90% of Navy SEALs face divorce - Jocko Willink 

I knew guys in the British Army who by 24 had been married, divorced and then married to another woman.

some of the greatest advice about relationships you could hear: "i'm not looking to win an argument, i'm looking to resolve a problem."

Key Word: De-escalating

I like how the interviewer was trying to put his words into Jocko's mouth in the beginning, but Jocko disagreed and immediately took Control over the conversation. He just did "tell me you have been an army leader without saying you were the one"

When will these guys learn?!?!…..wait till you get out to get married. There’s plenty of time young men

Marriage is beyond entertainment, it’s a finance and social tie that you are building to someone you enjoy. The secret is to tolerate the defects of your loved one and enjoy the moments you have together the best you can… bad days may come, do not give up on your oath and I hope you can make what makes you both attractive to each other forever. This goes beyond the both of you and expands into the merge of families. Best,

"i'm not looking to win an argument, i'm looking to resolve a problem." Sure, but if your wife is the problem, constantly bottling up all things she do that you dislike, leads to divorce and contempt. Love Jocko, and what he does obviously works for him and his wife (this far), but communication is key between couples. If its not had, one side resents the other because they never get to address what bothers them. I also don't believe for one second that Jocko doesn't tell his wife what he dislikes, I do believe that she doesn't do much of the stuff he dislikes anymore because they've been together for 22 years, so she knows him better than anyone at this point, so naturally he doesn't recollect things they argue on anymore. But there's no way a guy like Jocko Willink is going to be completely docile to the point where he constantly sits on things his wife does that he dislikes. As said above, its probably the case where they don't really do much of what the other disliked because they've worked on it for 22 years through communication.

Best advice

Suffer win battle. This is how he communicates with wife.

That is the saddest thing to hear:(

Live in shit barracks or marry the first thing to give you attention and move into a reasonably sized home... Its a broad military problem as well.

"I don't bother expressing disappointments in my relationship, because when I do I would have to make a case for why I'm bothered by something and if I do so successfully my partner will make my life hell." That's depressing as f***.

Stupid advice. He should get back into the water because this kind of thinking will sink any marriage and get you a 100% divorce rate. Women are not about resolution first, a problem can't be resolved without the emotional part. Soldiers are trained to detach emotions and reason. There is only the mission and orders given to complete the mission. Nothing more, nothing less.

The problem with military guys like a lot of business leaders and professionals is they are made to lead and tell people what to do. That shit doesn't work in the home.

😂😂😂 Cmon it’s kinda funny. It’s odd to think one of the most masculine jobs of all time has high divorce rates.

And the still want us to get married and make families

What did they say 6.5 out of 1000 men only trying to marry.. i love the internet it makes it REAL EASY to see whats NOT worth it

Not like a real man to fear communicating with his wife. She should be doing the backstroke when you lovingly stand your ground. If an honest quiet discussion is going to get you cut off from her care (love, sex, food, clean house and clothes) then she has the high ground in an unhealthy way. You're being dishonest with her and yourself and she knows it.

my wife left me and took my dog... i sure do miss him

Jody took real good care of Mrs Willink's needs when Jocko was playing soldier

Aren't your deployments only 2-3 months? Lol

Theres a lot of salt in this comment section. Marriage really isnt that hard if you find a level headed woman. And you yourself are capable and worthy of her trust.

Basically jacko is owned by his wife

Hey, do you want to right or happy, trust me. I have been married for 35 yrs. I am happy, she is always correct. So do not be stupid.

women does not have a concept of sacrifice

We lived in a military town in 2005-2019. My neighbor was SF, never saw him, his kids were always over with mine and vice versa. One day oldest neighbor boy shared that his mom had divorce papers on table upon dad’s return. This was in 2008. Imagine how psychologically demolished that guy had to be. I will editorialize two things: women must learn to be submissive to their husbands(Biblical command) and divorce must be illegal.

When u r out for months on duty the girl with 10 plus body count will be taken .. sad modern times