7 Dirty Secrets a Narcissist will Never tell You 

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Our pain is their joy . Our joy is their PAIN . 💯 .

We need to be able to charge narcissists with FRAUD.🤨

narcissists view the world in a very competitive way. they need you to feel small - so they can feel big. they need you to feel broken - so they can appear whole. they need you to doubt yourself - so they can be the source of all knowledge. they’re trying to fix themselves by breaking you. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

"You will always feel alone with me, even lonlier then you feel when you are by yourself." This statement gave me an eerie feeling.

They will never never tell you how evil they are

He constantly tells me I’m the problem. He doesn’t do anything wrong

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

You don’t need to know. Get out as soon as you can. They are just a waste of time. You deserve better.

I just realised after 40 years that I live with narcisist and have lost myself. It’s so scary.

Not all narcissists yell and shout although silently show all these traits... Often gaslighting you.. These people are more dangerous

A narcissist can destroy their family for a new supply. They can have a healthy family life with children, destroy that and feel no guilt.

They will never appreciate you for all you do very well, but will nail you for the little you didn't do

Feeling alone physically, mentally, emotionally and psychologically all the time - I dropped my jaw down literally how accurate this is. My cats and dogs give me more connection, support and love than he has ever given me.

Narcissists are like living, breathing forms of toxic waste allowed to escape into the environment. Unfortunately, there isn't any legislation in place to clean up this mess. Thank you to all of the experts who are educated in narcissist abuse and prepare videos relating to this important issue in order to help us heal and clean up this waste and the affects it has caused us.

Hie everyone I'm Thandi and I refused to be controlled and manipulated and duped and it almost cost me my life. Run everyone run!!!

"They are technically there..." I was married to someone for 12 years. I was isolated and alone for 12 years. It's a profound observation that could only be understood by those who experienced it.

He brags to others that I'm a doctor, while putting me down "you think you're so important ". Actually, HE feels its important, not ME. He's an embarrassment.

I know the narcissistic better than they know themselves. They cannot keep secrets from this Spiritual Mirror.

I can't wrap my head around the way they think and feel. I can't believe someone can get so messed up in childhood to think in the ways that they do. They are truly demons.

Secrets are their life. Their actions never match their words...I resonate with the competition and achievements things the most. Everything you do will be downgraded. Those people can´t lose they get literally crazy when they lose. (They always want to be better than everyone around them). They create an atmosphere to compete (they need the drama and supply out of those environments).

All true Gone gone. The damage done. It’s been more than 50 years, but it took me more than 50 years to figure it out.

So true. They love to tear a person down.

All of them! When we always change to to make this person happy over and over and over. It is Never Enough! It will never be enough. I love you. You are beautiful. You belong.

Danish, you’re getting me through a dark time and I thank you. It is heartbreaking knowing someone I loved so deeply is a Narcissist. But realizing this brings me to healing. 😊

My ex boyfriend started talking like me, playing the fake empath to people who didn't know him well enough. People began getting attracted to him more than before, thinking he was an empath, a bonus to his good looks and charming personality. But, every single thing he said was actually borrowed from me. Of course, this would not work for long, because his empathy performance was totally derivative. I left him after being with him for 8 months, the moment I started doubting him. I approached a friend who's a psychologist and she decoded his character for me. My boyfriend had both NPD and HPD. Apart from borrowing empathy language from me, he did a lot of other things which Danish has pointed out as examples of textbook narcissism. In fact, his mother was the master narcissist in their terribly enmeshed family and the family's dysfunctionality was cleverly covered up by their public performance of grandiose behaviour which easily impressed others. I was saved because I had an awareness of what NPD could lead to. I called him out, and, totally cut him off within 8 months, even before it had become too toxic.

I felt like I was in the midst of hell and that loneliness was the strangest feeling I’ve ever felt. I never even felt that way single! Energy is real. So are evil people

What you’re describing is a demon, these kind of ppl have a wicket demon inside of them, these is why they cannot love you, demons hate us, and when a person hates u secretly and there’s a lot of these kind of ppl out there. These is awful

Narcissists are absolutely brilliant to play with! If you know what you’re doing you can have a lot of fun fucking with their heads. The secret is to not give a shit.

My ex lied about everything his identity his work his addictions he lied about everything i dont want to go through that again.Aweful relationshit.

I unknowingly married a histrionic narcissist woman, foolishly fell in love and had a beautiful daughter with her only to be betrayed hurt and broken. I realized it was only a mirage, I fell in love with a mannequin. everything is on the surface, nothing deep, nothing spiritual. I was taken advantage of and used and eventually cheated on. She was involved with another man 2 streets over who I knew for about 5 years. Right under my nose. She was able to give me kisses and hugs, tell me what a wonderful husband and father I was while simultaneously visiting another man atleast 4 times per week. She was hiding her affair in plain sight

I resonate with each and every dirty secret of a narcissist.

A Bag of Dirty Secrets = My Father! Nice...

Every single secret I know and the more you pray you can’t deny this fact and not run!!

I even questioned myself was I the Narc am I crazy am I asking for too much NO it was him all I ever asked for the basic needs a person needs in a relationship to be loved , cared, for given emotional attention , their time compassion support someone to rely on NEVER GOT NONE OF THAT..😢

Was discarded by a narcissist boyfriend 20 days ago all of a sudden him saying we have no future together and our relationship will not workout in future after spending 3 relationship’s anniversaries together…he gave me a silent treatment and I gave him super silent treatment and looook few hours ago he came showering with all his love on my instagram posts as if nothing really happened between us. Allah save us from these a*******. NEVER AGAIN GOING BACK TO HIM.

I saw all these secrets in open view, this is exactly why i went over 10 years staying away from my brother 100%

Omg its like u r describing my situation... the only difference is he does not cut me off from my friends and family

Danish, he said to me, you very strong....and then I realise, why he notice that and tell me. So he tried a lot to destroy me and you helping me to awake, thank you so much.

Our pain is their Joy. That's nota a secret.

All seven. Every single one.

I went through all this 9 months off work with mental health issues he enjoyed me being totally helpless always felt alone more alone then actually being alone you are so accurate..thank you...danish

I don’t know how I coped for so many years, walking on egg shells, believing everything was my fault, no intimacy, thinking I was a freak, because he said so. Finding these videos has been a life saver. Your pain is my joy, indeed.

"Thank you from the heart!" I've been dealing with a Narcissistic stalker for over 12 years now. Watching your videos has given me the tool I needed to heal myself. I've been trying your technique for days and already I have noticed a difference. I did every wrong. Now I see and fell I have got a chance to free myself.

Wow, you summarized my 25 yrs with him. Every year gets worse. My ms was caused by the abuse and now he does not want to care for me as I become disabled. I only have my God Jehovah to support me because no one believes he is the demon I claim he is. But God sees it all. So Danish, you get it. Thank you for the knowledge and support. May God bless you as well.❤

All 7!! Cried throughout this video. I was so fooled. It started with my mom. Yikes! Im trying to figure out how to be ok

I'm literally laughing out loud from how truly ACCURATE this is, how truly REAL this is within my family and amongst so-called friends. This is amazzziiing!!....These people love to sit and wait for your demise or some sort of downfall, all the while, you're steady being blessed and overcoming these things and behaviors after finally coming to know the truth about these sad individuals. I used to think that I'd lost my damn mind when actually it was this horrible behavior and insecurity in these people that was the core of the problem. These narcs get pleasure from waiting and plotting the other's downfall, but they are only digging their own hole deeper, and deeper and DEEPER....Wow. Thank You, God for opening my spiritual eyes.

Yes. They are silent enemy.

My narc used to tell me to run. Who the hell tells you that? He knew!!

I experienced so much abuse as a child by two narcissist parents & then I got into a relationship that never cherished me.

#1) Sounded like my whole year of 2023. I finally got free of him in December 10th 2023. The police took him away in handcuffs. I always thought...if I can just prove he's cheating, he'll just leave. ( Please don't do that) He attacked me & choked me until I passed out. I didn't attack him, I was trying to run away. I didn't think he would do that.

The narc never tried to be transparent.

Yes we do need to have them arrested for their crimes

One thing my mom instilled in me was that life was not all about me. She did her dead level best to make me see that other people's feelings are valid and I need to be mindful of that. Thank you, Mom, for keeping me from becoming a narcissist and for teaching by word and example how to give of myself to make things better for everyone.

Spot on! Describes my ex husband & boyfriend! At this point, I'd rather be single 😃

You will feel lonelier with a narcissist than on your own. Everything else you said Danish is also true. I have experienced it all. Narcisists come to steal, kill and destroy.

I couldn't trust my narcissist, she would tell everything and make up stuff to add to it. I only wanted a mother to talk to, but never had it.

The very first "secret" resonated in me like a bell. Being with him at any social function was like being alone -- and I was alone in a room full of people, and in a wheelchair. When I pointed out that my evening had not been enjoyable, but downright unpleasant, he asked why I didn't mingle. After that I let him socialize without me there. I had a better time at home with the pets. At least it felt as if they like me.

Holy hell! I think he knows my bf! This is the best description I have ever heard! Blown away!

Yes, they have lot of secrets! Thanks Danish for revealing those dirty secrets. It'll help us in a greater way.

You're doing an excellent job at describing everything in detail. Thank you for the validating those who are hurting the most. Thank you for being honest with us. And thank you for taking the time to let us know that we need to care for ourselves better and not listen to the bull crap

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ u rescued me with ur videos from the 3rd narcicisst... Its now one week since i block him and today i start feeling a little better again😊 they disconnect u so much from urself, u regocnize this first after some time alone 😊❤

This is just too REAL! Thanks for sharing. 😢

Thank you. After 22 yrs and many videos this is the one that spoke CLEARLY to me 😢 its time

For me it's 5 and 6. My ex did a pretty good job in acting like who he pretends to be. But I found it strange that he wasn't even capable of doing basic adult tasks... I found out about his ugly side from his ex gf he cheated on. And yes he cheated with me. I've been speaking to his ex and put 2 and 2 together to find out the iceberg.. it was actually a relief to find out that he was lying to me like he was breathing. Watching your channel helped me to get answers to all the "why?" Questions I had in my head. Yes it was a waste of time but this was the final straw for me to go on a healing journey so I don't ever get in another toxic relationship. I am taking accountability for allowing myself to fall for this shadow puppetry

You be spot on every time. I resonate with most of them with my ex narc but, the one that impacted me the most was the lying, withholding information and mulnipilation. My withheld the fact that he was married in the beginning and throughout our relationship. I made it clear that I don't date married men or men in a serious relationship so, he withheld the truth bc, he knew I would have left him earlier on or right in the beginning. He strung me on for almost 15 years.

Thank you, Danish. Good insight. Which one, you ask...I think number six plays into all the others: I have been duplicitous all along. The narcissists ability to mask who they are is the number one way they keep up the abuse of their target. Sometimes the target truly is (not just feels like) the only one who knows the true colors of the narcissist.

That the narcissist likes to watch us tiptoe. I realized about 2 years ago that both my mother and husband are and were narcissists. Mother taught me to walk on my toes; my husband has reinforced this. I am slowly unwinding all the insanity they threw at me. I looked at what I've been though, and realized I am strong for which I am grateful. (FYI: There have been many other such people in my life.) BUT: I am alive and growing. I win, and so do you. Many Blessings!

Thank you for your work. Two of these were what I mostly experienced with my first husband. First, he seemed to be a chameleon: to have very few firm opinions of his own. He'd quickly flex to accommodate people he wanted favors or recognition from. I had this growing unsettling sensation that there was no one actually there, in his skin. Secondly, the gaslighting was exhausting. I was strong and sometimes argumentative; I'd fight with him and insist he said or did whatever he said or did, while he'd angrily try to convince me that as ever, I had it all wrong. During the divorce, my attorney went through our finances and discovered things he'd done without my knowledge or agreement. It only strengthened my belief that I was doing a very good thing for myself to get away from him forever.

What a "very shallow and empty way to live!I'm "Grateful and Thankful that I am Free of the narc I was involved with.🙏💜🙏❤️

ALL 7 tell my story! I wish I would have figured this out YEARS ago, even from the very first red flag!🤦‍♀️

It’s difficult to choose just one. You’ve just described my two marriages to narcs. These are their secrets to dehumanizing

Ugh, thanks for the very accurate reminder. I pity his new supply.

Thanks for making these videos. It’s keeping me sane enough to take care of my self more.

Danish...wow 100% ...you truly hit the nail on the head with these observations! Brilliant thanks

I lost consciousness from past 15 years

It was not till the end that I even understood what was wrong with her now that I know I can’t shake it. Every single one of the traits they described is her behavior day-to-day. And I saw a lot of red flags even in the dating stage. Now I know that her mother, her and her children are all narcissist. I cannot run away fast enough.

Oh wow….Dr. Bashir, you have just blown my mind. I cannot believe you summed up my current relationship in a nutshell. He hates himself, he hates me. He falsely accuses me of things I have never done. He insults me on a daily. I realized what was going on but not soon enough. I am completely dependent financially now because I was blind in the beginning. I now have a job but it will take a while for me to be on my own. I’ve always been independent but on the flipside, I am a very trusting person to a fault. I have finally realized what is really going on and am doing my best to get out. He is trying to sabotage my job now. I am not one to be taken down so I have been fighting back. I refuse to let anyone take me down mentally or physically. I need help please help me anyone out there please I am afraid for myself at times and don’t want to be another statistic

I don’t think they know who they are. They lack self awareness.

Danish, I think you are adorable. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge with us

I am so grateful for the knowledge and awakening but it's still so sad to recognize reality for what it was.

All 7 secrets are resonating with my case.. I wonder if these people can be charged for the wrongdoing! They keep moving, in disguise as if they are human... But they need a point out and arrested😮

All the points are 💯 correct....they will never be there when we need , if we are happy they can't see it and tries to spoil it no doubt in that... I wish I would have seen your videos 5 years back.... anyways now I am happy that I found your guidance a blessing

The way they can convince all about mental health and all negative things that are not real

I have bpd from being raised by a narcissist,went through a lot of trauma. So I definitely know how trauma can affect you as a child, especially if your an already sensitive/vulnerable child.

i have been listening for narcissistim in myseld from myself and im working to correct it. im just glad im not too far gone with it. i will keep listening and keep growing

Every single secret you spoke of relates to my experience. Thankfully it was only a brief time I felt it, but didn't suffer greatly. I feel sorry & pray for previous & future supply, at the hands of this devil in disguise.

Holy God......i cant believe this depth of conscious predation! This is another 5 star 🌟 lesson....to see our hades with labels 😢..

Dr. Danish,This was so powerful. You speaking in 1st person as the narcissist really spoke to my heart. You are very gifted and you have the gift of healing. Thank you so much for this.

I'm wants living on my own but narcissistic someone distrbing personal lifestyle. I always stayed alone silently but alas he comeback again. Oh my! Thanks.

All the seven secrets that you revealed here have been experienced by me. But the only thing that my ex accepted 1-2 times when our relationship came to an end that he never loved me and once he accepted that he is not like other people like he cannot experience any excitement for life, love and many more things. He broke up with me because I asked him so many questions and one of them was , "What is my value in his life?" He just refused to answer me and started blaming me for not letting him have his breakfast and asking pointless questions. That day I ordered food for him, he had the food and didn't even appreciate me for at least once that I really cared for him and at night he broke up with me. But after 26-27 days he messaged me again and told me that he cannot sleep at night because I am not there in his life. I can't understand what he wants. Anyways I have gone no contact with him and am trying to cope up with the situation just because of your videos. Thank you so much !! 😊❤

Yup. “Why are you so happy around others but fall apart around me?”

I don't understand. Why would someone torture you emotionally on a daily basis (with cheating, silence,contempt,push and pull, ghosting etc), but each time you leave, they try to make you go back? Makes no sense.

When my sorrow created joy and when my weakness gave them strength...it is truly sadistic. Awakened to all the energy they have stolen from me. Albeit a late to "get it" I have and will continue to walk away from the darkness that tries to attach itself to me to steal my joy, my love and my light. 😇🙏

Sadly everyone single one was on spot in my situation I’m currently in and I couldn’t thank u enough for ur videos they r truly helping me through this

Dear Danish, to me you are truly an earth angel. God in His mercy and love for me led me to open my eyes to the sad ugly truth. What a terrible mistake I would have made! Now that I know the truth I'm able to make the right decisions. I wait for divine justice! Thank you and God bless you for saving innocent victims like me just in time.

They will tell 100 lies , for them yesterday's truth is today's lie , today's lie is tomorrow's truth ,

This talk is such an eye opener and therapeutic at the same time. I mean, they are the very things you witness and hear on a daily basis, expect you didn't know they already had description out in the world. Eish! You watch the video with mixed reactions, frustration and loud laughter every time the narrator is spot on! You wonder how he could know your partner so well!! Chei!!😮

Had been dealing with a Narc for 4 years and in all these years, i never knew it. I gathered courage to go no contact after her disrespect. It was then that my eyes opened and i now get it all. She is a covert Narc

Are there really people LIKE this in the world, GASP?!