Dating A Trans Person When You're Cis (ft. NoahFinnce, notcorry & Shaaba.) 

“You’re not my type!” “We’re married!”

when i was 9 all the boys always said i was 'like a boy, but in a girl's body' foreshadowing

"hes getting ahead of himself bc he has b a l l s" is probably the best quote of the video tbh

"Was sex an awkward subject?" "YOU GO FIRST" "NO YOU GO FIRST" So... that's a yes?

Interracial gay AND straight trans couples?? More representation in this one video than there has ever been in the whole history of the media 💕💕

it's like two different generations of being trans

Shaaba: "Kids are a big thing" Corry: "Kids are like quite small" Beautifal.

As someone who identifies as pan, I get *really* annoyed when people say that liking trans people makes you pan. Because it doesn’t. Liking people regardless of sex or gender is what it means to be pan. If you say that you must be pan to like trans people is horribly invalidating to both trans *and* pan people, because you’re not only being transphobic, but also using the wrong definition for pan people.

Corry is wearing such an ugly button-up and as a lesbian could not be more proud

This is by far the most ambitious crossover I've ever seen

"Noah is very, stereotypically a guy" "Thankyou"

I love how completely different all 4 fashion senses are

"Kids are small thats the whole thing about them" thats literaly my favourite prhase

Corry's 'kids are quite small' comment made me laugh so much hahah

Shaaba has a beautiful soul. Her level of understanding is a breath of fresh air. I'm not trans, but I hate when people lack empathy and understanding. At least try to understand. Remember, we all are just human beings trying to make our way in this world the best we can. Be kind to one another. :)

Corry and Noah's relationship is funny with how they're constantly teasing each other and then there is Jamie and Shaaba who are adorable. Best types of relationships = noah & corry, shaaba and jamie

Noah saying "I've grown about an inch since we've been together.... in height" is the best thing I've ever seen!!! How cheeky!

Noah looks like he should be in a boy band.

I’m Cisgender lesbian woman and my fiancée is a transgender lesbian woman and I see her as who she is.

bi - attracted to more than one gender pan - attracted to people REGARDLESS of their gender

Hello beautiful people! I am a 55 year old woman from the USA (from Missouri, a very conservative state, ugh) and I really don't know many of the terms you use but I am learning as I have been watching Jamie's videos since one popped up in my feed a month ago. At first I didn't understand what Trans was and was truly shocked to discover that Jamie was born in a girl's body as he is so clearly a man. I also wanted to say that I think Jamie and Shaaba (sp?) are such a perfect couple and are blessed to have found each other. Now I have met Noah and Finnce who are a great couple as well. Thank you so much for making these videos! Hugs all the way from the USA!

'dO yOU mInD AbOuT tHe GeNiTaLs" - me in any relationship i've ever been in

"I'm by myself" - "IM BIIIIIIIII MY SELF" "IM BIIIIIIISEXUAL"

Being a ftm with a ftm, it’s always hard to fully understand dysphoria when it’s not yours. Our feelings and the way we handle it are different. There’s no shame in not fully understanding, as long as you’re respecting the other’s wishes.

Nobody No one at all Not a single sou- Do YoU MiND ABouT ThE GenITaLs??!?!?

Bloody love these three lads 💛 (also love my hair in Noah’s flipped video ngl)

When Corry mentioned meeting Noah after University, I was curious what Noah's age is because I have followed him on Instagram since the beginning and couldn't remember his age. So, like any normal human I did a quick search on Google and found out he's 19 years old, and while doing that a link to his "birth name" came up. Which, I kind of thought it was quite rude that someone wrote and article about that when it's general knowledge (in my opinion) that you shouldn't really ask that question. I clicked on it, only to read and see if they actually outed his birth name or if they put that up to make educate others on it being rude to ask, and when I clicked on it, it said "His *real name* is Noah Adams" and the "real name" part was bold lettered and it just made me immensely happy that the article was not what I had originally thought it was! ♥️

This,,, genuinely made me really happy. As a gay trans man, I was always really worried that I could never properly be able to be in a healthy, fulfilling relationship with a cis gay man. This gives me a lot of hope

It's strange coming from Noahs video because Noah flips his😂

Shaaba: I'm gonna mum you so hard Jamie: *turns beet red* BTW, Corry, Jamie & Noah are such cutie patooties! 😍😍 & Shaaba is gorgeous!

Noah, as a child, they misgendered him correctly. Is that a task failed successfully moment. I do beleive it is

“If someone tells you what your identity is,They need to shut up, cause you know it better” Me,Who is in the middle of an identity crisis: *Oh,ok*

Awwww Shaaba's answer to Jamie being cis is sooooo cute. She was only thinking about Jamie.

3:30 my phone rang as I was watching your video... it was the Transgender clinic in the city calling to tell me I have an Appointment to talk about HRT and top surgery!!!! Yay!!!! So happy that I'm finally getting what I need to help me become the man I've always been!

When shaaba and Corry were talking about how they didn’t feel like their partners were ever female, I totally understood. I have a friend that I’ve known since 2nd grade, and he transitioned (ftm) in 7th. He never felt, acted, or even looked female. And now he’s much happier being his true gender.

No one: Not a single entity on Earth: Q&A: DOst thOu miNd abOuT tHe gEnitALs?

Its so weird seeing Noah’s room the right way around 😂

"kids are quite small, thats the whole thing about them" I CACKLED

Dating a trans guy doesn‘t *make* anyone pan. Identifying as pan is something that has to do with your own sexuality. A cis gay man dating a trans guy is still gay. A straight cis girl dating a trans guy is still straight. A cis pan girl dating a trans man is pan.

Noah looks like he can tell when his partner is gearing up to do something or say something dumb and looks preemptively Done and then when it happens he looks like he’s gonna throw him out a window and that’s a quality dynamic right there

this is the content i signed up for

Shaaba is such a beautiful soul with her attitude towards trans people, everybody should have such an open and kind mind. It would be a dream to have such an amazing partner as her during and after my transition. Corry also has such a great attitude towards these sometimes uncomfortable questions and he’s really funny. :)

Me: [walks down the street] Someone: [through the loudspeaker] DO YOU MIND ABOUT GENITALS This honestly sounds like a Monty Python sketch 😂

"He doesn't try to pretend anything he is not" Honestly, one of the best compliments I have ever heard.

Omg, I love this, this helped so much, I have an MtF girlfriend and this allowed me to understand I'm not the only one who thought I can't help solve their dysphoria xxx

“I realize that sounds contradictory but it is what it is” “You’re adorable” This is what I aspire to be

Me when finding out no one in that room is straight: I am very comfortable with the energy we've created in the studio today

How many times have you watched this over the past two years? Me, a teen who gets paranoid about nobody ever loving me because I'm trans: yes. edit: look at me back one year later

Jamie, please subtitle your videos. Accessibility in the LGBTQIA+ community is a huge issue and my deaf and HoH friends would benefit from your videos as much as anyone else :)

“A relationship shouldn’t be wanting anything other than the person.” I love this so much.

These videos are so important. I've never even met a trans person, so I feel uncomfortable even WONDERING about stuff. Like, if I say that I think ftm people are often hotter than cis guys, am I being offensive? PROBABLY! But you don't really learn anything if you're afraid to ask questions and make mistakes. This is like getting an education without having to be scared to mess up, so thanks! xo (Literally feel like I should not hit enter now, but whatever. The point I'm awkwardly trying to make is that you guys are doing a great job opening people's hearts and minds.)

6:25 *Jamie:* we’re talking about topics and it got more and more sexual ... *Noah:* _MORE SENSUAL_ *Shaaba being the cutiest human ever* _Do you like aubergines?_

Noah is literally looks like the younger brother of Jamie😂

'Do you mind about the genitals' 😂 😂 😂 I feel you could say that to any cis straight woman whether their partner is trans or not 😂😂😂

As a cis person dating a trans man this actually helped a lot, thank you

I love how everyone is wearing ‘normal’ clothes and then there’s Corry ...legend

Thank you SO MUCH for saying that telling bi people they have to be pan in order to be attracted to trans people is actually quite transphobic, because this is something that really angers me! I am bi, and I know that a trans man is a MAN. A trans woman is a WOMAN. I have been attracted to both cis and trans men and women, and I don't think for a second that I need to change how I identify because of it. It's so invalidating of a trans person's gender to tell a bi person (or anyone) that they have to change how they identify if they are with a trans person.

So great to see young and adult cis/trans couple collab like this. Would you ever consider doing a video with an older cis/trans couple? Also, loooove Shaabas jacket

i didnt even know what "LGBT" meant until I was 20 years old and my friend asked me to join the pride (didnt know what that was either) parade. and now look at me... straight as a rainbow

I cannot get over how much I love Corry’s shirt

My boyfriend is cis and we mostly get attention from other trans people who think it's so wild I'm in an actual healthy and respectful relationship with a cis man he's a lovely guy tho so

I can feel their back pain through the whole damn video.

Something that I think is important in every relationship is the ability to say, "I'm feeling confused, and conflicted, and a bit upset, and I don't know how to put it into words yet!" And having your partner hear that, and still know they're a good partner.

As someone who grew up Muslim, the phrase "your love is not halal" broke my heart. Damn. I'm pansexual, my dad still doesnt really know.

I'm bi and I've been told I'm transphobic for being bi, when I'm attracted to anyone. Yet they don't believe me, or they say I have to go as pan.

This collabs was perfect 😍

I love seeing gay cis/trans couples because one time a cis gay man told me "No self-respecting gay man would ever date you" and I'm glad there are people like this to prove him wrong

The birth name thing strikes a sore memory for me My ex (a trans man) never mentioned his birth name, and I didn't really care to ask. But one time we went to dinner with him at his dad's place, and his semi-drunken dad decided to go on a fatherly rant about the history of his "two daughters" and used my bf's birth name in past tense context. Seeing my bf's expression when that happened struck a special little spark of rage in me. It's one thing to mess up when you're still getting used to the change, it's a whole other thing to think it's okay to deadname someone just because you're referring to them in a past context.

Because Noah mirrors his videos, this looks so weird after watching his video first

the hate comments thing reminded me of a Shakespeare quote " Love me or hate me, both are in my favor. if you love me im forever in your heart, if you hate me im forever in your mind" people will watch the video and leave rude and disrespectful comments but they are giving you views and comments XD their logic is so flawed

I'm cis, and I would never pretend to fully understand dysphoria, but I did want to mention that what you all said about it rings very true about generalized anxiety disorders as well. No matter how long I've struggled with mine, I still haven't figured out how to explain the feeling to people who haven't experienced it. The best I can do is approximations and metaphors, and they usually end up still thinking "oh, you're just stressed, we've all had that". And then there's the whole "anxiety about anxiety" thing, where when I have an anxiety attack, the more I think about it the worse it gets, like you said about not wanting to talk about your dysphoria when it's happening. And some days I'm fine, other days the littlest thing will set me panicking, and I won't always even know why. So while I can't know 100% what your experience is like, I empathize with some of it

I seriously thought she said "I didn't realize I was by myself" and not "I didn't realize I was Bi, myself" 🤣🤣

I love the dynamic of these four in this video! As a transman with a cis fiance, it was nice to see two happy couples who are just as comfortable being together as I am! I hope the best for you all!

I'm ftm at 25 pre everything and this is officially my favorite video on the internet. Love everyone in it!

💕Thank you all so much. As a parent of an F2M transitioning teen, your videos are so deeply helpful for me to understand and support him. You are all adorable genuine humans and give me hope 💕

hate comment: how the shit does Corry look good in bowling alley chic. im angry.

that's a really good video .... for a tra... no. just a good video. no jokes here :P

The way Shaaba was looking at Jamie during his outro 😍 you've been together for almost a decade and you're still so in love, its adorable 💕

Me watching this video in July 2020: THAT'S NOT SOCIAL DISTANCING!!!

What a lovely bunch of compassionate, open people x

help im stuck in an endless loop watching yours and noahs video due to the recommendations at the end

"But I am also like a mom...in Person. So if I dont know whats wrong I dont know how to mom you" I think I never related more to a statement

I appreciate how honest this is. It's so important for others to see this.

the aggressive "CORRY DO YOU MIND ABOUT THE GENITALS" was so funny i sdjlasjdaslkjdkljsldjlkaj

Yes!! Sensitive topic with commentary!! Spot on!! Thanks for sharing!!

Now this is what i expect from youtube's algorithm

This is one of the best videos I've ever seen. Yall are so comedic and yet explain all this stuff so well

I really like having all of the together in a video because you get so many more views and opinions and scenarios etc. and it's just really nice to have such a wide range of that about one topic because so many more ideas and experiences get covered

the "Hey Corry, come look at this picture" story has me in actual tears of laughter

10:10 Yes. Corry hit it on the god damn nail!

Probably the most informative video I've come across in this. As a friend of someone who's transitioned this has definitely opened my eyes. Thank you all so very much ❤️

Noah like, “I don’t want to talk about it because it won’t solve anything,” is the most guy thing ever.

This is a colabaroration of 4 bootiful souls and I’m living for it both you and Noah educate me and others so much and I’m so thankful

22:36 Shaaba smacking Jamie's tigh so he can wrap the video tho was a fav.

This video was amazingly informative! Thank you so much for raising awareness and acceptance and for answering questions that some people may feel uncomfortable asking! You all spoke so elegantly and full of love! Ace!

How much unconditional love can you squeeze into one video? I love this.

I love the energy that all of you have when filming together, would love to see you collab again

I have learned a lot about my own sexuality through learning about transsexual issues and people. I was anti-trans (and I'm a gay male myself, go figure) when I first learned of the guy in Oregon who got pregnant because I thought it took something away from being male. Now, I see trans men as men, period. I would gladly have a relationship with a trans man if it ever came up in my life. Thanks to all people like these four who take the time to talk about their feelings and attitudes...it really does help.

Cory’s accent is lovely! Y’all are so adorable.

*Forgets everything in life * *Gets lightly slapped* “Oh yes , my video is my responsibility so I’m gonna wrap it up “ ...😂