Most guys lack a clear gameplan when talking to women. Here is my plan, as devised over two decades of dating experience. More on this at systembytodd.com and verbalgameacademy.com
Over the past few years of coaching, I've discovered that most guys' biggest problem in game doesn't have to do with not being cool enough or good enough etc... it has to do with not knowing what to DO, and particularly what to do WHEN. Most guys simply lack a gameplan. This video goes into some detail about this plan. Much more can be found at systembytodd.com and verbalgameacademy.com
question: how is the game changing due to the coronavirus? and how does one balance out the verbal part now that physical scalation is probably not good? is it healthy to go out and game?
I had an open relationship established with this girl thought the first date went well but fast forward and she went out with her other guys she had been going out with and now she doesn’t want to go again, this girl is texting me pictures of them saying how much fun they had and says doesn’t have time for me, thinking I should just end it or should I try to get her out one last time since I didn’t get sex on first date, if I should keep trying any advice RESPONSE WOULD BE APPRECIATED
1. Open (Get her attention) 2. Premise (Establish the Man to Woman frame) 3. Evaluation (Qualify her) 4. Narrative (What is the story between you and her?) 5. Close (Instant date, number close)
He studied mechanical engineering, which is part of engineering which means he must be smart I don’t even mean this ironic. Most people who studied STEM are usually smart
i have to agree, he’s the inly ine that has taken the process of man to women and broken it down to its most logical conclusions that isn’t just theory craft, but what actually works. he doesn’t get too hung up on WHY it works, just accept that it does and just reverse engineer the parts that work into a whole. i think the cool kids call it “inversion “ now
This might be the single, most important short PUA video made in the whole industry ever...really the best, unreachable by anyone else free material, you really are the pick up GOD right now, big THANK YOU!!!
It's almost too good, he's summed up his method in a single short video. It's probably not worth learning more than this as you'd just end up overthinking
Todd has the type of videos that make me get excited just by ready the question at the beginning cuz I know what’s coming is going to revolutionize my game
Thanx Todd , now i understand that structure is very important. So narrative basicly 1 step is Presentetion off your lifestory and 2 step establishing "we" frame. Awesome
Todd channel is where I recover from all the hippie bullshit Julien and Tyler fed me. Real technical advice you can apply right away. Question: how do I start picking up girls as an older guy
Not watching pua in general will make you better at game. Only watching material via tv shows or celebs that are good with females puts you in a mindset of “talking to girls is normal” as opposed to “pua”
Really like this video! Very informative yet clear enough to understand. Can you talk more in depth about girls blueprint ? I feel like more clarity on that that will help tailor ones game the right way because as we all know, not all girls like the same thing
One important thing is looks You don’t have to be hot handsome but really work on your aesthetics. You cannot talk your way into a woman’s heart if she doesn’t finds you attractive in one or the other way. The base minimal you should aim for is to not be obese. Not just body but like on face especially. Workout hard. Be fit. Drop your overall body fat. You don’t have to have hot muscles. But don’t have jiggling fat, especially on the face anywhere. Work on your fashion. No need for super expensive clothes but do look classy. Looks attract. They matter in havin sex with a girl. Don’t listen to PUA’s who say looks don’t matter. They are lying. Looks matter a lot to girls. You don’t have to be a model like hot guy but just be your best and less fat
All these videos are magnificent, but I think Todd could do a video on what a date should look like. You can learn all these methods to get a girl on a date, but then what? A video on some of the things you should do on a date, once you get past all the approach anxieties and pick up lines and getting phone numbers etc., would be amazing. Regardless, this is great as always!
I can approach a girl and take risks when I meet them for the first time, as I do not care yet, but after I get to know them I become cautious again and can't push for more than what I established when we first met. Basically I almost never go beyond teases and flirts and don't go further unless I get a 10/10 reaction from the girl. Any tips?
This is sheer excellence. I recently encountered similar material, and it was nothing short of amazing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Todd, how do you establish a positive narrative about your self if you work a low rank position at a low paying job,(e.g., janitor, cashier, or stock clerk at a popular retail outlet)? Thanks
m.ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-uYYMXVRuXM0.html here’s a video where Todd explains differences between gaming American and European girls
I saw your video on teases and flirts with actual definitions but how do they fit into the model are teases premise and flirts evaluation? Would you say they’re a good way to go inbetween because of the calibration of going from one to another like you said in that video
Todd, what advice you have for people who have a full time job or are running a business? Could you get better at game with a full time job? When I go out with my wings, I get this feeling that work is a drag and game is all there is to life. Wanted to get your point of view on this. Thank you for sharing
For me the big elements value and comfort are missing in the given model? :D Of course, you fill the glas of value and comfort in general and ongoing, but where does it fit in the given model exactly?
Todd, could you give some help with how to come up with good lines for Tinder? I don't mean just first message, but over the course of a convo. I saw the video you did on types of texts you get and how to respond to each and found it helpful, but it doesn't address my problem, which is that I simply can't come up with messages that are interesting/fun/funny/flirty/witty, that are something other than boring. I KNOW my messages are boring and no good, but I just can't come up with anything good.
Hi Todd, I always felt that your model needed a clear demonstration of value / creating attraction in there, especially between Premise and Evaluation. Many times Premise would be agreed on both sides but evaluation seems too soon as the girl isn't attracted enough yet. Any thoughts on that? Thanks
Thanks Todd! Question: I've heard it's best to remain mysterious whenever possible. When a girl asks me about my job, or xyz about my life, how do I talk about myself without it sounding like I'm qualifying myself to her? Maybe a better way to put it is what if the girl starts evaluating you before you establish a premise?
Just give her a short answer that answer her question in general. And throw back another questions to her. Keep in mind, keep the conversation light, fun, positive. Be humorous and make her laugh. Just have a good time. That's all you have to do. You don't have to overcomplicate things
You could tell her to simply guess So instead of just saying "I am an engineer" you could say something more playful like "Guess, I'm curious who you think I am." with a light and playful attitude. It makes her more invested in the interaction and it's less trying to qualify from your end. English is not my mother language so I hope that made sense.
How do you game a set after your pull failed? I attracted a girl through my social circle, went to an instant date at Starbucks with her directly after school. Got her more attracted, built even more narrative and made the decision to pull to "a more chill place", but it didnt work out. How do you go on from there, do you go back to premise and what should you keep in Mind? Thanks for helping and excuse my bad English, I am only 16 😅
Hey Todd question: How you technically game girls you already pulled and building a good relationship? I did all the stuff, push pull, disqualify, tease and it worked of cause. But after we had sex I wanna continue building a really good relationship (fuck buddy or girlfriend). Is it good to stay absolute high value and push pull still everything, Disqualify everything? Because we had sex already, it sounds dump to disqualify something you already made. Is there a moment that just liking the girl - you really like - is enough or should you stay kinda unreachable after having sex with her to build a good relationship?
@@eddyshasha1996 it's very different, you'd have to be more socially calibrated. If you go direct on every girl you'll stop being invited to parties. Personally I think an indirect opener and then flirting with eye contact and teasing. If you get a good response to these only then think about moving forward in a more traditional way. If she doesn't seem receptive to the initial flirting find another girl.
7:30 So how would you know/figure out her blueprint? Or should you? Should you just use the same story with every interaction until you meet one who values it.
Andrew Valentino I’ll say it’s by getting to know her a little bit and asking questions about her and her desires, goals, and the things she likes and you can get a pretty good idea of what she likes and you can match yourself to that blue print
Andrew Valentino focus on WHY she does her things, and not WHAT she do. This is the mindset that fits me, because once you do it, you'll be doing the right questions.
How would you establish premise for someone you've known for longer? Like if ive been talking to her for some time but very casually and premise hasn't been established, but ive already skipped to evaluation, making me seem needy if I do say something. Would a push pull line be the best choice? if so whats a good one to use in a situation like this?
With someone you've known a while you can establish the premise in an under the radar way with compliments or noticing details about her(have you always had highlights in your hair, "I got them a month ago", men aren't very observant with these things taking a month to notice is pretty good ) , eye contact, the tone of your voice (lowering it and speaking slower) and teasing.
Remember Tyler saying he did instructors not to earn, but to have friends? He probably honestly meant it at the time, but damn Maze, Ev etc. and these other hyper guys(who okay weren't great enough, to build an audience)- really did get deleted off the Internet.
I really love your sense of game. BUT I do have a major disagreement that we will never see eye to eye on and that's fine. I do these 5 things myself however the premise part I do completely different than you. Im a very open guy I don't like being indirect at all. When I'm flirting I make my attraction obvious but I also make it known im not yet sold. Which leads me to the next part of evaluation. Direct game works cause it shows confidence that indirect game men don't have. I once got laid for being bold enough to approach her respectfully yet directly while in front of her family including her father. I feel like you need a lot of experience with direct game before you can understand what im talking about. Im not saying you dont have game cause in terms of indirect game you're better than me. But in terms of direct game you can learn a lot from me
What to do if she acts friendly eg. Engagiging in conversations but whenever you try to put a man to woman frame she still keeps it platonic eg. You're cute : thanks
You want to mix in negative expressions like tease her or push after you pull/escalate. Keep it light and challenging, like an older brother giving her shit. Don't try for rapport/bombard with questions until she's emotionally reacting rather than blase.
Todd do you have any advice practicing game while the CoronaVirus is here? My University cancelled all classes and urged everyone to go home, lots of events downtown are cancelled, now it's a ghost town. There's simply not an abundance of people
Despite all the free content these guys give away, if you want to GitGood, you need to get out there and practice. Whether that is with taking his course or cold approaching on your own, it's like Sales, ABC ALWAYS BE CLOSING.
Todd.I am pretty sure no one has asked you this. How do you approach a girl you see on regular basis during commute(morning). I walk with her for about 60 meters only. . So I don't have a lot of time to talk to her. Not only that,it is rush hour. No one is in the good mood at 8 am. Do you think I should give her a note with my number on it? I forgot the most important thing. I am asian. And asian girls are very very conservative. I've approached white girl 5 times so far and all of them gave me their number. So I think daygame is way way easier in western culture. Cocky approach doens't work well in asia. ... and the girls I am interested in are asian and I am asian as well. getting number during commute is way way harder in asia. what should I do?
Old question but if you're still interested you need to open indirectly then transition. Indirect opener: Excuse me do you know if there are problems with the trains today? She answers. Are you sure cause I thought I heard someone say there was. Hopefully she says something else. Transition : you're not from around here are you. "I am I grew up near here" Really I thought I could here an accent, so I guess you must really love the area if you've stayed.
I’d say I’m pretty confident when I talk to girls 1 on 1 and recently I’ve gotten a lot better however how to do with people who already knew you? I can’t seem to show people how confident I am because they already have a story on, how do I change this?
I wouldn't say this is a complete model. It covers that you should go from teasing to the premise which is man to woman I assume then you have to have a narrative about yourself that resonates with her. before you start qualifying the girl. honestly it's kind of hard to follow unless you already know game. I think the original lingo was easier to follow which was attract, comfort ,seduce. This seems to be 3 phases within the attraction portion. The old school method was to tell high value stories(leader of men ECT.) with some humor thrown intill she shows about 3 indicators of interest. Then you start qualifying her before building comfort or rapport. I don't know I kind of disagree with him because he's saying great the premises and it is at the premise that you're wanting to be with her because I feel like that goes against old-school game that you don't pursue her till she shows interest. Even though you put yourself in front of her. I could agree that you should should give her the premise after you get IOIs before you start qualifying. so she knows why you're qualifying her. I think his terminologies over complicate things. he's got a lot of good ideas but honestly I think when he says premise he just means that you're being high value and she agrees with your high value and is showing you signs of interest before you qualify.
I had an open relationship established with this girl thought the first date went well but fast forward and she went out with her other guys she had been going out with and now she doesn’t want to go again, this girl is texting me pictures of them saying how much fun they had and says doesn’t have time for me, thinking I should just end it or should I try to get her out one last time since I didn’t get sex on first date, if I should keep trying any advice RESPONSE WOULD BE APPRECIATED
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