That's right, sweetie. The people that say "You'll get over it", (this was said to my dad by a colleague after my 19 year old brother died tragically), do not have personal experience or perception of loss. Obviously, they're not bad people, just clueless about the experience. I have a few other statements told to me that fell short too, but most folks really are very well intentioned and just have no idea what to say, but want to express their heartfelt sympathy no matter how poorly it may come across. I hold you all in my heart and treasure the memories. xo
I lost my mom when I was 9, and my dads depression worsened. They had been together since they were 17. But, my dad recently told me about how he had considered suicide. To hear your story and watch your videos makes me realise how fortunate I am. I am extremely lucky that he is alive and I have him. Your videos are truly inspiring and you have helped me realise how precious everyone’s life is, and how important you are in other peoples life. I am sat here in tears just hearing you speaking about your grief, because that also could have been me. My heart goes out to you & your family. Your situation is unique and you have managed to get through it & still somehow are positive and try to help others. Thank you for your videos, you truly are amazing 💕
yours videos about grief help a lot in the last months, i lost my mom 8 months ago, (cancer) we are almost the same age and it's still difficult but i'm trying to think about the future and build it
I just want to give you a hug… just came here from your loc removal video, and it hit me how beautifully you hugged the person who entered the room. All the love in the world
Thank you for sharing. I can feel the intentional love and thoughtfulness you've put into these answers; even if they were off the cuff. Tender & Real as always.
I love your hair!! And the tattoo! I’m very sorry about your parents. I’ve seen a couple relatives in their coffins, not my parents. It’s hard, but also peaceful. I think seeing your parents like that, especially young still would be very hard.
Thank you for posting this, my uncle died a half year ago from cancer and tomorrow would be his birthday. This night I cried for 2 hours straight and I had to phone my boyfriend (we are in a long distancerelationship) and this helped me a lot. Seeing other people go trough similar shit is helping me a lot and a remember that death is always present but with death life becomes a lot more meaningful and you appreciate every single second you have with yourself and with your loved ones Thank you for sharing those intimate thoughts ❤
I admire your strength and positivity so much and I'm so glad I came across your journey 💛 I've also been seeing 11:38 every day and think about you and send you positive thoughts and love
I think a lot of your comments on grief are accurate whether it’s relationship or loss of a loved one. Also that whole thing about seeing grief in someone’s eyes. So true. For me I’m heading into a divorce and even though my husband was horrible to live with (anger and drinking issues, etc.) sometimes I grieve. Not for him, but for what could’ve been or why couldn’t I have a happily ever after. I think, well I know, I carried my grief in my whole body. People can see the difference in me now. We’ve been separated since February 8th and I feel like I can breathe. In fact, my depression/unhappiness was so bad it affected my body as well (holding on to weight and issues with digestion). As for mourning a loved one. My cousin was in jail for 13 years and within a couple months he died. That was very hard for me. His dad was ashamed so for years we didn’t know where he was. His mom posted on Facebook to give ppl the opportunity to connect with him. Sadly I was the only one. I wrote to him for 2 1/2 years before he got out and he became my best friend. I really dove into that grief. It’s hard sometimes to find the time to let it all out. Obviously you don’t want to be crying your eyes out in the PTA meeting.😂 I also 100% agree talking things out even if over and over again really helps. I feel like you let go of a little of the pain with each conversation, but you’re right it never goes away. Thank you so much for sharing. I know even though you feel better after, it’s still hard. I like to think our loved ones are still with us, well as long as we need them to be anyway. Take care Bell and God bless.❤️🙏🏻
