8 Traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder 

I survived a vicious couple of years being with a narcissist. My heart was destroyed and it made me wonder if there is someone who can truly love and have empathy

I feel sorry for them. You can't just not mind them, you must stay away from them. Pray for them.

I just realized im a narcissist. Thats why i've been feeling lonely. I've been trying to hide it, for example trying not to make conversations abt me, tho secretly it gives me lots of joy when ppl ask abt me. And my issue with control really shows up whenever i feel like things are getting out of hand, like i'd literally go "damage control mode" and just start to hate everyone whos getting in my way regardless of who they are bc am feeling stressed and that will be all that i would care abt at the moment.

Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

Took me learning WHAT a Narcissist IS- to realize my oldest sister IS ONE. At 70yrs old, I found out I didn't owe her 'respect' just for being the eldest child, that 'respect' is EARNED...NOT A TITLE!! I then learned about BOUNDRIES and have become an expert at ENFORCING them. Saved my self worth and I stopped living to meet her expectations😁👍🏼 "I" say when we talk or IF we even talk at all. Just learning to say "No" to her has been Life changing ❤ for me, especially. Her daughter was the one who got me to see how I had been used & manipulated ALL MY LIFE by my sister. Hallelujah!!! I'm MUCH healthier now. And guilt-free of meeting Her beck and call. Better late than never 🎉🎈🌈

I was married to two men who were narcissistic. I had no idea what narcissism was or what it meant. However, I read a book about the topic and wept for hours! These men I chose to love nearly destroyed me and their children. It’s not harmless….it’s not a pill away from recovery…. it’s not okay the damage they’ve done to my life. Thankfully, I no longer have had to endure those relationships and I am FREE!!! I believe there was something else going on in my second marriage, but he was better at manipulation and keeping secrets. I thank God for helping me to finally let go of them because I did LOVE them with everything I had to give. Honestly, I look back and it was a nightmare! Both times!!! Now I focus on my adult children and my grandchildren and help them…..trying to teach them all about the ways of God. That they can make better choices for themselves and they have. Please keep your heart, mind, and body safe. You don’t deserve to be treated the way you can be treated by the narcissist. You fall in love with the person you “THINK” he or she is. It’s ALL fake….RUN!!!!!

While I’m not a narcissist I will say having spent 18 years of my life caring about others needs more than my own 24/7 and constantly getting used or stabbed in the back, I finally reached a breaking point. I realized I have to prioritize myself more than others (except my family of course) especially those who do not reciprocate the same care.

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

Problem with those with NPD is once the individual with NPD reaches adulthood they cannot be forced to go under a psychological assessment unless they become a danger to themselves or the people around them. Since this is the law here in Canada it is best to limit the interaction with the person who has NPD as one's own mental health may be also at risk and ones own mental health should always be the prime priority.

I have a Behavioural Science (Psychology) degree & have been doing a deep-dive into narcissism (among other psychological topics) for around 35 years now. I was also raised by someone who I believe has undiagnosed moderate grandiose narcissistic traits with comorbid OCPD who married a HSP codependent enabler with a fawning trauma response. And I must say, that I think that this is 1 of the best concise descriptions of narcissism (NPD specifically) that I have seen in some time. There are far too many "lightly-informed enthusiasts" out there, imo, who are dramatically oversimplifying an incredibly complex topic which can have a great deal of expression variability & specific individual nuances. Well done to whoever put this together.

I have a narcissistic cat.

I’m a narcissist, said no one ever…

i think those people are better off living alone

After my ex of 7 years left me 5 months ago, I learned over time that he does have possible NPD. When I watched this it freaking resonated. The main factor is he did not have any regard for my hurt feelings when he just kicked me to the curb and he had no regard for any of my friends. The funny thing about him is he does attend therapy but he does not go regularly. He only goes whenever he feels pissed off that someone did him wrong. Guess people with NPD that attend therapy do refuse to get themselves treated

My narcissist husband I’m divorcing ! And I can’t wait until it’s finalized!!!!

My boss sadly has all these traits and thats why finally after 2 long years I've applied for transfer for the sake of my own mental and emotional health, you are sooo definitely entitled to leave for greener pastures for the sake of your own mental and emotional well- being

Love this video!

YOU HAVE THAT RIGHT THEY NEED TO BE ON THEIR OWN PLANET

Got relieved after listening 2-7.

I've been having problems with my next door neighbor and she displays many of these behaviors. I'd love to send her this but anonymously😅

May the empaths achieve their goals

I'm suffering from NPD and I do have all these signs I don't know how to come out of it But my narcissism has destroyed my life I can't handle my relationships with my family and friends and that's why I see huge problems in my life😭 Wanna come out of it

This is so spot-on it’s scary.

lots of these traits in some profession, like business/ sales. pain to work with too. A kiss asser when you don't work with them, then they dont listen. One guy even called himself a pm when he was an entry-level. Had ADHD and a slow learner compared to others, lack of due diligence and understanding. He brown-nosed the boss and clients. Yes we tried to help him, but he just wont acept accountabilities and change. A client even took him off a job. The office eventually took responsibilities away from him, since he would go rogue and make decision without consultants other senior members, plus lack of knowledge, carelessness. He was layoff when thing got slow. if he stayed in his entry level position and not try to undermind the real PMs, he could learn. But a guy with a few years experiences knows more than a 30 yr PM. Unbelievable behavior.

Has anyone else received a reply from someone who claims to be the RU-vid channel owner that seems unusual because an icon is shown as a placeholder only and not an Icon ? (my VPN and internet safety program blocks malicious things, even if it is an Icon with a malicious link) . It then instructs me to install Telegram and the only way to use it on a PC is to give away your phone number or use a QR code on you cell phone. Since most of these sites have no links to Telegram on your RU-vid and there wasn't even one thumbs up on my comment, is this phishing?

I still live with one unfortunately they refuse to get help and push everyone away

this is so true that i hate to admit it

Thank you for the video. I'm excited to learn and incorporate more of these traits into my life.

Roommate puts her needs and wants above me . I get out of the house for my needs Maybe five days out of a whole month . Never thinking that I might want out 😢

Does anyone know the data on NPDs that offed themselves? I ask because it was mentioned near the end of this video but it seems I vaguely recall elsewhere some mental health professional had expressed their differing opinion.

There are many different reasons why people may behave this way. One possible reason is that they themselves are insecure or insecure and try to control or manipulate others to feel powerful or better about themselves. They may not have the ability to empathize with others' feelings or respect their boundaries. Another possible reason is that they have a lack of understanding of the concept of consent and don't really understand the importance of respecting other people's choices and boundaries. They may think it's okay to force someone to do something they want, without understanding the consequences or the harm they can cause. It is important to set boundaries and not allow yourself to be manipulated by such people. It is also important to communicate clearly and respectfully to try to explain to them why their behavior is not acceptable. Sometimes it may be necessary to take additional steps, such as talking to a supervisor or other authority figure for help in dealing with the situation.

I agree with the eight traits of people with NPD, but I disagree about the cause being the hiding of loneliness, lack of self-confidence, or a lack of worth - these concepts are utterly alien to the narcissist. The only way to prevent yourself being hurt or damaged by a narcissist is to get away and STAY away!

You summed this up to thr T❤❤❤❤❤

Seriously the biggest threat to society because they aren’t necessarily violent but at the end of the day any industry they get into must serve them over society

i have an exam and this video help me alot

Well said

I got a problem can someone let me know what me and my girlfriend of 4+ years are we both are narcissistic in some way and bipolar but care for people before ourselves nothing to gain just love helping people before ourselves...

It's a mental disorder, I could never understand my own mother when I was growing up, but to find one of my sons is mentally ill was, here we go again, I'm safe as long as my youngest son is around yet fear is never far enough 😵‍💫😳

Good observations. Do these types of personalities focus their control especially on those who are authentic or who may disagree with their views?

how do psychologists differentiate between the above and subjective idealism?

Does the fact you were raised as an only child and now live alone have anything to do with NPD, I am diagnosed with BPD yet I can see I have certain horrible traits, yet these sorts videos's tell me I am not supoosed to be aware of this.

Freudian psychology would say that we are all a bit of a narcissist.

This is true of course, it is educational

bruh, u mentioned impostor syndrome, and i have a massive impostor synrdome. Now, that's the only trait I truly feel with within this vid, I sure hope I'm not a narcissist....

I do feel like i have some traits of narcisist personality but others i do will respond on this commment acordingly with the 8 traits Trait 1 - I don't need to be the center of atention neither i do feel more important than others i'm quite oposite i tend to listen to people with more experience than me and see their prespective and what i can learn with them , also as a introverted person i don't like to be center of atention at all Trait 2 - Others opinons about me do affect how i feel about myself and self esteem and i also need Validation from others alot of the times just to feel good about myself, Altough i'm not envious of other people achievements etc but i do feel envious/upset when someone treats me with condescending tone and for other people they talk normally. Trait 3 - I do feel a bit of entiltment but not in the way i think this is explaning i don't want to be the center of the attention altough i feel like i need to have entiltelment to having people have some respect and not be disrespectfully to me, but i don't feel like i need to be treated better than other people i just want mutal respect. but feeling important certinly is a great feeling but i don't try to be number one and neglect the rest Trait 4 - I feel like i do find intelligent people more interesting and i do like to learn from them maybe for my own gains , but i feel like if a person overally have intersting things to say or funny that also caughts my attention and i listen to them Trait 5 - I do tend to achieve my goals as much as i can on my own but recently i need help to find a car that i have all the money to pay for it and i see myself messaging family members i do have a ok relationship with but i feel like i'm not close to them because their response is very dodgy when i ask them for this type of help and i end up feeling bad about myself because i feel like i didn't gave them enough value for them to help me or maybe. Trait 6 - I care about others but not to a point i need to be constantly helping them, i don't wish any bad things to happen to other people but also i'm not the kind of person that is overly altruistic and is allways there Trait 7 - When i know i messed up i do say i was wrong but there are times where the other person is just wanting to be right and mock me about being right for their own ego i don't apologize on those cases and avoid that type of person soo as long as the person is colaborative and non toxic i don't have trouble admiting i was wrong Trait 8 - I do focus on myself alot i have this quote i made until my cup is full i can care about filling others cup, i have a goal to achieve my natural pottential physique, to make alot of money without working more than 3 hours a day soo i can have a confortable life without stress and make my mom happy and retire her Conclusion: I do feel like overally theres few people i care about, and i'm most of times not interested in other people especially if after i met them they ask me for favours, and also i'm soo focused in my own achievments that if i get like a favour that takes me out of my routine it makes me feel upset but if takes like few minutes and the person asks politely and appreciates my help i don't mind I actually feel happy because the person asked me for help with respect instead of asking for help to me like i'm a souless robot or keeps askings for favours without saying please or thank you, if i don't feel aknowledged i feel upset , I'm probably not narcisistic but i do focus on myself goals and aspirations alot

I have a child by 1 and now he's taking me to court for custody out the blue havnt been in contact since last October 😑

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Okay so basically I'm a narcissistic who's actually empathetic, kind and cares about others? Or is there another disorder that pertains to my specific symptoms?

How can one change this behavior

I really don't want to be a narcissist, people call me a narcissist, I really don't want to be😭 and I don't relate to every thing on this list and my doctor told me that I am not but the rumors still spread that I am😣

I highly recommend the book MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology

The music is too loud on here

Dang im sll of them except I don't actually use others but still i always want to be alone but can't.

i think this is my brother.. breaks my heart.

growing up with Family that are narcissists can cause slot of mental issues like anxiety depression schizotypal ECT

manifesting this

You described my neighbor.

I had to do my research to find a word and cause for why my girlfriend acts the way she acts almost 8 years in the relationship we don’t live together 2 of her kids don’t know I exist as their mothers bf I ask for a chance and I said it would be better for us financially and emotionally she keeps on promising it will happen but never happens until just the other day she told me her and her kids mental health is a priority she’s very selfish her decisions are always better no matter what the consequences she doesn’t care what I thing she manipulates the situations making me believe there will be changes however we still at the same spot in out relationship

They should! But they can't, is against everything they are. They feed from those around. Is their addiction.

I kinda checked all traits. So am I acquired the NPD?

I don’t think I am a narcissist, but I don’t know how to empathize emotionally. Like I have imposter syndrome with emotions because I do not know how to respond. My father IS a narcissist.

Seems paradoxical persons with NPD could suffer from depression & suicidal thoughts

What do i do when someone is turing to ruin my life or my loved ones. I have someone close to me. he speaks bad about my boyfriend and try to make people feel bad about themself. Do you guys think that someone that is harming me whitout thinking about humans rights is this ?

They court those kind because they believe others should pay their way. Those people have money and they want them to believe he has money as well when in reality they dont.

I don’t think the average person can diagnose personality disorders, just have a feeling that such is the case.

How do you heal from this? My mom is a narcissist and I feel like I inherited this from her

Reminds me of somebody who is Mentally Untouchable

They literally described every single human being that’s ever lived and will ever live.

this is literally my dad

Nowadays educational video’s are heavily disrupted by BGM.

Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV) The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.

What is something natural you can give a narssist

Suffering from this disorder from past 10 years 😞

I don’t have any of these traits. None. It sounds like the people harassing me online though.

According to my narc dad, it's all about him, his family(not all are like him), his convenience,his needs, wants, feelings. He barely acknowledges my existence, or hurts me when he does, he says mean things, deliberately, the sadist! I am no-contact with him for my own well-being. His flying monkey/enabler/excuser girlfriend makes excuses for him. There is not reason or excuse for his behavior. Or hers. He is much worse. I don't trust either one of them.!

A mother-in-law with NPD is a mighty enemy and a frightening one. The offspring's partner will pay the consequences, but the most damaged one in this configuration is the very own son/daughter of the narcissist. If you love someone who has to deal with such mother, be kind and loving. Their nightmare is already bad enough.

I simply worked with a grandiose narcissist 20 years ago and I'm still somewhat damaged by him. I stayed out of his way but I've seen him do horrible things and get away with it because he was such a good worker. He thought he was a god or something and he was disgusting everyone had to worship him. I recently found out he has stage four cancer. I know God wants me to forgive but I can't I'm glad he has cancer. I know that that's not a Christian thing to say but he was horrible. I don't care if he changed since then I would have never done to another person what he did to me and others.

When someone introduced me to someone and I was answered: my pleasure. Is this person a narcissistic 😮

Comments did not pass the vibe check. The lack of compassion and understanding for a literal disorder someone doesn't choose to have and struggles with is disgusting. I came to this video because I'm concerned a love one has this. I would never say these things y'all are saying in the comments about another human being.

people that dont get there on way always pull out the narc card.. its so easy for someone to call someone a natc these days rather thsn look at there own faults.. narc is a throw away term now

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If your married to a narsacist and you know it clap your hands I your married to a narsacist clap your hands exspecially 35 years o marriage if you didnt clap your hands you surely don’t understand if your married to a narsacist clap you hands……….

There is NPD treatment differently to peoplw

I think I’m better off alone..

I don't agree with that first explanation for the simple fact those are the attributes of a real king or real queen when they step in the room watch what y'all believe out there a lot of those other traits that are bad but I would want my child to be confident I would want my child to love their selves look at what I'm saying probably ain't never heard of it this way if you teach your child those two things that brings confidence

A fiend is not your friend.

Mood

My ex has every single one of these …. Utter narcissist

So karren is narcist 🤔

If you have suffered physical or domestic abuse during your childhood your likely to have these traits.

If you’re seeking love and you get love bombed to the point of blindness one may not see the narcissist they wear many masks!

sounds somwhat like me huh

There's a certain man who exhibits all these traits. He has a swish of orange hair on top of his head and is possibly facing wearing a jumpsuit to match. I think we all exhibit some of these traits at times but our empathy and love for others corrects our behavior and we apologize for our mistakes. I've never heard a narcissist apologize for anything they've done and it's always someone else's fault. Again, who does that sound like? Maybe those who want to be friends with a terminal narcissist are narcissistic themselves and looking to hob knob with the billionaires to improve their self-worth.

Only one wasn't my wife

My wife 💯

I thought I was... thank God I'm not.

Yea this me😂

Iam narcist supreme

I see one, all the time, everyday...in the mirror 😢