🎵'Cause a diamond's just a diamond till you put it on the right left hand. Love is just a word till you feel it and you finally understand that some things don't mean anything till one day they mean everything and you're flying, smiling, and shining. Kinda like diamonds. Kinda like diamonds.🎵 FOR THE RAELYNN FANS
if you don’t have time : 1. shared your deepest secrets 2. you didn’t gossip about your love 3. you never tried to control them 4. you never used ultimatums 5. love & hate 6. things never became routine 7. the feeling of home 8. you see a future w them
Obviously there are many degrees of love. I've been in relationships were some of these criteria were strongly fulfilled but others were very lacking. Would i say i still loved them truly? Yes!!! Because i desired their best. Although both i and them were somewhat emotionally blocked. I've loved two women very deeply, going into deep love quickly but hopefully safely with a third woman now. I've also had several crushes that never went longer than flirting and dating. Also there's a difference between loving someone and being "in love" with them. I still love the two previous women in my life and i never will stop loving them but i'm not "in love" with them currently. If i allowed it (and they did as well), i could easily fall in love with them again. I choose not to, because one has narcissistic and control issues so i HAD TO leave her (she's in deep regret), and the other is taken by another man, after other meanspirited people destroyed our relationship through manipulative meddling, we only reconciled afterwards, both of us have some regrets. Plus i'm faithful to the one i found recently. Also being in love is not merely physical, it is a strong objectively material psychic/emotional bond that can't just be ignored because you change your mind on a whim, it persists until properly dissolved. Cheating is dangerous because it often makes you falling in love without falling out of love, so you are in love with several people at once. These bonds can persist for years, even without continued physical contact, because of the psychic bond of intense desire. If you dare being in love with several people at once, you should openly embrace a faithful polyamorous lifestyle. Otherwise stay faithful until you possibly fall out of love. If they treat you really bad and don't want to fix it with you, break free first, before finding someone new! Actively fall out of love in that case! Always love yourself before falling in love with someone else, to avoid toxicity and codependency. Otherwise you'll have to do the work under worse conditions. The best is to learn unconditional self love. Then you can safely enter any relationship you want with anyone interested, in a respectful manner towards them, defining clear boundaries for them to stay with you. If one partner loves themself unconditionally and the other don't, there is a risk that the other (codependent) one will eventually destroy the relationship, although they may learn to love themselves unconditionally in the process, through intensely painful lessons. If both are codependent they may lock each other in "hell". Two matching partners who both love themselves unconditionally, may love each other unconditionally as well and form a lasting blissful bond of true love, without codependency, because both freely give without needing to recieve, only appreciating it.
Signs you're inlove (Psych2Go) 1. You shared your deepest, darkest secrets. 2. You didn't gossip about your love. 3. You never tried to control them. 4. You never used ultimatums. 5. Love and hate. Not indifference. 6. Things never became routine. 7. The feeling of home. 8. You see a future with them.
"You didn't gossip" this is hard, when everybody always wants to know all the details about your boyfriend XD I mean stuff like (What does he do for a living? Where is he from? How did you met? and so on and so on. I mean I'm not the type that likes to gossip, but people are soooo curious.
@@libera7161 Maybe it meant the gossip about what's inside of your relationship. it says.. 'your partner is the only person who understands what you're going through, cos no one else understands your unique connection. true lovers try to keep that special feeling alive in private.'
when a relationship does not work out,it means it is dead.a bad relationship is always terrible,like abusive relationships.abusive relationships are toxic.abusive relationships are so toxic that it will destroy people's lives entirely.relationships don't always work out,but some relationships do.relationships are suppose to be good,not toxic,but that is how the world is.when you are in a good relationship,you are in good shape.when you are in a bad relationship,you are in bad shape.love relationships beats toxic relationships any day.
well being in a relationship is hard,but being in a new relationship is great.you see,relationships is not always good,but relationships can be good sometimes.i know i never been in a relationship my entire life,but i want to.i hope you find someone who will love and respect you for who you are and i wish the very best of luck.
being in a relationship is never easy.if you are in a relationship with someone,show them that you love them.i know i done had a lot of crushes on many girls.
*We always want something that we don't have.* Just because you started missing the person, doesn't mean you were in love. If you couldn't make it work then, it wasn't meant to be. Stay strong and love yourself.
Love can be very bright and filled with warmth. It creates freedom beyond the soul and beyond the force it's an unbreakable seal of what's meant to be cherished and protected. The qualities of Love is a mystery to the wicked but a treasure and virtue to the pure.
@@arminowo3885 then, it is not called a "bestfriend" anymore, but a "partner". It will be more deeper if they are your partner because if a bestfriend is not there, your partner will always be by your side.
With a pessimistic attitude like that damn straight I ain't saying look for it just don't be so pessimistic my mentality is if I find the right person I find the right person if I don't I don't
the worst is when u open to someone, sharing about the shittiest secret u carry trying to get the help of the one u love the most and that person didn't care and used to hurt u
I’m not gay I’m not straight I’m not bi I’m unable to keep a conversation going because I feel like the other person I’m talking to wants me out of their life because I’m annoying :(
I had all these, she was missing some. But that home thing really hits. The breakup hit me hard because she became my home. Wherever I was with her was perfect and felt genuinely like home. After she left, it sounds really weird and sappy and cliche, but I actually no longer feel like I have a home. It's so strange. My hometown isnt home, where I live now isnt home. I feel genuinely lost. It's such a strange feeling.
@@MrPoppy-nt5vr A year later and I realized she wasn't it. The relationship was honestly really toxic and emotionally abusive. I'm still searching for that home feeling. I feel like home to me is with someone I can share my life with. I recently met a really awesome woman who I could see a real future with. We'll see what happens
Some kind of people: *Falls in love* Ohh... I love that person >w< Other kind of people: *Falls in love* No! No! I cant be in love! Me: *Falls in love* Oh shit, here we Go again
Me: .....is this the real life? Is this just fantasy? Caught in a landslide, no escape from reality... open your eyes, and look up to the skies and see...
In my opinion, the hate you feel after breaking up depends on the reason why you broke up in the first place. I think there are clean break ups when the both of you decided that it is for the better. I mean, letting the old wounds and traumas heal and letting your partner go to become the best version of themselves are reasons that you just can't hate. I think there are times when what your partner needs is to grow by themselves and let their boost confidence on their own. Self love before loving anyone else. And then if they come back, that time for sure you can both love more sincerely without any holding back.
I was with my husband for 12 years before he passed away, and I watched this video out of curiosity as to what you would say. My conclusion is that he and I were absolutely in love. Thank you. ❤️
no I was not in Love, I was only In-fatuation..... And they were even less In-Love.... they had priorities in their careers and friends..... thus they discarded me sooner or later. In the end I was doing nothing, just waiting, and suffering from isolation, which is the contrary of being In-Love. It's being In-withdrawal..... I remember how I walked a little Island in la Bretagne after a boat stop. And it was the most beautiful beach I ever saw. I thought, maybe if we rented a little cottage there on the cliffs and could walk down to the beach that would be so beautiful and superb. But ladies had more plans about being pragmatic and business driven, and going hard in the business company world.... that my ideas were kinda washed away, eroded by waves...... one female wave after another nagnagnag, isolation, discard and many more
Psych2Go I love u Videos u guys helped me a lot - Greetings from Germany 🎈❣️ can u Guys make a Video about signs how u know that someone(ex/partner etc.) toxic Loves u , Textin randomly after he cut contact, always wanna let u know how his life is going, what u "passing" without him and what u could be with him, how his new girlfriend always "better" than u , he not connection with me , he doesn't tell me this things, blocked me, but when he sees my friends or people from my circal , he will talk to them tell them how successful he is know, and than talk about me a lot, but directly to me he will always fake how he think about me and say that he don't care about me how can we handle this kind of ppl ? How can we sent to you guys our stories 😳?
My crush shows some of these signs but.... He said that he feels anything to me and when that happend I didnt know how to look at his eyes. I was so embarrassed and next day we didnt talk to each other and he thought that I didnt want to know him anymore. Ehh... We are still friends but... It kills me somehow. I still believe that he will feel something to me that we will be together.
Hi Blanche! It's one year later after you commented this. I wanna know the difference of your feelings then and now and how is your heart coping. I just set someone free to be with the love of his life. It was the right thing to do and it's for the best even if it hurts
@@carlieMD Hi Ravenna, it was really difficult at the start, I still feel like I love him somehow but it doesn't hurt anymore, it is just different and I guess time heals all wounds is pretty true, with time I learnt to love him but stopped hurting for his absence, I wish you all the best and good luck moving forward
I ve been through the same shit. Its been almost 3 years and I still love him. But yes..time has its magic to lemme become stronger. Now I miss him and sometimes it hurts for sure. But the pain is not that severe like before. But yes sometimes it is very hard to control my emotions when I hear his name or anything related which reminds me of him. But that painful phase doesn't last as long as it used to before.
@@FBAV that is correct! the difference is the point of you giving is not solely for receiving. it’s not the first thing on your mind that you’re gonna get something in return and it’s not the reason why you’re giving.
@@idoru__ No the reason why I am giving is purely to give when I really Love someone. But if the other one doesn't want to receive it, it's similar to throwing it away. I give with the intention it gets received, allthough it's take it or leave it, I don't demand it. Nothing more though. But if it does not get received time after time, there's no use in giving.
Welcome to the club, member all my life. On the agenda for today we are going to lean on someone and cry on their shoulder, and after that were going to switch and they'll do the same, now everyone find a buddy.
The last one honestly made me cry, I miss my ex every day and all of these signs I could relate to, now I’m pretty sure he hates me but I haven’t talked to him since he broke up with me. He broke up with me out of no where and I had no idea things would end bad. I still have hope that maybe one day we’ll talk again, but he would have to apologize first
It took me 4 months to notice I was deeply in love with my boyfriend. He was in Japan for a month for vacation and distance really made our hearts grow fonder of each other. We’re gonna be 7 months together soon and we’re still at our honeymoon phase since we just can’t keep our hands off each other most times. We are confident that we’ll be together until we die. And he’s my first love and first boyfriend.
Reflecting on my past relationships, I think #2 can actually be really bad advice. When I ended my last toxic relationship, I finally opened up to my friends about what was going on. Saying it out loud made me realize just how messed up it really was. I had spent the whole time keeping my love to myself because I thought it was special, and couldn't be understood by other people. In a way I was right, because other people helped me realize how toxic the relationship actually was. If you're in a relationship, I think it's healthy to question what's going on, or look for perspective. Maybe after being together a long time you may refrain from talking to others about what's going on, but I think it's important to confide in other people you trust (or at least a therapist) in order to make sure you're making healthy decisions for you, and your partner. My close friends are great confidants, and we help each other with our relationships in both bad times and good. My friends may not be able to understand the relationship as it's experienced from mine or my partner's perspective, but their own perspective is valuable. Why not try to leverage the combined experience of your friend group in your relationship, instead of only relying on your own personal experience?
I'm curious about the concept of real love. Once you feel that way about them, do you always? If your feelings changed while in a relationship with them, does that mean it was never true love, even if you met all these conditions at one point? Someone once told me that you can have friends you love as much as you would a lover, but without the same physical acts of love. I also wonder how much of our human habit of labelling and boxing things under certain terms helps or hinders our ability to experience love. In a relationship? Cheating? Homosexual? Heterosexual? Open relationships? Would things be easier or more difficult without all these terms and instead just going with your feelings expressing them more openly?
Expressing feelings openly is the base of any relationship, I suppose. I think the love you feel to each person is unique like a fingerprint and so has to be the relationship. Labeling and boxing will only help to keep it simple and prevent from growing or change. Conditions must be clear only between the lovers, that's enough. But their goals and wishes should be adaquat for that.
being in love is great,but it can be hard at times.i been in love with many girls.my mom wants me with a girl so badly and wants to be a grandmother again and my sister wants to be an aunt.i love women every day.i really do.i mean girls are blessings.i will keep my love for girls very clean.
Lately I’m explaining to people that my latest ex is the first person I had this connection with and the feeling home for the first time of my life. And yes the feeling “home” is hard to discribe. Bc I don’t have a hard time being myself with other people. And that’s the reason why it’s hard to let him go and some feelings and attraction is still there But it’s just a special feeling I first experienced with him. I still miss that time with him.
Im honestly so grateful for these videos im currently dealing with a difficult breakup and i recently discovered this channel and these videos are actually helping me better understand my relationship with this guy and its actually helping me move on and come to terms with the end of my relationship so thank you for your videos ❤
Hang in there, friendo. The emotions you're both experiencing right now ARE NOT PERMANENT NOR A NEGATIVE EXPRESSION OF YOUR CHARACTER, they allow you to get to the bottom of the conflict and talk things through when you are ready. Breathe, cry, do what you need to do, then breathe some more. No worries fam, you both are gonna be all right 👍
@@choisanscroptop7809 yes, thats why I'm willing to hide my relationship from my family until I can move out and they technically cant control me anymore (if that makes sence)
@@asteroidkisses4206 Yeah, I started watching Fairy Tail today (2 episodes in on season 1, on Netflix) and it reminded me that all the heroes (or most of them) always end up with someone at the end, the only downside to anime, I always think, "Wish that was me".
I was in love. I would've give my heart for her. I felt at home. I felt that connection you can't put in words. I wish this didn't ended. At least I know it wasn't me who let it die. Some years had passed, and yet, I still seek for that kind of connection with someone else. Who knew that your friend would become your new love, and then would become the reason of your self destruct. Everything would make any sense if someone told me all of this was planned by someone who feels inconditional hatred for you, but no, you just can't run such luck. All of this was a bad deck of cards, a bad toss of the dice. Three years has passed. She was gone, but it's okay.
@@sallyevans9766 I feel your pain. My fictional crush is the character in my username, and she's also taken. (Don't worry lol I'm a teen roughly her age, don't call the FBI.)
Omg, u are? Can i get an appointment? I just figured out i have depression and im pretty fine, but i need ur help so i can recognize if i need help with my depression or not, and also to know if just in case i have other mental illnesses or disorders
i was definitely in love with her, she likes me too i think. but now ( a month later) i feel so numb inside and don’t know if i still love her. i want to love her, i like her, but i don’t know! this really fucks me up. i really don’t know
@@theillusionaryone but if you give up after 1 heartache then of course you wont find love and wont want it but dude if are telling people to not have love that is like removing a piece of a person is like telling someone dont have fun dont smile and you cant be happy AT ALL so yeah and plus some people want romantic love and you better let them experience the pain you once had and the fun you once had in love so cant you stop being a no fun police with this because of course there will be heartache after a heartbreak or knowing that the one you loved doesnt feel the same or them denying a confession but why not let the person experience true love and then ask him after he experienced this if it was worth the trouble and the pain.
I'm literally single and i watched this video because i thought it might tell me if i actually do like this guy or not so i can confess to him soon, and even if i did confess i wouldn't date him because im not allowed to and I'll just be confessing so the weight will go away So i basically like someone, will do the hard work of confessing, and not getting anything back :/
8 Signs You Were Actually In Love: 0:34 1. You Shared Your Deepest Secrets: 0:39 2. You Didn't Gossip About Your Love: 1:06 3. You Never Tried to Control Them: 1:42 4. You Never Used Ultimatums: 2:20 5. Love & Hate: 3:22 6. Things Never Became Routine: 4:12 7. The Feeling of Home: 4:58 8. You See a Future With Them: 5:39
A lot of your recent videos are on love and affection. They're great, but i'd love to see more videos on the unconscious mind, or the psychological theories/beliefs of freud, jung, etc. ❤ keep up the awesome work with your videos!
I loved my ex and was trying to get her to see how much I loved her but she didn’t love me all she wanted to do was use me and hurt me so I had to end that realationship everything was about her never about me she didn’t want to with me on a sexual nature either . My wife that I’ve been with for 6 years is the one for me . Glad I found her after the shit I’ve been through with my ex .
@@cooldude236 work on yourself and let time do its thing. You need to understand that this "hurt" you're feeling will never go away. You just learn to live with it. But that doesn't mean its over for you. Have an optimism that you will get past this. And most importantly don't ignore what you feel you have lost. Embrace it and you will soon be able to move on.
It'd be nice to know how to tell if you're in love with someone that you aren't in a romantic relationship with. It took me about 6 months post-rejection to realize that my 3-year crush on my best friend became love halfway through. Even so, I do agree with these points, since they can kinda apply to a friendship, but most of the content I've seen on this topic only refers to people you're already in a relationship with.
@@Psych2go There is someone very dear to me who has shown me great kindness and I truly believe that I love them after seeing this video. I am going to talk to them about it and find out how things can move forward in our lives.
I'm aromantic but still feel really strong familial bonds with people, so I compared my love for friends to this (minus all the more sexual stuff), and it turns out that I show most of these signs with a specific friend and lots of them with others.
this honestly helped me realised that ive been very hopelessly in love with my best friend (who has a boyfriend as of now) for a really long time, so thank you so much
No it gets worse then that I litterally had a friend one time rattle on and on about character traits or things to do that she would want in a bf ,and then she looked at me and paused....then said this to my face "I just realised I want a bf just like YOU ...but actually hot" I've been rejected alot and am used to it, but I couldnt be prepared for a rejection I never even took a shot at I was so heart broken just being told that so matter of factly to my face without me even trying to make the connection between what she was saying to me, she litterally just paused mid sentence and came to that conclusion on her own I think it hurt so deeply cause I wasnt actually trying to be more then friends and so wasnt expecting it
My lover, he has to leave for the air Force. He asked me if he should sign off because it's for two years. I miss him. It's extremely hard to let someone go, and I don't regret it...but a bit...I miss him so much
Pea Princess That’s rough, I’m sorry to hear that...I genuinely hope things make a turn for the better in your relationship department if they haven’t already..
@@peaprincess310 how can you still be in love with somebody who broke your heart? I had quite a few relationships in my life and I got hurt too, so I know what it feels like to be heartbroken. I want that person to be with me, but I don't need her. You see, I want her because I used to love her and I want to relive the same great moments of joy and happiness that I felt while being with her, but knowing what she did to me and what a piece of s**t she was, I don't need her in my life. Literally, she doesn't exist for me anymore. I moved on. You should do the same. Trust me, it's better for your soul. It'll help you heal the broken heart and make you some space in your heart for someone new who will love you the way you should be loved. :=)
