Remember this tears the next time you and your girls chuckle at, dismiss, or reject a man who openly expresses his feelings, cries, shows vulnerability.
I always see black women saying this, but where are the black men that shed tears for you? Every time a black woman comes on here preaching black woman empowerment this comment section is filled with men crying "feminazi" and "bitches ain't shit." Don't be a pick-me for a group of men who couldn't care less about you or your struggle.
These comments are funny but true it only applies to women when its men they love (lovers or family) If a man they don't like expresses himself they call him weak. Not saying your like this but some women are not all
When I was in elementary school, I was misdiagnosed & placed in the Special Ed classes. Luckily my mom realized this quickly & she got me outta there in 2 days. I'm now 26 and have a great job as a software engineer. We definitely need more representation in the mental health field!
Chance thank God your mom stepped in when she did, can you imagine all the babies that were labeled Special Ed and didn't have anyone to advocate for them? :-(
Thank God for your mom, and her being an advocate for you. She was smart enough to realize the game that they were trying to play. Once a child is labeled, that label will follow him/her into adulthood. Kudos to your mom.
They tried to do that to my brother just cause he didn't read the best and said he was special ed. My mom wasn't having that! He stayed in normal classes and my mom just worked on his reading. Now he's a majoring in Mechanical Engineering
Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls. James 1:21 Now if the word of God is able to not only save your spirit but your soul, why is it a problem with getting spiritual and mental health counseling from the word of God which is also able to heal our spirit and soul and body. You see, the problem is not black people don't want to be seen as weak because they have a mental issue but the real problem is that fact that they don't acknowledge the word of God which is able to heal the spirit, soul, and body. The soul which consists of our mind, will and emotions.
Life Advice : Suffering in silence is not for everybody. If you feel like you need help, go and get it. It's nothing weak/embarrassing trying to solve your problems.
Yo I'm 6 minutes into the interview and I'm convinced on what I want my degree in when I go back to school. I've been struggling for the longest to find what I want to go for. It's truly amazing how this interview just helped me out like that. Thank you Ms. Taraji & Ms. Tracie
I tell my kids to always walk in their own truth, never lie, one it’s too much work and secondly none one can ever hold it against you... I lead by example!
As a black phd student there are NOT enough of us less than 2% in the psychology field last time I checked. YES it is expensive and curriculum is not black people friendly if that makes sense. You really have to stand up for yourself and be driven to finish.
@@ericsmith2552 there are lots of theories but many would say it is the haves and the have nots. Too many [people of color] cannot afford the price nor pass exams to be in reputable programs to attain those degrees. Essential the programs are structured for a certain group of people. I hope that makes sense.
@@ericsmith2552 for me it's to help people that are Taraji and her sons positions, we need more black mental health experts, increase the 2%, to spread more awareness, to accomplish a goal I set for myself, to encourage others, for me it's personal but also societal.
I'm so glad we are speaking on the things that affect us mentally from the womb to adulthood. A lot laugh and joke not realizing it can hit you at anytime in your life. This subject is very critical to life..
I hope you're going strong to be in that industry. If you've graduated congrats if you took time off you're supported any way. With love; were rooting for you ❤️❤️
The schools labeled my son as special ed but I didn't allow myself or him to believe he was limited. My son is currently a B+ grade average student and continues to develop and excel. TAP into your children's gifts and talents and support that.
Christin Gaither I just want to know why do so many of you always talk about how good older black women look? We know that our people age pretty well.And then what are we suppose to look like.I just feel like y’all younger people don’t understand what it is to get older.Its not a death sentence and life gets better the older you get and it’s great to get older.And many of the people y’all tall about we are the generation of Ice cube,Tupac,Ice Cube,Snoop etc.We aren’t scribbling up and wrinkling up and fading away.I just get tired of the ageism.
I saw Taraji P. Henson and clicked so fast, that I literally almost broke my nail lol 😂 I love this woman! She’s a phenomenal actress, feisty, funny, and great role model! She’s also aging gracefully! I just love her! 🙌🏾❤️
Me being a single mom that lost my parents by age 14, I deal with a lot of anxiety and depression and have had to teach my 9 year old daughter how to deal with my panic attacks smdh it’s sad how we ignore mental health issues in our community, proud of you Taraji for bringing awareness! ❤️
Stoney, be that strong woman especially for your daughter. Be honest, be open, be truthful and communicate with her your trigger's and allow her to ask questions while you answer them honestly. You then asked her how she feels about such and how she is dealing and handling it all. More so, while you yourself sought therapy, have your child talk to a therapist as well and both of you together with the therapist. This will help both of you growth and bonding and her own growth in a world and society that is full of hate.
This is why I went into the mental health field. People of color need people who like them to be able to reach out to. It was a long road but I'm glad I can contribute to my community.
I went in for the same reason. Watched as my family just "dealt" with stuff and were not really working through challenges. I decided that I wanted to help other families learn to address stress, conflict, trauma, and emotions instead of bottling them up.
I need that Black with a therapist shirt. I have been seeing my therapist who is a black woman and it has been life changing. I have no shame. Thank you for this foundation and raising awareness. 💚
Girlllll, me tooo!!!! Therapy is amazing and every single one of my session I leave feeling relieved. I encourage all of our🙎🏾♀️🙎🏾♂️to seek some counseling, it really works. I’m going to find that shirt and let you know where to get it!!!!
Thank you Ms Johnson. I was raped at 63. It took me 9 mons to find a Black therapist. I would not speak to a white person. One because it was 3 white men that did this to me. I only wanted a person of color. Someone that understood ME, a black woman. My therapist was great black woman. It took 3+yrs, and a few tune ups. Thank God for her.
Really related to this. I had a therapist 2 years ago who was an elderly white woman. She really was so sweet and kind, but there was a clear cultural disconnect. A lot of Black children grow up differently than most white children. The family dynamics are different, the experiences we're exposed to, etc. As a teacher, I have come to notice this vast difference in some of my own students as well. I would tell her stories of my childhood, current situations, etc and she would look taken aback. It would make me feel so uncomfortable, so much so that I would withhold information from her. After about 6 montbs of struggling to pay for her services, I just completely stopped going. A year later, I searched everywhere and found a black woman therapist who literally makes me feel as if I'm conversing with a friend or sister all while working thru my shit and catching gems from her. Representation is so important man.
~Taraji P. Henson is arguably a Legend at this point......in her profession......Her elevation from where she once came is Incredible...... ........Congratulations to her ............Looking back in her earlier films like Baby Boy (Classic....... one of My Top 3 or 5 Favorite Movies of All Time)......She surprised many doubters who thought she wouldn't be able to hold her own & reach the levels of Success she has now............She defied the odds.........Just goes to show to never conclude a person's Future........Because the Future might have something else written for that person's Destiny......different from what you thought.......Not that I ever doubted.....I knew she was going to be a Superstar......LOL...Im talkin bout the Doubters....LOL ~
Taraji is making me reconsider my career path 💬 I'm so interested in bringing light to mental health in our communities. It's crazy how many "other" people simply get diagnosed with anxiety while we are expected to "stay strong" and pray. Pain is deeper than the surface
*Thank you Taraji for speaking about this because EVERYTHING you've said from watching loved ones die, to children being labeled, and raising our young men to show emotions and never be afraid to communicate is what I've been dealing with for the last 5 years. We need therapy because we dont have all the answers, we can't pray it away and holding it inside can literally kill a person. There's nothing wrong in seeking help but it has to be the right help listening to other mental health ppl will steer you wrong as well. A healthy mind will produce a healthy life. Love you Queen, you are awesome!!!!😍🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️💞💞💞*
I feel this on so many levels. I'm a black female with a 3.9 gpa and I'm majoring in psychology. I finished with my associates, but because of finances and becoming sick I was unable to go further. When I chose my major people laughed. "You can't make no money in that field," but it was never about money, I naturally love to help people. Seeing this just made me determined somehow, someway to complete my degree, my people need me. Thank you Breakfast Club for this interview.
The mental health discussion is defiantly needed in the black community when I grew up it was never talked about not even in church I'm glad that we are being open and honest about mental health.
People sometimes develop mental health issues from their environment. These kids are hungry, lonely, don't feel loved, sometimes their clothes aren't washed constantly, don't have hot water sometimes. Like let's be honest with each other. How can kids subjected to that type of stuff in a country where that's considered basic for wealth and health aren't met. It's embarrassing, it's demoralizing, growing up in neighborhoods where there are abandoned homes, empty dilapidated lots, abandoned buildings, there isn't healthy food to find or eat within miles of where they live, how can you subject children to those types of environments, then tell them the sky isn't the limit and expect them to not be depressed, kids are smart, they know their reality and a lot of times they are robbed of their childhood. We live in a messed up world and the kids are the ones who suffer the most.
And then add to that violence. I grew up in a not safe area in my city. There was always violence; outside my home and inside. That changes who you are too. It changed me for sure...
This so true i was raised in a drug infested household and neighbor hood with limited resources and no one to turn to. Then on top of that having to go to school with rags on getting bullied and frowned upon was even worst. I have being dealing with depression my whole life because of not being able to express my feelings and issues. Im 36 without kids because i dont want my kids to endure or even have to face this cruel world that we live in
@@bessieclark500 I'm so sorry you had to experience that, I hope you find peace if you ever need to talk us in the community are here for you. It's hard to go through all of it alone. You'll find that happiness I know it.
Wow!!! The universe is definitely telling me something because before I knew that this interview was even taken place or being broadcast, I was listening to Solange's "Cranes in the Sky" this morning. Mental health is so pervasive within our community. We have to get this crisis under control, immediately.
The fact that we’re talking about looks, and not the super important subject matter that these queens are bringing to the table is certainly a part of the problem. Smh 🤦♂️
“I’m not gonna raise another black man who can’t express his feelings”. This statement is so powerful. There are so many black men who feel they need to be tough. They feel that being “hard” makes you real. In actuality, expressing emotion is what’s real. It’s ok to cry and express feelings. We don’t make tears for nothing! They are there for a reason and there is nothing wrong with using them when you need to. Great interview! 👍🏾
I hate when women say this then emasculate a man when he does show his feelings. its almost like women try to bait and test men just to see how strong he is and when he actually does show weakness or pain she loses respect for him.
That may have been your experience but why group us together? Every woman isn’t that way. Until you meet each and every woman created, then you can make that statement. But until then, your statement is irrelevant.
Outliers and exceptions do not disprove a general rule. The overwhelming majority of women are like this. It is impossible to meet and analyze each and every woman so a generalization is necessary.
She was right when she said these generation of kids not having kids. My son is almost 30 and he already said he's doesn't want to have any kids in this crazy world.
Same here I'm in my 30s and every since I was kid I always said I will never have a kid or kids. The world is mess up and bring a life into this craziness is scary. Knowing that I will die and they will be here by themselves trying to survive my soul will never rest
I'm the same I want to have kids in the future , but seeing how crazy this world is , I wouldn't have the right mind knowing this is what my kids are going to have to live with.
The trauma our people have experienced; and still experience, affect us to the very fibers of our DNA strands. We NEED to talk about our pain, and as melinated people, we are constantly absorbing pain, especially with the world around us. We need to release that as often as necessary; thats why we suffer from mental and physical ailments.
JustKel yasss super queen she can have a convo without cussing she’s so smart she speaking truth touching new grounds it’s so true only black people go through struggles so that’s why she couldn’t have a white therapist.
THE LAST ACTION NƎGRO I completely agree. I am so afraid of how people lack comprehension the woman saying that she couldn’t find a black therapist so she couldn’t unfold her history is like saying My family doctor has to be black because he understands my melanin
this is the guests we need, encourage your brothers and sisters to speak and let it out... dark thoughts and feeling can eat you up, that's what ends up leading people the wrong way, let's change as a whole and help each other, instead of it being about "pride" and feeling like you'll be "laughed at".
Yes to this whole interview. I didn't realize I had anxiety until a year ago. I haven't been able to hold a steady job down for a decade because of panic attacks and no one cares. Prayers and love to all my sisters battling or managing their mental health💪
I stopped working to study and it's been a yr now and I haven't done shit.. and I honestly I DONT want to work (I do only to help my bf pay Bill's etc) but I'm soooo terrified to go look for a job, then I get Mad & frustrated with myself bcuz I'm only 26 like what is guna be of my life?.. you are brave to even go and look for one and start
I was in the field. Bachelor in Psychology Masters in HS. I got burned out🤯🤯🤯🤯. It been a decade I haven’t been back. Working in Social Work and as an Intensive In Home Counselor was/is a lot. Wasn’t a lot of Black Men in that field either. I will definitely be donating to her organization!
Yes, burnout is real. The field needs a lot of support and recognition so caseloads could decrease and workers/counselors/therapists can better supported (financially, mentally, emotionally, etc.).
I need you guys to at least do a weekly mental health segment. This episode and last weeks with the judge have been everything. Let's strive to make it happen
JadedJassy21 yup cause that’s my problem now. Can’t find a good one that my state insurance. The lady I was going to, made it seem like see has more important clients, never available or always rescheduling because I’m strong minded.
There are some programs that provide treatment at lower rates as well. It’s about research. Also if you cant afford it, the therapist should provide you with referrals of places that offer rates that are more affordable.
I can definitely see her building an empire for black mental health awareness, books, education, etc. I'm loving how our people are starting to use their celebrity to overcome oppression. It's just 2018. By 2100, we will be the majority.
Gerard's Horticulture Culture ~ I absolutely agree! The culture just needs to reach out more to ask for help. If we learn to take care of one another, we’ll never have to worry about anyone on the outside hurting our people ever again. 😃
@@dulynthompson836 everybody has opinions and nobody is perfect but they add the drama that somebody is profiting off of. Its America, and they have a business to run. I beleive they mean well and they are popping.
Gerard's Horticulture Culture But pick a side and stick with it. That’s like if you go back to your hometown to spread peace and then the very next day, you go there and try to tell teenagers to go shoot somebody.
Unfortunately, I had a teacher to tell me my daughter has ADHD and it took her god mom to tell me this is not true and that this was another way for THEM to place a label on my baby. Not only dis my baby not have ADHD but she is comprehending just like any kid in her grade level
Liv life, take charge and involve in your child education, and how these schools labeling, kid's are energetic and need activities and things to keep their brain moving and active. Keep knowing and watching the evil society placing on your household. I am glad you put a stopped to the school and education system trying to label your child
Prayers to you. I suffer w/ depression & anxiety. See a therapist once a week. Have felt the same as a child. Have a loving family but sometimes feel lonely. May god provide peace & comfort 2 you. Amen.
A true black queen 👑 mental health is so important! I’m a young black psychology major and wanted to work in the public school systems in inner city areas. Changing one black kid at a time, getting children the basics they need, stopping unnecessary ADHD diagnosis. Changed my major from nursing to psychology, & yes I mean black, I said what I said! I ain’t changing it so be mad! 🤷🏽♀️😂🤦🏽♀️
I suffer from severe mental illness It was so bad that I ended up in a mental PsyQ ward for anti depressant treatment and nurses and doctors to supervise me thank god I didn’t commit suicide gods good I feel for other people going through it, it’s hard!!!
Mental health and the journey within is so vitally important. Black people are walking, breathing being of PTSD, etc, but a beautiful mess! Thank you Taraji for speaking on this topic.
As a woman with mental health issues and family members that have them too, I think this is a great thing to do. I wish you all the success in bringing this to light so others can get the help and services they need. And what better woman to do it!
That bit on “just pray on it” was straight truth. “Prayer makes it go away” My whole life I’ve been told that prayer will take care of everything and I’m still struggling with depression and anxiety..it’s hard to talk about your issues without getting negative feedback or automatically labeled and given pills instead of comfortable discussion with intent to help. Best segment they’ve had in a while. Thank you.
This is so true. As a MH therapist myself you see the disparity. However, just like teachers, firefighters, nurses etc. Working on the frontlines with the real stuff that actually matters takes work and most times for people of color doesn't pay off to match the efforts which is sad... I however still press through because I see the bigger picture of helping someone through life and/or deciding to not end their life which is precious in itself. Glad Taraji, Jenifer Lewis and even Charlemagne are bringing this to the forefront. It is centuries overdo
A salient mental health discourse for the Black community. I see a mental health therapist every two weeks for depression and PTSD. And- it has immensely helped me express my emotions.
I would like to help clear up a myth....unfortunately, the very first thing that Ms. Tracie shared is not completely accurate. You DO NOT NEED A PhD, PsyD or any other type of Doctorate degree to provide the service of psychotherapy. You do however, need to be Clinically licensed in a field that allows you to provide this service within your scope of practice (LSW/LCSW (Social Work); LPC/LCPC (Counseling); LMFT(Marriage & Family Therapy...). Moreover, you don't HAVE to be a Psychologist/Psychiatrist (specifically) to provide therapy.This is important to note because, we don't want people thinking that WE are not out here, because WE are. I am happy to see that a very important light is being shined on the need for people of color to tackle & address their mental health head on. A huge shout out to all of my Clinicians out here doing it for the culture & the people!
FIRST TIME I HAD A ANXIETY AT THE AGE OF 36 THREE YEARS AGO..I FELT LIKE I WAS GOING TO DIE I DIDNT KNOW WHAT WAS WRONG WITH ME I TOLD MY SON TO CALL 911 .. AT THAT TIME ME AND MY EX BROKE UP MY DAUGHTER (16) AT THAT TIME WAS WILDING OUT AND I WAS DOING EVERYTHING ON MY OWN NO HELP ...I HAD SO MUCH OVERLOAD AND PRESSURE IN MY HEAD I COULDN'T TAKE IT ..EVENTUALLY I LEARNED HOW TO DEAL WITH STRESS IM 39 NOW ..THROUGH MEDITATION AND YOGA HELPED ALOT
I've always been interested in the mind and how it works.. I've always wanted to study but the devil is in my ear , now i have anxiety and depression (just got diagnosed last week) I hope I over come it and can start somewhere #dontgiveup
That’s something how Virgos are usually very natural healers and nurturers of the zodiac would be the one to start a foundation for mental health. I’m proud of her.
Lorraine Nekesa who said it didn’t run deeper? Just like all things are not all mental some things are also spiritual. Reiki Treatments has helped me just like therapy has. They have had staff astrologers in the White House including Joan Quigley for Reagan’s presidency, which was how he was able to sabotage so many in the same impoverished neighborhoods that Taraji speaks about.
I tried to commit suicide at 13, 16 & 21. I had NOBODY to confide in. i do feel like im mentally imbalanced at times. my hobbies keeps my mind at peace.
Well dont keep that in the longer you do the harder it is to get help I wish I was in a position to get help but I'm stuck living out of state with no car and in a town without transportation and I have no driving license plus I'm struggling to find a job because of this situation. Please push yourself to get to a therapist that works for you and do your research.
@@bsinita_wokeone are you ok mentally ? that a sucks when you don't have reliable resources. . you ever tired being an entrepreneur instead of waiting on a job ? and thank you. I swear I'm sane but insane. .. I keep myself busy
I have been wanting to do an Non profit organization for the same reason it’s so real out here with mental health dealing with family Opinion and relationships people judging you for how you are you have to own who you are and move on and enjoy life my Kings and queens!!! No one can judge you but the man above!! 😘
Airwane Visual Semantics...either way it’s not a good state to be/stay in. If you’re ‘depressed’ for long enough without dealing with it (be it medicinal or by therapy), you can begin to ‘suffer from depression.’
I stand by raising men who aren't afraid of their feelings! I'm often told that I will make my son soft, but I really don't care. He can be a strong man that is aware of his feelings and able to express them!!! I'm a counselor and encounter so many guys that aren''t comfortable opening up and can barely hold a convo bc their so concerned with appearing tough!! Men are human...meant to feel, cry, and laugh. We can't frown on it
Cause he's been proven to be an attention seeking fraud. How do you take all that money, continue asking for more, then not have a real project management team behind you? I've been working in program & project management for years, I can tell you to open a school takes a lot more effort. I understand what he wanted to accomplish but in today's world you need business relationships with all types of people. He took people's money without having any clue on what he was doing in the first place.
This is just needed..period. thank you for doing your work and getting this to the forefront and taking the taboo away for us all. Many blessings your way fam🙏🏽
I understand how her son feels. It’s not ABANDONMENT, it’s NEGLECT. feeling neglected. No one put that in his head, he really feels like that. I can relate
I concur with you, it just that maybe Marcel couldn't express the right word for Ms T to understand and understood how her son feeling; especially around his friend's and seeing his friend's with both parents and constant contact and bonding time. However, T is staying now, she and her son are mending and fixing their mother and son relationship and can understand to why work, travelling, and going to certain school was to make their lives stronger and better. Look at Marcel, a college student and or graduated, look at Ms.T growing and revolving while living her best life.
the neglect or abandonment her son is talking about is when her husband died and she dropped the ball like she said , it wasn’t put in his head imo , imagine the actress life is hectic , i mean my mom a RN , dad works for newspaper , it’s time i ain’t see them one or the other for days because of work
King Rell that’s not neglect, that’s called survival. Kids don’t understand that until they get older and or have their own kids. You can’t be in 2 places at once... that is why you hear so many parents say they feel guilty... neglect is “fail to care properly.” And providing for your child isn’t neglect...ijs
