9 Reasons Why People Dislike You (Psychology of Haters) 

The older I got, the more I started to realize that ppl will dislike you for just about ANYTHING. Good or bad. A lot of ppl are just plain hateful.

I am very quiet and low key I prefer to be successful in the quiet & people hate that I try to stay to myself and it attracts bullies…I am minding my business why can’t they

I think haters hate themselves and it has nothing to do anyone else.

You can be disliked just as much for being an introvert. I fully support people who are extroverts, but I've always had people not respect my wishes to keep my business private, and just be a relatively secluded person naturally.

If you were seen as a loser or struggled with grades when you were younger, people (you grew up with especially) might not know how to view you/interact with you if you start doing better in life. If you were shy or clumsy, or didn't do well in school, some might not expect you to succeed later on. If you do improve, they might have trouble accepting it. You'll def be hated.

Sometimes a man being too good or too noble might cause some people to dislike you

People dislike me everywhere I go especially at the workplace that’s why I don’t work hard, never married no kids never had a career - refuse to conform to the norm

People will dislike you regardless 😜 no avoiding it

They hate you if you are healthy and successful while themselves are misserable

Nothing is worse than a jealous little human. The most negative attribute of the human condition is jealousy.

I can just walk into a room or a grocery store and people automatically do not like me

People who hate others hate something about themselves and project onto others. They harbour so much pain and hate to protect themselves. I choose to love as much as I can and be generous with my compassion but unfortunately people judge and hate too easily.

I’m in tears right now. I’m just tired of going through this with other people and with myself. Today was a bad day for me, but I’m glad I found this video. Thank you!

I don't see _any_ reason to hate someone. Even for point #1. If you're of poor moral character, I won't _hate_ you because of it, but I won't _condone_ your bad choices either. Hating someone hurts _you_ more than it hurts them and it doesn't help anyone either.

had to quit my christian bunko group (card game). I don't dye my hair, im newly single, im not very overweight, I had back luck with bad guy roommates, I work out, im happy, I survived, I have a good part time job. so a few don't speak to me....so guess what....I'm done...I don't stay in TOXIC situations anymore...

It’s amazing how completely utterly wrong the haters can be in their judgements. Like you could just tie your shoes and somehow they’ll take it personally.

People hate you for falling outside of performance norms (good or bad) and for having qualities that fall outside of societal norms (good or bad). The middle ground is where people are most liked, and counter-intuitively are the people that get somewhere when its dependent on others, because they`re not hated. To get some where on your own you need to be good and good, let it shine. You`ll be hated, but you`ll go far.

Solid video. You have a healthy and appropriate view on life. I love how you find the simplest way to explain the concepts.

I always talk about my struggle in life openly and people sometimes think I'm weak or I'm negative and boring. but I can't change myself. I'm not trying to impress anyone but it's really hard to get people like you so that you can talk and share your thoughts. as a human sometimes you feel to do some socializing that is the problem. Humans are really strange so do their emotions. if you're more emotional it is really hard for you to deal with this world, if you don't care anything much and can go with the flow then everyone will love you

Like seriously I'm currently going through this

Here's my main takeaway from this video... some people in life just aren't worth your time or energy, and not everybody in this world has to like you. This world would be leaning towards chaos if everybody in it were to see and do things the same way like clones.

In my experience, this is what it looks like: 1. Jealousy 2. If you have an internal locus of control, and controlling people cannot control you, they’ll hate you for it. 3. You have a strong sense of self, you know who you are. Most people don’t have that and when dealing with you they will feel this fact is very exposed, and they’ll hate you for it. 4. People who have not dealt with a lot of their own issues will project all of their insecurities onto everyone else. They’ll feel badly a lot of the time and instead of recognizing that this is coming from within, they’ll project the cause onto everyone else.

This video made me feel better about myself. I've been looking up ways online since I've been told by my husband that his friends either dislike me or just tolerate me. I have autism, so I understand I don't communicate with people per social norms. I've also been more stressed out since I had my second child so I've been more obviously high strung. I don't hurt people, I am not abusive, but I'm disliked because I'm not acting like how they think I should act. This is the first thing I've encountered on my search that says don't let people change you, just try to be a good person, and it's not entirely my fault. It's ok to be different. I'll just continue to be as nice as I can to others and promote good things in the world the best way I can. If people don't like me, I don't need to keep trying to please them. With autism, we do things outside the norm, or others don't understand why we're overwhelmed or upset. We say the wrong things in situations without realizing it. Then they judge us or say cruel things. Thank you for this video, it helps me understand situations more clearly.

My god! Thanks so much I'm a lot of these things. I worked hard on myself to be authentic, and I have haters. Here is one BIG THING: WHY is it ALL OVER the internet to learn to love yourself, but when you do, others can't stand it! I have had a very hard life, but I've never given up. I am counterculture, people may judge me because I have piercings and not follow the rules for my age, but whatever. I really have to protect myself right now from some toxic people, and I have to not care what others think of me anymore.

well, as Thanos said " We're all bad in someone's story"

Conclusion: no matter what you do , you will be disliked or not. So …do what you do anyway!

Thank you! I am an former people-pleaser, and I've gotten better to express a more confident self, say no sometimes, but still maintain kindness. People still step all over me (even strangers). Im here on RU-vid to research tutorials for what im still doing wrong, since people still treat me that way. It's nice too see a video, where someone sees it from the victim's side 🙏

They hate me cuz I’m winning lmaoo 💀

Next, try to do _9 Reasons Why People Like You (Psychology of Lovers)_ .

Okay this sure explains a lot!! I am #2 as I am different in the sense that I'm very socially awkward which makes people annoyed and uncomfortable around me. Thanks for sharing this!!

Why most people dislike u?😏😏personal experiences 1.oversharing Tips: Don't talk personally more, 2.oversacrificing Tips: Don't offer unnecessary helps to someone . 3.Thinking Low urself Tips: Don't think low of ur weakness Just know urself I am thinking unnecessary stuffs now 4.SHY Tips:kill ur weakness by motivating yourself

I’m so thankful for someone like you to put the 9 reasons because of myself being bullied for 9 years and not getting the understanding this real helped a lot. Thank you so much 😭❤

What’s something about you that’s not wrong but many people have disliked, rejected, or hated you for it?

It don’t matter where I am... there’s always someone or a group of people... usually women that have an attitude and is mean to me for no reason and they are always strangers. If I get to know them they become so invested digging in my life and being fake that I don’t tolerate it at all. It’s just always annoying to deal with whatever they are projecting and going through. I mind my damn business heavy and idk why people feel comfortable showing me that their bothered by me. I continue pretending like I don’t see them. But I’m getting tired of that. And always staring omg

Omgosha…Thank you so much for sharing your experience and insight. Your explanation is so easy to understand. I can wholeheartedly understand and relate.

The great thing about successfully getting people to dislike you is that you have fewer interruptions in your glorious life. Reach for the stars. See if you can get EVERYONE to dislike you, then go enjoy your free time and all of those fun things you were wanting to do.

💜Insightful & truthful. Thank You!

Brilliant summary ! Thank you :)

Thanks so much for this truly enlightening wisdom and understanding about haters. It helps me to remember that I don't need to give them the attention they crave and can instead focus my energy on more positive pursuits. Thank you so much!

Just wanted to say thank you very much. The video has helped me understand why some people don't like me and you were informative but kind.

Thanks! Very straight to the point unlike most psychology channels!

Great video bro. In my opinion, this whole process of liking or disliking is one selves expression on others purely based on cognitive framework he has been building during his or her life. If some one fits that frame is liking and if not disliking.

I really needed to hear this!🙏

I relate to all of this! Makes perfect sense! Please keep putting yourself out there! So refreshing and insigjtful, especially for us, hs persons!!😊🌺

All of the reasons I'm constantly bullied? Cause I'm smarter than everyone in my class therefor I'm hated by every student who is in my class.

Woahh...great video!! Eye opener for me in lots of ways, there is really so much to learn..❤

I'm glad I happened to come across your page. God speaks through you. Keep going friend!

Wow this is the most brilliant video and the best articulate speaking I've ever heard. Wow the wzy you present information is crazy!!❤❤

This is spot on.! I appreciate your knowledge and wisdom.😊

This video is totally true! So great💯💯💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Great video. At lot of these sorts of videos often don't resonate but I felt you nailed it with every point. Nice one

Omg thank you so much for this video you have no idea how it is important for I'm sure a lot of people out there myself included !

I feel i have been disliked by very many people just for living.

I just discovered you today. Your video makes a lot of good sense. Keep up the great work!

I think for the most part there’s one very simple reason why we might dislike someone. It’s just a fact of life that we dont always like everyone we meet, and someone doesn’t like us. Most people I don’t particularly like aren’t bad people at all, it’s just because they have certain qualities about them I don’t like, simple as that, and some people don’t like me for their own reasons, and that’s ok.

Thanks for telling the truth. People need to hear these things. We need to understand ourselves as humans to understand each other. But also people will also hate you if they aren’t attracted to you, feel your denying them sex or if you seem to be weird or crossing there boundaries. People are wolves.

Now idk if I have to be happy or sad because I finally know why people hate me lol. But thank you so much for this, such a great explanation 🙂

When I volunteer to do stuff or take the initiative to create content, I think people get annoyed if it’s good or not their idea. I ask for feedback and input and get none. I try to be collaborative but I get crickets. I’m excited and I so want someone to be excited but I don’t get. Also I’m a PM that does and teaches engineering. So… “not accredited” shade. Yet, people keep letting me do my thing, so I’ll just keep going. Love your stuff!!!

You made a very good point about racers. I never quite saw it that way but now it helps me understand things a bit better. I do feel competitive thinking creates a perfect place for people to hate rather than connect. I see it with my mother-in-law. Rather than connecting, she often likes to compare and compete but she does crave connection but she's oblivious to the fact that seeing her relationship with her daughter-in-law like a race to be won is pushing her loved ones away.

I relate to #8. I’m going through a custody battle and I can relate. I’ve lost so many people and find it odd that men are even uncomfortable talking about custody.

Hi Daniel! Great Video.😊

I miss pop danthologies.. i remember listening to them all day every day a few years back... do you think you'll make more? i love your work 🙏 stay great man

Yup. Just to sum it up, I agree, and it's because you're alive.

Good video I like the content , I though something was wrong with me till I watched this video and made so much sense

Thankyou so much for your video I'm still watching but already it's lifted what was becoming a sad or negative train of thought. But your video so far has been enlightening and I'm always looking to improve myself.. and be liked which is typical for my brain as a woman with ADHD who constantly struggles to fit in.

This is so true thank you for this message

Keep conversations limited, dont get into politics, dont be a complainer or a venter, be yourself, to heck what others think, not everyone is going to like you anyway, stay away from toxic people and stay away from alcohol & drug abusers. This should root out alot of bs that might come ur way. Its also 100% better to have a small group of friends. Rather then a large group of friends. The more people you have in ur life. The higher the possibiliy of drama coming ur way.

I totally agree with 7th reason. My sisters worked since age of 16-17 but I was more of studying and helping my parents out. My father bought me a car when they did not. They have complained to me for the unfair advantage as the first born.

I have been despised by one guy I thought was my friend just because I was part of a Christian group. He was so verbally abusive that it made me question my own beliefs and distance myself from religion.

Great video….agree with everything you said. Exactly my experience.

What a beautiful, brilliant site!

I always think ego is essentially thinking every should look and act just like us.

Man great message. I can relate to doing things differently and appearing to be winning in the race....its hard but we need to build up the confidence to not care what people say. But still take criticism a constantly improve/grow 👍

It’s very impressive. I’ve seen the problems from the people in my country. BTW, can I remake your video that I want to add Chinese in order to make them face squarely to this problem?

Your content in this video is gold. But I like even more the way you transort it. Listening to it I felt lighter for the first time after a few really exhausting weeks. Thanks for that!

Life law number six...There is no reality; only perception. Do not forget it!

I cant understand why this person is angry at me, he makes fun of my height (0.5 in shorter than him btw), he makes me feel like I should just be quiet and talk to no one and just stay away from people, I just feel kinda sad I don’t know why it’s like this but it is what it it

Think...you said is what I m going through I m not crazy other people go through this

I thing you covered those aspects of the haters that no one wants to talk about. What would be great is to make a video with solutions and how to respond tot them, because they can get really evil somethimes.

i dont give much trouble to my teachers... but teachers tend to love those trouble makers... i guess i am just a dust in the history of life... the ideology of being a good student i have carried all my life, is always not get implied logically... being good, is never good enough even among teachers... i guess that's how life goes... but then, being good, is not for everyone but for yourself... right now, i just being good, because i want to be... i felt good... there's nothing wrong doing the things that make you feel good... i walk all my life from when i was small to now an adult being disliked ... not many friends... a lone wolf... i make friends with good people because they are genuinely good or someone with a hidden agenda... i but hadn't a friend who genuinely wants to meet me... i still never figure this situation out in my life... but still, im pretty happy with being a lone wolf... so, life is still good for me...

Omg you expressed a lot of things I agree with 💖

Love this Video I relate to everything you said

Well understood.. 👌

He's right. I'm the nicest guy ever and so many people tell me that but my neighbor hates me because I don't work and he does, he hates it so much he stands by his window and constantly criticizes me, I can hear things he says to his wife about me and it gets to me. When we first met he went on and on about his wife and it didn't take long for him to start going on and on about me cause he suddenly stopped talking about his wife. I did a total restoration on a vehicle and he never said 1 good comment about it. His name is Jeff so I nicked named him JJ as Jealous Jeff. At least I got that on him.

A lot of this problem comes back to one of the Ten Commandments in that Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbor's Posessions. The good book teaches people not to want what others have. Not to be jealous of his wife, or car, or job, or status, or whatever. But people in the world you walk around in were not raised in those tenements, and so they are victim of this selfish way of thinking. But it is true. Do not want what others have. They have problems you do not see. Would you want their problems? Then don't worry about it. People who were jealous of Puff Daddy last year ain't jealous no more.

Great video 👏

Very logical explanations

Thank you.

This is awesome!!!

As if you're speaking to me. This got to be the most accurate translation about Haters.

I got called an asshole just cuz i didn't wanna walk behind girls walking as slow as a grandma. So yeah lesson learned people will hate you no matter what you do

Thank you!!

Hope you guys get more subscribers. You guys make subscribable content without the need to hype, making each video a surprise of valuable substance.

subscribed~ (ps. this vid deserves more views, hope your channel grows :D)

not sure if anxious or paranoia or just i general people that legitametely dislike me

fuck fitting in like a tetris block, only to disappear. ALL HAIL INDIVIDUALITY!!!

Unless you did something extremely devious, I don't think anyone hate you. If someone hate you without you doing anything wrong, then that person is not normal.

A co-worker dislikes me for some reason and I have no clue what I did. We were friends and then one day we weren't. I don't know why.

Woah you and psych2go are my favorite youtubers you voice is so soul soothing never listen to haters your an awesome youtuber

I really need help at this moment I live in the shelter I shouldn't be in the shelter at all I deserve better than that because I know my worth and value ! It's along story I have been through a lot due to the trauma and cptsd that I have been experiencing I ended up in the shelter I still have no clue how ..I'm well educated and intelligent why God !!! I just need help sir !!!