Not married. Only a female mind would think that's an insult or a bad things for a man. Shame, guilt, insults and the wholehearted need to be right are the basis of most womens arguement. I bet you didn't take the time to read the comments and accept other men's truths but rather just decided to shoot off your mouth without a rational thought. 137 likes 2 dislikes but and you think I'm alone? Okay smart ass woman here's a better question is what does a modern man benefit from marriage that he can't get outside of it? What do you, or any westernized woman, bring to the table today? Waiting for your informed opinion but doubt that you will answer.
1. The Golddigger (Just out for free meals, concerts, outfits and of course cash) 2. The Strong Woman ("Independent" until it's time to pay or wants to play the "weak li'l woman" card) 3. Miss Unavailable/Hard To Get (always gives the impression that she's too busy to meet up) 4. The Flirt (she craves/needs every man she encounters attention/desire) 5. The Complainer (it's always someone else's fault) 6. The Unladylike (Curses like a man, quick to anger, lacking femininity, thinks being "hood" is cool) 7. The Unworldly (Never really been anywhere. Can't adjust to different social situations. Can't take her anywhere) 8. The Uninformed (Can't talk about anything other than what's on TV or in the gossip sites) 9. The Emasculator (Quicker to cut you down rather than build you up. Will disrespect you, even in public)
They all say they are strong and independent. Then 2 months into the relationship they want you to be with them 24/7 and they want you to do everything for them. Misleading to say the least.
Young men aren't getting this info because they're raised by strong independent ____ women. Most of us men learn this info the hard way, but my sons will be better off than I was because of information that people like Kevin put out in the world. Thank you Kevin, wish I found your stuff 12 years ago when I was 17.
I see so many of us men saying that.... we wish we had this information when we first began dating women. I can barely contain my excitement for what the dating landscape is going to look like in another 25yrs for those boys who are 17yrs old today. They now have the information we did not. I can hardly wait to see how they use it and transform our culture.
A lot of women I meet here in nyc have over 100k student loan debt and working at a department store wanting me to help pay their debt. Nah I'm sorry not me.
A lot of wisdom here. Church girls don't intimidate me though. Probably the best thing I ever did to change up my dating life though was to date a woman from another country. She had a more traditional view of male / female roles, she is incredibly respectful to me in public and private, I could go on and on.
i agree, strong words but have empty meaning to it, from women its their defense words to let you know their strong(on the outside)but in the inside they're not
The family of single women is dead on. I’m a male child of a single woman with a slew of single parent aunts. The crap I would hear as a teen when they got together was beyond the par. Total disrespect for men. How their boyfriends should do this and that. The sheer entitlement! It’s not an occurrence, it a culture.
his last point was really good. A woman I work with is constantly breaking up with boyfreinds. She is very pretty but she is 37 and still single. Now I know why.
Man!!!!! This is the realest s*** you have said on your channel!!! Your number one I've been telling women for years. You want equal rights...cool I'm with that but we're going Dutch or taking turns paying for dates. If you want to be courted, we can take it back to the June Cleaver days and you be a housewife and take care of home and the kids. Women...YOU CHOOSE!!!
I'd honestly rather do that because I had my share of the 50/50 relationship and one cheated on me with everything walking and the other snorted cocaine all the time instead of helping me with the bills.....I'd be June Cleaver any day if that means business is getting handled
You hit on the #1 thing right off the bat. "Courting" to many women (especially my sistas) means spending lots of money on them. On first dates, they want to go to expensive restaurants. They want you to buy them outfits, they want you to take them to concerts. And this is when you're DATING, she's not your woman yet. As soon as I sense that a woman is out to be "courted", I'm out. And MAN did you hit on the "they want to be equal or a lady when it suits them." When it's time to make decisions for us, she's "equal", when the check comes, she's just a poor li'l lady. Great video!
we are different , not equal that equality in all it's just good for man and you say that just because is good for you it's a high manipulation " you want equality" in reality, the man wants equality another point when you said she is not your wife yet you can't pay date and you will pay date when you will get married, you are just a lyer after when you will get married, you will tell her 50/50 , if i pay today's date you pay the next, and she will have baby and you no what that big unfairness is animal equal ? can i know? even animal have their role, they can't be equal because each one is good in his role and equality is impossible because she have baby and we are not equal you have sex drive woman dont have sex drive i'm not like you, and you can't know what a woman feels
Social media with lots of followers. (700-1k plus) A) She most likely farmed those via posting lots of random pics which means she's on it a lot which means she also most likely online dates which alone is a problem. Why? Constant supply of men + easy access to sex + feminism answers that. B) She lives off validation by that point, even more so than the average female. Which is a whole slew of psychological issues.
I feel for you bro... the damage 50years of Feminist /Leftist/ media programming has done to (good) men is amazing. I used to think I was I alone till I realized it’s generational...
1. Hanging up in my face when she disagree with a statement. (we're adults not kids). 2. I'm good, I don't need no man! ✌🏾 3. Always complaining. Always playing the victim role. 4. Run and tell her business on social media.🗣 BYE FELICA! 5. Always needing a ladies night every Saturday. Bihh, what are you celebrating Drake! ✋🏾✌🏾 6. If she ask me for money to help pay bills. Shidd I don't live there with Lil Pookie. ✌🏾🏃🏾 7. Lazy and don't want to work. Always quiting her job. In the pass 2 years she had 7 jobs. Ahhh nawl I'm not saving no one! 8. Don't have her own car or house! Ugh come pick me up so we can hangout! Nawl, you better Uber! ✌🏾🏃🏾 9. Telling me stories of how many guys hit on her daily. Bihh, you're not no Beyonce. 10. Last one, if she got a nasty bathroom 9 times out of 10 her downstairs nasty.😲😨 clean up on aisle 10!!!
I agree w all of them except #8🤷🏾♂️. Ex; I'm FT medical student; I choose to live with family to eliminate extra bills. My point is every situation has an explanation. Don't be so quick to count someone out.
Tips from a guy who is happily married with kids and successful in almost every way I want to be: 1. She is Christian 2. Her mother and father are good people And Christian 3. She wants to be a mother and defers to your judgment 4. She is enjoyable to be around and she’s a good hostess. Agreeable personality This is a good start
I have to show this to my son one day and he’s only 6 now. I appreciate the work and it takes a lot of patience and understanding to deal what you’ve been dealing with. People Try to ridicule and tear you down any way they it’s not working.
I'm a little torn on the jealousy issue. If she's going super heavy on the accusations, somebody IS cheating, and we know who. Take it as an early warning. On the other hand, if you're about your purpose and living a life of abundance, she's supposed to be at least a little jealous because she knows other girls want what she has. She should never feel like she can't lose you. One of my biggest dating errors was providing too much comfort, because we were all taught that's what they want. "I'm not going nowhere, f those broads, I'm with you." Constant jealousy is a no-go, but you want to be getting a healthy dose of it. Just my 2 cents.
I have no friends in life. It's funny how I see this video and find a mirror image of thinking. Damn. This was dead on 👍🏾 I think this way, I've grinded from home builder to home owner of several, and broken women still find a way to have an opinion about how I live! Telling me to grow up and settle down, upgrade from coupe to a more family car etc etc. stop buying oldschool vehicles fixing them up etc etc. multiple women I'm single no kids and 40, I had a late start from playing in the streets! Now my business is legit and secure, women bring children, debt, and mental issues from the past to the table, and I'm suppose to be a rescue?? Nah.... Nah nah nah....... Good video
I’m happy you are on RU-vid now, just seeing you and listening one time when you lived in Dallas wasn’t enough. I so proud that I am on the right track and being the woman I’m supposed to be...better late than never.
Sad but true. Keep doing your thing big brother. Everything you said was spot on. I dated this girl once that told me I had to put my foot down with her. I knew then she didn't mean me any good. So I put my foot down and pimped ( not walked) out of her life. Funny thing is that she try to get back with me but she has already painted the picture of herself. I hate as a man that it's so mainstream that men are dogs and cheaters. But I know women can be down right nasty and low down on a sneaky tip if your head ain't screwed on right. What a Lot of them fell to realize is that you learn about women from a woman who truly loves you called mom. Keep it coming you have a great you tube channel.
I just found your channel and I love this. Women mostly listen to other women and we get bad information. I disagree with the last point that you make. People tend to play out what they see in their family ( parents etc) and can pick up poor habits from poor parenting. They play out what they see people do or accept and realize they do not want that.. but the questions is.. how to get what you want? These channels are so nice and informative because if you say you want better relationships you have to learn better ways and improve yourself. I think it is more difficult than losing weight.. that is straight forward "stop eating trash and work out". I am what is considered a 9-10 woman by many standards. However I watched my father be mean to my mother(verbal, physical. financial/ and all she did was cry and beg cook clean try to please him) and once they divorced I was happy but from 12 on we had to move to an apartment and were on welfare. My mother was never the same. I was taught to be very domestic which I love, but I felt I had to protect myself and make money so that I would never have to live like that again. I don't know why I always attracted abusers.. I always felt that I worked really hard to do all the things women are supposed to do for a man/relationship but I found myself in same/similar situations, and I always had to run away from them. My ex husband would always say "you are sunny 72- you do everything and make a nigga lazy and you're so good we don't want you to stop so we do these things to control you" WOW.. a VALUE proposition... I was choosing men that I felt I was a little stronger than in hopes that they would NOT have control.. sounds crazy but after I divorced I took an 8 year hiatus from dating and really just started back when my daughter turned 15. I was at peace.. I was happy that I made the decision to marry and have only 1 child because he was crazy to me and divorced but I knew that I was a contributing factor to my problems.. I just didn't know how to fix them. In dating now I look for a completely different type of character in a man. This makes things better all the way around. I totally agree with you on these topics.. men and women are not equal.. nor do I desire to be equal with a man. Women want love.Men NEED respect...
They don't want you to change so they control you? Lol. Why would they think you're going to change? I'm glad I do most things for myself. So I dont have to depend on my woman like that.
What you said about your mum’s and dad’s relationship is what a lot of woman are scared of. Including myself. Women took their independence because of the abuse and the none respect they were going through. I don’t know why nobody is addressing that part. Is Kevin teaching guys how to be respectful too. Maybe not , because his content is supposed to be for respectful guys. However like in every group they are some that will interpret the message wrong and abuse the system. I wasn’t raised to be submissive and to care for my husband. However I would love too. Even before I started watching all these videos I already had that in mind. But I have always showed myself as a independent woman, because I’m scared. I’m scared to get abused. Now I can’t say that I’m fit to be a wife. I wish I was but I still have a lot to improve. I definitely don’t want to mess it up with my future husband if I ever get one.
WORD UP.!!! I RESPECT THE WAY YOU BRING IT FOR THE BROTHERS , UNDERSTAND AM A INDEPENDENT BROTHER ON MY PART AND VALUE MY OWN WORTH AND TIME.!!! I THINK TO MANY BROTHERS FORGET TO OWN THERE OWN MANHOOD AND TRUELY OWN IT, DOESN'T LET THAT LITTLE HEAD BETWEEN YOUR LEGS ; OVER POWER THAT ONE ON YOU'RE SHOULDERS.!!!! UNDERSTANDING YOU HAVE JUST AS MUCH VALUE AS SHE HAS IN THE RELATION and if SHE can't. RESPECT THIS about YOU.!!!!!! ( keep on stepping brothers and save yourself) I learn this the HARD way in my past, but now I can totally walk away if the relationship is TOXIC and have no regrets.!!!! IT hasn't anything to do WITH being a player or anything on that level, it's becoming comterble in your manhood and knowledge your OWN value as a MEN.!!!! SO thanks Kevin !! GOOD subject matter and true wisdom brother , I LIKE your style and keep up the Good work.!!!! 👍👍✊✊(you know their going to"the sister" come after you).✌✌☺ KEEP it REAL brother MAN.!!!
This man is speaking truth about church women. Some of them like to tack on crazy standards. One woman I met a while back said that she will never cook a meal for a guy she's seriously dating because it's considered "wifey duties". When I asked her what will she offer to the guy she's serious with, she really didn't have an answer. I decided to not pursue things further. Brothers, understand that you have value too!
These situations do exist so mind boggling, but there are other issues that have to be taken into consideration. For example unresolved personal issues from childhood, mental illness stemming from certain experience in childhood. Lack of roll models long term marriages my parents were together for 45 yrs until my mothers death. Lack of education and basic common sense. Oh yes lets not leave out our economy yes women fought for equal rights but the powers to be decided what a great way to collect more money if both parents work, careful what you ask for you might just get it.
You say a girl that hangs out with single girls is a red flag (truth) but trust me Kevin, married girls that hang out with married girls are the same. I married a virgin ( both virgins, she was 20yrs old, me 23 and 20 years of marriage, 4 children, now 41 years old, her 38) she hangs out with long term married women. Women are crazier than you think. I've never cheated, provided most of the years until I quit earning anger in the last 4 years and testing her as she earns $40,000 yr annual and she is wanting separation because she says I'm emotionally and verbally abusive. B.S. I didn't swear, hit, cheat like a saint for God and have loved my kids and her. We lived abroad in London (my dime) and in the United States (my dime)and she complained when I worked too much when I came home saying I never spent too much time with her made and my life a living hell when I came home by saying I work all day and I love the TV more than I love her while taking her all over Europe! I have remained calm like a champ but this girl hates a good strong man. I cannot but love being masculine! We are currently separated now at home but not legally. I got the bedroom and she chose the daughters rooms. Now I get the King size bed and am loving the solitude and even though separated in the same house she is all quiet without the nagging ( due to do called separation). Couldn't thank God more for my situation. It's unique but amazing. Be a real man and God will provide. Good luck men and be strong in your way
The best advice for anyone ,men or women is to know your worth. Every action comes down to respect more than love. Someone can say they love you and still do things to betray you . Respecting someone means there are lines either man or woman don't cross . A man or woman needs to know they are respected by what is done , not what is said.
I love this video Kevin! You hit every point on the head of what NOT to accept when it comes to dating women. Men are the prize and are the leaders that are born to lead.
I know I"m 3 years late, but one extremely important question to ask is "How's your father". Listen to the answer. I mean, *really* listen...not just what she says. But how she says it. If the father is absent, abusive, or irrelevant then her answer will reflect how she feels about him. Why is this important? Because how she feels about her father will give you a strong clue into her general outlook on men. If she respect her father and speaks highly of him there's a good chance she has a strong foundation for an appreciation for men.
It's not black and white. She might probably have good reason to not have a good relationship with her father, he wasnt a good parent. Doesn't mean she sees every man that way but just her father.
@@sky-od8cq no it's pretty black and white.... how she feels about the most important man in her life for at least the first 2 decades *will* have a noticeable affect on how she acts, responds, and treats men in general. 10/10 times the reasoning why is not her fault because she's the child... but that doesn't change the effect.
Great Overall Breakdown. Another 3 Things to Consider as well on First Dates: 1. Check for Big Hands 2. Check the Shoulders 3. Look at the Throats The Dating Game for Single Straight Men these days is NO Joke.
Kevin keep up the good job and continue sharing great material bro we really appreciate the quality and diverse material you're putting out. You hit the nail on the head with this one
you pretty much mention all women in general. Very rarely do you meet women who know their role and will be submissive to their men especially in todays society.
Hi Kevin This is Stefan from Europe Thanks for the advice. Can you do a "Green Flag" Video for what to look out for in a woman with rating from what is absolutely neccessary down to important in the same fast and compact form? -And the same for us Guys? For what a woman has to look out in us men? So i can compare my self to and see where i still have to grow up and become a Man and where i am generally already ok. There are so many different opinions out there that its hard to know these days and even our dads didnt really knew what they were talking about i think. If so the world would look otherwise. Love you people out there and looking forward to hear from you
1- No single mom’s. 2- A woman who brags too much about her accomplishments and don’t show interest about knowing about me 3- No manners, speak ill of others, not nice to waiters or people in service professions.
Gents, a lil advice..you do not have to deal with dysfunction in a relationship or constant arguing/bickering...I've known my wife for over 19 years and we have never had an argument because we're able to properly communicate with each other...remember gents, your mate should not be a source of stress, she should help relieve or solve stressful scenarios...life is too short to not be happy just for access to cooch...at the first sign of her queanly (real word and spelling) charge her to the game. In Philly we say, get down or lay down...I say, she either gets down or she gets left behind. Choose wisely gents..her character as a human matters.
If she did a “backpacking” trip anywhere. Girl trips out of state on a frequent basis. Lives with multiple pets, alone. Raises her voice at any male figure, including but not limited to: her father, uncles, brothers or brother-in-law, men of authority. Is unwilling to run errands for you.
That "strong independent ____ woman" attitude is an ungodly, prideful, and carnal mentality. I dated 8, 9's, and 10's and they all had either the strong independent mind or victim mentality and had a string of exes still attached to them. Soul ties are a real thing and women need to decide to cut away from the past or be doomed to never have a future.
A deal breaker is definitely a woman who constantly says she independent black woman. I mean its one thing be strong woman but goodness gracious, these American women are over the top
i hate overly attached women. they call you every 2 min to know what you are doing. i feel like i'm being crushed and my freedom is disintegrating. i also don't mess with young girls (18-26). they play the most games to try to get a reaction out of you to see if you give a f.
You speak the truth I love your content keep up the good work I will continue to watch your RU-vid channel you are one of the very few black men out there speaking the truth and you're very classy and very good with common sense cheers
Preach!!!!! There are way more women on Earth than there are men, so tell me, who is the prize? "They want to be equal when it benefits them and ladies when it suits them."
For the “big time church girl” and the points that follow, I would say: “correct.” But what I tell my brother and male cousins is this: “find a woman who fears the Lord.” All problems are solved in that. If she truly fears the Lord, which is the “beginning of wisdom,” then she has solid accountability for every action, thought, and emotion she has.
Mr. k. Samuels, you have been a long time coming into what is to be the future in stopping this madness among our black women. While other channels are promote mistreatment of women. You are focused on the attention to self, that makes the greatest weapon to challenge the decay of black families. The reason I don't answer your questions on this topic or all other topics of yours, it's because you read my mind. Up until I found your channel I thought no others thought like me. It excites me to hear what you choose on your channel as topics. Lastly, your qualified and bonafied in your right to teach the young men and prepared a path to a better future for people to rebuild the family structure. Peace my brother.
Religious girls...Was with a girl and we had been together for 12 months. She was very religious and encouraged me to follow the Bible. Saturday morning we would go to Church together and Saturday afternoon we were under the covers! Don't let them intimidate you!
I think it depends what your version of courting is. I don't think it's right for a woman to expect tons of money spent of them off the bat. To me, courting was getting to know each other and taking things slow. For my husband and I's (then boyfriend) first time hanging out, we just watched 13 Samurai at my apartment. Our first Valentine's day he made dinner at his place and decorated it including place cards. It was so dorky and cute! After we were together for little bit, we both spend more money on each other. Obviously now, we don't even pay attention lol. I would have been uncomfortable if he took me to the fanciest restaurant in the beginning. "Like you barely know me?"
