ANSWERING TRANS QUESTIONS YOU'RE TOO AFRAID TO ASK | NOAHFINNCE (FTM TRANSGENDER) 

"iM jUSt soME guY" *intense flames and glasses inserted"

I recently came out as trans to my friends and lost most of them so you videos have rly been helping me thank you

As a closed trans guy I really hope I can reach that point that Noah said when you don't think about being trans 24/7

That bit about how you couldn't imagine yourself as a woman later in life was extremely validating to me as someone who came out relatively late, at 30. Turning 30 in the midst of the pandemic last year was a turning point where I was like "do I want to continue the way I am now or not" and slowly that old shell of denial began to crack until my dysphoria spiked so badly during work that I had to acknowledge it for what it was. As for dreams, I didn't have a body in dreams until after I came out and started putting things in place for my transition. Now I see myself the exact way I look, though sometimes with and without a chest because I am sadly still pretty far away from top surgery. The feeling of longing and of disappointment when I wake up and that baggage is still there sucks.

The only thing I miss from being a girl is the bathrooms. Men’s bathrooms stink so much and there are only like two stalls and it’s super awkward if you have to wait.

YES IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE

i feel like u underestimate how well u articulate ur feelings and experiences about being trans to people who arent trans! im not trans but ive learned so much from watching u (and other trans creators ofcourse) and obviously i can never truly feel/know what its like but its all very well put when u explain them like that like. wow. Maybe I Get It! thanks king 😜

omg when he was talking about how he couldn't imagine a future being a woman, like either he's a man or he doesn't exist... i didn't know I could relate so strongly to something

I'm one of the trans ppl who were fine with their body until they weren't. sometimes when all I hear are stories about trans ppl who have felt like this all their life, I feel like I'm not trans enough. But when you talk about it, I just feel amazed about how different our experiences are, at the same time as they are extremly similar. I just feel the COMMUNITY. this is a safe space experience you only get in a few places. your channel really is just that

i’m a trans guy and i do have dreams where i’m a girl, but i think that’s mainly due to the fact that i only came out like 5 months ago and i’m pre transition so i’m rarely like seen a guy by people idk

Since I was little, I always figured I'd die at 16. It wasn't because I was depressed though (I mean I was, but that's not the point), it was because, like Noah, I couldn't imagine myself becoming a woman. I thought I'd just sieze to exist even though it's pretty illogical. Even after I realized I am trans (ftm), I still didn't fully get it, but I knew I would never become a woman. Noah really put the feeling into words in this video. I just couldn't imagine myself a woman, and now at age 16, I finally get it. I don't want to die soon, I just want to transition soon. I want to become a man. Thank you Noah for always putting my thoughts into words and really helping me find myself over the years

“i feel like most people watching me are probably a bit gay” noah, you and your videos literally are how i realized i’m not straight😭😂

I audibly said "YES!" out loud when you started talking about not seeing your future as a woman. I've been exploring my identity as a trans man recently, thinking about my childhood and some memories that came up that started making so much sense is looking in the mirror as a child and failing to see "a girl" in there at all, knowing she must be there because everyone sees her in me but I just couldn't see it. I always thought my deadname was more suited for some beautiful feminine girl and not me and of course I failed to ever imagine myself growing up to be a woman and doing the things my family expected of me. Idk, that whole part of the video just felt like you took the words right out of my mouth, I've been thinking about those things a lot, hearing someone else say it felt so reassuring.

You and Jamie helped me accept that im a trans girl

"I like showing people my medical records" Noah 2021

I’m 52… I’m a closet trans. I’ve spent my life hiding … I might die hidden… I like that you don’t hide…

As a cis woman with intense cptsd related to sex and my body I really relate to not undressing completely during sex. I still wear a t shirt a lot of the time. I feel more comfortable not seeing my boobs and also not being touched. Just want people to know that trans or not trans there’s nothing weird about that, and if your sex partner is making you feel weird about it then fuck them. They don’t deserve you. In whatever way you do or don’t want to have sex, you are totally valid.

Noah, great post as always. And your “I’m Stupid” is basically the best power-pop song ever! Wished me and my husband could have been in the UK to catch one of your shows. You rock, dude!

HELLOO just like to say this sounds super weird but I saw you at the yungblud gig last night you were basically leading the mosh pits I was with my mum and grandma holding my trans flag I almost came and said hello but I was to nervous

I've never had a gender in my dreams. I dream in the third person, always, but I could never tell you how I look. I'm kind of just an entity.

I also genuinely enjoy answering uncomfortable questions. Like I can reverse uno the person as I answer their questions very, very bluntly.

Kind of a tip for people who maybe get dysphoric over masturbation but still want to do it. Something that helped me (trans guy) was... well I ordered a cheap Mr Limpy with the medicine spoon/tube modification for the purpose of STP. it didn't work out that way so I removed the tubing to just use it as a packer. If you have a smallish pill vibrator, you can slip that into the hole made from the tubing and I can actually reach in through the pee hole to turn on the vibration and it's a way to masturbate while not really touching my anatomy personally and puts me in the headspace of it being the packer that's pleasing and not so much my anatomy.

I'm enby and I often dream as myself as a fem presenting asigned female at birth person and sometimes as a floppy haired boy version of myself. Both feel very real and comfortable in my dreams and when looking back. I'm not gender fluid, the way I feel/see myself just fluxuates

Thank you for making these types of videos. My 11 year old nephew just came out as Trans and I feel like watching your videos for the last couple of years has really helped me to understand what he's going through.

I sort of came out as trans today and I’m very happy!!

I clicked faster than the “super straights” changed their pfp to yellow and black

I'm trans. Have been since I was in kindergarten. Tried to live as a girl / woman publicly for many years but secretly was living as a man. Tried to come out 18 years ago but chickened out after a year. Have come out again this year and have had top surgery and on T. It will be permanent this time as I feel SAFER to come out nowadays. I don't miss being a girl too because I don't feel like a girl at all.

noah made a really good point in this vid by saying trans isn't really relevant in his life as much anymore. to any newbies in the community, i think it's really important to know that your life won't be "controlled" by this forever. it's terrifying for some at first, but eventually it's kinda just like "oh right i'm a lesbian" or "oh yeah i'm trans." you can still live your life without feeling overwhelmed by it all, if that makes sense. to anyone who's figuring stuff out, good luck!

You are just my comfortable person. And I love the way you're so honest. You're helping so many people and I'm really glad that I found you on (in? Idk) the internet. (And you really help me with my english. Just that you know🇨🇭)

When i came out as nonbinary at first my friends were really bad with the whole "casually correct yourself and just move on" thing witg pronouns and it honestly made me so uncomfortable it discouraged me from correcting people??? I straight up just stopped correcting people cos i didnt wanna make a scene. It took me months to get past that but we all good now

YOUR HAIR LOOKS SO GOOD

30 year old AFAB here. This is a rundown of me- I grew up as a tomboy, wore my older brothers handmedowns, skated & did BMX & built things in the garage with him. I grew up not sure why boys and girls liked the opposite gender, was scared that I might like girls more. I realized I was a lesbian in high school. No one batted an eye, fam or friends, when I got a girlfriend at 21. Fast forward to last year in lockdown- thru tiktok, I found the right information and education and realized I was nonbinary. It felt so good to break away from the stereotypical social constuct of what it meant to be a "girl." But of course I never acted like a regular girl. I came out thru social media this past Jan 1st, to everyone except my mom, who I live with, but is a conservative republican. Everyone was so happy for me and super supportive. I still felt like something was missing, even though I was feeling happier than ever. Like I was hiding something from myself, or that I was just in limbo waiting for something better. Then, I realized I was trans. It all made sense. I wave of even more happiness rushed over me. I unlocked a memory of me when I was 7, when Thomas Beattie was on the cover of a popular magazine, the 'first' trans man in recent history to become pregnant. I knew at that young age I wanted to be a guy. Everything clicked. So for a few months now, I've contacted all my close friends and came out to them. They all took it so well. I decided to come out to close coworkers and they also took it very well. Then came my brother, his fiancé, and her mom. Told everyone my pronouns are they/he for now and my name is Ken. It feels so good. Bought binders, flags, and cut my hair short. I'm almost 31, and I can't wait for what the future brings, since it looks brighter than ever. You are never too young or old to figure yourself out. It may take time, but everything will come together. Thanks Noah, for answering these questions.

Interrupting my Spider-Man marathon for this so it better be good 🙄

the intro made me think "I am the non-binary lorax, I speak for the theys!"

As someone who recently figured out they are probably trans, this video was very helpful :)

I just want to point out that what you said about everyone being racist until they are not is a bit wrong, people aren't born racist or transphobic, that is part of learned behavior. Kids are not racist unless they learn that from somewhere.

The fact that I got a transphobic ad before watching this 💀💀💀 Like do you know what kind of videos I watch?

The whole "not being able to picture your future because either you're a guy or your future just won't *be*" was so accurately described! I seriously couldn't picture my own future because my brain couldn't compute the possibility of just marrying a woman instead of having to marry a man and being miserable forever!

“Every morning I’d wake up and be like **sudden Lorax mustache** oOh whAts diFfEreNt”

I’m a little older than your demographic at 33! I am just so happy to see younger people being able to talk about this stuff so openly these days. I just know you are inspiring younger people who may be struggling with this stuff - I wish I had this in my life 16 years ago. Thankyou!

seeing a happy trans person makes me feel better like im not saying most trans ppl aren't happy but noah is always like "it will get better, im so much happier than i used to be" it gives me hope

My sister says she "accepts" me, but is extremly transphobic. Tells me that being trans is a choice and that we are all weirdos that are just insecure. Tells me that my name is stupid and thinks my "talking like a therapist" is so pretentious. Oh, excuse we for trying to do my best to be mentally healthy. I wish I never invited her, shes currently staying at my place.

"toys for adults only" me: Legos????

I have dreams where I'm a boy occasionally. I'm a cis girl. Just last night was one of those times actually. Me and my mum were on the phone to a nurse discussing my erectile dysfunction... so yeah that was weird. Also my grandfather kept interrupting asking for beer even though there were beers literally all over the floor... it was a very weird dream.

when I was little, I never really saw myself as a girl, never liked girly things, I mean I knew that I was born a girl and that I was supposed to act like a girl, but I just never felt like I was one, just didn't think of myself as any gender (cause I was little and my parents weren't forcing gender norms on me, but puberty hit hard and when I was faced with awful dysphoria towards my body changes, I realized that I wasn't cis) and never thought of how my future self would look like, but, when I realized that I'm trans, suddenly I could picture my future pretty clearly Fun fact: I usually saw myself in dreams, but I wasn't really a girl, it was how I looked irl, but since I came out and started to think about coming out to my parents, suddenly all the dreams I have are about me being a guy and explaining my gender to strangers, while they accidentally/on purpose misgender me and my parents finding out that I'm trans and being angry about it I guess it's just my paranoia is acting up, but it's funny, how I can't escape dreams like this

is it normal to not 'feel trans' or have trans related experiences until an older age because I never felt anything uncomfortable (in a trans related way) about myself until I was like 12 and then I realised I was trans

i clicked the little button and 999 turned into 1k and now my life is complete

pre-everything trans dude here. In my dreams one of three things happens: I'm a child (the last age that i still looked androgynous, is what conclusion i arrived at), i'm a dude as in waking life (though sometimes if i'm lucky i am a cis dude in the dream), OR i'm a person who is not me, and that can occur in any gender configuration. I get alot of book ideas from my dreams, so it's more like watching a movie in 1st person. if i dream as a girl character, it doesn't really make me dysphoric. i'm just excited to remember a dream at all, especially if it has a good story.

“i don’t get jealous of jizz anymore” making that my yearbook quote

Your music is so good, my favourites are asthma attack and kicking trash 🤩

Setting boundaries when it comes to sex is important in any relationship

I have no idea how to contact you but if you haven’t seen anyone about your thyroid, it may be something you need checking on. I’m a student nurse and have noticed a mass moving below your thyroid. I’m not trying to embarrass you or anything like that, I just want you to be happy and well :) I hope you have a great weekend. Thanks for your great video :)

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HOW DOES SOMEONE FIGURE OUT THEIR SEXUALITY? Like, I know that I'm a she/her for sure... but idk if I like boys or girls or both. I like boys I think, but I dont know if I like girls too or just idolized them, cuz women are fantastic and i love them... i just dont know if it's a sexual attraction.

this may be a weird question, but how do I explain to my cis bf that dysphoria isn't just feeling insecure? He's probably frustrated w me bc i cant rlly describe it and I just told him to google it lol. How did you do it?

Came out to my dad yesterday!!

When you said you recognized yourself more than ever but yes and no I related so much.

I love how affirming and validating your answers were throughout the whole video! Glad to hear someone else say things I’ve wondered out loud 😅

15:19 Lesbian here. Growing up I was never really interested in being in a relationship or getting married, assuming they would be with a man. But I never thought that was that weird - a lot of children can't really imagine wanting a relationship, at least the children I grew up around; it wasn't that weird. Adults told me I would get to a point when I was older where I would become interested in boys in that way, and I thought they were probably right and I'd just have to wait and see. I couldn't really imagine it, but it felt a long way in my future and I was aware I was still just a child and these things change. I'm sure there are straight people who couldn't imagine being in a relationship as a child. Anyway, I respected the adults around me and knew they were speaking off of experience I didn't have, so I was a bit doubtful but I believed them, because I trusted their judgement and knew they knew more about it than I did. Anyway, when I was 11 I went to secondary school, met a really pretty girl there, had my first crush, and everything made sense. I'd never imagined these things with a girl before, and now they seemed more appealing. I don't know if it was just that I'd never imagined them with a girl before or if it was different now I was old enough, and I guess I'll never know which is kind of annoying. Anyway, I guess the adults in my life were part right, because I do want a relationship now. I never really had a time where I was in denial though. I just didn't know because I was too young to feel attraction until I did know once I had my first crush.

am i the only one who honestly hates being trans? im just curious, because most people ive seen are like 'yay im proud to be trans and i love myself and trans people are awesome' and all that, but i wish i was normal, hell i would rather be a cis female than be trans, all it does is make the people around me think differently and remind me everyday that im trans and it made my mother and dad not love me for what i cant control, it brings waves of sadness and hoodie wearing and it makes it so i cant breath due to my binder. being trans should be told about more and im not saying you shouldnt be proud of who you are, but im just wondering if anyone else thinks like this, sorry for this tangent, i just really wanted to get this off my chest

Hi I'm Auri and I'm pre-T and I just wanted to ask- you've gotten so far since the point you realized who you are supposed to be and like looking back on it- how does it feel? how does it feel to be at this point? Also love you and your videos, they give me some hope that I'll be whoever I want to/feel like I should be

About your hypermobile elbows, if you have other joints you're hypermobile in and haven't already been diagnosed, you might want to research Ehlers-Danlos syndromes (EDS) and Hypermobility Spectrum Disorders. (HSD).

Having a bad day (couldn’t start hrt) but at least I get a video from you and Samantha Lux 🙏🏼

I'm a cis woman who is a tomboy. So I've always been in the mind of everyone should be who they are and like whatever they want. I've been learning about trans people recently because I didn't understand, and it's suddenly clicked watching this video. What if some people are more than just a tomboy, further along the spectrum than me. Although I could never understand what it's exactly like to be trans, I can somewhat understand where they are coming from now. I know what it's like to not fit in with expectations, I have few friends because of this. Much love to you all. 😊

Fellow trans dudes: I like the name Levi, but I feel like it’s kinda… weird. I kinda want to go by Levi but would also like to go by Dani so I just need help abt this :)

Question about top surgery, if my nips are pierced prior will I still be able to put my jewelry back in after or do I gotta redo them

I am a girl and going to be a male

awh fuck now this is making me contemplate. I'm a demiboy (they/he) and realized I don't want any of that stuff.. cis men have. But still.. having boobs sucks.

kinda invasive question: do u ever/is it like a normal thing for trans ppl to get dysphoric over nipples?

As someone who is still doubting their gender, this was an amazing video. I go back and forth all the time as to whether I am trans or not. When I look into the mirror, I cannot see a female and see a masculine person or a male instead. I'm not sure if I have dysphoria, but I hate my tits, hips and any remotely feminine part of my body, but I'm still confused as to whether that means I am trans or just a butch female, this video was extremely informative and fun😁😁

Well, I’m cis but I can definitely relate to the whole ‘thinking about your queerness 24/7 when closeted and it becoming super irrelevant when out’ thing… Coming out was honestly the best decision of my entire life and I don’t know why I put it off for so long. It honestly lifted a _huge_ weight off of my shoulders, and now that I’ve been out for almost a year and a half I hardly think about my queerness anymore. I was super lucky to have a supportive environment! If you’re closeted, planning to come out and reading this comment, I really hope you can have as great a coming out experience as mine, because it’s honestly _such_ an amazing sensation that I can’t help but wish it upon everyone!

I think of you as a musician/comedian. Your trans videos are good but your music videos Blast!

hello

I'm Trans Male and I got married, had a son, but since my son is an adult, I'm now free to be who I really am. I've been on Testosterone shots for 6 weeks. My husband is very supportive.

I MET YOU YESTERDAY AT THE CONCERT !!!!

can you be trans if you don’t experience dysphoria? Because im questioning my gender and i think im a demi boy, but st the same time im not dysphoric when ppl refer to me as a gIrL, im just like ,,ehhhh, thats not really true but okay-” and i sometimes experience very little dysphoria about my body

When you said that you couldn’t imagine yourself as a woman I felt that so much. When I was really young I thought I would just grow up to be a man.

I was and have been doubting my gender and sexuality for a long time, i am 14 he/him trans and onmi. which is a lot for a 14 year old compared to the other people i know in m school. I grew up with my mother mostly and i moved away with her so i've always been around her. My mother is a body builder and can be very masculine at times, many people have mistaken her as a boy but no she is a woman. She has also had many tomboy phases and does "manly" things. When i started secondary school i thought gay, gay girl, women. So i thought i was a tomboy but the more i got into it, i realised no i am a boy. I do think that figuring out that you are trans and the earlier stages of that is some of the most confusing times. At first i didn't know anything of the trans community so it was definatley a learning curve when i first started learning about them and seeing them on tiktok. I just think that bieng trans is one of the most confusing and mind bending things i have ever endured and that's with my mental disorders. I just want to say, if you are young and trans, don't hide away from it, if you are curious do some reaserch see what pronouns you are comfortable with and you willl be okay

Am I still valid as a trans guy because I didn't experience dysphoria or being uncomfortable being called a girl when I was little until 4 years ago when I started experiencing a lot of dysphoria and started hating being called a girl ?

"I feel like most of the people watching me are probably a bit gay" me who's watching this even tho my gf told me to sleep: 👀ciao anyway so-

Heaven be praised for giving you to the world Noah. You keep it real and do not hold back on the truth. Thanks so much, all the awesome informative content you post is just fantastic and what everyone should know.

2 years ago I would have been a transphobe because I couldn't understand why someone would want to be the other gender. But thanks to video's like yours covering up the topics and the questioning of my own body and Identity; I have really opened up to the idea I may actually be trans. There have been so many signs and I can't believe I've dismissed them all my whole life :)

i have no clue who i am. i’m going by a different name irl, with he/they pronouns but i feel like i’m faking it. like what makes me uncomfortable being afab? i don’t know, but i don’t wanna be perceived as a girly girl or hear my deadname. i wanna cut my hair short and have a flat chest but i’m terrified of medical transition. it’s really confusing and idk what to do :/

I don't think Noah is "faking being trans". Whatever the argument is. I just want to say he is valid and he is allowed to feel the way he feels. Luckily there is medical services available to transform him on the outside. Humans have feelings and they're not all the same feelings. It's ok to be different. Take care!

I’m a closeted trans boy, I just recently figured out I was trans. You’ve helped me out a lot and I just wanted to say thanks.

Do you get uncomfortable when u look at pictures or videos from before transitioning?

T R A N S

Idk about anybody else, but I think when you mis gender someone accidentally, you should just say thank you for correcting me and then move on. And not apologize, cuz it makes people feel like a burden

I have NEVER ever felt like a girl… now I know what that is and I know my pronouns and I’m still kind of figuring stuff out and now I understand what kindergarten me was thinking their whole life

…I’m feeling a bit called out with the “I can’t imagine my future as a girl” but I can’t tell if I’m ftm or nonbinary someone help please😭😭😭

At the end I started crying. Because until now I kept thinking "what if I actually am not non-binary and I lied to everyone" but when you said before that you didn't view your future self, but now you do, I related to that. Until 1 year ago I didn't see how my future self could have been, but then I started seeing my Original character as my future self (my OC is non-binary) and even if it's not totally the same... I felt understood. I think all the time how I'm jelous of people who transiotion perfectly and of people that could be a gender like another, I think how much I hate my high pitched voice and how much I wish I didn't have b0obs, I think about the fact that everyone sees me like a girl. Everytime someone think I'm a boy I'm happy because it means that maybe I'm not actually so femminine. And having this realization hurt, because maybe my parents aren't homophob1c but they're pretty much transphob1c, and it hurts to know that they don't care about who I like, but they do about who I AM...

My boyfriend is trans and he goes through so much with being trans. This video actually helped me understand some things about what he goes through. Thank you!

Love this video dude. Very very informative. I really learned alot. I'm a gay cisgender guy but I don't have much experience with interacting with trans people but I do want to learn and be educated

I have been watching your old videos and you have changed so much like in a good way but it's just looking at your old videos then looking at how much you have grown up since then

im a trans guy and i don't know how to tell my parents bc they ar transphobic how do i thell them?

15:35 It's hard to explain but this feeling right here is why trans suicide rates are so high. (My opinion as a transguy that has attempted multiple times)

A couple weeks ago I came out as trans and I’ve been feeling so much happier then I ever had before my parents are still not entirely cool with it but they’re getting there Your videos have help me a lot so thank you

i once accidentally misgendered a person that i didn't yet know was trans and i think it was largely subconscious bc i knew his pronouns and he looked like a male which is why i think it was subconscious bc we go to the same school which is an all girls school so i prbly once saw him and though of him as a she bc at the time i was 11 and very ignorant.

I'm a cis woman, and I love watching your videos. Not only are they entertaining, but they're a great way for me to learn more about the LGBTQ community! There's a lot of kids at my school who are LGBTQ and it's nice to learn more about these things, it helps me know what should and shouldn't be said/done!

In a past video where you were shirtless it looked like your chest scars are completely gone. Are they? Or are they very small now? Love your videos. From NY.