Abuser 

'You don't deserve to be with me' - God, beginning of time through present.

I literally got chills. My ex was abusive, and one day while looking up "abuser" symptoms online it hit home and I realized that he was exactly like the god I was raised to believe in. Point for point. I'll never forget that day. I really woke up.

knock knock, "It's me Jesus, let me in I'm here to save you." "Save me? save me from what?" "From what I'm going to do to you if you don't let me in."

And the only difference between them, is the tone of voice.

These videos have gone from Comedy to Seriousness. I hope you're still happy darkmatter2525!

Worst part is, this is actual Christian rhetoric that they push as a positive thing

Ive just realized that Christianity has conditioned humanity to get used to abuse, misery and suffering.

“god loves me, but i also fear him” ^^^^^the most important relationship anyone could have “my boyfriend loves me, but i also fear him” ^^^^an abusive relationship you need to immediately get out of

If humans were god's puppy, the ASPCA would have taken us away a long, long time ago.

Faith in Jesus: The Ultimate Stockholm Syndrome....

if you leave me, i make your life a living hell...

Showed this to a Christian friend and half way through he was like “the man is just being an abusive husband but God is different, He would never say that“ . How brainwashed can people be?

I have thought many times that people who defend god sound like a person in an abusive relationship.

And they say atheists are miserable...

Powerful! My ex-husband used those tactics on me and they worked for a long time. You've connected the dots for me as to how religions use the same tactics. I've known they do for a long time but this video actually made the connection for me to the abuse my ex inflicted on me. The same strategy. Exactly. Another fine video from you, as usual. But this one held a special significance for me. Thank you!

When I was Christian, I disliked all your videos I saw without even watching more than 5 seconds. I’d like to apologize for that. About a year ago I converted to Vanatru neopaganism, and I think it’s improved my life. Not long ago I found as many of your videos I’d previously disliked I could, and I found I actually agree with what’s in them. Thank you for helping (or at least trying) people see the truth in these books. You’ve been a tremendous support in my life and have given me a lot of things to work with when my parents try to shame me. Thank you, may you live a wonderful and long life

His art style has really improved since I started watching

Every time I watch a Darkmatter video I always come away with a completely different perspective on how harmful religion is that I hadn't thought of before. Your videos are really eye opening, keep up the good work!

I like how when she started escaping from her husband, he started pleading for her to come back. It would have been so easy to fall into the trap of having him threatening her to hit her, or just saying "yeah just leave I don't care", but DM's smarter than that. The fact that he's pleading makes the husband that much more human and realistic. The problem with abusers is that they have that sort of weakness that makes you think he/she's actually attached to you, he/she's actually very vulnerable and that you feel bad for leaving them. They're sort of victims of themselvses as well. Great job DM.

I was a Christian most of my life. I'm also in a marriage where I've heard words similar to those in this video. The similarities of control and abuse in my marriage and the church I've always turned to are uncanny. No wonder I've felt like checking out permanently. It's not lost on me that someone like you, who Christians are always "praying for," actually gets this and are willing to expose it. I think what you are doing here is actually what love is: exposing truth even when others ridicule and oppose you. Thank you for this compassionate video. I never got this from church.

The problem with abusive and controlling relationships is that the victim usually doesn't realize how bad the situation is. They perceive it as normal, justified or even good. Look at the life he gave me. I'm better off with him/her. I was worse off before. His anger is justified. After all, he made all this happen. Besides, other relationships are no better. Hell, mine is pretty good. Just look at Andy and his girl. He's got a restraining order and a kid in SS. My relationship can't be as bad as theirs right? Truly its better. Sure he hits me, but he doesn't mean it. Or I did it to myself. He loves me. He loves me. He loves me. The same is true for religion.

The similarities are absolutely disgusting, I heard the same garbage from my dad when he would beat up my mom, same thing different day. My husband hit me one time in anger, I took my ring off that day, we haven't been together since. One time is all it takes! We accept it all from God, so what is right? Is there a right when it comes to these ideas? No!

My mother was a covert narcissist and emotionally abused me and my siblings for years. I am thankful I managed to escape. Christian rhetoric is very similar to what we heard from her growing up. That familiarity was a major influence in my atheism, helping me to see it where many others do not.

I remember hearing this before, and in church, the argument against it was that the abusive human relationship was wrong because the human abuser was just a flesh-and-blood human just like the victim, and has delusions of superiority, but that's not the case with humans and God, in which one is genuinely superior. Looking back, that still has "might makes right" undertones, because the argument that sinful acts are only sinful if done by humans, because some things are appropriate for only God to do basically boils down to might making right. It's so hard to concretely argue that the Abrahamic God is genuinely morally superior that most arguments saying he is hinge on its being objectively impossible to understand his decisions because he's just that much wiser than we are. Which I wouldn't be surprised hasn't also been said of dictators by their downtrodden subjects. It's pretty heartbreaking to think that some people really are in positions like these, and the only one who supposedly has their back when no one else does is actually just another abuser if he's out there at all.

I know it's a serious topic but... 0:50 Somebody once told me The world was gonna roll me I ain't the sharpest tool in the shed

Hearing and seeing this makes me glad I'd cut my nails yesterday, or I'd have put them through my palms already. I know someone who was battered by their partner, she went back to him after what seemed like a sincere apology and he beat her to death. The parallels here are frightening.

Sometimes the abuser don't leave marks on the body ,verbal abuse is the same with a big smile and soft talk😢😭

At least the abusive boyfriend allowed her to leave and didn’t threaten her with eternal torture in fire for all eternity for not loving him back

F*ck. Okay, message received. Very well done. Now, I'm gonna go construct a sequel in my head where Linda walks outta that church, finds a nice group of mutually supportive atheist/secular friends, and takes control of her own life.

My ex was very abusive. Not physically, but emotionally abusive. And it had a lot to do with religion. I mean she was a terrible person underneath it all, but religion gave her a shield to hide behind. She used it as an excuse for everything. To defend myself, I'm ashamed to admit I snapped and got almost as verbally abusive as she was. I hated what I had become. She may have started it, but I had stooped to her level. There was no reasoning with her or salvaging that toxic relationship. And rather than constantly defending myself (She spoke no other language other than cruelty and deceit, so if I was too gentlenor soft with my words, I was spineless) and letting those bad habits I was formkng change me permanently... I left. She would have killed me and not felt the tiniest bit of guilt or shame. Every day I was practically swimming in adrenaline and cortisol. It was ruining my brain, body and physical health *_AND_* forcing me to become a monster to fight monsters... so I am glad I left.

I was brought up in a Hindu family with no religious pressure and I always had freedom to choose. Thanks to my parents. When I was 19, a friend of mine preached Gospel of Christ to me and over the course of few years I slowly got converted into Christianity, to such an extent that I became a worship leader at the Church I attended. (People are just lovely at the church and I still talk to them though I don't attend it anymore) But thanks to channels like this especially @darkmatter2525. All this really opened my eyes. I first became a skeptic and also I used to really enjoy the video content, but slowly I realized the ignorance I had with my beliefs so i slowly came out of it. I used to always hate people who called themselves atheist, cause I never understood what it meant and trust me, many religious folks don't. When I told my girlfriend I am an atheist, she just got upset and asked me never to call myself that. I explained her what it really means cause she thought the concept of athiesm was anti-christ. Though she's not completely satisfied, she does understand my position. I also credit people like Christopher Hitchens, Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris and their extraordinary way to put forth arguments, which helped me realize how wrong I was to believe something, without evidence and just rely myself on faith. Now I can say that I am an atheist. Many of my Christian friends tell me that I was never a Christian to begin with. I always just say, you have no idea how devoted I was. I feel so much free even as I'm typing this, but also a little sad cause I know how easy our minds could be manipulated by religion. I have seen it first hand. Finally I'm just glad that I have realized the truth before it was too late for me to recover.

Abuse is exactly what sent me on my faith crisis and liberated me from the Christian religion. A man only needs to absorb the Patriarchal concepts and subtle (and not so subtle) degrading themes toward women to be well schooled in Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder traits and tactics. Healthy relationships hinge on mutual respect, equality, honor, and reciprocity. Autocratic and authoritarian relationship dynamics are always abusive in one form or another. No benevolent God would create such a framework for abuse to thrive.

To be first or not to be first, that is the real question.

Researchering the symptoms of Stockholm syndrome was a major factor in my deconstruction. This video reminded me of that time in my life. Thank you, Darkmatter for showcasing what needs to be seen, even when it's hard to watch. You help us to think deeply about what religion tells us is 'true' while showing us what's really going on. 💙

How to convert a Christian to an athiest. Step one. Show them a darkmatter2525 video. Step two. Congratulate them on becoming an athiest.

Yes religion has its benefits, but honestly, do they outweigh the harm it does? I've seen that, as the video points out, abrahamic religions mirror abusive relationships, and, as the video doesn't point out, Stockholm syndrome. An all powerful being who has us at his mercy and can do whatever he wants with us, and we're supposed to call it love when he doesn't kill us.

Your vids are like wine Darkmatter2525. They just get better and better as we age ;)

I knew the God of the Bible was evil but I didn't see how similar he is to an abusive partner/parent/carer

He takes down religion with so much class

I was raised by an abusive mother and was so broken down, that I ended up joining a cult-like church for more of the same, from the cruel god of the bible. I have since left that all behind, and I’ve never felt more free and strong. This video was absolutely heart wrenching, because this is the painful truth about the Abrahamic god.

Was I the only one who thought at 1st the man was supose to be the interactive version of god?

Oh I got it - It's actually god the ABUSER. The dude is just a small version of the lord savior.

I first started having doubts about God and religion when I realized this. My whole family is very religious and they tried to force me into their religions and then I heard more disgusting and hateful messages from both my mother's side of the family's faith, my father's faith, and his side of the family's faith. That's three different religions that I heard the same thing from and one day I just realized it was all bs and honestly taught how to abuse. No wonder most of my family turned out abusive, whether they realize it or not.

As an ex catholic I can say this is so true

So poetic. I swear you are getting better with each new videos. I really wanted to see the girl storm out of that church too.

I'd love to see a video of Jeffry's simulation as a power corrupts episode, to show what a truly good and just god would actually be like

The similarities are painfully obvious

Religion hurt me so much and manipulated me so many times... Specially people hurting me. Great video I am glad to watch this and feel peace from narcisist abuse.

God is NOT dead! He was never alive!

I've never clicked out of Dinosaur Erotica this quickly

this literally gave me chills, because it's so freaking true, I don't understand why is so hard to open your eyes people.

Christianity: 2 billion people with Stockholm Syndrome.

Was about to sleep but darkmatter uploaded

Holy FUCK the quality in this is ASTOUNDING.

Some patterns are timeless.

Most accurate representation of Christianity ever.

I feel bad liking this video because it's so depressing, but... yeah, this is pretty much exactly my experience coming out of religion. Not that I was physically abused or anything, but the psychological abuse you depict here is pretty accurate.

Yes! Biblical God behaves exactly like an abusive husband or father! Exactly the same! It's so obvious!

From her house to the church is one abusive relationship to another.

This is almost verbatim what my sister was told when she tried to leave her abuser. She was killed by the man who loved her

This video was difficult for me to watch, having been in similar abusive relationships. I was lucky to have the means & courage to escape. Others don't....

We have suffering in this world because it's God's will. He refuses to end war, disease and torture. He's more evil than anything else on earth. Either that or he's imaginary

Man. I don't have that many words because you hit the nail on the head. I was physically, sexually and emotionally abused throughout my entire life, and it seems this abuse has followed even after I've cut ties with my family. Whenever I turned to God, I experienced much of my childhood all over again. Overwhelming guilt for things I shoudn't have had to feel guilty about, the sense that I was nothing without God and that God never approved of me so I was always nothing, and the dreadful idea that no matter what I did, I would somehow be destined for hell, anyway. I didn't feel that my own life, body and self (I don't believe in a "soul") was mine anymore. Not when I walked with God, and not when I walked with my parents. Now, I'm a full-blown atheist and believe that I am full control of at least THIS life. I don't know what happens after death and I no longer care. I don't want to know. If I go to hell, I know it was nothing I ever had control of in the first place; if God wanted to send me to hell even after I converted, then he would, no trial or anything. So I choose to live fully in this life, do the best I can to be an ethical person, and be happy with what I can control.

There wasn't happening much... There were only two scenes, which both were very similar... The message could be said to be nice, because the priest actually tells her that she should not leave her husband and try to rebuild their relationship and talks about great things God did. Which are great tips and great things, right? Someone, who wouldn't know about which video I'm talking, could say it's probably a nice, but boring film. And here I am. Mind-blown by how the simplicity of this is making way for the actual message. I have never thought of this that way. I of course thought about God being often stupid, awful and just plain evil. But never about him and his whole cult being the abusers in this kind of context. It's a great video. Simple, calm, heart-breaking and mind-blowing. Thank you for doing it, DarkMatter. It means alot to a person that went through domestic abuse and now fights with it once again. 😊

good job. this video is very accurate and hits its target without being blatant.

I'm an ex christian by the way in the end i thought of god as an abusive neglectful father and grew to hate the very idea of a god we must control our own lives. To hell with religion...

I've noticed that as our times have gotten darker, so has Darkmatter's videos and the points have gone from the general "atheism explained for those questioning their current faith" to more deeper philosophical questioning of the very cultures that create these belief systems.

''But he loves you'' -George Carlin

This is a great video and spot on in every way. When I was 12 or so, I overheard my mother and other adults talking about ( gossiping) one of the elders in another congregation abusing his wife physically and how the wife left him over the past weekend. It struck me because I was taught to think Jehovahs Witnesses were the "true" religion and its followers did not do such things as domestic abuse and all the other bad shit that "worldly" people did . And this family was very admired by everybody: beautiful wife, very handsome dad, gorgeous kids.Dad is an elder in the congregation and mom is a devoted mom. Even as a child I questioned, so I wanted to know if she could divorce him, even though JW teachings only allowed for divorce in a case of adultery.I asked my mom and in her usual lazy way, she told me to ask an elder. I chose my favorite elder and asked him, and the answer I received was no, wrapped up in a lot of fumbling words and circular logic. I remember it like it was yesterday and that event put water on the seeds of disbelief that were already there.

This is Darkmatter's most professional video in my opinion

This has to be the single most profound video you have ever made. I even got teary eyed, and that does not come easy.

I dated a seventh day Adventist. While doing my own research on it I came across an article that talked about abuse. It said if one spouse couldn't work with the abuser to get things resolved to see a pastor to work on it in order to avoid a divorce.

Honestly, you are the reason I'm not christian anymore. It's great to have good ethics but Christianity is so backward, it is basically impossible to look at a Church the same after your eye-opening videos

In the year 2525 when man is still alive, they'll watch Dark Matter.

The abuser and the priest sound the same for sure

(a battered woman sits in a prosperous middle-class home, holding her head down. her left eye is almost swollen shut, and her expression is utter sadness. the sound of deliberately broken objects and thrown furniture is clear and constant. with every sudden noise, the battered woman cringes and flinches) Abuser: *in loud, angry voice, as he tromps around the house his points are punctuated by smashing things* You think I don't see what you do? I'm always watching. Always! You're all screwed up, damaged goods. And you know what? I was slumming it when we met. We're in totally different leagues, and I thought you'd at least appreciate me. But you don't! You don't deserve to be in a relationship with me. But I'm willing to make the relationship work, I always have been. I'm willing to forgive you, OK babe? But, you know, you gotta show a little remorse first. I know what you are deep down. I know what you are because, let's face it, you're not the sharpest tool in the shed. So maybe, for once in your life, you should just stop and realize that I know what's best for you. And look at you. God! You're so ungrateful! Do you have any idea how much I've sacrificed for you? And look, remember, I love ya, I really do, but if you actually leave me after this, I swear to GOD I'll make your life a living HELL! And believe me, I don't want to do that. But it'll be your own DAMN fault, so don't MAKE me do that. You know what your problem is? You let other people and things get between us. Screw your job, screw your friends and your messed up family, stop listening to them. It's either them or me, bottom line, I should come first in your life. Stop letting everything else get in the way of our relationship, you hear me? Maybe you should just cut them out of your life. Remember what your life was like before me? You were nothing but a slut! I straightened you out. Just think about how much better of a person you'd be if you just did what I fucking told you to do. Listen, you need me. Without me, you'd be so lost. You'd be nothing. I'm all ya got, and I'm all ya ever gonna have. (as the abuser rants, the camera zooms out slowly through the 1st story window of the house, until the house is in view from the street/sidewalk and the abused woman is just a black slouched outline. the abuser's outline walks back and forth across the window as he rants) Woman: *stands up runs out of the house* Abuser: *runs out after her, shouting from the porch* Wait! OK, OK, stop, just stop Linda, listen, I'm ok, ok, I'm sorry, Linda, please, I promise it won't happen again, come on, don't do this, please! I swear! Linda, I'll never do it again, ok? Linda: *runs into a Christian church (Protestant, by the simple cross on top [Catholic churches use Crucifix, shows dead Jesus hanging on cross]) and sits with her head down in the preacher/pastor's office* (as the pastor talks, the camera zooms in on the black outline of the abused woman slowly through the 1st story window of the church, until the abused woman is in view. still battered and hanging her head down) Pastor: *in quiet, calm voice* I'm sorry you had to go through that, Linda. Some of our flock volunteer at a battered women's shelter. Let me see if I can find their number... But... I just want you to take comfort that the LORD is watching over you - always. He won't give up on you, so don't give up on him. To do that, would be a tremendous loss. We're all sinners, Linda. We're all damaged. Even though god is so far above and beyond us, he is still willing to take us in. Appreciate that! We don't deserve it. Even though we're not worthy, god still wants to have a relationship with us. Isn't that remarkable? All he asks is for your repentance, and he will forgive you. He knows everything about you, even the number of hairs on your head. So he knows what's best for you. All you have to do is listen to him. The LORD sacrificed his one and only son for you, and he did that because He loves you, and he doesn't wan't to see you go to Hell, so don't reject him and force His hand. I think you, like many of us, let worldly things get in your way with your relationship with God. The LORD should come first, before friends and family. Only He can turn your life around. Only He can give you meaning. We all need god. Without Him, we're lost. We're nothing without god. He knows it all to well. He even had to wipe us all out once in the Great Flood, as it says in Genesis. But He felt great remorse, and promised to never do it again." Linda: *closes eyes, head still held down, with the same sad expression still on her face* (screen displays text: Abrahamic faiths [Judaism, Christianity, and Islam] resemble domestic abuse so well because they're both rooted in power and control through degradation, dependency, and fear. This is antithetical to benevolence.)

Darkmatter is a goddamn genius.

I love how the guy (in the first half) is a metaphor for god

this is really powerful ! I'm happy because I left Islam 11 years ago and I feel free since that time. thanks for your work !

Literally cried listening to the husband, but started laughing uncontrollably when the preacher started saying the exact same things. Not because it was a joke, but because of how absolutely true it is. The wording given makes god sound like a sadist.

Yahweh is the original gaslighter.

If there's one thing that i hate, it's domestic violence. Making these parallels just made me hate religion even more.

My mum and I both went to Catholic schools and I'm particularly thinking of those of her generation when I see this, like it's not even subtle, everyone readily accepts that it's all based on fear and guilt and how you're not worthy of God but paradoxically think it's about god's love, the doublethink is amazing

People saying "Have faith on God" is just like "Obey your abusive Father, no matter what"

Jeez, this is something I've thought for years, that the god of the bible or whatever other religion is like a domestic abuser, claiming to love the follower yet the follower must walk on eggshells at all times for fear of setting off that god in a fit of rage and endless punishment, demanding that the follower must love him/her/it/them more than any family member or their own child or even the follower's own self when in reality the follower doesn't really feel love but instead intense fear. And threatening a fate worse than death if the follower ever leaves. Religious people often talk about having a "relationship with god"...is this really the kind of relationship they want?

Goddamn, this was a great one.

So well done. And so frightening. Religion is a huge, collective, ongoing Stockholm syndrome.

this one hits me hard, for awhile that was my mother. Which was later redirected towards me. I've stopped that cycle of abuse.

Choose love not fear. Be brave, be free.

Well that was fucking dark. What an accurate analogy though, darkmatter strikes again!

"Not the sharpest tool in the shed" all I thought was all star

He promised to never do it again with water (a flood), but He didn't say anything about FIIIIRRREE!!!

I am not a Christian nor a Musliman, but I still watch his videos because I know a lot about Christianity and I understand the jokes. But what I love most about him is videos like this. These are not only eye opening but they also apply to most of the religions. This one in particular was so good that I got goosebumps after watching it.

Did he just say *s h a r p e s t t o o l I n t h e s h e d*?

This almost applies perfectly to Mormonism.

this creator is brilliant

I applaud this man on his great voice acting skills, good shit

This is the best atheism video on RU-vid by a country mile.

I never made this connection. But Wow mind blown, makes so much sense.

You made a home run with this one