Yes. Planning and habits especially. I spent quite some time researching what I would do if I were homeless even though that is unlikely. When I was injured in an auto accident and my full baths were both upstairs then that planning meant I knew several means to shower if you were homeless...so I used that information to get a low cost membership at a local gym. It also made me realize that where I currently live is likely much better if I were homeless than the place I originally would have gone to without doing more thorough searches and planning. My current random planning is career/job searching. I figure even if I don't need the plan that someone I know may. Plus one of the first things I do at the first visit to a restaurant is to find out where the restroom is. Several habits such as studying at a local pizza place with a glass of wine. It sets the mood.
Well funny enough . I am researching my INFJ traits at this very moment 😏 I'm about to move into a share house and looking up tips on how to not act like Brainy Smurf and end up kicked out the village for being a know-it-all dck .. (I'll reel off endless random facts on random subjects - not everyone wants to hear 'em .. for example - I'd be watching movie with friends and it gets to the dramatic. Suspense moment and everyone's all quiet and deeply engaged in the movie .... So I blurt out "fun fact - fraiser island funnel web spider has a molecules that's being used to slow down heart cell deterioration in heart attacks" .. 👓
@@menophoenix3413Research the mother and daughter team who actually wrote the questionnaire on traits. You'll find neither one had ever taken a class in psychology, much less had a degree. The mother met Carl Jung once and might have copied his analysis on different personality types.
These videos are so comforting. Help me to believe there are others who understand our way of thinking. It’s not necessarily better, but is different and being judged without understanding is probably my biggest fear and getting out of the house is one of my biggest challenges.
Shopping lists in hand, stores identified, route and schedule all set. Not leaving house again for a week after the weekly trip is completed. That is true peace.
Well, no problems with leaving the house but yes, at home is where this type tneds to recharge the batteries, if one would want to believe this classification to have something to do with reality. ;-) Love for research and overpreparation- 100% true. However it des not mean zero spontaneity. INFJ does have "spontaneity" mode. It simply has to be informed ahead of having to be spontaneous to activate this particular mode. Otherwise, yes, epxect this type not to ever come underprepared to any situation.
Not only am I always seeking to connect dots, I'm also always zooming in and out my scope of perspective, preferably starting at the broadest. I want to see the macro in the micro and vice versa. But I _need_ to see the big picture first. As an innocuous example, that's why I hate the way modern GPS systems work more than anything. Don't show me the next step 300m up the road without showing me where I'm going and the broad strokes of how I'm getting there. I want to see the whole route first. Then I can make a decision about how important the next 300m are. If I'm driving from Buffalo to Dallas, I want to know, "You're going to drive West to Columbus, then cut South through Kentucky and Tennessee till you hit Little Rock, and then drive West again until you're in Dallas." Then, if I want to figure out how to get around Cleveland, I can zoom in on it. Do _not_ tell me: "Turn right in 10m." A) That gives me nothing. And B) You're not the boss of me.
Yep, every one. I had never heard the “not want to leave the house again…feel it’s not in their best interest” one before. My ears perked up. Because that’s sooooo me, haha.
Haha I always have to go against the grain. Always asking questions when no one else does. Mostly because I want to know how they came to the conclusion or to make them eexpaiinn further so the people around me understand a bit more.
Omgosh… every one of these are spot on for me! 😂 The leaving the house twice really resonated, once I’m done shopping, I’m DONE. I’m not going back out again.
Yes all true, I have to prepare everything well on advance, I don't understand anybody who doesn't make a list for every occasion. I am so relieved when outings are cancelled at the last minute. For me order over mess I am uncomfortable when my routine is interrupted. I mediated at meetings and am not swayed by emotions facts and rules should apply rather.
When I say I just made the executive decision the other day to cancel an entire meal I started because a key missing ingredient that I refused to leave home for. I an a homebody for sure. Resonated with all of these!
Things like "always make excuses to not want to leave the house" or "always googling things" are things that basically EVERYONE in this internet generation do. You don't have to be infj for those things to apply to you by a long shot.
I totally disagree. If I go out to do things and get home and realise I've forgotten something, then I will go out straight away and do it. I do this because I don't want any of my free time interrupted the next day. It makes me anxious to have it in the back of my mind that something is unfinished and will get in my way in days to come. On the other hand I have ocd, but I don't think that's really the reason I am like this.
@zma7707 believe me I don't. Since I have major depression and complex ptsd and ocd with servere anxiety- then there are only a few times that I am so highly driven!!!
@@deborahwales1717 I wonder if being an INFJ makes you more prone to having a sticky mind. I also have severe anxiety and OCD. I’m working through it but sometimes I don’t know if it’s my personality or disordered anxiety that I’m dealing with! Prob doesn’t matter really it’s all pretty tough. I don’t have complex trauma but two traumas that were preying on me and EMDR therapy helped quite a bit, and exposure therapy is helping w the anxiety. If you haven’t looked into those maybe give them a try❤ All the best to you friend😊
@zma7707 thank you. I was adopted into an abusive family and have gone through it my whole life. My understanding is that infjs and infps usually have a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder. That is the reason these personality types develop in them. The narcissist targets the child in the family that is a truth teller and has the most empathy and light in them. They set them up as the family scape goat. So yes, it is related to your personality type because early life events form it. I'm not claiming you had a parent who was one- but- I never learnt that my mother was a malignant narcissist and my father was a grandiose narcissist until I was 50yrs approximately. You see, when you are close to someone, you never even suspect. You don't see it because you think they are just like everyone else's parents. Then when you're an adult, you wonder why you have so many problems in life! I used to do therapy, and even have seen psychologists. None of them have helped me as much though as putting the bible into practice.
Yes. I like order and routine. I do everything I can not to leave the house. I Google every random thought that pops into my head. I may know something about a topic, but I want to know as much as possible. I have no problem being alone, I actually prefer it if I have to discuss a thought I tell my pup. He listens without judgment.It's not easy being an INFJ, LOL, but I'm happy with me. I assume family members and others, not so much. My BFF will say to me when she's telling me about something, "Don't ask me all your questions because I don't know the answers." She knows me well." Then I say let's Google it!" See! Not easy.
Thank you so much. Hearing myself explained in a video like this makes me feel seen and somewhat normal. It made me cry actually. All my quirks explained by my personality type is so comforting. I appreciate this video and you for making it ❤
these quirks are way more common than you think, one part are typical Introvert traids, others are typical Intuitive traids. As such most of what is said in this Video matches for IN** types. For example those exact examples also match me 100%, a professioally typed INTP which in the past also thought that i am an INFJ because of unprecise videos just as this one. Hower INFJs and INTPs are actually pretty different. As such don't just accept this answer just because it feels good. Try to really understand the matter especially if you want to use your Type to solve your Problems. ☺
100% spot on ! Seeing both sides makes life difficult , because we can't fight back decisively in case we need to, since we see the other side's point - that's what often makes us losers ! You got it in amazing , unnerving detail, especially the last point , The excuses to avoid going out and the only way I can push myself out of the house , the thought that I won't have to do it tomorrow - which links to planning 24/7 too. As for the googling, Pinterest must have freaked out ! Of course I subscribed !
Thank you, it's worded beautifully .. I didn't feel like a freak watching this one .. i completely relate .. it's eerie how relatable this is, fascinating !!!
Really love the ads for schizophrenia medication that pop into infj vids. Turns out there's an injection to cure individuality AND precognative theory crafting. Side affects listing obliviosity and servile complacency. Just love this world where renting headspace requires vacancy. Moo. (Baa?)
So most videos like this, I feel can apply to anyone. This is the first one in a long time where I thought “oh, they actually KNOW INFJs,” cause spot on, on every single point. I felt called out.
Usually when I listen to one of these videos there's one or two habits I do not have. But this was an excellent video and I actually have every single habit you mentioned. Although you didn't mention how annoying some of them can be
I've never felt more seen in my entire life. Things like not wanting to leave the house (ESPECIALLY when you just got home from spending all your social energy) like once my outworld mission is completed, I literally celebrate that I don't have to leave again for at least a few days at least! But yes, every single one nearly made me cry honestly, because I always feel like I am daydreaming, and people tell me that I am antisocial, or argue just for the sake of arguing- but they don't realize that I am doing it in good fun, and that I am arguing both sides. I need to hash it out so I fully can understand it from each viewpoint. Or the googling different research subjects- like they probably do seem random but to me I can tell you why I went down all these 500 paths in a single day. Anyways, I am glad I am not alone and I have found my peoples.
I love this video..i feel a sense of being understood and belonging knowing there are others out there who i can potentially relate to on a deep level. Ive only ever come across demon narcissists claiming to be infj but they were not..
Someone I know has said some clever things, like " If you want things to go awry, make a plan of them first" and "A trip that does not go as planned is a trip more memorable" and "When going somewhere else, you still eat and drink" (same as when at home, not really an extra cost to plan for). Words to take in, even if hard to swallow ^^
Relate to them yes. Admit to them - Never! - Introverted Misanthropic Hermit living in a windowless room built inside a windowless room. What makes enduring the public better? Here look at my pretty Huskies. Yes, there is nothing else to see but them.
sounds like INTP or ESFJ to me, both have the dyad of discovery but can fall into glutony where they stay at home and just bindge netflix without doing anything usefull
I am n info and theses habits fit me to a T. I can find any kind of excuse not to leave the house once I’m home. Like the dog looked at me and asked me not to go out lol
I unfortunately have all these traits. It is disturbing to realize that what you thought was only in your head is all written down on a chart describing your personality.
Speaking from my own experience, don't beat yourself up. Having such traits gives you a rich inner life most people do not even suspect can exist inside one person. But on the ther hand it's good to keep in mind lots of it is inside your own head and to remind oneself to get out of your own head every once in a while so that you would not end up being seen as too resereved or simply socially ackward.
I do not really agree on some points. Especially the devil's advocate for example. When i do it, it's only to defend a person who is not there in person and cant defend themselves against accusations. Most often i do not like that person but i do not like people going hard at someone not there. It's about justice not about getting all point of views.
You know how you know if you’re 1 or not? Pick a number between 1-10 and if it was the same one I was thinking of, congratulations. Thing is, I was thinking of the letter W. You want to be rare, special, and actually out for the good of others rather than just constantly rotating through a set of masks that try to show others that you’re not a basic dumpster fire. How bout a compromise..call yourselves Batman if you please, but actually take inventory of yourself an do all you can to extinguish the fire that is you, and me, and everyone. Because humanity is just about all ash. Maybe eventually you’ll actually look like one of those masks. At the very least, you’ll be a better person and you’ll stop abusing existence by being the worst type of dumpster fire. The one that says the burning smell isn’t coming from you, when it certainly is. Also, I love you all. Part of this was sarcasm. See if you can spot it.
Prob trying to see everything from every angle, it narrows down to the actual answer. Thats not being fake. Thats logical. But ill admit, i wish a sh student. The only time i got excited is when i tried challenging myself. By trying to write things from an opposite pov. Although i came up w/ sone whack things that i predictably knew would cause commotion, lol. Although im sure id state that before hand. Lol @ i legitimately had 1 of those all girl school catholic teachers. She told us stories of those nuns disciplining them & she hated them.
I concur with most But I do NOT plan, I prepair and collect information for the most radical outcomes I can think of And I most definitely try and get people out of their safe zone, by presenting them the worst view they would accept (devil's advocate)
what you descripe sounds more like INTP or ENTP for me, question is if you easilly initiate a conersation with someone else or if you are a person that prefers to get spoken to to start a conersation.
True, I partially match INFJ, and partially match INTP I lean a little more towards INFJ though INTP is due to learned behavior, that have worked better in my life
@@InferisDCB then maybe you are an subconcious developed INTP such as i am. I also got INFJ for a very long time in all tests simply because i knew i am introverted and as such did manipulate my own tests. If i deviate from what i think i have to answer then i get my ESFJ subconcious.
