Man, when you guys go wonky, however, you can annihilate the poor INFJ friend who loves you. Any insight? Being genuine here. I love your type, so naturally, but I’ve run into one who is kind of in trouble, and man, she can be very mean to ME, in particular. It really shocked me. Sending love to you, ENFJ, from INFJ. You are one of my favorites. (Were?)
1 Speaking up for what's right- I can't help myself with this one and constantly find myself expressing my anger over the atrocities of the world 2 Overly invested- I tend to absorb emotions and sometimes go to far in looking out for other people. Empathy is a huge part of my personality 3 Always want to do new things- I always look for new things to learn 4 Always seek external validation- I do this pretty much all the time, but still have a health level of self-esteem and often use criticism as an opportunity to grow 5 Always get caught up in unrealistic expectations- I live a relatively healthy life, but often feel burdened by the problems of the world 6 Condescending- I often speak more than other classmates, or at least I used to. I learned to let others share 7 Organisation- I have ADHD so this is my weak point😂❤ Thank you so much, this helped me learn a lot more about myself I understand most of these, save for 7 😊❤
I don't seek external validation anymore and it changed my life. I love who I am and don't need approval. The only thing is that when I make a decision I get super OCD about trying to make sure everyone around me is ok with it first. Not sure how to turn that off or if it's even possible lol
What I usually do is I look at others' behaviors, and if there's something that seems off about them I'd ask whether they're okay. I'm not sure if that's a good system, but here's another human's take.
You completely described me. I'm feeling exposed, haha. However, it was a great video. If you keep making these kinds of videos consistently then you'll become very popular. Please make more videos on ENFJs (Especially on MALE ENFJs cause I'm a male☺). Thank you very much...
This is so accurate I feel exposed but, I manage to meet deadlines or do them before the deadline but as an ENFJ I struggle to manage my time because I want to do everything I want to do in my to do lists
I am definitely guilty of this. Luckily, we notice very well when something was perceived negatively/ someone was upset by what we said. So we can train ourselves to be condescending less.
I understand how you feel. It can be discouraging when you put in so much effort and feel unappreciated. Hang in there and remember that your hard work will pay off eventually!
Where are the cognitive functions? Those examples are about ESFJs. ENFJ is not superficial, but complex and more about a global vision and make the world a better place, not just being good or a good leader. Ni works as a symbolic understanding of the world, and an intellectual approach that not everyone can have. Generaly using methaphores, analogies and almost in a mystical or philosophical way. That's what make them *special* and *rare*.
I'm sorry to hear that you went through such a difficult time. It's important to prioritize self-care and remember that your worth is not determined by external validation. Take care of yourself and keep pushing forward!
@@peoplembti Thanks for taking time to reply and your advices ! I must admit this is the best lesson I’ve ever learned, paid the hard price but this major depression was an invaluable key to understanding, stepping back and realise how I was seeking external validation at all costs. But that’s beyond being ENFJ, toxic family and very high expectations as a kid.. Anyway, thanks for your video and support 💜
@@immadolphin181 wish you to find a peaceful place to work, I’m still on alert mode when I hear a ring / notification which can trigger me. Don’t know your situation but healing can be a long process, but on the bright side it can teach us a lot about ourselves and our distorted perceptions, interpretations… Take care of yourself !!
@@GhettoSoldierSinceYouth Thank you for your kind reply! I totally get that, for me it even goes as far es not replying to messages at all for some time.. but I think this is okay in most cases. I still have to practise my patience with myself regarding my healing and finding a healthy direction for my future. Have a nice day!
