8 Signs It's Obsession, NOT Love 

Did you recently get confessed to and you are not sure if they are simply just obsessed?

Now I see one of the real reasons why I'm still single and why I fail to get a girl: sometimes, I ask myself- "am I really in-love with that person? Or am I just obsessed?".

A friend once told me that, "if they love you, you won't be confused."

0:53 threatened by independence 1:36 boundaries are ignored 2:16 extremely controlling behaviour 2:52 not engaging in other activities 3:37 blocking out others 4:13 moving too fast in the relationship 4:56 demanding constant contact 5:36 tracking without consent Thanks for the likes yall ♥️!!! hope ure hving a good day :))

Love is mistaken for many negative things today like obsession, lust, attachment🙏

In a healthy relationship, both partners will be able to voice their feelings and the anxiety should go away over time. But if the anxiety still persists, experts say it may not be love but obsession.

I have sadly done a lot of these things 😔 emotional regulation is also super important, if you start feeling jealous or alone, anxious, sad, etc you have to be able to help yourself through these emotions instead of taking it out on your partner. That was my biggest problem, I never wanted to isolate them from their friends but my insecurities and jealousy was so hard for me to deal with it's what ended up happening because of my emotional outbursts 😔 When you're a very emotional, passionate person it can hard to deal with things. Just remember your partner has feelings too, and they care about you (hopefully lol)

I’m guilty of a lot of these… especially demanding constant contact. It’s been a lot for my boyfriend and heck, we almost broke up today because of it. I’d never had a boyfriend prior to him so I wasn’t sure how to love.. somehow these videos are helping me become aware of my flaws. Thank you!

I wish I could say I recognized the signs at the time, but I didn’t. And I got really hurt in the end. I went through a LOT over the few months of my last “situationship 🙄”, but I’m so much better off now and this video really confirmed this for me. Thank you all 🖤

8 signs it's obsession not love 1. threatened by independence 2. boundaries are ignored 3. extremely controlling behavior 4. not engaging in other activities 5. blocking out others 6. moving too fast in the relationship 7. demanding constant contact 8. tracking without consent

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

This is so so important, especially for teenagers and young adults!! So often in media, obsessive behaviors are played off as being romantic and passionate, when in reality they can be unhealthy and dangerous. It is possible to have a passionate, exciting relationship while also respecting each other's independence and boundaries!!

I was in a relationship with a cheater and liar. I loved and didn’t want to give up even though they hurt me. I tried to continue with the relationship however it made me feel extremely insecure and obsessed. It was not a healthy relationship and it took a lot of strength in me to leave. I am glad I left. When you find the right one, you don’t have to worry about these things because he/she will make you feel comfortable, safe and secure. I hope you guys can find this kind of love and are strong enough to get out of these toxic relationships.

I had a crush on a guy for 3 years, and was deathly afraid of even letting myself *think* "I love him" because I was so worried it was infatuation. After I confessed to him, he rejected me gently, and I was finally able to accept that I do in fact love him, and I'm just glad he still wants to be my friend

Wow... that describes a ex-friend of mine perfectly... she was the mother of guild-tripping, gaslighting, demanding and controlling. For example: She used to become really angry when I did not write her first or if I did not write her for two days. It was awful. I shut down our friendship after roughly a year and thought that I was simply the problem and could not have friendships with other women. So I stayed away from close friendships with other women for years and sabotaged myself when it came to girls that showed interest in me. And as a woman I surely missed something for almost a decade. Now I finally have female friends that are uncomplicated, nice and lovely. They dont shame me if we dont talk for a few days or if they have to write first. Everyone has their own life. They love me unconditionally and that's all that matters. ♡

My father shows all these signs towards my mother. I’d like to see a video about the effects of a toxic parental relationship on kids. I know Psych2Go has done videos like that before, but I don’t recall ever seeing a video exclusively about how a bad relationship between parents affects their kids

Describes my first husband perfectly. I knew something was off but could never articulate it because I was only 18

My ex was basically an example of someone rather obsessed than loving. She proclaims to be "in love" and loves spending time with me. However, never respected my space, never seems to really let me talk or express my concerns or worries. Always insecure of me leaving her. And let alone always (and I do mean Always) cries to me when I am absolutely busy and working my way up in my career. Thank God it only lasted for a few months. Cause she would of held me down. If someone loves you, they would want the best for you and from you. They would be supportive and aware of their actions. They would even work on themselves and try to be the best they can be for the relationship.

Sounds like all the reasons right down to the tracking, why I am trying to end my sadly unhealthy relationship. Your videos are so simple (yet deep) and have helped me through some rough times, thank you again for another wonderful video! And if anyone has any healthy advice please reply!

Im obsessed with this channel. You guys teach me SOOOOOO much information! Thanks you for keeping us educated 😊

"Love involved patience" is just an amazing sentence 💖

The tracking one isn’t always obsession. Sometimes it’s a huge trust issue. Someone with big trust issues might not trust them, so they make sure they aren’t at another person’s house for an extended period of time. Now I’ve never been in a relationship, but I know that trust issues can lead to this

Love is fangirling about the artist who drew all the handsome manhwa characters

If your partner cheats and lies leave or this becomes you out of pure insecurity. I loved but I was definitely obsessed too.

It's like you read my mind. I really needed this video😩. Thank you❤️💯. Lots of Love for you guys❤️

I needed this so badly. Thank you.

Really helps to hear that. I'm out of that relationship for a while now, but am still thinking about who was right with that. Especially as there was quite a bit of support for my ex's point of view out there. Nowadays I feel less strangely dismissive for not wanting to be controlled. So thanks, Psych2Go, you guys really helped through a tough time! 😘

Lately I have been feeling a bit obsessive toward a person that I shared a night of intimacy with. It was only a kiss but it was everything that led up to it that made me feel heard, seen, and loved. We have yet to have an honest conversation about that night and I crave clarity and closure. However, he has been very distant, sporadically responsive, and I am the only one who has made an effort to maintain contact. Tonight I read signs that might not have been there. I think I may have overstepped a boundary and I feel guilty about it a little. I didn't do anything too crazy, I just showed up where he was at and asked him if he would let me in so we could talk. He didn't respond to the text though I knew he was in there. I thought he had been watching my story and was tryna see me subliminally, but ig I'm crazy or sumn. Idk why I feel this strongly about someone over a kiss. I just want to know how he feels.

That is actually what I imagine how a toxic relationship is and it is crazy that such relationships exist. I always thought it was a Tiktok thing...

I admit that I have lost friends during middle and elementary school over being too obesssive or posessive. I would get paranoid and overprotective of those who said they were my friend. And for a long time I had no idea that my first crush was a love obsession. I even had a whole plan for a friends to lovers relationship for years. Or maybe its my Aspergers and constant failure at making friends that makes me hold on too tightly to the friends that I do have for fear of losing them.

I've seen a lot of this happen in friends' relationships. One of the cardinal reasons why I tell people to avoid the jealous types.

I relate to this, I'm obsessive and I'm quite ashamed but it makes me feel good I know it's wrong but I don't know what to do about it

I've been pretty excited about this person I've been talking to for some months now because I can tell neither of us are obsessed with each other, and it definitely feels like genuine love. I'm especially happy about that because I found myself obsessed (and what I thought was love at the time) for the first time mid last year, but I can tell this time is the first time I've genuinely felt love. And that fact that the other person I'm talking to also isn't obsessed has been extremely attractive to me. Feels like we are on the same wavelength of self-understanding, what a relationship really is, good/bad signs of a relationship etc.

This was like going through my last relationship, each step in the video a step that happened in my life. So happy I am not there anymore. Mental abuse is a very real thing..

Great video, good signs to watch out for, keep it up!

Such profound truth, wisdom and lessons. Obsession is a dangerous thing. Don't be so desperate for love, only to miss the signs...

I don't know how many times I've fallen inlove and have been obsessed to someone.

I realized that I had love that turned into obsession

I’m definitely someone who genuinely gets super anxious about my friends, but I’m glad that was the only one I can relate to for this list. I’ve been working on it, checking up on them less, letting them reach out to me first sometimes. It’s definitely helped make me feel less anxious about not talking to them all of the time, but I’m definitely still working on it.

I noticed my obsessive behaviour quite early on but I didn’t address it until quite a bit later. It wasn’t severe because it was mainly composed of thoughts, that every now and then takes a bit of action. I usually regret it soon afterwards which has kept me in check most of the times. I’ve gotten over my obsession now (I think). Nice vid! 👍

I related to the other perspective and was surprised to see that what I'm feeling might be a "healthier" or more mentally stable love connection 🧡

this is the exact things that I was going through I'm pretty new to relationships. I always thought that I was the one who can't give my all but it turns out I'm giving my best at the time. I still don't know if my decision to end it was right. really hard for your partner if your obsessing over little things.

This channel is helping me become a better person

Thank you for this. I needed to hear it all.

As we have been isolated from each other socially ( though for scientifically and medically sound reasons) socially isolated in a way that is unhealthy on many emotional levels, it is ever more important that we realistically assess ourselves and our perception of others before letting what we want to see inform our actions. Loneliness is difficult but relationship misery is worse. Spontaneous equal and opposite reaction to one's exact feelings is almost never a thing. No matter how much we want it to be. Literally the odds of love at first sight being mutual and lasting are in the range of being hit by a meteorite or winning the lottery. It happens, but VERY rarely. That world altering instant bond (that usually isn't instantly mutual, and sometimes never becomes so at all) involves a subconscious hormone surge with some imbedded archetypes from past life experience, and self programming through entertainment sources. It's wonderful to feel that electric attraction, and if we weren't sentient, it would be no problem. Offspring would result, just like other mammals. But we humans remember the past from our own point of view, mostly(and hopefully learn from it), and imagine the future , all the while still more or less carrying around the scars of our unique other-imposed damage that colors all our subsequent experiences. Sometimes accumulated damage of either partner or both is extensive enough that it must be confronted and remediated before ANY relationship can work. People continually grow and change and ideally for the better. Someone that seems right for you now, will not work out if you are not right with yourself. Don't get into a relationship to be saved or absorbed, or to completely control another person so you can feel safe, or make it impossible for you to be abandoned. Those are some of the unrealistic goals that that signal obsession, and damage you need to address. Mapping the surface of another person and calling it good without exploring the depths of what they are willing and able to share with you is a recipe for heartbreak if not outright disaster. That perfectly fitting two piece puzzle we all crave does start with MUTUAL attraction but having a loving relationship that succeeds and lasts is the result of many ,many pieces, including: honest knowledge, acceptance, honestly shared worldviews and independent opinions and just a few shared interests, mutual respect, and a shared continuing commitment to the long haul that wears each other's jagged edges smooth over a period of time. to the point where each of you knows each other better than anyone ever has or ever will but you still prefer each other's company over all other humans. It sounds like a lot of work... but it will seem like a great adventure when you both see a good fit and are willing to put in the work.

some people seem like they hid behind the term love cept that theyre obsessed as hell

Thx guys, I really needed this...

You're a social god!!. Keeping making these videos. I love them!!

Listen I was starting to experience these symptoms but I was able to realize it was affecting my life so I took the opportunity to tell her I would take a week off from spending time with her. Its already been a week and we hung out again just yesterday. Now that I've seen this video I understand that I've just experienced obsession and now I'm thankful for taking that step to distance myself. Thanks for the video and I'll use this knowledge to help myself with my current relationship with her!

I think I might have been a little obsessive on someone I love, it's good to realize the harm I've been doing thanks psych2go , ill be a better lover

This video was so life changing 😍. Thx very much

The voice itself is just so relaxing

Best educational chanel !

I think it is all about perspective. I unfortunately relate to a few things here but it doesn't come from a place of malice or intent to control.. it goes deeper than that and I definitely think there is more to it

this is actually very helpful!

Really needed this thank you

I feel as if I might be dealing with an obsessive lover right now (they do a lot of these), but at the same time I'm paranoid that I might just be victimizing myself.

This makes me realize how both me and my ex were obsessed with each other. I think I was more obsessed with the idea of us so when reality set in that wore off and bow I'm happy I decided to end it

Thank you for making this video. I find this video valuable because it was so helpful and useful as it can help me watch out for signs of obsession. I want to tell y’all a story about something happening relating to one of the signs shown in this video. During my junior year of high school on January 10th, 2022 when I was talking with my friends during the passing period between 3rd and 4th period, there was a group of 4 girls in my grade who were just demanding my attention when I didn’t want to talk to them as I was talking to my friends. When the 4 girls were demanding my attention, they were showing signs of extremely controlling behavior by begging me to spend time with them, trying to decide which friends I am allowed to hang out with and then trying to block out the friends I was hanging out with. After I got done talking with my friends, I was going to class and the group of girls that were demanding my attention and showing signs of aggressive controlling behavior were demanding my attention again. When they did while I was going to class, it felt like they were showing signs of extremely controlling behavior because it felt like they were attempting to convince me that they were the only ones I desired but they weren't, so I ignored them and went straight to class. The reason the girls who were demanding my attention weren't the ones I desired was that I didn't feel comfortable hanging out with them. I used to be friends with them but after they were disrespectfully demanding my attention, I am no longer friends with those 4 girls. I am sorry this comment is long, it’s because everything I’ve mentioned in my story is what I wanted to talk about.

Thank u so much. U helped me a lot with this content :)

I was in a toxic relationship with someone who was/is obsessed with me, we were together for 15 months, I didn't realize it was toxic until it was too late, they used to ask me every 30 minutes what I was doing, and they used to say "if you are talking to [name] you will regret it", I used to always say I wasn't since I knew that they would maybe and most likely hurt them, they never let me do my hobbies without me telling them first even if it was drawing or listening to music, I never left them since I thought it was just protective love, my former friend (now gf) always told me that they were toxic and a bad partner but I was to blind to listen to her no matter what she said, I say sorry to my gf everyday now for that, me and her are in a healthy relationship and check up with each other every few hours and give each other enough space when it's needed This video really helped me see how toxic my ex really was, thank you! Have a nice day

This happens a lot when you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist. Beware of those dangerous people and don’t ignore the red flags

Awesome video good Job I in joy it thanks for the video I Love it have a good day and Night ❤👌👍

this was a wake up call. thank you.

I can confidently say; It’s love.

7/8 of these line up with my psycho ex. Thank God we broke up and I moved 1700miles away.

Thanks for all the videos, psych2go

This is quite eye opening. Wish I would have recognized these signs sooner. Just recently exited a year long relationship, that I'm still mending from, and looking back I can see where a lot of these took place and I just made up excuses for her

Girl, I swear you read my mind. Yesterday night I talked to a friend about an ex and she told me it was obsession, not love. Then I come here and see this 😔✋

You came exactly in time it's like you read my mind Sigh...from the first minute I knew that this is me. I figured this was the case a few months ago that I was like this so to simply avoid the chaos and Bullcrap I did I simply ran away and well blocked them all for the sake of both them and me. I've never truly felt love that's why external factors just reel me in too quickly. I used to see them (The controlling and sort of regulating behavior) as a sort of Caring type of thing like y'know something someone who cares about you would do...knew how fricked up that was now. I would tell more though I would simply drown deeper into my regret and depression. I am usually at the final Straw though I never find the logical way to why I would end it...I don't know I haven't finished the video I just wanted to add these thoughts that are flowing into my head because it's likely I'll forget about them knowing how bad my memory is

Even after a 3 year relationship, a lot of research has made me realise that I completely and devotedly loved her, but she never loved me, even though she genuinely thought she did. It's a crushing feeling but it does wonders when you do finally realise these kinds of things and know what will actually make you happy "This too shall pass" has become my favourite few words to tell myself at any time of hardship. Tough times ahead or behind, everyone comes out of it a better person if you just believe you can

i get goosebumps when i hear your vioce.i love your clips:)

Why so perfect timing

I've dealt with a few of these with my most recent partner. At first we never had issues communicating and these things were never a problem per se. We were very much in sync. I never required constant contact and could go days with talking to each other but as time went on we communicated less and it became an issue. We've been through a lot...but recently she realized she likely has adult ADHD. She had mentioned it from time to time but it never really clicked. We both sought therapy respectively. Once I started looking into adult ADHD a lot behaviors began to make sense. Now that I have some understanding it's made some things a bit easier. It's up to her if she wants to pursue seeing a psychiatrist or medication etc. But as far as how I react to said behaviors..Well those are things I need to work on from within. I tend to worry about things and often ruminate with negative thoughts about myself and relationships and they in turn amplify my insecurities. Currently working on controlling those thoughts and setting myself free from the mental prisons i create for myself..

When I saw this video in my recommended before watching it, I began to feel concerned about if I was obsessed. I thought I might've been, but after watching, I was really glad to know that only number 4 was a sign for me. When I started dating my bf, I realized that I was talking a lot more to him than any of my friends who I used to talk to a lot. At least none of them have worried about it, but I feel like I still need to begin talking to them more again. It's okay, though, I do think I'll be able to fix that small issue soon, though. Anyways, thank you so much for this video, Psych2Go! It helped me a bunch!

This video teaches me a lot about how to have a healthy relationship if I’m in one obsession I already know about me is not my thing I would hate to be obsessed over because it’s definitely not my thing especially if your not big into relationships very good narration as well as with it is with all your videos thank you! 😊👏🏻

Just had to kind of break up with a friend showing all these signs 😪 I’ve lost too many people who started as friends and became obsessive. I miss my friends. So how do we stop choosing people like this as friends!?

Sometimes, in your quest to make everyone else happy, you make yourself miserable.

thank you so much for making videos that are super important.

Amazing video.

Question is… how do we turn obsession to actual love?

Thanks again Phych2Go❤️

didn't realize that at the first place, that obsession is different to love and obsession might be a harmful feeling to others im so glad I clicked this video

Thank you for posting this video. I do like it. It gives some very important information. I had been in a relationship with a narrsictic lover. I married him. Worst mistake I ever made. He felt threatened by my family n close friends. I got accused of all kinds of weird stuff n he would belittle me n my family in front of his friends. He mentally abuses me n he eventually started to hit on me. Plz if anyone finds themselves in this situation. Plz pack your stuff n leave that person. They will not stop abusing you. Get out n go to your family. Get counseling so you can feel good about yourself once more but you'll always hear that voice n be scared to get involved with anyone. It took me 10 years before I stepped out on a date.

True love is when you love someone but they don't want to be with you, so you let them go. 🙏 Obsession is when he or she don't want to be with you but you give them no choice.

Would it be considered toxic say if you need a break and your in the middle of an argument, you need a break but they don't want you to leave and want you to comfort them? Or just wanted to be constantly comforted in general.

Wow that explains alot of things I had an obsessive partner, thanks to a song I heard that kinda enlightened me , I started to question my partner's behavior what I thought was alot of love was just obsession you feel like you have to justify everything and FACETIME calls all the time , thinking that by time your partner will calm down was a big MISTAKE they need help and the break up is sometimes the only way to fix thing , and guys dont let the "I won't live without you, I will e*d my life ...." narrative stop you from breaking up , these people need help not a lover that's all I have to say eventually you will move on and find someone

Quite Interesting and Helpful

oh no, my heart. it's brokeeeen. ALSO HEYOOO PSCH2GOOhs early gang

Learning psychology with Psych2Go, I think besides the signs, we also need to know why these people become obsessed..

im so glad i saw this video holy crap i didnt think i was the type of person to get obsessed but ive done a few of these and im glad ik now so i can stop and give us more space

it’s weird how this video popped up when I needed it

STOP BEIN SO RELATABLE 😭😭😭😭

I've always felt a special bond connected to a guy that I liked, like a string attached to him that says "Yes, he's the one." and we aren't even dating yet, even when I wasn't in love with him, I still got that feeling, is my gut feeling right?

it's so obsessing listening to your advices psych2Go!

Thank you for this bc some of my friends say jokingly "you are so obsessed with him" but I don't do any of these things. Thank you for clearing my doubts

“Thank you for going on this journey through life with me. There is nobody else who I would want by my side but you my angel.” - Unknown

✨Its not love,its an obssession✨

And this explains everything. Now the question becomes how to avoid doing the same mistakes again

I'm so happy I got out of that obsessive relationship, it was really hard for me to go though this, my boundaries were ignored, I wasn't allowed to have a good time with my friends, being alone, having boundaries, or even just simply go out without telling her first, it was hell and Im honestly proud of myself that I found the courage to get out of it.