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Are relationships overrated? Do you really want to be in a relationship ? 

Dr. Lisa Cooney
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Are relationships worth it?
In this video you will discover that only you can know if you want to be on a relationship
You don´t have to be in a relationship for need or obligation
Ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship
Get to know your Yes and your No and listen to them
Find out what works for you
You have the choice, what do you want?
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@c.p.6028
@c.p.6028 10 месяцев назад
I am 63. During my life l have been in long relationships, shorts ones and also single, as now. Looking backwards l can see that my single periods have been the best, l was happier, l was more creative with my life and l achieved more personal goals. That's why now l value so much being by myself and don't miss to share my life with anyone.
@c.p.6028
@c.p.6028 10 месяцев назад
@@ThatNiravGuy Welcome to singles Club!! 😊
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience! It's incredibly insightful to hear from someone who has such a rich tapestry of life experiences. Your reflection on the value you've found in being single-highlighting happiness, creativity, and personal achievements-is truly inspiring. It's a powerful reminder that self-fulfillment comes in many forms and that being alone doesn't necessarily mean being lonely. Your contentment with your own company is a testament to the unique journey we all have in finding what works best for us. Wishing you continued joy and fulfillment in your solo adventures!
@uubee4443
@uubee4443 Год назад
Relationships should not be a default situation but more a defining moment in your world, too often people get into a relationship because they are under pressure from their social circles or because they dont want to be alone, strangely you can find yourself in a relationship where you are so lonely anyway. It ends up being a relationshit not a ship where the two people grow in the same direction. You need to know what you want and what your expectations are and then discuss this with someone you are keen on or someone you've been with for a while but never spoke about it. Relationships can be rewarding or taxing so start with a relationship with yourself first, get to know who you are so when you find the one, you dont need to change for them, they dont just look at you but they really see you and celebrate you.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Absolutely, your comment hits the nail on the head. Relationships should indeed be a choice that adds value and growth to our lives, not a default status compelled by external pressures or the fear of loneliness. The distinction you've made between a 'relationshit' and a healthy, growth-oriented relationship is so important. Self-awareness and self-love set the foundation for any strong relationship. It's only when we truly understand and accept ourselves that we can create space for someone else to do the same. Having clear expectations and open communication are key components of a fulfilling partnership. Thank you for such a thoughtful and insightful comment. It's a powerful reminder that a relationship with oneself is the most crucial and defining one we'll ever have.
@Ben-kw8nb
@Ben-kw8nb 3 месяца назад
I am in 47 and I have never been in a serious long-term relationship and I am proud to say it, I on my 3rd trip to Europe this fall!!!
@dr.lisacooney5275
@dr.lisacooney5275 3 месяца назад
sounds like you are in a long term relationship with yourself...SELF LOVE is a relationship
@P.M.O.S.69
@P.M.O.S.69 11 месяцев назад
People get offended when you don't want to commit your life to them.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It's definitely a delicate situation when someone's expectations don't align with our own desires. Commitment is a significant step and it's important that it feels right for both parties involved. It's natural for some to feel hurt or disappointed if they're seeking a commitment that isn't reciprocated, but personal boundaries and honesty are crucial in these scenarios. Open and compassionate communication can sometimes help in addressing these differences, though it's not always easy. Everyone deserves to follow their own path when it comes to relationships, whether that involves commitment or not.
@vvolfflovv
@vvolfflovv Год назад
With so much relationship advice these days focused on what roles we are expected to play and our worthiness, I love that you instead focused on understanding ourselves.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney Год назад
we have to start with ourselves
@HamiltonRowan-r6z
@HamiltonRowan-r6z 10 месяцев назад
No, I absolutely don't want to be in a relationship! I prefer being on my own.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thanks for your candid response! It's great to hear from someone who has a clear understanding of their personal preferences. Embracing solitude and enjoying your own company is a strength not everyone possesses. It's important to do what feels right for you and to honor your preference for independence. Keep enjoying your freedom and the unique path you've chosen for yourself!
@HamiltonRowan-r6z
@HamiltonRowan-r6z 7 месяцев назад
@drlisacooney I didn't always feel this way, but after I reached a certain age, I had adjusted to being by myself, and I now enjoy my peace and solitude. Thank you for your comment and encouragement.
@1Skeptik1
@1Skeptik1 10 месяцев назад
Relationship? Psych 101: Women "marry" for resources. They are in the marriage and divorce for-profit business. No one explained that to me in my naive youth and my ignorance cost me considerably.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It sounds like you've had some tough experiences that have shaped your view on relationships and marriage. It's unfortunate when expectations don't match reality, and it can certainly lead to disillusionment. It's important to acknowledge that every individual's intentions and experiences are different, and it's equally important to find healing and understanding after such impactful events. I hope that you find peace and a path forward that brings you happiness, whatever that may look like for you.
@andyroyal4039
@andyroyal4039 10 месяцев назад
Av'e been in many relationship,and they all ended for some reason so now i dont want any, and am much better now..❤
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It's great to hear that you've found a sense of peace and contentment in your current situation. Life is a journey of experiences, and each relationship teaches us something valuable, even if it's not immediately apparent. Deciding to take time for yourself after a series of relationships is a personal choice that can lead to growth and self-discovery. Enjoy this period of your life where you can focus on your own well-being and happiness. Thank you for sharing your perspective, and may you continue to feel better and thrive on your own terms!
@alexlitill2315
@alexlitill2315 11 месяцев назад
I am allergic to man coming to my life. Male friends I like with no sexual and personal crossing boundaries. My boyfriends cheated on me, they are less successful and ambitious, I don't see why I should let them in my life. I was loyal and beautiful, hard working. Two relationships, two cheaters.
@ironman5511
@ironman5511 10 месяцев назад
Yep was married for 22 years and was cheated on. Then I dated 2 women after that and was cheated on.. been single for 8 years now
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
I'm truly sorry to hear about your unfortunate experiences with past relationships. It's disheartening when trust is broken, especially when you've given so much of yourself in terms of loyalty and effort. It's completely understandable to feel cautious about letting someone new into your life after being hurt. Boundaries are important, and it's vital to protect your emotional well-being. It's good that you've identified the type of relationships you are comfortable with, such as platonic friendships with clear boundaries. Remember that your worth is not defined by the actions of others. You deserve someone who respects and values you just as much as you do them. Thank you for being open about your experiences, and I hope you continue to find strength and happiness in the life you choose for yourself.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
@@ironman5511 It's incredibly disheartening to hear that you've experienced such betrayal, especially after so many years of commitment. Infidelity can leave deep scars and understandably affect how you approach relationships in the future. It's important to take the time you need to heal and to rebuild trust in others at your own pace. Being single can offer a valuable opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth. I hope that over the past 8 years, you've found solace and strength in your independence. Thank you for sharing something so personal, and may the years ahead bring you peace and happiness, in whatever form that may take for you.
@rangel6242
@rangel6242 7 месяцев назад
Unfortunately most men are only motivated by sex when it comes to women. I am a polygraph examiner and administer relationship tests almost everyday (for 18 years now). We wear several hats as examiners. Some things I have learned; women find sex to be a very emotional experience, whereas men most often do not. They just want to finish and go back to doing what they were doing before the event. Men are object people, women not so much. Men like their toys (tools, cars, bikes, weights, guns, etc). I believe the most important object in a woman’s life is often their wedding ring, as it has so much meaning to it. Men often think of women as an object as well. They want to be proud of you in family, social, and business environments. Thus the term “trophy wife.” Attractiveness, sexuality, non offensive, rich, etc… We tend to believe that our partner thinks and desires things the same way we do. The fact is, we don’t. Until both partners understand this, there will be problems. Couples should be socializing with other couples, vs single people. Single male friends tend to want to take the husband to bars strip clubs, etc…where trouble brews. A stay at home mom is a very tough job. Most husbands do not understand this either. After being peed, pooped and barfed on, refereeing fights, cleaning, laundry, school, doctors, cooking etc…most men still don’t understand the wife’s struggles, lack of sleep etc. A husband should come home from work and do these things which I believe are very important; ask her about her day, have physical contact such as a hug, kiss, hold her hand etc. Share your days experience with her. Ask her about her day. Involve her in their decision making. Date nights are important. Never ignore her! Help with the kids, dishes, shopping, etc. I ask all of my clients if they are doing these things and maybe one out of ten does. Men are for the most part sexist pigs. They like to brag about their sex life and body count. If a woman ever did this they would be frowned upon, in most instances. The invention of the cell phone brought a huge jump to the nations divorce rate. 70% + of all marriages wind up in divorce, with most leaving a path of destruction in everyone’s lives, especially the children. 25% or more of the population have incurable herpes, Add the other STD’s to this, and dating, cheating, etc., is a very risky gamble. I write this to you because your comment concerned me. You have been cheated on and as a result you may never trust a partner again. I feel the same way. However, life can be very hard as a single person, especially when we grow old. Who will help us when we get sick, and we certainly will. For me, the holidays are especially sad. Our DNA makeup is that of a social life form. We take care of ourselves, use makeup, wear cologne/perfume, keep our hair styled, where nice clothes, drive nice cars…etc., to attract the opposite sex. For some, we might do this because it’s required in our work environment. I’m sure there are times when you are envious of couples you come across as they seem so happy and engaged with each other, and this reminds you of the hole that is in your life. I find that most young attractive women go for “bad boys.” They seem to gravitate toward criminal, tattooed, hardly employed, drug using, reckless, self actuated losers. They find respectful professional men unattractive and boring. These women will likely find themselves single, with a kid and no father, destroyed credit, and unwanted in later years. My advice is to not grow old alone. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. I speak from experience both professionally and personally. Take care.
@rangel6242
@rangel6242 7 месяцев назад
Unfortunately most men are only motivated by sex when it comes to women. I am a polygraph examiner and administer relationship tests almost everyday (for 18 years now). We wear several hats as examiners. Some things I have learned; women find sex to be a very emotional experience, whereas men most often do not. They just want to finish and go back to doing what they were doing before the event. Men are object people, women not so much. Men like their toys (tools, cars, bikes, weights, guns, etc). I believe the most important object in a woman’s life is often their wedding ring, as it has so much meaning to it. Men often think of women as an object as well. They want to be proud of you in family, social, and business environments. Thus the term “trophy wife.” Attractiveness, sexuality, non offensive, rich, etc… We tend to believe that our partner thinks and desires things the same way we do. The fact is, we don’t. Until both partners understand this, there will be problems. Couples should be socializing with other couples, vs single people. Single male friends tend to want to take the husband to bars strip clubs, etc…where trouble brews. A stay at home mom is a very tough job. Most husbands do not understand this either. After being peed, pooped and barfed on, refereeing fights, cleaning, laundry, school, doctors, cooking etc…most men still don’t understand the wife’s struggles, lack of sleep etc. A husband should come home from work and do these things which I believe are very important; ask her about her day, have physical contact such as a hug, kiss, hold her hand etc. Share your days experience with her. Ask her about her day. Involve her in their decision making. Date nights are important. Never ignore her! Help with the kids, dishes, shopping, etc. I ask all of my clients if they are doing these things and maybe one out of ten does. Men are for the most part sexist pigs. They like to brag about their sex life and body count. If a woman ever did this they would be frowned upon, in most instances. The invention of the cell phone brought a huge jump to the nations divorce rate. 70% + of all marriages wind up in divorce, with most leaving a path of destruction in everyone’s lives, especially the children. 25% or more of the population have incurable herpes, Add the other STD’s to this, and dating, cheating, etc., is a very risky gamble. I write this to you because your comment concerned me. You have been cheated on and as a result you may never trust a partner again. I feel the same way. However, life can be very hard as a single person, especially when we grow old. Who will help us when we get sick, and we certainly will. For me, the holidays are especially sad. Our DNA makeup is that of a social life form. We take care of ourselves, use makeup, wear cologne/perfume, keep our hair styled, where nice clothes, drive nice cars…etc., to attract the opposite sex. For some, we might do this because it’s required in our work environment. I’m sure there are times when you are envious of couples you come across as they seem so happy and engaged with each other, and this reminds you of the hole that is in your life. I find that most young attractive women go for “bad boys.” They seem to gravitate toward criminal, tattooed, hardly employed, drug using, reckless, self actuated losers. They find respectful professional men unattractive and boring. These women will likely find themselves single, with a kid and no father, destroyed credit, and unwanted in later years. My advice is to not grow old alone. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. I speak from experience both professionally and personally. Take care.
@schnee78
@schnee78 11 месяцев назад
Yes. Relationships are massively overrated.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Everyone's experiences and perspectives are certainly unique, and it's clear you've given this some thought. Relationships can be complex and demanding, and they're not the ideal lifestyle choice for everyone. It's important that we each respect our individual needs and feelings on the matter. If you find greater value in independence and self-sufficiency, that's a completely valid approach to life. Thank you for sharing your stance, and I hope you continue to find contentment and fulfillment in the way you choose to live.
@nathanbarger3449
@nathanbarger3449 10 месяцев назад
Unfortunately all i have ever found is they are interested in you just as long as you serve a use or purpose for them. That is why I also don't have a lot of friends. Both most of women and men are very selfish and self centered. That is why I don't date anymore.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
I'm sorry to hear that your experiences with relationships and friendships haven't been fulfilling. It's tough when it feels like connections are conditional or based on utility rather than genuine affection and mutual respect. It's important to protect your well-being, and if stepping back from dating is what feels right for you, then it's a valid choice. Remember, it's okay to have a small circle of trusted friends or to take time for yourself. Hopefully, in the future, you might encounter people who align more closely with your values and who appreciate you for who you are. Thank you for opening up about your feelings, and take care as you navigate the path that's best for you.
@nathanbarger3449
@nathanbarger3449 7 месяцев назад
@@drlisacooney thank you for your kindness and understanding. I truly appreciate it. I am in the search for a job now. I hope to get one soon. And I am focusing on taking care of my beloved pets. And going to church to be around positive minded people. I wish you the best in 2024. Thanks and take care.
@rangel6242
@rangel6242 10 месяцев назад
Someone wiser than me once said “if you can live without a woman in your life you will be much better off.” I should have listened and never involved a woman in my life. Biggest regret ever was getting married. Now I’m divorced and and haven’t dated in 11 years. My life is so much better as a result.
@sharonmassey2923
@sharonmassey2923 9 месяцев назад
If I said the same about men, you would be offended, even though it is so very clearly the general truth. Like most men, I'm sure you haven't noticed the chronic avalanche of misogyny in every conceivable situation, every minute of every day.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It sounds like you've gone through some significant personal reflection and have come to a conclusion that works best for you. Life lessons often come from challenging experiences, and it's commendable that you've taken those lessons and used them to create a better life for yourself as you see it. Marriage and relationships can be deeply rewarding for some but aren't the path to happiness for everyone. Respecting your own needs and preferences is key to living a fulfilling life. I'm glad to hear that you've found contentment in your current circumstances. Thank you for sharing your journey; it's a valuable perspective for many who might be grappling with similar decisions.
@rangel6242
@rangel6242 7 месяцев назад
@@drlisacooney Thank you. Very surprised to hear this from you. Everyone else seems to think there is something seriously wrong with me. Lost many friends and family members as a result of my life style. I am self employed and keep busy seven days a week. This seems to work for me. Take care!
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
@@rangel6242 I appreciate your openness and honesty about your lifestyle choices. It's important to prioritize what brings you contentment and fulfillment, even if it means deviating from societal norms or facing criticism from others. It's clear that you've found a rhythm that works for you, and being self-employed and keeping busy can be a rewarding way to structure your life. It's unfortunate that some friends and family members may not understand or support your lifestyle, but ultimately, it's crucial to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. As long as you're content and fulfilled with how you're living, that's what matters most. Thank you for sharing your perspective, and I'm glad to hear that you've found a lifestyle that works for you. Take care, and continue to prioritize your own happiness and satisfaction in all that you do!
@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls 11 месяцев назад
Happy singles day 11/11. All relationships are unstable. Stay single stay happy. Marriage is a defunct institution.
@schnee78
@schnee78 11 месяцев назад
💯
@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls 11 месяцев назад
@@schnee78 💯✅🙏
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It's a day that celebrates the choice to be single and the happiness that can come from it. Your perspective on relationships and marriage is shared by many who find contentment and stability in their independence. It's important to respect and validate all life choices, whether they involve being in a partnership or embracing the single life. Thank you for sharing your viewpoint, and may you continue to find joy and fulfillment in your personal path.
@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls 7 месяцев назад
@@drlisacooney Ours is a singles group for 40+, all never married and we all are very happy.
@sladewilson377
@sladewilson377 5 месяцев назад
@@Ahmedabad-Single-Soulsye it’s crazy as to how much modern society hypes it up
@douglaidlaw740
@douglaidlaw740 9 месяцев назад
Couples in arranged marriages say to themselves, "Well, here we are. Let's make it work." For the first fortnight, they do not have sex. They use the time to get to know one another.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Arranged marriages certainly have a different dynamic from love-based marriages, and they can offer a unique perspective on building a partnership. The approach of taking time to understand and appreciate one another before advancing the relationship can be a strong foundation for some couples. It's a reminder that there are many ways to develop a connection and that each culture or individual may have different methods of making a relationship work. Respect, communication, and a willingness to grow together are common threads in successful marriages, whether arranged or not. Thank you for bringing up this point; it's an interesting aspect of relationships that underscores the diversity of human experiences in forming bonds.
@waterbug1135
@waterbug1135 10 месяцев назад
Comes down to boredom. If you're bored you're likely a boring person. You will seek a more exciting person to end your boredom. You will then do everything possible to compromise your exciting partner into being bored. "Hey, let's move to India!" "Are you crazy?" The exciting person cannot entertain a boring person. Smart boring people look for other boring people so they can sit at home, watch TV, eat and discuss things they don't want to do. Seriously, those couples look very happy to me. If you're never bored relationships are always a problem. Endless compromise. It's horrible. The only way around this issue imo is Living Alone Apart. That way at least in your home you can do as you please. The boring person gets plenty of time in front of the TV and when they want to do something there's more pressure on them to try something new or exciting. In separate quarters it's easier for the exciting person to say "no". When you live together a "no" often get's pouting, cold shoulder and other manipulation you can't escape very easily. When apart the bored person can pout all they want alone. Win-win.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Your comment provides an interesting perspective on the dynamics of compatibility and personal fulfillment within relationships. It's true that people have different levels of energy, interests, and ideas about what constitutes an engaging life, and these differences can impact relationship satisfaction. The concept of 'Living Apart Together' (LAT) that you've mentioned is indeed becoming a more recognized lifestyle choice for couples who wish to maintain their independence while still being in a committed relationship. This arrangement can provide the space needed for individuals to pursue their own interests without feeling the pressure to conform to their partner's lifestyle. It's important for each person to understand their own needs and seek out partners who align with their values and way of living, whether that means finding someone with a similar disposition or negotiating the right amount of independence within the relationship. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on how different personalities might navigate relationships and the potential benefits of maintaining separate living spaces. It's a valuable contribution to the conversation about how to sustain personal happiness while in a partnership.
@SerendipityInTheSky
@SerendipityInTheSky 3 месяца назад
What if your response to someone is like oatmeal… you don’t really want it, it’s not super satisfying and you’re still hungry after but you know that it’s good for you and it’s what you’re supposed to eat as an adult
@dr.lisacooney5275
@dr.lisacooney5275 2 месяца назад
i hear you...yet what i don't hear is your choice....you have a choice. supposed to is not choice...it's an obligation...just start with yourself...and what works for you...choose more than oatmeal for yourself and then see how you might apply that to your life and any friendships or other relationships you may wish to create...
@Myriako
@Myriako 2 года назад
Thank you for this video ! 😊🌹
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
You're very welcome! I'm so glad to hear that you found the video helpful. It's always rewarding to know that the content resonates with viewers. If you have any specific aspects of the video that you found particularly interesting or if there are topics you'd like to see discussed in future videos, feel free to share. Your feedback is invaluable. Thanks again for taking the time to comment, and don't forget to subscribe for more discussions like this one!
@douglaidlaw740
@douglaidlaw740 9 месяцев назад
A relationship needs to be with the right person. I believe that the couple is the default condition. A failure is simply an experience you can learn from, like any other. At 29, I had no prior experience deserving of the name. My parents were not demonstrative. I was starting to feel lonely in bed, and couldn't understand why. Then I met my perfect match. We recently celebrated our 52nd anniversary. The man who married one of my daughters noticed her at work and said to himself "That is the girl I want to marry." The two sexes have different skills, and a balanced household needs both. Sex needs to be in the equation, and so does love.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Congratulations on your 52nd anniversary! That's a remarkable milestone and a testament to the deep connection and partnership you've built with your significant other. Your story is a beautiful example of how finding the right person can change one's life and perspective on relationships. It certainly highlights that while some may see relationships as overrated, for others, they are the very foundation of a fulfilling life. You've touched on several important elements that contribute to a successful and balanced relationship: compatibility, learning from experiences, the complementary nature of partners, and the significance of both love and physical intimacy. Every relationship is unique, and it's clear that you've found a formula that works wonderfully for you and your family. Your comment gives hope to those who may be questioning the value of relationships or are still searching for their perfect match. Thank you for sharing your heartwarming experience, and may you have many more happy years together!
@elainecolling6883
@elainecolling6883 11 месяцев назад
SOMETIMES THEY ARENT WORTH ANYTHING THE OTHER PERSON CAN BE DIFFICULT OR SELFISH IF THEY MAKE AGREEMENTS AND THEN DEFAULT 😮😮😮😮😮
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It sounds like you've had some challenging experiences that have influenced your view on the value of relationships. When trust is broken or agreements aren't honored, it can definitely lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment. Relationships should ideally be built on mutual respect, understanding, and a willingness to work together. If one party is consistently difficult or selfish, it can undermine the entire foundation of the partnership. It's important to have clear boundaries and to communicate openly about expectations. Thank you for sharing your perspective, and I hope that moving forward, you encounter situations that reaffirm the positive aspects of connecting with others, in whatever form that may be best for you.
@daniqtpy647
@daniqtpy647 10 месяцев назад
Either I'm single or in a relationship casual = pain for me
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It sounds like you have a clear understanding of what you need from your personal connections, and it's important to honor that. Casual relationships aren't for everyone; they can lead to misunderstandings and hurt if both people aren't on the same page emotionally. It's great that you recognize what works for you and what doesn't. Whether you choose to be single or pursue a more committed relationship, making choices that align with your emotional well-being is key. Thanks for sharing your perspective, and may you find the type of connection that brings you joy and avoids pain.
@thessamariedelapena6587
@thessamariedelapena6587 11 месяцев назад
Makes Sense. I'm contemplating if I made the right decision. And your message says Yes! 🥰
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
I'm really glad to hear that the video affirmed your thoughts and helped you in your contemplation. Decisions about relationships can be some of the most personal and complex we make, so it's important to listen to your inner voice and trust your judgment. Remember, what's right for you may evolve over time, and that's completely okay. Keep reflecting and staying true to yourself. Thank you for sharing how the message resonated with you, and I wish you all the best on your journey!
@matttomlin4331
@matttomlin4331 11 месяцев назад
Do you think that you would have reached this point without having relationships beforehand? Do people need to try them first?
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Your question touches on a very interesting aspect of personal growth and self-discovery. For many, direct experience is a key way to learn about oneself and understand what one truly wants from life, including whether or not a relationship is desirable or fulfilling. Relationships can serve as a mirror, reflecting aspects of ourselves that we might not otherwise see, and can teach us valuable lessons about love, compromise, and what we value most. However, it's also true that some individuals may have a strong sense of self and clarity about their preferences without needing to enter into relationships. They might observe the relationships around them or rely on introspection to determine that a solitary life is more suited to their personality and goals. In essence, whether someone needs to try being in a relationship can vary greatly from person to person. Some might find that experience is necessary to reach a conclusion, while others might reach the same understanding through different means. Thank you for raising such a thought-provoking question. It's important to remember that each person's journey is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all answer to whether one 'needs' to try relationships before deciding if they're right for them.
@michaelbing8991
@michaelbing8991 10 месяцев назад
In short, no.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thanks for your straightforward response. It's clear that you've considered the question and concluded that relationships might not be something you're interested in pursuing. It's important to know what you want and to be comfortable with that decision. If you ever feel like sharing more about your perspective or experiences, feel free to do so. In any case, I hope you find fulfillment and happiness in the path that you've chosen for yourself.
@esteban1487
@esteban1487 8 месяцев назад
Not really no
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Hey there! Thanks for sharing your perspective. It's interesting to see that some people resonate with the idea that relationships might not be for everyone. It's essential to recognize what brings us fulfillment, whether that's in companionship or solitude. If you're comfortable sharing, I'd love to hear more about your experiences or thoughts that have led you to this conclusion. Either way, your input is valuable and appreciated!
@jaywalks9918
@jaywalks9918 6 месяцев назад
Why would you not communicate your needs, ask what the other person's needs are, and see if they match? This "yes", "no" approach makes no sense since you don't know the person's deeper values.
@omgwind5217
@omgwind5217 9 месяцев назад
Imagine spending your entire life being wrong then after that still decide to continue being wrong
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It sounds like you're expressing the challenge of recognizing when we've made mistakes and the difficulty in changing course. It's human nature to struggle with acknowledging when we're wrong, especially regarding significant life decisions like those involving relationships. Growth often involves reflection and the willingness to adapt, which can be a tough but rewarding process. If you're referring to the content of the video, it's important to remember that we all have the power to re-evaluate our choices and make changes that align with our true selves. Thank you for your comment, and I hope that we all find the courage to make the right decisions for our lives, even if it means admitting past mistakes and moving forward in a new direction.
@shmoopiebear
@shmoopiebear 9 месяцев назад
Often, the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
That's a succinct way of putting it. Relationships do require effort and sometimes the return doesn't seem to match the investment we put in. It's great that you're evaluating the cost-benefit aspect of relationships, as it's an important part of understanding what you truly want and need. Whether you decide to pursue relationships or focus on other areas of your life, the key is to do what feels right for you. Thanks for sharing your perspective-it's a valuable reminder that not every investment yields worthwhile dividends, and it's up to each individual to decide what they're willing to 'squeeze' for.
@Simba88242
@Simba88242 9 месяцев назад
Amazing
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
I'm thrilled to hear that you found the video amazing! It's always great to know when content resonates with someone. If you have any thoughts or questions about the topic, feel free to share them. Your engagement is truly appreciated. And if you enjoyed this video, stay tuned for more. Thanks again for your positive feedback!
@shmoopiebear
@shmoopiebear 7 месяцев назад
People could learn a lot about relationships and human evolution reading the book or watching the movie Dune. The struggle is real.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
It's fascinating to consider how works of fiction like Frank Herbert's 'Dune' can offer insights into human behavior, relationships, and societal structures. While 'Dune' is a science fiction story set in a distant future with complex political and ecological themes, at its core, it also explores the nature of power, loyalty, family, and survival-all of which are relevant to understanding human relationships and evolution. The intricate dynamics between characters in 'Dune' can indeed reflect the struggles present in real-life relationships, such as the challenges of leadership, the influence of cultural and familial expectations, and the navigation of personal desires versus the greater good. Thank you for bringing up 'Dune' as a resource for thought-provoking ideas about human nature and relationships. Whether through books or their film adaptations, stories have a way of mirroring our realities and provoking deep contemplation about the human condition. Your comment is a reminder of the value that literature and art have in adding depth to our understanding of the world and ourselves.
@shmoopiebear
@shmoopiebear 7 месяцев назад
@@drlisacooney Thank you. The most subversive prevailing and underlying concept was the subject of psychedelics. And the source of that psychedelic was obsessively harvesting the remnants from something biological in decay. Being analogous to the pagan origins of nascent human civilization. The whole existence and persistence of the empire of the known universe was contingent on that spice. Even the water of life was analogous to spirits. Creativity, innovation, transhumanism, metaphysics, philosophy, existentialism, religion, pedigree, and of course science was all dependent on the visions and insights from narcotic bliss.
@HughButler-lb6zs
@HughButler-lb6zs 10 месяцев назад
Pizza is not food. It is very unhealthy. So, some of your choices are not very smart.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Pizza certainly can be indulgent, and like many foods, its health impact can vary widely depending on the ingredients and how it's prepared. While some might consider it an occasional treat rather than a staple of a balanced diet, others might enjoy it regularly with more health-conscious toppings and crust options. It's always good to be mindful of our food choices and strive for a diet that supports our individual health and well-being. Thanks for sharing your perspective on food and smart choices; it's a good reminder that we all have different standards and preferences when it comes to nutrition.
@AldermanFredCDavis
@AldermanFredCDavis 7 месяцев назад
Nobody has EVER liked YOU for YOU (as opposed to what they perceive that you can do for them) since you were in Kindergarten. Everything else is about what you will buy them, how they will look on your arm, access to people, places, and things. It's difficult to accept. With TV (Disneyfication of relationships) and media portrayals that anyone 50 and under have been subject to, relationships SEEM like a great thing.......in theory.........until you consider (or block out) the reality that most relationships, with most people, fail, most of the time.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
I'm sorry to hear that you feel this way. It can be incredibly painful to believe that relationships are transactional or based on superficial benefits rather than genuine affection and connection. It's important to remember that while some people may have had these negative experiences, not all relationships are grounded in self-interest. There are people who value others for who they are, not just for what they can provide. It's also true that sometimes social dynamics can be complex and influenced by various factors, but at the core of any healthy relationship should be mutual respect, appreciation, and care. It can be challenging to find these kinds of genuine connections, and it's understandable to feel disheartened. However, it's worth holding onto the belief that authentic relationships do exist and that it's possible to be valued for your true self. It may take time and effort to find the right people who appreciate you for you, but they are out there. In the meantime, focusing on self-love and surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family can make a world of difference. Thank you for expressing your feelings on this matter. It's a difficult topic, and if you ever find yourself needing support or someone to talk to, don't hesitate to seek out friends, family, or professional help.
@KevinPierce-r2d
@KevinPierce-r2d 4 месяца назад
Definitely overrated.I feel more free being single
@ziegunerweiser
@ziegunerweiser 6 месяцев назад
ask yourself are these the words of a loving nurturing mother ? strong independent modern women are men I'm not trying to date a man I'd rather be alone than settle and deal with the games, entitlement, and attempts to manipulate
@MrFastFarmer
@MrFastFarmer 9 месяцев назад
Yeah, I seriously love chocolate... but it never does my health any good.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Chocolate certainly has that irresistible appeal for many of us, and it's understandable that you love it! Moderation is key, as with many indulgent foods. Dark chocolate, in particular, can offer some health benefits when consumed in small amounts, such as antioxidants. It's all about finding the right balance that works for your health and enjoyment. Thank you for sharing your love for chocolate, and I hope you can continue to enjoy it in a way that feels good for both your taste buds and your well-being!
@shmoopiebear
@shmoopiebear 7 месяцев назад
People need to read anything by Sir John Bagot Glubb to see where we heading in the next civilization cycle. If not that, then Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. They give a bigger picture of where relationships the way they are going will end up for our species.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thank you for bringing up Sir John Bagot Glubb and Ayn Rand as resources for understanding societal trends and the potential future of relationships within the context of civilization cycles. Glubb's theories on the life cycle of empires and Rand's philosophical exploration of individualism and collectivism certainly provide food for thought on how societal shifts can impact personal relationships and the structure of communities. It's valuable to consider historical patterns and philosophical arguments when discussing the evolution of societal norms, including relationships. Whether one agrees with these perspectives or not, they can offer a broader context for understanding current trends. I appreciate your suggestion and the invitation for others to engage with these works. It's always beneficial to have a diverse array of insights when contemplating complex issues like the future of relationships and the direction of our species. If you have any particular insights from these authors that you find especially relevant, please feel free to share.
@shmoopiebear
@shmoopiebear 7 месяцев назад
@@drlisacooney You're welcome. I am still struggling and conflicted with whether nihilism, in it's various flavors and shades, will reign. Or, if it will be another form of neo - paganism. It looks like even religion is making a comeback. Although it's new incarnation is steeped in materialism and consumerism. If not tithes and the worship of Mammon. Perhaps even a form of functional objectivism based on myriads of currency and barter. Perhaps under such ideologies will galvanize new forms of clan and tribe, if not allies and associations. Someone much smarter than me once said you can't separate the spiritual from the material. Whether there is any way to reconcile the two has yet to be seen. Or, perhaps it already has and is hiding in plain sight.
@CornellSandifer
@CornellSandifer 10 месяцев назад
"Are relationships worth it" too whom! a man doesn't receive any monetary benefit, the liabilities of a relationship are more pronounced for the man, men like emotional stability! good luck getting that in a relationship, men like consistency, no chance of that in a relationship today, men want mental harmony in a woman, that will take a number of prescriptions, are relationships worth it? doesn't look promising.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thank you for voicing your concerns regarding the challenges men can face in relationships. It's clear that you feel there are significant risks and potential downsides that men must consider when entering into a partnership, including emotional and financial implications. While relationships do indeed come with responsibilities and can be complex, they also have the potential to offer emotional support, companionship, and shared joy. It's also worth noting that successful and harmonious relationships are often based on mutual respect, open communication, and shared values, which can transcend the difficulties you've mentioned. Nevertheless, your feelings highlight the importance of individual preferences and the need for a careful, personal assessment before committing to a relationship. Everyone's experiences and desires are different, and it's essential for each person to evaluate what they seek in a partnership and whether the potential rewards outweigh the perceived costs. I appreciate your perspective, and it's a reminder that whether or not relationships are worth it is a deeply personal question, and the answer can vary widely from one person to another. It's my hope that everyone can find the path that best aligns with their needs, whether that involves being in a relationship or choosing to remain single.
@tile82
@tile82 8 месяцев назад
This is a real weird video. A lot of editing has happened. Not very pleasant to follow at all.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thank you for taking the time to provide your feedback on the video. I'm sorry to hear that you found the editing distracting and that it detracted from your viewing experience. Constructive criticism is always appreciated as it helps to improve the content for future videos. If you have any specific suggestions on how the editing could be improved or what you would prefer to see, please let me know. Your input is valuable, and I'll certainly take it into consideration moving forward. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.
@BlackLion76
@BlackLion76 9 месяцев назад
Hope this old woman enjoys her dog.
@drlisacooney
@drlisacooney 7 месяцев назад
Thank you for your comment. It's important to respect everyone's choices in how they find happiness and companionship. For some, the unconditional love and loyalty of a pet can be incredibly fulfilling. I hope that everyone, regardless of their age or situation, finds joy in the company they choose to keep, whether it's with pets, friends, family, or partners. Wishing well to all who find contentment in the various forms of love and companionship life has to offer.
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