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I've been wanting to share a video like this for a while, but I kept on putting off filming it! I wish it weren't so hard to talk about mental health!
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@UnJadedJade 4 года назад

Ruby, you mean so much to me. So proud of you for posting this 💛

@evaxmila 4 года назад

She's so precious! 🥺💞 I'm very happy she spoke about it! We need to normalize speaking on this topic 💕

@affanshikoh5069 4 года назад

@@evaxmila I agree. Mental Health is still a stigma in my country and not enough help is available 😔😔

@rashedulkabir6227 4 года назад

@@affanshikoh5069 Where are you from?

@theswiftvet7107 4 года назад

Awwww

@ning_song Год назад

@@affanshikoh5069me too

@lids380 4 года назад

Everyone else: kitty collar Me: is there an owl hanging from the ceiling???

@RubyGranger8 4 года назад

yes yes there is!

@sinemgoc64 4 года назад

İt's hedwiiiigg😂💕

@happyme7268 4 года назад

😂😂

@jan-nn9ix 4 года назад

@@RubyGranger8 What career are you gonna go into

@georgie1214 4 года назад

friendly reminder: there's no such thing as having a logical conversation with your anxiety. If you're feeling frustrated or silly because you feel anxious or have panic attacks for 'stupid' reasons, they're not stupid. There aren't any things you 'should' or 'shouldn't' feel anxious about.

@georgie1214 4 года назад

Aw Ruby liked and then I edited a typo 😅 come back Ruby!

@midnightstatic9437 4 года назад

Thank you

@kawaiiida 4 года назад

I did great in the first semester, and then when Corona occured I was really depressed. Wouldn't study, wasn't motivated and kept keeping up with the news. I came around, but I still have so many restrictions in order not to catch the flu as it was dangerous for my sick brother to get it... I just want to pull through right now. And be outdoors as much as possible. Ruby you helped loads. I'm glad I found you on YT (it's been a year now). You genuinely help me go through with my studying 🤗

@kalkidanmebratu900 4 года назад

Trust me you are amazing

@SoumilSahu 4 года назад

Could you share what you did to come around? I'm pretty much in the same situation, only an year ahead. Did great in the first 3 semesters, Corona happened and now I've no idea what's happened and how.

@googlechannel1539 4 года назад

What u studying?

@catie7466 4 года назад

i was in a similar situation. last fall i took a break from college bc of health reasons (i have generalized anxiety disorder, gastritis, and at the time i also had lyme disease). i got the rest i needed and when i returned to school for spring 2020 semester i was doing better than ever with my grades and with how happy i felt. once we switched to online i regressed in mental health and the classes i was getting A's in before were dropping to C's and D's. i ended up having to drop half my classes. i was just so depressed trying to work at home. like i could never fully motivate myself and i also could never fully relax. but i got through the classes i stayed in. i wish i had some helpful tips but all i can really say is that you're not alone in this. be gentle to yourself and be proud of the little things. if all you do today is survive and stay home to keep others safe, you should feel accomplished. if all you do the next few months is survive, that's okay. i dont think any employer is going to judge someone for having incompletes or lower grades during a pandemic bc we all suffered through it. i hope something in this ramble was helpful and i hope you all stay safe, healthy, and happy ❤️❤️

@kawaiiida 4 года назад

@@SoumilSahu well the first step for me was to stop being so harsh on myself and understand I'm not under normal circumstamces. So I relaxed and found new hobbies and new things to learn. Them Ruby spoke about how I should ask myself why I study what I study, what is my goal -- and my motivation started crawling back, little by little. I eventually got tired of tv shows and wanted better accomplisments. Also, if you like writting by hand - study at least by doing that. I studied very little every few days but at least I did some of the work by writing down notes and thoughts. Try anything and dont give up 😊😊😊

@mayapadilla9385 4 года назад

For someone like you who’s constantly perceived as “productive”, I’m really happy that you’re shedding light on the reality of mental health. Excited to hear your meaningful insights, always looked up to you as a role model. Love you, Ruby!💕

@lilyblack5155 4 года назад

I am crying while typing this. There are many "mental health" chats on youtube but most people don't open up like you have. As someone who has many issues I salute you for your bravery. This video felt like a hug.

@beepboop9976 4 года назад

I have 4 anxiety disorders, major depression, ocd and bpd. I’m not ashamed 💕

@beepboop9976 4 года назад

Cherry Cola yes. I’m 22. I was diagnosed with depression at 14, my anxiety disorders at 16, my bpd at 18 and my ocd recently at 22.

@lewessays 4 года назад

@Cherry Cola You don't really need to be so called officially diagnosed...I mean I haven't since, if I do I might have just ruined my career and future...since, mental heath is stigmatized...especially where I am from...I suffer depression and panic attack. I just treat myself without any medication and occasionally visit my therapist secretly.....

@adventureawaits3860 4 года назад

You need not be deary you're special and you're amazing!😊

@kosratonwheels368 4 года назад

Jemma G how did u get better

@beepboop9976 4 года назад

Just Kosrat I didn’t lol

@harshagobinath9384 4 года назад

Is it weird that I can't stop staring at the cat around her neck 😂

@mira394 3 года назад

A little bit 😂

@citigirlmichebudgets3357 3 года назад

@Lara Theumatt bc the cat is starving, the cat wants food, no not that nasty dry food, the good food, no you didnt just feed me 15 min ago, no you did not, you absolutely have not fed me in days... weeks... forever... do you see any delicious wet food in that food bowl? Me neither ... and you never fed me today, nope, I am wasting awayyyy... why why why are you letting me starve....meow meow MEOWWWWW

@Adelaideanegg 3 года назад

@@citigirlmichebudgets3357 my cat XD

@shenicejohnson7059 4 года назад

So glad you’re uploading this. I’m having a rubbish day and honestly just need a hug lol

@mcrmcr8408 4 года назад

Virtual hug for you darling ✨🌹

@missvickster_ 4 года назад

im giving you a hug through the screen, all my love xx

@ashanderson2559 4 года назад

Here I'll give u a hug 🤗

@horrorzone476 4 года назад

Sending you a hug and much support🤗

@Sarah-ty5ev 4 года назад

Sending you a hug lovely ❤️❤️

@shahana9542 4 года назад

Pressed the like button before watching.. 🤩 (me : giving first attention to the cat collar 😍😁) 💖_RUBY_💖

@sarah.93.30 4 года назад

“If I’m having a bad mental health day, don’t go on social media” damn I need to write that one down!🖊

@maziekate 4 года назад

I've been feeling so unmotivated lately. I can't bring myself to do my work for online school, and then as it piles up and I fall behind I get even more overwhelmed. Thank you for sharing, talking about mental health is really important.

@chrishingley3589 4 года назад

Hi Mazie, I'm not Ruby, but your comment caught my eye. I've struggled with feeling unmotivated and those feelings of feeling overwhelmed. I also know how difficult online school can be. Please remember you can do the work. You are capable and you are loved. Try breaking one task into smaller tasks, even if its just turning on the computer or tablet and logging in. Do you like lists? Make a list of all the smaller tasks you need to do and crossing off each one might help ease that overwhelmed feeling. Remember you are not alone. These are unusual times and we have to adjust constantly in an uncertain world. Reach out if you need to vent or rant or just need some homework help.

@ammulubulli8100 3 года назад

Thank you so much. You literally are one of the reasons I'm now motivated. 😸 Take care.

@jasminjones9390 4 года назад

Hi Ruby, it's so good to know that I am not the only one who found staying home by myself terrifying, this makes me feel so much less alone, thank you for sharing this! :)

@bookwormrose6289 4 года назад

I never comment on RU-vid videos, but I want you to know how genuinely comforting this was to hear. In school I was always seen as the girl who had her life together and her whole future figured out, which was very isolating because I do struggle with anxiety. No one is perfect, and it's so important that we keep that in mind, especially in the age of social media!

@TheLalaland681 4 года назад

As a psych major I’m really glad you made a video on this :) you have a unique way of putting things into perspective

@DemetriPanici 4 года назад

Ruby thank you so much for being the open and honest RU-vidr that you are. I aspire to be half as great of a content creator as you are 😊

@eternity9691 4 года назад

Aye, I just saw your comment on captain Sinbad's productivity RU-vidr video. Haha so much love and light.

@PlanetImo 4 года назад

I reckon this pandemic's going to open up a whole pandora's box of issues for years and maybe even a generation or two to come, with issues like hand-washing, contamination, social anxiety, agoraphobia etc.

@maneskinnnnn7190 4 года назад

I have hypochondria and the pandemic is hell for my mental health

@ohgodohgodhelp6152 Год назад

Congratulations! You are correct!!! 🎉🎉🎉

@citigirlmichebudgets3357 3 года назад

Darling Ruby. You are so brave to put this out there and being real. I am older then your mom probably, yet I feel i learn so much from you.

@laylaralph5292 3 года назад

its so nice that she talked about ocd as i have struggled with it grately and it got to the point where i wouldn't speak and just count to four instead-contstantly. it really makes me feel not alone! thanks so much!

@Sarah-ty5ev 4 года назад

For anyone out there struggling, there is hope and help. I had severe OCD and had to be hospitalized. With therapy, medication, honesty, vulnerability, and time, I’ve gotten so much better. I’m happier than I have ever been ❤️

@gabiz8584 4 года назад

It makes me really happy to hear this!! i’m studying psychology and counselling at university. This comment has made my night 💕

@Sarah-ty5ev 4 года назад

Gabi Z you will make such a difference!! My therapist and psychiatrist have completely changed my life. I am so thankful

@Tracywhited2 3 года назад

Very interesting especially right now. Especially what you said about labeling placing a lack of empathy. I’m fully vax’d but I’m disgusted by the term anti vaxers. People making private decisions about their own bodies should not be dehumanized because you don’t agree with their decision and watching this has helped me to realize exactly how much that is happening right now. Fabulous video. Much love ! ❤️

@historicalsimmer9043 3 года назад

I have clinically-diagnosed OCD and have definitely felt a kindred spirit to you, your struggles, and habits. Thanks so much for sharing :) It really does mean a lot to see obsessive compulsive tendencies portrayed on social media.

@mayapadilla9385 4 года назад

a reality check on mental health is so refreshing💜

@linneahdalmus1978 3 года назад

You have a very compassionate voice and input on mental health. I agree that labels segregate and they can cause one to feel even more isolated. As someone who has had OCD and Panic attacks i know that it is so important to take care of ourselves and to practice self love...Allowing for ourselves not to try to reach Perfection but rather to see ourselves always as "works in progress". This is so much kinder and so much more Freeing...After all, what we see as errors or mistakes are simply learning tools on our way towards Growth...Thank you for this heart felt and compassionate video...

@liahlow1435 4 года назад

Thank you. I needed that. I struggle with depression, I am in therapy but is sooo valuable to hear things like that from a young person who is also studying.

@sophiapinto6506 4 года назад

Thank you, I deal with very similar things (major depression, anxiety disorder + ocd tendencies) and it always kills me when it interferes with my academics. I really appreciate your openness, and it was definitely very comforting to hear. It’s a reminder that I can pull through it and be productive when it happens, but if I just need to take a step back I shouldn’t beat myself up over it, either.

@pixiewisteriaa 4 года назад

As someone who nearly lost her battle with mental health a few months ago this video is so so relieving to watch, knowing that even if it appears online that someone is okay, they might not be and it feels so much less lonely for me. I sometimes forget that what you see online isn’t always how it is in real life. Thank you for making this video, Ruby. It has been so nice to listen to you talk about this sort of thing & use your platform for such important things! 💛

@torihawk1967 4 года назад

Hey Ruby, I didn't do well at school because I had some family alcoholism issues at home and wish, wish, WISH I'd told someone at the time - I told nobody! I'm 30 years old now and even though you're younger than me, your productivity and calm manner is inspirational and helpful even now since these past problems still affect me. There will be young people who are going through problems like I did, and you will be making a great difference to their lives - helping them focus and do the best for themselves - thanks for being you and for your honesty x

@testkanaalsanne7380 4 года назад

Okay, but can we talk about how cute her shirt is?😍

@1873jules 3 года назад

I'm watching and re-watching this video just now because I needed something like this after my father's death. I'm struggling a lot with bad thoughts, sleeping issues and some health issues, but this video helps me a lot with overcoming my fears of living and I just had a really good night sleep, thanks to you. I hope people in Russia and all around the world will be more open about mental health because sometimes it's really important to see that's your problems don't mean that you're a bad person and that others also have bad days/weeks/months sometimes.

@letsnottalkaboutit1727 4 года назад

if you see someone who seems to be in distress , if they’re alone then lightly , very gently ask them if they’re okay and try to calm them down , if they’re already with someone , KEEP ON MOVING PLEASE DONT EVEN LOOK AT THEM IT WILL MAKE IT WORSE JUST GO THEYRE BEING LOOKED AFTER

@princessspray6670 4 года назад

Sometimes I wish I was strong and stable enough to talk to someone who is feeling anxious or depressed and tell him/her everything is going to be okay...but first I have to work with my own depression and anxiety, because that words only make me feel sick because I know I'm not okay... But someday I believe I will be able to do It and I will be so happy to help others

@angkur1 4 года назад

Honestly talking about the difficulties is one of the most confident thing one suffering from any mental health problems could do. I am so thankful for this, Ruby.

@cloudyo_o2792 4 года назад

I had quite a rough episode of bad mental health that really impacted my results and hearing you talk about not beating yourself up about results because it was all you could do at the time really put my mind more at rest. Thanks 😊

@ellajacob3425 3 года назад

Thank you so much for talking about mental health.. I suffer from regular panic attacks in class (don't get me wrong, I love studying more than anything else, but I'm TERRIFIED of the thought of having to go to school) this is so embarrassing.... Even the smallest things, like an open textbook test make me get one. But I'm thankful that I survived my tendency to self harm well. I've talked to my family about this for about three years now, but I'm still not allowed to go into therapy. I'm sorry for complaining, but once again. Thank you thank you thank you.. I love your videos and you make me smile🤎

@isabelconnolly3015 4 года назад

thank you for uploading this. it's comforting to see and hear someone who's experienced similar things and tendencies to me ❤️

@merispell7961 4 года назад

Hi Ruby! As soon as I saw your instagram story post, I've been really excited for this video because I think people on this platform censor the negatives and only show the positives, and I think videos like these encourage people to be more open and less hesitant when discussing mental health. So thank you for this, it's helped alot of people including myself!

@AsenathWaiteDerby 2 года назад

I knew that all of that obsession for productivity and good grades was not normal and probably came from insecurity, that's why I deeply thought that your yt content was not good for my mental health at the beginning. But it was extremely beneficial for me to listen to you opening up about this and it made me change a lot my thoughts about you and your content. Thank you 💓

@phoebzie228xx 4 года назад

Thank you so much for this Ruby. I have just finished my dissertation, which was about mental health in secondary schools, and it stressed the importance of speaking out about mental health and having good support systems. Thank you for using your platform for this!

@kiayah 4 года назад

As an aspiring Educational Psychologist, this video means so much and it's great to know you're in support of my life's dream- to ensure that EVERY school has a mental health lead and try to get Mental Health into the curriculum❤️

@jesshatlocken3165 4 года назад

First of all: thank you for talking about that. I'm quite open to this topic bc so many of my family members (including me) have seen a therapist. But I'm still so surprised that this is such an uncomfortable topic for so many people. An something totally of topic: you look so pretty in this video in particular. This hairstyle suits you really well and your skin glows. You look very healthy! Lots of love from germany

@kpopfan5487 4 года назад

Thank you Ruby for opening up. It feels nice to see someone around my age talk about mental health.

@mayapadilla9385 4 года назад

for many of us here struggling with our mental health with so much going on, talking about this topic is so relevant. im happy that there are people like you, using media platforms to discuss this and spread awareness. Cheers✨

@elizabethmacmillan8208 4 года назад

More necessary comment: I struggle with mental health myself and this video is so important and helpful because we all just need to work against the stigma thank you❤️❤️

@HelenaChar 4 года назад

i had the same same same thing when i was in year 9 and therapy- different reasoning but im SO glad it wasn't just me, and now i understand why i was like that, and i've been so nervous to go back ever since in case i would be the same, thank you so much

@katieadela4034 4 года назад

i love you! thank you so much for this, ive been feeling alone in my head with my mental health and you've made me feel less alone, thank you

@mcrmcr8408 4 года назад

Thank you Ruby for this video right now 💗

@ripmskeisha 4 года назад

I actually feel so bad about you having experience of being bullied. Like what kind of ass should a person be in order to be mean to such a genuine person as you omg. Ilysm and am so grateful for you giving a hope to people and showing all of us that being nice IS always a solid choice. Take care

@muhammadrazashahhash 4 года назад

thanks for opening up and sharing your POV not many people genuinely open up about this topic

@stevie5350 4 года назад

Thanks for being so open and filming this video. ✨💕

@denibezdrob421 4 года назад

I think personally mental issues don't always have to be connected to clinical issues. I would say I am a very positive person, but inside I am very depressed especially during quarantine, but I don't think I necessary have clinical depression. Mental health is the most important thing in our lives, and thank you for sharing your experience.

@sadafnaz2901 4 года назад

You are like the friend that everyone needs. I so wish I had you as my friend. Lots of love

@anna-xl5lx 4 года назад

I LOVE THAT CAT COLLAR! I need to know where it’s from!! Sorry. Unrelated.

@imahedgehog6262 4 года назад

Same. It's literally the only thing I'm focusing on in this video.

@dormir9772 4 года назад

Miss Patina

@Ella-vl8vn 4 года назад

I’m pretty sure it’s from Miss Patina

@-toriizaka46 4 года назад

@Freeze Peach its from ms patina

@midsummernight2009 4 года назад

It is from MsPatina£65

@emmamoesker601 4 года назад

Thank you so much for this video! I'm currently going to a therapist and I have always thought that it was weird to see a therapist, but you made me realise that it's completely normal!

@jing-han7453 4 года назад

this video is actually amazing i mean not everyone can accept mental health being okay to talk about - but it's gotten better over the years. this video was really insightful - i learned a bit about things and also that hedwig obviously didn't die (i mean look at her she's hanging from the ceiling)

@PaulDanielGolban 4 года назад

I am so glad you talked about this. You are one of the few RU-vid channels I watch continuously. 👏

@jersongerebese2856 4 года назад

Thank you for another video Ruby!! I love you so much!

@margaretcapers2368 4 года назад

actually, therapy made me worse, but that might because I have a rare developmental disability that affects theright hemisphere of brain ( due to brain damage) and I was misdiagnosed by therapists who didn't pick up this right hemisphere brian damage

@GloomyDubu 4 года назад

I'm Korean.. and I don't know that I understand it correctly. But.. I can know there are so many people in the world who has bad mental health. It makes them destroy themselves. I also have bad mental health. Every time I do that, I think 'Why should my life get dark because of that?, It's waste of time' I think people sometimes just need to be very selfish!... ^^ I hope I use English correctly..!!

@puddleduck1405 4 года назад

Yes i absolutely agree! You speak great English by the way💕

@risah9692 4 года назад

Hi ruby don't be afraid I think we all have times like this especially at uni from time to time.

@dan5721 4 года назад

I have GAD and ASD. School is what lead to me developing my anxiety. I had a horrific fear of going to school, I would have daily panic attacks and struggled with school refusal. Services have failed me, getting a CAMHS referral took forever (I should have been referred as a young child), and waiting lists are horrific, I’m still waiting for an official ASD diagnosis and any therapies, or indeed just to talk to someone. As a person who loves education it was horrible, but school just wasn’t my environment. Thanks for talking about this.

@dan5721 4 года назад

something something thanks. I start college in September and should be getting some support there from the start. I hope to get my ASD diagnosis before the end of the year, should have had an appointment around July but I’d imagine it will be delayed due to covid. Once I’ve got that it should open up doors to accessible therapies and other support, and give me some answers. My school have all but confirmed my ASD diagnosis but most places want an official piece of paper in order to access anything.

@dabinnkim6299 4 года назад

Thank you so much for uploading this video today! I was having such a bad day today and I felt so down but this really helped!!

@anushar7223 4 года назад

Thank you so so so much for being so honest and raw with us!

@remedioslomax1503 4 года назад

Such an important and thoughtful video ( ps, love your top!)

@neurodivergentdawn 4 года назад

I was diagnosed with a serious mental illness two days ago - this video is so well timed and is important.

@sumayyahkhan8897 4 года назад

I wonder if you can do another chatty video on feminism. I am 11 and starting a speech about the importance of women. Could you give some tips. Please.

@larinature7343 4 года назад

Definitely

@warrioroflove2870 4 года назад

wow you're amazing

@warrioroflove2870 4 года назад

@@bellac6311 stfu everywhere in the world women are still suffering.

@watchmedo635 4 года назад

Bella Crafts feminism is fighting the women’s rights worldwide. No single country as 100% gender equality. We need to keep fighting for those who are less privileged and those who don’t have voices.

@sumayyahkhan8897 4 года назад

@@bellac6311 its not about that, if men and women are equal in the eyes of god, why are we not equal in the eyes of men. In my school boys and girls dont get along at all. Cause apparantly boys are better. I wont do repeated lines, they are boring. We women have importance wheather the men like it or not

@creativecauldron8039 4 года назад

i hate seeing people use mental health as a joke for example OCD its so annoying to see people be so ignorant like if you don't know what it is dont make fun of it

@nicolesedran2688 4 года назад

The video we all need, especially now. Much love Ruby! ❤

@pamrizzo6663 4 года назад

As someone with three different mental illnesses I don’t have a issue with the “labels”. Diagnosis is important for treatment. You do need to to know what your dealing with to be able to treat it.

@bellac6311 4 года назад

Same. I was diagnosed with ASD when i was 12, and for a while we queried ADHD. But my mum was uncomfortable with all the labels, so i wasnt followed up with an assessment for ADHD. I dont mind the labels, if it means i get the help i need.

@SmileySasky 4 года назад

Pam Rizzo 100% agree. Also the relief in knowing you have something that is medically identified is amazing.

@georgie1214 4 года назад

I agree, the amount of relief I felt when I was finally diagnosed was a form of treatment itself. I understand the other viewpoint, that all symptoms are a spectrum and all people fall someplace on that spectrum. I think that idea is favoured by people who struggle occassionally with their mental health but aren't necessarily suffering from mental illness, for example feeling depressed and having major depressive disorder are two very different things. As a psych student, it's also important to have diagnoses so we can engage effectively in research. It's difficult to measure 'how many people suffer from x' or 'what's the best treatment for y' if we don't have a definite understand of what x and y actually are. This goes doubly for diagnoses which have an identifiable cause (think PTSD, DID, etc).

@neurodivergentdawn 4 года назад

Me too. I was diagnosed with a serious mental illness two days ago, so from now on I can access treatment and my pain is taken seriously. Diagnoses can be so important.

@elmiraadili 4 года назад

Same, I think you could combine the spectrum view ruby has with distinct disorders too.

@JustMe-rn5xm 4 года назад

Dear Ruby, I can't thank you enough for filming this video. With every person that starts that conversation we're one step closer to break down the stigma around mental health. Thank you for being so brave and honest. I hope one day I can find the courage to do the same... :) Also a little fangirl kinda note: I really love your content, it's so calming and I find it extremely helpful :)

@mabuixa 4 года назад

As sb with OCD, I can't take your advice on fixed routines. It just makes my life so much more difficult. So most of the time I can't follow your advice. But I'm still a big fan of your content.

@suganthijeyapaul6879 4 года назад

Love yourself...

@ISSAFF69 4 года назад

Thank you for doing this ruby It really did comfort me since I am also a student who feel embarrassed by having anxiety issues in front of family and friends. So to know I am not the out there having these problems is really comforting And pretty Kitty collar😍😍😍

@caterinadellaiuto4696 4 года назад

I do not like saying what I am struggling with -that's not too bad now, but still too personal. Thanks a lot for saying all these important points! My psychologist would adore you

@mayapadilla9385 4 года назад

ruby back at it again with quality content and im livin for it!!💗

@AimeeColeman 4 года назад

'Everyone should be able to see a therapist every 2 weeks' - whereas I've been waiting for 7 months for university therapy because of how little funding get put towards it. The truth is, it wouldn't be profitable to provide universal mental health care, and so it just wouldn't be done.

@aishahsiddeeqa8311 4 года назад

It’s also not profitable to provide universal physical healthcare but that has been done

@AimeeColeman 4 года назад

@@aishahsiddeeqa8311 Yes, but it was established decades ago and the whole face of the UK's economy has changed because of a shift towards global open-market capitalism. It's because of this shift that the railways became privatised and there's the consideration for the NHS to be privatised, so just because something similar in concept happened at a different point in time under different circumstances doesn't mean it would be applicable in the same way, and furthermore, the NHS is a struggling and underfunded system that would collapse if everyone in the UK had an appointment every 2 weeks.

@surrealistidealist 4 года назад

You're such an inspiring example of what it means to grow as a human being and to be "twice exceptional"! I think you'd really enjoy the books and podcasts by the Positive Psychologist, Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman. He focuses a lot on how our schools and our cultures fail to appreciate the true complexities of greatness, especially with respect to the fact that we can often excel in some areas while simultaneously struggling in others.

@chickennuggets8622 4 года назад

Ruby honestly has changed my life

@docasma2000 4 года назад

Ruby you're so amazing ! Keep being awesome💗💗💗

@heatherflorence124 4 года назад

I put off watching this for a little while just because I knew it would affect me- I'm currently in year 12 and I've struggled with perfectionism and similar issues with compulsions alongside regular panic attacks (more frequently in year 11, at one point I was having 2-3 a week). Ruby, it meant so much to me to hear you talk about mental health, in this video and the wooden spoon podcast. in y9-11 I almost much idolised the version of yourself that you showed in your 15 hour study days, when it wasn't healthy for me to be studying for so long. it's helped me so much to see you discuss how that has changed and it's helped me accept myself and work towards a more healthy mindset- you've inspired me so much, especially this year. Your mention of mental health before an exam and underperforming brought me to tears, I have year 12 PPE's in a fortnight, and for the first time, I think I'm actually facing the fact that I will not be in a well enough state to get the grades that I'm capable of, which is quite distressing for me as I'm very much a perfectionist when it comes to my academic performance. I'm going to try my best to accept that I'm working as hard as I can in these circumstances. :)

@TheHollyChronicle 4 года назад

This is such a helpful video, it has genuinely made me feel a lot less alone. Thank you Ruby :)

@anna.mra3 4 года назад

Ruby, you're the best RU-vidr in this world! I love you♡

@horrorzone476 4 года назад

Can't agree more👍

@maaaate 4 года назад

Really appreciate those sit down videos.

@bellaherondale3253 4 года назад

definitely something i needed to watch tonight, thank you

@amidnightkid5053 4 года назад

I think in terms of labels you can really have two types of situations. On the one hand, I do agree that a spectrum and less “trying to fit this into a box” would benefit all of us, on the other hand there is the promise of a diagnosis that explains what exactly is going on with you. As someone who struggles with diagnosed depression and social anxiety disorder getting a diagnosis has helped me so so so much. I was questioning my mental health because I had been really bad in the past, and so when I got “better” (but not well) I was questioning whether I had issues in the first place - and being told that my issues and struggles were valid and that there was a word for it, that it wasn’t just “oh this is life, being this unhappy” was so helpful. Similarly with my social anxiety, i used to tell people “oh i’m really anxious about speaking to people and eating in front of people and generally doing anything” and they usually responded with “oh me too i hate presentations too” and I thought that my struggles were normal and me complaining/venting about them was attention seeking and asking for help with them was rude and inconsiderate until I got that diagnosis. That’s usually what convinces people otherwise, it distinguished between normal struggles and struggles severely impacting day to day life. And personally I have benefitted from these diagnosis.... I think there are two sides of things.

@ellas_escapism 4 года назад

So empowering! I struggle myself and it's been so hard to cope with so thank you for sharing this xx PS: love your content and you've kept me sane throughout this pandemic period 😊

@user-bv5sq9dy7w 4 года назад

I’m going through so many mental issues right now and I can’t gain the courage to see a therapist because I am scared I’ll hear something I’m not ready for....

@shriyakrishna8498 4 года назад

Second...lots of love to u ruby!! Loads of happiness and love

@jadelauren2269 4 года назад

I'm so glad to hear you opening up about this Ruby 💛p.s. obsessed with the cat collar!!

@hermionemoo 3 года назад

i struggle with depression and ever since i found your channel you have motivated me to be organized and i spent the whole day cleaning my room to your videos and it gave me so much motivation. i love u so much ruby and mental health is ever so important and im so proud of you for coming out about this

@alejandroroldan6398 4 года назад

I'm autistic, I have anxiety and I've had depression. I think it's important for people to let others be open about what you're going through. When I was at my worst, I always felt alone.

@adelia6590 4 года назад

I'm early and I really enjoyed this title :)

@Madeleine-cy5tr 4 года назад

Yes! I've been waiting so long for this video :D

@honkamgay9532 4 года назад

This is really weird but whenever I talk about panic attacks and mental health with people, I feel even more anxious than I usually do, and then suddenly get the symptoms of a panic attack. It’s horrible

@bellac6311 4 года назад

I experience somehting simoliar. I have autism, and whenever i talk about it, whether that be with my Occupational therapist, or cognitive behaviour therapist or even just family memeber, i begin to fidget and twitch, and my senses heighten (the sympotms of my autistic meltdowns). Sometimes it even builds up into a fullblown meltdown. I think its because when we talk about something we're bringing it to the forefront of our mind, and focussing on it. Its like if someone points out that youve got a bruise on your arm, it suddenly starts hurting, because noe youre focussed on it, and you notice the pain, amplifying it. These are just guesses, but i think they make sense. Also, youre not weird, and youre not alone in this 💙

@katieee6898 4 года назад

Ruby I love your shirt, it’s so cute! And this is such an important video😊

@radhamn8559 4 года назад

I really felt scared today when I had an interview for my undergraduate course admission. I was so tensed and nervous that I answered a few questions wrong. Then I realized that I would never get into any college for that matter. I thought if I cry about it I will be fine. But I can't even make muself cry. When this video came on my recommendation I waz relieved to be honest. Thank you Ruby. You have been this support to me and to millions out there. During these times I come here, to your channel looking for positivity.

@pandaseal1611 4 года назад

Radha Mn you can get into almost any college to do almost anything and if you were tensed and nervous then it shows the place wasn’t/isn’t right for you especially as it’s undergraduate I feel as though you are expected to get stuff wrong and they guide you to the answers. I know this probably won’t help you out. But having faith and trust that things will go well. Is really helpful. I hope you have nice days. Life is and never will be a race😌😊

@khadijafayyaz6184 4 года назад

I am early like earliest !! 😱😊 👌🏻 I love talking about mental health as well

@AimeeColeman 4 года назад

A lot of the categorisation of mental health problems into disorders is economic, i.e. it needs to be established if someone's mental health is poor enough by funding bodies like the government or uni to have the currently very limited system of resources go to that person.