7 Lessons Feminists Should Take From Bridgerton 

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“Never settle for a guy who only hangs out with you at home”. Period.

I would’ve chosen the prince, the most practical and sound decision.

Anthony bringing Sienna flowers was very symbolic of his total misunderstanding of her and her needs. A countess or duchess (like Anthony’s sister and mother) would have a servant on hand to take the bouquet immediately, but Siena is a middle class woman who answers her own door and would have to awkwardly deal with flowers in the moment.

Yes MARRY THE NICE PRINCE, they were compatible, wanted the same things out of life and she goes with the emotionally unavailable fuckboy... loving the vibes of the new filming space btw

The duke was one big flag. Yo, when he tells you he's not into marriage and kids, believe him and move on. And brother wanting to marry Daphe off to some creepy dude and scaring off all potential suitors? Wow, I don't wish to have such brother to anyone( Also, I'm so happy that you watch Karolina's videos too. She's amazing)

"people with money can afford to make mistakes" YES I feel that so much, I was so poor throughout my twenties (there was one year I only made 7,000, and I never did unemployment or foodstamps) and didn't make a salary of any sort until I was 32 and now, being able to make mistakes with my money and then recover is a huge privilege I will never stop being astounded by and grateful for. Also Eloise's "detective work and self-bang-cutting" GOALS

"Consequences are differente for men and women" this is SO my mom's warning

#3, so so sadly true. When my mom and dad divorced when I was a teenager, my mom had so much anxiety and depression because she would now be financially responsible for herself for the first time in her life. I promised myself I would always be responsible for my own money, regardless of my marital status.

As a gay woman that prince looked like a damn good option. lol

21:28 "If you're a man, you should probably get married; if you're a woman, don't bother" This is soooooo telling

Thank you for articulating how I felt about Marina's storyline. Obviously tricking someone into marrying you is wrong but given the fact that she had no good options available I still felt a lot of sympathy for her. Penelope's holier than thou attitude towards it all bothered me since it reminded me of all the times someone more privileged than me judged me for certain decisions. I still fume over catching heat from my fellow students in college for not making a donation towards our class gift to the school, which was probably something insignificant like a bench or some other nonsense. As someone who frequently worked multiple jobs during college and didn't receive outside support from parents this really hit a nerve that I'm still reeling from.

I would’ve married the prince so quick. F boys be gone

The fact that you know Karolina, oh my gosh!!! 💕💕💕

Chelsea, do a video on work and immigration! Would love to hear your thoughts, especially since yours and Marc's lives are directly affected by this issue

Quote from The Lobster (movie): "If you encounter any problems you cannot resolve yourselves, you will be assigned children, that usually helps."

!!!! Yes she should have married the Prussian prince!!!!!!! God, someone gets it.

I was not expecting that flower bouquet rant, it's just so *practical* that I couldn't help but laugh a little at how much sense it makes.

Never enough with the flowers bring me flowers everyday while I live.

Be upfront with who you're dating before the relationship gets too serious. I talked with my then boyfriend that l wasn't certain sure l wanted kid's, l felt it wasn't fair to either one of us if he wanted kids . He said he was good either way, we married and after 7 years later we decided to have a baby. Having our daughter was a great decision but we stopped there. A smart person knows their limits 😉

I love the analysis, I had not put into words a few of the thoughts I had after seeing the show and the lessons you got out of it are amazing! I am ecstatic that my finance sensei, Chelsea, also likes romance novels, but sadly I still see all around me even in this day and age many effects of situations that the show portrays, including the Featherington women completely ignoring their finances and how women have completely different responses to different decisions. I hope that this show, being so liked and seen, makes many women and men who sit and realize they too are recreating self-destructive actions to just SAY THANK U NEXT TO THE VISCOUNT AND STAN PRINCE FRIEDRICH!

STOP EVERYTHING! CHELSEA LOVES MEME MOM! I REPEAT, CHELSEA LOVES MEME MOM!

If your buying a gal a candle make sure she likes the scent!!!!

Yes! I was also telling Daphne, "Just marry the prince!" He was a decent guy! And she would have been royalty! It would have worked out fine! Just marry the prince!

Congratulations on being able to see your husband again!

I love how you brought up Karolina Zebrowska being one of your favorite youtubers!!! I remember your video a little while back where you ranted a little about women "having fought to not have to wear corsets anymore," and I'd bet everything I own that you learned about Karolina from the comments correcting you!😂

I read male/male romance novels lol. A quick note: a sexless marriage doesn't necessarily mean an unhappy marriage. There are people out there who, quite frankly, have little interest in physical intimacy. Of course, communication here is important, and you both need to be on the same page, but asexuality is a thing. Congrats on seeing your husband!

So happy we came across your channel! Have never watched Bridgerton - but will definitely be on top of that one!

Chelsea's information is so spot on, direct to the point and matter of fact. Something that very few can do and embrace. I am glad stubbled on to this channel and alerting other friends to this educational source.

How does chelsea always know when I just started watching a show or need a specific advice?! I feel this channel is stalking me sometimes 🤣 also just started watching Karolina and the mention of her here is either a cosmic coincidence or an even creepier algorithm prediction

"flowers are cumbersome. Give them a candle instead." FELT THIS CHELSEA

Okay I’m going to go watch Bridgerton now haha I’ll be back

Quick question: I also was reading there was a consent issue between Daphne & Simon. I was hoping you would address that in this video. Specifically talking about the one time where Daphne forced herself on him after she found out how babies were made. Thoughts or comments? I’m not looking for an argument, it was more of a reframing of consent in regards to sex regardless of gender.

Me watching this video while getting ready this morning: "Oh my gosh, she should totally watch Outlander. It's so good." *Pauses video to blow dry hair* "And then after that, she should watch Poldark. And then The Paradise (no spoilers, but Season 2 has a nice twist on what could have been a stereotypical romance)...wait, I think I'm conflating two of my fav RU-vid channels. These shows are more in line with Karolina's followers." *Finishes hair and turns video back on* Chelsea mentions Karolina: 😲🥰

LOL "Self bang cutting". I nearly spit out my coffee.

Part of what bothered me about Bridgerton was Penelope's character in respects to Lady Whistledown and gossip. In the books the Lady Whistledown papers were social commentary, not necessarily negative and never negative towards the Bridgertons. It was not malicious, scandal exposing gossip. It was gossip in the sense of fashion, and social tropes. Not exposing pregnancies and ruining people. And then there is the amount of time. In the books Penelope was a successful and anonymous writer for ten years. She did run her finances and saved her family's finances as well all without anyone knowing. For ten years. In other words the show's version is a poor imitation and tried too much to be like Gossip Girl than actually being Lady Whistledown. As Penelope was my favorite book character, It royally pisses me off and it has ruined the Lady Whistledown story line going forward. Because of course any female who gossips does so maliciously with no concern of consequences for others or herself. And that is what the show says. But not the books. Not Lady Whistledown.

Love the show, I just wish Netflix (and HBO for Lovecraft) could just have a pg13 version where they cutdown/skip the sex scenes so I could share this with friends and family.

One of the most thoughtful things my boyfriend does is cut and arrange the flowers in a vase every time he surprises me with them ❤️

Chelsea, I love a lot of your points in this video, but we need to talk about "nice and normal" Daphne. She assaulted her husband in order to try and get kids, and then gaslit Simon and claimed that his "lying" (can't vs won't argument was nonsense) was despicable. She's just as bad as the rest of the lot.

I love the original book, but I was totally rooting for the prince even knowing he would not get the girl.

Your breakdown of the characters was so accurate lol, I'll still take my flowers though!

You made me feel less unadequate in my point of view in life. thanks

Yes 2:50 I was screaming that she should marry the prince and I was pissed at Simon for not wanting a family for such petty reasons. Marrying purely of romantic love was a luxury and to this day is still a luxury, respect, friendship, and stability are far more important and the Prince was better across the board.

12:20 Also places a lot of unecessary emotional burden and expectations on a literal baby to "solve" all internal discourse

I agree with everything except I love flowers. Bring me flowers! lol

Thank you! It’s Fantasy. I like how it speaks to the way wealthy women had no agency. It’s also very different from the novel. I enjoyed it but not as a feminist. I just watched it to escape. How is France? Unfortunately, the trope on romance novels is always to save the Alpha males. It gets boring after awhile.

Every point on this list is PERFECT! You nailed so much of what frustrated me about the show as well. I had to make myself finish it but ended up being happy that I did, overall. Also here for the cute, French cottagecore video backdrop

I agree to all, expect the flowers 😅 I love them 😅🥰 Always, in any shape or form. Just stick them in a vase with water in the wrapping if you are headed out, and deal with them (cutting etc) once you get back 😄 I think in that scene with Anthony it wasn't the flowers fault 😅 It was him. His gesture was too late. And Sienna knew that he/they would be shunned by his social class. They were a fantasy that could never work. He could never make his peers accept her. And he would either leave her again, or they would both be outcast. No flowers can fix that. The only time I resented flowers from a boyfriend/husband were when they were offered as compensation for something else... When they could not make up for whatever they were supposed to make up for. When given in affection and love, they always bring me joy, and are the best gifts 🥰 And yes, the emotionally available, stable and kind hearthed man, prince or not is the best option 😊 Always. I was married to "a duke" during 14 miserable years. You cannot reform a man that doesnt wish it himself. We never got any children. Two years after the divorce I met my "prince" 🥰 Its such a world of difference. We have been together for six months now and I pray we will remain together... And children? I'd love to... A bit too early on in the relationship for it though... And also perhaps too late anyway. I'm 41 now. Just skip the regrets ladies and marry the prince 🥰

I can’t bring myself to watch this show, so thank you for summing it up.

On a side note, the chair you're sitting on is gorgeous 😍.

Yes, go with the damned prince. The emotionally healthy prince.

How did i miss this video? Glad to find ut a year later😊

My 21yo son asked me one day if I could change one thing in my life what would it be? Decided not to tell him having children was the one change I would make.

I 100% agree that the practical match would've been the Prince but Daphne really wanted to have a "love match" so unfortunately she fell in love with Simon when they were just pretending to be courting, so she couldn't help but still want Simon more, and like you pointed out she had the luxury/ privilege to choose a love match rather than one of socio-economic practicality. Also it's not like Simon was dishonest about his intentions-he mentioned he didn't want to get married or have a family so Daphne was the perfect shield from those pushy mamas- and he also did genuinely fall in love with her so it wasn't like a fuckboi leading her on, rather it was more of a lack of self control in the garden that forced them to consider actually being together. I also agree though his whole issue about not having kids just to spite his father should've been done in therapy and the whole narrative about the woman being the outlet for emotional burden is not healthy

Congrats on the reunion!

Appreciated listening to this Chelsea. Very interesting. Thanks.

I love how you gathered data and really worked on this, making it as entertaining as informative. Good job!

Your videos give me a lot of optimism! I.e. being Russian, the clock is constantly ticking to get married and have kids, but good to know it doesnt bring happiness necessarily :)

Fantastic video!! I’ve binged TFD videos for the past days and this is the best one yet! (they are all great though)

Enjoyed the show, enjoy you doing my thinking about it for me so I can imbibe while doing brainless work tasks.

12:07 'get married, have a kid next day' LOL

This episode was excellent Chelsea, thank you so much. Especially the discussion around who can afford to have 'principles'.

I watched Outlander right after Bridgerton! 10/10 would recommend.

I like the point about consequences not being the same for men and women. Men actually get a pay bump for having children because people perceive him as needing to feed mouths, versus women are questioned whether they can handle the work and therefore aren't promoted or given a raise. In grad school, profs will tell you its the best time to have a child but then if you do, will question your commitment to academia and research.

Oh my god I agree so much. This was so good! More please and thank you

Lol @ being in an "almost always" secure relationship with your dog. Where's the dog gonna go?

If you're in France, CELEBRATE the adventure! Show us some sights as background! I love the "Les Miserables" attic garret feel of your backdrop in this video....

Not every woman can change a man nor does she have to. Emotional instability only looks attractive in reel life and in books. Daphne underwent so much of emotional turmoil and she was among the lucky few to have a happy ending. But this doesn’t happen to everyone.

Finally, someone who understands me about receiving a bouquet

I agree with everything, especially the first point (that prince was really charming), but not the point about flowers. I love flowers, the bigger the bouquet the better!

The examples in No.5 strike me as problematic. As far as Marina goes, while not as rich as the Daphne, she is the daughter of a man who had enough money to loan Lord Featherington and she never expresses worry about money. When she thinks she isn't pregnant anymore, she rejects her dead lover's brother, and she doesn't seem to worry about what will happen to her, even though she is "ruined". It doesn't seem to me that poverty is the root of her despair, it's the prospect of being an unwed mother. As for Will, I find it rage-inducing that him committing a dishonest, possibly illegal, and dangerous act was presented as his only way of having some financial security for his family, when he has an extremely rich an influential friend who would most likely be very willing to help him set up a business or secure better-paid and more stable work. But asking Simon for help would be a hand out and so shameful and bad. Much better to go the gutsy illegal road.

Yes! What have we done to be blessed by this video ❤️

What a fun video idea. Loving your content in 2020-2021 more than ever. ❤️

On the subject of loneliness among young people, (I’m 65), do not under value the fulfillment that family ties can give us. If at all possible, nurture those relationships, though I realize for some, that’s near impossible, but for others, it is a wonderful addition to having friends or lack of. It rounds us out as human beings; as we are social/family centered creatures. Grandparents, parents, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, spouses, children, grandchildren...they all are a slice of our DNA and give us an identity we get from nowhere else.

Best channel on RU-vid hands down!

What I am taking away from this video is that there was once a U.S. Presidential race wherein one side's candidates were MCGOVERN and EAGLETON. And they LOST. This is truly the second darkest timeline.

Awesome pointers and these pointers made me think. Thank you and I have subscribed to your channel.

I know. I saw this show after the hype but I knew the basic gist (so the whole story lol) so I didn't know that she turned down that great guy. I was like "she's about to turn down this great guy who is also a prince for this man child".

Absolutely riveting content with FACTS! This is what we should be teaching in schools and colleges to young girls instead of letting disney lead them on. Incredible work done by the financial diet👏👏👏👏

I agree the prince was much more suited for a relationship, but you can’t really deny feelings and I’m not one to settle where feelings are concerned.

Just discovered your content! I feel seen. Obsessed.

YAAAAAS CHELSEA! Forget those flowers! Now I'm the one that has to keep them alive 🙄 It's a no from me, dog 😒

Uuuuhh I love this channel so much!🙌🏼😭✨

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Love Bridgerton as an escape. Such a cute show. That said, some of the regency practices they included in the show are insightful as to how blatantly women were seen and treated as chattel. To me, this perspective really hit by the fact that young unmarried women/childless married women needed a chaperone, but not for their own protections. Rather the practice was rooted in the property interest of future husbands who wanted to ensure heirs were their own. Just gross. In terms of personal agency, widowhood really seemed to be the best (but still not great) position a woman could find herself in, absent maybe the rare love marriage. Anyway, thanks for this video. Great discussion!

Thank you, finally someone said, the prince was a better choice and not because of the title.

This is amazing! I mean Bridgerton is so binge worthy, but you've hit the nail on the head with these feminism lessons

I dont know if marriage and kids are spoon fed to us now. i feel like its the opposite now. People encourage waiting longer to get married and waiting even longer to have kids. People think im crazy for wanting a big family.

I so needed to see some of this today! Thanks so much!

I think in real life you marry the prince but still enjoy watching the angst! But I agree this show would be so short if these characters had like any communication skills

I just love this channel!!! Thank you for the awesome content!

I kept skipping this video since I have no interest in Bridgerton, but after watching all the other videos I caved and I have to say... It was a fun little video. It would be nice to see these for other series/movies like when you all had that series on money in pop culture (can’t remember the exact series title).

That guy had so many red flags... the kid with loads of trauma is the one you should avoid. If he hasn’t seen a therapist and dealt with it, it’s downhill from there.

I haven't watched Bridgerton and don't really plan to, or don't mind spoilers. I usually agree with Qween Chelsea (in the best possible way), but I will say, that I'm not ready to give up the old fashioned flower-giving tradition until Men pick up slack in almost every other way in the household. At least if they are too much of a child to know how to cook anything other than pasta, won't even bring their dish to the sink after being waited on hand and foot, the least damn thing they can do is get me some pretty ass flowers. Like bare minimum. And while I agree that in order to reduce gendered norms in the house, we should proactively quiet gendered traditions like bringing flowers, I'm sick of having to be the gender that takes all the first steps. Like sheesh, now not only am I doing all the cooking and cleaning and saving money while the other is a kid with a credit card, and grocery shopping and meal planning . . . I now ALSO find myself taking out the trash and recycling and stopping at the hardware store and installing crap myself *in the name of trying to relieve gender norms*. F that noise, I'm done, bring me some god da*n flowers if you're gonna sit on your lazy butt all day. Oh wait - I pick up my own flowers when I go to the grocery store too. At least with the joint account, he can pay for half that shit. End of rant.

Such a creative and fantastic video would love If you would do a series using pop cultural phenomenon as the launching pad to discuss finances /

I agree on your opinion man, generally I always look out for it to dumb so I can purchase some more truly I believe it has come to stay

I am confused. I never watched this show. So I don't know anything about it. I only listened to what you are talking. So can you Please to me what this have to with Feminism and Feminists.And what feminist should learn from this?

As a big fan of Outlander, it's less of a romance than it seems. Like yes, it centers around one but there are also a lot of intrigue and adventures, and scenes from domestic life

Chelsea: "One of my favourite RU-vidrs, Karolina Zebrowska_" Me: SPITS TEA "IT'S MEME MOM!" But seriously, check out Karolina's video, it's not only informative and educative but also very entertaining. Likewise, Mr. Zack Pinsent Tailoring's video on that is also just brilliant, he really spills the tea guys.

5:40 yes! Everbody needs to hear this part on repeat