60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 17/33 - Many Insecurities 

Lots of homework done n experience in his talks.

@@itsnuffin11 and youre better now? tell some more

YES!! Amen! I dropped to my knees a little while ago with the same prayer of thanks. His lectures gave me so much

I know right 😂 . Someone finally understands what I've been through

Pharisees scribes hellow. If it smells looks act treat it don't negotiate thanks

however I have met very few insecure people that have anxiety issues once they reach a level of financial stability it is almost as if the psychological warfare operation of money is so deceptive that it actually can numb people from their insecurities by having large amounts from it in other words you can effectively numb your insecurities out your entire life as long as your money situation is functional

I do not mean that your insecurities would be cured because of money I'm simply saying it can do a good job of covering it and numbing it so that other people do not really label you as insecure

@@aaronmcpeakofficial6256 absolutely.

Me too. There we no limits on how much I could watch tv and its still my go to to numb myself because I can’t use drugs and alcohol anymore.

​@@aaronmcpeakofficial6256I'm sure it can. But I wouldn't recommend a lifestyle that way

"Now tell us about yourself" is a nightmare moment for me. I truly dread talking about myself, or anything that makes me the center of attention... Strangely, the more I associate with someone, the more exposed / uncomfortable I feel. I wish I could tell you something helpful. I hope you feel better soon 💐

@@AA-yb8rg thank you and all the best to you. "Tell us something about yourself" is awful for me too. I try to practice it in writing. Practice is everything right!!?!

good luck with working through your issues

@@marty4268 Thank you. I appreciate your comment.

Avoid the PRETEND ,GENERAL PATTON SAID ❤AS AMERICANS ITS OUR BIGGEST ENEMY

I am exactly the same.

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My ex-husband, who was himself 100 lb overweight continuously criticized one of the mothers in our child's play group because she was about a 100 lb overweight. He spoke so cruelly like she wasn't even human

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Same here

Same here as well.

I’m exactly the same

here's one trick I learned. And simple psychological tricks to ground yourself are the only ones that really work for me. if they're too difficult or require too much thinking then I get lost and can't implement them when I'm emotionally disregulated. here's the trick I tell myself. "Avoid mistakes as best you can. But every mistake you make can lead to something better." I used to associate mistakes with abandonment and rejection. It would destroy me. Being so guarded and nervous led to even more mistakes. It was a vicious cycle. And being so guarded and nervous would even lead certain people withdrawing from me. They had their own traumas where they would find emotionally disregualted people unsafe. Now I make mistakes, and I know there are so many positive outcomes that can come from it. I can learn from it, realize somebody has a better talent for it, or shift my priorities to find something I enjoy more. Mistakes are just sign posts to slow down, learn again, deligate to others, or encourage others that they're better at something; I know I'm also better at some things so there's an opportunity to separate tasks. Mistakes also allow me to learn about myself. Was I focused? If not, why? Is it a sign I need another strategy or path all-together? It's kinda cool. I make mistakes out to not be a big deal and I find I make less of them and deal better with the ones I do make.

Me too

I’ll round out this truma trifecta.😂

Imposter syndrome…

I get it. This is what I think, too. Starting to change even one thing requires my full attention for a period of time. I’ve found that even one conscious effort to keep going forward with whatever it is that I am wanting to keep as a positive habit requires my loving attention to changing the habit that I no longer want to engage in. Even doing one push-up is better than not even beginning to go to the 25 push-ups that I want eventually accomplish. How can I support myself when doing this new thing? This old thing may have served me in the past for my survival. I know that I will have some times that I don’t think I am strong enough to keep going. I want to have a healthy person who will support me in my efforts to change. We need to be willing to ask for help from others. It’s where we can get our support to help us keep going.Hang in there.

I can relate to you feeling discouraged. However, new insights are the first step to change!

I was so ashamed of my relapsing twicr that felt my story was of no use to anybody.

@@helenwarren5217 no way! Your story has helped me. You gave me hopw & support that I havent received. Im always insulted by family. I feel like im suffering alone. But you reached out to me. May God bless you foe you kindness & openess. Addiction is hard to talk about because we're always judged and condemned

​@kimpuchek1956 That's the mindset for change and that's where I'm at in my life. Less self sabotage, more healthy mindsets and actions.

I totally relate to your feelings. The mind is always trying to undermine my place of stability

Surely the wife would feel very VERY insecure knowing her feelings didn't matter to him or anyone in their cult, because she was just a se× doll for him?

Men really need sex.

I heard a christian lady say that that too, and I feel like it's a dangerous advice :( It's shaming and not being able to ever say "no" could lead to having sex even if you don't want to or feel unwell and it could also lead to abuse.

Find a nice secure bloke

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Check out Michael J Singer's views on life

I think it’s God-given? I’ve heard extroverts defined as those who get their “energy tank” filled by being around ppl, and introverts as those who get their “energy tank” filled from being alone. Both like being around other ppl, but extroverts “wilt” when alone too much, and introverts are drained by too much time with other ppl. There are degrees of each, too. Mr. Fletcher said he is “very introverted,” so he would need more alone time in order to be energized to be around ppl. I’m the same, whereas my son is ready for socializing after a busy work week; he happily anticipates time with ppl even if he’s tired. I, by contrast, would want to be home alone at least for a short time before being ready to socialize.

@@lisaware9697You know it!

Maybe it’s both - can’t be a fighter all the time it’s exhausting

I find this scripture helpful when dealing with toxic people Matthew 7:6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

@@traci6379 I love it, worth printing it on my tote bag , and t shirt, this should be psa and internalized by many ppl suffering abuse for not knowing better

The one I listened to was just drawing parallel comparisons to what he said , but from biblical verses

We shall Overcome

A bunch and they’re all gold

Not enough

Judith Cowan said that too❤