Very true. I walked away from someone I truly love and care about till this day. But, he didn’t make it known to me that he cared the same way and so, I left amicably. No drama no fighting. Just walked away while wishing him love.
I get what your point is with this statement. I also feel, it signals the wrong idea. To only measure something for how it serves* you is to say if something takes more than it gives, it should be cancelled. Babies, children, elderly grandparents, college professors/degrees are all examples of something taking more than it perceivably gives. I would challenge that “serves you” part and replace with “love and respects you”. My mom always says, “never sit at a table where both love AND respect are not served for you”. It is believed, Love can exist without respect, and if you work in corporate America you know respect can exist without love. A healthy intimate relationship has an equal amount of both. 😊
A strong, loyal woman has an internal switch. If you push her too far, her internal survival switch will go off; and there is nothing you can do after that. Everything she gave you, she will now focus on her own survival & growth.
This 100% true. I can love you unconditionally and willing to give you my all. But when you continue not to pour into me, give excuses, not give me some quality time and meet my needs, I will listen and love from afar.
It's like putting down your old sick dying dog. It's painful but there is no other choice. He didn't change his bad habits so we couldn't stay. I cry everyday. 😢
I didn't cry or feel hurt. I felt a burden lifted up off me. God showed me I deserved better. I'm a Queen and I deserve the best!!!! Listen again to what Derrick said honey!!!
True,so true but I for one is leaving,even if I have to lock myself away and cry for days I'm still leaving because it is written that"weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning".
one of the most profound statements I’ve heard this year 🙌🏾 it actually amazes me that there are some men who are aware of this, and yet will continue to move selfishly w/i a relationship expecting unyielding love and loyalty. It’s truly APPALLING
When you care more about a relationship than you care about yourself, then walking away is hard. When you have self love, self esteem, and self respect then leaving is easy.
You can't pour from an empty cup. Self love and respect for yourself is maintaining your whole being, mentally, physically and spiritually. Don't let any person make you feel less... this is on point.
Some women, like myself, will complain, or nagging, as men say but that is when she is fighting for you. When she goes quiet, these partners will think they have won, but when she goes quiet, she has given up and is planning her exit.
woooww that's exactly 💯 what happened to me 16yrs ago, i was very very loyal to this person he took my love my kindness ❤ 💜 nd my soul, but god showed me the way back to myself saying to me you are worthy ❤ to be loved by God's grace nd power, talking to God every day made me powerful nd strong 💪🏾 i thank almighty god for showing me the way..amen
This sounds exactly like what happened to me. My ex said, I thought you would never leave me. 10 yrs and a kid. I said in June, im done. I had a new place by August 1st. I did not play, I warned him. I left so quick that he didn’t have time to process it. Don’t assume someone won’t leave cause they let you get away with murder cause when a women is really truly done, good luck changing her mind. I’ve been by myself for years now. Happy..
I know its words from a perv, but it still rings true: "When a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can do abt it. Its like running out of luck, & its too late to talk abt it."
100% accurate. Nobody wants to beg to be loved. I will state my needs, be patient and when my needs are ignored, I’m not going to beg. I look at actions, not words. When I’m so empty that I can’t function, I know it’s time to move on. I don’t nag.
Exactly and I just left my fiancé for this very reason. He thought he had a goofy but I always told him when I get quiet and just start saying okay you need to worry but he thought he had me so whipped and sprung and his true colors formed and feeling taken for granted and not appreciated I left just like that and couldn’t be more at peace now and happy. No one will ever steal or take my peace and joy again.
I have this on repeat. I needed to hear this message this morning 🙌🏽 I'm walking away 🚶🏾♀️ I'm too nice and people take my kindness for weakness, until I quietly disappear. I don't need manipulative game playing people in my life. I choose me first.
When you stop expressing your unhappiness and frustration or what they call nagging is when you lose your fight. Once you’ve stopped fighting for that relationship, it means you’ve been pushed too far and there’s no looking back. That’s what men don’t understand
@@alexmanojlovic768 Wrong! Wow you have really got this whole thing backwards. Even science has proven girls and women have always been better (and learn much quicker than boys and men) with communication. You have a LOT to learn.
OMG! Exactly!! I've been saying this for so long. You nailed it 💯. I've even told men, 'men lose me because they take my kindness for weakness' but they get cocky and then I'm gone. They come back chasing, but NO CHANCE!! If you could not see my worth whilst I was invested in you and cared for you, then you don't deserve it just because I walked away!
WELL SAID! VERY MUCH TRUE. NO MORE WARNINGS💯% Derrick the women & men needed to here this. I say never and I mean never take a woman's kindness for weakness. 🙏🏼💞🔥🔥
Bro got me in tears again... New year, old me coming back... I'm getting stronger every day, exercising, eating well though alone, reading, listening to podcasts and unfolding all this bs surrounding me... Stay strong, all of you ❤️🙏🏼
Now I know why my ex never thought I could leave. The thing I have observed is that when I reach breaking point. I don't fight, insult or anything. You will do something that is a last straw for me and I just walk away and that's it. There is no amount of sorrys that will change me. When a person loves you don't take them for granted.
Right.. I used to get to the last straw then I learned how to stop it at the first sign. Then eventually avoid altogether. Because the last straw means you put up with entirely too much. Never again
Yes!!! Thank you!!! I listened to years of insults comparisons to other women criticisms about everything I cooked I wore I said I did or didn’t do. I got yelled at shamed accused for 28 years and one day enough was enough. No more!
Oh thank you👏🏾. They get confuse because they ain't no difference between their ego and their love. The loyal women always finde out: he is not worthy of my love, my time and my soul💝
This happened to me... he actually thought he can replace me... the moment I felt his energy redirect somewhere else guess what I'm putting up boundaries and cutting you out... it will be hard in the beginning but I will come out winning and my type of energy and love will never be reciprocated because I genuinely truthfully loved you. Love is hard with the wrong person. 🖤
💯 loyalty is very much confused with weakness but no when your loyal you stay because you love but once that loyalty is just not being returned at all we leave and once that kind of loyal love is taken away I promise you will feel the absence… Great video
Your welcome Queen, by no means should there be anything or anyone come between the two! The world needs to see what true Kings and Queens look like❣️😎👑
So well said. When I started to give some love back to myself he started to yelled at me for being selfish and started being super abusive. I took my love out with me. Best decision I've ever made.
That's why people, should have common sense enough, not to take anyone's kindness for weakness, or their love for granted! it is that simple. do unto others as you want done unto yourself. it is very important. because if you wouldn't like it done to you, why would you go and do that to somebody else... Blessings to ya'll. Much Love In Christ...D ❤️
So true, " she'll redirect all the love strictly towards herself " . I tell myself I'm now in a relationship with myself and the love songs that would make me think of him I think of myself .
Always give love to yourself first. Put on your boundaries. Loyal women know their value. If you take them for granted they will detach themselves from you without drama or any negative emotion. They will show you the door.
When I'm done you will look around and I'm gone you"ll have no idea ...I will smile in your face the day before and you will not see me again especially when I've given you chances...😏😏fuck with me if you dare!!!!🤬
100% facts. At this point I communicate my needs and boundaries but if I see that he doesn't take them seriously...he gots ta GO. I'm not afraid of being single and my glow is brighter. I'm glad that I've learned this lesson in my 20s and not when I'm older.
Yep. I never nagged, whined, or complained. As he walked out the door for the last time, I simply said, "Never call me again," and then blocked him every way I could. His calls, messages, and letters were left unanswered. He knew he was treating me like crap, and enjoying it. It was painful, but it had to be done.
Oowweee she’s already mentally checked out, yup, Sis is on her way out that door sooner than later. I can relate. Be strong and remember, give it to Jesus and see what happens 🙂🥰
Spot on. Describes a loyal woman perfectly. And once that loyalty gets broken.... well that's when she'll find her strength to show the door to the person that breaks their loyalty with her.
He said we’re married I own you! You can’t leave…. I packed up a few things, he thought I was bluffing. I walked out never went back or returned any calls. The best thing I did 30 years ago and still feels amazing
Yes, this hurts us deeper and we absolutely go through pain even if we are the ones to leave,.. we must be careful as strong loyal women to understand the strength we have and use it to not allow yourself to be traumatized and fall into depression and lose our way.
Girl you can do bad all by yourself. Know that your happiness and being stress free is like waking up and realizing you're on vacation and not having to rush to work.
I actually poured that into multiple relationships but realized that I had to pour all this love that I have left towards God cup. He really appreciates it and shows that in return
