Are you a trustworthy person? Ask a Psychopath 

I think he's basically saying he has no "moral compass" but is able to adhere to certain behaviours that he knows are socially representative of trust (eg: punctuality). I know a psychopath who is undiagnosed, if he was I suspect he would not be a borderline case. He is obsessively punctual, and obsessively adheres to certain behaviours that "represent" trustworthiness to others - but clearly the internal moral compass is completely absent

-are you trustworthy? -10 mins later *Always* there and stuff

He reeeally danced around that one. The answer is no.

A person who is trustworthy will not take 5 minutes to answer a simple question.

This guy is a renowned neuroanatomist with decades of experience, who pals around with psychologists professionally. It always amazes me how many armchair experts pop up beneath his videos and start trying to correct him; "Actually technically I think he means...", "Actually he's not a psychopath because...", "Actually according to the DSM-5..." I feel like whatever you're about to say, he probably already knows.

3:30 - There are no 'tells' because they don't feel guilt or remorse about anything. This makes psychopaths so believable!

He has no idea what trust actually means ...

So basically you can trust him to be on time and be where he says he is and mostly tell the truth. He plays by “the rules” so in a way that most people follow these rules most of the time so does he. What you cant trust is that he wont do anything to cause you harm in a situation where it would be a grey area in the rules or he will gain something he wants because he doesnt have the ability to consider your feelings. Sounds like most people honestly.

So in short the answer is no 😂

1:40 where he says he interprets them saying, "I can't trust you" to really mean them saying, "I can't trust myself with you" is spot on.

Would be cool to interview his family

I'm pretty upfront, don't trust me, and im only dealing with you because you are useful. Hopefully you benefit, because i will.

He takes over 4 minutes to evade the question in every possible way all while smiling. "You can Trust me" -Every Psychopath

I appreciate him explaining the gray area and concepts of it. You really would have to dictate what you feel is trustworthy; is it just being reliable and competent, is it being able to tell someone something in confidence, or is it feeling like you can believe the info you're given without feeling like it's a lie and your being tricked. Many of these things can be opinion based and a relatively healthy adult can decipher them, a child not so much. And trust is a spectrum. We all to various degrees are trustworthy and I love how he points it out and explains it.

Okay, this answer overwhelmingly confirmed that he is not trustworthy, lol. Which isn't to say that he is dangerous. But most definitely dishonest and manipulative. I find this interesting to think about. Trust in the context of relationships is about honesty and respecting boundaries. If you're manipulative, you aren't these things and people can sense this.

"I'm not sure what trust means". So in other words, no he is NOT trustworthy.

“I don’t know what trust is.” ...proceeds to back that up to-a-T. He thinks trust is having ppl rely on your punctuality.

Short answer: NO, Don't be fooled by his charming long talking and avoidance of responding, the sweet background music and his gaslighting on what the question really was.

A lot of these comments are truly negative and unhelpful. Imagine you get a window into a mysterious, taboo side of humanity and you go “Na naaa!”. Just appreciate the opportunity and stop trying to be “cool”.

KEY WORDs , Try , reliable . If that’s not good enough for some ppl then that on them not being satisfied

"Every teacher is a conman" says it all regarding the justification of his actions.

As a psychopath he’s way nicer than my ex with NPD. He’s pure vengeful evil.

You can beat around the bush as much as you want. The answer is still no.

Pyscopaths will always be manipulative and dishonest. They pick their words VERY carefully… don’t be duped. Respond with it’s a YES or NO answer. I could never have these kinds of people in my personal life pThey give me the creeps.

“Every teacher is a con-man...” These individuals can rattle on and on and on about delusional nonsense. If you think that because a teacher‘s job involves needing to convince students of certain things as part of the educational process makes them a “con-person,” you really are nuts.

Now the creepy clown portrait at the lower left of the screen in his room kinda makes more sense...

If someone asked me if I'm a trustworthy person I'd say yes, not give some roundabout answer about what does that really mean. I trust this guy about as far as i can throw him and that ain't far!

Interviewer: Are you a trustworthy person? Psychopath: .....Yes, I'm very trustworthy....trust me on that.

Skillfully avoids answering the question. Tries to re-define "trust". Trust and reliability are not the same. To the the question, are you trustworthy, the way in which he answers, to me, indicates, no. He is not trustworthy or accountable. He can't even be trusted to answer a simple question truthfully. He couldn't even lie in the standard fashion and say "yes, I am trustworthy".

This is fascinating to listen to. I dont feel it, but i think i get the logic.

This man is a well renowned scientist. He was the one that found there was a significant difference between a normal Human brain and a psychopathic brain . He found the difference is in the anterior lobe or lack of it. He discovered , breaking protocol, his brain was the most psychopathic brain in the study in regards to the anterior lobe difference. He also found out Liz’s Bourdin was a relative of his. The are mental predators but there, obviously, on a large spectrum. I chose not to be in the presence of a psychopath. I know better then that. They charm and can influence you in ways you aren’t even aware of till your world is over.

I think if you are a psychopath or a sociopath you need to have understanding of ethics or morals to follow, otherwise you just be really bad and evil and not have remorse .

There is professional trustworthiness, and social trustworthiness. I have known several people who whose 'tell' is compulsive lying. Young men who would consistently lie about where they were, what a person said, what they did; even if it was obvious it was not true, or even to their advantage to lie. And then make a joke about it, convince friends he would not lie to THEM, just people we don't know. Always has a story ready, telling about his wild adventures. Then items start disappearing, and after a frantic search, that item is found in a place you thought you looked three times. Things suddenly break, and this guy would offer to help. Someone who poses as a friend, and then secretly screw with you for no apparent reason. But my point is, if someone has this lying trait, there is no doubt he is a psychopath, and to be avoided. It'll save you loads of grief.

I feel relatable to this man. One time in my life, I watched a friend of mine and understood through his behavior that responses get you other responses, and I like good responses from other people, so I started doing that, acting expressive. I was pretty good at reading the other's emotions and knew how to respond to them so that it matched the emotion that I was percieving in them. Because of that, I completely discarded the notion that I could be a psychopath... that is until I found out that psychopaths can have cognitive empathy. At this point, I am really wondering if I care about something, or just feel it because I expect myself to. When I kill a fly, I feel remorseful, but that is such an extreme that I wonder "Do I really feel it or am I just setting myself to think I feel remorse?" Sometimes I have to think to be sad in a situation where I should be sad. I've learnt to manipulate people into being happy just cause I like them to be. People are much better when they are in a good mood. I probably don't have psycopathy, but some symptoms just hit too close to home, so I'm trying to figure out myself what I truly am. I wrote this cause if anyone has this figured out and maybe had the same experience as me, be sure to tell me, would appreciate greately

Trust is the belief that the other person will follow through with what they promised even when it is somewhat against their own interest. No one does it forever obviously but trustworthy people know keeping their word allows others to risk more with them in the future because they have proven to do what they say. It's like the financial idea of credit worthiness. Banks are willing to risk more money to you if you have proven to pay it back in the past. So trustworthy people can build larger long term teams of friends.

Fascinating

So, no. But he's actually right about what trust is. The complete, deep emotional unwillingness to cause willful harm to others is rare and people cause harm to each other all the time, it's just that after they realize it, or have others point it out, they make a bunch of excuses for it until they run out of rationalizations, then they feel guilt. This guy just doesn't. It's causing harm without justification that people have a problem with. Blame and justification are games to this guy. Sounds bad, but having your treatment of others predicated on a game, which is largely cultural, isn't much better. Evolution just has us taking those games really seriously when we're invested in them. This is why competitive sports get us so wrapped up, why having good guys and bad guys is important to the stories we read or watch, and why we see relationships as non-disposable despite them coming and going in our lives all the time. It's not a generalized principle, it's about who we get invested with. This guy is not invested in anyone. He's a consumer of relationships.

"technically, when you dont belive me you're borderline" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I could listen to this the entire life

The fact that he equated trustworthiness to being on time should tell you everything 😅

Are you trustworthy? "I don't know what trust means" 😂 that is exactly the kind of thing I say when someone asks if I'm their girlfriend after we sleep together. "What do you mean by girlfriend? I mean what does that even mean these days?" Lol and I know that the answer is just no.

He says it...it's a game to him.

If anyone watching this considers themselves entirely trustworthy, or that any such person actually exists, then they are the delusional one. This guy takes the question seriously, and it's complex. I have friends who consider my entirely trustworthy, and with good reason. I also have known people who would warn you never to trust me.

I find the background music incredibly distracting. I think the work/channel here is really interesting and educational but any background music really takes away from it(imo).

Got it the answer is no 😂

He's right, he is scientist, so he cannot simply forget rules to operate in the world, i think everyone must keep the mind open and see the things logicaly, not assuming he is always lying

Yeah the moral and ethics thing has been really confusing me lately like I ask what’s wrong w murder, genuinely asking, and no one will answer me So yeah honestly so confusing

I wonder if it’s something “mental” that would cause a person to be a psychopath or if it’s more “spiritual” ?

I have respect for this man, I know a psychopath like him but he would never admit he is one. He has displayed some traits but very hard to spot for those who don't know that psychopaths can be very normal looking people, but the red flags small and big are all there. His needing of sympathy and validation from his followers is a big huge flashing red flag.

So.. no.

I actually think that I'm like that. Pro social, or whatever he called it. I have OCD as well.

I would trust him if I was his business partner, I would never trust him otherwise. His idea of being trustworthy is to "Follow common sense" however, the one major issue with this is that common sense cannot cover everything. If he is blind to nuance and incapable of responding appropriately to unique situations that don't follow common sense, he will rely on his innate pyschopathy to handle everything, meaning he will resort to lying, cheating, manipulating, gaslighting, or sublty threatening to handle the situation.

Thank you so much for sharing

The puppy photos in the back are very disarming. It's all part of his sinister plan!!

Hmmm… distraction, distancing and then deflecting. 2 minutes in and I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t trust this guy with anything, however likeable he seems.

A lot of armchair psychologists in the comment section would really benefit from taking an ethics and morals class so they can differentiate between the two.

Everything is an exchange

Sound like no but he doesn't want to admit it.

I can’t stop looking at the picture of the scary clown at the bottom left.

This question is very vague. Can you trust him in terms of what? If you ask a psychopath this question, how do you know you're even getting the honest answer? How do you know they're not doing that thing where they try to tweak the answer into something they think you want to hear? Even non-psychopaths do this.

I think I would trust him to be on time and get things done. I would not trust him to get it done in a good way. I would always feel like I needed to check his path.

Anybody see It in the left corner next to the bookcase? Comforting…

How do psychopaths feel about cheating on their long term partners? Cognitively they know it’s against societal rules, but how do they feel about cheating and the devastating effect it has on their partners?

I assume U can trust him when its abiut othwr things if it doesnt go against his self interest and the relationship matters enough for what ever reason

I personally haven't witnessed anyone who is a self admitted narcissist or psychopath! But what do I know!

So from what i gather. Not in the way that we consider it "trust" as he serves his own interests only, but he does adhere to the principles closely related to what we deem a part of trust. So not "trustworthy", but "reliable". Its interesting. Clearly i cannot judge this person as i would a human without his condition. So i must judge according to the rules of his condition, which to me means in a mostly logical manner not considering my emotional input.

Psychopathd are fascinating! I hope I never ever meet or deal with any of them 🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻 Amen

Some people take things to literally, and some people analyze too deeply derivative Words can be a variant of a meaning like one word in one language can have to different meaning . “Everyone “ loves Unicorns but they are described as naïve and wise. So no it’s not manipulating it simplifying the answer by taking the long way round it’s not dancing. it’s trying to express it in a way that will have no negative feedback to people who are prejudice

Trust is about knowing what a person cares about, if a psychopath fundamentally does not care, then they cannot be trusted.

I wish he would be a little more specific as to the behaviors pointing toward this diagnosis.

He just died. RIP bud

He seems more like OCD and OCPD. Once a person says their a sub clinical psychopath people will find negative things.

All he’s doing is reframing, which is a common manipulative tactic

I did not hear him answer the question. I heard him answer the question he wanted to answer. I am not sure he understands what trust is. Trust is, can I trust you with my small child, my cash, to not lie to or mislead me for your own benefit. I don't expect to trust the car salesman.

The telephone hold music in the background is the tell that a psychopath made this video.

So, he considered himself reliable and not like those borderline 😂

I understand why he dances around the question, he doesn't want his life (perhaps his family's life too) to be negatively impacted. How can you give an answer different than the one socially expected and not suffer negative consequences ? While we play all sorts of games, and do all sorts of manipulation unconsciously, he has to do it consciously, remain within a range of acceptability, and still be "palatable" enough for people around him. That's just my 2 cents anyway, but how do you account for that lol ?

"A preteen would have" as if every preteen etc 😂

I don't know this guy or what he truly stands for, but it seems clear after listening to him for only a short time that he fancies himself as a non-conformist and revels in is perceived self-image of uniqueness. The word psychopath carries with it a dangerous connotation and needs to be taken seriously but just by hearing what he has to say, I think I would be bored to the point that I would move on prior to finding anything more about him or his motives.

So, basically...no. 🙄

The answer is NO.

They’re not so smart as they think they are if they can’t fathom what compassion is

Just being in a video like this with this title is untrustworthy

Bro you will expose all of us lol..

I mean tbh we shouldn't be surprised, he sounds and talk and dodges like a psychopath would, because HE IS ONE

I like this guy, very interesting. But I found myself wanting him to give actual examples from his life, his actions and responses.

Sure u can be trusted to be there until it comes to you or them.....then its you

"Ask a borderline psychopath "

The music. Make it stop. Please. Really detracts from what would otherwise be an excellent video.

Well that was a bunch of word salad 😂

He does something very common ... going around to dissipate the question. He is in the low spectum for sure 🤍

Nice pilpul, JEW.

I'd like to hear more about the bad things he actually did. This is just an old guy waffling about his thoughts on lie in general.

I have a hard time buying this. OCD is an anxiety disorder and psychopaths have little, if any, anxiety. Most people with anxiety disorders are highly moral. Their conscience eats away at them. That is the OPPOSITE of a psychopath.

I could have reeeeaaallly done without the background music

the many rhetorical 'Right?' questions were Grating on me.....!

What?

This dude has no idea what trust is😂

Interesting fact. Dr Fallon is a descendant of Lizzy Borden.

hmmmm I considered psychopathy as well, but apparantly I am autistic. Ever tried to compare your "shortcomings" with the autism checklist?

Okay so he says he does things playfully but doesn't mention exactly what he does also it might be a game for him but it's not a game for others