Because their mind is telling them to give up, and that nobody loves them. ANy of the worst insults you ever hear, are flowing through that person's mind. Also, worry can drive a person crazy. It's kinda hard to explain it though, so I hope I improved your understanding a little.
Hello, could you please elborate & enlighten me please? I’d love to understand why are most people with anxiety shy or invert? Just the way are wired or what do you mean? How can we understand
I'm not the friend you were referring to, but I literally love you for this. There are so many people around me who don't even try to understand and you are an amazing friend for trying to understand.
I don't know if I want people to understand as I do not talk about it much, but anxiety tends to ruin good things for me. After every event that makes me feel happy, 5 minutes later it's like my brain flips a switch and just goes "Now what if this thing really doesn't make you that happy?" and I now have that thought poking in my head constantly.
Adrianus Molendijk Yeah, that's truly terrible. When I'm cuddling my boyfriend, and that's one of the most beautiful and happy things I can experience for now, I always think:"Wait, what if I'm being invasive? He's really shy. I don't know if he likes being cuddled so much like I do. Maybe I shouldn't do those things. Maybe I should wait. Maybe he's feeling uncomfortable. What if he said "I Like you too" just to make me happy, and not because of his true feelings? What if I'm forcing him? What if I'm an abuser?!" One time I told him some of this things, I asked him if it was okay how I was acting. He said that he really likes staying with me. But I keep worrying and worrying... I think I'll send him this video... I don't want him to think that I'm doing it for attention...
People think that I sigh a lot but it’s just me catching my breath from my anxiety attacks. Just because I don’t smile a lot does not mean that I’m a grumpy person. It just means afraid to show the real me. Just because I’m quite doesn’t mean that I’m shy but to scared to talk to people I don’t know in if they will like the real me. I just need to get to know you a little better so I feel comfortable. I wish people would just understand me
People usually ask me, "What can I do to help?" and my response is usually "I don't know." or "Nothing." It's so frustrating because it feels like I'm trapped in a void of uncertainty and no one has a rope to pull me out.
Turbine my sister always says that. she even says she has it and i tell her you have to be diagnosed and she's says "i don’t need to be diagnosed to know what i have." like yes, yes you do. that’s the only way to know you have it!
ddaeng jinsoul if that’s the case, I would say make a list of symptoms, watch her behavior, and then confront her on how she doesn’t have any of the symptoms.
@@lightsnewworld as somebody that was diagnosed at 7 and began showing symptoms at 5, I find people like that annoying. It's living hell for me, even almost a decade later
Anxiety is like hell. No one can understand the feeling until people would have it. hey sis if you see this comment, i wish you'd help me and ask what was bugging me. I'm close to ending my life journey.i dont know how to approach you neither mom or dad. I need you I need things- be here with me please. im desperate for your comfort. I still want to live; but i think there's no room no more for an unworthy person like me. (and im so sorry) I am so sorry. I am so sorry
Moody Marie depression is even worse.....depression is controling me from years....am fu cked up emotionaly so bad am always sad i have no motivation i dont feel like i want to eat specific food or i want to do specific sport or any thing for fun i want to suicide....thats what i feel like i want(but i wont)
Moody Marie i have a very low self estem i have no fear dying sounds an awesome beautiful idea to my brain (hell no i wont do it) lol life is good wer okay :P we adapt and u shall too
Everyone: Stop worrying too much! Be more chill! Me:Ok, I'll try my best! _wait, what if I'm too chill? People are gonna think that I don't care about anything AHHH_ My life daily
The worst thing is- Is the fact that the only reason why people think we're doing it for attention is because other people who don't have anxiety do it to get attention
Ikr I have anxiety and some of my friends think they have anxiety so people can “like” them more but meanwhile I am having panic attacks during school and public places and many more symptoms of anxiety
I’ve seen a few people like this. Last week for example I saw someone in class sit in their desk shaking their hands, and said that it was because of ADHD. But as someone who likely has it (I haven’t been tested, but I exhibit a lot of the symptoms) and knows quite a bit about it I can tell you this is not what ADHD is. I’ve also seen someone say they had depression one day “because their life was so hard” (they didn’t get to go out with their friends that they spend literally everyday with), but then the next day they were completely cured “because of some miracle or something” So I think faking a mental illnesses is 1) A stupid idea because a lot times we can tell 2) Pretty ignorant and disrespectful towards people who actually have one, who will likely now feel invalidated because they’re dealing with something that effects their daily life and often don’t have the courage to get help, only to see someone get a bunch of attention for the same thing even though they don’t have it.
@@lillyboles379 Anxiety lead to health issues. It is not trendy. How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems-mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I overthink everything and always doubt myself. I hate calling people and asking for things. People tell me not to worry about things all the time. But I worry excessively over everything.
i wish people would understand that when i walk out of class breathing deeply and tearing up its not so you can notice me. the reason why i left in the first place was to be alone in that moment so no one would see me like that.
I really wish my friends understood that I do want to hang out with them, but for some reason my anxiety peaks when I'm thinking about going somewhere new or doing something I haven't done before. My anxiety just sort of keeps me home. I'm always anxious that my friends secretly hate me. Anxiety is just a bucketful of fun, isn't it?
Oh yes, I just love to worry about my friends secretly hating me, especially that one friend that I have separation anxiety to.......... ... ... ... ... T - T
Nancy, How are you now? In life there are only 2 problems-mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
It's not easy to overcome anxiety, in fact I've seen it cripple people I know and myself. "Don't worry about it." "That's stupid." "Don't be so dramatic." All words that really don't help, it can make you feel worse when people say that sort of stuff to you when you're struggling.
Salty Caramel If anyone is interested in videos I have a RU-vid channel that talks about anxiety. I just started my channel. And I would like to help people and let them also help me. Just subscribe to my channel
I feel like people are somehow afraid to let their loved ones experience these feelings. I mean, yeah, it's painful, but if you don't let them feel things they will only get worse. You can't argue away a feeling. My friend's mom is like that. Every time my friend will try to talk to her about how she's feeling, she will just tell her all the reasons why she should be happy, or how these horrible feelings will lead to some sort of good in the future so she shouldn't let herself be depressed. No one wants to hear that when they're sad or upset. They just want someone to hear them and care that they are unhappy. Why is that so hard?
I suffer with bad anxiety myself, you don't have to tell the whole world but you should discuss it with people that you really trust. I know that this was 2 years ago and maybe this isn't true anymore but I hope I helped and whenever I see a comment or something like this I feel really bad and mean if I don't at least try and leave advice. I hope I helped 🙏🏻
JTMUSICCHANNEL YAAS! My co-workers gave me a daily “Sorry Limit” of just 3 “sorry”s per day! Usually I say it when they’re not in ear shot, so joke’s on them! But I’m worried if I don’t apologise, I’ll hurt someone. And it’s a reflex now anyways.
Exactly! I want to apologize for every little thing and my friends sometimes say: jeez stop apologizing and what i really want to say is i'm sorry for apologizing. but i just say okay heh.
Exactly, just because you happen to be a certain age does not make your experience any less worse with mental health it's so annoying to hear people invalidate others like that
Several of my teachers have ignored that I said that I have anxiety and hate being called on but they flat out ignored it and just said something along the lines of, “You need to get used to it,” and, “You need to get out of your comfort zone.” School is literally the worst thing ever.
I hate when people say they have anxiety but I never see them have real anxiety problems. It gets on my nerves since I've inherited anxiety from my mom. It's something we can't just get rid of.
Things like this always make me feel bad. Even though I have been diagnosed and I am currently receiving medication I don't know what the cause is and when I see people talking about their past and their reasons for feeling that way it makes me feel bad, I guess because I don't think my situation is as bad as other people's and I feel they deserve more, but I still feel the same way I just don't feel justified Sorry if this is weird or incoherent I just wanted to type this out somewhere so I can read the words back to myself
I wish people understood that one of the things that makes an anxiety disorder is the lack of ability to stop. one trigger can make it last from a few hours, to days. It's cumulative, so getting a trigger while experiencing it, can make it worse or even trigger a panic attack. A panic attack or severe anxiety is like having a concussion. You cant focus, no matter how much you want to, trying leaves you feeling ill, you can experience emotions such as sadness for no reason. You feel lethargic, have uncontrolled sleep patterns, and have difficultly processing general information, including memory recall and retention. it is a very real problem with very real treatments that work, part of those treatments is support from you.
Charity I really wish people understood, they say they do, they have seen documentaries and they say they had depression at one point in their life and cases of anxiety at certain times but when I try to give a hint of what might be wrong with me (cuz somehow I feel really embarrassed and incompetent when I've to mention sth about these disorders relating to me) they never understand and they even make comments which seem so harmless to them but it hurts so much. My anxiety issues have acting up more frequently from last year and it strikes during important exam gaps, paper presentations or term paper submissions. I feel like I'm not capable of anything and I'm gonna die and nothing matters as I'm so worthless that I can't do the only thing that actually matters for my parents, I just keep fucking up and I can't do anything even though I've days to study for an exam. Years back I wouldn't be just able to sleep and I would end up puking everything. But I at least had some fighting spirit left in me to salvage sth respectable. Now I just feel so powerless, I feel like a vegetable and it hurts so much that I can't get normal things done and I can't even properly explain why I fucked up even though I've been trying to study for days. When you say that you weren't feeling well and you were anxious to a degree that you felt really sick and crazy people just comment on how they were also nervous and they convey the message on how I'm lazy, I was probably having fun and fooling around or how I just don't care. It's really funny how they can think the last one is true. I wish there was a way to end all this so that I could feel normal again and actually get my job done :(
Everyone goes through periods, but not everyone has to magically function through everything during high levels of stress, fear, anxiety, depression, ext. They can get over with "normal" methods, we do not. We need different ones. They don't understand, but they can be empathetic or active listeners. Which is what I consider supportive. What hurts are the comments and the advise they try to give. They are not qualified to give advise a mentally ill person. Only mental health professionals are qualified to that. Many schools have free counseling, specifically for anxiety. I could type all day about the journey I went through, changes, and discoveries I made throughout the last year in attempts to overcome it with the right help. But I learned that with the right tools I could make it through, with more strength and significantly less pain. I might be different, after all there are so many different kinds of anxiety out there, but I discovered in my journey is that I am more capable than I ever imagined. I'm willing to bet so many of us are.
I never thought about it being cumulative. That's interesting. It would explain why sometimes the breathing and affirmations don't seem to work. Sometimes we're not given enough time for them to work.
I hate it when parents say that. It makes me feel like my feelings aren't important. I have been diagnosed with severe anxiety and they just don't understand.
I can't tell if I have depression or anxiety or if I'm perfectly fine. I want to say that I'm fine, but I don't truly believe that I am. But I don't think I have a mental disorder either, so I don't know what to do. I've been to several therapists and nobody has helped me any... it just seems like my brain is an awful mess. I wish I could understand what's going on with me, but I can't, because I can't express what I'm feeling in words.
LavenderSky , if I may, I think that it doesn't really matter if it's officially defined as "anxiety" or "depression" or anything else. it sounds like you're in distress and getting help for it, no matter the label, is always a good decision
i think i sometimes feel like that too. But then i feel sure i have anxiety when my heart beats fast and my head feels weird and my mind goes blank in front of people, then i feel depressed about it afterwards
I know I have anxiety and it makes me depressed af. So many days pass by with me feeling miserable as hell. But I do feel normal sometimes, rarely, but sometimes I do. I think it's worth checking out a doctor just in case. I understand you though, however I don't know what goes through your head. But I can't talk about myself either, I can't talk about what I'm feeling or what's going through my head because my head is all chaos. And I'm an emotional mess, I always start crying when people are worried about me and ask me what's going on. There's so much going on and I have no idea what or why. I just know that I'm not able to talk with others like I used to. I get uncomfortable and really anxious in crowds, with my family and even with my friends. I went to a party last night to celebrate New Year's Eve and it was horrible. While everyone was dancing and having fun, I stood there almost crying because I felt so anxious around everyone, I sometimes even feared that I'd pass out. My anxiety ruins my entire life. I'm not sure whether I have depression or not but I think both definitely have a connection with each other. When I have to talk about myself or explain why I look so sad or anxious, I never know what to say. I black out and get so confused and start crying because I just can't explain. Like I said, my head is all chaos.
I sat and watched this video just saying yes to all of it. I really dislike when people say, "You worry too much" or "You shouldn't worry about things you can't control"... "There's nothing to be anxious about".... "Stop, you'll be fine"... "You have to get over it"... I understand that people think they're being helpful but it's the COMPLETE opposite. It can be frustrating and sometimes intensify my anxiety more. I appreciate this video because it validates a lot of how I feel.
I'm not asking you to take my anxiety away or to be a professional therapist. If I decide to open up to you, that doesn't mean I want advice or a miracle worker, I just need someone there and I trust you enough. An attack isn't something you can stop once it's happened. The best thing to do is to ride it out until it passes and work from there. It's easier to have someone there than to suffer alone by yourself.
Okay, this is very embarrassing but I feel like I need people to know about it for some reason. I have very bad anxiety, very bad depression, and *irritable bowel syndrome.* Why does that matter?Because irritable bowel syndrom is a stupid gross uncontrollable 'syndrom' where you basically _NEED_ to go to the restroom at random times. As *shitty* as that sounds alone, having anxiety along with it means I literally CAN'T go anywhere in a car that's more than 30 minutes away, I can't go on nice long walks, I can't go have fun at the park, I can't go to regular school, and I can't stop worrying about it. My anxiety isn't about dying, hell, I'd kill myself if I didn't have a loving family. No, I get anxious thinking "what if my irritable bowel syndrom acts up when I'm doing this, and what if there's no bathroom?" And the worst part about it? When I get anxious about my irritable bowel syndrom, then my body acts up and makes me have to go to the bathroom when there's no where I can go. I've taken over 3 kinds of different pills for it, not a single one has made it any better. I go to therapy, it doesn't do much to help. I remember when I used to think it couldn't get any worse: if only I knew how wrong I was. I'm lost and I have been, as death seems to be the only way out. So if you have any ideas on what there is left for me to do, then I would very much appreciate it. If you've read all of this, thank you. I am 16 years old, turning 17 in october. I'm a male. What have I done with my life so far? Nothing. Thank you.
FInally someone that can relate to my life... okay I'm mtf but....this. People have to understand that anxiety can make you anxious about *anything.* and not a list of few things.
Justonian I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that! I personally do not relate to the anxiety of dying symptom as well but it was still nesesary to include, because it's one of many individuals experiences and while I haven't experienced that specific symtom myself, I've experienced the others and many more that are not on the list, and I learned something new about other ways people can experience that... it's never easy, and having another disorder to deal with on top of all this sounds like a very difficult challenge, you seem strong, you're here, I can tell that you're looking to help yourself by reading your comment, and knowing that you watch these videos to find something that will help. there is no magic cure but you're trying so it will get better! thinking of you :)
Thank you very much it really means a lot to hear that. I agree that people need to see anxiety as more than just a fear of dying, as that's not all it is :/. Thank you so much, you're an amazing person and please don't ever forget that
Justonian, I have a similar (even though a little less serious) problem and I can totally understand the anxiety that you can feel. I know it can be really oppressive and that it makes you feel weak and not autonomous and caged in an illness that controls all your life. But be brave, be patient, I really hope that you (or some doctor/psychotherapist for/with you) will find a way to solve this and that you'll be able to have a more normale life. Keep fighting! Think about all the good things you are and have (even though it's difficult, I bloody know) and never give up! I'd like to add that the medical system is not helpful enough with this type of problematic. A more olistic vision must be used when a person asks for help. Problems like yours and mine often involve both organic and psychological bases and they should be treated together in a rational way.
Cler Copperbelt Thank you very much, it really helps a lot to know that :). I'm sorry you go through similar things, you seem so nice and it sucks seeing good people suffer from things like this. Stay strong, and thank you again
I think the most incredible thing about the video and the comments is to see that you are not alone. It happens to many people and if they can face it, I also can
I am happy I found this because now I know there are people out there who would understand the kind of person I am 🥺 and I’m pray my anxiety doesn’t advance to other mental disorders, because lately I’m always on the edge
I often feel like the tiniest thing can become something huge, bigger than myself, bigger than anything in the whole world. A big blob of worries and preoccupations. Sometimes it's almost unbearable.
Over the past two years I've gotten better at coping with it and understanding that I have it. I use to be scared to be leader but now I like it. Sometimes it's good exposure but also it's because it gives me a sense of control and makes me focus on something instead of my mind wandering. Having a purpose is a distraction from the constant thoughts (but is that good or bad? Shouldn't I be trying to deal with these thoughts/trying to be more mindful?) Sometimes when I'm embarrassed or under pressure from scrutiny my hands shake and people NOTICE. I can stand in front of people and present a slideshow cuz I've spent hours preparing and thinking about what I'll say but if I'm caught off guard it happens out of nowhere and I just say that I'm cold. I tell people I'm not interested in getting to know new people and they think I'm being cold, but really I give myself distance on purpose because I know that I'll just care too much. Sometimes I'll hear my friends laughing, I'm not super close to these particular friends, and it shouldn't bother me bcuz I already have best friends, yet still I wonder if perhaps I'm not likeable enough like those individuals who somehow ooze charisma and confidence. Why can't I be likeable? And it spins out of control. Can I say this joke? Oh he patted me on the shoulder, are we closer friends enough for that? I'll spend hours and hour planning out future events or just normal days and wondering what I'm going to wear, where I'll sit in class, when that stuff doesn't actually matter in the grand scheme of things. ITS EXHAUSTING
This is the first time I got the courage to actually listen and/or read something about this after a long time (because it just makes my anxiety worse somehow(also it's not like I didn't know anything about this, it's just that I avoid to acknowledge it)). This video just made me cry like a baby, it hit a spot and everything that was said was true for me, it made me feel vulnerable because I could never tell this to people because I didn't know how to put it into words and also because this is controling everything in my life and I desperately don't want it to. To shorten things up; keep making videos like this, I think you are helping people like...well us... cope with this in some way. It sure helped me to cry it all out and feel better if anything. It was like me talking to myself and it meant something to me and I'm sure others as well... Also, my main problem is the 'death' part and 'illnesses' which effect everything else in my life and I found a way that helps me cope and get past it even a little. You just have to know that nothing phisically is wrong with you, that you are healthy, that if you feel odd or sick it's just that you are listening to your body so much and expecting something bad to happen to you and 'what you think - you are', so next time this hits you, just remember that you are phisically fine, take a deep breath and pep talk to yourself that you are being silly or something like that (whatever helps you), you get up from the couch and start doing something even if you don't want to - just make yourself, forcefully! Work makes things easier (at least for me) because it keeps your mind occupied and afterwards you are tired and go to sleep and don't have THAT much time to think about troubles, and also smile a lot (again forcefully if you have to) because mind sends signals to your body that everything is good and you will maybe feel like it after! Oh, and I also avoid or better said, I don't let myself to think or talk to myself in my mind (if you know what I mean xD) with negative words such as 'scary, bad, worse, ill, I feel like I'll die or choke, etc' cause it also sends the message to the body that something is wrong with you when it ain't!... I hope that this advice and my way of coping with anxiety will help someone else as well! I know it sucks a lot... Keep fighting anxiety, you are stronger than it! Love and peace to all of you! ☺💜
I've had anxiety since 2004 when I started pushing myself to be more ambitious in life. I had severe depression in 1992. Since then it has been hard. Having my precious daughter 9 years ago was such a struggle. There is so much happiness in life but with anxiety and depression the happiness is 2nd to the pain. I'm an optimist too! I just hope others know that it is not a choice to feel this way and we who are suffering all try so hard to feel the greatness in life every day.
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I could relate to this video so much. I have a supportive family and good friends but no one really understands how i feel on a dairy basis. The smallest thing will take over me, and I can’t get over it until the problem is solved. All my friends get annoyed at me for repeating the problem over and over and say it isn’t a big deal but in my head i just feel like until it’s solved my life is over. I worry so much about the future even if it’s something small such as the amount of homework I have that night and i’ll just stress about it the entire day. My parents brought up moving to a whole new state to me a couple of days ago and right now it’s the only thing I can think about. I stay awake until 3 am planning how i’m going to make friends there even though we didn’t move yet. This happens all the time with every situation and I just wish people would understand.
It's definitely not something you want to go through and unfortunately there are people suffering it everyday. Hope you're doing okay. Thank you! Glad you enjoy this!
I'm not really that public with my anxiety at school, but a couple of my friends know, and have seen me in the beginning stages of a panic attack at school. Also, for 2-3 weeks my life was hell because whenever I wasn't thinking about death and my death, I felt like I wasn't me. But now school started and my mind has something to do besides worry, so I love school.
School was the worst place for me, all the pressure and constant pushing from teachers to be more confident and do things like speeches and answer questions to try and make me more "confident", but it just knocked me down more and made my anxiety worse. i just graduated and it was the best feeling for me to be free from the constant panic and nervousness
my anxietys is based on "what ifs? a good example of this is I'm going off to uni next year and I had an anxiety attack because I thought my S/O would be alone on Halloween and inevitably find someone new... and then it gets worse with what if this happens and this ect. IM WORRYING ABOUT HALLOWEEN OF 2018
I was just diagnosed officially with clinical anxiety a just few hours ago and am now doing some research. I have felt like this for years and if you feel it too, get help asap. It helps to let other people know, trust me, I waited far too long.
I think I "lost" my anxiety. I mean 2 years ago I were so scared to go out and talk to people but now it's okay for me. I still prefer to stay home and not talk to people but if I have to I do. I think I'm over it 😊
The worst people are the ones that don't TRY to understand. If you at least try, then I'd believe you when you said/say, "I care". Btw, i experience these things a lot (the things said in the video)
Oh my god, this actually made me start crying because I relate so much. I want to tell people these things but it just locks up in my throat and I can't speak it out loud. I personally really want to send this to my father because he always gives me guilt trips for not picking up the phone when he calls, not responding to his messages or just feeling uncomfortable when I'm around his new and improved family. Though I know I won't be able to send it because I'm too scared to. Long story short, sorry to share my life story, you all didn't need to read this but thank you Psych2Go for putting exactly what I suffered from for years into such a great video.
That’s sad. They’re offensive to gay people. :/ But it’s also sad that they don’t care You should get someone who you trust, who can talk to you, ask you what’s wrong. Instead of your parents just leaving you like that..-
Oh my Lord, the last one is what ticks me off to the point of screaming. My parents refuse to get me help for my anxiety and none of my school staff are helping or trying to help. I constantly worry about myself and my appearance all day, every day. People tell me that it's just normal insecurity and everyone has anxiety but it's different. I can't explain that it's different. I fake a smile every day because I have no one that will listen to me without telling me that I'm wrong, ignoring it, or making it about themselves. I get teased a lot and that worsens my anxiety so much more. I just want people to understand that what I'm going through, isn't what they think it is. I want them to understand that I don't want to hear, "Just forget about it" and, "It's no big deal" because I can't do that. It's not comforting. I want compliments, hugs, affection, at least something that will make me feel like I'm a good person and that there's nothing wrong with me. Thanks to whoever reads this. Sorry it was so long but I needed to let it out. Have a wonderful day/night you precious lil attack helicopter you 💕
I love you! Internet hug! 🤗💞 I think I have anxiety but I haven't told my mom yet. I know she will understand, but I have a phobia of antidepressants so yeah :/
((i have chronic anxiety, and when i have an anxiety attack at school, my teachers just say its just me trying to get out of work. not only do i have anxiety attacks where everything is stressful, im incredibly restless, and i feel like im going insane, but everyday anxiety is also heightened for me.[and if anyone thinks im self diagnosed, no, i was told by a doctor that i have clinical anxiety.]
When you tell someone to get over anxiety it makes the anxiety worse. I constantly told my mother about life and death and point out to those who ask aren't you worried you may not wake up tomorrow? People often say I am still young(22) and should not worry about those things. But I cannot stop I have been like that since I was young and had my share of near death experiences to not think about death. My ex girlfriend is a sweet, wise woman and was often misunderstood due to her mental illness and I often found myself getting anxious for her and wishing the sharingan were real so I could put those jerks under Tsukuyomi. Try to understand someone before judging someone if a lady talks to herself and is happy one second and crying or furious the next she may have schizoaffective disorder. That is why people must at least try to understand someone and their struggles before judging them. It seems the common route for a lot of people is to label those individuals as crazy without even knowing the cause of their suffering. That is why I have always disliked the term handicapped instead try to view it as handicappable. I found disabilities physical or mental only make one stronger.
I had just talked to a friend about my GAD and I felt so sad and hurt bc she did exactly all the things mentioned in the video. She said I was exaggerating the symptoms and feelings, and she kind of thought I was weird. She said that Everyone was like this and I should just ignored it while she didn't know what I am experiencing every moment of my life now. I feel dizzy more than half of the time everyday, and the dizziness and feeling of weakness can come at any moment(even when I'm having fun with my friends). If in a classroom for a period of time, I suddenly feel overwhelmed, suffocated, and dizzy; my heart racing, my hands sweating and shaking. Numbness, weakness, and pain at random parts of my body. Even talking with a group of my friends for a while would make me feel dizzy, like I wanna get out of there. Sometimes, I feel the ground suddenly rises up or drops, or I feel like as if I'm free-falling. Motion-sickness happens to me too. Several times my brain convinced me that something extremely bad was going to happen and I was so terrified. I really wanted to ask her if EVERYONE was experiencing all these stuff, but well I decided I shouldn't care about her comment.
Karen Wang Yeah I feel ya. :/ Ive never got a proper diagnosis but im pretty sure i have GAD and its escalated now that im older and have more responsibilities. It really sucks cause sometimes i will have days where my head will hurt and i'll feel really stressed out over nothing. And when i am stressed out its over something small like did i count all the money right?? Did i give someone their right change?? (i work as a cashier btw) even though i know i did everything correctly. It really gets in the way of work and i get anxious someone will catch on that i have an anxiety disorder and look at me differently. Living with this disorder has made life a lot harder and im slowly coming to terms with it. But just some days are hard and i wish i could just relax lol whatever that means.
Yea I really wish my life can return to normal. It sucks when I'm struggling and trying my hardest while nobody understands me and thinks I'm pretending and being dramatic. I'm in my most important year of high school so it's escalating too :/ Well I hope u and I would both get better soon😂
I love and appreciate this video so much. One of my biggest frustrations is when people especially loved ones disregard your anxiety with the phrase "Everyone has a type of anxiety" every time this is said my heart sinks to my stomach because I don't know how to respond and it makes me feel like my anxiety or feelings are seen as less than which triggers my anxiety even more. Idk if I'm even making sense but moral of the story thank you for your great videos!
When i go through anxiety especially during or before tests or getting my grades, my bff doesnt say anything she just slowly puts her arm around me because she knows its what calms me down....and before we start she always says good luck or smiles at me and it makes me feel safe/like im not about to die as much as i thought i was gonna.
I had anxiety and now, I'm (not complete tho) over it.I feel that I needed was some maturity and time to grow and better opportunities. Again, just my experience with it. Kudos to all you folks battling it ever single second.
Yes it is something you can get over, it just won't be quick and it won't be easy. Anxiety is a habit of worry and once you have those neural pathways mapped to worry, it becomes your instinct and all you are capable of doing. It takes alot of time and sometimes never fully goes away, but it can be changed. I am certainly not dismissing anything but want to give people hope that they can have a different way of life. To hear them say in this video "there's nothing you can do about it" is incorrect, there is nothing you can do about it YET, but you can learn to do things about it.
This almost made me cry. For most of these symptoms I thought that I'm just being overly dramatic and I started hating myself for that, but knowing that I'm not imagining things is giving me a lot of hope. Thank you for doing this. There's no point for me to end my life because of my anxiety, but that doesn't mean it's less valid for me to overcome it. Thank you again.
I relate so much to all of these points and I very much need to share this with literally everyone I know. People don't understand that I literally hate having to call up someone or having to knock on doors or ordering food somewhere. Someone needs to be standing with me when I order my food or I'll ask someone to do it for me because of my anxiety.
MelyssaMusic but dont you need to do it? dont you need to fight against your anxiety? just ignore that you dont like it, try it or stay like you are now.
Thank you for putting this out there. I totally understand and relate to a lot of the points listed and wish others would understand. I've been diagnosed with high-functioning clinical anxiety and depression, which makes a lot of people confused and say, "Oh, you don't have depression/anxiety because you have [fill in the blank]". These statements make me feel invalidated too. Thank you so much for creating this video and bringing awareness to these feelings and mental health issues.
I love how this video expresses my problem in detail. I just wish people would stop asking me why I worry so much. I'm not trying to, but anxiety gets in the way of everything
My Anxiety gets Really built up whenever I'm alone I worry of all the possibilities of what could happen and whenever I'm talking to someone I always end up getting Really mixed up
My health teacher said that anxiety wasn’t a real condition and that we all have it. I have suffered from anxiety since I was a small child. Listening to her say that made me angry, and sad. So I raised my hand and said that. Anxiety isn’t just being nervous it’s a real thing and at times it can be crippling. And she laughed and said of course honey. That day was designated to NOT degrade mental illness and she was trying to teach that we should talk them seriously, when even she couldn’t take it seriously
I Just turn 13, i know anxiety doesn't start sudenlly, but on december 10th(2016) i started dealing with It. i don't fit with ALL you said(like, i don't worry about tests, talking on the Phone or speaking in públic) but i relate to all of them......this past week im kinda better, but i constantly Tell myself that im getting worse again! its so hard, but be Brave everyone and don't ever give up
Till this day im not really sure why i have anxiety, i had my first panic attack with 10! Im 17 now! I think it was because of my cousin being born, i had never went through that, and i think the nerves got to me. But idk if that's why i have anxiety!🤷🏻♀️
I can totally relate with this. One day, I asked my bestie if I'm acting dramatic. She replied "Umm.....*smiles*" I questioned my existence and cried when I got a home. Until then, I kept thinking that reaching out to people is useless (and it totally is). And then there is the blaming part. There is always this bestie who keeps blaming herself when I talk about my feelings (and it's the bestie that thinks I'm acting dramatic) She kept blaming herself until I finally told her this "You don't know me. We are different. You are positive, I am negative. So please stop this blaming before I talk bad things about you." I regretted saying that all together. I felt like I'm worthless or a monster saying that. Why am I like this? Why do I exist when I act like this? Why do I have friends when I hurt them? Who am I to talk about it when it only hurts me even more? I'm irresponsible to my family. My family hates me. My friends hate me. I hate myself...
My mother used to tell me, "Just don't think about it." I would always think 'If it were that easy, then there wouldn't be a problem!' Unfortunately, it's never that simple. She also used to get frustrated when I didn't want to go to certain places that I used to love going to. I told her I didn't want to go but that she could go without me if she wanted to. She usually did, but not before getting a little angry and reminding me that it never bothered me before.After she left, I would sit at home and start crying, wondering what was wrong with me or if she thought I was a disappointment. If you know someone with anxiety and there are certain things they can't get themselves to do anymore, do not get angry with them. Anger will only make things worse! Please be patient and try to find something else to do with them.
Very informative video. To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I appreciated the "repeat myself" one, that's people's biggest complaint about me. When I get in that dark place, the same thoughts swirl in my head, and they move so fast I can't catch one and process it, instead I end up blurting every worry out and that can mean saying the same five things over and over! Thank you for this video, it helps me feel understood!
I can relate every single word in this video. I know that I have to stay calm, I know that I worry too much, but surprise! It's an issue, and I can't even control my thoughts. Doesn't mind how much good was my day, if the monster decides that I have to be scared, I have to
After watched this, I really feel more thankful toward my friends. They really understand me whenever my anxiety attacks I lost count how many times They've comforted me
I wish people would understand not only is it hard, but it's also kind of comforting??? Every time I try to say "I'm gonna work to get better". there's always that little voice saying," No. you need me. you'd be nothing without me."
I damaged my anxiety, made it sore, when I tried to drown it. It swam, and got stronger, but it is sore. I am no longer convinced that what it says to me is true, but the thoughts are still there.
I wish ppl would understand that I want to talk online in text because even talking over the phone makes my too anxious Also that when I sit in the conner listening to my headphones or step out for a bit, I am OK, not everyone is social like you
Yes, I have general and social anxiety but it’s especially difficult to cope with during tests. I haven’t found a way to cope with test anxiety. Music doesn’t work for me. Do you have any other ways that help you cope with test anxiety?
Honestly “just don’t worry about it” has seriously been the best strategy I’ve found for helping my social anxiety. It sounds counterproductive but just thinking to myself “there’s no reason to worry, nobody cares that much about you, stop taking things so seriously, etc” lessens the anxiety a lot in situations where it gets bad. However it’s not a cure and it only lasts temporarily when I do it and I have to think about it again. In a lot of really intense anxious situations I even forget to do it. But it’s been helping me a lot and maybe it’ll help someone else too idk
My anxiety doesn't seem to have any cause, it's just constant restlessness that'll make me pace for hours. It doesn't matter if my feet are sore and my legs ache, I still need to pace.
Anxiety to me is not getting something I need, something essential that keeps me running. The only things I've experienced in the seven-some years that I've had it are the need for alone time and the need to spend time with my mom. I don't know if I have an actual mental problem, but I do know that anxiety attacks hurt like hell. I spend 20 minutes during the attack debating with myself whether I should talk to someone about it, holding back tears the whole time if there are other people around. I bottle it up. I wait and debate until I can't stand it. It's so hard for me to tell someone what I need, to ask them to help, sit down with me so I can cry, because I feel like I'm being a bother. I'm afraid they won't care, I'm afraid they won't help, I'm afraid they won't appreciate me for ruining their fun or taking them from something important so that I can cry. I can cry by myself all I want but I'd be crying so much more if I didn't get support. It would hurt so much more. I only have attacks when I'm with friends for an extended period of time or away from home for an equal amount of time. I also get them when I haven't seen my mom in what feel's like forever, or when I think that she won't come back. An anxiety attack to me is needing something essential, but worrying too much about how others will feel if I ask.
Being around other people with anxiety doesn't help either individual feel less anxious, but it does help strengthen human connection, which in turn will lessen the anxiety. Anxiety has depleted human connection for me, and then that leads to loneliness and stronger depression. It's a viscous cycle, being vulnerable is always the best solution (with the right people of course). Whether they experience it themselves or not. Don't expect someone to fully understand either, as long as they are supportive and willing to listen, that's all that matters. It's not about trying to get them inside of your head, but rather getting someone to be a cheerleader beside you, and that's not being a burden on others. That will only make a relationship more two sided and stronger.
I actually like when people who I talk with when I am anxious tell me "You do not have to worry about it" cause they remind me it is not worth to live in fear. But it is more of a "you don't have to" than a "don't".
I don´t have anxiety, but I do have a few things people don´t understand about my autism. First off: I can´t just stop thinking about things. It´s really exhausting for me to follow a line of thought other than what is currently going on in my head, for example when I talk to people and they expect me to listen to them and pay attention to what they say. It´s not that I do this for fun or to be rude, it´s just that it is difficult for me to not do it. Secondly: Don´t get mad at me for using my autism as an excuse to get my way. You do it, so shut up. And lastly: Loud places, large crowds in confined spaces, and both. No, just no.
Lots of people keep saying that the shitty situations they put me in are my only option because of my autism, while in reality, it´s just that they get more money for pretending to help me (I don´t even want their help to begin with, so even if they were helping, it wouldn´t do much). I sometimes use my autism as an excuse when I messed up in social interactions, or when people ask me if theire new clothes look good, even though I actually suck at that. So far, my autism is one of the few advantages I have, and since people try using it against me, I can use it for me. I mean, it´s a part of who I am, and it won´t go away anytime soon, so I might just make the best of it.
I´ve been sent to several doctors who said they would help me (not that I needed that or asked for it in the first place), but they don´t do anything in that direction. They just get money for pretending to help me while I sit there and do nothing. And usually, people just assume I couldn´t make my own decisions and just tell me what to do, and if I don´t do that, I get into trouble for being smarter than they think I am.
I like how informative these videos are and everything you said is a valid point. It is hard for people to understand anxiety especially since everyone has different experiences.
I do relate to most of these. Especially the point about trying really hard to do something or overcome an issue, but having people seem to brush it off like I'm not trying at all. It's hard to deal with, and being anxious all the time truly sucks, but there's just no easy way to get through it.
Honestly I agree with all of these and personally, i would appreciate it if my friends took just a moment, to ask how my anxiety was doing and if I needed to take a breather. I don't talk much so i don't often tell them when my anxiety is bad so if they ask a simple yes or no question like, "Are you calm enough to do this?" I think that would be able to think to help keep my anxiety at peace for just a bit.
Saying "oh there's nothing to worry about!" Yes I know, I know it's not rational and I know what I'm saying most likely isn't going to be the case, but saying that I'm overreacting or that there's nothing to be anxious about won't help. But I found that it does help me personally if someone explains what is most likely to happen, and help me work through it :)
(I don't know if I have anxiety, I have not been diagnosed, however I experience a lot of symptoms and I do NOT want to diagnose myself I'm just saying what personally helps and doesn't help when I feel this way)
The same exact things in this video plus more happens to me all the time. Having anxiety and panic attacks is really hard to deal with and comes at random times. My family and boyfriend is really there for me but they always tell me I need to stop worrying, overthinking and stressing myself out. It's just like telling a cancer patient to stop having cancer and stressing themselves out. This mental illness is real and people take it as a joke. I try so hard to not overthink, worry or stress out but it's such a challenge. I've been to the hospital so many times, got everything checked out because I always feel like something is wrong with me. I'm thinking about getting on medicine soon because its getting worse. I just want to be able to feel like myself again. This sucks :(
