur Lovely dovely u risk losing the woman or being used and abused, u have to find a balance and play the game called Life to win.
DO NOT OBEY is actually perfect, my FWBs often Order me to do things, or we'll have a 'talk' and she will say, 'I thought we both agreed to...' Before I understood this I would say Oh Ok and Obey. Now, I say, *"I didn't agree to anything, you talked and I listened but just because you say something about me doesn't mean it's True."* And of course the threats to never see me again follow, which of course are not True at all because females are fundamentally biologically driven and as long as you continue to be the highest value male she can attain, she will continue to seek you and your validation.
Guys! I'm not even kidding! For best relationship advice study the philosophy of Patrice O'Neal a.k.a. Black Phillip and Dante Nero a.k.a. Beige Phillip
No the feminst media made them that way. Henceforth news casts,tv shows, movies ect. The femimst media yearns to eliminate gender roles. But those relationships end bad for both. Think of it the women is a single mother and the father has to pay out the ass for that kid or kids. Because no true alpha wants a single mother
Todd. One video I haven’t seen on your channel is how to be how to build sexual confidence in the bedroom. That’s the point of this all. I would love to hear what you say about this
SOLID gold. Question: when a new girl wants to talk about your past GFs do you make a joke and avoid the subject, lie or honestly tell her and convey how you've changed so she knows you're no longer the guy you're describing. (Although doing this can kill the vibe) I'm mainly into short term girls unless I find a keeper which is unlikely.
honesty is the way to go dude. if youre even considering being dodgy or dishonest youre doing it wrong. doesnt matter who youre talking to or what your motive is.
I always body swerve this one with a smile and the answer "A gentleman never tells". That way you let her know the subject isn't up for discussion, but she also knows you won't blab about your relationship with her, should it end. Every time I've handled that question in this way, the girl has been ok with it and hasn't brought it up again.
You're free to disclose or not disclose what you want dude. Jokingly push that away. Or say something like: it's too early, We don't know each other well enough, I keep that for when we're closer, it's too personal for now... Etc... It's not about dishonesty, it's just boundaries. You decide who you let in your personal life, and how fast/slow if you decide to welcome them. Be it your boss, a stranger or a date.
There are two rules you need to know: 1. NEVER act like you want a relationship if you don't want it and don't give her impression you care about her more than you actually do. In other words, do not pretend you're on the same page with her and have the same goals if you don't. 2. See the first rule.
It takes two for a healthy relationship. If your giving it your all and that other person isn’t then it isn’t going to work out. Social media ruins many relationships.
I have 7 very easy ones; Love, Realized Truth, Justice,Balance, Peace, Reciprocity and Harmony when you can live up to these you relationship blossom and flourish until eternity! Without these all else is futile.
Game has become a science. Dudes who don't stop and focus on this stuff have no chance. They find themselves on their azz looking up and wondering what happened. Even being woke with this stuff, it takes a lot of technique and practice.
Can you put out a video about how to get intimate with a girl which is not sex? There's a huge connection that happens during sex but what are other ways to connect in order to make each other feel good? @ToddVDating
Is it ever advisable to give a girl an honest/upfront ultimatum? (Like if you’re asking to hang out (second date) and she keeps being “busy” after a while I gotta say I can’t wait forever) OR do I just not say anything and stop asking/trying altogether
Hey Todd, let’s say, you were in a committed relationship with a girl, doing all the things that set you up as a boyfriend, then you break up with her, but she still loves you. Is there any way to realistically re-enter the relationship at a lower capacity? Ie - renegotiate the terms to resemble a more casual relationship?
You could just do it through your actions brother. Hang out at night only and only back at your crib or hers. Don't go out on dates and don't bring her over to meet the fam.
I personally do not think that is healthy. She needs to be able to get over you and move on. Not be used because you don’t want to give her up. That’s not fair. Let her go and let her move on. Find someone you really want to be with. Or find some one who wants to be a casual hook up
Know yourself and your target. Design a win-win that funnels the energy towards.activities you prefer.or both enjoy. Make sure you understand how much freedom how much security the other person once you balance those two elements into their favor you can get away with whatever you want. it's all about presenting something in a way that they want to choose the options you provide You and the woman I always want different sides of the line getting the ladies to understand and appreciate and accept turn aspects of their nature that societies train them to deny I'll have your girl on the same side of the line as you. Also discretion, discretion, discretion. not making a big deal about all the chicks that you knocked down will give you much more opportunity in the future you don't want to be labeled as a player if you really want to sample the whole field do it on the sly don't kiss and tell and you'll get repeat business.
Great Vid, I flipped this script - Saw a girl on tinder - we matched and she seemed she 'was' wild and crazy (tats and way she dressed) now she is trying to turn it around. I just said, I dont ride my motorcycle anymore and I have turned my life around - also that I havent committed any crimes in a long time (both true). She took the hook now I'm hoping she swallows it...
Testing ur unreactiveness and ur masculinity to make sure ur still the man she thinks u r. Want good game..? Practice, watch youtube videos. Then practice some more
