13 Women Reveal Their Biggest Turn Ons 

edit: shiiit !!! I am famous 1.man's hands, 2.kissing a woman's forehead, 3. non-sexual intimacy, 4.natural and effortless vibes, 5.prolonged eye contact, 6. the ability to let loose and have fun 7.a sense of humor, 8.well-dressed appearances 9.kindness and uplifting nature 10.confidence, 11.genuine kindness, 12.sociability and charisma, 13. intelligent conversations, 14.integrity in words and actions, 15.a deep and husky voice, 16education and intelligence, 17and the ability to fix things

Thanks for bringing up intimacy without being sexual. It’s something that’s badly lacking in today’s dating scene. Word of wisdom: if someone shoots down you opening up emotionally and being honest with yourself because it “isn’t masculine,” *that person is emotionally immature/unavailable and is a red flag.*

TURN ONS for me from a women: 1. A genuine, wholehearted smile 2. Being nice (to me and everyone else) 3. Taking interest in me for REAL (not just pretending to do it) 4. Talking positively about me to... well, anyone really 5. Playing or interacting positively/nicely with children 6. Being able to appreciate things in her life (from the smallest to the biggest) 7. Helping others be all that they can be

The #1 turn on for me is when a guy acts in a protecting way, especially when it’s unconscious, like guarding you through a crowd or putting himself between you and someone who might be a threat.

What made me propose to my gf was when she actually put effort into the relationship. All my other relationships felt like the girl was waiting for me to serve their needs. But this girl made a special dinner for my birthday and showed thoughtfulness and effort.

None of these work unless they are already attracted to you. Tons of guys already have or exhibit many of these qualities that would otherwise get overlooked. These are bonuses on top of being attractive already

I don't think you ever need to be concerned about straying too far beyond PG material. You always have a sweet, tasteful approach with these topics. And you're obviously putting a lot of thought into your words. Very well done!

Yup, 1 and 2 are accurate with my girl. She always comments on my large veins in my forearms and she loves the forehead kiss. A big turn on for me is when a woman is kind and sweet to others, and I also think woman look better in their natural state without makeup.

I agree wholeheartedly with the part about intimacy. I haven't been with a woman for a very long time, and it's not the sex that I miss. It's the cuddling, the neck nuzzles and the forehead kisses.

YES!!! The difference between Being Nice,and Kindness. I thought I was the only one who thought that. Good to see someone else GETS IT!🙏🏾

The one about being a good conversationalist is so true. My new girl currently says I’m a good listener and I asked her why. She said it’s because I ask follow up questions about what she is saying and don’t interrupt her or change the subject. When in all reality I’m playing Diablo 4 when she’s on the phone with me but I guess I can multi task well.. 😅😅 The key is to retain this information which I’ve don’t well so far. 😅

I like when a woman shows interest in the things I'm interested in, even if it's not her cup of tea. It shows that she care, is open to liking other things and have a curious mind. I'm not saying she has to partake in the things I like to do, but if she's asking questions and shows genuine interest, it's a big turn on, for me.

Courtney,I'm a guy who wears polos and shorts at work (I work for a property management company--I work outside most of the time) while on Sunday for church I wear suits and ties(sometimes with a vest). I like dressing up in suits and I have over the years learned how to put things together. I enjoy being confident about what I know about men's clothing. Thanks for giving men(esp. us older guys) the "secrets" that make the female heart flutter.

You do not speak too fast at all. You are super easy to understand. Thank you for all of the advise. I super appreciate your videos and all of the info you've shared. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

Hygiene is important. As a guy, I do not like if a woman is dressed like a hooker. You get the picture boobs flashing out... Guys categorize women: 1) boss babes (ignored), 2) hookup girls (ignored), and 3) feminine women with a good personality and values, totally different. Potential girlfriend material and guys will invest their time.

Important things: 1:58 First thing - Man's Hands; 4:23 Second thing - Kissing Girl's Forehead; 5:59 Third thing - Man Not Trying Too Hard; 8:05 Fourth thing - Eye Contact; 9:01 Fifth thing - Make a joke about yourself, but don't overdo it (to be told that a bit appropriate); 11:04 Sixth thing - Dressing To Impress; 12:51 Seventh thing - Cardigans; 14:15 Eight thing - Just Be Nice To People; 15:32 So true about that difference between being kind, and being nice (it's also authentic who are really you, not just in the heart, it also means that you're authentic in your head as well); 16:03 agree with that - you can learn a lot from a man when watching his interaction with people; 16:48 Ninth thing - Man Saying All The Right Things (having a good ability of conversation); 18:26 Tenth thing - A Barry White Baritone (man's confidence when he talks like an educated person); Eleventh thing - Playing Handyman; 21:03 Twelfth thing - Taking It Down A Notch (be an introvert); 21:47 Thirteenth thing - Showing Some Passion (have a hobbies such as playing music instrument; doing model kits); and 22:31 To summarize all the told here. That video is so awesome there Courtney. Big thank you and big respect for this topic there. If you're going to be a great man, the best way is to behave like three persons as well. And those are: 1. Nicolas Tesla (the famous scientist; you find a lot of details on internet about him); 2. Harrison Ford (he was a carpenter before he stared a career in Hollywood); 3. Novak Djokovic (a famous tennis player). 😉😁😁😁😁😊🙃🙂 Of course I'm joking. But what I meant to say (joke on the side) is from all the told here, they (for men I mean) should be boil down to a few things. And those are: 1. Taking care of himself (taking care of his health, his priorities, watching what is he eating, having an excellent organization, doing some education, etc.); 2. Showing that he is a sociable person (being a kind person); 3. Having some interests (showing hobbies such as playing music instruments, doing model kits, etc.); and 4. Go with the flow (have a balance when being serious, and being in relaxing, and joking mode). I play music instrument such as guitar (acoustic, and electric as well). I do the model kits (and I have mentioned it a couple of times). From all the told, I had a chance that even some girls asked me to gave them a massage of the back, shoulders, neck, arms, and some upper parts of the head (believe it or not).

That's wild to hear. My hands and forearms have always been naturally very vascular, and I always thought it was perceived as gross (because I always thought it gross, personally). Guess I'll be more secure about it going forward.

It's very attractive when people also not just expect qualities but show and carry qualities themselves too :D. Also Courtney, the parts where you were getting a bit vulnerable and the parts that you wouldn't normally talk about were fascinating. That helped me sympathize with your content more

Since I've been looking at relationships now for the young. Your chanel is one of the best, I note chivalry is said to be dying but you can't have chivalry without femininity, they exist with each other.

Courtney, The advice in the article your expounding on is so on point. I do a lot of the things you mention without even thinking about it. I don't think about "Game", I just express interest and s desire to know another human being. I'm well read and intelligent as well as passionate about my work. Your video led me to more realistically evaluate myself and I thank you for that.

You’re not a weirdo for the hand explanation. You’re being honest and we need that.

About women liking men interacting with people. When you mentioned family, well, my now ex hated that I interacted with my parents. She said, they’re not my family anymore. That they don’t love me. Thankfully she left me for another dude. 😵‍💫

Yes, no dating for me. I am fine living by myself, and I enjoy coming home to my place and having it all to myself. No arguments, no hassles, and no nagging. Singleness was something I once feared, but now I wouldn't have it any other way!

From a man's perspective, I will agree with the forehead kiss. The same could be said for a kiss on the cheek. I really like it when a woman puts her hand on the opposite cheek, pulls me close to her, and plants a wet kiss on my cheek. Plus, it leaves lipstick stains sometimes.

Men and women like "weird" things in each other. But guess who shames the other for that ....

Been watching for quite some time now and i think your pace when you talk is perfectly balanced not too fast or slow

Everytime I start these videos I'm upset and prepared to hear bullsh*it, and everytime I'm 90% in line with what is shared. I hope it can continue this exact same way for me.

Play it safe and avoid women altogether. That’s my plan.

Great video Courtney! All great tips and points here. If I may add one based on observation is how a guy is with children or animals. I was at a get together and this guy was being really good with a baby/toddler. I forgot the age of the child. There were two or three girls right behind him absolutely swooning.

When I was younger and started dating I tended to be possessive and the jealous type always wondering where they were and who they were with. This obviously was my own insecurities and was a recipe for disaster for any relationship. As I got older I realzed that showing little interest in that type of thing (controlling) was the way to go, at first I had to fake disinterest because it went against my nature but later it became a habit that worked like a charm.

Good points, Courtney that you bring here. Although I have to say that sometimes one might do many of these things, if you are not what the ladies envisioned or dreamed of being with, nothing you do will'attract her, even though they may like it. So just do these things. It will make you feel good.

Wow, I’ve learn sooo much in this video. I needed this woman’s perspective. . .thanks!

I find a woman who is constantly testing me a big turn off.What turns me on is someone is kind and genuine I don't have time for fakes,game players or liars .Enough said.

No. 1 is definitely true. I had a couple of women examine my hands before, telling me how big (I'm a tall guy) and rough they are. One of my friends literally rolled up my sleeves while I was driving her home from the bank. I rarely ever roll up my sleeves, and I thought it odd when she did that. No. 5 is true as well. To be honest, I have an issue maintaining eye contact, but with the time I do, the girls I talk to tend to let their gaurd down quite a bit. No. 10 is a bit weird to me since I personally hate my voice, but I had a couple women say otherwise No. 13 I have a passion (to an extent) with politics, and the last date I had was into that as well (which as a bit surprising to me), so we connected real quick, which greatly contributed toward me getting a date from her. These are my personal experiences, so there is a ring of truth to what these women are saying. Great video as always, Courtney!

You won me over with your comments on #10 Courtney. Balanced perspective and you know what you're talking about. ty 4 vid. Merry xmas.

I’m 68 and I must tell you how refreshing it is to listen to these ‘old school style’ comments. Especially coming from a young lady who is surely surrounded by wokeness!

thanks again, Courtney. I love it when you're insightful and authentic at the same time and it was cute to see you chuckle at yourself! Mirrors back some of the advice you just gave us, eh? I see women light up when I ask them followup questions about something they've just explained in detail. Reflective listening, even occasioanlly using the "what I'm hearing is... is that about right?". They like when they can tell that I'm paying attention and I actually give a damn. Which really comes down to intimacy. Sober intimacy and sharing of thoughts and feelings is sexy, at least it is for me! 🙂

Voice definitely can be worked on. My voice was weak and very nasally about 12 years ago when I first read that your voice can be very attractive to women. It took me a long time of conscious work and practicing talking from my chest instead of my throat but I get compliments all the time on the attractiveness of my voice now. It can take effort but you can actually take lessons for this specifically. It is an instant turn on my life now for women.

Yo Courtney, just found you. I trust that you’re all good. So far I like your vibe. What I would say from my experience, definitely don’t be impressed by a girl’s beauty (she was born like this and didn’t earn it. There’s a million outwardly beautiful girls out there). Definitely don’t be possessive, jealous, try too hard or over extend yourself towards her, especially at the beginning. Definitely be patient. Talking of beginnings…in the early stages always choose your moment to depart from an interaction on a high note, when her emotions are high frequency. “Better to leave when you wanna stay”…but obviously depends on the situation. You can’t really be taught this kinda shit from anyone…although pointers that you provide are useful for sure. it’s simply just down to being a masculine man…

Your turn on #9 is accurate and not in just the spoken word. I was on Match years ago and received an email from someone who had, and probably never would have shown up in what my profile said I was interested in. I'm fairly well educated, but have chosen to follow a blue collar path in life because I felt called to it. I looked at her profile and thought, "No, but she risked enough to contact me so I should at least send her a message to acknowledge her." That led to a seven year relationship. When I asked her why she reached out to me, she said that how I had written my profile really jumped out at her. I kind of laughed and asked her to explain. She laughed and said, "Have you ever read men's profiles!!" Laughing again, I said, "Nope. I'm not really interested in guys. I already know enough about myself to not need to copy someone else's work." She said it was the most readable, coherent and interesting profile she had ever seen. Then she told me that she was a professional writer and editor. Yes it was a very nice acknowledgement that fits with #9.

People think being alone means you're lonely. Not so, you're free.

You're not talking too fast - I usually watch you at 2x speed. Keep up the good work!

BTW, I think you have done really well at slowing the tempo of your voice. About 6 months ago I thought you were really informed but your delivery was rushed. I thought video was great. Keep up the good work!

Great video filled with good to know info. Some of these Traits I can work on, but most are already in place.

I don't know if it's a generational thing. But I have never dated riche men (i'm 47 yo) On dates we alternates the invitations. On one date, my friend pay and the second date is on me. I think it's sad that women are so attracted to money. It has never been my case. There's so much more! (sorry for my english, i speak french!)

A huge turn on for men is when a girl replies messages in a genuine, fast-ish, commited way. Too many "i dont want him to know I like him so I'll reply in 6+ hours" out there.

Listening When I genuinely listen so many great things happen

Being single all of my life and not even looking to find a girl anymore makes this video hilarious to me😂😂

Women who constantly use the word "creepy" are just not mentally mature.

Great observations, Courtney. Useful too. I’ll definitely look for more.🙏🏻

My wife robin and I are happily married for over 3yrs and we are watching your video and you give wonderful advice

Here are some turn ons that the article did not mention: 1) Actively listening to her 2) Complimenting her (be genuine) 3) Whispering in her ear 4) Various forms of touch. E.g. playing with her hair, touching her knee, holding her hand, giving her a massage. Of course, just make sure that she is comfortable with you doing these sort of things; always ask for her permission!

Surprised that a blue collar job would be held up as an example as most women diss men that don't 10 figures a year and doesn't have a doctorate from MIT and he's not a CEO.

Hi Courtney, I just watched this video talking about a man's hands, I'm a 64 year old man and I feel the same way about a womans hands, it's the first thing I look at in a woman and I've been that way since I was a teenager, love your videos keep up the great work.

Courtney, here's my contribution to your next topic: True confidence isn't just sexy in men, men love it in women. Confidence in a woman makes her dress beautifully, yet modestly, because she wants the right man's attention rather than needing almost everyone's attention. She's able to be quiet in a conversation when socially appropriate, yet will open up when she has something that can contribute, and will ask questions because she doesn't need to just talk about herself. Above all, she doesn't need to play the domineering game. Men learn to instinctively understand that the guy that feels the most need to be in control is doing it because he feels powerless, and a woman that gets in your face triggers this instinct. A "Strong and Independent Woman" doesn't need to tell anyone what she is.

I totally get the hand thing. I remember watching a movie where there was a split second close up shot of one of the actors holding something, & Immediately I was like 'that's a hand double'. People were like how do you know, & the reason was because the character was played by my celebrity crush, & I'd spent more time looking at his hands than I'd care to admit😂

Public comment. Ms Courtney you are amazing person who care about humanity. I am happy and proud of you for sharing your knowledge. It goes both ways. Sharing each other values and excitement.

Awesome video. The intimate kisses I've noticed are also the best... eyelids, cheek bones, forehead, just to name a few. For me, some turn-ons a lady does for me is teasing (verbal for PG's sake) me about something she notices I do, making me laugh when she see's I'm stressed but need to relax, and gives good hugs, also to name a few!

The girl I'm dating recently said she found it very attractive when I told her I was good at my job.

Older wise Hispanic woman at church sat me down for a long talk. She let me know there's little hope for me finding a woman, because I am very nice, good, etc. Women don't want that, she was emphatic. They want mean cruel abusive men who beat them and call the slut, bitch and whore. She let me know this is especially the case with Hispanic women. And they all discuss it among themselves, how crazy they all are for loving cruel abusive men, and wanting nothing to do with good guys. It was an "ahah!" moment...when someone tells you something that is both bizarre AND totally true. That was 15 years ago. I get no attention from women, never have...I'm 54. I've always sensed its because I'm "nice" and "nice guy" is THE worst thing a woman can call a man...its worse than being called "asshole" or "perv" or "mean" or "liar" or any other thing you'd think women would hate in a man. You can cheat on a woman, get drunk, beat her, call her terrible names, be a total A hole, a punk, etc. they love that just just dont ever be "nice" they won't even notice you and in fact try to avoid you.

Thank you for putting things in perspective a little better for people. So far I’m still single. Mostly my own doing since I don’t really search for it much anymore. Maybe you can help me understand something. I’ve dated 16 women in the last 5 years. I’ve tried hard with them. I know you have a try hard section in this video that explains a little bit about that. I’m a very practical type of person who does a large amount of time management to get many things done. I’ve had one complaint about me from all these women more or less anyway. I work a full time job. Take care of two grandparents in my family. And I take care of a brother. They basically say I don’t give them enough time. To summarize they blow up at me because my time is spread thin. I thought what I was doing was all good features. But now I’m thinking am I even qualified for a relationship? Now I do give them time. I sleep with them almost every night. Not sex I mean sleep. I even support them financially, physically and even drive them places they want to go. But just answer this for me. Do I have to stop taking care of so many people to have a relationship?

You're not weird. Appreciate your openness.

When I was in the hospital for gangrenous appendicitis, multiple nurses remarked on my veins in my arms and hands. One even called them "juicy". They say it's something they always look for. So, I'd rank female nurses as S-Tier for hand&arm vascularity fetishes.

#8 is me. I always try to be kind to people. I never liked being mean.

I always love how you can invest us into these videos. This was a very informative video. Truly made me think about each topic, definitely gonna be a master soon. Thank you 😋

Thank you Courtney for telling me what my fiance told me about my hands , I did not know what she meant but now when you explained it, I know why she said what she said .Michael

I think something you can people can work on to improve yourself too: Having your own opinion on things. I find too often people get caught up with tribalism, with wanting to fit in, or dont want to be challenged or avoid conflict; and they don't come across as genuine when a conversation comes up. Have the confidence to have your own opinion and then defend that opinion. Maybe you only partially agree with something. Take a stand for your own thoughts.

These things mostly apply when she is already attracted and even more if she is in a relationship. Otherwise, not so much.

I remember dating in college. I was very nervous to touch. Maybe it was a respect thing. After a few dates she told me, "It's ok if you hold my hand. I'm not breakable." She was encouraging me not degrading.

You talked about kissing and holding her chin.. I did that with a girl on first date and she told me 2 months later that she thought about that kiss all day the next day. Two months later and she still loved it.

Hey courtney im 15 and fs been going through a glow up you give me great insight on whats its like to be a women and what to do as a man to be a better person or a better partener just wanna thank you!

Love your hand enthusiasm for hands courtney! Keep it coming! LOVE your channel!!!😂😂😂

Great to watch a second time! Thank you

A subtle turn on for me is when a women communicates with loving facial expressions. It gives me the confidence to attempt to get closer without being creepy.

Happy Wednesday Courtney lookin lovely as always 🌹🌹

I never seen and listened philosopher like you, seriously !

For the Most Part, what I'm Hearing is that Men need to be PERFECT.

You know most of these can be ignored by being "confident and attractive". Especially the ones referring to clothes. As a side note about confidence, a lot of people seem to be confused and think being aggressively disagreeable and arrogant is confidence. But people who act in those ways are projecting a false sense of confidence. Often confidence is as easy as being sure of yourself and showing that naturally. And the most attractive way to show this is often without saying a single word.

They say staring into someones eyes for just five minutes can make you fall in love....so yeah prolonged eye contact for sure!

Independent minded, provocatively reserved, confident in behaviour, and healthily suspicious of everything worldly; highly attractive woman. I have met several women who are well matured with being themselves. One recently that is a wonderful dancer. Several good dancers but when she is instantly speaking authentically from a well developed self relation, my favorite. Great work on your content, thank you for creating it

Something about when my woman braids her dark brown hair. Firstly, she looks gorgeous and it reveals her soft, tanned skin around her neck and amplified her cheek bones/jaw-line, but I think a lot of it is the time it takes her to do it and how well she does it, and that when she does it, she’s doing it because she knows I like it. She also does it for our daughter occasionally, which completely melts me as I guess its seeing her in full mum mode being super caring and reminds me of how alike they are. I’m one lucky man 😁

My #1 turn on for other women is having a girlfriend, works every time!

For me, my turn ons in women: 1. Contact Intimacy Before a relationship, a great way to start intimacy is by asking for a hug. It makes me feel calm, happy, and more attracted. Once the relationship starts, long hugs, behind hugs, kisses, and cuddling is a level higher than hugging. One thing is that consent is a must and refusing sufficient intimacy or being turned off by me asking turns me off. 2. Being fun and light hearted (or the old meaning of being gay) Doing fun activities and having light hearted and harmless fun together (like a water gun fight) turns me on. It shows that the woman likes being happy and making me happy. 3. Open to going places together Being open to go to the beach together for an evening walk or a restaurant turns me on. Excitement amplifies the effects. If the woman is busy at the offered time, offering a different date maintains it. 4. Twirling in dresses/skirts I think it looks so cute when women have fun with adorable clothes. 5. Social media quiet Women who don't worry about their Instagram followers or otherwise on a personal social media account or spend a lot of time posting stuff to their personal profiles, and especially women who do not plug their social media, are more attractive. One conditional exception is RU-vid, which content can be made for anything, like tutorials and stuff. 6. They asking out/approaching Seriously, to me it is an actual turn on when a woman does the asking out. This is how my relationship got started. It shows that they are interested in me rather than waiting for me to ask then out and do all the work, and run the risk of me labeled as a creep. 7. Refusing/not asking the man to pay for everything To traditionalists this may be a shocker but to me, this shows that I can trust her and that she is kind and responsible. This also shows that I can trust her. I would not date a woman who expects me to pay unfairly or the entire bill, as they could just walk away at my expense. 8. Supportive A woman who is supportive of me and wants me to be free and succeed is a turn on to me. 9. Accepts compliments happily A woman who accepts compliments with positivity is a turn on because it shows she is more open to me. 10. Gives compliments A woman who gives compliments shows that she appreciates me.

Thanks for bringing up kissing your lady on her forehead! I have done this to the women in my serious relationships in the past, but was a bit hesitant about it, fearing it may seem a bit too parental. I enjoy showing my lady tenderness, but have never felt secure in how they may perceive this particular form of affection. Most of the other things that were mentioned I was aware of, but it’s reassuring to here it from a woman’s perspective! One thing I will probably try to improve, is my wardrobe. It has never seemed important to me, as I am an active guy who likes to build and repair things, and so I tend to be in casual work clothes a lot, or something geared toward comfort. But if it’s important to the woman I’m with, then it’s important to me, thanks for the tip! 😊🥰😉

Courtney, non-verbal communication is critical for women, almost as much as verbal communication, because both exhibit how the couple resolve conflict and draw daily planning schemes/resolutions. A woman who is fluent in a foreign language (one of the romance or Scandinavian languages, especially) then translate what she just said shows that she is not only "street-smart" but that she is also "book-smart." Both are essential in the world today.

I worked as a car mechanic for a while and have to say that keeping my nails clean was the hardest part. It was a time before people used gloves for work, and with all the dirt, grease, oil, fuel and what not, my skin would get penetrated real deep and it would actually take a whole weekend of scrubbing to get them look nice on Monday...

For me.....looking into a women's eye's and her looking into mine is the biggest turn on. Never a word spoken but it feels like you can read each others minds.

The digit to digit ratio is also a giveaway for certain internal physical traits. Most important with these ratio’s is the 2d:4d ratio. In bar lingo: find the male ring vinger. Either side if he’s symmetrical. If your ring vinger is taller/longer than your pointing/index finger it shows that man was built with a lot of testosterone. It elongates the ringvinger beyond the length of the pointing/index vinger. The conclusions vary but there enough research to draw a few conclusions.

I once kissed a girl’s forehead just cuz I felt like it. I will never forget her expression as she told me it was a sign of respect.

Me leaving their presence tends to get women excited.😢

I remember kissing my dates forehead on the third date and she became much more affectionate after that.

Second time watching this, I think I do all these qualities for my partner and that is why I still get the respect I need and love actually. Although we argue and near split often we come back stronger. Thanks Courtney your a sweet heart.

Fantastic information. Now I know exactly how to make sure I can stay single henceforth, heretofore, therein.

Love the attire! 👗

Something that often isn’t mentioned on this channel, is having a girlfriend. It is an undisputed fact that when I have a girlfriend, the way other women respond to me is like night and day. I’m sure many other men would agree with me. Women hate single men

Thank you for your very interesting and helpful video and I found you totally normal and clear in how fast you speak! Love and light to you always!🙏🍀🌹❤️

I think with the progress on my self-image I'm making in therapy, I'll be able to make the best use of the fact that I have a lot of these things already. Hard to really get out there when you aren't confident.

I had a job when I was in College. My Boss must have been reading a book to boost his vocabulary. He also had a Speech impediment🤓One particular day he went up to his office after giving everyone a Pep Talk in the Shop😁We all learned how to use the word Impewative in many different sentences at the Bosses expense✌😎☯️

I love when the woman is so clean and classy and high value to me, she is better than diamonds she gives me a lot of power strong woman, and a woman who can control her desires that’s the real good woman in my opinion . ❤

Exceptionally intellectual. I love your message…..