Are You A Bad Wife? 10 Ways to Know 

Pray for her. Pray for transformation and freedom.

The good women who don't need to evaluate themselves will, the ones who actually need it, won't.

Hide in the bathroom and lock the door. 😂

@@jimjohnson394now that’s damn true. The ones that DONT need it can see this and be like “yup, maybe I could be a little better about ___” but the ones that really need it will lose it

@@amikkelsen LOL. More like exorcism

Why the 19th was wrong, and forever will be

Some will, and feel ashamed of their actions. Mine did

@@JamesMorris1301 u might wanna check if she has a twig & balls down there lmao

@@JamesMorris1301but did she change for the better or double down in feminism?

@@Fred-ff6bv she became the women I fell in love with 31 years ago.. I am having a great retirement

Likely? Assuredly, they cannot be fixed.

I confirm

Can confirm, life ruined. "Living" in my brother's games room at the moment. Everything I worked towards gone, children used against me.

@@DodgyTodger Go find another woman, simple!

@@DodgyTodgerGod bless you! Keep alive and hope you achieve success.

Lucky guy you are!

Yes, there are good marriages too.

Man, are you lucky!

She's one in a million

Sorry to hear that. I am not married. But did witness similar things from my parent's marriage. My mom always had to criticize every little thing my dad did. I never felt free in our home. I was always walking on eggshells. I prefered to be in my bedroom or outside the house. You can never make a woman happy. She always has to be right. Even when you try to explain why you are doing something a certain way. It is very emasculating

@@CharlieBravo887best to just rent.

Consult with all of the best lawyers in a 100 mile radius, then choose the best.

I would be satisfied with the fact that you made your own meal and i didn’t’t have to.

You have been watching me.

Way to go young lady!

then you are in the 2% who take her advice seriously... She herself talked about the percentage of women who watch her channel and draw conclusions for themselves. It makes most women angry

How rare you are.

I Wish you the best!

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​@@CharlieBravo887that's a lesson I learned through the school of hard knocks

It's not your fault

@@edsmith2503 thank you!

She is not teaching the children to honor their father. Unbeknownst to her, by default, she teachings the children to not honor her

@@ColemanOutdoors see a lawyer asap.

@@TRUTHandLIGHT4809 I agree.

You should never barter for her to be a good wife. Buy me a house and I will be a better wife. She should want to do that for you to make you happy if she truly loves you.🤷

@@avishill8613 Good lluck with that.

Thank her for marrying you and thank her for leaving you! Case closed! I did it!One small problem: she wants her yard boy back! IT AIN'T HAPPENING! NO WAY!

Perfect freedom no matter the cost.

@@racebannon96 Man I envy your situation, if only mine would do the same, same story….. except house isn’t modest, my income allows it though. Mine won’t leave, and definitely won’t leave her only supply that still believers her ( our daughter is too young to know any better ), instead she’s doubled down on the unacceptable behavior. I am assuming in an attempt to make me so miserable I leave her, then she can retain her victim status and narrative that I’m the bad person , the problem. Her family loves me as they should, I put up with a lot and they know it, I work hard so she can be a stay at home mom ( big mistake), I show them the same respect I show my family, I’m Christian and conservative. If she were to leave me she would catch hell from her family….. her one weakness, her mother’s judgment. So I pretty much have all the time I need to put together a game plan, get things in order before I make any moves. It’s just a matter of putting up with some wretched behavior here and there. Back to the start of this comment though: Man I envy you, that was the best you could have hoped for. I wish you good luck and a happy life

That was an all time dead on movie quote!

@RexJacobus-bb1vw I love that quote...

that's the definition of a LOSER - hmm - what does this tell you about women ... ?

12. Takes advantage of your kindness.

They are blind to anything about themselves.. Try sending this to her and let me know how it goes

Yes she would BUT YOU caused it! lol

Im honestly shocked and equally impressed that someone who has work to do found her way to this video and admitted responsibility. A very, very solid props to you. And ALSO that goes to show how bad the climate is where everyone in society expects half of society to not be responsible and is okay with it....

I wish you could tell mine how you think.

@@hyronharrison8127 thank You I just dont want to lose my husband and end up alone I know hes a good man

I was RED pilled 😮

@@erikaahello0880 im glad you're here! You've found the secret before it was too late! Many dont make it this far this soon!

My ex-wife divorced me to join the same team😂

yup!

They just DONT KNOW HOW TO BE A PARTNER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I seen these warning signs early, and forcing the exit now, so I don't follow years or decades of the same journey. Hang in there tough, you tried, now the rest is for you.

@kenpresley45, Place duct tape over the rearview mirrors, put your life back in drive and stand on pedal. Never look back. I was there and it was a rough road I tell ya. But this is my best advice. I'll NEVER comingle my assets nor my life with a marriage EVER again. There's no upside, ever. God speed on your healing brother.

@Archangel I've thought the same as this, but not going to say that. Counseling went with shes not wrong and to stay there for myself only to find i was right for a change lol. I'm starting to think that the good Book is right about we arent all called to be married because of burning in my heart for physicality!

You said it move on!Mine was 25 years and she initiated the D and looking back I couldn't imagine the rest of my life with her!

Shortly after the wife left us, I went to my church for "counseling." I briefly was able to advise the associate pastor on what was happening. He kept talking about Reconciliation with her. When I finally got the chance to talk, I told him that I do not want to reconcile with her. I advised the pastor that she was hateful and trying to destroy me. And that I no longer knew who she was. I left there more frustrated than before I got there. I got the divorce done as quickly as possible.

@@racebannon96 You did the right move! Wasting your time with them they think they are 'Godly' but telling you to reconcile! You did with yourself! Get another woman....

It's all gaslighting. The only ones who changed are the women. It has happened with every relationship I have ever been in. Women will usually start off being pleasant and easy going. They will let you take the lead. But after a few weeks, they slowly begin to find ways to control you. The first thing they always do is begin to look for flaws. They will begin to criticize certain things you do. They will judge you and make you feel bad about yourself because you are content with your current life situation. They will begin to make you question yourself and your lifestyle, the way you dress, your hobbies, how you spend your free time. Then they will begin to use guilt to manipulate you. They will say that you don't message them or call them enough. They will say that you don't take them out enough. Life is so much peaceful without a woman. The thing I have learned from women is: If you want to attract a woman, you have to become a liar. You have to try to become something you are not. You have to pretend to be charming and smooth and always confident. You have to pretend that you care about money and acquiring wealth. You have to pretend that you care about romance, or having long talks on the phone, or sharing personal stuff. Anytime I go out with a woman, I start to get annoyed because she will begin to ask lots of personal questions- as if to find flaws- and she will act as if she is superior to you.

"complain I wasn’t the guy I was when we first started dating" Got this sentiment from the wife. I am the same guy and am reacting accordingly to the situation.

hmu 😅

@@fleshvessel6193 😂🙈thank you Sir, I’m in South Africa lol.

​@@Bernicemaboko that explains a lot...for example why you're watching this video in the first place!

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A wise man would not have a wife.

*Cowardly man

Absolutely hilarious!

The wife dumped every responsibility and chore on me including me taking care of our kids. She left us after 10 years. It is the gift that keeps on giving.

Consider leaving. You can only control your own actions.

If you know she isn't going to change, then to work on yourself you have to take the responsibility for your choice to stay with her. It is difficult, trust me I am living it.

@@joelpagliaro5271 I lived it, the kids were educated & grown . I want the person i was designed to be with .She is the coolest woman i have ever known we have been friends for over 10 years .I should have told her years ago ,she knows and feels the same .I just need to make it official with her!

If you go through a divorce with your controlling wife, it will be painful at times, but you will be relieved when it is done. She will have to find someone else to control and that will not be your problem.

@@racebannon96 BINGO! MOVE ON BE A MAN ABOUT IT!

Amazing how we become a black hole absorbing all the animosity. It makes no sense until you remember that bullies choose their target.

Needle in a needle stack... If you win the lottery, be grateful. Good for you. Over 50% of first marriages fail. Subsequent marriages increasingly fail also. Of the less than 50% that don't outright fail, how many are men just holding it together at their own expense? I'm sure there are lucky people out there. I am sure it takes work too, but the signs of the times were written about. It isn't good.

Great job glad you have a good one, keep going!

Don't be complacent though. I have a good wife too (married 20 years). Still, you have to work to improve things as you go along. Learn how to resolve conflicts, go to church regularly, be attractive, have kids, throw away the TV, take her out on date nights, etc.

Or she's just lying to you

She may be good for now. I highly doubt it will remain but I'm happy for you if it does. Cherish her as long as it lasts bro.

Your wife never apologizes because she's not sorry for what she did or she intended to do it. Women have appointed themselves judge, jury, and executioner, which is why, in their judgment, they never do anything wrong and why you can never do anything right. Be strong and best of luck.

I agree with your observation. But the word you're looking for is "our".

Your boyfriend is a lucky man.

I love that man, he’s my first and hopefully last 💕☺️

@@LunakieCherrie Stop the nagging. That helps.

Give him a big non sexual hug, and apologize. Say "I was wrong, and this is why"

This, alone, is such a huge first step. You are better than you think; or, at least, have such amazing potential. Very few of us are right and good at the beginning. Being able and willing to change and improve will not only help yourself, but it will enable him to do the same at the drop of a hat. Best of luck. Don't give up!

Further, there is confusion about patriarchy. It is not about suppressing women. It is about suppressing everything that is feminine. There is a huge difference there. All men and women have masculine and feminine qualities. See the definitions of yin and yang, for example, from Taoism. In the I Ching, the dominance of the masculine over the feminine is a condition of sickness. That's what we have today, since at least the ancient Greeks in 600 BC. The masculine and feminine energies have equal value. They must cooperate to have the dance at all. Thus, it falls on us to identify that which is feminine and that which is masculine and tailor our attitudes and beliefs to equally support both and not suppress, repress or otherwise incumber either of them. For example, a lot of modern feminism is about supporting the masculine side of women (equal work for equal pay, equal access to education, equal treatment before the law, etc.), which is fine, but it misses the fact that women are usually innately more feminine than masculine. Men value feminine women more than masculine ones, typically. We are turned on by feminine women, but not so much by masculine ones. Thus, to identify that which is feminine means accepting that our emotions have equal value to our intellect, for example. Our intuition, inspiration, and imagination have equal value to our ability to think logically. For most people, this is nonsense. They don't consider anything emotional, or intuitive, to be of any value at all. That is where patriarchy is really found. It's in the degradation of feminine expressions, such as intuition, emotion, inspiration and imagination. We disdain children because of their emotions and imagination, for example. We tell them that the ghost they are seeing in their bedroom is not real, when in fact the ghost is completely real and is merely a deceased person. That's how deep patriarchy is in our culture.

What I have learned is that emotions don't have to be regulated, or controlled, as taught by the business gurus when they discuss the importance of emotional intelligence. They don't have to be put into a box, and they don't have to be suppressed in any way. What I have found is that emotions are like any other art form: the more you practice it, the better you become at expressing them. Further, the more I grieve, the less many thoughts from other people bother me. So, since emotion is a feminine quality, the idea that emotions need to be controlled and regulated is just more patriarchy. It's a judgement that emotions can become "out of control" when the entire idea of being in control is a masculine trait. The thing about emotions is that they exist in an entirely different universe. There is no such thing as a right or a wrong emotion. There is not such thing as a true of a false one either. Those terms don't apply to emotion. Not only that, emotion is mute. It doesn't use words like the logical mind. Thus, when we feel emotion, it is that part of us that is commenting on what is going on right now. Thoughts do not stimulate emotion. Think of it instead as two people, one is emotion and the other is logic. Logic goes "yadda yadda yadda" and emotion stimulates a feeling as commentary on what logic is saying.

Hm. I went the other way and closed down. When we talk, we sound like coworkers or strangers in the checkout line. Fine w/ me.

@@VinceA-jq6ds yeah, that’s generally the next stage after you give up trying. After you have no more fucks to give.

No the absolute best most ridiculous thing my wife has let out of her mouth that was almost so wrong it was comical. He would complain about how her sisters were demanding and how they expect this or that. And back story she’s still bitching about things I’ve done 10 years ago and when I complain she says “well i dealt with it for years, you can’t handle a few months!?!” So she’s talking about her sisters and I say why don’t you speak up and put them in their place, her infamous line is “you know life’s to short I don’t don’t care I just let it go I’m not gonna hold a grudge life’s too short”. So. My reply was “ So you let everything go and hold no grudges or hard feelings with everyone BUT ME! Huh!?)” I swear b I shoulda’ve been a prosecutor cause when I corner her and she doesn’t like having her wrongs and lies pointed out “ her new line “ I don’t feel like answering questions right now!?”””” Lolololol. Holy cow. Imagine if I had used that phrase during one of her cross examinations. Hopefully someone can see the irony in it hopefully I laid it out in a good dialogue bb

Mine likes to keep score. My score is always zero. IDGAF.

@@VinceA-jq6dsAnd mine likes to bring up stuff from my distant past while discussing a topic. I won't say what, but years ago, I had this belief in something, but as I matured, I change my mind about it. However, that does not seem to matter to her. She still thinks I believe as I did at first. Of course, I told her to stick to the current topic and leave my past out of it. I never bring up her errors to anyone.

Good wife.

Strange isn't it? They will say it's their "right" because they control their body. But if they then demand their husband stay faithful, they are demanding to control their husband's body as well. Demanding to control someone s*xually without their consent is abuse.

Same

Mine hates being wrong and will do some amazing mental gymnastics to be right. For a time, every time I was right she would badger with, "Don't you get tired of being right?", "Right again, must get boring." and other such nonsense. Told her she might want to be glad she has a guy who knows what he is on about and leverage that for us. Boy, did I get a look!

Not worth arguing about, surely!

I see you met my soon to be ex wife.

This is how it should be. Very good of you both.

Right, I was thinking, asking a spouse on a decision isn't necessarily one controlling the other, it's respect that a lot of decisions affected both partners and should be made jointly.

How it should be unless a snap decision needs to be made. If you have that kind of relationship my guess you already know what your spouses answer would be anyway.

To add another sad truth to your comment: a fair amount of good women/wives go to really insecure and weak men. I've seen it numerous times - a sweet young woman who is conscientious and a little naive who got swept up by a predatory guy who was full of insecurities, jealousy, and weakness. But, the guy knew how to prey on naive women, or the women became infatuated with him over a superficial quality, like the status of his job or that he was older. It's always sad to see. One guy swooped up a beautiful kind girl I knew, took her away from her parents, left the state, and got her fat and knocked up, which means totally dependent on him and helpless in another state. He was a food delivery driver and was pudgy, too, lol. My brother is a terribly insecure guy who lied to everyone most of his life about being in a gang, being an alcoholic, being in prison, and bear hunting (lol) just to be seen as cool. Of course, he was rewarded with a dotting, young, inexperienced, sweet wife who had his kid. Life is just ridiculous often times, haha. Finding a good partner is just an enormous amount of luck! You can be the most awesome man, but it doesn't mean you'll necessarily meet a decent woman.

Didn't you say "yes" followed by "I do"? I'm not unsympathetic, because, I, too, walked into a biological buzzsaw, but we really do need to take agency for our actions.

NO not at all thats not how a mothere responds!

Gotta throw in woke buzz words, be "inclusive". 🤪 Ugh

@@yesterdayseyes I was thinking of males, friends and co-workers. And I think you would enjoy benefits just like me if the people you describe followed the values exposed in this video.