The most important thing in any relationship is caring for each other and having a sense of us-ness (sorry couldn't really find a word for it). And when dating someone who is really socially awkward, reserved or just really introverted you just have to take the time and grow into it together. Don't try to rush things or everything will just crash. I'm with somebody for a year and a half who has social anxiety and is usually the awkward type when it comes to group settings. And here's what I've learned, Everybody is different, not just a little bit different but radically different! Just because they are a bit awkward doesn't mean they fit every mould in your head. So, I think we should just forget our expectations and observe people as who they are. And then decide what we like about them and what we don't. Please remember in a healthy relationship any unhealthy behaviour from either person has to be resolved through mutual agreement, communication and patience. Also, spending quality time is key. Simply doing things both of you enjoy. Don't force yourself or your partner to do something you or they don't like. The former is the mistake I made. Just do simple things, nothing too extravagant. Your goal should be to grow closer, not impress the other person. And for the awkward silences, in the beginning, you have to get used to asking most of the questions. But remember, not to go too deep too soon just stay on the same wavelength. Soon enough you'll get used to just sitting around, having coffee, just chilling together in silence. Sometimes even saying nothing and just being together can be the greatest gesture of affection!
Amazing comment! More people should pay attention to this. I'm the more socially awkward/anxious/introverted one in my relationship while my bf is extremely extroverted with endless energy. We always "worked," though, as he's so open, confident, and holds no judgement so even after the first 5 min of knowing him, I felt completely at ease around him and could let my walls down, something I had NEVER done so quickly before. It took a little time to figure out all our quirks, but he eventually learned that when I get really quiet or just give short one-word answers, I'm not angry but instead hitting a low point in my energy levels and need time to relax and get it back up. Relationships are never a "one size fits all" thing. We are all individuals and should be treated as such. If someone truly cares about you, they'll accept you, faults and all. It may take time, but being open about what you're feeling is key to understanding each other. No one can read minds, and for example, if I never told my guy about my energy draining in social situations, he probably would have always assumed I was either being super shy or was upset at him. It's a two-way street. He gives me the time I need to recharge, and I give him time to be as outgoing as he needs to be. We go out and do a variety of things together, but in situations that would be majorly stressful to me, I have no problem "letting him go" to be his endearingly obnoxious self. 😊
0:26 They become silent and fidgety around you 0:56 They create opportunities to be around you 1:34 Talk to you online 2:09 They seem to be imitating you 2:28 They struggle to make eye contact with you 3:00 They notice everything about you, even social media posts 3:41 They surprise you with small gestures
Thank you for posting this, helps to go through the video faster. I figured I was the shy one, but looking at this, I am DEFINITELY the shy one. And he doesn’t even notice me, so he’s not the shy one. 😭
Yep, I’m not as shy as some shy people but I am very much an introvert and I can say I can relate to almost all of these, especially not being able to look them in the eye (,:
He smiles when he sees you. He goes silent around you. He listens attentively to you. He stutters or trips up around you. He blushes when you compliment him. He asks a ton of questions. He gets fidgety around you. He volunteers to help you.
@@Psych2go as of now, 2, 5 & 7. I like this one person at work and we're not very close. I know what time she would pass at the corridor or canteen of the company and I just wait for her to pass by that area even if it means I'm about to be late. I just really love creating opportunities to see her, BUT then I couldn't make eye contact with her whenever we're about to pass by each other (I'm such a weirdo, I know). I also love doing grand gestures for them ( I think mostly for my friend that I think I fell in love for) it was easier to make or do something for her that I know she would love because she's my friend and she'll think I only do those things because I'm just being a good friend. The rest of the signs especially the talking online and noticing their posts online, I used to do that when I still had my socmed accounts. But I don't do that anymore. The fidgety thing I can control myself not to do that (fortunately). Wow! This is long ass comment. I just really needed to get it out my system, so thanks
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Ah yes I did all this around my crush who’s an extrovert. My shyness was so extreme that whenever he asks me to buy him something and give stuff, I literally walked backward towards him so I won’t have to make eye contact at all. I could barely make a sound. The day he confessed, he bought me cake while I wanted to give him a plushie. I walked towards him with my face and head wrapped with a towel and we exchanged gifts without making eye contact. Another one, my friend wanted to invite him to her room (we lived in a hostel) cuz we had extra food we couldn’t finish (and also cuz they wanted me to be closer to him). Obviously I freaked out and when I saw him coming, I ran behind the door screaming and hid in the toilet. Yes it was really extreme. I was dying of cringing while doing it, but was worthwhile since he found it quite fascinating. Fast forwarded to present day, he’s now my bf of almost 3 months!
Oh my word, if only I could have seen this video months ago!! This just made me realize not only do I do these exact things with my crush, my crush does them too! I’ve been overlooking them. Everything makes so much more sense! I was seeing his lack of engagement as him being uninterested, not shy. I can recognize now that I definitely fall into this same category. The thing that I can relate to doing the most is not being able to make much eye contact and having to look away and only glance , my feelings being too strong and overwhelming that I just can’t 😝😊
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️
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This was very helpful... Love is a very hard thing to understand. But it's a normal part of life! Love can end up healthy, negative, or unhealthy. I've never felt love yet... and this helped me understand what love is actually like. Love can start with something small, Like having a conversation at lunch! Thanks for this, It helped me understand a little more! :)
this is so accurate for me. i’m constantly struggling with eye contact and i look away as soon as i see him glancing at me. i also stalk his social media but can never talk to him lollll
My crush is the cutest guy ever. We go to the same tuition together and we always sit next to each other and study together. I’ve watched all these types of videos to look for signs that he likes me back and boy, I feel like he watches these as well. He is a true gentleman to me and showers me with compliments and teasing. With other girls, he is your typical chaotic guy best friend who insults you from time to time. I feel so calm and safe around him whenever I feels stressed at some point in my life. I want to ask him out but I occur as a uptight, smart girl who is very loud. I worry that I may be reading his signals wrong.
I’m not shy at all until it comes to romantic feelings. Like, I’m waaaay to good at hiding my feelings and acting normally, so people don’t think I’m shy, but can never tell if I like them
One thing I’ve struggled with is trying to reject or say no to a shy person who has displayed these traits. If I didn’t feel the same, it feels crushing to me and like I’m a bad person for not feeling the same. But it’s also not fair to string them along and make them more withdrawn to people going forward if their trust is broken. Also, shy people are not immune to hearing what they want to hear or seeing what they want to see. So even when I’ve tried to be nice but blunt, they haven’t seen that I’m saying no and then when I do say no some have tried to negotiate and then called me mean. Relationships are complicated.
just saying, your not a bad person if you choose to reject someone you don't share the same feelings with. at the end of the day, all of us have our own preferences and yours is just as valid as everyone else's so don't feel bad for not feeling the same.
That just means that person is simply not shy. I mean if he can be capable of being entitled to have you, then he is not shy. A real shy person would of hide their feelings to a point where they don't bother competing for attention at all. If that person never ask you in the 1st place, then you cannot claim you were rejecting. If he is the one doing the initiating such as asking you out, then he is not shy at all. Being able to chase and having a guts means he have courage.
1. They become silent and fidgety around you (0:25) 2. They create opportunities to be around you (0:55) 3. They talk to you online (1:34) 4. They seem to be imitating you (2:08) 5. They struggle to maintain eye contact with you (2:27) 6. They notice everything about you, even your social media posts (2:58) 7. They surprise you with small gestures (3:40)
Yup. This was my hubby around me. I’m so glad I picked up on a lot of these, or we would not be celebrating our 25th anniversary meeting this month🥂😍👩❤️👨
Today I found out my crush knows I liked him & someone told him. But I’m so confused because I never told anyone who my crush was. How would they find out? :/
As a shy person and well also a Lil socially awkward person i think this viedo is correct except the imating one i don't do that one but maybe others do.... So just look out for these and basically if u help out ur shy crush is any way, trust me they will always think about it 🤧
As a shy person, I would be so horrified to have someone think I like them and they don't believe me and tell me I do because of this video and because I'm shy I won't know what to do 😂😭
My partner is one of the shyest people I’ve ever met. I think he may have been so shy that he hid his feelings. He definitely liked me to when I told him but I truly couldn’t tell if he liked me. I’m glad I told him because getting to know him was the best choice I’ve ever made :)
I’m pretty shy, but I don’t go out of my comfort zone to go to my crush. I feel like i’m too suspicious and I get really nervous around her. I want to get close to her, I’m just too nervous.
This means Psych2Go cannot expose you. All the other people who complains in the comment of being exposed is because they were not shy in the 1st place. They chose to get everything out of their chest and confess. So when they get rejected by their crush, all they would do is blame it on Psych2Go. 2:11 for example, why copy their crushes? See this example. A person needs to already be out of their comfort zone to mess with their crushes like that. When I have a crush on someone, I also would not expect them to have a same hobbies or any same personas as me. As a shy person, I would not be dumb enough to be somebody I am not and I don't think copying somebody is a way to impress anyone. I am not going to end up pretending to like something just to fit in. By looking at 2:11, I know you would not go around trying to be like your crush because that will make you suspicious and will give your crush a reason to walk away from you. I mean sure, you can admire from afar but no need to draw suspicions right. Some of these traits that Psych2Go named aren't classified as shy. Rules of being shy is to avoid creepy behaviors. So for 2:11, Psych2Go had forgotten the #1 rules about being shy.
2:27 is that me being exposed? The whole video described me, i didn't even know that I was shy until someone recently told me, and this video really made me finally agree that I am shy. Thanks for the amazing videos!
I noticed: talking to me online, always sending me videos/memes that make me laugh, recommending series that he finds good. As for me: making myself bump into the guy, being silent and fidgety, talk online, notice everything about the guy and surprise him with small gestures. Oh wait, that's almost all of them LOL
as a ‘shy’ person, ABT THE EYE CONTACT.. i’ll stare into your soul and my heart will be beating fast asf but i wont be able to remove my eyes from you 💔💔💔 idk whats wrong w me but i just cant
Woowww, para ser sincera sentí un poco de miedo al darme cuenta que me describía a la perfección cada punto. gracias por hacer estos vídeos, hacen que me comprenda un poco mejor 💜
I remember being that person. She Loved me through it. She let me Love her back. I am so sorry she is gone. She was my 1st love. Alas, I learned how to feel Love Before I knew how to show it. To share it. To hold it. To Be our love, in all that is our life. . . . All that was our life . . . [ sigh ] I am so damn sorry. and I cant even tell her that.
My crush and I are both seemingly very shy people. She is more shy than I am, so I struggle to read her signals. Once, I did catch her looking at me, and as soon as I made eye contact with her, she quickly looked away.
7 Subtle Signs A Shy Person Likes You 1. (0:25) They become silent and fidgety around you 2. (0:55) They create opportunities to be around you 3. (1:34) They talk to you online 4. (2:08) They seem to be intimidating you 5. (2:27) They struggle to maintain eye contact with you 6. (2:58) They notice everything about you, even your social media posts 7. (3:40) They surprise you with small gestures
I literally show all of these signs towards my crush (minus the social media/texting stuff cause I’m too shy to ask her for that). I usually see her like once a week at work for the past 2-3 months. We have a lot of similar interests and she’s the person I feel most comfortable talking to. Even then I kind of freeze up a bit, especially when I think about asking her for her number so we can hang out outside of work. Ugh I wish I had more confidence in myself.
Am i the only type of person that acts unbothered around her crush? I know i shouldn't do it, because he can take it as a sign of me not liking his presence, when in reality its the exact opposite, but i just can't stop. Like I'll go out of my way to NOT talk to him, NOT make eye contact, and i just run away when i see him. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP IT 😢
I honestly do these a lot more than i actually thought i am a very shy person and when i do like someone i never really realized the things i did i would occassionally but not as much as i thought
Yeah I'm definitely freaking shy alright but I'm an extrovert or something because being alone tires me down and hanging out with people makes me energized but it depends on people
@@bumpkin8009 yeah but I think my shyness was developt through embarrassment so I can't interact with people if I don't know if they'd laugh with me or laugh on me
This is pretty spot on. If I like someone and not even in a romantic I get them little gifts or share my food/snacks so that’s how you really know that we’re cool LOL
I’m shy and I act the same way around her and she watches this channel I know it’ll be good that she sees this video because I’ll know when to just let it go but I’m scared of rejection
1. Yes, it seems like my crush gets shy around me sometimes unless he’s with his friends, then he’ll be talking to his friends if they’re all around me. 2. No, I don’t think so on this one 3. We don’t have each others numbers or socials so this one is a no 4. No, I don’t think this is the case. I can’t tell though 5. Yes, sometimes I feel like 6. No, my crush and I hardly talk to each other, we made like a sentence to each other within the past two years of middle school. 7. No, never.
Can you please do a video on how to recover from emotional trauma? It would help me a ton. I won't go into the nifty gritty, but I have moderate depression and severe anxiety, and I'm also a very emotionally sensitive person. I'm a strong empath. I have a hard time saying no. I'll never get mad or blame someone even if it's their fault. These traits have been used against me, and resulted in a nearly successful suicide attempt about a year ago. I still haven't recovered from the emotional trauma I experienced. My medications are no longer working, and I don't know how to communicate my thoughts and feelings to my therapist. I know it may or may not help, but your channel has helped me before, and I'm running out of ideas.
I really hope you see this. I'm desperate at this point. I want to say thank you for making this content. Even if you're not often told this, it saves lives.
Hi Deska, you might want to look up Dr Gabor Maté and Bessel van der Kolk on RU-vid. They are experts on emotional trauma. Then there's 'past reality integration' which has helped me getting rid of anxiety. But I know there's no one solution that helps for everyone. I hope you get better!
I'm helping lots of people with rumbling their high perspectice of themself by making smart and calculated insults at the internet in a goofy way. Keep doing the work out there man
That would of meant that guy secretly likes you but refuses to admit it. If he were not interested in you, he would not investigate you in the 1st place. So how would you know that guy is watching this video? I mean if I were to like a girl, I don't even tell her I watch this video to begin with.
I noticed some of these in myself mostly because I highly value my friends and want to show them that I care about them but I think it’s funny because it was a video about how to tell if a shy person likes you and I am not shy nor do I have interest in anyone
