Hi everyone! We made this video to help those recognize when they might be in a toxic relationship. If you suspect that a friend or someone you know is in one, do share this video to help them recognize these signs. You can help. Also, we recently made a video about how to work with a partner's love language here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-heww-ZuAs_c.html
I just finished this poem when I saw the notification of this video: (Disclaimer: It's about my ex boyfriend which I was in a relationship with and I was thinking about him again so I wrote this) I used to think I had to get you out of my head But now that I know that's impossible maybe I could move on instead Because I don't want to forget anymore And I honestly believe that moving on instead of ignoring it is the only way to get over it anyway Healing is misunderstood, people have the wrong idea of its meaning and that's how they start believing they are not making progress but healing is letting yourself feel but dealing with it and not get lost in them, not conceal or shut out or run You can't run away from memories But you can embrace the past and choose what parts you want to take for yourself in the future and you'll always keep weak moments where you need to be strong and keep yourself together instead of giving in and when you fall into the whole again you have to pick yourself up I think that's right and that's why using the pain to create power is good enough for me
This is exactly what's happening to me, my relationship with my parents. Its caused so much stress that I look like a 40 year old man going through mid life crisis, and I'm only freakin' 21. I wanna leave but I'm torn apart by the idea because they're still my family. But if I don't, I'll never have my peace of mind.
Hey I was wondering if you could do a video on how someone could help someone dealing with trama from a previous toxic relationship I was in a toxic friendships about a year ago and one of my friends doesn't understand that I can't make friends as easily as she can not only that the moment I begin to feel like I'm back in that toxic relationship I was in, I can no longer be around that person and when refused to be around a girl in our school she got mad and tried to guilt trip me with every bad thing that happened in her life.
As someone who was in a toxic romantic relationship, I can say this is all true. I had so much guilt and anxiety and other mental health problems and felt worthless, like I was nothing without them. I had an identity crisis after the relationship and had to take time not only to heal but figure out who I am truly. If you are in a toxic relationship please get help and support and leave the relationship, and start loving yourself. You won't regret it.
Mine was different. I felt so ugly when I was with them and he made me feel replaceable, ngl. Cause he didn't make me feel beautiful at all. I felt as if I was just a toy to him. A time passer for him. 2 years after all that and I still cry about it. I hate this.
@Arifumiko you still have healing to do. It took me six years to recover, and you will heal with plenty of time. During this time you can residescover yourself and learn to love yourself. You're beautiful and wonderful and as long as you can see it, the the world will too 🫂
@@Luci11.11 What you said literally just made me break down in tears. I'm legit crying right now thank you. I still can't believe you healed for like... 6 years... You're so strong for that. I could never. Even if that toxic relationship I had only lasted for 3 months...the impact feels like forever.
Kids see and sense everything X allowing them to witness a toxic relationship move on to a self respecting single parent is powerfully healing xx Self Love X Love for others X Honesty and Truth welcome Self love X Love for others X honesty and truth xx Often the toxic person cannot learn to grow into a non toxic being without this honesty xx Without blame and championing A Respect for Healthy Heart and Healthy Mind will Heal xx
@@annapeters6934 I've left more than once but I always get lured back in... but I'm so clueless as to go about anything correctly, because I can't just run away with my daughter.
@@eileen6664 That's because you are the love in the world and your stronger than this person whom I respect you have a lot of love and loyalty to xx I know this because I too experience thus with a close friend / ex of mine xx we allow this to go on knowing we are strong enough yet we also know that life doesn't have to be hard and stressful xx this is the attraction for them to us xx However knowing all of this and not moving through it has taught me that the suffering only gets worse and more intense xx and that strength we find for them we lose touch of how to be strong for ourselves X it diminishes xx Have faith in the truth and remember to ask the God's or universe for guidance and clarity and trust having only asked once sincerely, opportunity, support, security will present itself xx whether we are ready or not and when we freely will to be who we want to be and except the choice to change xx we can xx With only Love my friend xx Love Love Love xx your partner will survive X grow X and get through too xx
Me too. They’re from school, and all of this happened several months ago, but I still am hurt thinking about what they said, and it doesn’t help that A. They act like nothing happened unless they decide to blame it on me B. I will be forced to see them every single day once school starts
How toxic does it have to be before you decide to get out? Figuring out what blame belongs where in on who is just a stalling tactic it keeps you stuck where you are. Been there done that! I wish you and all who read this the very best!
Although speaking from my personal experience, I can't help but feel like that when all you've known are toxic relationships, it can make you believe that's how relationships are supposed to go. I know I've been on guard after my first relationship (and especially so after my second one) because of how those prior relationships panned and fizzled out at the end. Then the pessimism, negativity, and the same on guard state [ie. "taking it slow because I want to make sure they love me"] may have hindered how my most recent partner - albeit a year ago was the last I tried anything with her - saw perceived that relationship. I'm by no means saying it's 100% blame one side, but if you're able to, talk with them (or someone else close) about how you're feeling. Even if it's hard to know whether the person's being honest with what they're saying/writing, that's where intuition can come into play. While my first relationship had an angered end, she did agree to go for a walk and hang out one last time. We did have a calm chat, and we both came to a mutual understanding that we weren't as compatible as we hoped, and that's okay. While it's my ideal to talk in person about troubles and questions, sometimes the gut and instinct can indicate well if something's wrong or unusual for you.
There really is such a thing as "incompatible"... Robert Ruth brings up a very good point. "It takes two to tango." Now, I've heard it attributed to many people over the years... BUT maybe there doesn't need to be a curio of goons or a "Narc' and Flying Monkeys" in some toxic abusive conspiracy to gaslight you, for the sake of being confusing... Sometimes, WE'RE ALL SUBJECT TO BEING CHILDISH, MANIPULATIVE ASS HATS... and being able to mature yourself to figure out your boundaries and communicate them solidly without being mean, derisive, or completely unforgiving can do wonders for your communication. Part of the trick is noticing a boundary or trigger before you "fly mad" and say or do something completely indefensible... It's not always as easy as we'd like to think. If nobody's ever trespassed "there", how are you supposed to know "going there" would bother you so much??? It's not romantic, but FOR INSTANCE... I was a grown adult before anyone accused me of being a thief or liar... I had no idea when the accusation came up just how FRIGGIN' PISSED OFF an easily provable accusation could make me... I found out about $125 (court cost and fees) and a weekend in jail for damn nearly crippling the guy. I still walk right back out of a building if he's inside, refuse him service or product if he approaches me, and have repeatedly let police know that as far as he and I are concerned, the only place to "bury a hatchet" is his thick skull... repeatedly. ;o)
It's sad situation when am away for my job that my wife was having love affair with my best friend, I noticed she was getting closer with my friend, and she chat in private now and receives call in private. He also changed his password. I was wondering what was going on until I was introduced to Optimum_tech001 on instagram by a close friend. He access my wife's facebook and Whatsapp. She had been having affairs with my best friend for about 6 months now. With proof of her unfaithfulness I've been over that toxic relationship.
Being lonely is very bad don’t get me wrong but having toxic relationships wether it’s love or friends is way worse,chose the people who you hang out with or love very wisely.
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Topics: 1.) Toxic relationships make you more guarded. 0:35 2.) Toxic relationships breed negativity. 0:59 3.) Toxic relationships make you more pessimistic 1:19 4.) Toxic relationships emotionally exhaust you. 1:45 5.) Toxic relationships destroy your self esteem. 2:14 6,) Toxic relationships hinder your personal growth. 2:39 7.) Toxic relationships distort your idea of a healthy relationship. 3:07 8.) Toxic relationships negatively affect your entire health. 3:36
9.) Toxic relationships aren’t relationships, they are dictatorships . 10.) Toxic relationships cause the healthy person to feel worse than the toxic person feels and that is their goal ,to drag you down into their world and give you the emotional alligator roll from time to time.
I was in a toxic relationship for multiple years, and have only recently been able to walk away from it. The relationship was absolutely distroying both of us, yet neither one of us wanted to hurt the other by saying it wasn't working. Eventually I had to cut the ties, for both our sakes, and it truely was the hardest thing I had to do. Recognise the signs, approach the person and see if you can work on it together, but ultimately you need to look after yourself and your mental wellness first. For anyone out there who is scared to have to make that choice, it is scary, but it does get easier over time and you'll both be healthier for taking that step back.
I was in an extremely toxic and abusive relationship for over a year. It took me a long time to realize that he was a terrible person and I wasn't. Now I have an amazing partner that treats me better than I ever imagined someone would. It gets better guys💜 just keep pushing forward
i just got out of a relationship and now the guy is super toxic and emotionally manipulative. i was doing really well after the breakup, because i was relieved, but he reached out to me once again to crush my soul - once again - since he could'nt handle the fact that i am better without him. i don't know why i'm telling this, but i need to get it out of my system.
My first relationship was with a really toxic guy in seventh grade, and ever since then I've always found myself in relationships that seem fine at first but are revealed to be another toxic relationship. Also, I got raped a lot as a child and I've been told this is why I seek sexual encounters as validation. I don't know, to be honest my "love life" has never really been so "love"ly. To be honest, all I want is a kind guy who cares about me just as much as I care about him. Like, I'm not looking for a relationship with steamy sex and titles. I just want gentle kisses, warm hugs, and adorable, genuinely happy memories.
Thank you for sharing your story. It's very brave fron you. One day you will found someone who will love you for who you are. I was 11 when I was in my first relationship and I was sexualy abused for many years. Those years I just walk from relationship to relationship and it was worse and worse. I was threaten, blackmailed (I, stupido, send some photos to that person), raped,... I ended up and for long time I tought I am asexual because everything sexualy was really difficult. Worse was I tought that whole strugle was my and only my fault. Three years ago I fall in love with most awesome person and she discover my secrets from my previous relationships and she was (and still is) so gentle with me. She teach me how to love and how to even be in relationship. With all this I want to say, one day, you will find someone who cares about you. Don't be too hard for yourself and trust yourself. And when there is something what you don't want to do, don't do it.
You'll find that guy one day, although it may not seem like it there's plenty of them out there. I'm so sorry you've had to go through that sort of thing.
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My Best friend is in a toxic relationship and she has shown every sign listed in the video, we tried to help her but she wants to be there anyways. It's heartbreaking.
The best thing you can do is be her friend. Unfortunately she has to make the decision for herself. I'm talking as someone who has finally left an extremely toxic relationship. It's not easy.
I would just be there for them. Guiding them and being there, showing tough love (when enough is enough). After I broke up with my ex, I was so appeciative of everyone who stuck it out and gave me the facts, but never judged me for taking my time. It's a awful experience to watch and go through. Mental health recovery for me has been about 6 months of activley trying to move on. The day will come, it will click for them that the relationship not okay, and that it's okay to relate to something that's negative and frowned upon. And they will get the courage to move on, if you give them support.
I have a close friend who is in a similar situation. It's so bad, he pushed our friendship out of his life because his abusive boyfriend forced him to. He knows I'm here for him. For now, I don't have contact with him and miss him terribly.
I was in a toxic relationship and 7 months free from it. I wasn't the same happy person I use to be while being in that relationship. Now that time has passed I am no longer depressed and starting to feel like my normal self before the relationship. Mind you I am guarded when I do decided to date again. I also have learned healty boundaries. So there are many good things I have learned from being in a toxic relationship.
Its eerie how, over the years, you guys literally always post the exact videos I need, at the time theyre needed. I just wish i watched more often. Thank you
Stop wishing you must take action to have better. Start a. Jeronal write about you. Your wants, needs , why , have, you know you are worthy of better. Learn to know who you are. Write it down then ask yourself as you are looking into a mirror. Say your name, several times you must be sincere. Say l am worthy of all the goodness of life. Keep affirmations taped to your mirror repete them daily. You must build up your inner strength Please remember this. People treat us the way we teach them. If you accept bad behavior from someone you are teaching them Read nooks on self-esteem. One day at a time. Be happy you will call to you want you want. Be patient for you are worthy of the best life & love has to offer bye.
Got out of a couple of toxic friendships several months ago. Things definitely do get better afterwards, even if it sucks a lot at first. It helped me to accept that things were meant to end and now whatever good memories I did have with them, I am able to let pass through my mind without my heart aching. But I am actively healing, as will anyone else reading this. Things will be okay one day. You are stronger than you know.
After being together for 10 years I just realized how toxic our relationship is I love him so much I hope he changes but if not I have to be the one to walk away as much as I don’t want to 😞
I'm in a relationship almost a year or so after my last breakup from a toxic relationship and I'm still working on it, your videos help to bring a better idea of what I could be feeling. Thank you!
Hey, I just wanna say that sometimes toxic relationships aren’t always someone’s fault. As in, if you are in a toxic relationship with someone, you don’t have to blame them and you don’t have to blame yourself. Sometimes toxic relationships sprout just because you aren’t compatible, or because of scheduling issues, etc. It’s not always someone’s fault! Of course, there is times when it is directly someone’s fault.
I help y’all are doing better, they don’t deserve you, and you’re better than them just by being yourself. I can relate to this but not a friend, but my father. Needless to say after all the gaslighting and toxicity, I no longer live with him. But that kind of relationship, that toxicity shouldn’t define you, so build yourself up again and keep moving, and eventually, in your dark night, the sun will rise. You’ve got this :3
@@autumnmoreno4369 i am so happy you no longer have that toxicity in your life💘 go you! I hope one day we can both live without the sadness from toxic people❤
I was in a toxic romantic relationship at one point. I felt worthless and even after it ended it took me a long time before I felt like myself again. All of the signs in this video were true. Just know there can be a way out and that time can heal some of these emotional scars.
I've been in multiple toxic relationships with friends, family and prior boyfriends. I thought I was unworthy and that the emotional and verbal abuse was normal, it is only now that I realise that feeling sorry for yourself and lowering your standards isn't healthy and that my ideas on happiness have been distorted by negative people in my life
Well, this video helped me get out of my toxic relationship. I'm still scared though, my ex girlfriend always threatened suicide if I tried to break up with her. I wasn't happy and I always was at her beckon and call. I always felt sick because I had to stay up all night for weeks talking to her. I don't know who I am anymore, but I finally left. A pressure has been lifted from my chest. Thank you psyc2go you have saved me from so much pain. ❤
Stay strong. Certainly toxic if she threatens to commit suicide if you leave or she don’t get her way. It’s all about control. I hope she gets help. However it’s not your job to fix her. I assume since you broke it off with her she didn’t commit suicide?
I’m definitely working on undoing the damage of toxic relationships. Heck, I cried for a good half an hour today over not knowing when I’m in a toxic relationship or not and who to trust or see as permanent in my life.
I’m currently in a toxic relationship and today was the last straw. He threw an entire bottle of water on me in front of my friends because I didn’t want to share my water with him after he had the opportunity to get his own and declined it. I was humiliated and angry. He often belittles me and calls me stupid and lazy and nasty. We’ve been together for 4 years and I think a switch has flipped in me today. I deserve better and although leaving him will be very difficult, it will clearly be best in the long run.
My brother is the most toxic person i've had the displeasure of meeting. He's been verbally and physically abusive to me since I was young, he has lied on multiple occasions to get me in trouble, he always has to have his way and will stop at nothing to get it. My family don't believe me when I tell them this. They make me out to be bad and crazy. Due to his actions and my family favoring him I feel extremely depressed and anxious like all the joy is sucked out of me I have a hard time making friends and I have no idea who I am
Watching this video reminded me of my previous relationship of almost 2 1/2 yrs. In beginning, he was awful to me, and in the end we were just awful to each other. And I realized overtime he had changed me, a d eventually, the energy and optimism I had once had was dwindling or at times I was faking it. But now, my healthy and happier relationship has truly changed my life. I'm so glad I left my previous one when I did, cause who knows who and what I would be now.
I had not realized I had been in a toxic relationship until recognizing those effects in myself. This is a great lesson learned. Thank you for your work and making psychology easier to understand. All the best 🙏🌟🙏
When I was in a toxic friendship this one "friend" made all my close friends turn on me. It might be half my fault because one of my friends became friends with a girl that lies about everything and I kept saying please don't trust her it got to the point where my friends say I was a bully to the girl just because I don't trust her. The fact the "friend" that made my friends turn on me spread mean comments about me to my friends , and she called crybaby. I only had one friend who made me happy when I was crying, it kinda sad because to this day my only true friend unfriend me for being a overdramatic. This happening in my life made me the quiet kid that does not talk. Or I am known for being the crybaby in primary school. I had to see the school counselor so many times about how my friends left me out on games, or about an argument we had. Going to the counselor to this day g gives me really bad anxiety. But I also have mental breakdown often when I am at school. School was a thing for me to get away from home and be happy with your friends, but now school to me is a bottle, the bottle is waiting for the anxiety to bottle up and Explode into me crying with my head with down in class. I think I might be emotionally tumanized from bad experiences with making friends and being bullied.
I use to be in a very toxic abusive relationship but luckily I got out before anything really bad happened now I'm in a 2 year loving and amazing relationship with my soulmate there is hope be strong I do still suffer from most of these I'm so glad my new partner is so understanding. 💙💚
I really want to know more about the topic discussed in number six. I'm at the point in my therapy where I'm trying to answer the big "who am I" question, and more guidance would be helpful.
Not exactly a therapeutic suggestion, but might I suggest checking out Buddhism, if you feel so inclined? The fundamental question for the practicing Buddhist to ask is simply, "Who am I?" Good luck to you! 😏
In my last year at school, they started the year with questions like "What are you gonna do when you grow up?" "Who are you as a person?" "What's your personality?" "What's your special trait?". I was devastated because, I didn't know who I was, or my worth, since I grew up with a Toxic Family and Toxic Friends and my self-esteem was none, but all of the questions were followed with "If you're not able to answer these questions, you won't be able to have a good career". I never felt so scared in my entire life, "What I am going to do?" "What would _they_ think if I fail again?", I was desperate and lonely and I was even considering cutting myself, but I was to scared to do it. I really want a video with this topic because, even today I'm not able to answer these questions.
@@-k1ts0-97 When I was in school, they made us take personality tests, and my test told me that I'd be a nurse when I grew up. I didn't want to be a nurse, I hated the idea! After doing a lot of searching, I ended up getting a degree in geology, and went on to become a park ranger, and I'm very happy with that. So don't let school determine your self worth. You're capable of so many things, sometimes it takes a while of searching--that is something that school cannot, and will not teach you.
I’ve had 4 people confirm that I’m in a toxic relationship with a ‘friend’ of mine, I’m crying myself to sleep each night and wanting to do bad things. All my friends are worried about me and I’ve talked to the toxic person and they make excuses and I believe them ‘cause I want to be friends with them although I know they’re toxic. Hope everyone is staying safe 🫶
I feel like I’m the toxic one in our relationship. I’ve hardly been talking to my friends, He’s always calling out my bad mood, my sense of gloom. I’m hardly ever joyful anymore, I just don’t have the energy sometimes and there’s nothing he’s actually doing. My self esteem is low, my confidence is low, I can’t answer the question of who I am as a person and I feel unworthy but there’s still nothing he’s actually doing. He loves me and gets frustrated himself sometimes at how selfish and dismissive I can be. There was another video here about toxic parent and I feel like I even identified as a toxic parent in our relationship with the way I treat him. We don’t have kids, but sometimes I’m so dismissive of him because I’m being selfish. I just don’t know what to do or how to fix myself.
:(. I just recently ended a relationship b/c my ex was acting like you, but I do hope that you find a way to be better! I just couldn't tolerate the behavior, and I didn't want to be pouring all energy in something that wasn't going to work out :/
@@honza5327 Thanks for the comment! I think it's hard to change somebody because I thought over time it was going to get better, especially when I communicated that you can't shut me out if you're angry or you can't tell me you don't feel like talking b/c of a bad work day. Also, if you're not willing to spend the quality time (he tended to cap our time together at 6 hours, and I consistently ask for more time), then...am I going to expect that to change? I get the saving the friendship part, but there are some things not worth fighting for, especially when it makes me very miserable in the process.
@@honza5327 i can relate to you. I used to be friends with someone who was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. We were in grade 7, In the earlier stage of our friendship (few weeks since we became friends) everything went quite well but it suddenly goes downhill when a conflict happened, nonstop bickering, mood swings, lashing out. The same happened with most of her friends. It went on for quite awhile, eventually i was there through thick and thin, so does she for me. I have trust issues and she knows that, but every time an argument happens, the more i doubt to put my trust in her. She often tries to end our friendship by threatening me to the point that suicide/self-harm was involved. It was very difficult for me. Im fully aware that the both of us were toxic to each other but we chosed to stay anyway. Shes very verbal with her feelings and she always tells the truth about my actions that she finds unpleasant while i was always quiet about my own thoughts, which was difficult for her to understand me. In december 31 before 2020 i was having second thoughts on whether i should end our bond or not. We were both thinking about it for a long time tho. Our friendship was on/off, after leaving, eventually we come back, But as we try to fix things, the more we fail to do it. She got better, she said, i can see that. She became more healthier and she can manage her mental health briefly than before. Unfortunately for me, I don't really know and im still confused. There were traits that was very unlikely of me. Suicidal thoughts, pessimistic, anxiety, negativity. Its like im a totally different person. I wasnt like this before. Last 2 months she told me that after all of what we talked about, i still was hesitant to change in order for our friendship to work. And because i was afraid to tell her my side, i stayed quiet, mistaken for pride. a month after she sent me a message and we talked about our condition when we werent talking. I was actually getting better, but everything turned back to the way they were when i was friends with her. But a week later, i asked her if we were better off strangers and she overreacted about it and lashed out, stating that i was still same toxic person she knew-She called me a hypocrite. Her friend talked to me about her rant regarding our friendship and told me that its best for the both of us to be apart. Our friendship ended when she cut off all communication between us. And there i thought, "oh, my efforts are still neglected despite everything weve been through. I was there in your lowest but apparently you couldn't do the same." Few weeks have passed And i finally feel relieved. Im slowly healing, though there are nights when i suddenly get sad because of what happened, but thats okay. Its kinda nostalgic typing down all of this. I miss her very much but id prefer not being friends with her anymore
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I just ended a toxic relationship with my ex boyfriend a couple of days ago. Looking back everything seems so clear now. The first day of leaving him was like going through hell, but honestly now I feel so extremely relieved and at peace that all the negative feelings of grief just seem so easily manageable. Of course I know that I’ll have my downs in the future, but I already feel so much lighter. All the anxiety and self doubt and self hatred just lifted off of my shoulder. I miss him a lot, and the good things that came with him, but I can already feel that dark cloud above me clearing away, and even though I was with him for two years, I feel better now than I did in that relationship for a very long time. It’s very hard to leave someone like this, because they make you believe and feel like you can’t accomplish anything and can’t live on your own without them. But I know that all of you going through this will gather the strength and courage to take the right step eventually, and even though I don’t know you, I believe in you, and your ability to do so. So stay strong, and remember that even though you were made to believe otherwise, you are ENOUGH and WORTHY of love, the right kind of love. Lots of love and stay strong 💕 (If anyone with a similar experience could give me some advice and some heads up for the future, I would greatly appreciate it, because right now I’m very scared of falling back into that dark hole, and starting to doubt myself and my decision again...)
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I ended things with a friend who was guilting me into being friends. After someone asks me how my art was going in a group chat, I said I had important family stuff to do so I might quit, my toxic friend exploded at me in the group chat and then proceeded to manipulate me saying I was in the wrong for wanting to leave him as a friend after he knew I had depression, family drama and had to get two jobs. I’m not in the wrong if he exhausted me mentally and I wanted to cut ties with him. He guilted me several times and still somehow considered me his ‘one true’ friend.
Toxic relationship also Causes the problems like Lack in Self confidence....Low self esteem..You Hate yourself...You Jst become a blank person..It really makes you feel that you will ever get a right person in your life or not..or else it can makes you Loose hope in finding love or trustworthy person in your life.
Breakups can be a blessing in disguise! It's not always meant for makeup, but rather it ends in order for you to wake up! So instead of trying to fix something that is broken, start over to create something that you will attract better. 💙RU-vidr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
My previous relationship was very abusive and mentally unstable. I didn’t realize that is was toxic relationship until now. I still feel like what happened during my time with that other person still effects me as a person even after so many years. I know that I won’t recover from it if I keep denying what happened.
I had toxic friends, but my ex was the mother of all toxicity, it took a few years for me to notice that I was applying a bit of pessimistic and toxic behavior towards my current boyfriend. Sometimes you might not even see how it changes you. I only then noticed how bad of habits I took from my former boyfriend, and applied it to my current boyfriend. I told myself not to get attached, since "no one is perfect" "it might go wrong" "don't expect it to be perfect" (while nothing was perfect, my expectations were low.) When something didn't go my way, I became silent or seemed dead to get attention from my boyfriend. These were qualities that stayed with me until my he finally admitted that I haven't changed/etc. This is what caused me to change my ways, knowing that my actions affect him. I woke up to the realization that I was changing him badly and I needed to help him after staying with me this long. To be a better person for him. What set me apart from my ex was I was/am willing to change and be a person everyday, while for years now, he has never changed and luckily he's gone from contacting me and threatening everyone. The thing is, I've been with this ex for about a year, nearly a year, and from just that, it really impaled my thought process and how I portrayed myself, and others around me. I've been with my current boyfriend for two years and I finally changed who I am. It's easier to be changed by bad energy than by good most times, and it's best to cut any bridges with people who are negative, to save yourself. sometimes you need blunt honestly about yourself and an open ear to be open, and change.
Despite all my efforts to make the relationship I’m in work, I definitely am experiencing all 8 signs. They hit the nail on the head with each one. I don’t leave the relationship because I believe I deserve this and no one else will want me. 😔
It rlly DOES affect your entire health since being at home with my incredibly toxic family I have been having headaches, rapid heartbeat, nausea, fatigue, body aches, increased anxiety, ear pain the list goes on and on my body can't physically endure this high stress and harmful environment
I have been in a toxic relationship. I decided to walk away. She didn't take it very well. I tried several times indeed. Every time we got back together. But, the problem got worse. I found myself turning into abusive monster. And I thought for her and for myself I need to be the one to step up and finish once and all. It's been a month since I left. She must have felt bad, sad and hurt. I really feel sorry for her and I miss her so much. But I can't go back and torture each other again. I can't stop thinking of her. I hope some day I feel better and she finds someone she really deserves. :(((
I was good friends with an online friend for over a year and then was prompted to move all the way to Maine from Utah to live with her and her husband, only to find out that she was a manipulative narcissist that never wanted to take responsibility and always wanted to do her own things at everyone else's expense, and on top of all this kept blaming all of her actions on her mental and physical health; which she was also neglecting. This droned on for several months and even when we were no longer roommates, she still kept guilt tripping me and wanting us to be in a romantic relationship. I don't regret the encounter at all; it gave me perspective and brought to light who my true friends were and what my attitude ought to be in order to sustain myself instead of sacrificing everything in hopes of the bettered outcome I want to see. Funnily enough I am still good friends with her husband to this day, and I am even closer with my other current friends thanks to the ordeal.
I have suspected for a long time I was in an unhealthy relationship. And now that I'm in the process of leaving, this really helped me. I am trying to get better. I know I can't be who I use to be, but I can hope I can get better. Thank you for helping me identify it was really toxic. It can be quite hard when my husband fights me every day to say the relationship wasn't bad, and how I must have something wrong with me. :(
It gets better Kings and queens. Being broken during quarantine sucked ass but once I started loving myself and working on myself, I feel content and happy.
As a random person who don’t each other , since childhood I have been into many friendships that most of them are Exploitative in school due to my unconditional love and a nonstop kindness plus being a nerd that scores high mark. And one friendships that last 3 years was toxic I managed to leave that friend but it left me crushed and crying hard for three day and night, that made somebody think that someone dear to me died. I will just leave a message before I go forever: these friendships are hard to forget but don’t ever let it effect your next years of your life because there will be many people out there will give you a kindness hand to pull you of the darkness but you only need time and courage to open your eyes and heart to find them before they go away,and remember life is short so please don’t let theses wonderful moments go with out see them. I know you will make it❤
I have experienced all of them. The issue is that you aren't aware of it (or more of the severity of it) and it becomes the new normal. Thanks to my family and friends who helped me to look out for professional help. It is tough to dig in and internalise new habits but you know that you are moving in the right direction.
I was in a toxic relationship. Her family practically forced us to marry and it fucked my life up. Even years later im paying for it. If I'm with someone and I see the slightest hint theyre like her I immediately start becoming more distant. Dont let people do this to you. The damage take so long to fix
This is absolutely correct I know a person who is toxic everytime I talk to such person I feel stressed out completely drained, I cry by her attitude, i sometimes feel depression and doesn't want to talk to anyone
My first relationship was what really effed me up. Because my ex was being really forceful and toxic. He also sexually assaulted me and after that relationship, it gave me a very awful outlook on what relationships even mean and if they are really worth it.
That is the million-dollar question! Seems to me it would take both people changing at the same time. And unfortunately most people are quite reluctant to change even though they say they will or want to. Maybe another question to ask is why have I set my standards so low that I'm willing to be in a toxic relationship?? Often times were so exhausted from being in a toxic relationship that we really don't even have the emotional or spiritual energy to leave it. Yet leaving it is the only way you can be healthy. You can't get healthy in a sick relationship!
sometimes its hard to see thru on these signs because of the their "almost perfect" facade of kindness and manipulation, that's why its important to check your self in, "if it feels like something's is wrong", they bombarded you with flowery words and promises, but your gut feeling/intuition tells your otherwise then you have to - listen carefully, watch their words and actions again and again. it will give you an answer.
I was in on and off relationship for 3 years, we ended together official for 2 years, I was getting sick like 4-6 times last year, and it makes sense because we are over now and I’m more healthier than I was. These effects had me I understand more now completely about this situation. Sometimes I wish that could have ended it sooner..
Its been 4 years since I've been in a toxic relationship. I'm in a much better, healthier relationship and I'm still healing after all this time. Thanks for this video!
Honestly do whatever makes *you* feel better not what makes her feel better it’s okay to do what makes you feel happy and if you don’t want to do that try to talk to her about what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling like that
Sounds like your friend is a martyr. Long suffering for me! Without you who they going to blame? How long are their feelings going to be more important than yours? And how long are you going to put up with these messages orange direct opposition, come here go away come here go away!??
I was in an extremely toxic relationship for an year. It was so difficult to move on as I felt that I am abandoning him. After moved on I felt unutterable relief and seclusion. Now I can realize how much damage it caused on me .Its really pathetic. Now I am fixing them.
Thanks for everything, this account puts everything psychology related into perspective and is helping me get over a huge mess in my life. You guys are super important to a lot of us. Thank you.
I see it in my friendship of 7+ years. It tears me apart knowing what I know now. I think moving would be good for everyone involved right now. Time apart from the friendship is healthy.
I just had to pack up my belongings while my Significant other was at work, or else this would’ve never been able to happen. I moved to another apartment turned off my location went back to our old apartment and broke things off with him left and sobbed the entire way back to my new beginning..... It’s only day two and I feel extremely defeated and depressed. I’ve never felt more alone in my entire life, not because of losing my best friend and my lover, but because every single person in my life family and friends, never liked him. I’m even being reprimanded for staying with him for so long and how stupid I was for putting up with his toxic behaviors versus a pat on the back for being strong enough to leave an impossible situation. I have relied on RU-vid for over 10 years as my own form of therapy. If anyone ,even one person , out there can read this, I really could use some support love and positive vibes my way because I feel absolutely weak and defeated right now. I have always felt a sense of community in the RU-vid world. I have never felt more isolated and alone in the real world then I do right now. Anyone else going through what I’m going through, I give you the strength I wish I had.
My toxic ex-friend had an idea of friendship based on their own previous toxic friendships and it completely ruined it. They thought they could like "appear/disappear" in my life whenever they wanted to, as if they had the power and the right to play with me because someone did that to them. I have just thrown this person away, we're way better off for now.
I'm so lucky that my husband came into my life when he did, so that he could help me recognise that I was in a toxic relationship. He came at a time where if he were to come any later, I wouldn't know what a healthy relationship was anymore. I'm blessed that I didn't need to go through that process alone. It truly was such a dark time, especially since the person I was with was avoidant attachment type (I had no idea because they wouldn't communicate).
1) Correct 2) Correct 3) kinda correct 4) Correct 5) kinda correct 6) kinda correct 7) Correct 8) Correct 100%.. I broke up with my 6 month long gf and I feel terrible. Today she gave my mom a letter to give to me pretty much saying that I'm a liar, I lied about me loving and caring about her, I'm a bad person, all that. But later tonight a few hours after I blocked all socials from her she came banging at my door sobbing, saying she's sorry and shes a bad gf She wouldn't stop crying until I said "we can still talk, I might be ready to date again someday.." And she stopped crying. I felt terrible because it felt like I turned into a different person, The person that calms her down everyday then will promise anything. I feel so numb, Every day she cries, Every day she asks to come over for a hug and help, Its taking a toll on me When I need a hug or ranting she will barely help then she'll start saying stuff about what's bothering her, what's hurting her, I don't know what to do but all of my friends are telling me to get away, Cut her off from my life, but I still love her so much. Its so hard to get away because she hurt herself after we broke up, just like my first gf My first gf threatened to hurt herself, then axtually hurt herself then sent me pictures, I have told my newest ex how much this has hurt me in the past from that trauma and she still hurt herself. I feel terrible
This is so true. As a person who is diagnosed with depression, I needed a constant reassurance because my self-esteem is really low and having daily mental breakdowns is not easy. My ex boyfriend didn't really give attention in my red flags, he even said to me that "it's all in my mind so stop thinking about it ", it hurts me that he didn't understand what was happening to me, so I got the courage to left him and now all he left in me was more trust issues and self hatred.
This is exactly how I grew up and my parents treated me...at 50 years old I am just starting to break out of this shell. Amazingly enough I have lived a rewarding life but it pains me to see all the opportunities I missed because of this toxicity that I feel inside.
Oh my god. I cried at number 6 :( I was watching a video previously where the narrator said something about how victims in a toxic relationship might not know when they should/can seek help because they haven't been able to compare their situation with anyone else's, thus their circumstance is "normalized" for them. #6 was a huge thing for me; I thought whatever I was going through was normal, but realized my personal growth was so stunted that even when moving to a more secure environment, I still struggle to form my own identity..and at my age it's hard to accept that because I should've been able to grow intellectually and emotionally at a young age, but I also recognize that I didn't have much choice back then. Sorry if this didn't make too much sense, but thank you for reading anyway :) Thank you for making this video!
Fabulous video. I see my toxic relationship for what it was now. Am no longer ashamed of myself and am moving on. Thanks for your great video. The reassurance is very important.
Man these sings were all in me, It hurts so bad, But luckily weeks ago, I had the courage to stop that toxic person and break everything up with her, I feel more alive now, I even started to do stuff I wanted to do years ago!! (Saying that oh I’ll do it later then leaving it to the next day and so on because of how lazy and tired I am) People please Understand that you’re the master of you and don’t let anyone hurt you or control you with their words, Don’t hold tight to anything that hurts you and try as best as you can to let it go, losing a friend hurts but it hurts even worse when that friend judges you, make fun of you, make you feel guilty, never care about you at all, and you're still thinking about remaining friends with them. No one can control you, unless your parents for your own good of course! LOL . I still feel sorry to myself that I have damaged myself so bad because of her, but I believe I can fix everything now; please do the same...
Yep. Not all of them - I was never optimistic in the first place, and my physical health has been pretty good - but the fatigue, anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem and losing myself I do get. It's a long road back, and thanks for reminding me how far I have come.
Just came from here ( I can't believe it's almost a year already) and I'm glad to be much more great now and I get to do things I love now without constant worrying
Hol up- Girl..you don't deserve it so get your ass outta that relationship real quick if you're not fine with that and if you already did good luck with your new man. Love n kisses bye♡
Fortunately I was able to see the signs before things escalated. I burned all bridges with a friend of mine that turned toxic. It hurt a lot because I had been friends with him for 9 years straight, I thought of him almost like a little brother. But I refused to feel like he trampled upon me, and on top of that he was beginning to display physical intimidation with me, chucking his phone to the floor and yelling at me when I didn't budge to what he wanted, like a kid throwing a tantrum. It was a matter of time before he went lashed out on me directly, so I just vanished from his life. Without a word. I admit I still feel sad and regretful about it all, losing a friend like that... But still, I'm not dumb enough to just sit there and take it. Why stay and get hurt when you can just end the pain by removing the source from your life? So all in all, as much regret as I feel about it all, I know this is the best outcome.
I hope everyone who feels like this ( I used too) and still do sometimes. You are strong your are worth your time matters. You’re loved, have a great day
All the points are so so relatable. I think it becomes even more hurtful and unhealthy when you're being criticised all the times, especially when you're feeling emotionally vulnerable and are blamed for everything. You're blamed for: your own pain, causing them the pain and all the mess in the relationship. It's like even trying to express your side or trying to explain how something they did made you feel like exactly how you felt in your childhood, makes them say back to you that you are responsible for making them do it to you. You pushed them into that role yourself. I know I am no more a child and hence I need to work on those feared sides of my child-self and I am working on them. But I will still need some support. It's not that easy to heal all those year long wounds. Infact tbh, I can see the way he's acting has a lot to do with the pain he's carrying through his childhood too. But if I try to tell him that, he gets super defensive and just denies the viability of my opinion. Nothing I say makes sense or is valid or true. I don't know I just feel so so lost and hurt. I don't know how slowly we got to this point where the relationship is so off the scale. I can't express anything without being getting angry at or getting loaded with more and more blame. I know I have been wrong in my place too but the way I'm being treated is just too painful and unfair. My faults are my mistake and their faults are my mistake too and everything that's wrong is as well. Even if I try to express my side, he gets angry and annoyed and leaves the conversation and then there's silence for days. I want to get out of my pain but its just so so hard when you have to go through this pain like this and feel unheard and misunderstood, mistreated or Infact completely blocked by the other person. And on the top of that, you are made to feel like the bad person. Sorry for venting out. I can't talk to anyone about how I am feeling. Each day I am trying to heal myself . But right now it just only hurts far too much.
this channel needs more recognition, Psych2Go has literally saved my life. if i hadn't have found these videos its very likely i wouldn't be here now. Thank You!
I've just got through a toxic relationship and what really sucks is that I still love her so much. Its been three months since we went our seperate ways, I been asking God to help me to let go of her in my heart ❤ 💔. I think its time for me to start dating again and meeting new women so I can have someone else to think about...I think its because I really put in alot of time/energy and money into the relationship and it hurts. I really want to just forget everything and realise that she was not the one for me. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🤦🏿♂️
For a while I’ve been wanting to end a relationship & I knew it wasn’t getting any better but more risk full & challenging. It makes it harder when you’re living with them & you have nowhere else to go. I’ve became bitter & gained serious trust issues & aware of questioning why I’m with this person. To this day I’m struggling with that issue & I know Things are not gonna get better until I do something about it. The question is how & when will be the right moment.
I really needed this a few months ago, Ive been in so many toxic relationships because I’m autistic and it’s so easy for me to be gaslighted so glad this is out here now
I did not realize all the trauma that my past toxic brought me until I met someone amazing who didn’t wanna be with me because of my trust issues and because I did not love myself. That is when I realized I needed to allow myself to feel to really allow myself to heal.
For the first one, I find that SUPER sad because it's like you're not willing to take experience to what it feels like to be with someone who you can rely on. At the same, it is a scary thing and positivity should always be apart of your listing of a decent relationship, what I mean by "decent" I meant by "not all relationships are perfect". We need to learn and adapt with our partners, communicate, and have clear understanding on where we're coming from. Just don't be afraid to talk or chat with people (personally I had guys who would ghost for no reason or they would match me but don't say anything), dont be afraid to speak your mind and explore. People nowadays just seem so distance and sensitive to every damn thing that shouldn't affect their mood. 😕
I'm currently six months out of a financially abusive relationship (i broke up with them via the no contact method). I've definitely experienced/can vouch of all of these except for that last one, but that's only because of all the precautions that are being taken on account of the current pandemic. Combining the current world events with what happened to me last year (the relationship began in November of 2018 and they started asking for money in January of 2019 and would not stop asking for money), I have to be honest it will be a very long time before I feel safe "putting myself out there" both physically and emotionally.
I was in a toxic relationship 3 year's ago which is my first love.but now I am in a relationship with someone for one and half year and he is amazing. He really understands me very well.
Sadly this happens to guys too. I escaped from my toxic situation a week ago. Now I’m considering ways of healing because idk if I can feel normal in a relationship after years of what I’ve been through
I was in a really toxic relationship and I didn't see it for about 2 years! I won't go into detail but the person threatened me, took money from me, kissed me twice while I was in a relationship and just pushed me into her shadow. I felt like I could trust her but I felt so drained and didn't trust anyone except for her and my other puzzle piece. She made me really depressed and I almost took my life about 4 times. I'm getting better but it just shows how blind you can be to toxic people. It was so hard for me to let go and actually de-friend her. I came back to her though. The second time, I was able to pull myself out of the loop. I hope she gets help or sees the error of her ways. For now, I'll just forgive her and move on. Another toxic person actually just recently started acting bad but I could see this one. Like putting on glasses for the first time. She just insulted the heck out of me but I told her to not do that and it was rude. I then de-friended her. So moral of this story is that, it's okay to stand up to yourself and it's never too late to quit if your a bad person!
I ended a 10 year friendship because of this. Just ask yourself what your honest feelings are before ot after youve spent time with someone. My friend left me always feeling drained and like I'd wasted my whole day. I would also watch the clock until it was time to leave.
