My son 32 weeks stillborn didn’t get embalmed we had him for 3days with me in a Moses basket on ice and for sure yes babies do start to discolour and turn quite fast without embalming...I use to ring the morgue in Wellington everyday to see how he was because when he died it was a public holiday in NZ so he wasn’t able to be cremated right away due to back log of other people who had passed before him.....I had to leave him in Wellington hospital morgue they were lovely and so kind and then I had to drive 4 hrs back to Hawkes bay in Napier without my baby...a week later he got sent in the courier to Hawkes bay hospital but the most cruelest part is they made me collect his ashes from the maternity ward and as new parents were walking out with their babies in car seats I had to walk out with my boys ashes in a wooden box which I wrapped in a blue and white fluffy cloud blanket...I would have rather pick him up from the morgue then to go through what I had to endure. So much more to my story with my Son Sebastian 💙💔
I am very, very saddened to read what they made you do. I am very sorry for your loss and terrible unhuman experience. I am sending all my sisterly live from Rome, Italy
And I thought it couldn't get worse after reading that in some US hospitals, a celebration sound is broadcasted throughout not just the maternity ward, but the whole hospital whenever a life birth occurres...But what you were forced to endure is indefinitely worse, and I hope that the decision to do this to you has haunted and will continue to haunt those who were responsible for it. I'm so sorry for your loss, and for what you were forced to endure and have had to endure ever since losing Sebastian. 💔
Here in the USA, in 1989, my best friend passed away at 17-19 weeks pregnant (proven malpractice). The medical examiner had to remove the fetus as part of the autopsy. However, when her mother inquired about getting her deceased daughter and baby to the funeral home together, the ME stated that he had disposed of the fetus as “medical waste”. Horrific!!! My friends mother was already grieving and then to be told her deceased unborn grandson was thrown out as “medical waste” was absolutely disgusting. 🤬
Hi Who Knows, yes we have heard of coffin births, these are very rear and I have never witnessed one. Thank you for your comments 😊 take care out in America ☺️ 💚💚
@@dpberryUnfortunately not, it's a "natural" result of decomposition, though it happens/is noticed much rarer than people would have you believe, as the phenomenon has been sensationalised as a type of morbid curiosity, vs. a natural consequence of extremely tragic circumstances.
Welcome BlooGloom 🌹 and thank you for your kind words. Is that California 😎 fabulous place 😍 any questions you may have don't hesitate to ask 😁 take care 💚💚
Yes, of course, but we still don't remove them. I'm not a surgeon. They stay with their mum unless sometimes when it's an autopsy Thanks for watching xx
On Sunday, I will be attending a visitation of a woman who was 8 1/2 months pregnant and died in a car accident. She was a fellow Mom in my community. I really don’t know what to expect and am wondering if the baby will be out of the womb laid to rest with mom or not. Sounds to be an open casket and I just wish I knew. I’ll find out Sunday but..Thank you for this.
Oh Ashley, that is so very tragic 😔 we are both so very sorry to heard this please except of deepest condolences. I hope the viewing goes well and you will be ok. I would imagine the baby would have been taken out if an autopsy was required and most likely layed with mum after 😔😔 so so sorry we hope you are ok 🙏💚💚
This may be controversial but my 10 year old daughter insisted that she go with me, knowing beforehand what she might see. She wanted to be there for her friend. This woman was her friends mom and our Girl Scout leader. The baby was place in moms arm and both looked as good as it gets, I believe. It was very sad and very difficult to witness but neither me or my daughter regret going to support the family and her little friend. Thank you for your condolences!
Hi Ashley, thank you for letting us know how the viewing went. We definitely do not think it's controversial that you daughter went along with you to pay here respects too 💚💚 in other cultures children are very much part of the death of family members from a very young age, we don't think it should be hidden away as it part of all our lives. The family would have got a lot of comfort from you both been there. Hope you are both doing ok it is such a very sad time to live through. Sending positive thoughts to you and your daughter 🙏 take good care big hugs from us both 💚💚
I’ve just subscribed to your channel and I’m making my way through your videos . When I heard you say TRET and then the comment lol 😆 my dad was from South Shields and I’ve not heard that phrase for 10 yrs since he passed away , so thanks for the memory 😉 Really enjoying every video.
Hi Julie, welcome to the channel ☺️ so glad we brought back a happy memory of your dad, sorry you have lost him 😔 ❤️ South Shields not far from where I was born and bred in Co Durham 😊 Take care 💚💚
...(Trish here), I can never let something like that slip through. As the ‘editor’ I make sure I always have the last laugh - that’s what friends are for, right!? 🤣🤣 thanks for watching Carol. 🤩
I was 5 yrs old when my mother, 35, died due to sudden bleeding in her 9th month of pregnancy. We lost both of them. My father had open casket for my mother and just before burial the baby was placed in her arms in private and they were buried together.
I'm with Tracy on this one... Tret may not be a word, neither is 'frit' but it's said alot in the UK. I say both tret and frit. #TeamTracysMadeupWords. Keep up the great videos ladies! Much love ❤❤❤
Hi Jess, thank you for your kind words ☺️ and support in my made up words 🤣🤣 Trish is very much used to my crazy way of talking and she is great at making other understand what I am saying because I can dribble on a bit ...🤦😉 Take care 😊💚
So, (Trish here) I asked the lovely mortician this morning about frit, and she had a different use... perhaps a difference in dialect? She used it like to waste something to ‘frit’ it away, where we would say fritter. Personally I think Tracy’s just made up a meaning for your made up word. 🤣🤣 I’m going to use it your way and see if she notices 😉
@@Areyoudyingtoknow frit it away is how you would actually use the word. To be honest, I think it's a Lincolnshire thing. (That's a county in the UK) alot of people outside of Lincolnshire have never heard the word frit... Me and Tracy can just make absolute drivvle together (drivvle just means nonsense) Let me know if she notices the word frit 😉
Loving your videos! Question: Have you ever had to prep a body for a viewing where someone was being viewed in a regular setting as if they were still alive? Ex. I've seen an older lady place at her table playing cards because that's what she loved to do and how she wanted to be remembered and a guy was placed behind the steering wheel of his favorite car.
Hi Tiffany, hope your well ☺️ We know the two cases you are talking about, there is another one you can google it. A guy sitting on his Harley Davidson motorbike in a glass box and the whole thing was buried with him still sitting upright so cool. For that kind of 'I would call' extreme embalming a lot of rods are used under the clothing to keep the bodies in an upright position. I have never be asked to present a body like that only certain things to be placed in they hands and unusual outfits to be dressed in. Thank you for your question, take care 😊💚
Ladies your comments in this video has made me think and i have a question. I live in the US. If I came to Queensland on a vacation and died during my visit. How would my body get back to my family in the States? What would happen to be?
Hi Barbara, let's hope that doesn't happen but if it did, you could be cremated here and have your ashes flown back over to the USA, but would have to check if your state had any requirement for arrival of ashes. Or your body could be embalmed and sealed in a metallic bag then into a sealed coffin then flown over, again would need to check what your state laws are in your area on receiving human remains. The funeral home that your family have chosen would do all the work this end in Queensland, on finding out what the rules and regulations are in your state so families don't have to stress about that part. We hope you stay very healthy and safe, take care 😊💚
I'm from northumberland in the UK my dad passed away while on holiday in Spain we had him flown bak home but he had to be embalmed over there his death certificate is even in Spanish it cost us 5 grand to have him flown bak home we also had to deal with an international funeral director
Hi Leanne, in beautiful Northumberland 💚 We are so sorry to hear sad news of losing your dad 😔 it does make it harder also been in another country. (This is Tracy here) I totally understand what you and your family went through as my mum was killed in Malta, and we had the same expensive things to go through. She was also embalmed as it's is the rules with aviation when transporting a deceased person international. It is very traumatic at the time too, the fact that you lose you dad in another country but also having to deal with other funeral homes can also be a challenge. Sending hugs to you and your family back in Northumberland. Take care 😊💚
My sister died in a car wreck just about 2 weeks shy of her due date. It was very tragic 🙏 The funeral director left the decision up to us. My parents opted to leave her baby with her since he passed in uturu if thats the correct term. She also has 4 young kids and it may have been even more tragic for them. Im in the US so it could be different in other parts of the Country or world.
Oh my goodness what an absolute tragic story we are so very sorry to hear this 😔 we have no words only to pass on our deepest condolences to you and your family 🙏🌹 we hope you are all support each other through this very difficult time. Think your parents made a good decision, yes it is the right term. Please take good care and look after yourself and the family 🌹💚💚
I recently attended a funeral where my God Son's wife died in a road accident. She was in her first trimester. The child was embalmed and placed inside the mother. I'm not sure how that was done with it being so small. Sorry to hear about the power outage did it affect the refrigerated storage at the mortuary or do you have backup power?
Hi Steve, remember you telling us about your god sons wife, terrible sad. On I can only think if she has an autopsy that the embalmer opened up the cavity to place the baby back in, really not to sure on that one. Take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow I'm sure there must have been a postmortem to determine cause of death. Police were involved lorry driver under investigation think he may have been charged. I'm not too sure of the exact details. Funeral Director who organised everything was a lovely young woman who worked closely with the family. She said the baby would be treated (that's TREAT in Tracy Speak) and put back inside Mum. It was a cremation they have a tree in the garden and the ashes were put into the hole when the tree was planted.
Probably right Steve, should would have had an autopsy, so sad. I am sure she was taking good care of 💚 I do have my own language 😉 my husband is always saying is that word from the 'TRACY DICTIONARY' 🤪😂 when he does understand what I say or how I spell 😂 🤦🤷 take care 😊💚
Tret is maybe not in the dictionary but if your from the North of England it’s a very recognisable word, our language/accents varies greatly from County to County. 😊
Hi Tracy and Trish, hope you are both well. I’m from Kent in the uk, and I was wondering if you choose to bring a loved one home after they are embalmed, how long can you have them home. Xxxx
Hi Donna, Tracy here I know Kent really well 😁 I have family live there too. To answer your question it depends on how long you want the body home for as to how strong an embalm we do. You can embalm a body to last a few weeks to many years. The longest time I have dealt with is someone going home for a week. Take good care out in beautiful Kent 😘💚
Hiya,, Thank you so much for my reply, Its Sha puma wildcat lol,, Am i allowed to ask another question,, My mum passed 2 years ago through cancer, No autopsy was performed .. She was sorta left in a fridge for 9 days without being embalmed or any thing due to no death certificate as her DR was on holiday and had to wait till he returned for it to be signed, She was then embalmed so we were allowed to view her, I went 4 times to visit her with other members of the family who were a lill too nervous to go on their own, My question is, Each time i visited her, her eyes seemed to open a bit more as did her mouth. 1st visit both were closed but by my 4th visit ((5 days after 1st)) eyes were half open as was her mouth,,Any ideas why this happened, to me this was beautiful but other family members were a bit freaked out,,,, Thank you and im so loving 2 posts a week, great stuff ladies xx
You are very welcome ☺️ of course you can asked as many questions as you like. We are both very sorry for the loss of your mum 😔 hope you are doing ok 💚 If it ok will answer this on another video, it is a good question. Thank you for you support 🤗 take care 😊💚
It's not meant to be cute, it's stating the truth so people know who is who in the video. And they're definitely not stupid. Thanks for your comments take care 🙂