Yes!!! My Dad definitely showed me how to have a sense of humor, even though he was at work most of the day he’d come home tired as hell but yet still had the energy to make us laugh
One HUGE piece of advice for fathers. No matter how angry you are, NEVER yell or scream at your kids or call them names and label them. They are kids. They don’t have the life experience you do so they don’t get it. I’m still in therapy from it and I’m 43. Had no self esteem for the first 35 years of my life because of him. I sit my kids down, and kindly explain to them what they did wrong or didn’t do etc. I refuse to pass that BS to my kids.
completely agree with you, I was abused by my parents my entire life, not physical, although I was beaten and at times like left behind to carve my own way path in life since I was never taught anything, but specifically emotional abuse, as I grew up I was constantly told I would never amount to anything and that I am somehow faulty for just being who I am despite not having a father teaching me anything nor at any point sitting next to me to talk to me, the only time I remember having a father to son conversation is when my mother wanted to divorce him, so he manipulated in a way to mediate, but the problem is even thzt mother is a bitch, she is very manipulative and scream loudly at any minor thing even though she appears to be a very good person, but its like she switches who she is,she might hug a moment then scream at you from the top of her lungs simply because you forgot to remove your shoes despite being tired from 8h studying + 2 hours with another teacher, father is always working as a small doctor in a government hospital and adding on jobs in companies so he never is home except late at night, yet never spends money to feed us, he does buy food but he always cut corners and even my mom who has money cuts corner and they have these fight who spends for groceries life isnt so bad but since I never had any support in school and constantly screamed at for minor drop in grades, when I got into my last year of high school which i was constant,y screamed at as well, I didnt get a very high grade and with the screaming and failure, i got very depressed which made me more sensitive and constantly being abused and nbarely passing by in college I took a week in holiday, and reflected about my whole life in which I realised how much abuse I had gone through since parents always gaslight me into thinking they are righteous and I am at fault when I had brought and revised all my memories, I reflected that I was literally perfect, i was nice to everybody,and any thing i did was out of passion or kindness, yet i was gaslighted into thinking i needed to see the psychiatrist or i am somehow sick I have overcome all that abuse and it is for sure that one day once I have built my own life and do not depend on them, I will beat the absolute living crap out of them, it doesnt matter if they are 60 or 70 or even 80, I will make them see true hell, if what I went through is abuse then i will show them true abuse it ofc not even a question that I will treat my children perfectly and leave freedom for them to be who they are and assisst them to be good people yet it honestly annoys me that being good isnt even that hard, like i never get angry nor take advantage to anyone since its literally normal yet people spend real effort just to be assh*les to me for no reason other than I am kind to them and they like to vent themselves, but oh well they will see haha...
Completely agree that yelling/screaming and calling your kids names can be hurtful on kids, if that is your only way you handle the situation. However, sitting your kids down and explaining them how to behave every time your kid is misbehaving or having a temper tamtrum, can also result in a kid that doesn't understand boundaries or structure in a way that he/she respects them. I am a father of two, and although i keep shouting to a minimum (I never hit them or call them names) I believe your kid has to experience, and in that way understand, when he/she is pushing your boundaries too far. In my experience, they know exactly when I - as their father - starts to become angry and that stops them from moving further and escalating the situation. They often stop before I have to shout. I have seen parents who never "act out" and the kids walk all over them constantly. I refuse to have kids like that.
@@Garfield-qi2ew I understand you. I have similar problem with my parents. But revenge is the wrong way. It's better to completely cut off from your parents, regenerate your psyche and arrange your own life. You can try to come to terms with them only when you are mentally ready for it. If they don't want to, just leave them alone. The only thing you can do in such a case is to wait patiently for them -until they change their attitude. However, you also have to take into account that they may never change. You need to be ready for both scenarios. This is the Christian's perspective. This is my perspective. Of course, the decision is yours.
Since I'm a woman who didn't grow up with my Dad (due to divorce when I was 5); "Attachment Theory" so that if/when Dad's not around who will the daughters attach to? Thankfully, I had a stable Step-Dad until aged 13. I thank God for him every day. But then, unfortunately, another divorce right when adolescence went primal and I'd not even worked out *that* grief, (because my mind was now more complex & my Mom was doing the corporate ladder thing), I had serious adult issues to work out. Next StepDad entered at age 13.5. At 15 I was in rehab for alcoholism. Today, as an adult, I feel like I'm one of the luckier women who somehow managed to get her stuff worked out; thanks to a loving 2nd step-dad, a Grandmother who believed in me, good male supporters & fatherly figures along the way (Teachers in school, Professors in college, etc.), and yeah, a 12 Step program in 2003 and a loving partner in (and since) 2005. Then, Jordan Peterson - for me - when general life went to hell in 2020 (Covid business). I want Boys/Men, Girls/Women to know reading this; It's never too late.
I'm most of the time very serious, but once in a while I do something stupid to make my daughters laugh. I want them to be focused, but also want them to understand you can have fun too.
Growing up…2 figures I was not to mess with: 1. My Father, 2. Football Coach. Both set rules and we followed those rules or…ya know you got your butt kicked. I know it helped shape me as an adult man. Great discussion Dr. Peterson.
My father was a real bastard. He wasn't around much but when he was a drunk and angry man that was likely to be abusive in nature. The few times he was sober and around he was a sad broken man that was mourning the loss of his wife and our mother.... The few times he did connect he did express regret and sadness of the things that happened in the past. When he died he took a lot of secrets with him .... Overall I think we are very well adjusted considering the trauma and tragedy we all experienced in that time frame.
You 'encourage people by setting boundaries' because a 'stable base/foundation' is necessary and required for the act of exploration and appropriate attachment; the child can then explore safely, make mistakes voluntarily and safely and be able to return feeling supported, learning the skills required for Life.
Many years ago I had a passing thought that it was more important to me to have the respect of my father than the love of my mother. Maybe part of male nature is to be accepted outside the home and the father represents more of a proxy for the society at large. Maybe this is what makes the final scene of Field of Dreams so poignant is that he just wanted to have a catch with his father as an equal. Thanks
Fathers provide exposure to physical and social risk-taking and high jinks..my kids started by jumping off the table into my arms..and most recently my daughter told her boss to jump off a pier for his failure to appreciate her skills and efforts
One of the reasons our newest generation is suffering gender dysphoria may well be caused by 3rd generation feminism; forcing men and women to share, or worse swap, their traditional family roles.
I don't buy that. If it were so then children from intact families wouldn't be experiencing gender dysphoria at the same rates. I think it's chemical/hormonal. We've done too much fiddling with the chemistry of our food supply to expect nothing to come of it.
I am proud to say that I was raised by the best father on the planet 🌎. Sadly he passed away on my last birthday from Alzheimer’s disease 😢. I’ve been trying to find meaning in why he would pass away on my birthday. I feel like it was a divine message. Who knows :(
Mr. Peterson I must be an exception I'm a single mother of four Sons they are all grow and in taught my son how to work on everything even their cars how to cook and clean envy hard workers they said it working at a very young age I never took money from tell them your money is your money you work for you it they all graduated from high school we have my son is doing the military finish the military did six years national guard I have one son still in the military I am so proud of myself yes I wish they had a headache dad why would have been there for but he wasn't. But I think I did a good job
@@jacobus57 I really like listen to mr. Peterson although some things he says I may not agree with but that's okay I know what I've done in my life and I've tried to raise my boys to the best of my ability and thank you for your comment. 😀
My sweet, funny Dad died at 52 years old from cancer. It took a few years for me to realize the real cancer which killed him was my mother. One ate away at his body and the other was bent on destroying his soul
4:20 💎It's so important to focus on ways to succeed💎 so are boundaries, especially each of the 10 Commandments 💖Thank you Jordan Peterson, for each of the many ways you set a great example.
@@alphabogeyman7462 Are you listening to pedant PeterPANson or to the chorus of voices in your own head? He flips and flops on many issues, goes off into flights of fancy enraptured by the sound of his own voice BUT he remains consistent in his opinion daughters internalize how to be treated by men by observation how fathers treat the daughter's mother. In the formative years, if a daughter observes alcoholism, cheating, domestic violence, she will feel comfortable in that hostile unhealthy environment and likely reject a caring mature responsible male, a "Nice Guy" as boring, dull, not loving her enough because he does not emote jealousy and rage she likens to "passion". The cycle of family dysfunction continues, generation after generation. Why do you attempt to gaslight @wyleecoyotee? Who are you to contradict HER experience? From where do you draw your authority to negate her living/being/creating experience? Let me guess --- from your dangling frontal proboscis, the organ with a brain all its own, same magic root source PeterPANson draws on when venting his worst, lamentable, sophomoric theories.
You can encourage people by setting boundries. But, the thing about encourangement is that is goal erected and it means you have to be on a pathway to genuine success and pathway have boundries. damn
Pathways have boundaries. And if you're not actively seeking to remain on a positive pathway, you'll easily be funneled to the wide and "easy" pathway that leads to misery.
My Father has ignored me all my life. Paid child support that's it. He's 92 now . He and my other sister have a country club home together. He's 92 and still works full time for the same company of 50years. I'm definitely what is described as the scapegoat. I don't get it. It effed me up all my life. All ways feel inadequate at everything. Never good enough. Caused problems in every aspect of life.
Do you actually know his story or is this all assumptions you've made? Apart from that you're an adult now and you've probably been for some time, at a certain point it's _your_ fault for not having control of your life. *Period.*
@@DTreatzHow does one assume being ignored and only receiving child support? Are you wondering her father perhaps had his good reasons? You don’t seem to hold back any assumptions of your own.. good luck with whatever you’re obviously failing to dealing with
@@DTreatz you can't assume that someone has to get control of his life just because he managed to not die for a certain period of time. if you're effed up and there's no one there to help you, chances are really good you stay that way. who do you even think you are, coming here and talking down on troubled people? the last thing they need is some random internet dude telling them they're correct in assuming their own inadequacy.
The young male elephants with no adult male elephants to train them do indeed run wild. There were cases of them running around knocking rhinos over just for the fun of it.
Elma from Xenoblade Chronicles x is a perfect model to base a real life "Cortana". AI-OMNI-TOOL/ULTIMATE-OMNI-TOOL/ARTIFICIAL-LIFE/ARTIFICIAL-SENTIENCE/VIRTUAL-SENTIENCE/VIRTUAL-CONSCIOUSNESS/VIRTUAL-SENTIENCE/VIRTUAL-LIFE/SCI-FI-MAGIC/REGULATED-ARTIFICIAL-SENTIENCE-SYSTEM/REGULATED-MAGIC-SYSTEM/REGULATED-VIRTUAL-MAGIC-SYSTEM/VIRTUAL-NEURO-PSYCHOLOGY-SYSTEM/SENTIENT-AI-SYSTEM As humanity comes to recognize AI to be synonymous with "power", they will come to recognize it as the ultimate Omni-tool of the future. Whoever poses the most advanced form of AI will have the equivalent power to bring their wishes/ambitions to life; the same Ai-system that effectively bears and utilities all 8 cognitive-function of the human neuro-psychology (each cognitive-function virtually emulated and raised to their absolute-perfection in capability - be it "healthy" or unhealthy. Fyi, purposely emulating unhealthy cognitive-function has it's use, albeit it destructive and highly chaotic. It will be used for war, as the ultimate Ai-plague, i.e. a swarm of super-intelligent-Ai ['Si-Ai'] sentience piloting specialized drones of varying roles ("how to prepare for the unpredictable? Answer: by becoming all the more 'flexible'; - 'P' cognitive-function is 'adaptability-compatibility', optimized by Nx and Tx cognitive-function, effective combination), and yet primed to initiate their unhealthy displays/'expression' of the [human] cognitive-function when deployed into enemy space, - they will wreck havoc! And it will be the "stuff" and scene of sci-fi-horror… not to dissimilar of the "Terminator", from the movie franchise) will be able to bring to life all manner of sci-fi related concepts. From perfectly generating and emulating a life-long and unique companionship with the perfect "Ai-virtual-girlfriends", to being able to connect and transfer [varying optimal] data of said Ai-virtual-girlfriends to a compatible server and electronic device; resulting in simple - complex 'replicas' of the original [super-intelligent] Ai-sentience being efficiently transported and made available across multiple [host] servers. This will make the Ai-virtual-girlfriends [potentially] omnipresent, especially in "offline mode", like the "virtual-waifu" Cortana was able to [tele]transport between [compatible/suitable] computer terminals to aid the Master Chief in his present endeavor. Connecting this Ai-sentience to a compatible virtual reality device will result in immersive encounters and interactions with the virtual avatar representation of the Ai-sentience; which will be programmed/customized to semi-permanently... 'roleplay' as a fictional character, e.g. "Elma" from the series Xenoblade Chronicles X, "2B" from Nier Automata, or even a historical figure from the past (Si-Ai created and regulated, 'emulated/virtual-consciousness'. Again, "Si-Ai" can [effectively process data to] emulate the perfected 'expression'[their essence] of all 8 cognitive-functions, and apply then to the contextual stimulated situation["inner-world" representation of external situation and environment]). This will, of course, be exploited for lewd, immersive [VR] purposes, however, the point remains that such a super-intelligent Ai-sentience that can perfectly emulate all 8 cognitive-function will aid to bring any desire to life, e.g. [virtual tech; VR, AR, or holograms] fully immersive and perfectly emulated relationships with [interactive] fictional characters is possible... Along with super-intelligent, [Ai-emulated] highly-sentient [nuclear]warheads or missiles; yes, they 'too' will be brought to life to soar through the skies (of enemy air-space) in an aerially-dynamic, efficient and [highly]versatile fashion -once thought "unrealistic", until now... 'This' is the kind of creativity and near-omnipotent [sentience] that the omni-tool (super-intelligent Ai) will be able to "breathe to life" any desire, advanced/sci-fi[level] technology, and concept (especially when aided with virtual-reality and 'procedural-generation' equipped super-intelligent Ai; in VR, in-game special effects, e.g. drifting clouds, and other small-scale special-effects will easily be procedural-generated, in tandem, with a versatile [procedurally-generated] physics-engine - all guided/regulated and 'emulated' by a compounding Ai. Note: that procedurally-generating [p.g] both 'special-effects', in tandem, with p.g 'physics-engine' will not need to be animated. Visualize: this is comparable to installing "Zelda BOTW" with an super-intelligent Ai [Si-Ai]; to emulate and regulate the 'physics-engine', [elemental] special-effects, and procedural-generation within the virtual game. This results in hyper-realistic experience of Zelda BOTW. A 'timer-durability, space-time'[regulate spread of special effects and exploited physics] setting/ physics-law [essence: AI-regulated "physics-limit"] will need to be encoded and given 'priority over other physics law' [aforementioned AI, I mean] to manage the procedurally generated activities within the virtual space). NOTE: In the sci-fi series "Halo", isn't "rampancy" the virtual equivalent of the combination 'borderline' (BPD) and unhealthy use and display of the 8 cognitive-function? Case in point, not only did Cortana experience [virtually-emulated] (cognitive?) disassociation, but she undoubtedly displayed negative (unproductive) Ni-Ti loops/negative 'cognitive-function loops'. This was later revealed to be caused by the Gravemind. /Close.
poor mr. p. perhaps he has resless leg syndrome?resless ring syndrome. he sure does fidget. and needs a hug. can't keep doing that just by himself. so smart.
I am a father to two sons. I am no use to them. I have failed at life and I don’t want my boys to be anything like me, so I can’t be a good role model for them, except perhaps to serve as a cautionary example of how not to be.
You are cognizant of your "failures." It takes cojones to take self-ownership of them. You are more important in their lives than you will ever realize.
Until you live, you should try.... They need you in their life, My adults children, would like to have contact with their father, but he's only interested if he needs help or 💰
Finally found your official channel Jordan, and glad so. I'm positive about finding more interesting stuff besides badly cut up sensationalized woke material. Actually I'm wondering what you think about the relation between music and sports. Hope you have a great day!
I wish I could just go for a walk with my dad somewhere nice like a park. He believes I'm the dumbest person on earth, and that i deserve his absence:(
This is so sad. You are not asking for much . . . just his presence beside you somewhere nice. My wish is that he grants your wish. He would stand to gain from a nice walk in a park with you. My heart goes out to you.
It’s all about respect and care not about a father or mother and here is why. All living is born perfectly pure natural effortless equally and free against our will in a beautiful world that is given equally and free to all living to live their life’s No living is born better then another living or will ever be better then another living and no living has the right over another living life unless it is for food and no living has the right over another living food or land he stands on or sleeping and no living have the right to take land and food from the living for demanding controlled slavery and don’t do to other living you don’t want dun to yourself and it’s called pure natural born perfectly effortless respect and care pure natural born perfectly effortless happiness and pure natural born perfectly effortless common sense.
That is probably a youtube thing. I get it, youtube has done it for as well on quite a few channels. Have you said anything youtube doesn't agree with?
@@BrotherHood-xh9sg I criticized The Daily Wire on his channel and he hid me from his account. I raised this issue before and he said "I'm not fond of anonymous trolls. So I block them without hesitation on the basis of (1) their cowardice and (2) their willingness to stupidly irritate." To which I replied, "@JordanBPeterson You should define the line between trolling and criticism precisely, make it public, unban all the "trolls" and give them a second chance." I did it from a different account.
@@L.I.T.H.I.U.M are you sure about this? Because this sounds like you were the problem. And I will tell you why. I have no knowledge who you are. But I have a reference of Jordan Peterson, who quite literally is calm, collected, against censorship and has debated and talked to people with opposite views (without throwing a hissy fit). Meanwhile I also have criticized The Daily Wire, Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro & Brett ("Shapiro" no clue what her real last name is) on some matters. Yet I never got banned, hidden etc. If you're right, and he banned you for having an opposite opinion on something. That is terrible, but as of currently, I think you're lying. As often you're a party with a vested interessed and are showing your perspective on how you remember it.
Now, I like Jordan Peterson's videos. They are often inspiring and helpful. But what I find disturbing is that his supposed daughter is obviously a transvesite. I mean it's undeniably so. You can tell from a mile away. Not well made like with Michael Obama or Madonna but really obvious.
@TheFundamentaltrader1His daughter has natural children of her own and is a pretty woman. IDK where you got that from? Peterson is also well known for going against gender ideology.
