Are Female Rappers Glamourising Toxic Relationships? 

Thank you 🤍🤍🤍🤍

I agree. This video touched home because I’m a female rapper and I hate the degrading of self. It made me not want to be apart of it but now I feel it’s a need for a Queens point a view

Same I left Twitter because it's so toxic

@@BreenyLee she's your sister in law😂. 9ja babe 🇳🇬

@@BreenyLee What you said in your video is soo true. Literally, the global media demonstrate relationships where people leave relationships just because of 1 mistake. They tell women to do this or that whereas its something so harmful yet they do the opposite.

THIS ^^

FOR SURE 👏👏

Talk truth

“trying to replicate male rappers” is a little too far. Women have been rapping about the same thing men have since rap’s birth. Men didn’t invent promiscuity with women following along like a lost puppy. Don’t give them credit like that. Otherwise I agree with everyone needing love.

@@fofotheclown1051 men and women do the same shit just differently,the OP is half right

THIS. Men are definitely at fault here too.

You mean just like how mommas boy is a insult towards men lol Kids get insulted for parents failing its not nothing new

A lot of bitter women block the fathers from seeing the children. We all have a part to play

Baby mamas are leaving their father. Not men are leaving women

@@Mark-go7qm i believe it's a case to case situation. My dad willingly didn't want to be in mine by telling us that ourself. But my uncle did want to be in his daughter's life but his ex wasn't letting him so my mom told him to take her to court and he won. But most of the time is the men WILLINGLY stay away. There's a reason we have the running joke of them going to the store for milk.

100!

'Struggle love' is disgusting, glamourized co-dependancy :(

You’re beautiful 🗣👏🏼

It's a manner of the nouveau riche mindset. One saying goes "Wealth is quiet, rich is loud, while poor is flashy." They've been elevated to the rich and are loud showing they are doing things that usually comes with great repercussions for the poor with fewer consequences, while giving a middle finger to those they perceive as rich whom they think they are on equal grounds with. The "poor" feels they can do the same as they view them as a success story or relatable for living that toxic life while more progressive minds twist it to say it's empowering of the black female sexuality that was looked down on as wonton promiscuity. The wealthy look at it and laugh as they either ignore it or profit off of it.

Aint no way around it..working in the medical field ..aviation ..engineering.. hospitality ..corporate..entertainment..non profit...cherrch. chi bye 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️..these hoze errywhere with that toxicity

this. yep.

My friend is with a man that abuses her and she’s supposed to be moving to Georgia. She claims “ I don’t know why it is why I can’t get away from him. It must be soul ties or blah blah” . Nah girl you have low self esteem and you rushed too fast into a “relationship” and have allowed abuse in almost every relationship you’ve been in because you’re easily manipulated

Yeah trauma bonding is definitely a real thing

@@Deenique16 I hope you have told her that truth to her face. Sometimes you only listen to people who are close to you.

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Yet when beyonce when back to a cheater because she don't want her money...I mean man, giving it to another woman, it was brave and beautiful and strong 👏👏👏 😒

@@stephaniem.2909 The difference is Beyoncé made him suffer before she took him back. She took herself and Blue Ivy to Paris without Jay-Z knowing and made him come grovel to her there before she took him back. She also wrote a whole album dissing him for cheating on her which caused him widespread humiliation to the point where he had to make a whole rap album called "4" to apologize to Beyoncé again.

@@cutienerdgirl That's ridiculous. Jay Z "suffered" for what? two weeks. The only one who is really suffering the most is Beyoncé. Beyoncé is the one who will remember the deep pain that this cheating man inflicted on her, *every* *single* *day* for the rest of her life, everytime she will look or think of him. But also she will bear the global humiliation of being disrespected this harsh in front of the world, but also her children. Jay Z doesn't have to worry about any of that. He is not the one bearing all the detrimental consequences of his evil. It's disgusting really. Taking a cheater back have no affect on them. By staying you're enabeling their actions, doesn't matter if you make this "hard to get you back". They get desensitize once you forgive them. The end result is the same, they still won't respect you because you have low self-esteem for taking them back. The only thing that matters for a cheater is to still have access to you, doesn't matter weather it's "difficult" or easy, so that they can keep cheating/ direspecting on you without worrying about you leaving them.

@@unknown0290 damn yall talking like you know these people personally 😂

Yes

Amen!

i've heard so much advice over the years, as a high school teacher, but this one is THE BEST.

i felt that one too..on my couch in south africa.we love your influence girl!!!

Say that!

what is benefiting them? living like them is not a benefit for anyone...not even them

@@illmeeillmee9373 I think she means riches

Not to mention a lot of us don't want too. Not everyone thinks a birkin bag makes it ok to be cheated on. A lot of black women are obsessed with what those women have when their relationships are toxic as hell.

And a lot of us don’t want to be. Lol

Exactly

Because it’s built on sin and debauchery!! Many many artists careers were built from / started with funds gained from illegal means, same goes for the record companies that sign them. The industry is filled with shady characters and criminals.

Say it louder!👐🏾

Say it louder for the back

Facts. And nothing else

But we as people are participating. And that is a choice .

YESS

Thank you dear 🤍

I said the same thing as soon as I saw the video❤

Honestly 😍

Stop playin! She'd kill it in any color!

PREACH PLEASE TELL 'EM

Completely agree! 👏🏼

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Preach The Gospel!!!🥂🥂🥂🥂

I do think (American POV) that black culture has taken “entertainment” way too far. We have such a problem identifying the role it “should” play in our lives. We make what Cardi says more than what actual beliefs true. I think as a community, we need to go back to instilling the basics into us. Bc the fact that Brent felt the need to make this video, is sad within itself. 🤦🏽‍♀️

YESSSSSSSS!!!!

The word "discernment" is beginning to slowly disappear

felt every single word 🙌

Exactly. I deleted it too because even if i consciously ignore it, the messages can affect my subconscious

💯 💯💯 You spoke all of that and then some!!! I deleted Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram off my phone a while ago (even before the pandemic started). I don’t have Snapchat or TikTok so I didn’t even bother with those. The only “social media” I have on my phone are RU-vid and Reddit. And even with those, I follow positive, uplifting communities/people. I don’t follow mainstream media or trends. I don’t even listen to the radio anymore; I listen to music that doesn’t make me lose brain cells and decreases my faith in humanity whenever I listen to it. I value my peace of mind. ✨

Preach!

Money is not love. You make a good point!

@I Dk not even to do with wealth. Financial dependency on a man and not having your own will make you not want to leave because of what he brings to the table irrespective of abuse... most cases of abuse is because of money

Whewww🎯🎯

Wow!!

That is deep. I'm glad she's here tho

Same

Same

i hope you are doing well right now

Same!!!

Yeah not all women are built the same, they are used to doormats and hate women with standard and voices

Yh women hate care free men

Thank you like this is why I remain single cause these men and women as bi women are being so careless

Right that toxic masculinity with a tinge or anger and spite can get blocked quickly it’s so un~stomachache

Same!

Preach it's sad to see

It’s so weird but why?🤦🏾‍♀️

I don’t know who that rapper is but put diamond on his forehead. The other level rich and crazy people.

I was looking for this!! LMAO

Awww lovely name mommz name

lol I love her

Amen🙏🏼

Celebrities are dumb dumbs because while they're spouting all their crap....they wanted to be like so and so or so and so inspired them......they hate being held accountable for their shenanigans when they know they influence the masses

I rewatched WAP the other day and thinking about the line "w***** in the house" and for some reason thought of porn and remembered a thought I had in a relationship that didn't work out, it was him coming in drunk with loads of friends at late o'clock and me standing there in a dressing gown with a pot of beans 😂

And i think mainstream apps like tik tok need to take accountability for what they have on those apps a lot of the stuff creators are making is wrong and isnt child content

@@sasha44486 I think policing it is a problem, there are so many people uploading content now. Clicks bring money too. All we can do is try and inform those around us. Breenys video about "you don't need to have a ho ho ho phase" hit me like a mallet on the head 😂 I swear youtube put it in my recommendations for a reason! P.s I'm not a ho! 😂

@@sasha44486 Do you remember in Pretty Woman when Julia Roberts goes into the dress shop and the women judge her on appearance, as theyre higher class. I've just realised they had no class 😃 kind of reminds me of what happened with Nat King Cole and his dog.

she won't leave! sad

they have a child

@@theastrophile8335 doesn’t mean shit. sometimes staying together is worse for a child than just separating and dealing with your shit.

@@theastrophile8335 he also has 3 other children with three different women so that doesn’t matter

Their daughter is going to tolerate the same thing that her mother is tolerating.

I feel like I don't belong too (24) lmao

21 here and totally agree with you

Girl you and me both cause this is just childish

Same here

Same here and I’m 21. Feel like I’m an old soul that doesn’t belong to this generation.

I was so confused by that, like was he suppose to dawg walk her 😫

Yeah this generation is just flat out stupid honestly.

Made fun of them for practicing celibacy and now everyone is asking them for the prayers. That’s why social media is a joke so quick to down you then around to praise you

@@mani-hx9ez not this generation

Um no that's not why he's called simp His called a simp for the shit he says not what he does

Very true.

I get what you mean by the extremes that these women want. But where does true love become not worth it anymore. Like is it still valuable if you’re in the shelter? This is a genuine question by the way, because I feel like even with wanting true love there has to be a cut off somewhere.

You can still have love and have materialistic things, besides alot of broke/poor men put women through alot too so let's not glamourise poverty

@@MissTracyyy223 I agree with you. I was specifically speaking about materialistic things being at the forefront of the relationship.

Facts. I agree.

I learned that in counseling years ago, we all can benefit from therapy. Invest in your mental health and you, your partner, children and family will all be blessed by your growth! Wishing you blessings! 💯

@@terrybrown7510 Amen!

i think trauma bonding when is healthy is ok but when it’s toxic no

@@manicpixiecoffeelovr no my entire point was that its easier for us to talk about it and open up even if its a little bit when it comes to our trauma because we have both gone through similiar experiences and can comfort each other.

@@_GFG_ yes i know i understand that because i go through it too, but i’m trynna say that speaking about it is healthy but when it turns to these type of relationships it’s not

God bless you too dear! Much love ♥️

Amen!!

This is facts and dust attracts dust!

You definitely attract what you are!!

Yaaas! I agree!

I always said the same thing. You attract what you put out.

I like how she's always speaking Facts 👐🏾

I love K-Dramas for the various reasons and one is that they barely show physical affection or materialism or anything like that, rather they show that true love has to do with loving the person for who they are.. not what they can do for you.

@@juliaenike exactly. And if course these are movies bur I have noticed that in Korean culture and many other cultures they value live towards eachother. It's a precious thing u see unfold and u cherish it.not something u just take for granted. I feel like in other cultures I see more hope in love. That's why I might marry someone that's not from where I'm from because maybe thau might understand how I value love that is if I don't find someone here. Maybe I might meet my perfect stranger and I feel like a lot of black girls deserve to do that if that's what they want.not stay in a bubble of what we should be according to society and social media

I am a black girl too and I watch fantasy and read good books and I listen to cheesy songs like from Benee and zara Larsson. I really do not like these new female rappers and all. Like they exhaust me

Do you have any favorite artists for African music? I’ve never listened to their music

But please be careful because some kdramas normalize abuse in a funny comedic way🙏

@Alicia Mina amen💆🏽‍♀️💆🏽‍♀️

THIS is my goal🙌 A stable, comfortable relationship. I come from a toxic family so for years I saw that as boring but now I am trying to do the internal work to find a good man

so on point for me, I am in a space where I am working on myself and looking forward to love and marriage and I have just recently met a great guy simple and cool hardworking who just need to be well-grounded and loved and we're getting to know each other and it's going pretty good, and as you said letting go of those toxic feelings I had for my ex and the negative mindset and just knowing and understanding that it's ok to be loved honestly by someone is just allowing me to enjoy the moments I have with this gentleman and just getting to know each other. it's just a blessing that when the universe knows you are ready he presents you with the right person for u.

Yesssssss🤞☺️

YOU GET IT LADY 🥳💖

Looks sometimes are decieving

Amen be blessed

Wow they made a song? I love shaybo I'd love her more if she stopped speaking on her pvssy and bxtch men lool

That’s ghetto and tragic. I pray you get what you’re looking for.

yikesssss

Thats like just trying too hard

Giiirl, you're absolutely gorgeoussss

But Is that not what you girls like.

@@koredeoguntuga3717 no, not generally. it's what damaged people like, and that means we should not encourage it

Mmm! It’s soooo weird especially that females somehow think that that’s some warped version of affection🥴🥴🥴

yes but me & my mom

Same,I thought that maybe it's a cultural difference thing (I'm African) but I guess not

For me R&B died a long time ago

@@kingjoshthesaucegod1595 lol it didn't rnb is pretty much still alive. the only problem is that people don't listen to any other artist besides mainstream ones.

Very wise ❤

Yep. I deleted snapchat, removed facebook (detoxing for awhile), and I only follow like-minded people and clothing shops on instagram.

@@velvetstorm4563 I totally agree with you, I truly want to create a ratchet/drama free space on social media for like minded women ...

Same

Deleting IG helped me a lot. If your relationship is healthy with IG, then continue on using it :)!

So True!! In reality they are dumb Can't even see the reality Because they are die hard nd blind fans . Future generation will go definitely towards negativity Harsh reality but this is the Truth . Thank God that at the age of 15 im not one of those stupid fans and people anymore

@@khushi-4900 exactly!!! This generation is something else🙆

Facts!!!

Honestly! A lot of the time people can’t decipher between when someone is giving genuine constructed criticism and hate cos people who hate mask the hate with “criticism”...eg toxic friends would often criticise you on things you can’t control. Social media literally twists definitions and plagues them to the point certain things become euphemisms for polar opposites, eg criticism and hate....

@@lorikaisirfogle2903 it's problematic indeed :-(

Lool same like sis not holding back 🤣

Right I'm glad she said that cause she's speaking the truth in every word

Me to had to rewind it because I totally agreed. I was so disgusted how much my ex who was very toxic worshipped rappers like lil uzi and Kanye and lil pump they all got some kind of spirit that isn’t balanced.

Thank you, Jesus was, is an will always be the answer.

I wish i could like this 100 times

Fr❤️🤝🏾

Yeah which is really weird watching that play out

@@AikiraBeats Exactly. It's the ones that can't let go of their youth. And they will call you the "hater"🙄 for calling them out or not going along with it. It's sad as hell.

Really? I had never noticed

This shows that you respect yourself

THIS.., u so right

We need more women to have an attitude like this

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@I Dk The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom Proverbs 9:10

@@oliviamarjorie5076 yessss🙏🏾💞

PREACH !

Exactly. I was listening to toxic music as well. Can’t stand it now.

So so true!!!! And the fear of God

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Nice guys are fake. That's why they lose,not cz they're not bad but cz people can detect the fakeness of it all...they think that you owe them for being "nice". And if that doesn't say manipulation I don't know what does. At least bad boys are direct and predictable. Although I prefer normal,direct guys who are genuine

They wouldn't dare. My toxicity is for not taking trash,For correction. That's what it's for..

I just leave them. And never come back

“Anything you overlook in the beginning will multiply as the relationship grows” ~ pretty much summaries the relationship I had with a toxic ex but thank God I had the courage to break up with him before things got worse and learnt my lesson to never ignore red flags at the beginning stages ever again💯🙅🏾‍♀️

@@MagicStar53 I am happy that you did dear. I hope that you're at peace and if not that peace will be yours in time.

Knowledge with Kahmasi it’s a working progress but I’m in a better state of mind now💗

True. I'm also only on RU-vid and WhatsApp only.

And it's about saving your energy

Same

Same💯

I do good when I barely go on Instagram. I don't want to think it's okay to go date a person who is negative a lot.

I am so glad someone is finally speaking out about this. I really hate their lyrics

@@sanaataiwo9736 What are you talking about 😒 she did agree she said I will Dm you , this public knowledge.Different bloggers have screenshots and everything

@@sanaataiwo9736 she did agree lol its everywhere

@ yep girls can be mean. I was going to a party one night and a girl complimented me on my beauty and said “Ouu and she got a fat ass too!” And I said “thank you w a smile” then she’s like “nah if you pretty you gotta have an attitude to go w it.” Like what??

@ I hope you find the self love hidden within to leave her. It’s okay to be single. Especially if it’s better than being disrespected on a daily basis

@ you need to find someone else that don't act like these.women.

This is good. You hit it right on the head

this is very intellectual and accurate. if you ever see the raw behind the scenes of some of these IG shoots its cringe af.

Man this is the TRUTH - very well said!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

very well said 👏🏽

I think I he first priority to making Ng it,Is to let your hater's know you won. That's why we fight to win because we been did bad. You would do the same. Every word directed to your hater's if you been angry about being broke

that's why I don't watch that shit, it's the same drama over and over again

That’s why I don’t watch this BS. I really hate Love and Hip Hop and the way that they represent us.

tbh if men were fighting over a woman she would probably stand there and watch too

@@radocchi_yt9084 probably because what am I going to do? Say "hey guys stop fighting over me😐"?

Right like it's one of the main reasons why I watch it cause I want to see it what it is that I don't won't in a relationship

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So true. I think money only amplifies what was already there, be it negative or positive.

no same, i saw nicki and i said hell noooooo thats sis

@@melissamillion6869 riiii tbh she needs to come save the rap game fr fr

I’m telling you, she’s doing it for me

she’s the only female rapper who gets an exception from me😂

@@beautifullykayla okay period 😂😂💗

Agreed! I prefer to stay away from men who wanna “rap” nope sorry 50 Cent, I’ll pass. Athletes too! Not into them nor want anything that comes with those lifestyles

Seriously why everyone want a rapper or a sports player I don’t what it is about men in that industry but almost all the men there cheat a ain’t ever met a loyal rapper

@Raihanna don’t apologize it’s the truth girl. The collective needs to do better but first must WANT to do better

These women bring themselves down no one forces them to listen to male rappers or chase sports players. take responsibility for your own behaviors and stop blaming men for it.

@@jasmineasha2924 The problem lies in why you think male rappers and sports players should be important. you should be looking up to the hard working men in your neighborhood not what's on tv , to much tv and phone watching. you women value materialism and fame over reality.

#Northafrica

Yo all , I got 100 like. I got famous now

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Well said @0nly.Bhadbby

People do talk abt their relationship and how toxic it is

they both give me satanic vibes idk

This is a great idea!

It doesn’t look unhealthy. It’s is unhealthy. Of course there are people who try to defend it just because the man has some money. That shit is straight demonic.

Exactly that's why I want a man that assertive not aggressive. When you're assertive you tell me your mind and still put me in check but not in a disrespectful way because you remember that I'm your equal

A truly masculine man doesn’t make a show out of himself and has women competing. It’s supposed to be the other way around. They’re lost. Both genders a lot of the time

@0nly. Bhadbby - Shame.... You were doing so well until you said "wealthy".

@@airfixx_8952 wealthy is multiple sources of income Including owning things (having shit in ur name ). Ya life a damn shame

@@0nly.bhadbby40 No dictionary required thx.... So; good man = Owning things and multiple sources of income? Nice values. Good luck in your future as a 'trophy-wife'. LOL

As a 16years old Nigeria myself this is true and concerning 😫

when we as African women start losing our values and natural beauties to fit into the perception of the trendy female that will become the downfall of originality, everyone is created unique and beautiful in their own spirit, soul, and body and that's something we as individual should start encouraging and passing on to the next generation.

@@aichetouornella7578 YUP

@@aichetouornella7578 correct

LOL LMAO. Sooooo many TRAUMATIZED African girls because of these so call “African values”. Glad I escaped and found a healthy balance!

Also when my boyfriend of like two years cheated on me instead of instantly dumping him I let it drag on for four more months because I was wondering if I was being unreasonable and I have to wonder how much it was influenced by the celebrity relationships I see

Yeah, but he dodged a helluva bullet though

@@NicholsKT true but as a young heavily influenced girl by the media (the girl was in college) how do you expect her to think ? When the whole “if he can’t do nothing for you” , “broke boys don’t deserve no kitty” rhetorics are being shoved in our faces ???? Not all women are strong minded enough to differentiate “entertainment” & actual sound advice

@@ArreyNicole_ people should use their own brains. I'm tired of this, social media is teaching this rappers teaching blah blah. Use your cranium and you will be fine

@@dontbe3greedy608 use your cranium and be realistic we all know younger ppl are easily influenced just like you probably learned to look up to ppl around you unintentionally no one is perfect get a grip

@@ArreyNicole_ bra I'm 20. When I was 15 I still wasn't brain dead. Stop acting like you did people are brain dead. There are kids out here planning whole murders.

I totally agree with this. I’m 22 and going through the same thing

Wow, I couldn’t have said it better myself! I didn’t know how to express the way I was feeling, but after coming across your comment I feel so relieved that I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m 23 btw! 💖🤙🏼

Seriously and after a while that mentality that most of these girls today have gets old. There is no self respect and it’s annoying. That is the behavior of a sell out. And most of these artists are sell out.

Okay can i ask a question is there rlly a way to be a "woman"? Like i feel like in my household modesty is pushed on me hard like saving myself for marriage and stuff. Ik there are good benefits too it but thats not something i would want to do and idk if that would take away from my "woman hood"

@@sasha44486 Jus out of curiosity how old are you? And two, the mentality of saving your love marriage filled with pros and cons. Yes consider marriage but don’t wait to fall for someone just to have marriage on your mind. Everything from what I see in my POV with romance should flow naturally. Meaning you should take your time in getting to know who you are dealing no different than an ally. This isn’t a womanly standard this is a standard for both genders but we as humans seem to love complicating the mess out of it. Yea you can wait be sexually active til marriage but guess what, just like regular boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, marriages fall apart especially if you don’t know what you’re doing. If you have stop but you haven’t do not bother looking up to the so called relationships the media is constantly stuffing your face with. They promote that toxic BS and it’s always a for entertainment. A real couple would document their love in front of the public, just attracts the wrong attention. It’s nobody’s business what you and S/O do. Even the little things but you have ppl that love to kiss and tell a lot and it’s becoming annoying. Now because I said it was annoying someone will be eager to say I said that cause I’m single when that has nothing to do with anything. Society today is more separated than ever. We want to be together but we are approaching the closeness the wrong way. Majority of everyone has trust issues it’s a lot going on. Lots of infidelity to domestic abuse in romantic relationships to just using one another is destroying love especially black love and I mean black love as in romance to just family and friend love.