Here was part 1 of this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6lPizkUbT54.html Are you currently stuck in a toxic home environment? Comment below if you are and how you are dealing with that.
Im stuck in a toxic family.. like the family that acts perfect when in reality, we are a mess. I just talk to my friends (not necessarily telling them about my home life) but just chatting.
I am, but i am a kpop fan and watching videos of my favorite group 'Stray Kids' and they cheer up, its like their right front of me and their like a siblings to me 💙 and now i feel like people acutually love me because watching their videos cheer me up so much that i sometimes forget that my family are around me 💙
Exactly, it sucks. I got a B or 3 in my grade and my dad compares me to others. They think it helps, but in reality, it just doesn’t. It hurts the kid.
@NovaKane I hate it when I want to be a little lazy, just a little and my mom hits me with "I'm sick and I have a headache" but she plays video games and watches TV like there's no tomorrow.
Facts i clicked on it immediately my mom tells me im ungrateful then throws the bible quotes to make me feel guilty and now shes fircing me to do real estate next year insted of my passion for art and college
When you win an argument with them (based on logic), they refuse to accept that they are wrong and aim for your personality instead. And the gaslighting is even more blatant: distorting points that you had previously said, pretending to have never said/done anything, blaming everything on you (every trait, behaviour or interest that separates you from them).
Or they just 'misinterpret' the situation and blame u for things u didn't do or say. Refuse to listen to your explanation. Makes ridiculous/ illogical statement to blame you. Then exaggerate it and make the story looks worse while they tell other ppl.
I made A LOT of terrible decisions in my life that forced me to live with my mother at home until I was 33 years old. She has carved many scars into my soul. I was an opiate addict, I chose the wrong career path dozens of times... I was FINALLY able to escape her grasp and buy my own house with my fiance' and life is much better. Recently severed ties with her and the guilt I've felt my entire life is slowly disapating. I am lucky to be of strong mind or the shit she put me through may have turned me into a much different and darker person. My mom has done a lot for me throughout my life but has made me feel guilty about all of it every step of the way so I totally agree, it is a terrible curse. Being financially dependant on her is what kept me at that house for so long but keep your spirits up my friend, once you get out, life will be infinately better!
Well yes. If I have a trillion dollars I would buy a better house. Probably even a car! To at least get out of the depression hole of my parents house.
"why cant you be more like your sister?" "why cant you be like your friends?" "i live a life more horrible than you before, you should be more grateful." "why do yo walk like that? why do you eat like that? you are such a shame." *yells at me in public and cussed at me*
"They actively block u being happy" Every time!! I never tell them any thing that truly made me happy cause they will always make fun of me and it won't be a happy thing any more. :)
My mom is definitely toxic. If she's "losing" an argument, she says "You're just like your father!" Or "You're acting like your dad!" My dad is an dead beat, alcoholic, abuser. I've asked her to stop but this only made her use it more, because she knows it hurts me. Then one day, I asked her "how, in what way am I like him?" And she had the look of a deer in headlights. She then started talking about how I dropped out of college, which I didn't. My dad also never went to college according to him and ny grandma. I no longer hear "you're acting like your dad."
My dad used to be an alcoholic abuser to and my mom would do the same exact thing. But now I get along with my dad wonderfully and I'm writing this comment from his house. I hope your mom realizes that what she's doing is very wrong!
1. They're manipulative. 2. They blame you. 3. They actively block you being happy. 4. They're unstable. 5. They are overly critical and mean. 6. They are severely abusive.
Yes and they have no empathy and they think you will forgive them.essily after all the psychological bullying. HAhah. I will just ignore the door or go out so they can't get to me.
I get blamed for a lot of small things. A more recent example included that my Mom accused me of eating all her sandwich materials (since she works at a factory by day and packs her own lunch), she screamed and ranted out over something I couldn’t remember. In truth my brother, who’s 13, was the real one that used her sandwich stuff for himself and he doesn’t get yelled at over it. I think it’s unfair how I grew up that was harder than my brother who’s having it easy…
my parents always says i can talk to them but whenever i do actually feel emotions they dismiss it and say its an act for people to feel pity for me. i feel so powerless and im terrified to even come out of my room
my parents made a rule saying I have to wake up at seven am and i can’t be in my room again till 9pm. they basically forced me to spend time with them and act like I love them so they can boost their egos. and everyday I hate them even more
I’m talking to a therapist and they said I have depression and anxiety, but my parents don’t really recognize that and know they are like oh it’s just corona and say things that make me feel bad and I feel so useless and my dad recently threatened divorce and I feel like it is my fault and my brother has hurt me so bad but has gotten away Scott free I don’t like hugs or being touched in photos because of him and my parents don’t care and make me hug and kiss when it makes me uncomfortable and whenever I get touched I have to do that to my other side of my body and it sends me insane to stand there touching somone
I told my parents i would respect them if they respected me and their reply was “Why would we respect you?? We are your parents you HAVE to respect us even if we hurt you”
My mom's a verbal abuser and my dad's a physical abuser. The perfect combination 🤌. How I survived: - Stopped caring about what they said or thought about me. - Focused on myself for my future goals - Know my worth - Know what I am capable of - Did everything for myself - Just smile and wave bois
Kalista Silva on god, that shit is so annoying, like damn, can’t even think for ourselves, or truly be independent with our decisions when they start to try and but in.
Holy crap this happened to me ... I also remember a time when I broke down crying and I couldn't control it and my parents were like go away your being to dramatic go cry in your room Like wtf
That’s what my Dad did to my younger brother a few weeks ago. My brother never, EVER cries or lashes out, and after so long, he finally did. All my father did was dismiss and belittle him, and now he brings it up to get as his core by calling it a temper tantrum or an attention-seeking fit. Fucking sucks.
" All the food we Feed you goes to waste if you're this stupid" " You're Useless" " You'll get nowhere in life" I will remember those words Until my last breath
What about 'tricky' parents/family? They aren't straight out abusive or toxic, but their behaviors or the way they say things can be harmful on long terms- or they are toxic, but it's not that evident... Don't really know how to explain, sorry. Heard the term 'tricky parents' once and I couldn't get it out of my head. All of these signs feel familiar, but not as intense or straightforward, hmm... Great video, as always, stay safe folks
Ah, so true! Idk how tricky family suppose to look like. I mean technically, my mom wasn't abusive but her words get to me every time to the point I'm easily triggered when she has a conversation with me. Not that I'm highly sensitive to anyone else...
I can relate. My mom always has an agressive attitude, like she is ready to scream at me, but acts normal-ish. It was very hard to realise she is a toxic parent and what made me realise it was that most of the time just by being around her made me angry and I always want her to just go away
Yep. I had strict parents as a kid. Nothing wrong here. Except, you know, the part where it might explain THE VACUUM IN MY MIND THAT REPLACES MY GOALS, INTERESTS, ENERGY AND EMOTIONS AFTER HAVING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN INVOLVING THREE TRIGGERS (one of them coming from my father’s father) AND A SPLIT MINDSET.
*Do y’all ever feel safer at a friends house rather than ur own ? And when u leave ur friends house u have a whole anxiety attack because ur scared to go back*
Yes. Even though everyone has the “be nice around guests” it still feels so good to see my friend and just game talk to each other about the times my mom yelled about me. Or when she cried to make me feel guilty. Btw she almost never cries except when I do something that she thinks is wrong. Or when she cut my phone line because is was on it too much and I complained that I don’t get to use it enough, btw I get 2hours of anything screens. 1hr phone 1hr Xbox that’s it for the day.or when she slapped me and as much as I can’t touch women I pushed her back and then she hit me to the ground. Or when she left the house for 2 days to a hotel leaving me alone. It was because I “disrespected her”
My mom always says “you know I’m always here for you.” But when I need her most, she’s not there. I refuse to tell her my emotional conflicts because I know she’ll start criticizing. “It’s because of that damn phone.” “It’s because you have no friends.” “You’re too sensitive.”
Mhmmm what do I do if u don't want us watching mobile it's all fine cuz we won't be doing the online school and more dump classes all fine right now big deal
Same My mom always blame the phone AND BTS SHE ALWAYS SAYS YOU WASTE YOUR TIME ON THOSE PEOPLE WHO SING INSTEAD OF STUDYING AND WHENEVER MY DAD INSULTS BTS AND THEN I SHOUTS AT HIM THEN MY MOM SAYS WHY ARE U DEFENDING THOSE BOYS WHO ARE NOT YOUR FAMILY OR FRIENDS
Here’s my experience with my parent(tell me if it’s toxic or if I’m just losing it): 1. They have control over what I’m doing every day, by making me always wake up at a certain time, and right away start doing work. 2. My mom makes me feel very self conscious and nervous to even look at her, let alone talk to her. She makes me do things that makes me feel uncomfortable ALL the time. She says things like, “I don’t care how you’re feeling, just do what I tell you” “If you don’t ___ , You’re not going on your phone for two days” “I don’t even care anymore. Your problems are your problems, not mine” 3. She invades my privacy. Sometimes when she knocks on my door, she doesn’t even wait for an answer, she just comes in before I can say anything. Then she starts looking around my room, pointing things out like, “Those shouldn’t be there, put them away.” “Could you clean you room? It looks terrible” When really, there’s nothing wrong with anything. She sometimes takes my phone and keeps it until I do what she says. She makes me do things that I hate as many times as she can, whenever she can. 4. She sometimes treats me like I don’t even exist. Sometimes, if I ask her a question, it takes multiple attempts at asking before she answers, even when she’s not even doing anything! She even takes it so far as to talk to the other family members and pretend like she just “didn’t notice me.” 5. She acts so emotionless towards me, but the only other “emotion” I get from her personally is anger. She yells at me sometimes, getting mad if I miss something on homework, forget to do something, and doesn’t even care about how I feel, which is usually just pain. 6. I think I have anxiety, like, really bad. Now that my mom sometimes points out flaws I have, I’ll names all of them right now: 1. Messy hair 2. Dry skin 3. Weird voice 4. Just weird in general 5. Too quiet 6. Rude Ever since she’s said that to me, I don’t feel the same way I used to: happy and energetic. In public, especially in school, I feel extremely self conscious and left out, and just don’t feel like I should be there. It got to a point where, I can’t even speak out loud to anyone without feeling embarrassed, and always feel like something’s wrong and then feel bad when people ask what’s wrong because they can’t even notice what the problem is. I would say more, but my mom is probably going to go through my phone history and things and end up finding this so, please tell me if I have a toxic parent or that’s normal-
Of course your mom's toxic… My mom is similar to yours in some ways. I am clinically autistic, anxious, and depressed because of her and she even continue to blame me for having a bad mental health and tell me to take less drugs that I need. It's nightmarish to have a toxic mom.
•.F¡rè Ńøvà.• That is horrible what you are going through. I wish I can empathize with you. Just, never view yourself as weak if your mom has hurt you in any way possible. Anyone would feel some terrible pain from being forced to go through what you are right now.
My mom told people (others strangers) that I wrote her a stupid suicide letter (which it wasn't). Then she said if you want to kill myself, I shouldn't do it in her house...I should do it outside. And that when I'm getting married she'll read the letter at the wedding
Sometimes I look at my family and say, “What happened...?” When I was little, we were a happy family. My dad used to call me pumpkin, and my mom would call me a lollipop. I was very close to my dad. We had a dog that we had before I was born. My life was amazing. I had lots of friends and a loving family. But around the time I was 8 or 9, I noticed things began to change... My dad would come home and not say a word to me. He wouldn’t hug me or say, “Hey, how was your day, pumpkin!” It was like I didn’t exist... My mom and dad would argue after I was asleep. I would always wake up in the middle of the night and hear them. After that, my mom was cold and distant. She would talk to me, but not like she used to. She would always compare me to my friends and belittle me. After a while, I just kind of distanced myself my only happiness at home was my dog. When we left elementary a lot of my friends ditched me for the older cooler kids, I was alone.. Soon after my dog died from old age.. I really miss her. Now I’m here today writing this comment. The one thing that’s getting me through life is my first and only friend.. Best friend! I’m so happy she stayed with me At this point I feel like I don’t want to have a relationship with them at this point.. but I would get backlash from my older siblings (20 year age gap) because they had an amazing childhood with my parents when they were young and wouldn’t understand because they see them as how they were back then
너무 서투른 해요 there will always be worser cases to anything. I know someone will always have it worse. But, to me what you say is that I cannot be sad because someone has it worse.
The worse part is if they get you into the mindset that "Maybe they aren't toxic and it's just me being weird" when they are definitely being this way. I have to think long and hard to remember things that happened fairly regularily because I think it happened so much I either got used to it, or I just blocked it out.
and it might take many bad decisions before you actually see the truth and your entire childhood would have gone away without any happy memories, just constant fear, hesitation and insecurities. you end up forgetting who you are and push away people that truly love you because you dont understand what love looks like.
When i was 10 my mom told everybody about the crush that i had. She told her coworkers and her boss. I was never the same ever since. I’m 25 now, and i have distanced myself from them because i want my peace.
@Lou I know how you feel. It happened to me as well. I remember telling my mom and she told many of her friends and family. It was embarrassing. I can't tell anyone anymore plus it might be the reason why I stopped having crushes.
Lou My mother discouraged me from crushes because she wanted to crush any sign of immaturity from me. Me, idolizing her as a kid, wanted to act grown up and essentially waste my childhood, so I would stop myself whenever I was tempted to crush on anyone. Later on, when I was in middle school, I finally started crushing on a boy that had made my heart flutter for three years (and that I had refused to acknowledge because of it.) And I told NO ONE. Absolutely NO ONE. Not my friends, and DEFINITELY not my parents. I didn’t even completely admit to myself that I was having a crush... even though part of me knew. If my mother had found out, she probably would’ve done something similar to yours. Or would’ve made fun of me for my emotions or told me he was out of my league or something. So I learned to trust no one with my private emotions like that. Because damaging parents can... be damaging, in that area.
@Sophia Redwood poor you. Don't worry I feel ya can't trust anyone with my emotions either maybe one day I will be able to and hopefully you do as well.
my family: *says something that makes me upset* my boyfriend: “you should leave the room next time they upset you” me, upstairs, avoiding my family because they upset me: “StoP hIdING in YouR rOOm cOme dOWNstAiRs aNd Be SoCiaL”
I swear to god I feel like my parents and brother are out to get me like I eavsdrops in them and hear them talking about me and they don’t say nice things about me behind my back ever they take away my phone and might take it away permanently when it is how I deal with lose and what I used to cope with a very close loved one dying to feel better when I’m reality if they were better i wouldn’t use it so much but meh I’m already ruined
i understand you! my parents get annoyed at my laugh! but the thing is i don’t have just one laugh i have loads it’s never the same and they think i’m fake laughing or if i laugh for more than 15 seconds than it’s unnecessary 😔 makes me feel like i shouldn’t be happy!
mom: i did this to you because I *love* you me: soooo, hurting me with words and physical pain means you love me? oh, ok then... mom: your *opinion* is not an option
Same. My mom is alright, but my dad...o lord, he's toxic asf. Every single idea, thought, feeling, emotion that I have is just downgraded by him. If we talk on the table while eating, he just wants to disagree with whatever I say and then gives me a lesson on how to "think". What the fuck is that all about? I have a mind and brain too...
I feel safer on the internet than i do with my parents, and this is coming from a 12-year old Edit: I should probably mention that i mean *mentally*, NOT physically... Sorry for any confusion!😅 Edit 2: I'm 13 now yaaay!
same from a 13 year old, and I am a boy using my mothers account on the computer. And they are bragging on how private my life already is and bla bla bla.
And people are insulting my online friends after finding out blaming them for what I do. Doesn't talk much but Is annoyed when I talk to them. They took my internet for a few days I somehow manage to use it currently
I'm crying rn Seeing these videos Last night my parents told me that they shouldn't have a daughter like me I'm alone And I'm depressed I don't have anyone to talk to
I really hope those parents know whose responsibility it is to raise you PROPERLY and with love instead of feeling forced and wishing for you to never be born. If they didn't want you and if they wished they never had a daughter, then why didn't they put you up for adoption or for some abort you?(I'm not intending to wish death on you) They just wanted someone to vent their problems on, basically a human punching bag. Cut them out of your life. Until they change, it's best for you to stay away from them as much as you can rn. You are brave and wanted in this world and God loves you. And there are going to be times where God is going to tell you to "go" or "stay away". Now is your chance to stay away if you can't run away at the moment. Will you take it?
Thing is, my parents always change their acts while guests are around, always saying how I say that they are such good parents! It makes me shocked... and scared.
Aww I'm sorry. Try to get all your emotions out in a healthy way, such as writing it down, doing sports, and just any creative endeavours. Hope it gets better, love! 💘 ❤
Hello sweeatheart. I'm very sorry you are going trough that :(. First of all I want to send you the warmest hug 💞. Can't be easy going trough that. Second I'd advise you, too look up ways to deal with whatever it may be that you are feeling. Also now that all your feeligns are valid and belong to your very unique way of emotion 💖 Third, if you have a close friend or anyone you really trust. Your sister or brother, cousin, neighbour, even a teacher, or an only therapist. If you felt comfy, try talking to them :). Sharing this situation that I am sure has been heaving on your heart, may make it a little less heavier. (Also there are those numbers you can call to you, to speak with an advisor or a listener I believe. Be careful if you chose this approach and try to reach the oficial and safe sources) Third, journal how you feel sweetheart. No judgement. Accept you feelings like you accept the wind. They are natural and won't stick around forever, however they are important, so writte them down. I hope this technic allows you too better understand how you feel and also lighten you heart :) 💞 Fourth and not last! What your mom is doing, is porbably a product of her own pain, it is in no way your fault. I don't know how old you are, but I'm here assuming you might not be a child already, and in that case, know that you will be ok believe me. Google people going trough something similar. And be tender and calm with yourself baby. If you need to cry go ahead. The universe will still love you and bring you the most beautiful wonders even if you feel at your lowest. You are worthy You are loveable You are amazing And you are very brave I wish allll the love and warmth in this world to you sweetheart 💖💖
Im still on the same boat I told my mom that if she divorces my dad I will stay to live with him because I trust him and he can provide for my needs . She was pissed
I already knew my parents were toxic, but this stuff is always reaffirming. I cut them off 4 years ago and left them a letter on my bed saying that if they wanted me back, they had to recognize how much they hurt me growing up, apologize, make an attempt to be better, and ideally seek help for their issues. They've basically responded with "we've always loved you! You just never knew how to take a joke. Here's a bribe, come back!" I don't think they will *ever* make an effort to be better people, but if they truly want me back, they have clearly written instructions in size 16 Ariel font on what they need to do. Until then, I won't even acknowledge they exist.
@@phillysteak-t5v abuse victims hear this shit all the time. That's why they reacted the way they did and I didn't respond. We hear people say this to us from the day we cut contact for our own safety and well-being until the day our abusers die. And every time we cave, they hurt us as much as they can until we leave again. Do you think we enjoy not having a family to go home to? We do this because we have no choice. It's either cut contact or suffer endlessly until we die or our abuser does. I appreciate you're trying to be helpful, but EVERYONE tells us to give them a second chance and our abusers always hurt us when we do. I hate not having a mom and dad, but I hate being abused far more than being alone.
Yes. I am thinking of showing my papercrafts to my neighbourhood and selling some. But my dad stopped me. I don't know why. Well I kinda do. He is probably just jealous and don't want me to be happy. Because he isn't happy right now.
She always says ‘you could’ve been in adoption with people you don’t even know! Be glad that your grandparents took you when your mum couldn’t’ ‘I swear to god I’m going to send you back to her’ ‘You’re just being a moody little lazy b*tch’ ‘You are always sleeping while your sister is cleaning the kitchen and being useful’ ‘There’s kids that don’t have clean water to drink so stop crying like a baby’ She always tries to guilt trip me by belittling my problems like if I’m sad she’ll rant about kids who have it worse so mine doesn’t. Matter anymore.
Parents shouldn't brag about themselves. It's a toxic behavior, and my father does this a lot. It's always "my father was never home when I was a kid." I'd rather have a father who is never there than one I don't want to be around.
Mother put me on birth control in my adolescent years (wasn't even seeing/dating at the time), in high school said if I were in a relationship and got pregnant "there's the door, good luck and don't come back!"
In my household, my mother and brother used to shout at each other for years for him not doing his homework. I always stayed quiet in my room, but I wanted to tell my father about that, but my mother absolutely prohibited me to. Now, since quarantine started, I recognised my mother also shouted at me out of nowhere for minor mistakes I made. For example, my mother offered me to work in one of two days to paint a room. But then, she shouted at me in the middle of the first day for not helping her even though she promised me to only work on the second day. This wouldn't have been a problem if she didn't promise me to only work for one day in the first place, but shouting at me out of nowhere absolutely destroyed my mental health since then. I absolutely dislike helping her at all at this point knowing she herself is a emotional rollercoaster. A loving caring mother in one moment, but shouting out of nowhere in the next one. Don't know if that really counts as toxic parenting since my mother is a kind person beside that problem, but I don't know.
It is a toxic parent if she can't keep her promises and puts the blame on you. Try not to communicate with her to much and see what happens. Good luck and stay safe.
That is definitely toxic behavior, it's also very manipulative. She could be gaslighting you. It sounds like to me that she is sweet and a nice, caring mother one moment and the next she's angry and blaming you out of nowhere. This is very bad because she gets you to care about her and shows you that you can trust her, and then the next she breaks your trust and shows you that she doesn't care about you. This cycle then repeats over and over again until you finally break it, which takes a tremendous amount of courage and effort to do, and is often impossible
Michi you need to sit your parents down and explain what’s going on with you and your feeling towards them if they don’t want to listen or don’t change you need to make them listen provoke them (call Child protective services or 911) get them fined and jailed if need be
My mum always tells me I’m a disappointment when my brother does something wrong she always says you behave like your sister or they say I’m bad and always when he does something wrong they compare him with me as a bad example and this actually kinda hurts
it would be nice if you made a video on signs a kid has toxic parents like how the kid reactions are, based on their parents behaviours... e.g. the child gets scared on the slightest raised voice or..the child can recognize their parents footsteps patterns :/
Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents but..my mom has this tone of voice that makes me cry and yet she tells me don’t cry, it’s useless! I told her, how would she feel if she was trying to explain something and somebody raises her voice at her? She stopped raising her voice since then My dad always wants everything perfect and always tells me to do things right and explains it all over to me again for ONE mistake.. Thanks for all the support! It really helps me cause creepy things happen to me, and I rely on RU-vid and my friends for advice. It’s funny how many dad’s in the world wanna be proud of they”re children but don’t realize that they’re hurting them..
Thats great you told your mother what you felt! Not many people do that nowadays. Sometimes we need to advice our parents too. Some parents dont understand whats wrong and would like to know whats bothering you. While some parents think they are always right.
My mom is so toxic that I was literally afraid of making friends and when I was really young she left an came back as if it were nothing an I developed separation anxiety and because of her I have been insecure since I was 7. She still is the same and a she would make fun of how I looked an my weight and because of that I was eating a lot when I was younger, I even started cutting myself. Because of that I have 0 self esteem, confidence, and love. Because of this I stopped eating as well, but because of quarantine I'm working out and stuff. And I kinda turned into a empathetic person or whatever it's called but im really a nice person in real life. But I hope no one else has to deal with this❤ (So update my mom came in my room and started bothering me and I'm trying not to cry cause in her mind crying an stuff like that is weak. She makes it hard to want to live)
I know know you feel. To my dad crying was the worst thing you could do. Because of him I learned that the only emotion allowed to be displayed is anger. That really messed me up.
Thank you for sharing, as a parent myself I have learned of an extended amount of toxicity my parents, more so my father would give out. I REFUSE to follow in his steps but I have learned one thing about myself, I have learned what I have been taught and it takes effort to heal from that. His abuse and toxic behaviors stuck with me and sadly it wasn’t UNTIL I became a mother that made me realize it. I started therapy and it’s safe to say I’m NOTHING like my dad but I still have some traits I’ve picked up from him, it’s all a healing process. With that said, if you have this type of relationship, please get help, talk to a councilor because it’s something I wish I did. I was scared of being taken, beaten, many things but as an adult now, it would have saved me from going through all that I did. Don’t give up on finding the right therapist for you, not all therapists shove pills down your throat. I have requested purely talk therapy myself. Don’t wait until you’re a parent yourself because post partum comes in many forms, and past traumas can surface, if it’s like my case, it will increase the thoughts creating a form of PTSD and triggers that come and go.... don’t wait to get help. Parents may know what they do wrong, most likely they are just blind to it...they may need help themselves but they won’t get it if you don’t get the help first. ❤️
I feel relieved and emotionally stable when I’m away from my home and parents. Like on trips, I’d have a break down if I have to leave and I feel nervous and uncomfortable when I rejoin them.
Same here. They are hard work. Extremely mental. They try to make me out to be mental. When I'm independent with my own place and a job. They hate it cos they are just jealous and are near 79 but have you not noticed they seen to have more energy than a twenty year old. They need serious evaluation from s psychiatrist . Even they are beyond help of these specialists cos they are definitely possessed by demonic entity's. They've got to be. They can't continue to be horrible and jealous about everything positive you do whether it be make new friends or get a promotion at work. It makes them plot and scheme behind cos they are sick minded people. I'm actually convinced they plot and scheme to bring you down.. that gives them.olessure cos it there true colours shining through. Pure evil narcissistic personality disorders. 😵
the fact, I only been happy when I leave the house and want to stay out longer. Knowing when I come back , to happiness drains out of me. I just got yelled at the other day and now she ignores me . I blame myself because I thought it was fault . She was never meant to be a mother , if she can’t even talk to her own child.
With part 1 & 2: They’re about 90% of this, explaining how would take ages, plus, I’m not too comfortable to share those experiences especially when I’m still experiencing them.
Stay strong, it’s going to seem hard at time. You’re going to go through difficult phases with excruciating decisions you will have to make. Remember you come first, you are in charge of your happiness , your safety and your mental wellbeing. You have to parent yourself. It’s unfair, you deserve better. So stay strong, talk your friends you can trust and find your own way to a safe life, full of love and fulfilment. I’m rooting for you. Xx
“your little brother knows more than you” “stop acting like a boy or no man is going to want you” - mom “all these women in this house and i come home without food ready” - dad “cut him (my bf my literal source of happiness) off completely you don’t need him” - both “your brother doesn’t do this” -mom “you only feel that way bc u want to” -mom “i’m your parent and what i say goes” - mom and a lot more
sit quietly in silence. and think about your life. who you are as a kid. before truama. what happened to you. things you remember. like and dislike. write some on paper. figure out... what you need. and what you want they're different. and you are who you were born as. not who you want to be. accept that. I wish I did. accept you limitations. if you make yourself into someone you aren't.. it's ok for awhile. but it makes you miserable and it can destroy you. (it destoyed me and my brother) get help. cry. crying is good. love all. be kind. find God. most important.
When i was only 4 years old i “accidentally” dropped a plate and my mom would say “your such a careless kid” and if i cry my mom would tell my dad to hit my with his belt really really hard and starting that day i kind of starting to hate my parents and they lost my trust until this day and i started a yt channel to make me feel better but i was wrong im still dealing with toxic ppl and sometimes i became a cold person just bc im having a worse day with my parents they always compare me to my siblings but if i compare myself to them they will say “dont compare yourself to others thats bad” and i didnt say a word bc i dont wanna disrespect them i really want to say that “mom dad if your looking at me your just see me like an object not a person and also if you see me hurting my siblings your looking at your self”
yup, can relate. I've grown hate hearing my mother's and her husband's voice over the years. I currently live with my grandparents and when ever they used to visit I'd almost always get upset and didn't want to see them at all.
Growing up every time i get emotional like cry or get angry, they would scold me telling me other people had it worse, that my feeling are never important, being called stupid or fat had became a normal thing for me. Now im an adult i had never been a relationship or have any friends because i don't know how to socialize. But i don't really care cause to be honest im happier alone not worrying about other people.
I was once told by my mom that I ruined christmas, and I'm always scared to ask her for anything because whenever I do she always seems unhappy or annoyed, I'm also scared to talk to her about anything because if I say something she doesn't agree with she's angry for the rest of the day.
Believe that you can build a beautiful and happy life for yourself even though you don't have your family's support. Believe that one day you can have your own family that makes you content, and love you in a healthy way. Work on yourself, become self aware of your strengths and weaknesses. Never ever give up hope. You can do this. I believe in you 👍
@@s.haan_ I'm sorry. This is my fault for causing a misunderstanding. Thank you for the words of encouragement, but I don't actually have shitty parents. I asked this for the other people who have to live with this hell. I wanted to tell them something, but I had no idea what to say. I'm sorry for the confusion. But you said some really beautiful things. Tell them to someone else on here who is currently suffering from this.
"Block you from being happy" Everytime I was happy my parents did something to make me feel bad. I go you with friends and had a great day. I came home, smiled and they made something so I'm feeling sad. Everytime I had a great day I also was afraid to go home. My dad hurts me physical very often.
"Go do your work." "Im always the one to blame" "You're gonna fail" Then automaticly when shes around my dad "Keep going!" "You can do better!" "Prove to me you can!" This is what my mom says to me. And I didnt even list them all.
That suck and it happens to me sometimes with both parents though. One is better then the others though. I feel like they are watching me always. It’s a lot of pressure
My mother is very toxic. She is ways comparing me to my siblings, she blames me for so many things, she screams at me all the time, and she always points out my insecurities Everytime I make a mistake on something.
“Oh when I was a kid..” “You’re the child! I’m the adult! You have to listen to me.” “Because I said so.” “Oh you’re not depressed.” “It’s probably just a phase.” “You are being stupid.” “Stop crying all the time you are just being a winy butt.” “You are just lazy.” “Those brats.” “Your hair looks like a rats nest.” “I’m the parent here. You have no say.” “Don’t ask just do it!” “But I pay the bills.” “Because you leave your room light on you owe 50$ out of the electrical bill.” “Keep this god damn door open or it will come off the wall.” “My parents were much meaner be grateful.” “Get your elbows off the table or I’m throwing this knife at them.” “Do you need medication because you can’t pay attention?” “You’re so selfish.” “I miss the old respectful daughter you used to be.” Stuff my parents said to me and my siblings.
sit quietly in silence. and think about your life. who you are as a kid. before truama. what happened to you. things you remember. like and dislike. write some on paper. figure out... what you need. and what you want they're different. and you are who you were born as. not who you want to be. accept that. I wish I did. accept you limitations. if you make yourself into someone you aren't.. it's ok for awhile. but it makes you miserable and it can destroy you. (it destoyed me and my brother) get help. cry. crying is good. love all. be kind. find God. most important.
God, I never questioned my parents actions and thought it was normal, now after some thinking and these I really see what kind of person they are. And they have the audacity to blame ME for my faults that they put upon me.
my dad always called me a "shame", and expected me to be better then all of my siblings even though i never got a real chance to live with them since theyre adults and have their own lives. he thought he had the right to control my opinions because he had more "experience", which is actually just him making mistakes and never learning from them. my mom would try to defend me but she stopped because he would then lash out on her. he also yelled at her for the smallest things, like opening and closing windows. i grew up thinking i was a failure no matter what i did, and that i was a mistake and that bad luck exists because of me. my dad nitpicked my every action. it was happening to him at work, and he said he'd never do that. but he's a hypocrite, too. he never physically hurt me, but threatened once. i have this assumption that he knew he'd be jailed if i was physically abused, so he limited his manipulation to words and guilt trips. my mom tried seeking help from institutions, but my dad threatened her with the police. i know he sounds bad, but it gets worse. thankfully, i no longer lived with him. my mom and i escaped by chance, which is something i dont want to talk about. i never received and apology from him; he continues to live his life like nothing happened. divorce in process
My mom always call me a black rat and ugly which doesn't broke my heart 💔😭 but one thing she did that broke my life and I couldn't have imagined if I knew when I was little girl I would I have died but I can't now cuz I worked hard got beaten up,scolded,scared,took pain for my body,taking everything in my life and brain and lastly I didn't fail any thing in my life till now so I can't lose it with just putting a knife in my stomach.............right?
I been living with my parents for 30+ years, they always use this words whenever I start arguing : • You are useless, lazy, ungrateful person! • Get out from my house, live on your own! If you can't stand us! • Get back to your room and play kiddy games! Even after I change my way of lifestyle for better, such as workout building muscle, get better in social, self improvement, more independent, doing my own house chores - wash clothes/cooking/cleaning/taking good care my own hygiene, and have a solid job. They still very disrespecting and emotional abuse againts me :( Toxic people will never change till the end...
I met my uncle in arizona for the first time during summer, for some odd reason he felt like more of a father than my actual dad. After watching these vids it's actually because he encouraged me to be a good person, spent time with me, and most of all... he treated me like a human being
All the signs from part 1 and 2 are just like my friend's parents. she even complained about them being so abusive. I hate toxic parents like these. They don't even feed her, just the favorite child
Me: **reads comments and realizes that other people's parents don't do everything that is listed in the videos** My parents over these two videos: Gotta catch 'em all!
