Approaching women isn't hard for her because she's also a woman, they immediately have their guards down around each other and are much more open to making friends than guys are.
Exactly! Look up the woman that lived like a heterosexual man for a time, believing it was going to be easy. Especially in dating women... She ended up committing suicide, almost exclusively because women are so hellish to deal with.
The hardest part is that u can't stay attractive the whole day. Coz when ur productivity is at its peak u don't look much attractive during that time and if a girl found u attractive that time then it's different and can be considered as the best women or something like that 😅
Tell me about it. I damn near gave up dating but thankfully stuck it out and met my wonderful fiance. Still 20 years ago it wasn't nearly this bad. Yeah you had some girls show out and scream you're a creep, but they'd get a reputation quick and everyone local knew stay away. Now they pull out their phones and put you on blast for a Tictok and spin a big fat lie about you being a predator. It's insane.
The key is when she says you must "make us feel normal." It's your job to give her this "feeling." And according to her, that is quite simple... apparently.
It IS rather simple to make a girl Feel normal though! Just ask her questions and listen and be laid back. You guys are completely psyching yourself out of even trying
because women have different attraction interests than men. like it or not, women want to be fought for. you have to prove you arent a pussy, and fair enough. the problem with that is feminism is a lie and has everyone all fucked up.
She said it's easy to approach women, not men... For a woman to approach a man is not easy at all. First of all, there's millions of years worth of hard-wired stuff in their brain working against that, and for good natural reasons. Second, society is also not kind at all towards this: she will be ostracized by all girls first of all, and many more guys than you think. Labeled a slut in most cases, a weirdo in the rest, which can be worse even. Third, who tells you they don't? They do sometimes, but just as we have no idea how to correctly approach them, they have no idea how to correctly approach us. Most of the times we plainly don't even realise they're approaching. The other times, it might be so weird that it gets to number 2 above: we think they're too crazy or slutty to be accepted. So here's why, and why we have to figure this out, not them. It's life.
@@mad_titanthanos If im drooling i won't approach. When i don't approach women get mad. When i approach they reject because im drooling. You see the problem? If you are attractive drooling will be attractive too. Thats the thing you won't ever understand.
@@stephen9546 oh bull shit. if women had mystical magical intuitive powers the serial killings , date r*pe and male on female spousal abuse wouldn't be real things. STFU.
Only a straight woman could ever say "approaching women isn't hard" with the absolutely confidence of someone who has never done it with romantic intent.
I personally believe men should approach more, however, I also fully agree with you. Saying it's easy and you "just have to make the woman feel comfortable" is simply disingenuous, because approaching women you don't know to express romantic interest is fcking hard. Instead, my focus would be on explaining to men how to approach women properly and on explaining to women how they can seem more approachable (in general, but also especially to men they are interested in). That would be a lot more helpful for everyone in my opinion
Since we’re being sincere, I would have never given a chance to someone approaching me, it has happened many times and not once did I even ask myself if I was interested. Even if the approach was totally human/normal and no any red flag some even very good looking. In fact I only noticed my hb bcs he was in his little own world and something about him just made me feel safe to talk to, something I had never done not even for friends. We exchanged few words about a song playing and then 1 thing let to another. I think some women do not want to be randomly approached with the goal of maybe getting asked out idk why, stranger danger maybe 🤪. At least women of my generation idk about girls now. Either way I can see its easier said than done for men.
@@eraldadevole That's very interesting and I'm happy it worked out for you guys, however, is it okay for me to ask a couple questions? First, what would you advice the average guy to do to maximize his chances of finding someone who's equally interested in him? Because this story seems quite an anomaly to me within todays culture. Second, how would a guy best manage to find himself in this situation? Because to me it seems to be just luck of the draw, which obviously worked out great for you two, but do you have any tips for a regular guy, as it seems like 'don't ever approach, just get lucky with a connection within your local circle' is kinda your advice, which would probably lead to an extreme population decline in todays day and age.
If it was so "easy" women would do it. Please, Billie, don't minimize it. It takes effort and guts, with the final result most of the time rejection, something women never experience.
@@markgeers8488 thats tru, but remember that nothing worthwhile comes easy… besides I feel hella accomplished when I overcome fear of negative judgment and start convo
@@youssefjoseph5472yeah nothing worthwhile is ever easy but at the same time the only way to win a game rigged against you is to not play even if you get past that initial introduction and exchange contacts the mind games than begin she'll do the complete opposite of what she should do if she's interested in your expected to read between the lines if the mind games begin before you're officially a couple what's the freaking point Especially when she's probably going to dump you for a guy that treats her like complete trash
Fair point. Women are constantly bitching guys won't approach them, and ask "where are all the good men?" They would approach us but they absolutely can't handle rejection.
Here’s the truth. Approaching women is incredibly difficult. You’ll probably be called a creep because women have had bad experiences in the past before you. But the truth also is that women won’t approach you, even if they really like you. Men have to approach first, even if we may get called a creep, even if we may get abused. There’s no magical answer to this. You may get treated well, you may not. I wish there was some solution but there isn’t.
Why should I have to be called a creep or abused? I don't think a relationship is worth the nightmare of a courting process. If women are truly interested then they should start approaching.
magical answer: do not play the stupid game and work on yourself when you are winning they come but at that point only casual dating, no wives to be found with modern women commitment is the worst mistake an above average guy can make
Ngl focusing on myself and not worrying about approaching them always does me good because eventually a girl approaches me. It’s happened every time I decide to not chase girls and focus on myself.
Yes single men have been committed suicide more than EVER since single women are laughing at single men asking for date and single women are laughing at single men dying off because single women are still playing a game against single men life and women are collecting bets on how many single men can died off in a week of rejection by single women.
@@pestowitchDue to societal indoctrination. The Disney fantasy for girls and the nice guy getting the girl fantasy for guys. Both LIES and something learned from childhood. Wanna understand women? 1. Listen to guys who actually know them. 2 Those guys are Patrice O'Neal, Corey Wayne, Dan Bacon. That's all you need 3. THEN go talk to women.
Countless rejections make it really hard to not be extremely anxious with women I stopped approaching women to protect my own mental well being They have to approach me now And if they don't Guess i'll stay single forever
@@alfonzoworldleader people are trying to help but you won’t help yourselves, you’re a prisoner in your own mind and will continue to be until you stop with the victim mentality and take action
@@JamesBrown- bruh if you don't get yo boomer ass somewhere i swear to God. Look man... i get your trying to help and i'm down to listen..even willing to say i'm wrong. however you got to understand TIMES ARE DIFFERENT. WHEN YOUR WERE MY AGE YOU COULD APPROACH A WOMAN AND NOT GET CALLED A PREDATOR that's a big difference bruh. All you guys had to do was be upstanding good men and 9/10 you could find someone. Do you know what if feels like having to go against men who are 20x ahead of you and all they have to do is DM the girl. Like there's a reason why approaching women is Harder. They have more options than they know what to do with. Every woman sees themselves as above the Average man. Like how many times does this have to be said bruh. But again man look. I don't mean to come off as rude and if i did i apoligize but it's a lose lose situation man and it's frustrating to say the least
Prerequisites to having a normal conversation: 1. Be wealthy 2. Have a balance of spare time and work. 3. Be outstanding at some physical sports that isn't too fringe. 4. Have great ties with family 5. Have clout in your social environment. 6. Wear great clothes that fit right in, but also stand out. 7. Have great conversational skills, IQ, and emotional quotient. 8. Be a mind reader. 9. Don't be too far off in religion, culture, or political outlook. Now you're all set.
It absolutely is hard. Approaching women without a genuine reason other than to date her makes you a weirdo/creep in today's society. You are a woman what would you know about it. When you walk up to people you don't intimidate anyone. When men approach people there is automatic distrust and being on edge.
Well, you found a good point: if the only reason is to date her, it's super hard. But that's the whole point of the selection they do: they exactly want people who approach ONLY because of that out of the way. If the only reason is that, you better don't even try. Instead, if you'd be legitimately curious to know her as a human being first, and you'd approach with that mentality, she would finally take it in as a breath of fresh air. And the baby steps approach Billie talks about would make way more sense, and be much more successful.
@@RafaelRomoMulas1 exactly. There has to be a reason you're approaching a random person to talk to them. It can't just be random stopping people or going up to people in a setting / environment that doesn't facilitate that kind of behaviour. You have a normal conversation given the environment you're in and then take it from there. If the conversation feels forced or awkward that's when you abort. No harm done and you haven't been rejected.
She said a couple of times that she was going that route with her current BF, and he said "No, I'm not interested in being your friend." Brave move! She appreciated it, and they did get together. Every woman will suppose at first that a nice guy is a nice friend, more than a nice partner. Only we can convince them of the contrary.
I agree. Especially on the last part. Too comfortable is never a place to rest. It's why it seems like being a good guy has no benefit in general if they only friend him. The struggle for good guys is incorporating the confidence that men who are successful with women have, while being exciting, and stating your intentions clearly. All achievable but it requires a mindset change.
a man said "hi" to a woman in a gym. she said she was married, he backed out. He got notified for "harrassing" because of that. thats just one case... but there are a lot of those. So no... it isnt easy. In fact, it's a whole lot easier for women to approach men! most guys would be thrilled to have a conversation with a woman that would be upfront and honest about it
She speaks from a position of privilege. She doesn't have to worry about being labeled a "creep", "predator", publicly shamed or ridiculed, a man blasting her on social media, false accusations to police or to HR. A Man can easily count on being rejected 8 or 9 times out of 10 tries. She can expect being rejected 1 time out of 100.
Yep, as a guy that has approached a lot recently I find what gives me the best odds is if she shows any interest. There are hidden signs to look for. At the lowest bare minimum chance before even thinking about approaching you want to even see if she notices you. If she doesn't don't approach at all
@@TheSunchaserElMalo You need to master your own mind and realize why you do that. Eventually those triggers that make you scared won't even happen once you are not bothered by them. Like going to class on the first day is nerve wrecking but once you go and get home okay you realize there was nothing to be afraid of. Try maintaining eye contact with people you are not attracted to until it becomes natural and manifest the energy that women want to be around. I've known men below average that get more women than tall handsome guys just because they have great energy. Manifest that energy. Understand things will never go perfect on your first couple tries. People are afraid to make mistakes but making those mistakes is the only way to learn around them. You can't just pick up a guitar and play a song on the first try. Mistakes are part of the process.
Yes I totally agree with you 👍💯 Single men are committed suicide more than EVER when single men asking for date and single women are laughing at single men dying off and yet single women and single mothers with kids are complaining where are all the good single men at ? Single women and mothers doesn't realize that single men are committed suicide more than EVER and there are Soo many single women in the world than single men.
Kinda the point of this. Only way to figure this shit out is through conversation. But it almost needs to be somewhat anonymous like the internet. So people can be real about what they say. Also keep in mind not everyone is the same so the best you can do is go for what’s average. Let’s say women like y’all guys. There are still 10/10 tall or short women who don’t like tall guys. Works with everything. Not all women like super fit guys. And some people experience trauma so sadly some women don’t like it if a guy isn’t mean to them. It’s not black and white. But I think generally women would like to experience a “normal” interaction. Maybe less in younger women because they are still figuring out what they like and are in a euphoric rush considering it’s new. So when you’re in your mid to late 20s I think normal is more effective than trying to be the man.
@@kyreedavis2263 yeah I never said otherwise- like for me I dislike a man approaching me but it’s because of my trust issues I have with almost every one
It’s 100% hard, woman judge tf out of guys before a word even comes out your month. If they don’t like your haircut no chance, if they don’t like your shoes no chance, if don’t like your outfit no chance
Okay? Go to a barber who can hook you up with a quality haircut. It’s $20. Find a style you like, that suits your personality and buy clothes based off that. Everything you mentioned can be fixed. Once you got your appearance in order, you’re good. There will always be women who don’t like you, that’s fine. You can’t please everyone. Complaining gets you nowhere
@@brandonmcalpin9228Tbf women are very good at finding a tiny problem with anything. No matter what you do she'll find something she doesn't like and that will instantly cancel out everything good for some reason.
@@liamcraddock9539 That nitpicking phenomenon is what Rich Cooper refers to as “betatization by a thousand concessions”. It’s bitching about how you eat, the shoes you wore on a date once, the way you walk, the hobbies you have, your friends, etc. It’s a thousand micro-shit tests to see if she can change you. If you begin to comply with her every demand, obviously she’ll lose attraction for you because you showed her you’re not the authentic strong man she thought you were. You’ll change for her because you’re weak and want to impress her, then one day she’ll hit you with the typical line, “I just don’t feel the same way anymore. Idk… you’ve changed…” Then she’ll leave you devastated and don’t know what happened. Inform yourselves fellas.
Women act as though men should be willing to risk their reputation just because the probability of being imprisoned for it is low…like to them that’s the only consequence worth fearing.
@@David_1789 it is very difficult, even if they didn’t get thrown in jail for saying hello ,some women can be ruthless and break a man’s heart, that’s why women need to wait for the right guy because that guy will love her so much that he would be willing to risk everything for her ,the willingness to risk everything is difficult and I respect men who actually go through with that
Shouldnt this make you less anxious though? Because in this video, she is right. I go to festivals alone, by myself, a lot, while im introverted. But just by simply being a NORMAL and friendly person, I have managed to attract some women on festivals. Just by genuinely having fun.
@@marcineren112 for them, rejection is also not being approached. Which happens all the time. It just doesn't make any sense for a woman to approach a man, and not because of a supply/demand thing, but because if they do it, they risk jeopardizing their whole lives. I'm not exaggerating, think: - Most men have never been approached - If a woman approaches such a man, he will get so worked up and excited that he will never show his true self. He will try everything to capitalise on that opportunity. - That's already a big fail for the woman, but it gets worse: if realising the fail she would backtrack, now the man would feel so enraged that he may become violent. - The way this could be prevented is if she approaches a man that actually IS used to being approached, but then the supply/demand thing does kick in, and she might very well be rejected, because such man is most probably already with someone, or has found out at his expenses that women who approach are usually unstable. It doesn't take much to reason on these points, and women definitely reason on these points when they know a man they like who doesn't approach them. And as you can expect, they conclude they better don't approach. They try to make him approach, by various means which more often than not are completely ignored, thus making her feel rejected. You just don't spend enough time getting in their shoes. I'm a man, by the way, happily married 8 years, father.
Yep she can straight up call the cops accuse you of sa,sh, grape no evidence needed and your going to jail, dragged through the mud, future prospects ruined. And if you reject her all the same applies. Saw several of coworkers or buddies get falsely accused for being a little awkward or rejecting a female. Your best bet is never interact with them. Your always 1 wrong word or average looking dude away from being destroyed/ hauled off to jail. Talking to women is a crime in the west.😅
Couple young woman were sitting outside of Walmart taking and when I walked passed they all quit taking and gave me strange looks. That’s the s**t we deal with everyday the only woman I can have a respectful conversation with are people that could be my mom woman in there 40s and 50s I’m sick of this generation and I hate being a part of it
People can be very attractive when old ,also it does matter what age they can still be respectful and not be attracted, but have you not noticed when a woman likes a older man she is shamed and told she has daddy issues
Women: GUY, GUYS!!! Just do it in a way they don't feel creepy, is that so hard?! Men: And what is not creepy? Women: If we find you attractive it's not creepy. If we find you unattractive, it's creepy.
Single men have been committed suicide more than EVER since single women are laughing at single men asking for date and single women are laughing at single men dying off
Social skills amount to being a good liar. “Hey…I totally am not only approaching you for conversation because you’re attractive, it’s a coincidence that I chose you, if we get along then it’s a coin flip whether or not I’ll want to date you, I just like talking to random people for no reason.”
@@kris3451 first is I’m usually busy, and second is I generally dislike people. They’re always in my way, at the check out line the red light, it’s like move your ass!
It’s not hard. You’re right. But it’s also not worth it. The probability of rejection is simply too high to even bother. go work on yourself and let them come to you and stop bothering them on the street
Approaching women isn’t hard? My dear, yes it is! Some women just straight up say “ew no” or “no thank you” or some variation before a guy can get half a sentence in. How are we to know if the woman we try to approach is one of THOSE women?
Maybe when she said that to you in a rude tone, you could have calmly retorted back "Because you're not a bimbo and actually have taste? Of course if you don't have to have taste, you can just be a typical bimbo, it's not that hard to do. Cheers." And walk away. Always have more pride and quick wit than they do.
Weird...women like to hang out with me because they are comfortable and safe...yet none of those women was ever responding with wanting to be with me properly. Guys, this doesnt work...😂
Comfortability is a path to the friend zone. Where is the path for transitioning from talking casually with a woman to having her date you? There's the tricky part.
Because this is explicitly about randomly approaching strangers with the intent of getting to know them, not getting out of the friend zone with already familiar women. C'mon bro
Ask them what they're passionate about and how it makes them feel. Just get them talking about things they like and then actually pay attention. The follow up questions should be obvious.
@@DavidMatias79 Dating doesn,t work like it did in the 90s in the 90s and early 2,000s I could have picked up a woman no problem . Yes I know you have to talk to them and show genuine interests but that just does not work unless you are tall make or make a pariticular amount of money . Some of you guys act like you can just wave a magic wand and women will just fall out of the sky . It does not work like that for the majority of us . Those guys that can get girls easily do not know any different because they have just always been able to get girls easily . One you have to put the effort in you realize the truth .
I'm a 6/10 on a good day, and only because I'm 6'6" with a good beard. But I've approached women that were 5s or 6s and been absolutely shut down. I've heard incredibly vile things just asking a woman if I could pay for her coffee, or help her with groceries. It's so much more than "just have a conversation."
@DavidMatias79 anything from her outfit being cute, to seeing her being kind to others. I even offered to pay one day because I heard her telling someone she'd just gotten back from a mission trip. I've never once just offered to buy a coffee on looks alone. To remark on saying clothing, I find modesty in our day and age rare, and feel it should be rewarded.
@@druid4438admittedly, I have limited information to go on here but it kinda seems like you're putting these women on a pedestal too much too soon. They likely may feel uncomfortable by being put on the spot all of a sudden. That's why it's better to just talk to them like you would anyone else - your neighbor, an old lady at church, etc. And if you're 6'6" they may instinctively be frightened because you could easily pick them up and throw them in your trunk. Women fear things like this in ways that men never will. That's why the interaction being comfortable is first and foremost.
I'm an old married guy but there was a time I was quite the ladies man. My trick for approaching women was to act like you're talking to a woman that you're not attracted to.
@@97oweb Ummm Wut? I didn't say follow a woman to her car and continue to talk to her after she's showed no interest in you at all or told you to go away. That's harassment. My comment was just to help men understand that a woman is just a person no matter how gorgeous you think she is. If you're standing in line at a coffee shop and find a woman attractive, tell her you've never been there before and could she recommend anything? Forget that you can see your unborn children in her eyes and just try to talk to her. If she recommends something, ask what's in it, just keep the conversation going. If you can get a woman talking she won't shut up and even if she isn't into you she probably has a friend you'll be perfect for.
You probably need to just get away from cities if you're running into that. There's still good women all over small town America that aren't feminized whack jobs.
I agree 100% that the aim is to have a normal, comfortable conversation with a woman and not try too hard with silly PUA tactics. It's just that our generations (Millennials and Gen-Z) have trouble with talking, holding conversations in general, because we grew up while addicted to screens. So we're never sure on what to say when we see a woman we like.
@RafaelRomoMulas1 take your simp boots off and remove your cape. He wasn't referring to her financial background... women come from a place of privilege because they're not the ones who have to approach. Life is easy for them and if they're attractive like she is, she will only know about guys approaching her. She won't know what it's like to approach a guy or woman. That's a PRIVILEGE... get it?
It's a balancing act between comfort & excitement on her part. If she's very comfortable & a bit excited, you'll likely get somewhere. Likewise, if she's very excited and juuust comfortable enough. And if she's reasonably excited and reasonably comfortable.
I've heard "just be cool" Which is actually true, but you have to do it in such a douchey, self-aggrandizing kind of way, it's amazing they fall for it.
Approaching isn't hard. What is, is the aftermath if she turns out to be one of those feminist clowns and drag him thru hell. Draging his face thru social media, etc. The issue isn't men approaching. It's the fact that the 90% of women who are good women won't stand against those feminist bullies alongside men. They unfortunately swallow the feminist crap and won't see the damage feminist are doing to men and women.
For men in the bottom 80% (5-figure income, less than 6ft tall, etc.), it's not that approaching women is "hard," it's that it's a *waste of time.* What appears to be extremely hard for princess wannabes to understand is the far-reaching ramifications of the 80/20 rule that they themselves created.
i've been broke all my life and still had sex with ~80 good looking women, some of them models. so your 5-figure income is bullshit. Im also less than 6ft tall so that is also bullshit. but what i do have is charm, great body, i smell very good with a sick cologne, and i dress cool. the things that every man can do as well. but the truth is that probably more than half of the guys smell like shit, especially their breath. have no idea how to dress, no charm, no gym/other sports. and then you cry for not getting any. Loser
@@aldorodriguez7310by putting asterisks (stars) around the letters you want in bold, *like this* - Alternatively, if you want to cross out what you wrote, you can use hyphens (dashes), -like this-
you are looking at it through the feminism lens, the lie. they want power. women want power and dont have the introspection to be able to admit it. can you dominate your peers, or them, with money, with status, with stature, with social ability? the fucked up part is they dont even know themselves in their emotion addled brain this is exactly what they are attracted to. be the most confident, emotionally suppressed, not fat version of you and know you are better than most, and then approach.
It always have been rich ugly old millionaire billionaires getting young single women and middle aged divorced single women going after millionaire and billionaires men who are ugly
I will say that it’s easier said than done, some women can act outrageous. However it’s still worth taking a chance, something good can come out of it.
Gotta love women telling men how easy it is to just approach women. Like women have an insanely high chance of success and still won't approach guys just from the fear of being rejected, but they love to tell guys that get rejected way more than they ever succeed that it's super easy to have to deal with that on top of fear of nuclear rejection, being mocked, getting called a creep, etc. If it was really super easy to approach women and start a relationship then men wouldn't complain that it's difficult
Women say a plethora of things about being approached; "I want to feel comfortable", "It's cute if he's a bit awkward", "I want a man to make me feel attractive", "I want him to display his character to me", "I want a man who dresses with status", etc. Fundamentally, the only constant is the girl has to already have a physical interest in the man. If she does, then there's little you can do to fuck up as long as you are _somewhat_ respectful* (*not a necessity)
And there's no indication that she finds you attractive. She thinks she's sending out a million signals that are screaming to you that she wants you, but in reality none of them rise above the background noise in the room. WHY CAN'T MEN READ MY HINTS? If you know men can't read your hints, then why are you relying on these nonverbal signals instead of just telling the guy, Hey I think you're hot and we should date? Women send these signals so she can still retain the option later. If the guy she's interested in asks her out, but does it in the wrong way (for whatever reason) she can say, "No what gave you the impression I was interested in you?" To be followed by the ever-popular: You're a creep! Women tell themselves they are making the first move with their signals, but they're really not. They will send out a million confusing signals before they speak one clear word. They don't want to cross that final line and state their intentions, even though there is no real price to pay for rejection. And maybe that's it. If she's sending out a million signals and the guy isn't responding, he technically hasn't rejected her yet. It's like never checking your lottery ticket because you may potentially be a millionaire. The second you do check the numbers, reality tells you that you're just a loser who wasted money on lottery tickets again. Women play this little dance trying to seduce men and they get upset when it doesn't work. Crazily enough, they keep doing the dance, knowing that it doesn't work. Thus the creation of this video.
And men don’t do that? I have high standards (not necessarily about looks ) but about if they want to do better for themselves, because if they want to do better the looks wouldn’t matter because they would change for the better ,I have high standards for a reason ,you only get one real partner in life so why should I chose just anyone ,why can’t I be attracted to them , men do the same ,it’s not wrong for them to not be attracted to someone because they are simply not attracted
@@user-jt1fu5yj8l you seem to have built an imaginary opponent with your initial assumption; my primary point wasn't that men don't do the same, my point was how silly all of these "rules" are for what men should and shouldn't do when approaching a woman, because, in large, they will all be dismissed if the woman is attracted to a man. So they're useless. I would be making parallel criticisms of men if they made lists of what women should and shouldn't do when they approach men, but, I'm more likely to see an alien craft than I am to see a woman approach a man.
This!!!! I listened to women from an early age about dating “don’t take it too seriously.” “Don’t ever think it” just be yourself.” “Just talk about stuff you are into” “don’t go into it looking for sex” all that stuff. That is exactly what I did. Only to have women manipulate me lead me on and assume every insane thing about me one after the other. To one girl I’m a dangerous bad boy and to the next, I’m the nice guy. They never had a clue because they wouldn’t even really be willing to have that initial conversation without looking into it super deep. They make these extremely quick negative assumptions about you after asking these asinine baiting questions.
I've just ended up with a few friends that are girls. You're gonna have to cut the "just friends" ones off except for the ones you're really good friends with. The only other ones you should keep are the ones that might be willing to help you meet girls but that's extremely rare unfortunately.
In there's nothing wrong with having girls as friends but that's another problem with modern women how quick they are to friendzone a guy I'm more introverted I have to be friends with a girl for awhile before I can make up my mind whether this is a girl I'm interested in or not before I can start to develop feelings for her And the problem with that is modern women don't give you that kind of time anymore you can't build that foundation of friendship anymore It's not worth it and I'm not letting the battles choose me anymore I'm choosing my battles and dating is one battle I will never get mixed up in ever again
Bro let me tell you. Friend zone is just in your head. If they’re not interested it won’t happen. If you guys can’t imagine being apart. It’s worth taking the next step. You wanna bang her. Don’t get to know her
@@liamcraddock9539 I've never met a friend girl who was a good wingman. I've never seen much value in having a female friend, unless you just really love helping them move furniture. Guy friends help you all the time.
THANKS BABE! I need to get over my fear, and I DEFINITELY thought I had to blow you away on the first interaction, or use cheesy pickup lines. 😅 Glad you put it into words guys like me can understand.
Have that happened to me once years ago just for saying hello to a girl I went to church with in public just to be friendly and say hi because it's kind of rude to just completely ignore someone you know when you see them in public And this which friend of hers actually stood right in between us got in my face and started treating me like a predator I really can't express how humiliating that experience was I've since grown as a person and if that same situation was to happen today I would tell that witch off on the spot
That's a middle case scenario. It could get a lot worse. I've seen women sic men around them on the dudes hitting on them just because it rubbed them wrong. And of course, the whole squad of simps supplies.
Women are scared by the media all the time. It's normal. But it's not a reason to give up simple, normal, baby-step approaches like Billie describes. If you give up, you're basically confirming that women were right to reject you, because no woman wants a guy who gives up.
3 months of approaching about 500 girls (about 30 of which gave me their number or insta) and I can say, approaching isn't hard. Getting her to be interested in you is hard. Most will say "I have a boyfriend" whether or not that is true. Some will be completely inundated and the conversation will feel like an interrogation bc she doesn't know what to say. Some will turn out to have an IQ of 50. And once you get the number, the real hassle starts.
The reason for the perception that approaching isn't easy is because if we don't make her laugh right away, she's bored, thinks we're boring, writes us off for all eternity, calls us a creep, and then every woman in that entire establishment psychically knows that since she disqualified you, you've been immediately disqualified from everyone in that one instance of rejection. At least with American women it's that way. Most of em are rude AF
Not that easy to change your physical appearance (most men dress nice and are clean ) They dont go around looking like a dirty dog. I know from experience that even being normal (women are cruel and uncaring evil people) They just dont care about a mans feeling or wants or desires) do some research, I mean go out and talk to regular men and they will tell you experiences that would want a guy to commit suicide. For Real . I am not a guy that is hurting or has had that bad of experiences, i just know guys that have and they are really good men down underneath their exterior. I blame women for mens problems these days. Men are just giving up berceuse most women wear to much make up and fixated on thier looks. There are great men right infront of them that would be good husbands and fathers to thier children. If a women wants more than that she is not worthy of any man! Period.
Are you saying it's impossible for you to look like an 8 or 9 out of 10? Any man can exercise and get a ripped body and chiseled jawline, no matter how tall or ugly they think they are.
You're right is super easy, provided she finds you atractive instantly. Men don't have to blow you away with their line, we have to do it before we cross the room. And just make it seem like a normal convo..... totally! you know a totally normal convo with someone you have no connection to and without inciting incident. Those happen all the time. Super easy to do. Guys its not so hard, just be told to buzz off 9/10 times and keep approaching random strangers without letting it affect you. Super easy barely an inconvenience.
A week ago I was walking down a hallway to get some equipment and a random girl (who I wasn’t walking towards or looking at) said “I don’t want to talk to you”. Must have been my personality
If one rejects you… literally every girl in her vicinity excludes you, you get labeled a weirdo. I’m not weird, I’m just nervous, at the possibility of me giving you the opportunity to ruin my life.
I see where you're coming from, but it's a flawed argument. It doesn't do justice to the actual cause-consequence chain. What happens, when you take in consideration biology/evolution, which should always be considered, is the following: - You botch an attempt DUE to being nervous (as that already shows you don't believe you can't make it, so not even a desperate woman would like it, because alarms will sound in her instinctive brain due to how nervous your approach was, *whether she likes you or not*) - Those around who notice your nervous attitude label you a weirdo because of THAT, not because you failed. - Those around who didn't notice that, but notice you taking the failure with a depressed and defeated attitude label you a weirdo because of THAT, again not because you failed. This is how the "social chemistry" works: it's never about the act, but the emotions you give away, which are given away even by your posture or the smallest details of your facial expression. And of course, this triggers a perverse loop of failure: more weirdo-labeling will generate more nervous attitude, which will mean more botched attempts, and on and on again. So you have to break the cycle in one or more of these points, for example: - Break the cycle at the approach level: the hardest to do but the best, is to force yourself into calm. Drink chamomile, meditate, role-play, whatever works for you, but make yourself calm before approaching. Just don't be drunk or intoxicated, cause that will mean automatic fail most of the time. - Break the cycle at the rejection level: when she rejects, don't take it. They actually love insistence, if it's done right. To be done right, you have to let some time pass, and approach from a different angle. Show you're creative with the approach and that you really care to succeed, and chances are you might at least secure a chance for a future, online/phone approach, because she will want to find out WHY YOU TRIED SO MUCH. - Break the cycle at the reaction to the rejection: when it seems like the rejection is serious and final (never the first attempt, rarely the second, most probably after the third attempt), take it like a CHAMP: throw in a confident joke, and walk away with your back, neck and head UPRIGHT and proud, looking like a guy who knows SHE WAS WRONG TO REJECT YOU. This might surprisingly get other girls interested, because they'd SENSE that you were good, that you tried nicely, and that she made a mistake. Because your attitude/reaction/chemistry SHOWS this. It's a broadcasted message, and they pick it up.
Coupled with "make us feel comfortable", that was the signal I needed to know that her advice was worthless. Women will complain about anything and never feel comfortable with any normal guy, they're liars these women
What else can you be? Are you gonna pretend to be someone else the entire relationship? Be your best self (sharpen your skills, work on what you’re good at) and be confident in who you are
Actions speak louder than words! 😊 Even a shy guy can hold doors open, offer to carry something heavy or offer to pay for a girls lunch or groceries. ❤❤ You don’t have to come up with some clever line, jusr keep it in context to the situation!
Yesssss, exactly 💯 👏 Guys who approach me act so strange. I like normal, just say hello and talk to me. No stupid pick up lines, just honesty. Some women are B's and I know a lot of guys think we all are but we are not. I'm never a B, and I talk to everyone who interacts with me. If I'm not interested, I'm not rude or demeaning to men at all. And women STOP thinking you're better than everyone and be respectful when a man approaches you weather you're interested or not. It's called human decency!
It is hard because you each have different expectations and we're not mind readers, which makes it hard to know what you expect. Some expect us to be funny, some expect us to be direct, some expect us to be suave, and the good ones don't give a 💩.
@@David_1789What about Sean Connery? “Shweetheart, I notished you from inshide the Shtarbucks, and I musht shay, I’d like to give ya a little shlap shometime. Whaddya shay?”
It has to be memorable or she won’t even pay attention to you. With the amount of guys that hit on women they normally blow most of us off. Honestly it comes down to how attracted she is initially to you.
What you don’t realize is the moment I walk up it awkward and tense and I have to be confident, comfortable, and funny enough to make you feel comfortable literally immediately. It’s definitely not easy to do as a stranger. Oh and as you pointed out they’re rolling their eyes and preparing for the worst before you even say anything. She’s expecting it to be bad. Looking for an escape before you open your mouth. If she doesn’t look at you and immediately find you attractive based on your looks alone then you missed your only shot. Because I promise there are no words that will change her mind instantly
Women’s advice… "Just start a conversation" "Just be confident" "Just make the first move" "Just don't be awkward" "Just don't creep her out" "Just don't say anything weird" "JUST BE YOURS........"
