7 Signs Someone is TOO Into You (Limerence) 

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1. Constant Contact 2. Physical Clinginess 3. Grand Gestures 4. Idealizing You 5. Loss of Identity 6. Can't take no for an answer 7. Extreme Jealousy

Someone who can’t take no for an answer is one of the biggest red flags

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“And to any one on the other end experiencing limerence, maybe it’s time to stop seeing love where there is none and move on to find real happiness and real love”. PERIOD. That’s a bar 🔥🙌🏽

Not me watching this just to find out that I'm "the bad guy" 🥲 Thought I'm trying my best not to be like this, but low self-esteem makes people do desperate things sometimes 🥲 And that's the learning curve.

I was scared of being like this but then I realised,that the difference between a obsessed person and a person who truld loves you is that a person who is obsessed only cares about them and that they have you,meanwhile a person who loves you truly,wants you to be happy, and if you are in a relationship or ended a realtionship they keep a respectful distance and make sure that they dint cross bounderies

In Psychology, limerence is a state of involuntary intense romantic desire for another person. Did you know Limerence is similar to love in some ways, but it's not quite the same.

it’s surprising how quickly I clicked on this video when I’m well aware that I’ll be single for life (HOLY SHIT, MY CRUSH ASKED ME OUT THE DAY AFTER COMMENTING THIS !)

Happened to me for 2 years. This girl had a crush on me and at first, I thought that it was just a small crush and she'll get over it after she tried finding ways to talk to me or randomly popping up where I was. After a while, anyone would notice. I thought she'd give up when I displayed absolutely zero interest in her but it got worse. It got to the point of her lying about us being in a relationship and telling people that *I'm* the one whose infatuated with her and that I only see her despite us barely ever talking. One girl even noticed this and asked her then why have I not looked or even talked to her to which she kept quiet. People who dream of having someone whose obsessed with them shouldn't. The person is obsessed with the image they have of you. This girl even once claimed to her friends that I had some sort of abilities. Yes, I mean superpowers. How? I'll never know. If communication doesn't work, ignore them, seek help from friends, talk to a guardian or a trustworthy adult. If all else fails, consider reporting it to officials. Honestly glad my case wasn't those ones where the person stalks or kidnaps you. Won't dive any further into detail just in case she finds this

I feel like everyone has experienced or have done this at some point in their lives.

My limerance-antics came from my attachment wounds. I have c-PTSD and recovering. I was very exhausting to be around with and it also took a strain on me because I was desperately searching for a safe home and love outside of myself, especially from emotional unavailable people. It felt like an addiction and I believe I was addicted to my own stresshormones without realizing it. Now I am single for about two years now and I have to say: I like myself more.

Watching this to see if I'm too obsessed with my boyfriend haha

1. 0:47 constant contact 2. 1:09 physical clinginess 3. 1:37 Grand gestures 4. 2:13 Idealizing you 5. 2:38 Loss of identity 6. 3:04 can't take no for an answer 7. 3:32 extreme jealousy Hope this helped!

I'm guilty of limerance, I can own it out loud

This vid made it clearer and easier to identify behaviours of limerance than most 40 min long videos I've seen in this website.

Ah. That will explain my one dating experience in university. I had one person who was that way and... to put it simply: I was terrified.

I woke up thinking about him, went to sleep thinking about him. spent all my money to see him. worshiped him. He says he cringes at me. he says im annoying. and worse ..shallow. I am chronically empty. and all i wanted was to fulfill him.

Omg thanks I needed this!!! (I don't interact with people)

I don't know if the comment I made a few videos ago is what inspired this video to be made but either way I'm glad that you shed light into this topic. A lot of people should know about Limerence and how it's different from real love, thank you for the great video! :D

I was watching your videos yesterday and I cried so hard. I feel like a failure for not getting my ideal grades and I’m afraid I would not have a bright future. I always wonder what went wrong with my life. That was the first time in a while I cried so hard,and so much. Thank you Psych2go for making me realise there is hope.

I rather deal with this then an avoidant, someone that doesn' t show affection and/ or emotions and who can' t/ don' t or won' t keep their promises but I believe like anything you need balance.

feels illegal to be this early

Honestly, quite informative for me, someone who is experiencing attraction for the first time after 19 years trying to gauge just how strong feelings are supposed to be. Thanks!

Hahaha I’m too into somone and it shows but I still play it cool like I’m ok either way , it’s my way of letting somone know that although I want you I’m ok if you don’t want me cuz I love myself , plus I don’t like constantly worrying about if somone is cheating anyway .

okay cool vid. now make one on how to stop limerence cuz i legit blocked everyone else out of my life last week just for this one person, even though i love them in a platonic way.

Not even sure if I ever loved anyone or if I was just limerant :/

After meeting a person like this, it was buddhist teachings that taught me how Loving someone is wishing for them to be happy Fake love is wishing for the other person to make YOU happy. Attachment and desire lead to suffering, and they'd be putting their happiness in the hands of another, in this case, us.

I'm actually glad I came across this video! I've only recently started putting myself back out there. I went out for the first time with a girl, and I found myself really attaching myself internally towards her, and perhaps started showing some of these signs that were mentioned. However, I am catching myself doing this, and so I've been taking a step back to really think about what I'm doing and if it's healthy or not. Basically I'm fighting against my strong emotions, but I do need to keep myself in check or else I could find myself really going down this road of Limerence. Hence I'm glad I came across this video which helped me make some sense of what I've been feeling, and how to proceed in a healthier way, even though it's easier said than done 😅 I really do like this girl, but she said she was moving soon, and so, I had to really respect her decisions for herself, and try to calm my feelings towards her down. It just sucks because she really is an incredible person 😔

After watching this video, before you go and break up, first try to talk things out. And try to give it a shape as long as you can afford it. If it starts to take genuine tolls on you, I believe then you can move out. ❤

Omg! I have someone like this in my life at the moment. Limerance is something that is equal to victimized. It's exhausting and very annoying.

Thanks for useful information.

As someone who's prooobably experiencing limerence, starting to come to terms with it, and just now trying to remove myself out of that state, this was rather painful to watch.

This is my ex. No effort once I was actually in a relationship with him, but after a breakup- all the things. And definitely wouldn’t take no for n answer. He always assumed we’d get back together. Took me getting married and moving to a foreign country to get him to leave me alone.

making sure i'm not too obsessed:

Thank you for sharing 👍🏻

I am currentky facing a situation like those I have this friend who's for some reason obsessed with me, and I am just gentle and respectful towards her, nothing more. At first I didn't notice, but now it's overwhelming, jokes, pet names, and always telling me how attractive I am and openly flirting with me since "its clear that you dont like me, its just a joke". I only wanted a friend, gosh😓

There is no differense between genuine love and limerance, basiclly the same feeling, but in one way it ends well in another it ends not very well. So difference is only in result in proccess of feeling it feels pretty much same.

Woah! A lot of people are really concerned about their psych issues!

Limerence is cool and all until she blows up your phone at all times of the day demanding a conversation and at night too. I out my boundaries down a little too hard though, was toxic, she split up eventually. Then I became limerent. Funny how life goes.

Yes i have but its hard to let them down gently without offending them

This song and scenes are so perfect for everything I have been considering. The ad I mean. I think it's called Enter the Void

This explains so much

Yep 💯 I really like this video

YAY IM EARLY FOR THE FIRST TIME :DDD btw cute characters 🥹🥹

yayy new video 🥰

As a recovering limerant, who once binged on content to fit a 'love' agenda, I think this is a very important video to have been published.

After watching this, i now know why i constantly get friendzoned. I never knew i was the guy with limerence during courting stage. Now this video serves as a video of "7 things not to do when ure courting someone" and ill make sure this will never happen again

I have been guilty of limerence and had been like this but that person ditched me.😂😒

I have limerence as far as I'm concerned. I am brushing my hair, studying and wearing clean clothes again since the last time I used to do these things. I wish it's true love. Otherwise, I will go back to my old self, with no future plans.

as someone that experienced intense limerence for over a year... very unfortunately true! i did every single one of these things. it did not end well. dont do that. if you truly care about someone, break out of that delusional state

I just find out that I was limering so hard , almost every sign. Damm 💀💀

You may be helping us figure out if someone is way too into you. Maybe you're great at doing that. Sure, I think you're wonderful at doing that. Is it maybe getting a little old? Have you every considered something outside of dating videos? I'd like some more videos about the dark quadrant or triad if you're interested, like what happens when this duo meets scenarios. There's something especially unique about your channel, but I just can't pinpoint what it is. The animation part is especially entertaining and makes psychology very good to retain information from.

What I've gathered from these videos is that eventually everything you do is bad or wrong, so why bother.

He was exactly like this. It was my first love so I didn't really think much of it... but now I'm realizing that once we got to know each other better, he started to lose interest and broke up with me.....

Woah... I am too early and i searched the channel, not via suggesting that too after several months. 💀

No going to lie in needed to watch this

I watched this thinking it will describe someone ik but instead it's me- wow!

This is really true, I was in a relationship with someone who was like this so we had to break things up. It got really overwhelming. We're still talking tho

Timestamps 1). Constant contact 0:46 2). Physical challenges 1:08 3). Grand gestures 1:37 4). Idealizing you 2:11 5). Loss of identity 2:37 6). Can't take no for an answer 3:02 7). Extreme jealousy 3:31 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

I couldn't help but notice the background music and think back to dankpods singing about the eBay "slash and dash" stories

I've spent the past few years working with therapists on how to change my behavior away from Limerence, which I developed as a kid to overcompensate for being abandoned by my family. It's easier than most people think to start out in a position of genuine attraction/love for someone and have it devolve into Limerence due to trauma-induced anxiety and fear over rejection/abandonment. That cost me a potential relationship with someone I loved very much, and over a decade later, I haven't dared go back into that arena again because I don't want the cycle to continue.

I’ve just been pushing everyone away at this point …. Feels like it’s easier lol

I actually really did like him I even grew to love him because we spent so much time together but the intensity at the beginning literally shocked me. I had never experienced that before. I didn’t know about limerence either and I didn’t think it was harmful I had been limerent before so I wanted to hold space for that.

I can relate. . I'm into this girl (definitely limerence) she said she needs a break and will contact me after she gives her exams i feel empty now.

Its always the ones u not attracted to that have limerance towards u 😂

I thought I was in love with my last crush, but seeing this video makes me question myself. A lot of these points were there, though it was more mild than the examples given here.

Me clicking and watching this video just to find out that my last toxic relationship was EXACTLY this. I went through someone who was blinded with limerence, and honestly it is so exhausting. And it is the reason I am still on an ongoing 7 month self care break, to which I will hopefully get to a year

Im in loveeee, and i cant tell if im delusional or not😭

Woah this popped up!

In my opinion, watching from a distance it's kinda sweet I feel like I can see the intention behind everything and it would be kinda flattering to be with you and if you aren't willing to put in the same sort of effort then that's when it could seem overly clingy and concerning But as for me, person of my dreams 🥰

3 ways they're extremely manipulative and toxic: 1. they breathe me: 😥

I used to call my wife from work for years and years just to hear her and check on her and my son. I've been "into" lots of things in my life, but my woman has been the sole object of my desire for more than half my life and ain't nobody "into" me anymore. I wouldn't know if anyone was into me to begin with, but I have experienced and am guilty of this "limerance" stuff at places I've worked. I was fool for thinking I could find something lost in someone else...

My ex-girlfriend were all of these, except for the idealizing-part. She often ridiculed me, and tried to change me. But after the relationship, i developed some kind of phobia for needy/clingy people

Psych2go helped me alot😢

I used to be this way... Thank goodness I broke free! The after-effects remain though, still lingering and ruining it for me

You also need a taken consideration that people especially males are extremely lonely & many are either ghosted or turned down so you can expect it to amplify

This happens to me with friends!!!!!!! They get waayyyyy more attached to me than I do to them 😭

This opened my eyes thank you so much

Too bad this video wasnt there when i was in a relationship exactly like this but this also validated my experience and that it was a toxic relationship and that it wasnt just in my head

some of these can come from autistic individuals (diagnosed or undiagnosed) feeling an intense passion towards you (usually as a result of our isolation from multiple experiences of social rejection, then finally being accepted by someone after a long social drought of sorts). the behaviors you might observe from one such autistic individual: - "constant contact" (we can still be educated on respecting boundaries and timing messages for "this is when i'm usually available") - "loss of identity" (laser-beam focus of getting to know you to the point that they want to study everything about you. might not actually be a total loss of sense of self, just tends to come across as an obsession) - kinda but maybe not "can't take no for an answer" (we do question &/or debate to try to understand why we're refused, but our questioning is not necessarily a refusal of your refusal, we're just trying to understand. usually after clarifying the why and how of the what, we can understand, presuming that the autistic individual involved has enough maturity and emotional stability to meet halfway in this conversation)

this can happen by being led on. still there is only so much you can do to gain a date before moving on.

Watchig this as if Im not the one constantly chatting people 💀

Cute ☺️ characters.

I’ve been on both ends of this in my 20’s. It’s hard

I have experienced something like this but there was immediate stalking from the beginning.

I getting mixed feelings from my crush, he always says hello to me when we see eachother in the hall and does some other things that makes it feel like he likes me but then he keeps moving to seats further away from me in class

Yep never gonna have to deal with this lmao

I feel sad that most of these signs apply to me except for the last 2 I would say and even more sad that you suggest a break up at the end :( because I love my partner so much

I feel like I was limerant but its hard to say if I actually was. Originally, I had friends I made at the start of the school year, but I gave them all up whenever I met him because I wanted to spend more time with him, and in order to do that, I felt like I had to be friends with his friends as well because they would literally never be apart from each other. And its not like I hated his friends either, our interests matched well and they were funny people I enjoyed playing video games with. Thats something I look in for all my friends, people that play video games that are good at it, which is why I was willing to give up my previous group of friends. Because they played games, but they weren’t good at it. I wouldnt say I lost my sense of self, my boy friend and I had a lot of similarities so I never felt the need to change who I was for him, like adapting my interests and stuff, although he did influence me changing what I wanted to be majoring in but I feel like that was inevitable. I originally wanted to go to dental, but him wanting to be a nuclear engineer made me realize my 7th grade dream of being an aerospace engineer was possible because 1. I would be smarter than him if we were in the same grad year (he was taking calc 1 as a senior, I would be in Calc IV) and 2. i was more creative than him. Those were the two factors that drove me away from engineer and made me want to major in dental. Because I thought I was too dumb and not creative enough to be an engineer. But he wasnt really the only factor that drove the change so I dont think that counts as me being limerant. I changed because I plan on graduating my junior year, its coming up pretty fast and I only technically have one year left to decide between medical and engineer so that lead me to think of pros and cons. I realized I didnt want all the other responsibilities of being a dentist, because that requires me to be a leader, and a business woman who has to manage finances, manage and operate the office on top of keeping my workers happy and keeping on top of the newest dental technology to further my craft. Id rather work for someone and not have to worry about all the extra leadership and financing. I freaked out whenever my boyfriend didn’t text me back for 4 or more hours because I know he’d check his phone often and be scrolling on reddit, so I guess I just thought that if he has enough time doing that, why wont he shoot me back a quick text? Because more often then not, after leaving me unread for four other more hours, and one of his friends text in the group chat, he’d reply to them immediately and proceed not to reply to me. Over time, it became increasingly frustrating for me and Id practically demand time from him, of course to which he said no. Because he’d always be hanging out with his friends or whenever he said he’d work on homework, his friends would drag him outside to have fun, and his homework time would chip into his time with me so whenever we hung out, it would always just be him working on homework. Which led to our breakup.

OMG IM EARLYYY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

In my opinion if you say “no” and they ask “why ?” You should explain your feelings why you feel that way and say I need to be by myself. If you just ignore their messages it starts to become ghosting which can be considered emotional abuse since it’s intentional. To some who say “you don’t owe them anything”my response would be you’re likely not being the better person by ignoring and not explaining. Being the better person isn’t easy, it can be hard. Ultimately this is natures test of your parenting skills since they need to explain the world to a child who likely doesn’t know. If you can’t explain the toughest topic then perhaps it’s a sign you haven’t fully matured either and that’s okay. If you’ve explained yourself and they still don’t understand you may move along at anytime you see fit; just bow out respectfully.

When you look back on your past crushes and realize they've all been limerence, you've never known what real love feels like, and you worry that there's no point in trying to find love anymore because limerence will just take over any crush you get in the future. :/

No, no, no, no, no, no and no. Damn...😢

So true

I have a request video I’ve subscribed already and i wonder can you make a video about how someone with bad mental health get help but struggles to how do i get help without saying i need help?

I called this immaturity

I feel like this can be applicable to non romantic relationships as well.

guys i thought i had limerence but after watching this video, i think i was in love💀💀💀

Wow, something I can actually relate to in this channel. I have someone who is like this with me. They're doing exactly the things in point 1, 3, and 6.