@@Thenamelessnarcissist lol same. Im 42. But people always think im late 20s early 30s. Eg bpd females tend to look younger than they are n be quirky. Haha you are. But again in a good way lookin nice and sounding super smart all the time and witty funny. Lol no wonder bpd loves just latching onto npd. Yall are like mental glitter for us (should u like glitter) lol 😆
Yeah also delete accounts😭😭😭. I think its a borderline thing. I did that cause of i felt i am not getting enough love or attention, or get the feeling that no one cares so they don't deserve to know what's happening in my life, also i have the thought that they must call me if they need me. Basically being avoidant, running away and hiding from reality.
Yeah that one was like 🤯😵 to hear. I currently have 4 fb accounts that ive deactivated and left behind and each profile has a different aesthetic and vibe. Its like after splitting black on someone i want to erase that the bad thing happened
@@BorderlineFaith lol damn!!! I've also found that having multiple accounts, which have a different vibe lol, helps me balance my emotions funny enough. I think because of the different emotions we feel as borderlines on a daily basis...
The first 5 mins...she explained exactly how i felt after breaking up with my ex that ìs a narc. I didnt know who I was anymore because I gave up so much of myself to make him happy. Still going through this.
It’s so interesting to me, I have BPD and NPD and it’s so funny to me how I’ll completely agree with whatever she’s saying on something, or completely agree with what you’re saying and then on others I just completely don’t relate to one of you. It really just shows my combination even more I also think that I tend to dip a lot into anti-social every now and then when things get bad and I just disconnect from everyone even more, I lack a lot of empathy and I already regularly have violent fantasies that I enjoy even when things aren’t bad and I’ve seen a lot of people say that’s more what they feel from anti-social so that’s cool (slightly sarcastic)
Very interesting video. I thought it was so interesting she talked about deleting her social media so many times. My old roommate was borderline first off, way too much for me to deal with. Second off, she made like 2 different Facebooks, like 3 Instagrams and had like 4 different phone numbers. Constantly losing her wallet, phone, keys, name badges. That may have been a her thing, but she was super irresponsible. New jobs all the time and quitting when she doesn't have something lined up. Some of the new accounts I think were because she got locked out but still. I'd never seen someone do that stuff before. I was happy when she moved out. I feel like I have some bpd traits, but they mostly came out when I was in a relationship with a narc so idk. I guess if it's not present all the time I probably don't have it.
Well true stuff, my cluster date was so busy mirroring me she couldn’t see I really love or for who she is and not what she was showing to me. I guess she got tired of the mirroring but what’s tragic is it wasn’t what I like in the first place 😢
1000%. I was the adult when I was a child, I was responsible for NarcMom, sociopath bro, psychopath grandfather. It sucked. I was surrounded by emotional infants then I became disordered. UGH 🤦♀️
Contagious yawning is not just correlated with sociopathy. It's associated with mirror neurons in the brain which are involved with empathy in general, not a specific diagnosis.
The lack of genuineness yes. It happens to me. I got to learn what his baseline mood was what his motivators a bit were. And all i ever wanted was for him to stop trying to silence himself and just be who he is with me. Love me his way because i love his ways and who he is. I think too it comes from distrust that love can really be mine for me. Because i be up around ppl who were mean but said they loved me so i wanted volatile love subconsciously. So sometimes i found it hard to believe if his love was quiet and peaceful. Even though i tell myself i want quiet and peaceful love. Very bpd that struggle is i think.
Lol not healthy way to be! Although i really want it to stay that way! Lol yes the curse of self aware and going through limerance lol 😆 totally felt this. Dude i love this video. Yall are hitting my dopamine sensors hard core lol npd saying you're my soulmate bpd says okay whats your soulmate like I'll be her! Lol 🖤
Thank you both so much for doing this! Jacob, I’ve recently found your channel and am so grateful for the BROAD spectrum of perspectives that you offer (thank you CrystalXClearBPD). My ex told me over and over that i was a narcissist and it sent me on a very big spiral and now a continued learning about myself. This convo is even more illuminating. You remind me of him quite a bit, he was my broken bird but instead of me helping him, we both almost ruined each other. He helped me to come to terms with the fact that I have so many dysfunctional and toxic relational strategies and Ive been loving listening to this channel to gain more insight. I also never thought he did any of his very insane and hurtful shit because he was a monster but because he is a very hurt person. Thank you for spreading the word on that and trying to break the stigma around these disorders.
The best. I learn more by listening to people's experience then from phd books. Hope you guys do more or those lives. With other clusters or people. Btw it's finally good to relate to those issue and not see it as an alien monster to fight. It helps all.
@@BorderlineFaith did not say it is worrying. But I think it shows a level of anxiety, and have noticed the same in other BPDs. This is something that I came to understand over time, when I went through a phase in my life when I felt ongoing anxiety and suddenly realized that was what my ex was feeling every day...
Lol when he asked what you were passionate about? Lol is it just me or do pwnpd always ask those seens spot on omg i can't think rn deep identity related questions. Lol my pwnpd asked me once how id convince ppl on my activism issues. Lol super passionate about it. I drew a fkn blank. Lol 🖤😆 🤦🏻♀️ oh man i wish i could type fast enough to comment on all the omg haha yes moments lol 😆 Appeasing ppl so you can keep them around Lol. Haha the contrarians clash sometimes though lol the constant devils advocate. Lol he listens to posterchild by born of osiris. Bc of this lol. Yup relationships fizzle out or i get frustrated with them.
40:20 Fuck. Fuck fuck holy fuck. I couldn't really point this out before I heard someone else describing this. Still don't know how to explain this to my partner.
If you're talking about her take, I have no clue either lmao But for me it's like... I want them to be close to me but it's never enough I guess? Maybe it's symbolic for just, wanting to love them and be loved? Idk it's weird
No offense intended, you know I appreciate your channel 😬 but this was just like watching two self absorbed people flirting with each other and puffing each other up 😂 ❤
Also. You do what you want. This is your channel. I appreciate that you’re showing your true self online tbh. Like bro. So many RU-vidrs act so fake af on camera. This is your true self and we love it 😍
Actually. Now that I think about it. Can you please do a series of vids for me about how narcissistic people view sex and flirting and validation from the opposite sex??? That topic is fascinating to me atm and I’d LOVE to learn from you.
