6 Things To Say When Someone's In Pain

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Do you often struggle with things to say when someone's in pain? Not knowing what to say is one of the universal challenges of being human, especially when it comes to heavy conversations. Talking with someone who is in pain can be even more difficult to navigate whether they reached out specifically for support or not. Sometimes emotions come up suddenly and you may find yourselves having a conversation neither of you expected. If you relate to this and need advice on how to comfort someone and what to say to them, check out this video!
Also, if you also want to learn about the things you should avoid saying to someone who is in pain or has depression, we also have a video on that: • 5 Things You Should Ne...
Disclaimer: While none of these examples work for everyone, nor should they be used in place of professional advice, we hope they can guide supportive communication when it’s needed.
Writer: Gabrielle LaFrank
Script Editor: Riley Lin
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Murielle Lindsley Dela Rosa
RU-vid Manager: Cindy Cheong
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Lieberman, M. D., Eisenberger, N. I., Crockett, M. J., Tom, S. M., Pfeifer, J. H., & Way, B. M. (2007). Putting feelings into words: affect labeling disrupts amygdala activity in response to affective stimuli. Psychological science, 18(5), 421-428. doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2...
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@sheela6855 3 года назад

Is it only me who actually googles "what to tell a friend who....." bc i fear i might tell them something that would make them feel even more miserable.

@theshywolfie6655 3 года назад

no not at all, I've found myself doing that on many occasions..

@dakotay.oiwantsopenmyvideo6655 3 года назад

🖤💌❣🔴

@theobbyray 3 года назад

wtf these bots

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

@@theobbyray ye

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

That just means u care!

@meital4593 3 года назад

Summary: 1. You have my attention 2. What's your biggest concern right now? 3. I'm here to listen 4. What do you need right now? 5. Do you want to talk about it? 6. I want to understand more so I can help

@urmomsman7 3 года назад

all these damn bots-

@damienmanu117 3 года назад

@Valentina Yela I'm single ❤️😘😍🌸❤️ LOL 😂, I had to, sad part, I respond to them 😂

@nelmae6026 3 года назад

Jesus, what the hell are these bots doing here??

@gitanjali705 3 года назад

@@nelmae6026 lol

@ladennayoung2939 3 года назад

Thanks for the summary. 😊😊😊

@scarapoop 3 года назад

School nurse's version 1. Here's an ice pack 2. Here's an ice pack 3. Here's an ice pack 4. Here's an ice pack 5. Here's an ice pack 6. Do you just want to skip gym class?

@jin_cotl 3 года назад

Lmao

@DarnHooligan 3 года назад

this is too accurate..

@vigilant3263 3 года назад

hell yeah I would like to skip gym class

@danielg778c3 3 года назад

7. Here's one old bandage do you wanna put it?

@akshada 3 года назад

Going to meet the family of a friend who died in a car accident on Saturday, today. Thanks for the video.

@kyoon-chan2512 3 года назад

im sorry for your loss...

@furryexterminatorinactive3386 3 года назад

that must be so bad...

@SamanthaGonzalez-gq7nf 3 года назад

I’m so sorry 🥺

@David-js6sl 3 года назад

Sorry for your loss brother, his time passed on to the spirit realm🙏🏼

@datsnice9138 3 года назад

Sorry for your lost just remember he or she is up there in heaven watching over you

@jellysworld8356 3 года назад

When you have a friend that's feeling down and this just got posted 🥺

@asillygoof3358 3 года назад

So true

@racerinfnaf5425 3 года назад

Yeah true

@beanthealien2090 3 года назад

Wonder what it’s like to have caring friends

@Renikee 3 года назад

@@beanthealien2090 it's amazing. Mine (my best friend and now my boyfriend) made my life so much better, and vice versa. Wish you will also have caring friends soon!

@rosegladville1935 3 года назад

That's true.

@bonakid863 3 года назад

Im the type of friend who’s everyones personal therapist

@nelliebellie2222 3 года назад

bonakid Same here 😱😁

@aciedice5752 3 года назад

Same

@sabrinacollard8077 3 года назад

I should meet you

@temitopeoketikun1379 3 года назад

Same

@flappudle6689 3 года назад

Same my dude-

@feliciabates6364 3 года назад

1. Ighty **writes this down in my stuff to do as a future therapist** 2. I love the animation, looks great

@sainiveditha0613 3 года назад

Wow.... Love ... Me too! *virtual HiFi*

@Psych2go 3 года назад

Thank you so much! Is this your favorite animation so far? :)

@nihanb5899 3 года назад

@@Psych2go Yeah. It is!

@yourlocalcocaineaddict4537 3 года назад

Omg I also have the plans to become a therapist!!!

@yourlocalcocaineaddict4537 3 года назад

@@Psych2go nope, I love all

@Zuxtron 3 года назад

The two most important things to realize for me were: 1: Don't say anything that invalidates the other's feelings. Stuff like "it's not so bad", "look on the bright side", "at least you're not..." just makes the person feel like they're wrong to be feeling the way they are. Instead, it's better to just say stuff like "Yeah, that sucks...", "I can understand why that would hurt.", and so on, acknowledging that it's normal to be in pain and need help after whatever they've been through. 2: Don't give advice. Because even if you did somehow figure out the magic bullet solution to fix all of the person's problems, they might not be receptive to it if they're in the middle of a mental breakdown. Worst case, trying to help too much can end up being belittling, especially since, if you can think of doing something after just hearing about the problem, chances are, the person who's actually EXPERIENCED that problem first-hand has thought of it too, and there's a reason why it can't work. Also, I've made my go-to greeting "How are you feeling today?", which gives an opening for the person to tell me if they need me to, well, apply this video's advice.

@a_raichub 3 года назад

Ack-

@beashemmad.sayson545 3 года назад

Wait wym by that last line from no.2 starting from ‘worst case’?

@therebellion96 3 года назад

Well said! Couldn't agree more!

@lyakween7456 3 года назад

Arghhhh what to do...... i accidentally do one of these or maybe both of this when my friend need help arghhhhh I feel like I'm such a bad friend WHAT SHOULD I DO😭

@raniyahkhan 3 года назад

Thank you for commenting this! Now I can comfort someone who is sad much better! 😊

@savageunitato100 3 года назад

I love this artist. Especially when they draw real humans Thanks for 161 likes I never got this many I'm so shook and happy you agree with me y'all!

@Psych2go 3 года назад

Thank you so much for your feedback :) Would you like to see more of this animation?

@quacious870 3 года назад

Psych2Go YES!

@ImaPotatoCat 3 года назад

Psych2Go Definitely!!

@bigdicenergy7978 3 года назад

@@Psych2go he's the best one

@munmeo7782 3 года назад

This looks like Madhattey's artstyle! Idk if it's them, but sure looks like it!

@bipbeedippy3954 3 года назад

Sending this to myself, I think I could really use it.

@nelmae6026 3 года назад

Same 😔 Btw, I hope we can all get thru our hard times. It's not early to give up yet when we're in a situation that we feel we need help

@movedaccountscyayalls7119 3 года назад

Are okay?

@jaxonwhite1156 3 года назад

Thank you for not saying "Just Smile" or "You need to just be positive". My family does this a lot when I'm upset about something and it feels so dismissive. I kinda wish they'd just say "I don't know how to help" or flat-out "I don't care"

@Freespiritedqueen 3 года назад

Right! Very damaging.

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

Whenever I tell people my problems, they do that to me but I don't. So they all came running asking for a ear, so I chop a part of me off & give every last piece of me until I cry it all back.

@sainiveditha0613 3 года назад

It's like staying positive is not possible but they don't get that.... But when it I'd their problems, they just convert it all to anger spent out on us more often than not..... Shit is complicated, but I hope u know that u aren't alone...I have got u!

@sleepyparrot8308 3 года назад

My parents told me that about 2 years ago. Still didnt forgive them and it still hurts

@amruthavalli1260 3 года назад

I do say be positive n take things in a positive way, everything's for our own good in some contexts.. I thought it's the only sensible thing i cud say 😐

@mystical415 3 года назад

As someone who wears glasses and a jacket, that's me physically and emotionally before lol

@cheeseycheezy 3 года назад

You have my attention :)

@r21367 3 года назад

Bro that's also literally me.

@nelmae6026 3 года назад

The bots are multiplying ughhh 🙄

@Turkeyinbox 3 года назад

Its me too 🥳

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

REPORT THE BOTS I GIVE UP (FLIPS HOUSE) I think I did it!

@esha457 3 года назад

Whenever I'm sad Or depressed hugs always help... My friend just hugs me and I break off and cry it out until I feel light and then we end up laughing and teasing each other... Crying with someone who really cares for you and is there for you always helps... Literally I've experienced it... And thanks to psycho2go you really are a lot of help... ❤

@aceo_o2295 3 года назад

I'm a big hugger I love to give them but the ultimate joy of receiving a big warm hug from the people you care about just does it for me and I end up crying from joy.

@firestar023 Год назад

It has been so long since somebody helped me, that i have forgotten what it felt like to be in a warm, truely friendly hug.

@averycharlotteandannasfunw954 Год назад

@@firestar023 same I literally remember one day when everyone was giving me hugs and I broke into tears I don’t remember any other time my friends gave me hugs, your not alone

@firestar023 Год назад

@@averycharlotteandannasfunw954 yeah. I watched as my cousin broke down in my mother’s arms because she said that she loved him. A 17 year old boy broke down… by the words ‘I live you’

@leati6533 11 месяцев назад

You are actually lucky to have a friend like yours

@leonardoaranas5343 3 года назад

When comforting other people who are in pain: Other people: (This video) Me: Do YoU wAnT wAtEr?

@PlanetPsych 3 года назад

Lol!!! Yes, I'll have some water please

@itzmiraanueser3668 3 года назад

Same :D

@leonardoaranas5343 3 года назад

I can give it to you if you want. :))

@amandasligar9269 3 года назад

Your mouth gets dry when you're crying and upset so water is a good idea! LOL

@itzmiraanueser3668 3 года назад

@@leonardoaranas5343 Yes I need some :'

@urmomsman7 3 года назад

there are so many bots- okay 1 thing i want to say. a lot of the people i know dont know how to help when im in pain so they ask: "whats wrong are you okay?" and i say "i dont want to talk about it right now" and they say: "You have to talk about it. it will make you feel better" it puts me in an uncomfortable position and i dont interact with people well so i just leave, if its outside i will just run home, if its at her house i will tell my mom i have to go, and if its at my house i will run into bathroom and just sit in the bathroom for hours. sometimes i just want to be alone when im in pain, and pushing me to talk about it wont help. like it said in the video, its better to just ask if they want to talk about it

@latiie 3 года назад

I see! I do this whenever i want to help other people. I get pushy and i forget to acknowledge what I'm doing. Thank you for sharing this because it'll help me be more careful!! Hope you have a great day!!🤍🥺

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

I feel ur pain. Also, the only thing those bots ever succeed, is sneezing on thier key boards a way too many times.

@kylerericksen5242 3 года назад

Mood, but honestly same. Also why do the bots gotta be on this vid about helping people?

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

@@kylerericksen5242 Haha lol yeah.... it's annoying as hell

@thelegitpotato1248 3 года назад

Every time someone cries on my shoulder I have no idea what to say, I always am terrified that I will just make it worse and they will be even more sad and it will be my fault. My little sister has a ton of trouble with her emotions and I feel like it’s my fault... thank you for this video now I know what to say ❤️

@quaintrelle_2333 3 года назад

I feel bad for the people who say supportive things and listen to others who are in pain...but nobody does the same thing for them. To them, I want to say- I am there for you! Even though we don’t know each other, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be there for you, right? Trust me, you’ll be fine.

@221BSam 3 года назад

That’s me...

@Edify_essences Год назад

#empathgang

@tamarwieliniski 9 месяцев назад

That’s like me

@PotatoesAreCool__ 7 месяцев назад

Aren't you doing just the same right now, though?

@oliviakam4198 3 года назад

Personally, I detest it when others say, "I know how you feel." No you don't. No one will ever know the exact pain, suffering, and experiences that cause me so much anguish and torment. Just let me know that you're here for me and that you care. Don't try to understand me because that's impossible.

@squidgal8835 Год назад

There will be people in this world that will understand exactly what you’re going through and people that don’t. You don’t know these people that understand you yet, so even if people in your life don’t understand you, some people can.

@DeanTheDoctor Год назад

Very good views everyone. 😌🌎✨

@nicahazel 3 года назад

Your voice quiet heals me!😊 it's so calming💖

@Psych2go 3 года назад

Thank you so much

@liquite8400 3 года назад

My eyes are getting teary imagining if I ever had a friend, even at least for a single day that'd care and would just do whatever this video is about. It is sad when you try your best to always cheer others and when you see others happy because of you you feel special and happy for some reason but noticing the fact none does the same to you or even tries just upsets you more.

@cherylp.3347 3 года назад

Liquit e so true! You help them and put yourself out there but when you’re in need they are nowhere to be found. Or you confide in them and they use your story to gossip about you behind your back, or they know someone has hurt you terribly and the next minute you see them praising that person openly. I’ve had that happen and they disgust me. And I close up again.

@soup5084 3 года назад

Same with me. I help people with their emotional and physical problems and then they just go off abd ditch me. I just have to help though it makes me feel useless and guilty when I see someone whose suffering and not to help them. But no one ever asks me propperally how I'm feeling and they never give me a chance to tell them my problems. I wish I had real friends rather than just 2 that don't know what to really do anyway and it always seems that I could make the best friends in other commenters even though I've never met them. They just seem so caring and nice compared to basically everyone else

@randomalienidk5693 3 года назад

Yes, same. Some weeks ago I was really sad and I felt so lonely and misunderstood and when I tried to talk to my friend they just said: sorry, I ain't no therapist, and then completely changed the subject, so suddenly I realised now I was the one comforting them about a party that was soooo boring, while thinking: well, at least you have a life to talk about, while I'm just existing and living my life exactly the opposite of the way I want to, and I have no idea what's going on with me. So yeah, they just made me feel much worse.

@ankita6599 2 года назад

❤️

@jouska9594 3 года назад

1. You have my attention. 2. What's your biggest concern right now? 3. I'm here to listen. 4. What do you need right now? 5. Do you want to talk about it? 6. I want to understand this more so i can help.

@violentmegyn9708 3 года назад

I was scared of the notification because this was good timing for the situation I'm in right now

@midnightsarrow160 3 года назад

omfg same tho!

@mainacc7624 3 года назад

Litterally same I was crying at that exact moment cuz I just had a mental breakdown and BAM notification FBI? You watching?

@maleman4079 3 года назад

Violent Ocean Eyes same man, my dad made fucking jokes about my pain when we were in the car and i was having a terrible stomach ache. he can never take me seriously, always has a positive mindset and doesn’t seem to understand that people can be negative, especially kids. just because i'm young doesn't mean i don't have feelings.

@treznopresto4878 3 года назад

When RU-vid algorithim knows you better than yourself:

@jidellemal3880 3 года назад

Omg same

@Vivizqq Год назад

POV: your the therapist friend but you don’t know how to be one

@Heyhye130 2 месяца назад

Real

@RivenGame Месяц назад

@machimaru 3 года назад

I know this is probably emotional pain, but my mind immediately went to: “Ahh! I just got stabbed! Someone help!” “That’s rough, buddy, need to talk about it?”

@alyssahahn7350 3 года назад

i understood that reference

@skzrm4yo 3 года назад

AJAJAJAJAJAJAJAJAAJAJAJAJAJ Sorry for laughing to me it’s funny

@gnarthdarkanen7464 3 года назад

Somehow, you reminded me of a TV show I was sort of listening to while making my world class chili the other day (SO I can't even tell you what show it was)... Dude was being worked on by paramedics (you could catch a word or two of medical "tech talk" in the background)... AND his apparent partner asks him, "Does it hurt, man?" Dude retorts, "I've been friggin' SHOT! Have you ever been shot?! YES, god damnit! It friggin' hurts!" ...SO that was where my head went with this. "SO... um... you wanna talk about it?" ;o)

@pygmalion0451 3 года назад

"You just want attention." "Yeah, *medical* attention!"

@jocelyn_andrea 3 года назад

Zuuuuukkkoooo my boooiiiii

@maskedshadow5365 3 года назад

I just want to comment, this person's artstyle is amazing!

@sherifflasso 3 года назад

isn’t it? they’re called Madhattey in case you didn’t know, you should check out her comics!

@Psych2go 3 года назад

thank you so much for your feedback!! Is this your favorite one so far? :)

@sherifflasso 3 года назад

@@Psych2go It is for me!

@MAIONNAISE 3 года назад

1 you have my attention 2 what’s your biggest concern right now? 3 I’m here to listen 4 what do you need right now? 5 do you wanna talk about it? 6 I want to understand this more so I can help 🤍

@turtle7561 3 года назад

These bots suck

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

I feel sorry for u, u have to deal with these idots in the comments (apart from me).

@Renikee 3 года назад

The worst thing is reporting them won't remove them instantly.

@turtle7561 3 года назад

Renikee ikr

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

@@Renikee D:

@misunderstood__7563 3 года назад

Can relate the most by far.

@Psych2go 3 года назад

We're glad that you can relate to this video :) Has anyone ever said any of these things to you?

@misunderstood__7563 3 года назад

@@Psych2go No, no one ever did, rather I do, to anyone who talks to me.

@luvrgirlzoe 3 года назад

this animation style is so cute omg. AAAAAHHHH I LOVE IT!!!!!

@aubs0.095 3 года назад

Unrelated but momento mori

@asillygoof3358 3 года назад

Perfect Timing!

@Psych2go 3 года назад

Did you find this video helpful?

@asillygoof3358 3 года назад

Yes!

@seraphwithatank6535 2 года назад

I need to watch this over and over again; I sick of feeling like I'm not doing a good job. I'm a social person, I know I can do better.

@satrickptar6265 3 года назад

Me: Hangin' there buddy also Me: Jeez, thanks :,)

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

@Valentina Yela I FEEL UR PAIN 🤧🤧🤧 If you need someone to talk to I'm here

@tobyzecatcreamzecat8448 3 года назад

I do that too but with my pets, Or a plant.

@itzmiraanueser3668 3 года назад

Same :'V

@ArianaReflects 3 года назад

My best friend is currently in pain - this was so helpful to me❤️

@trexion3443 3 года назад

@brittany5872 3 года назад

💛

@egyptnz27 3 года назад

Why what's wrong

@CoM_tE 3 года назад

Hope your friend gets better soon

@monete9 3 года назад

31 dolls ok

@biblicallyaccuratecockroach 3 года назад

The listening part. It's so important. You don't have to do anything, just listen, and let me know you're paying attention. Many a downward spiral of dark thoughts has been broken by venting to my friend, even through the internet. She helps dissipate the storm just enough for me to see the light again, even if the clouds are still there, I can think clearly again. Just thinking about it is making me cry a bit, she's an angel for putting up with my bs 😂 I love her so much (platonically)

@hoshimidragneel 3 года назад

I feel like some of the best things to say to my friends and myself is: 1) do you want advice or do you want me to listen? 2) if you don't want to talk right now; just know I will wait until you do. Which is covered in this video just as a different variation of it.

@LearninNrelaxin 2 года назад

Do I ask the exact same question as the first one or subtly ask her that?

@Chocoalmond10 6 месяцев назад

I think that it's better to make an environment safe enough for them to talk to and let them know that you aren't going to judge them for feeling that way. Also don't just make bland comments like "I'm there for you" or "you're overthinking it" instead say "We will get out of this together" "think of me as your comfort person" or "you're more important to me" And most importantly when someone is sad, listen to them and distract them but when someone is depressed, listen to them, chat with them and help them get back on track. Actions speak louder than words 😊❤😊

@rayrattyrat 3 года назад

When i don't know how to comfort people Me:*stares* don't cry Plus this is why i watch this video

@metra8604 3 года назад

I say 'Hey, it's okay' which according to comments is probably one of the worst possible ways to help them :')

@OrangeDragon04 3 года назад

@@metra8604 Sure is. It makes the other person feel even worse. In my case, it makes me even angry at times. I just like being alone in my negative bubble.

@metra8604 3 года назад

@@OrangeDragon04 i know exactly how it feels to be really negative, it's just i never know what to say. That is, if i do say anything. I usually just sit next to them.

@rayrattyrat 3 года назад

@@metra8604 i just don't know how to comfort people¯\_(ツ)_/¯

@rayrattyrat 3 года назад

It is what it is

@avrxse 3 года назад

This video is honestly so helpful, I'll use these statements for those in pain. Stay safe everyone and be kind. ❤

@DeanTheDoctor Год назад

Thank you Vi. 😌🌎✨

@raniyahkhan 3 года назад

I find it difficult to comfort people when they are sad. This video really helped a lot. Now I can be more supportive. Thanks! 😊

@Noname-jd1vp 2 года назад

I remember my friend who's a medical psychologist saying almost all of these to me. And I'm happy that he can be of a great friend of mine! 🙂 I want to learn more of these because I think I'm inspired by him since he told me some ways in psychology, like an overview about graphology, and how they diagnose someone with mental health problems, and others. Thank you for this Ma'am! 🙂 You psychologists are all amazing! 🙂

@Cocoah 3 года назад

When you are there for everyone but no one is there for you

@ririttyy4864 3 года назад

Don’t lie. We all know this yt channel helped us mentally and physically!

@ririttyy4864 3 года назад

kodiak hey! You gotta chill! : D

@naavya4025 3 года назад

True

@carriepybus8929 3 года назад

Holding space for people when they are present, and letting them know that you are can be such a first step towards healing and figuring things out.

@brightnesshaetbeet9400 3 года назад

This is very helpful. Using these terms can teach us to use words that are safe to use to people with pain. People tend to accidentally use toxic positivity, which can hurt the person in pain.

@amilkshake3843 3 года назад

Awh, I love the animation style😇✌️💕

@milesbanks3078 3 года назад

Me too

@hexandhexagons 3 года назад

@@milesbanks3078 me too mate

@avrxse 3 года назад

Ahhh ikr Psych2Go's animations are BEAUTIFUL

@Ghillied_Gator 3 года назад

wait... this video was uploaded 1 minute ago, how did you pull this comment 1 month ago!?

@amilkshake3843 3 года назад

Heinrich Edric Damadika Suselo It was unlisted ;) You can find unlisted videos in Psych2Go’s playlists!

@ceciliacisneros8426 3 года назад

bruh is this asmr i got my volume on BLAST anyway...great video keep it up!

@scorpiiiondude3327 3 года назад

Huh? It's just quiet.

@leilaschwartz4104 2 года назад

A family member got diagnosed with cancer and my moms taking it hard. Feelings make me uncomfortable but I wanna help. I hope everyone who watched this is ok and so is the person they're trying to comfort ♡

@swegmyg-8189 3 года назад

I never know how it is to have a true caring friend.. Everyone has best friends and they just come to me if their best friends are absent or not there at that moment... I feel very sad after watching this video knowing that no one has ever said me one of these..

@princessarchangelruler1841 3 года назад

Poor glasses guy :( I hope he gets better!

@gorgeous.akosua 3 года назад

I wished everyone would be as kind as you are.

@cherilynsarts8845 3 года назад

@@gorgeous.akosua .

@thisisepic3052 3 года назад

Akosua GorJess Be the change you want to see in the world!

@tyvischeung9020 3 года назад

@@thisisepic3052 Yeah!!

@nicoleonfeels 3 года назад

I resonated so much with this! It’s so easy to want to fix things when loved ones are in pain, but sometimes, that’s not what’s needed. Ask questions, be open + supportive... all about this ☺️

@dawnanddove8338 2 года назад

Thank you - someone I like to watch made a vent post and I was the first person to react in comments (aside from the RU-vidr) - I don’t usually comfort people because I’m usually the person being comforted so this helped alot

@brianjudkins8812 3 года назад

Sometimes I just need to have someone listen and let me vent, and I usually thank them. Sometimes it is hard to think of what I need because communication isn't my strong suit. Thanks for the great video!

@theimmortalpotato5379 3 года назад

Me: *has a whole conversation with myself after watching this video* 😢

@sqelletxn3741 3 года назад

Me, packed full of emotional pain and unresolved trauma: *clicks out of curiosity* Me after watching the video: *in tears* this is accurate

@EctoBabble 3 года назад

i wish i had someone like this during a hard time. just anyone really. even just knowing someone is there for you can give you the strength to want to get better...

@Ok-cn9sx 2 года назад

Thanks! All my online friends vent to me every now and then so thanks for teaching me better ways!!

@Someone-gf1zw Год назад

My mum told me the opposite of everything mentioned in the video and yes, it does not feel great. 🙂 A great video, as always! ❤😊

@xxa2792 3 года назад

I finally have a reason to talk to myself.

@hyunwoopark131 3 года назад

This is brilliant :)

@user-id7tu5tp9e 3 года назад

Thank you for these videos. They really help me- mentally and emotionally. Thank you!

@darthpi1337 3 года назад

I went through a really bad period in my life about 10 years ago, and I didn't have the support structure around me that I needed in order to avoid prolonged depression as a result. Watching these videos now so I can be there for one of my newer friends who is himself going through a really rough time, so that he doesn't feel as alone and helpless as I did then.

@M1kaella 2 года назад

am i the only one who feels worst when they try to comfort me-

@hannahbanana7183 3 года назад

I’m the one in pain, yet my friends are the ones that say I should just be more happy.

@sleeppyy3221 3 года назад

Aw, im sorry. Youre feelings are valid, ok?

@crystalcarls489 11 месяцев назад

My girlfriend was in pain but when I went to her and hugged her, I sang to her “it’s not fair to be alone, after what you’ve been through and I’ll always ease your pain, I’ll always stay with you! I’ll continue to reach out, I’ll never abandon you, determination fuels me, I’ll always be with you” and her eyes lightened up and she started crying because those exact words reminded her of her big brother before he passed away and when she felt better, she said “thank you for being with me, Carlos. That meant a lot to me and if your suffering the same thing as me, I’ll always be with you too no matter what happens”

@ladennayoung2939 3 года назад

Thanks for the video. I needed this.

@shivamnow 3 года назад

Rather than saying anything, just be there to listen and it will make all the difference.

@varianzero7469 3 года назад

Well, sometimes it’s better if someone reaches out to the hurt person because sometimes they want everyone to think everything is fine and okay. But if the person is known for expressing their emotions, then you can listen for their call. But yeah, make sure that you are always ready to listen to a friend

@shivamnow 3 года назад

@@varianzero7469 yes. True that

@cowdy_ 3 года назад

I love Murielle's artstyle, I hope that I can see more of these videos

@kaija2205 3 года назад

Covid has been really hard on my bestie, and she can't even do what would help her feel better due to an injury, so I've been in situations were I didn't have a clue on what to say sooo.. yeah, this video is EXTREMELY helpful. Thanks for doing what y'all do!💖

@joshuamilburn5228 3 года назад

This helps so much. I used to never know what to say when someone was hurt like this and went through tough times because of that. Thank you so much!

@scorpiiiondude3327 3 года назад

1: 1:02 2: 1:25 3: 1:58 4: 2:34 5: 3:08 6: 3:38

@dontdenyme 3 года назад

@thatonedoge6394 3 года назад

Three weeks ago?

@dontdenyme 3 года назад

ThatOneDoge they have membership

@joyfullighthouse 3 года назад

Every parents wants the best for their childrens but sometimes what they think are building their childrens are actually crushing them, or unconciously vent out their anger/stress at their childrens, every parents love their children so much and they want the best for them, but sometimes their method is wrong, and you want to know one best way to heal every kind of trauma? You just need this one person in your life....... God...

@axterija 3 года назад

i mean yeah it works for some people and i respect that. the fact that they find comfort in god. but for me personally, i am an atheist so when my mom says me this it jjst makes me uncomfortable unfortunately. i don't mean to be disrespectful to anyone, i respect everyone's decisions, it's just not the right thing for me

@joyfullighthouse 3 года назад

@@axterija Hey hey, I completely understand my friend, Im not trying to force anyone, but I just want to tell everyone about the Good News that we all could be saved if we accept Him as our Lord and Savior, I 100% understand your thinking and remember, Im not talking about religion, religion hurts peoples, God doesnt, I love you friend! God loves u too

@joyfullighthouse 3 года назад

@@axterija and also!! Im sorry that your mom makes you uncomfortable, but please know that it comes from a heart that truly cares and loves you

@axterija 3 года назад

@@joyfullighthouse yeah i know but she kind of forces me to believe in something even when i clearly don't want to. and when i say i believe in nature and its power, she says it's not valid

@Forgot_My_Name 3 года назад

I just LOVE this art/animation style!

@Asakedia 3 года назад

This came at the right timing. Thank you very much.

@chookitty5219 3 года назад

I don't have anyone to say those to me but Psych2Go

@damienmanu117 3 года назад

And I try so hard to understand people when they need understanding, yet when I need it, they go, it's been this way for all my time, I trust people only to get abandoned after promises they will always try be here for me even when I'm literally always there for them, I hope they wouldn't do this to me, yet it always seems to end up this way, I admit it, I'm actually alone, I always shine bright, though at times inside I feel it, it's such confusion and sadness, my most important people in my heart gives up on me until I'm stranded 😓😭🌟✨

@EmoJesus71608 3 года назад

I’m here for you fren🥺

@Freespiritedqueen 3 года назад

@@damienmanu117 never trust them again with your most precious gift......YOUR UNDERSTANDING HEART❤️. It is valuable, from now on...they will have to pay you to listen to their crap! Okay?? Been there, NEVER AGAIN! Your time is valuable!!

@damienmanu117 3 года назад

@@Freespiritedqueen oh its sooo hard when they seem to have had the same as me, yet they throw me in to the same spot, I feel you, it's so hard, I care so much, I know time will tell, I just pray they see everything and see me, especially the one that seemed to be the only one that understood 😓, thank you, it's true, it's just so hard, may you indeed shine bright, then I too can shine brighter 🌟✨🌠

@sabrinacollard8077 3 года назад

Same

@bamskie533 3 года назад

LOW VOLUME, I CAN BARELY HEAR IT, BUT I STLL LOVE IT❤

@AUBREY-ml4ex 3 года назад

Okay but can we talk about how awesome the animation is? Like, it's adorable.

@sweetreat111 3 года назад

tysm for the video.. and i also love this art style a lot !!

@NenaLavonne 3 года назад

Sending love to everyone suffering out there ♥️ You are not alone.

@BobBob-yi3wm 3 года назад

Nena Lavonne Thank you sending love back ❤️

@NenaLavonne 3 года назад

Darkness Lover ♥️

@scorpiiiondude3327 3 года назад

Nice new video. This will help me.

@beashemmad.sayson545 3 года назад

My sarcasm went too far, and I might’ve hurt a classmate amd I really needed this. This channel really does give me what I need when I need it :)

@michelleyu1848 3 года назад

Thank u. You guys uploaded this video just on time. One of my friend is suffering from eating disorder and is having many suicidal thoughts yet she wouldn't talk about it. Thank you😘

@hippiegirlhippiegirl9199 3 года назад

I'm a type of person who is a personal therapist to everyone but I don't have one when I need one 🙂

@dailydoseofmedicinee 3 года назад

Symptoms of emotional pain can include feelings of:👍 Deep sorrow, sadness, or depression. Grief. Intense distress. Loneliness and isolation. Negative emotions. Panic. Rage. Shame.

@ASurlySpectre 3 года назад

I really love the the way this animator draws the characters!

@allthefandoms92 3 года назад

Something I've learned as well is telling them that their feelings are valid. A lot of times we can feel dramatic, or like we are overreacting.

@FellowAlien. Год назад

I’ve noticed a lot of my friends have been stressed lately and are having breakdowns, it depends on the person I’m with and how I help them/listen to them, now recently one of my friends had a breakdown about something I’d rather not talk about and she was crying. I didn’t know how to help her cause I’ve never been in a situation like this with her before, I tired my best on how to comfort her like I do my other friends but I felt like I didn’t do anything to help or make her feel a bit better. I asked a bit of questions to get an understanding and asked if she need water or a hug, I rubbed her back cause ik most ppl like that, I asked people to leave us alone whenever someone came to figure out she was upset but I feel that I didn’t help cause it felt rlly awkward, I tried to make her laugh a bit to lighten the mood but I feel that I talked a bit more than I should have. Anyone have anything that could help me please?

@pluimsi 3 года назад

im literally in a convo abt this rn and i honestly have no idea how to handle it which is why i subscribed, i've had abt 4 ppl open up to me and honestly im rlly overwhelmed abt all this new information but i've been patient with every one of them and i've been trying not to jump in to help and to just listen, idk if im doing it right but at least they trust me with their problems, although i have no idea how i seem trustworthy i appreciate it tho

@shaiapouf2336 3 года назад

If they are openin up take it as a good sign, ik it may seem like ur not doing much by jus listening but trust me when I say, people love it when your actively listening and when they feel understood.

@gnarthdarkanen7464 3 года назад

For whatever it's worth, I think it's simply the fact that you're the one person each of them have found who actually LISTENS at all... Too many people only scan a conversation for the chance to say something "smart" or give a glib retort. OR they're too interested in "fixing" something that they don't recognize there are some things you just can't "fix"... You can only prevent it from happening again, if you can even do that. ;o)

@ENFPSIS 3 года назад

Thank you for this! My friend had been abused and had trauma and I didn't know how to help him...but now I can at least try and help him and try to comfort him.

@someones5838 3 года назад

Literally perfect timing tysm

@varianzero7469 3 года назад

Time to send this to people. Sometimes, (more like most of the time) I’m the hurt friend. I’m going to send this to my friend. But, how can I say these things to myself without sounding like a crazy person?

@flamevix 3 года назад

Oh. I thought this would be more phrases other than like "I'm sorry about that." Or "That's too bad." I never feel I sound genuine when I respond to someone telling me their troubles.

@emilyunicorn2682 3 года назад

I love the sweet hug at the end, so heart warming!!

@emilyunicorn2682 3 года назад

you did wonderful with this video, it was so helpful!!

@sugarlover162 3 года назад

I needed this because my friend struggles with anxiety and she’s sometimes scared to live and I really want to make them feel better

@NiuuNiNi 3 года назад

Okay but let’s appreciate that the “i have an idea” lead to gaming and screaming at the computer-

@Sad_Baguette420 3 года назад

3:01 My parents: *I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that*

@LynxDoesntSimp 3 года назад

This is going to help so much thank you! :D

@SJHredkingdom 3 года назад

I'm glad to know I got majority of them right, and it's nice to know of the extra ones as well. I'm no therapist or psychologist, but I do love helping/ listening to people. Thanks for the video.

@samgrossman5752 3 года назад

This was posted right when I got home. Anything is possible through love. This was the day after we had gone out to get birth control together too. There is no other story like this. Thank you very much.

@CryptoPuppt 3 года назад

This helps because my friend is currently in pain, thank you

@Lonewolf-ow3us 3 года назад

I love the art style so much! Keep it up!

@Oopy_Doopy42069 2 года назад

I always use these, but after watching this video I realize why I don't like to talk about my feelings. No one says or does these things when I need them because they don't understand. I know the importance of using these very simple things to help someone because I wish I could be treated like this. I am like my own therapist until I find someone-ANYone who can help. I've become quite good at therapy now, so maybe I could make a living at it. Another tip I have isn't something you SHOULD say, it's something you SHOULDN'T. One thing to never say to someone in pain is "it's fine" or "it's going to be fine" or "someone is going through worse." It feels like being stabbed in the heart to hear that when you're down. I hope this helps. Have a great day

@onlyprabhat 3 года назад

*Here's a summary:* *1. You have my attention.* *2. What's your biggest concern right now?* *3. I'm here to listen.* *4. What do you need right now?* *5. Do you want to talk about it?* *6. I want to understand this more so I can help.* *That's it hope you have a nice day* 😊