9 Important Needs Of INFJs 

Being An INFJ make me sometimes think that I was born to understand, not to be understood. 😔

It's actually kind of nice to have our needs explained back to us as we often don't know what we need ourselves 😅😅

I used to think something was wrong with me for needing meaningful friendships that go deeper than small talk. Now that I know I am a INFJ, everything makes sense. I need all of these things.

This is refreshingly accurate, especially the part on planning. I feel like a lot of people get that piece confused, as an infj I don't need and I prefer not to have every single second planned out but I do need and prefer to have a general overview or structure in place that is fluid

As an INFJ who is not young, I would say that learning how to deal with, explain to others, and fulfill the need for alone time is the first order of business. As an absorber of other people's needs and feelings it's most difficult to make the choice to be alone when you sense others confusion or wants for your time. I spent decades ignoring myself in lieu of others wants and it nearly killed me. Understand it and create the boundary, if someone doesn't get it or feels too insecure - move on... it will only get worse and so will you.

To sum up INFJ, we are like the therapist for others, not expecting anything in returns but just want them to be happy~

I like being an INFJ but it's very hard to live in a world where you are part of the minority or considered a weirdo for being different. It also limits us to be able to express our full selves, or not live as fully as we want.

After finding out I was an INFJ, I came to RU-vid to learn more about it. And I felt like I had been read like a book. Things started to click with who I was that I hadn’t thought before. And while infj isn’t my entire personality it did feel like a part of the puzzle was solved.

The need to be understood, is my constant fight. But I’m learning that it’s more important to understand yourself than to rely on others to understand you. No one will understand you the way you will ❤

I think this video will be the most useful for INFJ as "Manual" which we can send to others in order to make them understand how we function. It's clear and simple, much easier to get to the point than explaining everything by ourselves and get lost in our tangled thoughts before we make the point xD

Number three is crucial! In the past I have become physically ill when I didn't have enough alone time.

Recently ended a 4 year relationship because I felt misunderstood and unheard. Still love them 100%. Researching more about my personality type and seeing my needs highlighted so well really helps me feel I made the right decision even if it was the hardest thing possible. I love you kathy, i'm Sorry things didn't work out.

I've been watching a lot of these INFJ videos and it's starting to help me accept who I am at my core

Я просто офиваю, оказывается это нормально для меня иметь такие желания. Все мои желания просто рассказали в этом видео, я офигел как все сходится.

As a recently awoken INFJ, the way I understand all of these needs is my need for control. Everyone in the world wants control, and we all fight daily to have complete control. What makes me unique is, I understand that control is fluid. I have it, am under it, I can give it, I can take it, have it taken all at the same time. Now I know when anything is trying to take control and I can sometimes choose whether or not to give it. Most things are out of my control, and I’m happy that they are, because I don’t want control of anyone or anything, except what I have control of because I chose to control it.

Thanks so much for this video. I'm learning a lot about my needs as an INFJ, especially the way I can easily understand everyone, but struggle to be understood myself. I value my independence, but also crave to connect with others.

As an INFJ for the planning part I do not agree. I like to plan each hour by day. However, I still keep a couple of hours free each week to spend time with other if they need me. But I really don't like surprise or when something not plan is happening. For the other points I agree with them : I need my space and independance. I don't like to work with people who don't share my values.

I’m learning so much about me with these videos, thank you!

Amazingly 100% accurate 👌🏻 It's sad, though. I rarely find people who understand me. 😔 And it feels like when I keep giving, they want more and I'm being consumed. And if I ask for a break, some alone time, I get judged; I'm always fighting for my needs but rarely get them. 😢💔

Need for truth. Lies really irk me. I wasn't sure why this bothered me so much. Even the simplest of them, I always wonder what the significance is. Especially with someone I consider close.

SO accurate!!! Makes me feel so reassured that my needs are valid

THANK YOU for this! I actually just found out yesterday I am still an INFJ specifically INFJ-T after all these years. This feels like a great manual ❤😂

number 1 omg that is so so me, i love being alone but i love genuine connections

I do agree especially with the first one. I want to be alone, but I still want to be able to understand others, a genuine bond. I want to be understood. I am good at understanding others, but I am often not understood the same way. I like the idea of getting close to people but deep inside I feel it will never work out, so I rarely reach out to others. Nor do I opt to suggestion relationships, I like to let it happen naturally, so I do not feel as responsible for things going wrong. I came out of a tricky dynamic, where this person was always requiring my attention. They mispercied my general monotone mannerisms and express what I need and how I felt. I have always been affectionate, but they always thought I didn't care or feel interested. Which hurt me as I kept having to justify and explain my behaviour to them...I wanted to be understood. Yet I felt conflicted greatly, knowing this. I could make them happy, but they refuse to see and love me for me truly. Just because someone claims to understand you, doesn't mean they do. It's best not to ignore that. I like having meaning to others, I am passionate about certain things, especially physiology, art, writing, music (my creative outlets and interests) as well as looking into mental health and disabilities being autistic myself and high functioning. Some people believe INFJs always want to be right, but I feel if you know a better solution, or a better answer and it's something you feel passionate about, it's hard to keep your mouth shut. It's not the need to be right, but to share your knowledge because you care and it's important to you. Edit: Also being independent, I couldn't agree more. I hate the idea of when my friends or partners want me to depend on them. It makes me feel unsafe. Rather I tell them, I prefer at times they can depend on me instead. I am there to help, not to be helped, not unless I want to be...

It’s very rare to find someone as yourself! Just when you do, someone or something blocks you from them! God will provide the missing in his own timing!!🙏❤️🕊

pretty spot on!

Wow. I was wavering between whether I was an infp ( because that was my result several years ago) or an infj ( my most recent result) and this video just spoke to my soul. I am much more confident now that I am an infj.

I can relate to all of these. I say INFJs deserve a lot of attention and love, and anyone who turns a true INFJ down by calling them weird or strange are in my opinion, monsters.

This is so accurate!

Thank you this is really helpful as I find its hard to understand my own behaviour.

it's like u mentioned me i understand i have these needs, i feel like i will cry to see people like me exists

Pretty much! The first one is a fantastic explanation of my introversion yet need to have people.

Yeah, I have a need for truth. I have broken up with boyfriends who have lied to me and I caught them doing it. If a relationship doesn't have honesty it isn't worth keeping.

i feel like i can connect with others and stuff, but i feel like there’s always something lacking. whether it’s them or me or both i’m not sure.

Awesome video 👍

Wow, 8:47 minutes of a video about Sharon 😆 It was nice to watch a video that is very precise in so many points throughout the video. It was satisfying. But one thing I'd say is that I feel like sometimes INFJs get sad and feel alone, but it's not that they're powerless to this personality. They just need to learn how to work with their feelings and care more about themselves. That's what I'm doing. So I don't really agree anymore with things like "I'm here to understand not to be understood" - we all are the same on the broader perspective. No need to feel lonely like that

I try to take the test everytime I forget the questions and try to be much more honest or updated to my personality to the test. I always thought I was extroverted but I always get INFJ. So I really do not believe the MBTI Personalities but this video show me how consistent yet contradictory INFJ really is.

Nailed it!

INFJ: 'all I know... IS MY HEART SAYS MAYBE'

Now I understand why I only ever had one friend at a time my whole life. Now I'm just alone.

#3 is critical. #6 is also critical. #9 is so true.

As an infj I love people speak truth and be authentic. Sometimes I'm too quiet sometimes I can talk more longer. I love meet people but I need s space for being alone. I don't like spontaneous. I want to help people change their lives. Yes I have empathy with the needy but I want to help people in the structured way with clear goals.

Wow I relate to the first thing on a deep level. I may be introvert but I love people.

Took a test once long ago and got INFJ. Just view a lot of INFJ contents recently and found them matched quite well, including this one. I think there are contradictions in myself. About planning I behave extremely different for different things. If I've got to do something which is not routine or a few most important things, I'd plan it into a great detail. For example, the family trip which happen 1-2 times a year I'd plan from morning until evening each day, check the distance and driving/traveling time, book hotels, tickets ahead of time. But for daily work, I rarely make some plan and tends to let others plan and just go with the flow. I don't make note, rarely put anything initiated by myself into the calendar. Although being a perfectionist, but tends to make a lot of errors when doing something new until it gets to become my intuitive then I can do it smoothly without thinking, learning through making mistakes. But I can go into very deep detail, like when analyzing complex problem in the level that rarely seen from others.

I honestly just wanted to feel understood

I'm happy we have more infos about ourselves, it was hard to get any infos before except the same repetitive ones, so I thought I wasn't one. I am one actually.

All completely true.

Im an INFJ that recently got diagnosed with autism (or aspergers) and basically all traits in this video are frequently found in people on the spectrum:) Ofcourse not all INFJ's are on the spectrum. Just saying: 2% of the population are INFJ's, and predominantly women. And 1% of the population are estimated to be autistic. I do know all autistics are different, but still wonder if INFJ would be among the more common personality types in people with autism (especially women?). Just a thought:)

Spot on.....

As an INFJ and also gifted, i found that i could barely connect with others in a deep level :(

I’m an INFJ and I truly do not like to be around people or people watch, but I suppose we aren’t all the same.

Exactly!

Thank you

Ironically we are like the second closest thing to a mindreader. We also just want someone to read ours without explaining everything we do. 😕 🤭

I Do Understand others emotions and needs clearly.. but I have to act that I dont.. I have to play numb for my own sanity..

I’m currently going through health issues because of number 3… the worst is I can’t do much about it, as I’m struggling with finding work, and without work I can’t move out from my parents to live by myself. It’s so draining when for 2 years almost every day there’s at least 1 other person at home 24/7… at this point even separate rooms aren’t doing any difference for me…

the planning goes so far that i actively plan occasions where i can be spontanious, like when going out or on a trip i include time to just do what ever i feel like at the moment, same with spending money, i give myself a bugdet and then just buy stuff if i feel like it xD

Most people have a need for many of these.

So accurate.

I’m an INFP but I totally resonate with all of those needs 😮

Yeah the 5. Is true.. 1 year ago I was thinking going as a politician later in my life. Then I still dismissed it as I have social anxiety. Still its an option as I am only 15 😄

This is so accurate it’s scary-

This channel knows me than myself 😮😮😮 all 9 are exactly me

New found channel. Large degree of acceptance based on lack of sugar coating shit. Message to OP. Stay strong and be true. Ty.

I tested as an INFJ. However, I am curious as to what other INFJs do as a creative outlet? Personally, I would not consider myself a musician, painter, author, sketch artist, or anything like that. I do dabble a little bit in piano, but I don't play it to compose new songs. I play it to learn songs that I already love and to practice technique. I also like to cut my own hair and shape my beard, but it's usually the same style all the time. I just might use different techniques here and there. Additionally, I also recently completed my studies to work in web development, and I like making my websites look good. But I only discovered recently that I like styling my websites. I've always had an interest in piano though. Would the things that I do (aside from web development) be considered creative outlets?

I was wondering has anyone noticed (maybe it’s just me) but no one asks how you are doing? We automatically ask them and then explain what we feel, do, or whatever. It seems like we are just more of a sounding board for others and don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love to help people, but it infuriates me no one seems to care like we do or just ask a basic question to even care.

I'm an INFJ, and I have two friends are also INFJs, but we are quite different. In fact, I am the real listener and supporter for them....;(

the need of meaning is putting me through existential crisis right now..

Hold on... how can you expect to find deep connection with someone if you also have to be completely autonomous and independent from them? Aren't you depending on someone for the connection?

Ok have to admit many of the traits they ascribe to my "type" I would agree with, I wonder if it's all just vague enough that they could apply to ..anyone? Like horoscopes?..Yet this specificity: This ascribing the uniqueness they say my responses put me into...only 2!? 2% of people fall into my slot? That seems so purposeful that it can't be some bland set of traits or behavioral directions ...it defines pretty directly a major aspect of MY personality...not much wiggle room for interpretation is there?

Is the text for this (and other videos) available anywhere? I'd love to have it in text form if that were an option. Thanks so much!

I tested a long time ago and got INFJ. i'm so confused as to how this got on my recommended tho. especially since its the rarest one.

Make a video about 16 Mbti types - authenticity.

are we all INFJs here reading and posting comments? well, long time no see brother! 😛

I would be curious to know how many people that are infj that are also Manifestor type in Human design system

INFJ's song = Change the World (Eric Clapton and Babyface)

INFJ ...Earth Angel. 100%

I Wonder if its just me. I identify me to 90% as Infj. My subjective hypothesis is that INFJs are likely to have adhd. I See some characteristic patterns of my adhd strenghten the infj components of mine strong

Je tiens à préciser que vous n’êtes pas obligé de lire ça car j’écris surtout pour moi pour me sentir mieux et parfois je me parle à moi même aussi. Je sais qu’il y a pire comme situations mais je ne parle de mes problèmes à personne. Je suis égoïste parfois 😒 mais j’ai aussi besoin de prendre soin de moi alors je pense que c’est acceptable. Mdr le blanc 😂 Bonne chance 🍀👍 J’aime sauter des lignes mais je vous ai dit que vous n’étiez pas obligé de lire! Je compte aller loin Non je rigole Non je ne rigole pas Je vais avoir un bras musclé!!! Je ne sais pas du tout si c’est bientôt finit Je suis INFJ et je pense que ce sera le plus beau jour de ma vie si quelqu’un arrive à me comprendre. En ce moment je me sens tellement vide! Et je suis frustrée sauf que je me contiens et quand je n’aurais plus d’espace pour contenir ces négativités, je vais péter un câble. À un moment j’ai giflé ma sœur 🤭 je sais que ce n’est pas bien mais je ne pouvais pas faire autrement. De plus en ce moment j’ai énormément besoin de sortir de chez moi et de me faire des amies mais je suis obligé de rester coincé entre quatres murs car ma mère et ma sœur travaillent. Je voudrais aussi faire du piano mais interdit comme par hasard du coup je gaspille du temps quel nulle je suis! Au bout d’un moment je vais le croire ce qu’on me dit! Ce que mes amies me disent en plus de me faire des coups de poings dans le ventre: « Tu es chelou! » « Désolé hein mais tu es bizarre » « Franchement t’es gênante! » « Tu es une sorcière Ahah!» « Tu es une extraterrestre ou quoi?! ». Ce que je crois que ma mère me dit quand elle est fâchée: « Tu es un monstre » « je vais t’emmener voir un médecin pour les enfants avec un problème mental » « Tu me fais honte » « Quel horreur! » Quelqu’un me comprendrait-il s’il vous plaît? 😩

INFJs, would like know what's your satisfying, fulfilling and meaningful job for you? (If you do find it) I'm still having struggles to find my dream career.

1. The need to connect with others. 2. The need of structure. 3. The need to have some time for themselves. 4. The need of creative outlet. 5. The need of meaning. 6. The need of truth 7. The need of independence. 8. The need of impact. 9. The need to be understood.

I mentioned someone "I think you're an INFJ". I'm no longer talking to that person. I thought I was wrong and came off as weird, but now as I remembered I feel I was spot-on. A non-expert guesses your type after few hours of talking... How would an INFJ feel?

I’m an INFJ-ENFP-T

My hands are sweating because I feel seen

I don’t need 4, 5 & 8. 😂 There’s really no way of knowing if you’re a true INFJ. So I’ll just be myself, INFJ or not.

Why do I feel like i'm listening to my instruction manual? 🤦🏻

Getting therapy: NO Giving therapy: YES

For once this is a painfully realistic video.

as an INFJ, i really wonder if anyone is watching this video who is not INFJ himself/herself. well, if you are, why is that?

But... how do you know I need this as an INFJ, when we INFJs don't even know what we need ourselves? 🤔

Geli nak mampos komen2 kat sini. Malu plak aku sebagai INFJ 🫢

INFJ means I Never Feel Joy

to be understood seems kind of imposable 😅

The first need to is dial back that voice.

I’m like an idiot version of this

Half-way through and the content is SPOT ON. However, the voice-over is way too much. I am already exhausted and just about in panic mode. He sounds like he's announcing what we've won behind Door #1. Like, let's get hyper-excited about this. Calm down! I need some alone time...

Respectfully I disagree with video. Cuz it seems to deny the concept of Amberversion

I crave alone time after hours of meetings or parties. I burn out so easily. But I do love people and see their potential to grow!! INFJ’s FOREVER!! 🫶🏼

wow. I really am grateful for this that it made me cry 🥺🤍🤍🤍

As an artist, I do realize that there’s a lot of INFJ artist friends around~ 🥹💕