How to Go to a Bar Alone 

No way did that really happen😂😂😂😂

No shot that happened

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Yeah, it's not a lost art. I started doing this maybe 20 years ago, and if I suddenly had to move to a new city, I'd do exactly this to meet new people who could help me find my way around the new social environment. It only seems like a lost art to people who've never left the town they grew up in.

Funny guy. 😂

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THIS

Thank god I'm already on the toilet i just pissed myself😂

The ancient art described here only applies if you're visiting a bar outside of the towns you know and are familiar with. If you keep doing it in the town you grew up in, it's just alcoholism.

Same! Been going to bars alone because friends don't either are locked up in relationships or don't like bars in general. My favorites are karaoke bars but speakeasy's are great and especially, scotch focused or whiskey focused bars.

It's nice to just.. 'be' sometimes. I agree.

Exactly man, just sit have a drink and dive into your own mind for a little bit and level out

As a bit more introvert type of person I think that for smooth enter to what is described here taking a bit more passive stance at first and allowing myself to just down a drink, or two while thinking about life and then go will be a nice half step try before active being social and it will be great space to feel the place a bit and maybe even process emotions from current things in life. After watching I'm eager to try but I'll allowe myself gentle enter before trying to talk, but I'll try to be open and nice if someone approaches me.

That always happens to me because I’m an extreme introvert.

That's totally how I used to roll.

Back in 2016 I found myself on a solo holiday in Washington DC during Christmas Week. Last night in town I decided to tick off my bucket list by visiting an American dive bar (or whatever could pass as one in DC). Ended up drinking and talking to this couple there for the next three to four hours; turns out that the female half was in the Navy and on leave for Christmas and New Year, and for whatever reason her and her boyfriend had the same idea as I did which was to go visit DC and the museums there. At closing time which was around 1am or so (honestly can't remember), they asked if I wanted to join them for more drinks at a friend's place "nearby town". Now me being NOT American, I had NO IDEA what their idea of "nearby" actually meant. Bear in mind too that it was my last night in DC and I was meant to catch an afternoon flight the next day to fly back to wherever I'm from, somehow I listened to my gut and said YES. Dude pulls up outside the dive bar in a Chevy Camaro; yes the exact same model as Bumblebee was in the Bayverse Transformers movies. He hadn't been drinking so he was safe to drive, and three of us just went off down the road to their friend's house. By "house", turns out that it was a freaking McMANSION-type place that was hella old moneyed, and by "nearby town" it was literally on the outskirts of Arlington Cemetery. Their friend was apparently an Ivy League college man who was house-sitting for his parents whom I kid you not "was off skiing in Aspen". Ended up spending almost six hours the four of us drinking and smoking quite a few spliffs and getting stoned before the boyfriend drove me back to my hotel in Georgetown to pack and go to Dulles Airport for my flight which was only like 4 hours afterwards. I remember my last words to them: "we might never ever meet again for the rest of our lives, but thank you all for making my US holiday so memorable and I will never forget tonight."

What a great story. Thanks for sharing.

@@Nelsonwmj you didnt ask their ig or something?

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Which bar in Berlin?

Thank you

@@Gent.ZI agree. Simple yet very impactful. I’m gonna start watching more of your content

But remember it's sad to go solo to a bar according to his majesty. Remember

Honestly I think we, as a generation, need this advice. Everything is posted, tweeted, filtered, and hashtagged that it almost feels... incomplete, or unallowed, to just simply... exist.

@@ravenillusion2596some people can’t be alone.

Absolutely

doesn't matter, bar is a place for loners too

I used to work on the road and I’d spend most nights at a random bar or local eatery in random towns across the US it is insane the kind of sincerity strangers will talk to you with when they aren’t concerned with how that’ll affect one of their relationships I remember getting coffee at my hotel in some flyover state and this guy telling me him and his wife were on their way to adopt their granddaughter after their daughter had died of an overdose Just exist, he present, and open minded. You don’t need to respond to everything and just listening and asking questions is all you need

not really, but okay

True and surprisingly I remember them well, especially in airports with random travelers.

Last point is really relatable. I'm a young fella who has been having a bit of a hard time socializing since I started working. Went alone on vacation twice already and loved both times. It made me crawl out of my comfort zone enormously, always met new people. A lot of nice ones, but also some strange ones.

@@mr.trueno6022 yeah Ive had some great vacations on my own. Also going off and exploring somewhere new alone when on vacation with other people. But I don't recommend it if you don't speak the local language - I had some slightly scary experiences alone and lost in Tokyo and Rio de Janeiro.

@@Peter-gu9phsorry about Rio, people are friendly but hardly you will find someone to speak English and give information, they will try giving info even it’s wrong… hahah. Im in vacation alone now in Malta, and it’s been good. Scared at the beginning but now 3 days later I understand that me time it’s good, and be alone with my thoughts became enjoyable.

You couldn’t pay me ten thousand dollars to dance. You couldn’t pay me a hundred to dance by myself. Similar with public speaking. Hearing myself speak in my room alone is almost as challenging as actually speaking to others.

Im going to poland alone for a week and everyone thinks im crazy lol

Damn straight.

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I hate the TVs, although, if done right, and the size of them.... There is a bar in Williamsburg BK that purchased those really nice Samsung Frame TV's and they show gorgeous changing art and photography. That is actually nice. All else, is pretty low level nonsense.

They are such a huge distraction.

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But remember its sad to go solo to a bar according to his majesty remember

Live don't just exist its fun not giving a F**ck what anyone else thinks

​@@splod44people for the most part are tribal and want to be a part of a group. You would have to be ok without that and also not be an introvert. It's a lot to ask, it seems.

Is it just me or does this guy not seem like the most pretentious person ever and thinks he‘s something better? The way he talks makes my skin crawl

Same here. Some of my best friends in my local pub are 50,60+

Agreed, but it is definitely shit if you hope to get to know some new females in your life though.

Even girls. There was a cop bar I used to go to. Incredible stories, plus very safe.

@@TeddyRumblewouldn’t mind handcuffed by a female cop lol

Cheers to that!

Lol ….

Was Otis Knight and the days playing, and did you see John Belushi by any chance?

@@_Coffee4Closers yeah, & did the brothahs walk over and go, "Doo you mind if we dance wid yoh dates?"

Everyone clapped

That's awesome, good for you sir! I know WAY too many people in my life that were in that same situation and instead of getting out there and mingling, they sat in the garage/house apartment etc. moping and hoping for life to get better. There's nothing like getting out into your community/surroundings/city etc. and meeting new people of all sorts.

@@jadizmit’s an easy trap to fall into. Some days I don’t feel like leaving the house, but I make sure to keep a good balance of “me time” and socializing.

I spent two years staying at home not socializing after my divorce. Went to this dive bar on a whim for karaoke a few years ago and have made some great friends.

@@moxdonalds925sounds like my story! I made some great friends through karaoke, too!

Divorce was one of the best things to ever happen to me. I know that’s not the norm, hope you’re doing well sir!

Ask, and don't tell until asked, has always worked well for me. Amazing what people will share when they feel that you're sincerely interested in their stories. I find others pretty fascinating in most cases.

What do you do after you take their pictures though? Do you just keep talking with them? My first instinct would be to take the picture and be on my way

@@silverdragon1000 Feel out the situation. If they aren't open to talking to you then yes be on your way. However, they might be open to it. In the situation I mentioned i did just keep talking to them. This is how the scenario played out in my case: I entered the bar and sat down for a bit. Then I saw the group of friends taking photos of each other. I offered to take a photo of them. They said NO! But then after 20 minutes they came back asking for the photo. And afterwards we talked for like 20-30 minutes!

@@silverdragon1000 scroll through their photos and comment on them.

@@silverdragon1000like the fella said in the video, compliment what the people are wearing, ask them something about the area, ask them what brings them out tonight, just break the ice as you are between pictures. Especially if you want one of them to smile more for the picture, give that person a genuine compliment, snap the picture, and keep going.

Indeed. I would love it if we could bring that back

"Where everybody knows your name And they're always glad you came You wanna be where you can see Our troubles are all the same You wanna be where everybody knows your name" It was literally that, I only drink a few times a year, and it's to celebrate with friends and it's always a good time. Unfortunately I don't think the bar scene will ever be what it was. Social media, the Internet and society as a whole has forgotten what a bar is even for.

Still is in Ireland. Because the concept of 'bar' doesn't exist in most Irish towns - but 'pubs' are everywhere. And - contrary to the notions of most Americans - the two things aren't remotely synonymous. Pubs are an institution there precisely BECAUSE of the inclusive all ages/family/village scene. A vibe entirely contrary the very IDEA that most bars tend to be founded upon - cultivating the target patron. Frat kids, bikers, punk rockers, Venture Capital wheeler dealers, sporting event fanatics, billiards and darts enthusiasts, LGBTQ. And most establishments don't invest any time or money in attempting to be all things to all of these over 21 crowds. If there is an analogy to this approach in Ireland, it's the place that everybody simply calls the local nightclub - a different species altogether.

@@chriscoughlin9289 "Pubs" are short for "Public House" after all

Nah mate its still like this in most places. Unless its a big rugby game or something people are mainly socialising

Norm!

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What bar? I’m in Boston too

Where everybody knows your name?

​@@johnconnors993cheers is probably closed

Drinking in itself is a dumb ass thing to do. Becoming a regular at a bar means spending lot of money doing something stupid. Unless you are a woman or someone important no one talks to you anyway.

And I am a man whos in his late 20's, though I am not a frequent drinker, I go to places alone and enjoy it. I had a lot of friends but in time I lost contact; most of them was volintarily on my side. Nothing wrong with hanging out alone. Actually, its much better since you can be totally yourself and spend time with yourself. Loners rock! :)

Get yourself a woman, it isn’t going to get any better. It’s family time

@@-Swamp_Donkey- nowadays its hard to come across with someone you can trust. Its easier said than done :)

You are doing in wrong. I walk to the bar near my house all of the time. It is great as long as you don't become a complete loser and start doing drugs and taking the slags home.@@elminero49

I hear this happen a few times but i think its a setup for a gay husband

@@Krisjoverovovejovovichtski They were both looking at me like I was food. Either that was gonna be a threesome, a cuck situation or an anything goes type deal. All of which I was NOT down with.

Yeah, those types are into that weirdo stuff.

@@Krisjoverovovejovovichtski Or a couple that swings and he just likes to share his wife. You never know unless you take the plunge.

@@ryanhorvath1308 whoah. Well arnt there clubs for that. Like that way everyones on the same page Not at a bar and oh thats your wife. Ok now its a altercation

I want to try this, but I worry about liquid getting spilt on my book.

Very good advice, sir. Thank you. I also like to dine alone but I prefer to sit at the bar as opposed to a table

Thank you!

Well you might be.

Nice!! 👏😊

They probably work for the bar

How do you tell someone politely that you don't wanna have a convo with them? Sometimes you just don't vibe with them or they are too drunk.

I often encourage my female friends to do this, and it's also a great way to meet people you might be interested in romantically

⁠@@Gent.ZThis gave a whole new perspective on what some of my friends’ parents mean when they say they met in a bar

@@retr0sfunkadelix This over dating apps, any day!

Whats the best way for a guy to approach you? Sometimes i see a girl i like at a pub or bar but feel if i just go over and say hi that its all going to go to shit ect. Will i come across too aggressive ect. Whats your insight?

@@Ojthemighty why do you think women go to bars? Bars are permissive environments. Rather than "go over" the best tactic is when you enter a bar to pick your spot in such a way that you are already in close proximity. If she's alone you can just say hi as you sit down. The trick is usually to draw her into conversation tangentially. Ask the bartender a question, like an opinion opener and then turn to her and ask "what do you think?". But if not already in close proximity then absolutely go over. Be polite and respectful of course and if she thinks that is somehow aggressive then that's on her. As it's a pretty direct approach then it's congruent to continue to be fairly direct. " I couldn't help but notice you are by yourself. I am too. Perhaps we could be alone together for a while,? I'm XXX". Same works with a pair of girls, just open them both tangentially off someone else. And any mixed group where there are guys and girls who may or may not be couples - open the guys first. Once conversation is flowing with them you have the social proof to open the women and see if there are any singletons.

I'm Irish and I'm terrible at this

Ireland is a special case

Why’d they take an interest in you ordering scotch? Is it a strange thing to drink at a bar?

@@bigt1703 People who are Scotch drinkers, know a good Scotch. When you're as young as I was, and drink Scotch, it gets attention.

Hi Chuck, it sounds like we have a lot of similar thoughts and experiences in going to a bar alone. Dressing up is a very important point for me, whether visiting an upscale bar or a dive bar!

Wow very interesting what you mentioned... I'm trying to attract some business men for mentorship... I think I will check out the airport ones...thanks for the tip

Amen brother! (I'm 51). I've also met some really unique people while flying as well. The world is full of far more interesting people than I would ever have imagined! Just say hi, ask some open ended questions and let people talk. Show a genuine interest in other people and you will hear amazing stories. As I read, I always recommend the classic Dale Carnegie's How to win friends and influence people. TLDR: Be interested, shut up, listen. :)

Idk man a party it’s so loud and energetic no one notices anything about a specific person, unlike a not as rowdy and crowded bar.

That’s been my approach so far in Chicago. Already found a great couple of spots

Any suggestions for nice spots in Chicago? The closer to Lincoln Park, the better! :)

@@peterdoubleyouz I’ve never been to Lincoln Park, but you should come to our Chicago meet up later this month www.gent-z.com/in-person-events

I've never read a book at a bar, but I'm intrigued to find out what it would be like. Remember everyone's name is important. I find it easier to do this on my phone rather than pen and paper. It's less obvious.

"be left alone" is key, I hate it when strangers talk to me. That's why I just stay home 🤣 I don't get people who go out "to meet people", it's just awful to me. No clue why YT recommended this to me 🤣🤣🤣

I think, in the right places, lots of people still like to swap life stories. Maybe these bars are just a little harder to find than they used to be

I went to a brewpub in a college town I've gone to many times alone. I'm always open to conversations with strangers. One guy started up a conversation and it turns out he was an engineer at the University working on one of the early Mars rovers. He said he was tasked with figuring out a way for the small rovers to see further. I half jokingly suggested they deploy a small kite with a camera because the wind always seemed to be blowing there. He actually gave it a serious thought for about 30 seconds and laughed that it probably wouldn't work. It was a great bar conversation with a complete stranger. Before he left he went out to his car and brought back in a topo map of the Mars planet and gave it to me and just said thanks. I've not seen him since. That was around 20 years ago. But, it's a conversation I'll never forget.

If you drink at home alone I am guessing you have a beverage preference for something you enjoy. Perhaps seeking out a bar that's known for that is its own approach, such as a whiskey bar if that's your thing or a wine bar. I'm into everything so I can try to meet strangers by the shared interest in the drink itself. If nothing else, you can try a brand you haven't tasted before.

⁠@@Galiuros that’s awesome

Me too, except I drink in the gutter.

Wow...didn't know you could do that...

I used to do that a lot. I really just like to read with a buzz. But conversations were fun too.

Good for you. Any decent-sized city should have a good selection of bars for any man's taste

^ As a relatively introverted person, I very much enjoyed the isolation of COVID era USA, most restaurants that were takeout only would allow you to dine-in if you were polite about it, and so I enjoyed many evenings chatting with restaurant staff and enjoying a good meal.

That's very true

Did yiu pee? What colour was it?

Thank your very much sir

Thanks, Scott. I'm glad you're enjoying the channel.

Thank you, I hope it inspires you to take a solo adventure next time you get the chance

Backpacking was such an amazing way to meet new people!