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Yea lol and also.. Imagine that, theres a person asking to a introverts person, "why are you so quiet?" but they also ask to a extroverts person, "why are you so talkative?" and both of them notice and just be like.. "Is everything wrong? So we can do NOTHING?"
As an introvert, it is hard living in an extroverted world. You get pushed into situations you don't want to be in. You can get bullied just for being quiet. It sucks, but all you extroverts just got to chill out a bit and be patient. If you do, introverts will be some of the best friends you will ever have.
For anyone who's in hurry. 6 things introverts wants others to know. 1. You are not depressed, and you're not mad at them. 2. You do enjoy company. 3. Just because you are quiet, doesn’t mean you are shy. 4. You aren't always insecure. 5. Many introverts are successful. 6. Introverts do like to have fun.
@@luwidji My mom wants me to be extroverted and forces me to talk to people because she always brings me up and convinces others to talk to me. My mom knows I’m an introvert possibly close to extreme so I like to be alone but others like my mom doesn’t know that and says being alone is boring while it enables me to live out in my mind a rich inner world that I enjoy away from sadness that is real life
@@luwidji Also I really do hope someday that people totally understand you and your perspective on things in your own life. I feel like I can understand you possibly
To all the extroverts out there, no, we don't like being lonely. Of course we love staying alone for days to come, but not lonely. We are human beings too, and humans are social creatures. As it was said in the video, we don't like small talks about our day-to-day life. We like having bigger conversations about things we love. And because most extroverted minds tend to lose patience, they cannot tolerate our discussion. And then leave us. And this is exactly why we don't want to make friends with just any random person. And usually tend to stay alone and think to ourselves about the things we love. We can freely talk to people. Yes, we have a lot of confidence. But, it is just that, our brains were designed in a way where we don't like small talk with people. Also, please, a big request, please don't ever ask "Why are you so quite?" It is is similar to asking an extrovert "Why are you so talkative?"
Facts . I don't have a big friend circle (I have only 1 close friend ) . I have friends but not close ones and I don't like talking to people a lot unless I have to or want to . Once a girl asked me if I'm an introvert or extrovert . I said I'm an introvert . "But why , why don't you introverts like to talk?" And I was like 😶😶. Yeah , she was an extrovert .
Yeah, I'm very introverts with ppl out there. And if they ask "why are you always quiet?" i just.. Idk.. I prob just say "nothing" and also whenever someone else (except my fam) talk to me, i just got very nervous and also sometimes my classmates misunderstand me for being quiet and also why i only call them classmates is bc yeah, they not my friends
Signs you might be an introvert👍 Need quiet to concentrate. Are reflective. Are self-aware. Take time making decisions. Feel comfortable being alone. Don't like group work. Prefer to write rather than talk. Feel tired after being in a crowd.
SO TRUE...I always feel comfy and safe alone and IDK why but my dad thinks that something is not right but that's not true I just like being alone it helps me think deep...
"I don't see how you can stand being quiet all the time." Silence is only as awkward as you make it. If I don't have anything to talk about with somebody, I just simply don't talk to them because what's the point? It's nothing personal against them. I just don't see the reason in talking to somebody when there isn't anything to talk about with them.
I have the sense that people who are uncomfortable with silence or being alone have more issues to work out than people who aren't. It's called contentment. It's being comfortable in my own skin, my own space, and my own company. When people come to my house, the most common remark is the level of comfort here. You really can just relax. No feeling like you need to entertain me or be entertained by me. Let's just chill.. take a nap if you want.
Yes. One girl asked me" why don't you talk ?" I replied " I have nothing to talk about with you" Also if you don't like silence just start talking yourself , I'll just listen.
I’ve been telling my friend for 2 months now that I like the quiet and silence doesn’t bother me. If I have nothing to say then I just won’t say anything. But whenever there’s silence of more than 3 seconds he’s like “You’re quiet all of a sudden” and this happens multiple times a day. It’s so frustrating. He says he’s uncomfortable with silence and I told him “well I’m not just gonna think of anything to say if I have nothing.” I wish he would just respect that. He has a lot of issues too and doesn’t like to be alone. I like him, I like talking to him, but sometimes he’s seriously draining, especially because we talk every single day
I walk with my friend to school everyday and it's so awkward when I don't have anything to talk about with her and she's not saying anything either. I would love to talk with her about things but I just don't know how to start a conversasion. She always says that I should talk more (she means it in a good way, she just doesn't know how I feel) but I just don't know what to talk about :(
fricc yeah I got a foam cover for my bed, I got a lil desk to do work and stuff at, I got a neat lil wardrobe with a good organization of comfy clothes in one drawer and social stuff in another, and a ton of other stuff. I spend nearly every day in here for multiple hours, may as well make it nice to live in and see the full beauty of. Simplistic in design, very late 90's to early 2000's-ish, very... soft, I guess you could say. iss just a lil comfy room with all the necessities, and the only space I can safely call home.
@@mysteryhatter you see, you can't understand someone until you feel their pain and know about their past, that is just the basics that people don't know because they can't unnecessary stop being b*****
as an introvert, I can say that my life didn't change in the slightest because of corona, before the outbreak I sat in my room all day by myself anyway and that is still the case lol
@@fewbronzegames That's pretty much it. People who aren't happy when they're alone just don't get how someone could be happy when they are. Not everyone's the same but in general as a species we're not good at seeing things from someone else's point of view.
That last part on #3 was soooo accurate. I always find myself praying that people stop talking about one-sided topics and change the subject to something we can both go into deeper detail with.
@@Shushkin that was rude but say what you willing, I'm to an introvert but being different doesn't give you permission to be an ass hole. Extroverts are more talkative because that's just how they are and we have to accept them for that and they have to accept us for being quiet. It's all about respect
I’m kind of an in between. I can make myself seem like an extrovert at times but other times I rarely talk and keep to myself. I usually only mention something if it truly bothers me or I find it interesting. Actually small quick edit: I spend a lot of time with my friends(mostly through Xbox or other forms) and I love talking to them, just sometimes I feel like quieting down and letting others take the wheel at the conversation. Sometimes I just stay silent because I know there’s not much I can contribute to the conversation. Yes yes I know.. two edits in under an hour... Edit 2: I’ve known for a while now I never always had an introverted side. I was kind forced into being one. By my own self, actually. When I was in elementary school I was constantly bullied but at my young age I never really understood what they meant and just forgot about it(I’m autistic which probably added to why I didn’t understand) and when I got older I started thinking about it and then I realized it. I knew what they meant. And it stuck with me, eating away at me and I never told anyone. Until 1 friend that I owe my life too. I’m still suffering from it but I know I have people that truly care for me.
One thing I love about being introverted: I get all the time in the world to reflect and daydream. 😄✨✨✨ One thing I dislike about being introverted: Seeing how well extroverts shine without seeming to even try. When times get hard and I need allies, those can be hard to find.
This is a situation where I would take my anger out on the adults for not understanding and being so ignorant to not notice they're rubbing salt on a wound
Yeah ikr, i mean, i do understand that my parents want me to have friends, but like.. Listen, i can't control it.. Its not like i dont wanna have friends, ofc i wanted to, i dont wanna be lonely, but i can't change. I am an introverts and i cant really change it. I try to talk to ppl but i cant. Sometimes it kinda feel pressured when everyone keep telling you to do so. I mean, they should understand, we are an introverts, and we do want friends, but its not easy to do that. And also, ppl in my country arent really nice and careless about others, they were very picky of ppl, that was one of the reason i dont have friends. I was quiet so they dont wanna be friends with me. Again, its not easy for introverts to just talk to ppl normally like extroverts, i wish they understand.
Random church leader deciding to talk to me bc I’m by myself and looking lonely: 😁🥰🤗 Me just getting anxious and uncomfortable: 🧚♀️✨💀😔😣😖 That one girl who decides to force me to smile and hugs me bc I looks sad: 🥰😁 PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND IM NOT SAD IM JUST IN MY OWN LITTLE WORLD GET AWAY OR I JUST READ A SAD FANFIC I STILL DONT NEED YIUR HELP WITH THAT. AND IM BY MYSELF I CAN GO TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE DONT TALK TO ME I CLEARLY DONT WANAN TALK TO PEOPLE RN
That's a nice teacher you had... But some of my teachers were/are just as other kids. "Where are your friends? Why are you so quiet? (the classical one's in class:You know you need to learn to say your own opinion and what's on your mind. Because you clearly are too quiet and shy.)" Me thinking: I can't tell you what's on my mind, because I would roast everyone and you would kick me out. How's that. xd
When I say that I need to be alone, that means to actually go away, not attempt to make me laugh or further invade my personal space. Get the hell away from me.
I never meant to invade your personal space sis. You have your privacy...chile.... Also you gotta realize some of us are super self conscious and we think y’all hate us! We also put ourselves down for just being the way we are! So great to be an extrovert right it must be so easy 😀
People sometimes get surprised when I talk. I’m not necessarily sad when I’m alone, I just like to be alone to recharge, and then I will talk to my friends.
Me too, my classmates sometimes get surprised when i talk, and when i do something that they normally do, they were just staring at me weirdly. And also, i feel embarrassed easily. So i cant really forget or not feel embarrassed when they do that.
I’m kind of an ambivert but I was a huge introvert when I was in elementary. So much that teachers would clap for me whenever I would answer a question. I hated that
Whenever I take some time and space to be alone everyone goes on their assumption that I have some kind of problems, I try hard to not look as introverted as I am but I really enjoyed spending the time I have with myself away from people,even tho I LOVE those in my life I just do not see it as a necessity to keep in touch all the time.
I am a real introvert and I really relate to this video. So, thanks. I wish people could understand all these things because really often I feel misunderstood. I'm happy this channel exists. ❤️
1. You're not depressed, and you're not mad at them 0:45 2. You do enjoy company 1:13 3. Just because you are quite, doesn't mean your shy 1:33 4. You aren't always insecure 2:06 5. Many introverts are successful 2:34 6. Introverts do like to have fun 3:28 Reply if you're an introvert, because I am!
But the flip side is, there's NO NEED to make friends -- you can have just ONE person of the opposite sex, preferably one just as introverted as you, to be BOTH your lover AND your only close friend, and interact with everyone else on a purely transactional basis! Nice, huh?
The "shy is not the same as introversion" really hits me hard. I just got my first job a few days ago and I'm working as a waiter. And my mom was surprised when I was able to talk to customers. For some reason she thinks I'm shy because I don't always talk. No matter how many times I tell her that I'm not shy, she'll always go back to me being shy
Parents: We'd like to see more of your face, you spend so much time alone in your room! Me, in my head: Well yes it is a safe space with music and books and Animal Crossing how could you not want to be in your room 24/7, this family stresses me out big time Me, out loud: ...ok *runs back into room*
One time my mom told me to keep my door open more often and I didn’t so she taped a large laminated picture of my school photo onto my door :’). This comment is getting a little too close to home-
My parents don’t like the fact that i stay in my room for a long time each day, but when I sit with them it feels boring, they don’t chat about anything important (like they only do small talk) i also get really tired from crowds and stuff and my parents notice that but i don’t know if they understand. Like its not like I don’t wanna be there, its just I know i’m gonna crash from spending time with so many people
I'm always asked, "why are you quiet?" And I hate it. I also hate it when people tell me to smile because my resting face isn't a smile as most people's aren’t I would assume. I relate to the whole list in the video.
Same. I literally didn't want quarantine to end cz I got so much time to do things I like without having to stress over daily life and school. Now school has opened and my anxiety is back again. And people can chat or video call online. It's not like they have no means of communication 😬extroverts in my class were acting like they were dying so they requested teachers to open school during quarantine.
The thing is, I’m not really an introvert, well kinda in between Yes i am overwhelmed when given too much attention. But it doesn’t mean I hate it. I am shy, just don’t force me to talk, that’s the only time I’m timid.
The struggle is when you are an introvert, shy and have social anxiety. Sometimes not even I can really tell the difference if I just wanna be alone for myself or because I'm scared of people. I am in therapy and it works, but I still have a long way to conquer my anxiety in many situations. Can relate to all the points ♥
@Saly Adel I do write! It does help me feel a lot better to get my feeling and experiences on paper or to project them onto a character in my stories. Thank you for the kind words! I have a friend group of people with many different interests do opinions so I can share certain things with different people, it’s just I have some things I can’t share with anyone and even the things I do share I wish I could be more open about. It’s really nice to know that someone ours there cares and understands, I hope you have a wonderful day! 😊❤️
I'm sorry about that dear. I recommend therapy and to find some coping mechanisms. You can journal, listen to music, or use some object you can squish or touch. I hope it gets better for you
As an ambivert,I almost feel like I can turn it off and on when I'm interested and comfortable but I generally don't like having to center that time around other people and their activities
I'm an introvert and I often feel like nobody understands me. What hurts me the most is that my best friend is the one who's always pushing me to be "better" by telling me that I should talk or go out more. Many times I felt like there was something wrong with me, but you know what? I love who I am and I'll never let anyone change me just because I'm not as they wish I were. I'm not afraid to lose the ones I love if that's the consequence for loving myself. I love my friends and I always try to understand them when they do something I don't like, but I feel like they're not willing to do the same...this sucks
They don’t know you. Don’t get hung-up on the opinions of strangers who aren’t even trying to understand you. It’s not worth your time and neither are they (unless you vibe otherwise or have some sort of connection with them).
When I got into an argument with an extrovert who tried to persuade me to socialize, he told me, “we need fellowship.” I wanted to say to him, “No, *you* need fellowship. Don’t project your desires onto me,, and don’t decide for me what I need!”
good for you just find extroverts that respect your privacy unl;ess you think all of us are like that and degrade us onlinelike the introverts i see doing in extrovert videos >_
@i .candy I have resisted-repeatedly. But weirdly, the more I resist such people, the more they dig in their heels and try even harder. Every bit of resistance on my part makes them think, “She’s only saying that because she’s hurting. We *really* have to bring her out of her shell!”
They also think im bored when I'm in my own headspace and I have to leave it and say no I'm fine but they think I'm lying or something is bothering me, the truth is I don't want to leave my thoughts :(
Had to become 40 to find your channel and finally learn, I'm not _that_ flawed as people claimed. And your explanation of introversion vs extraversion is literally what I tell people when they don't understand why I need some retreat. "Why didn't you tell me earlier?" - "Because I didn't know." Thanks, guys.
I don’t even bother watching these videos unless it’s her (or someone with a similar manner of speaking). They should not be putting 11-year-old girls on to do voice-overs (on the contrary).
One of the things that i think that some of the friends I've had in the past didn't relise is that when we want alone time, it's not becuase we hate you. And that if you keep pushing large friendship groups or keep stopping us from having our time alone, we are going to distance ourselves from you.
@GeminiGirl1234 I was an complete extrovert, but while I'm growing up, it's like I'm changing..from an extrovert, an ambivert and maybe an introvert now..wow..
I’m sort of both introverted and extroverted I guess? I have all/most of these traits, except at certain times I become an extrovert. I begin talking a lot and I’m pretty loud and I talk quite a lot. I guess it’s pretty nice, but it drains my energy quickly. 😙
Same here when I'm with my friends, I talk a lot and loudly but it drains my energy so fast and I don't quite hang out with my friends. When I finish the classes, I just want to go back to dorm. I feel so tired and I just want to be alone so that I can recharge my energy. I'm so happy that I have time for myself. Being surrounded by friends or people all the time it makes me feel tired 😅 Sometimes I feel like I'm weird but maybe, I'm quite more an introvert? 😅 Sorry for my English.
It also just depends a lot on the circumstances. This may sound strange, but I get crazier at night. I’m a night owl so I guess my energy just increases. I’ve found that any other time of the day I’ll stay introverted. Another REALLY weird thing, when I get exhausted from being around people for long periods of time, I start to talk even more. It’s not really talk though. It’s just like I’m too tired to think about anything so literally everything just keeps tumbling out of my mouth. I’ll start making weird noises and just saying random things in a run on sentence. This will continue on for a while, and then... I’ll crash. That’s when I just stop. I stop processing information, I’ll stop speaking, and usually my eyes will start drooping. I get burnt out really quickly, and ya I guess I’m pretty weird. Are there any other introverts that do this?
I like being alone, but online im a social butterfly. A stark contrast to how i actually am. I usually prefer being around my pets and family rather than with crowds of people i don't know. Ive always had trouble socializing and especially making eye contact.
I'm introverted, sadly, because of low self-esteem. I'm not physically fit, I don't make a lot of money, I don't drive (as I feel too uncoordinated)...it's hard to present myself to someone of the opposite sex because of all that. And I often get misunderstood. People actually think I'm gay, when the truth is I'm too embarrassed to present myself the way I am.
"Introverts don't always have low self esteem and social anxiety, they're not shy or insecure and can like company." I'm literally these things you said Introverts are usually not.
I'm kinda is, but i have low self esteem when socializing or in front of another ppl (except my fam) and i am shy, but others are true, i dont have social anxiety, i'm not insecure and i do like company
I am a more introverted person, and I have social anxiety. My family likes to go places solely to socialize but even though I am almost a teenager I still just choose to hide behind my parents. I’ve had a lot of traumatic experiences in life, and this made me mature much faster. The adults at the parties we attend always drunkenly tell me “go play with the other kids” I’m thankful that my parents get it and they defend me. They understand I will socialize when I want to. And then there are the other times , where it’s kids I know. And when I am especially anxious, I don’t feel good about talking to them. They say “do you hate me now or something?!?!?” I don’t. Then I feel bad so I try to socialize but then that makes me anxious so I try to hide myself anywhere then the adults say “stop hiding. You are being so weird just go play” which makes me even MORE anxious and then eventually I start crying and hiding and then of course EVERYBODY in the room is looking at me and pause the tv or whatever to just look. That is when I feel so horrible. This did happen by the way. Because I’m crying I yell “PLEASE JUST FORGET IM HERE!!! PRETEND I DIED!!!!!” And then I immediately feel bad for yelling. I can’t win. Sorry for rambling, I know most couldn’t care less about my story but I hope some who relate find solitude in the fact that they aren’t weird, and they aren’t the only one that feels this way… good day I guess. Don’t know why I wrote this.
It's so odd and provoking, when my parents and siblings force me to come out of my room. It's also irritating no one knows, what I feel, like being tired.
Yeah psych2go, I just pray that you never fail to surprise me. I am an introvert and never felt so helped in my life before I watched any of your videos. Is Any of your team an introvert (known introvert)?
I needed this video. Not that I am an introvert but I have an introvert friend that I really want to understand and be available. She's been stressed out these days and lots of the things in this video are things she does
Your so wright... I love being alone. And it's so much harder to be with narcistic people. They really can make me mad.... I don't like to be told everytime the same bad thing. There is always something wrong with me!!!! That drains me like instant. And then these people are mad that I want to talk about it and then they say I'm getting loud. That is a bond breaker and the hardest for us to be around
The problem is people are too busy trying to project their insecurities onto others to hide all of their faults and emotional turmoil. That wouldn’t be so bad if folks weren’t trying to use that tactic to manipulate, but whatever I guess.
