Just be yaself Karl. Be a nice and polite man. Make sure you truly love yourself, and you’ll easily get a date. It’s alot of single women sin the world and we’re waiting to meet a good man. DONT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER. 😉 (some have told me i have a mean look, but I never realize it. And I would love for a guy to approach me and have a nice date)
1. Who is someone you really admire? 2. What kind of vacation do you like? 3. What book do you think everybody should read? 4. What do you love the most about what you do? 5. What is something you love doing but you do not do it enough? 6. What do you suck at? 7. Which movie are you embarrassed of liking? 8. How would your closest friends describe you? You're welcome ✌.
(0:55) 1. Who is someone you really admire? (1:50) 2. What kind of vacations do you love the most? (2:14) 2.5. If you had to spend a year in a different country, where would you choose? (2:30) 3. What book do you think everybody should read? (3:05) 4. What do you love most about what you do? (4:12) 5. What's something you love doing but don't do enough? (4:40) 6. What do you suck at? (5:52) 7. What is a film you are embarrassed you like so much? (6:26) 7.5 If I looked at your top 25 most played songs, what's the most embarrassing one? (6:47) 8. How would your closest friends describe you?
It’s missing one. 1. Are you a man? There’s way too many chicks with d!cks & guys with tits & if that’s something you’re not into then it needs to be clarified!
Good open ended questions. Another question (along with "how would your closest friends describe you") is "how would your siblings and parents describe your role in the family"? This question allows you to see who you are in interpersonal dynamic, ie someone is a caretaker, mediator, the spoiled one, the responsible one, etc... Another... "in past relationships, how did you know you were loved?" Speaks to potential love languages and what someone values in a loving relationship. These questions might be for dates 2,3,4,5.
When you ask those don't go from one to the other, because it would seem you are drilling this person while you came prepared for the test. Some of the questions are better for introverts and others for extraverts. You can either ask a question that the person would probably already have the answer to or challenge the person out of their comfort zone. It depends if you want to break the ice and maybe make that person comfortable to open up about other things or if you want to challenge the person to give you an answer they'd need to think about a bit. The risk is the person might get anxious about not being perceived as either interesting enough or intelligent enough.
For question number one my answer would be Matthew Hussey! Why? He inspires, guides, opens new worlds of possibilities, his kindness, shares stimulating information, he's charismatic, helps others discover their full potential and introduces his listeners to many other wonderful people. I have a great appreciation for your work obviously. lol! Thank you! 🙏🥰😇
Hey Kasia,your absolutely gorgeous.I'm 38 been divorced 2years.You would be amazed at the level of men that want to date experienced,mature and older women.My one piece of advise is to not limit yourself and just be open with sincere good intentions.Be confident and true to what you truly need.Good luck girl.
What I really dislike about this questions is how you can easy into them and not make the other person feel lime you are interrogating them. Curiousity about what you are asking is a must but how you transition the conversiation into asking them is a big question mark
these are also great for catching up with friends and family you haven't seen in a while or maybe a distant relative you haven't met yet. these are great ways to just connect with people and get to know each other too
I agree with everything except for the job thing. Many people in the population have no clue what they want to do with their life nor do they care as long as they're having fun and happy. And the moment you take Your passion and turn it into a job, it's not a passion anymore. You just ruined what Was enjoyable to you. Not to mention not everybody's goal in life is to accomplish one thing after another. Some people just want to be with family and friends and make memories.
This is great - also gave me a bit of anxiety because I realised how much I don’t have in my life outside of running a business and being a full time solo parent. I will use this to work on myself first
I love how much latitude you give to people. It isn't this person is boring or a loser, it is they don't have the same standard of passion that I do. So gracious. Lovely. 💙
Do women actually watch these videos? It would be so weirdly formal to ask someone a lot of the things in this video. Just act normal and be approachable and friendly, that's all is needed. The burden is on men in dating, you literally just have to be a half decent person and that's it...
This is perfect I am going on a first date in two days! I went to dinner with my best friend & our server was super sweet & funny so I wrote my number on the check & he texted me! Hopefully things go well:))
I love these questions. I’ve got a team building event coming up that I might use some of them as ice breakers for. The answer for the book is Team of Rivals by Doris Kearns Goodwin. Talks about how Lincoln built his cabinet with people of differing views and how that gave him diverse information to create policy from.
But not knowing what you want to do can sometimes be because you’ve never had an opportunity to do something that inspires you. Life can confuse you and you lose yourself x
Oh my goodness! Just looking at your pictures will make anyone who's having a bad day happy. It's obvious you must be very special,what am amazing smile. How are you doing today? Love to hear from you
I didn't know what I wanted to do until my late 20s. Some of the most interesting people still haven't figured out what their passion is by their 40s. Most people have jobs, not careers, and find their passions outside of work.
This is more about how to get to know them better, if they don't bother to ask you the same things then you're getting to know them very well and in that case it depends on what you want.
As someone who needs to be more flirtatious on a un first date and less "listening to guys talking about themselves" (or worst their EX!) I'm a afraid I would so be in my head and I will have the impression of interviewing for a job rather than connecting. I have a date tonight and I'll probably go with: "What do you love the most about what you do?" and "What do you suck at?"
I can't believe I'm the first person writing a comment on my favorite coach!!!. I am a fresh broken heart...and I feel like I'm melting off pain... Mathew's videos helped me to go through a crucial pain. I do not know...his talk sounds so grounded, healthy... equilibrated. It makes more sense.... without sliding in so much drama...
I started asking 'What's the craziest thing you've ever done'? and it's so interesting what everyone comes up with. Sometimes just because defines 'crazy' differently. It can be reckless, it can be weird, it can be fun... Everyone usually thinks a lot about that one, but it always gave me a glimpse of a 'spark' in a way. Your list is quite interesting, it should keep the conversation going for a while for sure :)
Great questions. I would add one more about their vision for their future, once I know them a bit better. I have been burned by discovering later in the relationship that their dreams are so different from mine that it would mean we couldn't be together unless one person gave up their dream.
This is so fun!! I really enjoyed Matthew's answers, but I also did it journaling with myself, and it was pretty fun to get to know myself a bit too! 😄
If you're getting ready/on a date and stealthily looking for the questions: 1) Who is someone you really admire? Why? 2) What kind of vacations do you love the most? (If you had to spend a year in a different country, where would you choose?) 3) What book do you think everybody should read? 4) What do you love the most about what you do? (Is there something else that you're working towards that you would love to do?) 5) What is something you love doing but don't do enough? 6) What do you suck at? 7) What is a film that you are embarrassed you like so much? (If I looked at your top 25 most played songs, what would be the most embarrassing one among them?) 8) How would your closest friends describe you? Also don't forget to actually watch the whole video and give Matthew those views for helping us!
I love these. I have often had light hearted “20 questions” on dates. I like books/movies/historical figures + why kinds of back and forth questions. A night will pass so quickly, and many tangent conversations can be had. It’s a great litmus test of compatibility too. ❤️❤️
1. My mom 2. Staycations. I don't like traveling, at all 2.5. the Bahamas 3. More Now Again, A Memoir of Addiction 4. Working with people and animals 5. Snorkeling 6. Math 7. Superbad? Pineapple Express? 7.5. Boyfriend by Justin Bieber? 8. Reliable, loyal, consistent, smart, funny, unique
I love these questions! They help to dive deeper and find out more about a person by their responses. I’d love to see more of these kinds of videos. Thank you!
Great questions when you meet someone (new) anyway. So I'll remember it as PAVBWASED (People you Admire, Vacation, Books, Work, Activity, Suck, Embaarrassed, Describe). Thanks, Matthew
Awesome video I absolutely loved it! I have a question: How can I build a relationship with someone leaving in a month to join the Navy? I've only been on one date with this guy, and we're about to have our second one. I want to build a connection with him, but I want to know if it's possible since he's leaving soon. I'm still trying to figure out how many more opportunities I'll have to see him before he leaves. Right now, I'm focused on getting to know him better and letting things unfold naturally.
I had to rewatch this video today as I used the question about the book and it made the other person say “ oh what a deep question “ so now I’ll put all others in practice. Thank you Matthew,you are incredible and I’ve learned so much from your videos.❤
Even if someone is giving you great answers to these questions doesn't mean anything. It's the real & hard questions, I want to know their answers to (and I get those answers not by what they verbally say but by my careful inspection of them.)
The reason why you can't not watch The Deep Blue Sea is because of Tom Hiddleston Mathew ;) It's ok it's totally understandable. btw not at a terrible film it has a lot of heart and Tom Hiddleston hahha!
These questions are boring. I can’t believe you actually suggest these. I clicked on the video to see if you can provide in-depth questions for your audience but this video missed the boat.
I think that these questions are amazing, especially because I need a connection to the person before anything else, but I am finding people that sit with me at a bar to have a talk and drink and they are empty, they respond almost in a monosyllabic way... Of course I cannot connect to them, but these cases are piling up... Why dont they like to think? I find it scary that so many seem zombies like this 😮
This video provides great advice for first dates, with eight questions to help get beneath the surface and build a connection. The last question is the most revealing and is sure to make a date more interesting and likable.
Honestly I feel like these are so corny! With peace and love. Maybe aimed at the older generation? If I asked what someone sucked at and they said karaoke… I’d know they were boring haha
Yo anyone live in Iowa my ex needs a date real bad. He's a great guy, he's not my so but he is desperately looking for a good woman. He's a total geek. His name is so freaking cool to.
Why am I not embarrassed either with my movie nor playlist choice? But if the date will laugh me out or try to make me feel embarrassed the date is over.
I've made it a point to stop looking at Matt just in case I am biased by his charisma and looks because charming men are the kryptonite to we wide and many, few and far spread superwomen. I even stopped following him on IG (sorry, still got your brilliant brother on there). I pocket my phone for YT on a dog walk sort of thing and simply listen, taking also into account tone of voice and the result of that effect and potential intentions be it the desire to help people or the desire to produce commerce . I judge neither. Relinquish bias. Is he actually saying something intelligent that can be applied., useful, and uplifting to women by what his message is? I am making a comment on one video only, but there are so many more pieces of media that are of value here. Why this one? Not quite sure. I think so many of the things the Hussey crew says through Matt, and Matt himself, are of value to a lot of people. It speaks to that gray area of what is biological and what is our societal expectations in this day and age. Steady on.
Very smart and fun questions, Matt, thank you! I enjoy your attitude and the style of offering the tips you came up with! Very suitable for my type of mind:)
Looks very much like a list of job interview questions. You can say that we are interviewing them for a job - of a boyfriend, and, maybe, husband -- but the level of directness here is pretyy high to scare a man.
If I answered question number one ('Who is someone you really admire?') truthfully then I'd say Dr. Jordan Peterson at which point 99% of women would get up and leave. 🤣I think choosing someone from history might be a better bet. 🤣🤣🤣
Because most friends tell you what what kind of person you are, for example one of my best friends tell me, I'm giving, straight forward and a person of my word, mind you not every day but she and other's that are close to me have said basically the same or similar things, I just remember them saying it, at various time when they need a ear or just to vent.
these questions are USELESS! please dont ask that. ask this: 1- what's your life goal 2- what do you do to get there? 3- where do u see yourself in 5, 10 years 4- what legacy do you want to leave behind, what imprint in humanity? and history of world? Men WORTHY of marriage and being man and head of house are GOAL SETTERS and they have CLEAR PURPOSE in life. Thosr high calibre men want a woman to take care of HIM inside the house, while he takes care of world.
So.. I also like Deep Blue Sea... yes, its terrible and corny and ridiculous, yet I've seen it WAY more times than I'd ever admit, and I must say... I enjoy it every time! :) Samuel L Jackson monologue... sign me up!
