I am not a young man in fact I will soon be 65. My Grandfather was raised to be a Scottish gentleman, in turn he raised me to be the same. In my 23 years on the internet I have never viewed a better and more concise video on the subject of being a Gentleman. Well done and I look forward to more of your content in the future.
I completely agree with all of these points. I wish my parents restricted my video game habit back in high school. I wasted a lot of time gaming that could have been spent improving myself and spending quality time with friends. I haven't touched a video game in over a decade now, and I don't miss them at all.
Gotta take the opposite approach here. I got deep into Counter Strike in my teenage years. It led to my career in finance as it gave me a fundamental understanding of trading. It made me sociable as being the an in game leader when I played with friends thrust me into student leadership positions. It taught me self improvement as I always suspected the enemy of using cheats as a last resort - I always thought ‘if he’s legit, how would we pull that off?’. Even staying up at night for an objective to play so many matches taught me dedication - something I lean on in my part time law school at the moment. Ultimately, I don’t think its video games but rather how one approaches and makes sense of experiences - not just video games.
@@holdingspacetrue. I however do believe in dialing back a bit on online games. I think online games suck the soul out of me personally. Plus they are made on the same model as how addictions work. Which is why I believe story mode games are simply better.
Salutation, don't mind me too much maybe I'm too late but I will nevertheless say that every activity can bring good things for your improvement like abilities or knowledge or coordination like reflex, everything depends on how much time you dedicate to them as matter of speaking also keep lasting even for videogamess. But this games also can have effect on improving some kind of brain functions like imagination or 3d reasoning and memory and spark new passion in you that will you pursue new pathways and reflex like mind hand one as I was saying before about coordination. Though the equilibrium is key. As alwaus said it is the dose that makes the poison from an old chemistry professor. You can still play but do over waste money and time on it as yiu wouldn't do the same overtraining in gym maybe. Keep it sane and clean you're the one in control also try to avoid games online where there is a toxic chat environment. These are many masterpiece that now costs less than you think and I will suggest them cause they also bring in them valuable lessons of life. Told this have fun. Kind rewards my fellow gentlemen 😂😏
DO NOT BUY A 10YR OLD MERCEDES, you will spend more on maintenance than either leasing a new car or buying a non German used car. A 10 year old Lexus is a safe used luxury option and will last for years without any huge wallet breaking costs.
I agree but there are some Mercedes I recommend. C class or E class typically. And get the cheapest trim level. Less things to break after 10 years. Any Lexus is 🔥 tho. I still own my 02 GS300, best car Toyota ever made.
I am 70 and Gent Z is correct on every point. One of the main themes here is waste: of time, money, effort. It requires maturity and focus to stay on a path that may seem austere, in order to put everything you have and do in to achieving the goal of a gentleman. But it is worth.
Indeed; as I wish this lad would have been around with this content 45 years ago; could have saved me a lot of grief in life had I heard the things he mentioned here...! 🤨
Don't fall into the trap of "defining what is right" for others. For - defining an entire generation with the letter "Z" if in reality - the letter "F' would be way more appropriate. Since everything that this generation can be defined with starts with an F - starting from "failure", up the level of "F d up".
Listen up and learn young gentleman. As a man in his 40. I find Gent Z very sound and comprehensive. Thank you for sharing and please expand on your ideas, it helps us all. Much appreciated
Great video, I have to disagree on the video games point though. Games made by companies like Rockstar, Insomniac, and others make impactful and enjoyable interactive experiences that tell stories and teach lessons that would be too long and detailed for a movie format. There’s also nothing wrong with spending a couple hours on a good battle royal game every now and then to foster your sense of competition.
Concept artist here. I just restrict my game time to “study” time. I take notes on designs and ideas I like when I play games. I only buy 2-3 games a year.
@jamescornwell9502 same here, I only play on weekends for 1 or 2 ours a day maximum. But I do it to enjoy it as the piece of art the game is. Mostly single players with rich environments, good stories and wonderful art direction. I really enjoy it, it is like watching a good film for me
if you do gaming/development for work, i suspect you would do notably better with it if you designated some game-free time, ideally for a physical activity. and all the better so if for a team sport, ie soccer... even if it's just one day per week, or only a few hours on that day, it will reset your brain and make you ready to go back into the gaming world with a vastly sharper edge.
@Numantino312 yeah that's something I need actually, I love baseball but in the country I'm working sadly it is only possible to play it during 5 months a year due to the cold temperatures. Although I do every day some kind of mid or low intensity training to give my body and brain some activity during the cold seasons
@@esponru5602 recently fell in love with lacrosse. in my part of the states (north dakota has short summers too), it's not terribly popular, and 90% of it is done at high school level. at adult age, one has to be a super-organiser + persuasive personality to get a team sport going. 😐 sounds like you understand importance of physical activity regardless. hope you find a way to spend some time on the diamond.
A gentleman does not belittle or argue with service workers. Take matters up directly with management, but never make a scene in public, especially with hourly workers.
I'm an older man. And I have a life that most can only dream of. This wasnt an accident. I made good choices. And I strongly agree with GenZ’s advice. Don’t waste your time and money on things that won’t further your goals or, even worse, are self-destructive. Before making any decision, one should always consider the long-term consequences to their health, finances, career and especially family.. If one wants a good life then they must do the things that produce a good life and avoid the things that don’t. It is as simple as that
Great video. I agree with the list. I would add going on expensive first dates. It’s fine to spend money on a quality woman but don’t throw money away just trying to vet women on a first or even second date
It depends. Personally, I like nice restaurants, and going out to dinner is one of my favorite things. So I wouldn't downgrade my own experience of that just because it's a date
fair enough. I also like quality restaurants and spend good money on them as well but the problem is you don't know if they are good company yet so you may downgrade your experience just by not having the right vibe there@@Gent.Z
Holy smokes. I too made the mistake of owning a vintage Jaguar in my twenties. It was a beautiful car and it looked amazing in the driveway, as it rarely ran. Eventually, it caught fire on the freeway. My next car was a lovely lightly used Honda Accord.
I had an S-type Jaguar that never gave problems while under warranty. When the warranty expired it cost me $8k that year in repairs. I drove it to the Toyota dealership and left it for an FJ Cruiser that I loved.
The porn issue is a lot like the drugs issue where because the elite want it and are so capable of advocating for it, they don't care about the havoc it can wreak especially for those not in their class
No smoking, no drinking, no porn, minimal/no gambling, buy a classic car big engines get respect - fix the body work, buy good quality clothing, be clean shaven, have associates that create networks, never go on package holidays, never eat at cheap franchises, wear lounge shirts daily with chino's, never wear jeans. never use public transport don't be flash live below your means etc
A gentleman doesn’t strategise their whole life to meet women - That’s pretty sociopathic and predatory If you’re happy and confident in your pursuits the rest will always take care of itself
I am 55 and am happy to hear such advice for young men. As regards video games, as a child the only electric devices in my room were a transistor radio and a reading lamp!
Agree My friend. I am 65 and I have only bought two new cars and regretted both. As you said buy used. Let the other guy take the depreciation. And never finance a watch. I really like the looks of your watch by the way. Best regards Ron
I am guilty of financing an Omega Speedmaster, but i didn't regret it. I have an excess money every month and already got the savings in. Its alright to finance as long as it is reasonable and you have thought it through like a 1000 times. It will be a family heirloom for my son. Not a regret. But on the other hand financing a expensive car, that is a bad decision, i have to agree.
It is so shocking that most people think that designer clothes like Gucci, Louis Vuitton , supreme and etc are high quality clothes in reality it is the biggest scam in clothing history(by the way Gent Z keep up the good work)
@@jheagy1234567890even for a black person for it is a genuine waste of money but when you have a culture of splash and splurge especially you look at rappers that tell a story in my eyes
Hello, yes, you are really right! It is really alarming, that 80-90% of people are so stupid and blind to everything. Those designer brands are total scam for big money telling people "hey, give me 4000 USD for this bag, that was made with cheap materials and go away". I really can´t believe, that people give money for this!!! Such stupid herd supporting villains and destroying small traditional shop owners, who really deserve the money. Bunch of idiots people trully are.
@@sarahgodwin-xd1wr yeah I can agree with you saying but in my opinion stay away from mainstream designers who are more flashy walking billboard than high quality clothing
Yeah, there's a rather un-gentlemanly element to how the bulk of this advice is about cultivating the perception of others rather than developing productive habits or anything useful. I far prefer Heinlein's definition of a gentleman being unafraid to try new things or get his hands dirty.
I’ve listened to a lot of finance stuff. But framing finance through the lens of being a gentleman really brings something new to the table. Thank you for bringing this perspective!
Thank you, sir. I also consume a lot of finance content but many of those guys miss out on a lot of the pleasures in life to save as much money as possible. I look forward to making more videos like this in the future
I agree with every point. My only note is that video games can be a great and artistic hobby not all games are murder sims and even Grand Theft Auto is meant to be a critique of our culture. Even something like Pacific Drive is a nice way to relax. Like any hobby, it is up the the user to be responsible in terms of how much time they spend on it.
So you dont mind pornography, but videogames are a problem? Games are fun. Its okay to have fun and enjoy yourself in your leisure time. I wouldnt call that "wasting time" or not "gentlemanly"
Agree on nearly every point. However, with respect, I disagree with your outlook on video games. Much like with any other forms of entertainment media, there is a healthy and unhealthy way to approach them. There are several quality titles with valuable stories and experiences intuitive for growth as a person; and in much the same way that a book or movie could provide. Personally, because of videogames, I was inspired to learn classical piano and study classical music theory. That being said, it certainly is not a necessity. I only encourage you to consider that there is more out there than the mindless dribble such as Call of Duty or Fortnite (which, in doses, can be okay as well).
women and simps spend, men invest. Cars depreciate; I rent when I need a car. I hate watches: they irritate my skin. I know that I'm supposed to wear a watch, but my sensitve skin can't handle a watch. I will do strings or simple bracelets: I wish you could recomment a watch for Gentleman who don't like watches. I tried a pocket watch, once, until it broke. Should I try a pocket watch, again?
It's irritating that any link will cause a response to be removed. Check out titanium watches. Some people are allergic to the nickel in stainless steel. Search for Teddy Baldesarre's video on titanium watches.
I bought a 2 year old Jaguar. Loved that car for ten years. Now drive a 10 year old Toyota. Much more practical. But owning😂 “Big Kitty” was a great experience.
What an excellent display of the way of a gentleman👍🏻 Do you have any recommendations for books about beeing a gentleman? Maybe it would be also interesting for other aspiring gents like myself. Keep up the great work! Best wishes Max
As a wise-learned middle aged man, I would caution a young man against purchasing any 10 year old car, including a Mercedes unless you can buy it outright and not feel the financial squeeze. If you finance a car that old, you'll be paying for the car AND the inevitable maintenance needed on any vehicle of that age (and Mercedes are not cheap to fix). My advice is to find a nice car that's a couple of years old with 50K or so miles. Someone else has already taken the depreciation, and you'll have a newer car that you can drive for several years while you build your wealth. THEN you can buy the Merc and impress your friends. A nice watch on the other hand, is a one time purchase, probably won't need servicing for several years. There's something about the low key IYKYK-ness of wearing an Omega Seamaster that just gives a man a boost. If you're going to splash out on a luxury item, a good watch will last more than a lifetime.
You make a great point, but most men don't have any watch at all, or have a piece of garbage. Seiko or, even better, Orient, is a great alternative to a $5-8K watch that you really can't afford. Notice that Orient only makes mechanical watches. I think a gentleman should never wear quartz OR a so-called designer watch.
I'm a bit older than you, and being a big fan of the super famicom back in thd day inspired me to learn Japanese. I think of games as another form of art, a lot of work goes into them. I appreciate the soundtracks especially on retro games. My son has learned aot from playing minecraft. I suppose it's a question of whether every hobby or interest should have a productive outcome or if it can be enjoyed from its own sake. Definitely agree nothing good comes from playing 8 hours a day! But you can let any hobby get out of hand I'm English and if people start talking about football my eyes glaze over. They can talk about it all day! Love your channel, you've inspired me to start dressing better after a bit of middle age dad Comfort wear.
Being more than old enough to be your Dad young man, I must commend your channel on its content, its class, its wisdom & its wit... As far as 'this' episode, you were str8 on point with everything, thank you very much for this presentation, and I look forward to your next content...! Just 'Real Tauk'...! 😎
#7. A gentleman never spends money on a girl for hire. #8. A gentleman never spends money on another man's woman. *** A gentleman never spends time with another man's woman, also, and discovers that he never wakes up with a shotgun in his face.
Hello Gent Z, what do you think about the modern slang terms that are used by people these days like "rizz" etc.? Also what do you think about the terms of addressal by modern people like "bro" "homie" and all? I personally donot use these words and whenever i want to address somebody i usually go with their name or incase i dont know their name i usually go with "excuse me". Does a classic gentleman use any of these terms of addressal or slang words?
I’m happy to see the views and subscription numbers on your channel going up. It’s heartening to think that young men are watching and learning from you. It’s sorely needed.
Dear Gent, Women tell me I'm unattractive, so while I'm not into porn, I can understand the attraction. I've never tried drugs, don't like the taste of alcohol, but on the upside I've never needed intoxicants to make bad decisions. As for food, a friend who was an accomplished cook watched me bulldozing my way through an excellent curry he'd undoubtedly taken hours to prepare, and said: "You do not eat my boy, you merely refuel." When it comes to video games, having no social life I certainly have the time, but I peaked at Space Invaders, and can't get past the tutorials of modern games. The one major saving grace of having no social standards to maintain means that there is no reason for my to overspend, so you could say its a silver cloud. Frank.
I was still buying logo (albeit small logos) until I was 40. Then I suddenly desired no logos. If I had had that realization sooner, I would have saved a lot of money.
I'm 57 yo and had the reverse experience. I could not afford any logo (supermarket brands for me only!) until I hit 50, only then could I afford, and felt my age needed, subtle small brand-recognizable logos. Also, I ditched t-shirts completely.
What about a Video how to act like a dekadent Jet Setter without Money,- like going to Grand Openings of exibitions ( free drinks and catering) or to Horse Races without placing a bet ( Sitting and cheering in the first row is such fun!) Cheers
Agree on everything apart from computer/video games. Sometimes you just need some way to completely zone-out from life and burn a few hours. And computer-games are a great way to just completely forget about everything and relax for a few hours and blow off some stress.
Another financial tip I’d offer is to be consistent with your income and overall wardrobe. As a student, I’ve made some large, impulsive purchases, as well as some well-thought-out ones. I once went to Suite Supply for a tailor-made suit, spending $2,000 without hesitation. On the other hand, at the same store, I bought a pair of trousers for around $450 with taxes, which was a frivolous expense. I understand that the fabric is likely high quality and will last a long time, but consistency is key. Wearing $400-$500 trousers doesn’t make sense with a $30-$40 shirt. It’s pointless to have one extremely expensive clothing item. You can find high-quality items that may not be Egyptian linen but are still durable and stylish, allowing you to economically own multiple pieces. For me, once I tried something on in the store, I felt bad backing out in front of the salesperson, partly due to my ego. We should also have a desire for consistency. Sometimes it’s beneficial to look for bargains and consider used items of good quality. If not used, it’s worth exploring alternatives while being mindful of the fabric. It might also be interesting to make a special video about fabric care, including cleaning processes and recommendations for maintaining high quality. After all, it would be a shame if an expensive garment looked worn or faded after just a year.
Those were great points, especially the one about watching “adult content.” That stuff is strictly for LOSERS! If I found out that my husband was watching that TRASH I’d lose all respect for him!
Video games! You hit the nail!!! That's i'm guilty!!! But i only play campaign games. never liked multiplayer games. But nowadays i'm playing less than i used to.
I'd disagree about video games. Having been a gamer for most of my life, I find it to be the most effective way to alleviate stress.. There are games, and games. Some pointless, and some really good which can teach you a lot (strategic, simcity builders. historical, etc). Also I contend that if one has an affinity for designer brands and possesses the means to afford them, there is no inherent issue. This sentiment extends to high-quality products, including luxury watches. Personally, I own multiple watches, including two prestigious Omega timepieces, the acquisition of which required diligent effort and career progression to reach a point where such purchases were feasible.
It’s all about moderation at the end of the day. I don’t have as much time as I did as a kid to play video games so naturally my interest and playtime has waned somewhat, but I still have respect for them. Many leisure hobbies are ultimately time wasters, but very few time wasters are as fun as videogames. I’ll always have a special place for Bungie’s Halo games in my heart, and Minecraft has provided hundreds of hours of joy to me and my friends over the years. That can’t be a bad thing.
there's nothing wrong with playing video games as long as it doesn't consume your life. henry cavill and daniel craig are both avid gamers and they're doing just fine
As an older traveled lady, I applaud you and your advice for a gentleman. You are right on all points. You are delightful! Thank you for sharing these life lessons with style!
I derive great pleasure from your videos, and I extend my gratitude. May I offer a gentle critique? The ambient noise level appears to overshadow the content. I trust this feedback proves beneficial in refining your productions. 🙂
Definitely not No. 1!!! 2. Only if I find a great deal. I can still look nice and not spend mega dollars. 3. Never have, never will. Caffeine is my drug and the occasional glass of wine or "fruity drink." 4. Okay, I'm a little guilty. I like a good burger and fries. But fast food is very infrequent. I avoid fast food joints a lot. 5. Gave up video games in middle school. I was always an active child. 6. Oops! But I've improved. But definitely not in cars b/c we have 4 drivers and I've never owned a new car. I can't afford European style cars here in the US. Too expensive for repair. Watches I like, but I have affordable time pieces.
Well done 👍 don’t buy things to impress people that you don’t like. Also I’ve yet to meet a woman who gives a darn on what vehicle you drive as long as it’s clean and reliable.
That's a great video! I like the way you're building a community or a society here! We have to bring back the gentleman clubs, and what gentleman used to do right there. A video about it will be awesome!
American made all the way! You’ll always have a plethora of options when it comes to replacement parts. Foreign is always gonna be pricey and if you don’t work on it yourself, you’re gonna have plenty fun trying to find the right guy for the job. I’m old school and love my Rods! …And between Motorcycles and Guitars, my money always seems to find a new home just well enough. Always get my drugs for free btw, wouldn’t have it any other way!
8:47 Agreed. Most old German luxury cars are money pits. However that operating cost can be mitigated by doing one’s own routine maintenance, careful model selection (I have an old CLK550) & subscribing to a proactive maintenance schedule. The motoring & ownership experience is delicious.
Good advice except for the part about buying a used Mercedes over a Jag. Jags are the best used luxury car value out there. But make sure to have a pre-purchase inspection done by a qualified mechanic (get referrals) who you can also trust to perform maintenance and repairs when the time comes. Independent shops are more reasonably priced than main dealers on both parts and labor. That said, if Jags don't do it for you, go with a used Lexus. Used BMWs are money pits and Audis are grenades just waiting to go off! Porsches are fun, of course, but very expensive to run.
I view video games no differently than watching TV, a movie, or reading a book. Sure, there are better hobbies to have, but to spend $80 on a video game that can provide hundreds of hours of entertainment is good value. As long as it doesn't take away from your professional or personal life, I don't see a problem with it. I am 32 years old, I have a wonderful girlfriend, make six figures, drive an Audi and wear an Omega. I also play video games ;)
A very few wealthy people got that status after doing a few one time very smart things. The rest of the wealthy people reached that status by a lifetime of not doing dumb things. This list is a good start on dumb things to avoid.
I've gotta attest to the video games. I still play some older, non addictive games just for a bit of fun, BUT I did waste many years of my life on the newer, far more addictive games from Xbox 360 and onward. I really did get hooked on the dopamine cycle of getting kills and achievement in the games. When I was out of the house, what could I not stop thinking about? Getting back to the Xbox and playing some more.
Sorry, mate, but I'll have to dislike this one. I fully agree with paid adult content and (needless to say) staying away from drugs or addictive substances in general,... but... when it comes to gaming I think its a matter of each to their own and you're putting too many perspectives in the same basket. There are more than one categories of gaming: online, single players with amazing stories, rewarding slow paced strategy games etc. Ultimately it is just a form of entertainment, just like films and books. When it comes to online gaming, I can see your point: arguing with 12 year-olds because you got "tea bagged" is not exactly gentleman-like. As for your advice on buying cars, a 10 year old merc is not the best example, LOL! Eitherway, keep up the good job, love the channel!
Holy shit yes! You don't have to be fabulously wealthy to be a gentleman. Pay attention. Eye contact. Don't buy or wear $120 tee shirts. Buy affordable but smart looking clothes and have them tailored. A $300 suit, properly tailored, will look a thousand times better than a high end suit that fits poorly. Another suggestion: buy a well fitting t-shirt and just use a permanent marker to write "Balenciaga" on it. Same quality, and a conversation starter.
All my life I’ve been looking for a sweater like yours so I could show my tie. But I’ve failed. Does yours have a name? Since my wife once had to have a Jag XJ-POS, I wondered what you would say about that. I’m not one to talk, though, I’ve had a succession of 4-banger Porsches. However, I could work on them myself in most cases.
Thank you for great content and a rather balanced, but clear approach. I almost agree with you with these advice. I do have a different view on the “video games” - I think a truly great game is an artistic masterpiece i.e. Kentucky Route Zero, which is a hallmark of modern scriptwriting, poetry and storytelling. I completely agree that seeking mindless rewards in online gaming is ridiculous, but the immersive storytelling possible through these more “Indy games”, which I would prefer to call “narrative” or plain “old school” is a whole different ballgame. Dismissing this would be like dismissing Beethoven in his time as being mindless, childish and a fad.
3:06 Rich people ACTUALLY use oxygen as drug. Quite often they get hooked on oxygen cylender for dopamine. They take a day off, go out early morning for leisure activities and come back to inhale oxygen. Entire day without getting tired... feels like being a teenager again.
The thing with the drugs... Telling the Story while standing in front of a rack full of the worst drug in our society (booze), is quite hilarious. Much more hilarious than the free-drugs joke.
hello james! ive occasionally watched your videos but i really enjoyed this one. i just subscribed to your channel. happy to say, the 6 things you covered are things i dont do. i have not watched all your videos, i'll have to binge-watch someday, but do you have one you speak about what traits, character and personality types are gentlemen-like? also, with so much attention to fragrance, what fragrances would a gentleman wear for younger, middle age and senior gentlemen? thank you
My gaming got my gentleman money… made me a senior software test engineer. Paid for my Porsche, Truck, Lexus, BMW motor cycle, and Harley… in cash. Paid for my house… in cash.
I enjoy that a young man is teaching his generation how to be that "classic gentleman." We don't need another generation of 40-60 year olds dressing and acting like poorly reared teenagers.
I stopped playing video games when my MacBook decided to quit on me. It was a MacBook Air that was made in 2015, yes it was old, but it was the best computer I ever had to game with. I played Roblox and only Roblox it worked smoothly, even on an old MacBook. Roblox was almost my life before it stopped working and the battery on it was getting worse year after year. But now I have the new M3 pro MacBook Pro 14 inch now, and it is working smoother than my old one and will last longer until I get into college. But I'm still not going to play Roblox or any games.
I can literally buy any car I want but drive a 25 year old VW polo,I get it it serviced every 2 years, had it 20 years and only let me down once. Wouldn't waste money on expensive watches.With clothes I buy mainly one expensive brand, Paul and Shark. Their knitwear and leather jackets are quality and looks good.Not to sure about their other ranges like shirts and trousers. I only buy them at the right price though.
I am always impressed by the quality and the thoughtfulness of your videos. Your recommendations always put substance ahead of shallow showmanship and by doing so encourage young men to pursue self confidence and genuine quality in their values and in their conduct. Although you are an excellent speaker and presenter, my only suggestion for at least slightly improving the viewing experience would be to have the camera cut occasionally to shots of something other than you speaking directly to the camera. Not that you don't do well in front of the camera but only that it would freshen the viewing experience. Thanks again for your commentary.
