1- Stop being triggered 2- Never stop learning 3- Emotional maturity 4- Living Unapologetically 5- Cultivate your inner circle 6- Stay out of drama 7- Cultivate what you consume 8- Know when & who to take feedback from 9- Speak to yourself with kindness
Thanks Lydia, there's nothing like self care. I feel you about drivers on the road. Responding to them nowadays will get you killed here in Chicago and I definitely don't want to go out like that.😡🤬😻🐶
When you talked about cutting out toxic people in your life and avoiding drama it really resonated with me. I have a ‘friend’ who always makes me feel tense and nervous when I know I’m going to see her in case she chooses to put me down or poke fun at me in company in an attempt to belittle me. Then I came across this saying “Old keys won’t open new doors”. And then it all clicked. This person makes me feel small and stuck in this gloomy place and unable to move forward. So I’m slowly distancing my friendship from her and opening the (new) door to good hearted/high energy people who I’ll look forward to being with and hopefully enjoy happier tomorrows with. Just thought I’d share in case it resonated with anyone.
Thank you for sharing. I think that is a wise choice. Find positive people who bring out the best in you!! Putting out good vibes will attract those kind with similar interests.
I have no idea why but when I read "old keys don't open new doors" I instantly thought of the old movie the secret garden and felt extremely nostalgic 😂
I was diagnosed with a life limiting illness a few years ago and my life completely changed and so has my body image covered in scars, stoma bags and intravenous tubes . One of my favourite quotes is , It’s not about the cards you’re dealt it’s how you play the hand ! My life isn’t easy but I have learnt to appreciate the simple things . I agree we definitely have a choice in how we react to each situation X
I came across your comment and wanted to tell you that you are very strong, keep it up and please think about this comment whenever things aren't easy. Also try to watch and read only positive things, comedies, it's been proven to help with health on a human DNA level.
Hi Louise I’m adding you to my prayer list I will pray for you with all my heart I also pray I can be as positive and strong as you I will pray for strength favour help more courage and eternal life for you of course I don’t know when I will leave this earth but I look forward to meeting you in heaven were we will finally be at total peace and no more suffering in Jesus Christ Precious name 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🌹🥰
Gosh Lydia, I would say that this is the best videos you’ve ever done. I remember meeting you in an airport lounge in Milan about three years’ ago. It was hot, you had been extremely busy at fashion shows, and yet you were the sweetest person, so grateful that I spoke to you and would’ve given me as much time as I wanted. Thank you for doing the legwork for me in this video, I can see how I can use every single one of these life advices to make my life easier and happier. I was busy making notes all the way through 😂. I’m so happy for you that you have got yourself to such a beautiful place where you are content and fulfilled. Xx
I personally don't think we stop being triggered, but I agree that pausing before reacting is key! If we ask ourselves why something triggers us it can bring us so much insight and help us understand ourselves better.
I used to be the same way…triggered by every little thing that didn’t go the way I expect, no matter how small it was. My life completely changed when I realized that everything doesn’t need a reaction
The one thing that has elevate my life especially around the covid period has been the word of God (the bible). For every situation I can find find a Scripture that talks about anything from 'Direction' - Proverbs chapter 3 verses 5 - 7, to 'Anxiety' - 1st Peter chapter 5 verse 7,, 'Protection' - Isaiah Chapter 54 verse 17, to 'Love (romance') - Song of Songs, to the 'Season' - Ecclesiastes Chapter 3 - A Time for Everything
My prayer just this morning was, "God please allow me to come into company with people who encourage me and lift me up to become more faithful and obedient to your word. Also, make me that person in someone else's life."
If I could give this vlog a thousand likes, I would, your just an incredible person, thinking of others, helping them what an honour it is to have found you Lydia, been following you for nearly 3 years and being 50 years old, you honestly never stop learning, this was straight to the point no nonsense, great advice, may you continue to grow and Thank you for sharing some valuable points ♥️
Lydia all of this content is so true when you live life surrounding yourself with positivity you become positive. The greatest advice you can give to anyone is dont react to negativity.saying nothing allows it to subside,reacting feeds into it.
Hi Lydia, I watched your vlogs for years and never commented. I’ve just admired you from afar. I must say watching you evolve into this confident, self assured young woman is refreshing. I wish you all peace and happiness your heart and hands can hold.
Congratulations on 10 years! I have watched you since your earlier days (maybe 7-8 years ago) and have seen you evolve and grow, and am so happy for where you are today - your happiness and confidence really shines through! Your video with Jacqueline motivated me to buy her book, and this really was life changing for me - it changed how I viewed my feelings & emotions, and to become a stronger and more confident person! Thank you for your amazing, informative, bubbly videos as always
Having a growth mindset is so important. Learning to learn and viewing things as opportunities to learn rather than win/lose, succeed/fail, good/bad has a hugely positive impact on ones perspective.
I had so many triggers… but I am reigning in on myself a lot more ☺️ I have followed you for around 7 years now, congratulations on your 10 years hun, here is to another decade 🥂 👏🏻👏🏻🇬🇧❤️
After the worst weekend of my life, having one of two dogs that were in my care , died within 10 minutes of becoming ill. My mental health crashed so hard, but today I forced my self back to my routine, swimming at 8.00 , aqua aerobics 9.15 , I was doing it🙂, when suddenly a woman I didn't know shouted at me for drifting out of line.... my mind was shocked back into a place I hadn't been in a long time. I tried to carry on tell myself I can't help it , I can't feel any sensation in my feet and I wobble about it's ok 😳 but it wasn't I had to leave. Next week I'm not going back instead I've booked 7.00 lane swimming and 8.00 lane swimming. This was one of your best videos for me . I want to say a huge thank you 🤗. Stay safe stay well xx xx
Yes. Swimming is so healing. Don’t let anyone make something you love (and that loves you back) into an unsafe or negative thing. Good on you for just adjusting the time and approach towards such a life giving activity.
"Triggered" is the most misused word. People who have PTSD are the only ones who actually get triggered, and in their case the triggering is involuntary and a part of very painful psychological reaction following very serious trauma which includes flashbacks, dissociation, nightmares and the rest. People who have PTSD can't just decide to not get triggered, if they could, they wouldn't have PTSD. What you are describing is simply getting upset and frustrated and I completely agree with your advice on that.
As is common in the ever evolving English language…. words sometimes get reappropriated & take on new meanings (albeit a similar one in this case) ..… I don’t think tho that usage of the word “triggered” in a non ptsd context takes away from the very serious nature of ptsd 🤷🏽♀️
@@u2uuba It kinda does if it's suggested one can just get over it. I think since social media became such an important part of our lives it's become fashionable to claim to have certain illnesses and symptoms, I'm not certain why this happened, but the replacement of the more appropriate words like "frustration", "upset" "anger" with psychiatric terminology might have been a part of that, to communicate our distress in ways that makes it sound more legitimate or serious. It's just my pet peeve and has been for a long time because I suffer from ptsd and as you obviously know, it is extremely unpleasant while treatment for these symptoms doesn't really do a whole lot. Triggers are particularly upsetting, but they are there to warn us of similar dangers, which is why, I suppose, they are so hard to get rid of for good. So I do hope it goes out of fashion eventually, because trust me, being triggered is very debilitating and I would not wish it on anyone.
Lydia, as I watch today's vlog I can't help but think back to your videos from this time last year. What a remarkable change you've made Lydia - for the good. It's so wonderful to have witnessed your growth and so happy for you. Thanks for sharing your experience and learnings in life.
I'm a sensitive person too and watching horror films or anything where someone is suffering affects me really badly. I have no idea how people watch horror films for fun lol. xx
Thank you for this! Would love a similar video on building a business: starting up, taking risks, finances, who to have in your team, marketing etc. Everything you’ve learned so far. Personal finance as well-how you invest and save (and when to indulge in buying something you deserve once in a while too) ⭐️
hi Ashild, this is a great point. Personal finance, especially with regards to elevating your life, is so important. I don't toot my own horn here - but I think my content might be just for you. Come say hi on Instagram :)
Thank you so much for this Lydia! You can feel and see how you have worked on yourself and we are so lucky that you are able to share what you have learned in your development journey. We are so lucky that you are able to articulate it so eloquently. 💕
Congratulations on 10 years! I think I followed at least half of it and I remember the evolution! More calmness to all of us! I think you planned that before, but could you please do a breakdown of some of your most memorable/favourite outfits?
I think you can hold people accountable whilst staying calm without being ‘triggered’. If someone is in the wrong, or is clearly lying, or being misleading (especially on the internet), I’m personally not ‘triggered’ by them, I’m just questioning their accountability. I think there may be a grey area here where some may be a little confused🤷♀️
A life coach I follow says, “You cannot hold other adults accountable. It is not your job.” And I always remember that. There’s a lot more peace to be found in living and letting live than taking it upon yourself to call out everyone who is wrong and trying to make them change or pay some kind of penance. Just my opinion! I personally don’t think many people truly change by being called out on the internet.
Lydia congratulations on 10 years! I started watching two years ago and love how your channel has evolved. While I enjoy the fashion vlogs I really look forward to vlogs like these or your home and entertaining vlogs. So fun and your tastes are impeccable!
Lydia, you are such a proper example of a Lady. Thank you for sharing your Wisdom! I’ve really enjoyed watching your journey the past few years, you’re such an inspiration 💛
Love, love, love this. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. I am a leader in my organization and I have worked so hard to get there. However, with that success comes more and more responsibility to the point of overwhelming exhaustion. I keep putting my job ahead of myself and my family. Not good. Today started a new day with me taking on even more responsibility and I was sitting there at the start of my day saying to myself, you can do this, you got this, but at what costs. My health and time not spent with my amazing husband and my son who is in his final year of high school. Yes, I do well and can afford the best of what life has to offer, but when? I don’t have the time to enjoy it. I truly need to reassess what is more important and start thinking about me and my family. I need to take all that vacation time that keeps racking up. I have some serious decisions to make and this really solidified even more the direction I was already thinking of heading in. Love you and your vlogs. I couldn’t agree more about being unapologetic! You work hard and have earned that right for yourself. You rock it and if others don’t like it, they should find their content somewhere else.
I love that you're learning things from ancient wisdom. I hear a lot of Stoic philosophy in what you're mentioning. Such as "we are not upset by events, but by the views we take of them" Epictetus. Maybe check out some books on Stoicism, I think you'll like it.
I like that you repeat dresses. Sends a strong positive message accross to many young people who follow you. As an influencer these behaviours make a positive impact.
Nothing new here... BUT so so important to hear some of these things over and over again until we have internalised them. I struggle with the last point you made. Thanks for the reminder Lydia ❤🙏
Once I had children I understood picking your battles, patience and what hill are you willing to die on. Life can hard so we need to be softer🥰 stay happy 😃
Congrats on ten years. That is a real accomplishment! My trigger is when someone trashes me or my accomplishments or behaves like I have been handed everything in my life when the opposite is true. It just lets the wind out of my sails. I have learned to separate myself from those people because they are toxic. Good job on allowing yourself to stop living unapologetically!!! I'm trying to get to that point. I practice it everyday, but sometimes I degress... Some wise words for a young woman. Bravo!🥰
Dear Lydia, this video was very uplifting! Thank you for sharing. You are a beautiful person inside and out. Very inspirational. I love watching your wardrobe vlogs but this one was exceptional!!! ❣️
I really got a lot out of this Lydia. I am 57 years old and always learning. I will be elevating my life in some of the ways you presented . Thank you.
Loved this! God bless you, a million times over. You have just eloquently vocalized everything that I have been thinking, feeling, and experiencing over the last several years. I feel like we are twins (although I am almost twice your age, Lol.) It has taken me a lifetime of hard work, hard knocks, prayer, therapy and stubbornness to get where I am today. I am still not where I want to be, but I'm not where I was and that is definitely progress. I am so proud of you and the life that you have created for yourself, your husband, your precious furbabies, your family and true friends. Well done! Have a beautiful and blessed week. Stay safe. 😇
I am triggered when nozy people ask me when I am going to have children 🙄 and we have been trying for years and years and it hits me in the guts when that question comes
Oh bless you Lydia. I am so glad I watched your video today. I really need to hear the "trigger" conversation in the beginning of video. Came at a perfect time for me today.❤
Lovely video. Thank you for sharing your journey so openly. So many suffer in silence or don't understand their own patterns that keep them unhappy and dissatified. The negative self-talk, perfectionism, and managing my consumption have been a gamechanger in my own life. It is all about elevation on every level and getting a coach can do so much.
I have had what I thought to be one of the worst days I have had at work and really needed the advice in this video! I’ve come to realise that, although a keen self-developer, recently I’ve become a bit lost and haven’t been taking ANY of the steps you have outlined, and I truly believe that has accumulated to my reaction to today. Thank you Lydia, for reminding me that everything is in our own hands, we have the power to alter our perception & can choose to turn things around and simply be happy!
Yayyy Lydia! As a Life Coach (specialising in perfectionism) I am sooooooo delighted that you keep talking about what a great investment it has been for you and how it has changed your life! Thank you for this wonderful video and your authenticity! Sending you a huge hug 🤗
@@cestriatherapy7832 Lydia has been working with one on her journey. It is someone who helps you understand the patterns in your behaviour that you can't see yourself and give your strategies to change how you think. It is different from a therapist as therapy gets you from disfunctional to functional. A coach helps you to get you from functional to exceptional :) Hope that answers your question :)
@@cestriatherapy7832 you know very well what a life coach is. You’re just trying to put the profession down. I’m a life coach but also a psychologist and was a counsellor. Life coaching works very differently to a therapist as if you didn’t know.
Lydia - this is your absolute best video ever! I have been a long time follower and have found you to be very inspirational - especially in your home content. I applaud you for taking the time for self improvement!! I agree with your points in this video and it is so true - Our thoughts are so powerful and we have the chance to choose our thoughts for the most part. Practicing self love, gratitude daily and choosing to take a more positive approach does impact and change our lives for the better. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I hope you will upload more content like this - elevating your life, style and love. xoxoxo Mar
Thanks Lydia for your invaluable tips on ways to change/ improve your life. I feel I haven't achieved enough in life and need to change but am lost on how to. I find this video and watching some of your other videos on the way you live life is very inspiring and hope to adapt some of your ways. This is one of my favourite video.
Wow. Just wow. I just got about 5 years of therapy for free! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and journey to a healthier and happier mind and life!!
This video was amazing thank you. You really hit the nail in the head with so many topics and explained and articulated these topics so well. There were areas in my life I wanted to work on but couldn’t get my head around defining them which stopped me finding solutions. Thank you for this very well thought out, inspiring and educational content.
Really enjoyed this video , think Ill rewatch this one often just to help centre. Lets face its there is lots that makes us wobble. This will make a good checklist when setting goals also for 2022.🥰💐thanks lovely
Amazing video, so many good points, I’m already working on a lot of theses myself but just a great reminder of why it’s so important. Saved and will certainly be rewatching when I need a boost and some postive content. Please keep these videos coming! xx
Tanks a lot for sharing this it was such a grate moment to sit and listen. And the Last sentence make me realise to begin with this and every day will be à good day . Thanks you ... It was a powerfull speech! 👍
I loved this video, it is very inspiring, thank you for sharing it. There is only one thing I don't fully agree on, that is avoid watching the news, because in my opinion to be informed about what's going on in the wide world is very important to cultivate one's mind, and I can't just close my eyes on the bad things to make them disappear. Thank you for all your content, I find it amazing!
Congratulations and thank you so much for all your hard work. I am new this year to your channel and absolutely love it. All your tips and tricks at every level from home, garden, fashion, travel have been a pure joy.🙏💓⚘
Oh, my goodness Lydia! This is one of the BEST videos you've ever done! Please do more like this - so inspiring, uplifting, practical, and relevant. Thank you for sharing your tips about how to elevate your life! So fabulous!
For me I have learned/practice from loving oneself and having a true heart of thankfulness/gratitude/appreciation for oneself and the “things” (regardless of amount etc) one has truly puts everything in perspective and in clarity. 😘🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Thank you so much for this video ❤ This is so helpful ❤ I have sometimes so many triggers. Especially at work. I learned just last month again the hard way, how those triggers can affect your well being and your body too. So this video is such good reminder how all the points your talking about can make the life so much more calm, happier and fullfilling ❤
Dear Lydia, thank you for this video! I have a friend that has been a very close friend for years. The problem with her is that she is commenting and judging on everything I post online, say about myself and how I express myself. For example, when I had hurt my knee really badly and told my friend group that I might need to get surgery because the doctor was recommending surgery for athletes, her reaction was that I should not brag about myself being an athlete. With your video you have given me a clear vision of how to deal with her and how to explain to her that the problem is not me being stubborn about critisism, but much rather her being triggered by everything I do and her feedback not being valuable to me. Thank you again and have a nice week! XO from Germany
Lydia, i love watching you! You speak so much sense! Thank you! I put so much pressure on myself everyday, but have realised now i can change that! I think i will put notes around my house to remind myself ♥️🌹🌹
I am also a very sensitive person I can’t watch horror movies I seldom watch the news I hate to watch people suffer also I cut drama in my life, fake friends… thanks for sharing this beautiful vids
I am thankful for this video. I was triggered yesterday actually. My boss and a higher up are telling me that I worry too much and I make things harder than they need to be by just asking a question. I have only been at my career for two years and I still have questions about things. How I deal with it. I am a Christian so I pray to God to help me with it. He always helps me with my problems. 😊
Omg I am so late to the party but this video is pure gold! Seriously such great content ..I have also been going to therapy for 6 years now and watching your video made me feel that I was listening to advice from a superwoman that is a combination of my therapist and best friend (if that could ever exist 😋). Thank you for the wonderful video ❤️
Omg Lydia ,what an emotional video ,you really really made me think, especially about how I talk to myself and having people who constantly bring me down. I,d love to see more videos like this you are such a inspiration.oh and also your gardening one's I love them .Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is my second watch, and it will be one of those videos that I will watch over and over again. My husband always says I am wrong not to watch the news every day, that I should be aware of everything that is going on in the world, and I live in a fluffy cloud, but I like my fluffy cloud! 😄 x 😊
I do not watch the news everyday. It is very negative and effects our moods causing stress and taking away hope. I prefer to watch positive, creative content and read books that are interesting happy storylines too. I figure if something really big happens in the world - I will hear about it for sure and in the meantime I know what I need to know. I also only follow and engage with positive inspirational people on social media too. xo
