I swear this channel always comes a way to call me ugly and undesirable in scientific and psychological way backed by research and observation through a mono tone voice 😭💀
This is why advertisements and literally everything else has attractive people. It has such an unconscious effect on us. As someone who went from being overweight to normal weight, the look I got from women changed by a lot. They went from being dismissive and cold to open and eager to talk. Whether people want to talk about it not looks has a profound impact on the credibility of a person.
@@abigailcosta1716 I knew women who were friends or interested in me before, but it took me 10x the effort to get the same affect. I walk up now they are smiling and staring into my eyes almost immediately. The first couple times it happened I thought it was just a coincidence. It's been happening for years at this point now, and now I can't reasonably explain it away.
Eh thats a bit too simple. I rebel against society and I get fawned over non-stop and always have. I don't want to live in a society that puts beautiful people on any higher pedestel then necessary. The inside of a person is what counts, I just got lucky genetics wise.
I tried to join a business fraternity in college and I noticed every single one of the actives was very attractive. I didn’t make it far in the recruitment process (I’ve got below average looks), but when I saw the new pledges after rushing was over, I wasn’t shocked to see they were all extremely attractive too. Attractiveness gives you SUCH and advantage in life.
As someone who grew up unattractive and then had a glow up in my early twenties, I hate everything about this. I don’t view any of the attention I get as genuine because of the total ambivalence I experienced as an unattractive child. It just makes me hate people more.
It's interesting how beautiful people end up seeing the ugly side of humanity & I don't mean visually because they are more attractive. It's the ugliness of human nature that you see. Through the fawning, manipulation, mistreatment, jealousy, justification for cruelty or favoritism. Wild.
@@Retrosenescent100% yes. I'm very unattractive and it's obvious to me, especially when I'm with more attractive friends and I'm completely ignored at best or mistreated.
I had a teacher who would assume that beautiful people were inherently smarter. She even stated it out loud. Basically talked about the Halo effect so she was aware of it but still went ahead and discriminated against less attractive students. Going as far as accusing some students of cheating when they did their own homework.
Not sure if you know but since schools went online good looking boys and girls scores have dropped. The girl's have dropped much further than the boy's scores. The uggos grades stayed relatively the same.
As an ugly person, Ive noticed that pretty people can get away with almost anything, so this year I started to work out (weights & cardio) everyday, also I make healthy food choices, and finally I adopted a beauty regime and getting my teeth fixed as I really do need it. And all this in order to get all those benefits the beautiful people have. Wish me luck. 😂
I went from fat and ugly to maximizing my looks in my 20s back to fat and ugly again now in my 30s. During my school time I was bullied, never had a girlfriend and got avoided by people. It took a long time until I observed and realized that it didn't happen because of my personality but just because the people don't want to deal with ugly people in their daily lifes and therefore choose to not see them at the same level and therefore disrespect them. In my job I had to work harder and better than all the other workers and still got maligned as incompetent and just to bad for this job. In my mid 20s I became super fit and thin, muscular, wore expensive clothing, drove a nice car and had a well paid job. Suddenly people treated me completelly different even though my natural look still wasn't quite attractive but at least I gave the impression of a hardworking, disciplined and well-groomed guy. Even people who avoided me before were impressed by me and complimented me for becoming such a great personality, professional in work and nice to be around. In my early 30s my discipline however dimished and so I got fat and unattractive again. So I'm basically back to being treated as a 2nd class human.
I try to improve my looks as much as possible so people won't pay attention to issues with social skills. I'm autistic, and socializing can be difficult for me.
When I was a teenage girl I didn’t know how to take care of myself or embrace my beauty. I can see deference in how people treat me now, when I look better. People stare at me, complement me etc. Guys are more likely to act as gentlemen, for example by opening the door for me, and letting me go first. But you know there is another side to it. I feel like I’m treated like an object sometimes and many comments I get from men are really gross. When I’m with my parents or friends I’m really tensed because they notice all of this attention that I get from strangers. Also some girls are really envious of me. People often think I’m conceited so they mistreat me. They think I’m full of myself because I’m shy and can’t look straight in the eyes. I also have this pressure to always look good and I’m scared that people will notice some of my imperfections and change their mind about me.
I experienced the same thing I was ugly in middle school but I glowed up in high school and the treatment I got from teacher, girls and male students was completely different from when I was ugly.
Maybe I'm wrong, but are you using a lot of makeup? False eyelashes, contouring and stuff? In my experience when women use a lot of makeup, even if it looks good, many other women will judge them for being superficial about looks. That isn't jealousy. In this case, less makeup will actually make them more friendly haha. Some guys also assume that when a woman is using a lot of makeup and dressing up, that means they want that attention (not true, I know) and hence the objectification. In my early 20s I used to be concerned a lot about what people thought of my looks, but now that im nearing 30 I realized that people who truly love you as a friend, family or spouse will love you the same even when you are old and wrinkly. If someone changes their mind about you if they notice your imperfections, then they are losers anyway so cut them off. Would you think of people differently because you noticed an "imperfection"? 😂 We all have stretch marks and scars and random hairs we dont like and its normal.
@@angelas5099 Right, All people have imperfections even the extremely good-looking people have very very minor imperfections. Science even said that no humans have 100% perfect facial symmetry.
This is what always happens to me. I am an attractive 19-year-old boy, I am 1.90 meters tall and have a body between athletic and slender. I had never been aware of my beauty, maybe because I am black/mulatto and I didn't value flattery, I thought they were lying to make me feel better... I now understood why girls approached me in groups, I always felt more comfortable with women because they have always been nicer to me ... I am homosexual and I attributed that to a kind of female complicity. I have had bad experiences and I am shy, it could be said that something asocial. People strongly criticize me calling me "conceited" "haughty" and I never do anything, I'm just in a corner doing my things... Even by not being interested in someone, you can make an enemy... There are guys who don't tolerate that I am taller being so feminine (machismo). The list does not end... Being beautiful is easy if you know how to manage, lead and defend yourself... An insecure and beautiful person will simply be pathetic and will be eaten by the envious and hateful. My mom has experienced a lot of the penalty for being cute. Normally it only shows up in white contexts but it happens in black ones too, everywhere.
It’s so weird to be a person of average attractiveness with polarizing looks. Like I’ve experienced some pretty privilege but not all, it only seems to happen half the time, mostly when I put effort into my appearance 🙃
I was bullied for being ugly when I was younger. Several years later I started caring about my appearance and also had a glow up thanks to a very late puberty. Insane the difference from being bullied for looking like Edna from the incredibles to being simped for because I somewhat resembled Viper from Valorant
Me too! I always say I had a second puberty when I was 22. People used to tell me I was ugly unprovoked. That fucks with your confidence so bad, especially when you're a teen or kid.
I thought I looked awful as a young person and especially as a teenager. My parents and other family suggested at times quite openly that I was not a looker and rarely wanted to help me look any better or buy me some more attractive clothes, improve my hairdo, teeth, etc. So, I grew up really insecure, which I still am internally, although the way people view me now changed radically to better in my early and mid twenties once I was able to afford “right” clothes and pay for hairdresser and dental issues. It was a big surprise to me that suddenly really great looking and desirable types of people were so into me, thinking I was really “something.”. And, in fact it didn’t take much money or time to make me attractive from once being totally unattractive, but it seems that all my pre teen and teen years passed in so much unnecessary anguish. Lots of look insecurity comes from parents’ behavior. Mine certainly thought they deserved a better looking child.
Thats usually rooted in jealousy and envy disguised as seeing someone as incompentent thus confirming beauty is desirable in every aspect of human relations
Ok but hear me out, for a woman, it is more beneficial to be just a bit above average/cute rather than insanely stunning. If you're just pretty, you get treated decently by both men and women, your looks are nice enough to almost become less of a factor when it comes to how you are treated. However, if you're on either side of the bell curve, your looks become your defining feature and people find it hard to see past that. Sure, being a 10/10 will help you if you want to be a model or celebrity, but it will also create jealousy, resentment, the assumption that you have it easy and make people more intimidated by you. By contrast, if youre a 2/10, your looks will be your defining feature too and you get all the drawbacks of being unattractive. Being a solid 6-8 is the sweet spot.
This! I am generally considered to be very attractive, which results in exactly that. People are either really kind or really cruel, there's hardly any in-between.
Generally it's better to be average or a bit above average in everything because then you can blend in with the crowd and be accepted by the vast majority of the population. Whereas if you have an attribute that's way out of the ordinary (attractiveness, height, intelligence etc) people oftentimes treat you like an alien. Take intelligent people for example, many people think it's great to be very intelligent but many intelligent people struggle with depression and loneliness because nobody undestands them. Unique features oftentimes make you an outcast of society.
The most advantageous position to be in is slightly above average in attractiveness. Totally agree. You get treated well without backlash. When people are jealous of you, they will use what they've got to punish you or push you down. And there's nothing you can do about it except GET OUT of the situation when possible.
2500 years ago, Aristotle said good looks are the best letter of recommendation. Beauty privilege is not a modern trend, nor will it ever go away. Attractive persons should be grateful for their good luck and try not to abuse the advantage. Unattractive persons should work on their other qualities, and not begrudge their better-looking neighbors.
I am a medical doctor, when I was chubbier and looked unhealthy for other reasons (cortisol, stress, lack of sleep, hormonal problems) I was looking haggard. I did not know why , only after I had seen old photos of me I noticed I had a glow up and deduced why my own patients are more open and eager to answer my questions more sincerely!
All my 3 siblings are very attractive, except for me, and from my childhood I noticed the difference in treatment, although I’m the eldest and I was sociable and a good talker, but I noticed that I was always rejected, while my siblings were quiet and didn’t initiate conversations and had many friendships wherever they went, and then I began to realize that the problem is I’m less attractive
SAME MAN MY SISTERS ARE SO ATTRACTIVE YET I DIDNT GET THOSE GENES SMH. But, im a tomboy, and im the more muscular sporty one than my sisters who are very feminine, my younger sisters gt attention from a lot of boys while i didnt. BUT, i noticed the moment i put on muscle and improved my style from a geek to a sporty tomboy style people started complimenting my body and said i looked fit and strong so there was a small difference there and even asked if i go the gym but i dont and that surprises people. Dont beat yourself up for it, honestly, i know i cant change my face but i can improve my body and get stronger.
You're wrong. Attractive people (globally and classically beautiful) can date whoever they want easily. They can get THE job if they are fitting the role but sociability and friendship isn't based on that. At all.
Pretty privilege exists but its wild how the exchange rate varies depending on where in the world you are. I'm a minority, growing up in a place overwhelmingly caucasian. I was 'ugly' growing up because my looks were very different from the western mainstream preference. I moved to a large cosmopolitan city, thinking I'd be invisible but was shocked that many people gravitated towards my looks and that was because they were exposed to different appearances & could appreciate my looks. Take me again to my family country of origin and looks wise I am waaay above average and get so many passes in things. So I have experienced the pendulum swing on being on the st either end of the beauty privilege ladder. It is wild how much beauty ideals vary by location.
This is true the other way around too as white guys who have grown up invisible in white areas visit places like East Asia, Latin America, ME&NA, South Asia etc are get more attention than they ever had in their life just for being out of the ordinary
There’s a movie directed by Guiseppe Tornatore called “Malena”, clips of which you actually used in your video about Monica Bellucci. It’s interesting because that movie (and real accounts of peoples’ experiences this movie is inspired by) is an example of the opposite of pretty privilege. A person can be ostracised (unable to get a job, forced into starvation, their life threatened etc) for being very attractive and be put in danger if the cultural context is very conservative. There are instances where people are less respected because they are assumed to have been given success based on their looks (look at how interviewers and people talk to /about Megan Fox for example) and people seem to be very eager to dogpile on someone attractive who has committed a “norm violation” as it’s an opportunity for them to feel better about themselves and when it comes to women it’s also just an opportunity for people to be misogynistic (eg if Amber Heard wasn’t attractive as she is, would people dogpile on her as much as they did?). It’s a shame you didn’t touch on this ‘dark side’ of pretty privilege.
I wonder if this has to do with specific features. Monica Bellucci and Megan Fox are considered more "sexy" than cute. Those features are normally more attributed to low trust, even though still attractive. It would be interesting to compare to someone who looks more friendly and high trust
Excellent point. Much is expected of v good looking people and there is an odd relief or glee when they fail, get older, life slaps them around. Their plight gets little of the sympathy or compassion that is extended to average looking people. Same can be applied to the super-rich when personal catastrophe strikes.. they're rich or beautiful, so what (it evens up the score in life). Unbridled envy is the root of evil, not money.
I always struggled with friendships because of my looks. I also struggled as married because of jealousy. In job they were punish me with tons of work. You don't have any idea how many hate groups a beautiful person can attract for the wrong reasons. As time passed by I aged and gained some weight I saw some people accepted me for my personality. My life was a long lonely way. Finally after unfair rejections, unknown jealousy situations, unforgettable behaviors, I managed to accept myself to forgive the others and to move on.
I viewed life from a completely opposite perspective. I was very average-looking and somewhat overweight as a young person. 20 years later, I am still an average-looking and somewhat overweight person, and you know what... so is everyone else now! 😂 My beautiful friends in high school... we all rank about the same now. It's great. lol
Were you lonely because you were beautiful? Are you sure you were really lonely? You say you were struggling in your marriage and unfair attitude of your coworker? If you're married and have a long time job you surely aren't lonely. This is not what loneliness and isolation looks like. I hardly understand.
Hi could you potentially help me with this. I am 18 years old and went through terrible things in life that gave me low self esteem and such. But I’m realizing now that I get insane amounts of attention, jealousy, and intimidate people and after analyzing the facts of my features I think I might be (and I’m saying this without any joy or brag intent) like exceptionally naturally beautiful. Which is partly why I thought I was ugly for a while bc I realized people are intimidated to make eye contact with me or anything. I am extremely lonely. Is there any cure or literally do I just have to get “”ugly”” or be lonely for my life?
@@Maxfish_ get used to bad behaviours, every one is going to give you a bad time, every one will tell that every thing you will accomplish will depend of your looks. Be yourself and don't change. Try to be the best internally, be a good person, be calm and don't underestimate yourself (like I did). Don't change your look, many will try to make you change that. To be beautiful is a God's gift, don't change it, don't waste it, don't destroy it. After all time will take it little by little away. You are so young, enjoy it. You will be lonely in the crowds, you ' ll be treated like a trophy. Be smart and try to work with this like a tool. And please do not hesitate to insult everyone is going to insult you with this. Say it, if is needed : you are mean to me, what is your problem? Learn to not take personally their problems. Get ready for a life full of intriguing. Sometimes will be exciting, too. Remember that to be lonely it doesn't mean that you can't be happy. I find it very good that you take steps to develop self awareness in such a young age. I wish you the best and don't forget to stand up for yourself.
as you started talking about at the 8:00 minute mark: being good looking definitely impacts what behaviors are okay as well; i was socially awkward and quiet in high school and regarded as cute because of it. while some of my friends were seen as creepy despite sharing the same disposition, it was only when i started hiding my face that i saw the difference in how you're treated in full display.
@@IQscan51true women are far more harsh on looks because that's basically their value. Men are way less judgemental but still are to some extent, especially during puberty.
@@erodey3133 From my experience, guys are still courteous and respectful and will talk to you. A woman won't even speak to a person based on looks. And a woman will treat a person poorly based on their appearance. I never get that from men.
@@IQscan51 idk I know plenty of guys get bullied by other guys based off looks. Though it also has to do with how they behave. Timid and fat(for example) will be bullied, but fat and funny won't be. Your comments about women still holds truth though.
@@erodey3133 I think guys act like that in high school, but men mature and that behavior stops for the most part. Even women in their 40s & 50s behave this way, which is surprising to me
As Indian guy with below average looks and height, I ashamedly admit I love seeing pretty looking people in tvs and movies. Hell, I even love if good looking people are around me. I have nothing against people with pretty privilege just like I have nothing against me for being not that attractive. Peace.
I see a lot of “glow up” stories there, they are very interesting. I wanted to say something about kinda always being considered pretty. Because of being sexualized by men from young age I learned that being a sexual object is all I am for them, seeing how I’m treated better when looking good made me obsessed about my looks, cause for sure when I won’t be pretty no one will like me anymore. That totally ruined my view on relationships. 24 years old and never had a boyfriend, always running away from men, going to therapy for a year now and it is still hard for me to really erase this kind of thinking about men.
I had a gorgeous girlfriend who always assumed I only did anything nice for her because I wanted sex. I actually loved her a lot, like marry her and have lots of babies lot. But she could never see anything I did for her at face value. Her attitude corroded our relationship until I gave up and left. A decade later we are both still single. She reached menopause, so she can never have children. I had hopes and dreams. She never went to therapy. I hope things work out better for you.
This counts for men and women. My brother is a model and he's been sexualized, objectified and complimented throughout his life to the point compliments did not feel genuine. He basically was the centre of attention everywhere we went. His confidence grew massively from this and he knew how to put up a mask but he also told me he was very insecure. He did not do well in school, came in touch with the police and was very tempered. Despite all these things, girls still wanted his number purely because of the way he looked. They were willing to overlook every negative aspect. Gladly he's now making a comeback, goes to school, has a job and found a girl who's very confident herself, corrects him where needed, shares the same interests, asks him to provide and be kind and appreciative towards my mother. He no longer feels objectified or sexualized rather he's judged on the basis of his resilient character which he always had inside him. Even though you're right I think your view is heavily distorted. Men and women will treat you good if you look good which makes it hard to differentiate between genuine compliments and premeditated behaviour however not all men and women are like this. I know men who would treat anyone good when first meeting a person or working with them due too their ability to not make judgements at first sight and focus more on the abilities and character of a person. Most men will still treat other men and women the same due too the fact that most men are simply less harsher when it comes to beauty standards. Believe it or not, there are actually more than enough men out there who see your looks as an extra but fell in love with your character and with that which you can provide in their lives which doesn't always have to be sexual, your character can also fill up the hole in their lives. Sure we're creatures that reproduce and most guys I know want children but that is a part of a relationship which can only grow after bonding with eachother, sharing your interests and falling in love. Your experience may be bad but I can assure you that not all men think like that.
When consumers see beautiful models, they're more willing to buy the advertised product. It's a way to imagine themselves being a little step closer to the life they desire. That's why when body positivity activists coerce a brand into using high BMI models, their sales nearly always go down. The aspirational element is gone.
I have this when online shopping at H&M all the time. They use plus size models, which is annoying, because I’m not able to see the true shape of the clothing item. So I don’t buy it :/
True Fat Models dont even work for products aimed at fat people. Crazy! :D And they dont even take the fattest models. Just google fat people and fat models. The models are always shaped more curvy like a seal while the rl people look like hippos.
During my child-teenage years and got bullied quite badly because of my looks. Now that I’m in my 20’s, I’m just invisible instead of being constantly insulted. On the other hand I’ve been told I could model. Don’t know what to believe lmao
Of course it’s unfair that someone is given status for doing nothing but being born with good genetics any more than being born into wealth. Advertisers and social media have profited from this.$
@@amygalvin1799Yes but, it gives other people something to aspire too. Even if everyone was unattractive someone (an artist or imaginitive person) would conjur up a being that was attractive and characters and heroes in stories would then begin to look like this attractive person. Beauty is a part of nature and if we can all stand in awe and appreciation of the beauty of the universe (despite how uncaring the universe can be) we should do the same for people.
@centouri It’s funny bc it was an older woman who said I could model. She said she used to be a scouting agent too back in the day. I never hear compliments from men though (except creepy ones). You’re probably not as bad looking as you think
Pretty privilege is very real, even average women experience it when they learn to do their makeup well, like I did. Unfortunately, it comes with unwanted lewd attention and harassment. Super dehumanizing. Can't cross the street without a man 30 years older than me telling me I'm beautiful and demanding my name and info. Like they're entitled to it and I should be grateful. Disgusting. Can't go anywhere without feeling unsafe unless I'm with friends.
i feel this. my worst experience was recently.. i was going bakc home by commuting. a man was on my same train and he asked me something, to which i gave a one sentence response and ran off to find a seat. not even two minutes later he sat next to me WITHOUT ASKING, and smiling creepily and bombarding me with questions while invading my privacy. i asked him to leave and cried afterwards …
@@goldenhourss so sorry, hearing that makes me furious. Similar thing happened to me- last time I wore a skirt if I was taking the bus. It makes me so angry, they'll even do this to *children.* I had to stop an old man from trying to flirt with my little cousin.
Just a question. Would you rather have zero attention at all, not even recognised by the opposite sex or have some attention but obviously not welcome all of it, the good and the not so bad
@@craigmalcom6294 absolutely would rather have zero “attention”. I’m asexual lmao. Treating people decently shouldn’t have anything to do with how sexually desirable they are… But here we are.
In the case of women, I think that how flirtatious a woman acts in the workplace tends to benefit her more than being super good looking . As long as she is generally healthy - pretty much lower BMI, engages in basic self care etc. she will get more promotions and make more money vs a woman that is very pretty but doesn't flirt / or doesn't make herself seem available or willing.
This is sooooooo true and I actually believe these women have better luck with finding relationships and friendships also. Many men dont actually want to date a super pretty girl because they assume she will have standards he can't achieve and he'd rather not even try when he could go for something easier
When I was in high school i had a glow up I went from being ugly to people saying I should model. I was treated way better by male teachers they even gave me higher marks than the female teachers did. The male gym teacher gave me 90-100 while the female gym teachers gave me 60-40 and I put in the same amount of effort. Even in English class female teachers would give me 70s and male teachers have me 90s. My friends on the other hand didn’t experience much difference in treatment tho. I was also very awkward socially so people would I was cute or endearing rather than weird and awkward. People suddenly found all my negatives traits as cute or quirky. On the other hand I experienced some ‘negatives’ such as people assuming I was hoe or bimbo lots of my friends hated for no reason their was tons of sexual comments from guys and sexual rumour from girls about me and my math teacher. I was never allowed to see or be around my friends bf or their crushes I was never invited out they talked bad about me all the time despite me being very nice to them. But ngl despite the ‘negatives’ I’d rather be pretty than be how I looked in middle school.
Based off others reactions I could say I’m decent I’ve noticed I’d get stares from teachers as well as classmates but nothing like you can’t imagine being sabotaged like that
What's with math teachers? It's always the math or the pe teacher. Is their some kind of psychology behind most creeps either choosing maths or pe as their major?
Pretty privilege is very real! Here’s my experience: I was further down the line in the coach, there’s a few uni students like myself with extra luggage ready to go home. The women (like 2 of them that i’ve seen) in front of me didn’t get any help from the male driver…. They put their suitcases and bags into the trunk themselves - they had quite a bit on them! When I scanned my ticket, he took my bags and suitcase and put it in the trunk for me, literally before I could realise it. I assumed I’d put my stuff away myself like the other women ahead of me. It wasn’t until this videos popped up into my head (i watched it yesterday) and I realised that the only difference between me and them was that I was of a healthier weight/ body proportions. It made me think to other times I had preferential treatment and not realised it…. I wonder how it’ll persist as I age, I’m only in my early 20’s now.
Another thing why attractive humans, from childhood, develop confidence. Thats because they never had to initiate friendships or conversations, people went to them. But conventionally unattractive people needs to work harder to get the same attention.
On the scale I'm slightly attractive. I have been ignored most of my life because as a kid I wasn't as pretty as everyone else which caused me to have low self esteem and no sense of confidence. I was a fat kid In middle school I started exercising and people didn't treat me any better when I lost the weight. I got more and more obsessed with weightloss but I quit because my parents said I was starting to look like a zombie. I did all of that to get nothing out of it. I ended up just eating alot and not caring about how I look anymore . It's not guarantee that once you get slightly attractive people will treat you like luxury. I thought so but I was just delusional.
Bro, the right weight is healthy weight which depends on your body type, age, race and height not becoming very underweight, that's also not attractive and concerning 'cause it's obviously unhealthy too,the same as being overweight or obese.
i am no beauty guru but, if youre skinny now, i recommend swimming. Swimming helps a shit ton with muscle tone and hunger. I recommend this to gain weight + muscle, start training for swimming and maybe move to competitve swimming it helped me a lot
It depends on how old you are. If you are 19 well that sucks. If you are 40 it’s not that big of a deal. Just embrace it and keep whatever hair you have short.
No excuses anymore. 1mg of finasteride every other day, 2.5mg oral minoxidil every day, microneedling once a week (buy the derminator 2), and if you’re from Europe go to Turkey for a FUE transplant, go to Colombia if you’re from the US/Canada
I'm not extremely attractive but from what I noticed is that sometimes people assume I'm dumb because they think : she can't be both , smart and pretty. Also for some reason if you're somewhat attractive people assume you have are always in a relationship or are intimated and don't hit on you that much. These are my experiences only so yeah
I became attractive only when I was 18 (i’m 22 now) and I was even bullied in elementary school for not being pretty. It just makes me sad that we live in such superficial society and instead of focusing on kindness we focus on looks. I experienced the bad treatment as well as the good treatment, and honestly? It’s just insane that we can’t treat people as fellow human beings no matter how they look.
It would be really interesting to see a video on how looks change how you’re perceived in the workplace, opposed to dating appeal and general attractiveness.
I think it definitely affects women more than men in a positive manner. If you're an attractive woman, you're much more likely to get raises and promotions. If you're an attractive man, you're more likely to get an HR suit filed against you as people will assume your friendly banter is flirting. Honestly, in the modern world, I'd rather be an average or even unattractive woman than an attractive man in the workplace.
Most of our physicality concerns link back to health issues. Acne? Hyperpigmentation? Obesity? Hair loss? Stunt growth? It relates back to our health (insulin resistant, high cortisol/stress, minimal calorie deficit, leaky gut syndrome, high carb/sugar diet, lack of sleep)
Pretty has its privileges but also has its downsides too. I was considered ugly in high school and was heavily bullied for it. However, I started receiving a lot of attention when I went to university, which made my one and only very jealous and insecure. She started accusing me of things I never did and left me for the silliest reason possible. Being a very anxious person, I was left all alone and It was really challenging for me to survive university, and now that I work in a male-dominated industry, I hate going to my job every day. I often take breaks and cry in the bathroom.The looks I receive and the comments I've heard are disheartening. Whenever I leave the area, some of the guys gather around, and I'm not sure what they discuss. But when I return, they all stop talking and return to their places.While a few of my female coworkers clearly notice all of this, they constantly remind me of these things and make me feel even more insecure.
I work in a male dominated industry too and it's very heartbreaking to experience this. Some men are rude and disgusting. Some even told me that I don't belong here. But I also know some men who respect women in this field. You're in the wrong place don't let these things get to you. You are worth it no matter who you are and how you look. Search for the right kind of people and the right place to live. Don't let yourself down bcs of others, they don't know who you really are. How they treat you won't change your worth and value. What matters ist how you think about yourself not how others percieve you. Good luck on your journey, you are stronger than you think. I like how you let your emotions out and that you don't bottle it up. Thats also a sign of strength to know when to release your emotions and how to handle the strong feelings inside
You know what? If the same scenario happens again, speak it out and embarrass them. Let the female coworkers talk and tell them, that you are aware of that and that you don't need such words coming from their mouth. You won't lose anything, they were against you from the start. It's a long progress but it's worth it. Show your strength and be dominant. They sense your insecuritys and play with your feelings. That's how you survive in this field. Or you take the easier and happier option to make a change in your life and leave this workplace. If you ask yourself "why are they doing this and how can someone be so rude?" You will lose the game and lose youre grip
this is honestly upsettingly true. As someone who grew up not very conventially attractive, I was always just in the background. I still had good friends and wasn't bullied or anything but people just never paid attention to me, unless they had to? And that was fine i thought that was completely normal because I am kind of quiet with people I don't know. Also I am Indian in a predominantly white area so it kind of led me to the messed up belief that you could only be popular or attractive if you were white. Now a few years later, after growing into my features a bit more, taking up running as a hobby and getting more interested in the way I dress/ do my makeup, it's just so different. And I know this sounds silly but now more people I don't even know will just look at me better? Like strangers are more nice and interactive idk. Even people at school just casually start convos meanwhile before it was only me talking to my close friends. And honestly it's kind of 'are these people just really nice now?' or 'is it just because I'm skinnier and dress better' It sounds really petty but I've sort of fell into that cycle where it's like if I hadn't worn a good outfit/ had mascara and lipgloss on would people have intitiated a relationship/ friendship with me in the first place?! As in people say first interactions don't matter but they do! Obviously, I feel secure with my friends now as we've stuck together through some shit but would our friendship even have started if she hadn't come up to me and called my outfit cute and invited me into her group?! idek man help I'm actually spiralling. another thing(sorry I'm actually ranting) I've noticed is the difference between how guys treat me? Guys are MUCH more friendlier I cannot stress this enough. Before they would only talk to me if I was with a mutual friend and even then it would just be me awkwardly 5th wheeling my friends. But literally this STRANGER around my age asked me out a few months ago and I was like is this a joke?! Cut the fucking cameras no way. Even at say parties a guy would come up to my friend(and I was naturally expecting to awkwardly be left out because that was the norm for me) and he actively included me in the convo and kept circling back to anything I said! I didn't really clock any of this earlier and sort of put it down as an effect of growing up? People just naturally are more comfortable and social? The thing that made me notice all this was meeting one of my old family friends and hearing her say 'you look so different now you kinda look really good now that you've kinda grown up' LIKE WTF DID I NOT LOOK GOOD BEFORE?!?! IS THAT NOT BACKHANDED AF ?!?! it literally keeps me up at night... and omg before when i was shy/ introverted, I stayed in the background and it was fine. I blamed the fact that I never really got invited to big parties/ cinema dates etc solely because i was shy(which makes sense right- if you don't put yourself out there you won't get invited to lots of things- sounds fair). But I swear if anything I'm more introverted now and all of a sudden there are so many parties/ motives/ sleepovers always going on where people actually want ME to come?? Sometimes I actually don't think it's real. Perhaps that also comes down to people growing up/ being allowed to throw more parties. ANYWAYS TO WRAP THIS ESSAY UP- it's just a bit weird because I always expected pretty privilege to only exist in 2000s rom coms but apparently not. Well done if you got up to here lol.
im a below average looks for a 19 year old girl, but my best friend had a massive glow up naturally and we both are opposites. I wouldn't say im ugly I just look more masculine, i have a sharper jaw, thicker eyebrow hair and im very muscular and atheletic, some people like it, some dont and thats completely fine. My best is VERY popular with a lot of people and gets treated very well by people but girls envy her and it does piss me off. She never cared about someomes looks or her own which makes her even more attractive, she has the intimidating sexy look yet the sweet innocent girl next door vibe if that makes sense. Its odd tho, because the girls who used to be jealous of her are now close friends with her. I somewhat had a small glow up, i used to be chubby, but i did competitve swimming and my face fat shredded off and my jaw became really sharp, i have broad shoulders and a muscular toned body, a few people complimented my body rather than face and thats fine. some say ive changed and couldnt believe it was me (when i packed on muscle). Me and my best friend talk about pretty privelege and she is well aware of how people treat her, she gets annoyed when people call me ugly or i get downgraded by other girls because im more masculine (im a tomboy) so it helps having her by my side lol
Hey I read your thing, I'm almost 20 and kinda relate. Growing up I pegged my lonliness at school down to my social anxiety or shyness, which is partly fair... but now that I've lost a bit of weight, cut my hair short. I notice men look at me etc. It's kinda validating but it's good to find that balance with looking nice, and still doing you. Don't try and be extra fem or cute just for others. Also I relate to the ethnicity thing.
00:04 Pretty privilege refers to the social advantage that stems from being attractive. 01:51 The halo effect is a cognitive bias that influences the way we look at the world. 03:36 Attractive individuals tend to have higher self-esteem and are treated better 05:18 Rejection and the beauty premium have significant impacts on self-esteem and wages 07:02 Physical attractiveness influences judgments and decisions in various situations. 08:43 Attractive individuals are more likely to conform to societal norms and are treated better. 10:23 Attractive individuals are perceived to have positive intentions, leading to fewer consequences for their actions and a better quality of life. 12:07 Looks and physical attractiveness have a significant impact on desirability and reproductive benefit.
The hardest part of watching this video was trying to figure out which of the people shown in the pictures were considered attractive. He didn’t say which is which!
As an average looking Filipino guy (average relative to my people, below average in America), the idea of experiencing pretty privilege is such a foreign concept to my mind, it’s akin to the thought of having something like super strength or super speed.
The good thing is that is unlikely that you will fall from where you are. Pretty, handsome people there is a point in which they go through depression as any other, and there whatever happens to them multiplies, because is not only the negative event, but living a world in which they are not attractive anymore makes the world a completely inhospitable place
You can extend the concept of pretty privilege elsewhere-the way you look can trigger different perceptions too. For example you can look well behaved and really smart, this will make teachers also treat you more favorably. Or just looking friendly, not necessarily attractive, makes it easier for strangers to approach you etc. Being conventional pretty is just a super version of this effect :D it carries many benefits in many areas.
@@fff-oe2jsWhat does the west even mean anymore tho, many Europeans feel nothing at all in common with the US and the cultures and beauty standards now are totally different too. There’s plenty of ethnic groups that do fine in Europe tbh
You don't need to be physically attractive to have a super strength. Develop your skills and master them. Look at those musicians and writers, they earn the deepest respect not because of their looks but because of their passion and talents. One of my favorites is Yoyo Ma.
Pretty privilege is so real. Grew up “ugly” (didn’t look after my appearance and I was bullied for it) and now I’m someone who would be considered more attractive. I notice more free things or just good treatment in canteens and restaurants. People are so much nicer to me and it’s been slightly easier to make friends despite being socially awkward and neurodivergent. However, downsides of this is that I constantly face blatant jealousy from people (not a flex), a lot of “fake friends” will do anything to make me suffer and it’s obvious. Also had friends who would comment on my appearance (never happened to me when I was less attractive) and tried their best to make me insecure. Overall, there’s positives and negatives of being somewhat attractive. Obviously, I’m still pretty average looking compared to other women but I am not exactly “ugly”. Unfortunately, correlation does not equal to causation and my better treatment could just be based on how I am more able to fit in to society/ grown in confidence and mask my neurodivergence more easily…Yeah idk
I am an ugly woman. I was bullied from a young age across 5 schools and socially withdrew from my peer group in middle school, spending all my weekends alone in my room watching anime. When I got to college, things didn't improve, but I enjoyed my classes and made a small but positive group of friends. Now I'm 23 and still a virgin. I have never been asked out and have never had a romantic relationship. So many people say it's impossible for a woman to be undesireable to most of men and how lucky women are that it's so easy for us to get sex. But I have gone so long without sex and without feeling sexually desireable that I've become mostly asexual, so even that perk of being a woman doesn't give me solace. People, especially other women, are disrespectful and rude to me because there's something wrong with my face. I feel so thoroughly ugly that when I masturbate I don't imagine myself in the fantasy, I invent attractive mental characters instead. I've had therapists tell me that I'm chemically depressed, but I don't think that's true because I complete my everyday responsibilities, take care of myself, and don't feel anything is inherently wrong with brain chemistry. What is wrong is my face. I try to comfort myself and say, someday someone will see me for more than my looks. I am definitely above average in intelligence (at least quantitative intelligence), and I am an empathetic, loyal person. But life is hard and feels hopeless. I know attractive people say they have problems because of their appearance, but I would trade lives with them in an instant. I only ever feel happy when I expect nothing, not even basic respect, from others, but that is very exhausting to maintain. I can't even talk about how my face affects my life with other people without being told that I'm beautiful when I'm clearly not. I wish people were more honest with each other about this topic because the lies hurt more.
Have you considered investing in make-up and plastic surgery? Many men and women found themselves more confident afterwards. You're not ugly, but society's beauty standards are ugly and you get treated better by adapting to those standards.
I'm in the same boat, you're not alone. I was lucky enough to find a boyfriend when I was 24 but I'm still treated like shit by others. I'm considering surgery. I feel like men treat me worse than women though.
Your are sad because you depend on other for you to be happy.....think for a second you want someone to praise you but you didn't like yourself.... how's that gonna work..... I'm telling because I have been ugly most of my life now I'm satisfied by how i look and don't depend on other to compliment though it would be great but doesn't matter......your happiness only depend on you not on others opinion hope it helps
@@boss_niko the negative sides of being beautiful. I know I’m beautiful I get treated like it all the time I don’t need to defend my beauty to you. Thanks for being an example of a negative side, when you’re beautiful people always want to “humble” you I don’t feel offended at all , my life experience says otherwise have a nice day take care of yourself idk 🤷♀️
Many comments have already touched on this but these so called negatives are rooted in the jealousy that comes from said desire of a pretty person, further showing the privilege of beauty. You may say say that’s a negative, but in reality what you are dealing with is a fault of character in a given individual and not a disadvantage of being pretty. If anything, it’s an advantage on its own way as said jealous people are tattling on their own lack of self-worth where as if you are not pretty to immediately bring out this trait you may form a bond with a person of ill character and experience quite the shock when the truth is revealed to you. So yeah in reality you are dealing with someone whose self worth comes from bringing others down, it’s a matter of poor upbringing and not your beauty.
A privilege is a right, immunity, or advantage; that is given to a certain group of people. Being attractive is a privilege, because it's an advantage. It's easier to socialize with people, when you're attractive (because being attractive builds your self-confidence) People will respect you more, if you're attractive. It's a million times easier to find a spouse if you're attractive (especially if you're an attractive male) And in many countries employers value beauty just as much/more than qualifications. Even though being pretty is a privilege. Almost everybody can become attractive if they wanted to. and you shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty for being good looking. sadly there's a lot of jealous people who will hate you just for being more attractive than them. or for having nicer things than them. or because you were born into a happy middle-class/rich family.
"that is given", we are not given anything, we just have it. A privilege can be taken away, being desirable can't be taken away, being correlated with good impulse control can't be taken away, being correlated with good genes can't be taken away. Being attractive is not a privilege, it is an attribute. They use the world privilege to relate it to inherited wealth or a position in a company, that are "given" by someone with the objective to make the holder "forced to be grateful" of being "given", to so force them to "behave a certain way in return for being granted that privilege". It is a manipulation technique. It is not a privilege, just an attribute that can go away if the one who hold it does not make an effort (and that is the part that is more important, it is earned. An attractive adult must earn being attractive, the opposite of a privilege)
Strangers always approached me, asked for directions, or simply go with me/accompany me. Strangers also help me without asking. It might be privilege lol
You can pile up as much evidence that proves beauty is objective and people would still be covering their ears and go "La la la la la la". People would rather believe the earth is flat than admit the importance of looks.
I have a friend, who has been good-looking from the very beginning, and other children got envious and tried to mistreat her, even though her features: big doe eyes with long fluffy eyelashes, sweet roundish face, - have never been "sexy" or intimidating. Later some teachers in school tried to seduce her, because latent pedafiles are attracted to childish innocent faces & bodies. So in the early age she got lots of disadvantages from being attractive and felt indeed like a hunted doe all the time. Only later in life, when she got strong after a long intense physical training, she became capable to efficiently protect herself, her beauty & her dignity. But if her parents would have been more caring and protective, when she was a little girl, her life could be wonderful. So it is indeed, - in order to enjoy the good things you have: beauty, health, pretty clothes, nice house, - you have to be capable to protect all that, so nobody would try to spoil it. That's why pretty children, living in safe areas with good parents can enjoy their beauty, but poor children of neglecting parents from ruff neighborhoods have to be very careful in order not to become victimized for their beauty.
Oh this one. I think people sometimes forget about the socioeconomic aspect of one growing up. Like if you were poor and your parents were always busy, the prettier the more chances you are being taken advantage of (by predators and people around).
@@tuongkhuyenle1697 Japp. Also, poor parents are not always busy parents, - like in many poor families mothers are really working hard, but the big strong fathers are just always at home and entertain themselves with drinking or smoking stuff or simply watching football laying on the couch, and don't want to "waste" their time for something so "insignificant", as their children.
@@user-oj5bw7sl8p Um, there are just as many families where the father works really hard to provide and the mother sleeps in all day, drinks, pops pills and is completely unreliable. Why the singling out of men?
Am I the only one concerned with how casually the part about her friends teachers trying to seduce her was stated? Like, teachers? As in more than one? That's not normal...
@@fuzzypanda1684 That's not normal, even if it would be just one teacher. And yes, it was several. I personally had to protect her few times, when I was present, because I was stronger & more "street-smart". Children should be explained in advance, that some adults, - also some teachers, trainers, scout leaders, - can be mean and must be avoided. So that innocent kids would not trust and obey predators, just because they are "adults".
I have noticed that after working in sales, only good-looking people were in sales, furthermore, the even BETTER looking of good-looking individuals were the top sellers!
Reminder: Physical attractiveness is just a plus points. Character is what makes you stay on the TOP and looks beautiful. This is the reality. Just observe and see for yourself.
Imma get hate but idc, when my pretty friends complain abt men asking them out or getting drinks, catcalled I just can’t take it seriously and roll my eyes. Bro… I’d take that any day than being ugly. I’ve been called ugly since kindergarten lmao I can’t even get the same jobs as my good looking friends, horrible social status and just all in all worse life experience. When my pretty friends are loud, they’re extroverted. I am seen as annoying and told to shut up. When they’re quiet they’re mysterious. When I’m quiet people think I’m depressed and tell me to “stop looking like you want to die”. When they walk into a job interview they get hired even though they have less qualifications than me. One time my friend walked in and was hired on the spot. Like I said, I’d rather be attractive and deal with men and catcalling than be ugly ANY DAY
Yea but would you go out with the your male equivalent of your looks? Similar person, similar status? If no, imagine if you were born a dude. -The same way you envy some women for their pretty privilege, the same way these men envy women for their status as a woman. Unless they fall into the gaslighting of “just be confident” If yes, note that it isn’t common.
this reminds me of someone commenting on some influencer going "people like to hate on pretty girls" when that influencer did some actual vile things... while yes, people can be jealous of another person's beauty, let's not forget the actions that attractive person did in context and start getting with the program by doing some actual research instead of blindly following someone you don't even know
Hey, Qoves, if think you'd find very interesting the story of the ancient greek politician and general Alcibiades, he was known at the time as "the most beautiful", and that apparently helped him getting off the hook in the public opinion, despite doing some very outrageous stuff
He was also the first documented psychopath so you have to take into account his off the chart charisma and manipulative skills, although no question his aesthetics played an enormous role
Imagine having the ability to look beyond the superficial and be able to judge someone on their energetic vibe. One day humans will see beyond their 5 senses.
I've been told I look like I walked out of a magazine and that people would die to look like me, which is very kind but they see me when I'm dolled up. I feel fugly for real without makeup LOL. People may say that but I TRULY don't feel that way about myself. The amount of people that assume I have pretty privilege is crazy. I understand that it really IS a thing, but, in my experience I've been truly treated so horribly growing up that I wonder if it only applies to certain people - maybe if they are rich, have lots of friends to begin with, social, etc...? I'm none of those. Even if I fake my confidence, I still struggle. Most of the time people go out of their way to shoot bad luck or inconvenience my direction and I am wondering if it's because they think everything gets handed to me so they feel the need to take it upon themselves to treat me like "you can't have everything because you're pretty, even if you're good at what you do or deserve it so I have to be the one to show you otherwise". I feel I have to work harder than most just to prove myself and it still never is good enough. Maybe I genuinely have bad luck because I don't feel like i've ever gotten "pretty privelege". I can only think of maybe once or twice and they were just kind gestures from a couple strangers. That's it. Yes, there's beautiful people who have "pick me" and rotten attitudes but please know that not all of us are that way and we still have our struggles with confidence as well. We will always be our own worst critics.
As someone who was a fat kid this is absolutely true. I’m much better treated now that I’m slimmer and more developed. However, I know I’m not at my full potential, and there are just too many benefits to being more attractive that would be stupid to not pursue, so I’m committing myself to a consistent exercise regimen and strict diet. Wish me luck!
Man I struggle with mental health but watching videos like this make me more positive about life since I am conventionally attractive. I know it might come off as cocky but I don't mean to be.
Thank you so much! Beauty privilege is often overlooked. It's good anyway to remember that beauty is one of the factors that you most have control on: through exercise and keeping a strong/lean body. This is even more true for women - for men it's slightly more difficult as a major criteria for male attractiveness is height which is almost impossible to change or fake. Anyway, care about your body, your make up, and your clothes can deeply affect your attractiveness. This doesn't change the sad truth that we are judging people on wrong stardards (actractivess vs actual competence) but it can help giving us agency to mitigate the results of the halo effect.
I've noticed this phenomenon even before I knew what it was called. I've even developed a bias in the opposite direction. Physical attractiveness immediately makes me skeptical of someone's competence. Is there a name for that?
I used to struggle with acne. I have some pimples too now but my overall complexion is better, my skin is more glowing than before. I have my signature style. I may come off as "cold" but I noticed how people stare at me as I walk now. I don't like that because no one ever looks at me that way before when I was "nothing" in their eyes. Attractive people are deemed as valuable and that is unfair. I only know one guy who never looks my way once I "become more attractive", and I think that quality and moral code he has is more attractive than beauty will ever be.
I seek genuine connections and have wide view about world but sometimes, I feel like my “attractiveness” hinders me to find those people. However as I enter to adulthood, it’s okay to have few people that you connect with and I eventually found some people that I truly care and want to nurture the relationship. Being in this kind of life is an crisis for me because of societal expectations.
im a below average girl with a fit body, im quite muscular so i guess my body does makeup for my looks. I have noticed people compliment my body more than my face and thats fine. But im still improving myself and trying new styles to suit me and groom better to. I remember i was hanging out with my attractive friend, hes 6ft and well built and got blessed genes in looks, all the girls and aunties stared at him and complimented his looks. The aunties came up to me and greeted me. and congratulated me of my swimming skills (im a competitve swimmer) i then realised and thought, good looking people no matter how talented or untalendted they are, the looks are the main focus of them. While i may be unnatractive, im glad my talents is recognized.
I went from fat and ugly to maximizing my looks in my 20s back to fat and ugly again now in my 30s. During my school time I was bullied, never had a girlfriend and got avoided by people. It took a long time until I observed and realized that it didn't happen because of my personality but just because the people don't want to deal with ugly people in their daily lifes and therefore choose to not see them at the same level and therefore disrespect them. In my job I had to work harder and better than all the other workers and still got maligned as incompetent and just to bad for this job. In my mid 20s I became super fit and thin, muscular, wore expensive clothing, drove a nice car and had a well paid job. Suddenly people treated me completelly different even though my natural look still wasn't quite attractive but at least I gave the impression of a hardworking, disciplined and well-groomed guy. Even people who avoided me before were impressed by me and complimented me for becoming such a great personality, professional in work and nice to be around. In my early 30s my discipline however dimished and so I got fat and unattractive again. So I'm basically back to being treated as a 2nd class human.
I have been on (and keep experiencing) both ends of the spectrum depending on how my weight fluctuates. When I’m chubbier, I get looked down upon, disrespected and regarded as on the bottom of the totem pole, while whenever I slim down (to normal size), I am liked and well treated by everyone.
True. I consider myself a nice guy who doesn't want to make women feel uncomfortable, and I'm definitely not a harasser. Sometimes I would love to go talk to women in bars, coffee shops etc. but I'm afraid they'll have an instant prejudice towards my approach simply because I'm not George Clooney. Of course if a woman wants to be left alone for other reasons, that's different. It's just sad that I don't even get the chance to make an impression, or at least I'm too afraid to try.
@@late8641 I know for my experience being below average male in attractiveness I study body language more then words spoken from female interactions. The body language usually will give you an idea if there is mutual interest.
Something I wonder, is the intersection with confidence. Studies have also shown that confidence is a determining factor in success, sometimes even more so than attractiveness. Attractiveness helps in building self-confidence from external validation of their attractiveness, so that confidence helps them approach life in ways that would promote success (asking for more, not fearing rejection ahead of time, etc) which turns into tangible success. I wonder if the opposite is true - where average and/or less attractive people assume worse outcomes and approach life differently because of this. Also undermining each other more where attractive people don’t - Qooves did a video on this where the most attractive people were more realistic in their assessments of others attractiveness whereas average and less attractive people were much much harsher on others, even anonymously. I would imagine that just straight up looks isnt the whole truth, just a strong influence in mindset and therefore outcomes
Most of the time being attractive is related to good genes and good behavioral patterns, which makes people confident by default. There is nothing strange that those attributes are correlated
@@bannedeverywhereactually socioeconomic development and status throughout history has still stayed on top. Being ugly and upper middle class in America is better than being very atttactive, but in North Korea or on the poverty line with several billion others, you can’t even upkeep “beauty” when you’re trying to survive
Tbh I’ve experienced both ends. As a teenager I didn’t really care to take care of myself also bc I didn’t know how as my family just wasn’t concerned ig. Something clicked in college and now I get complimented all the time and people treat me nicer but it makes me feel bad for my younger self. On one hand it feels good but on the other hand it sucks fr
Being pretty can come with both disadvantages and advantages, there are people who are jealous over you and will use their spite to mistreat you. At the same time, there are attractive people who literally can put no effort and will be the most adored people, even if they don't deserve it. They can also get away with doing shitty things, look at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
When I was younger I was bullied because of my nose. It was a tough time. I was the weird girl in school and later then they ignored me completely and talked behind my back about me. I was the weird girl in the corner. All the comments still hurt. With 18 I had a nose operation. Firstly nothing changed but after I went out of school, people were interested in me. Not like they are interested in truly pretty people, but they talked to me, they were interested in me and they treated me better, but the scars from the past were too great. Now I am studying, my circle of people were always pretty small, I have problems to talk to others so yes, I have problems in interaction, but when meet new people they are more open to me. I am still very behind, because I am sick (but you can’t see it anymore) and I don’t fit in that well anymore (black Humor, I have it first since I am out of school and so on) but that’s okay. To the wrong persons you can’t say anything right I noticed. But when i act normal, people mostly accept me. It’s always so weird. 19 years of my life I’ve been always rejected by everyone, and now, when I talk to people, they mostely (not always) talk to me back. They are opener. I think I could be really good in communication now, but I’ve never learned it in alle the time I went to school (not in school but in the ages i went there) I am not pretty but I am average now and this is so much better, than everything I know. When I use make up and the right clothes, the effect is stronger. People notice me more. And it hurts everytime. But I also see how people with better looking are treated and that is much better. In every case. They can say everything, and it’s funny. When a person with less prettiness says the same thing (like the prettier) others can interpret or understand it completely different. My psychologist was a very pretty woman. I think she never had problems with her appearance and she told me, that everything came up of my social problems and my communication issues. I think she’s a kind of right with it, but an important thing that missing is easily, that I was bullied and never had the chance of learning good communication skills at school, and that everybody ignored me when I talked. So I think, yes it’s a bit my communication skill, but also the fact, that I was more than not pretty. But it is like richness. Rich people say money don’t make you happy, or money is not that important. So do pretty people say, that prettiness is not that important. People with advantages never admit their advantages and say that they are not that great. But no one would choose to be poor, and tbh nobody would choose to be ugly if this person had the choice. The advantages are more. That’s how it works. Rich people don’t want to change anything, because they want to hold their privilege, also do pretty ones. 9:55 yes, I noticed that too, things that were and are terrible when I make/made them were only small things at more pretty people.
Its sooooo true! As a kid i wasnt good looking so always felt like an outsider as no one paid much attention it did give me opportunities to fly under the radar and do my thing. Now for some reason ppl find me attractive and although i enjoy the it to some extend i do not like the fact that at times someone’s eye is always on me and i cannot fly under the radar and do my thing
If you’re a young, beautiful and charming female people will always take care of you. Not all women that fall into that category just sit back and let it happen but at least it’s an option. Very handsome men have a lot of good choices in life but nobody just takes care of them.
My younger brother is handsome and I dare you a lot of women and men want to take care of him, give him presents, pay for him etc The privilege of good looking man - at least society don’t look at him like at meat in the market and don’t objectify him so much like a pretty woman
It's interesting you used charming. I agree that if a beautiful woman is charming she could be president lol Young beautiful women are usually extremely superficial and not interesting so a nice personality on top of good looks really gives a boost. It's like giving the Hulk his own Iron Man armor lol
What do you mean by "people always take care of you"? No one is paying my bills or my food and no one is going to law school for me. Professors are equally demanding with every student, it's something all of my colleagues say, not just me. If by "being taken care of" you mean "get hit on more often", than yes. Pretty women get taken care of every 4-5 days or so.
I have a handsome acquaintance who always picked up a local hottie while travelling, screwed her, and even got a place to stay for free. So yes, if you're hot enough society will take care of you even if you're a man.
People who say looks don’t matter are either: 1. Very attractive people that don’t know what it’s like to be unattractive 2. Ugly people that tell themselves that to make themselves feel better and use it as an excuse to not improve themselves
I worked for a company once and everyone in my department was attractive. We all dealt directly with clients who were vital to the success/ bottom line of the company. I'd say the rest of the departments in this company consisted of support people and telemarketers who were a mix of both attractive and unattractive people, with the vast majority being on the unattractive side. Guess who made more money?
