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Neuroscientist James Fallon discusses how he came to discover (and how he's learned to live with) the fact that he's a borderline psychopath. Fallon is the author of The Psychopath Inside: A Neuroscientist's Personal Journey into the Dark Side of the Brain (goo.gl/ioGrhS).
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JAMES FALLON:
James Fallon teaches neuroscience at the University of California Irvine, and through research explores the way genetic and in-utero environmental factors affect the way the brain gets built -- and then how individuals' experience further shapes its development. He lectures and writes on creativity, consciousness and culture, and has made key contributions to our understanding of schizophrenia, Parkinson's disease and Alzheimer's disease.
Only lately has Fallon turned his research toward the subject of psychopaths -- particularly those who kill. With PET scans and EEGs, he's beginning to uncover the deep, underlying traits that make people violent and murderous.
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James Fallon: My book, The Psychopath Inside, is a memoir and it’s a mix of a personal story and what the science is, that is, the psychiatry and the genetics and the neuroscience behind what the subject is which is psychopathy. But it’s really a story about somebody, me, who at 60 finds out he’s not really who he thought he was all along in his whole life. And not until I had just by serendipity, by chance, started to run across biological evidence first from PET scans, positron emission tomography scans, that I was involved with - acted as a control in one study in Alzheimer’s disease and also had my genetics done. So it was just as a control and to compare to other people with Alzheimer’s. And so it was through that about, oh, seven years ago that I found out something very strange. And this something strange both in terms of my brain pattern and genetics happened to run, it intersected with another study I had been doing - a minor study on looking at PET scans and FMRIs, another kind of brain scan, and SPEC scans of killers, really bad murderers.
And these are particularly bad hombres and some serial killers, et cetera. And I had looked at these and had been asked to analyze them over the years from the early 1990s onward. And about the same time, 2005, when I was doing my own scans for this Alzheimer’s study I had a whole group of these killers and also psychopaths and looked at a pattern. I said, “My God, there’s a pattern in the brain for these guys.” And so I started to talk about it, give talks and, you know, at academic institutions and psychiatry departments, law schools, et cetera, just to kind of vet the idea. But at the same time I got this pile of scans back that included my own and these other controls. And I was looking through - I got to the last scan of that study of the Alzheimer’s and I looked at it and I asked my technician. I said, “You’ve got to check the machine because this is obviously one of the killers.” One of the murderers. It looked like really a severe case of brain activity loss in a psychopath.
And so when I ultimately they said, “No, this is part of - it’s in this control group.” And I had to tear back the name on it because I always do everything blind but this was like something’s really wrong. And it turned out to be my name. So it was like, you know, Gandalf shows up at the door and you’re it. So that started this whole trajectory. Now at first I laughed at it and I just didn’t care. We were so busy working on the genetics of Alzheimer’s and also schizophrenia and I had just started an adult STEM cell company. And so I was so busy with stuff I kind of let it go for a couple of years really - about a year and a half. But then the genetics came back and I had all the genetic alleles, the forms of the genes that are associated with a high aggression and violence, psychopathy, and a low kind of empathy, that intrapersonal emotional empathy. And low anxiety.
And when I got that back I started to take a little bit of note but I still didn’t care about it. And it wasn’t until I ended up giving a talk. I was asked to give a talk with the ex-prime minister of Oslo who had bipolar disorder. And so I went to Oslo to give a public talk with him, the clinician, on bipolar. You know, what’s the brain patterns...
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@bigthink
@bigthink 4 года назад
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@Alorand
@Alorand 8 лет назад
A person like that, with psychopathy, who goes out of his way to pause, and think, and do the right thing - that is so noble, and praiseworthy; the emotional and neurochemical reward system isn't there, but they are consciously choosing to make the right choice.
@ciaran3884
@ciaran3884 8 лет назад
Alorand What? You can still do the right things as a psychopath, for example becoming a successful and powerful scientist.
@Alorand
@Alorand 8 лет назад
Exactly, and it is much better for the rest of us if a psychopath finds a good reason to do the right thing, instead of becoming successful by exploiting people.
@smokinghorsey9
@smokinghorsey9 8 лет назад
This would mean that psychopaths who commit violent crimes are just bad people, but it's really not as simple as that. These things fall on a spectrum. James Fallon is further along that spectrum than the average person meaning he doesn't feel empathy and guilt to the same extent but he does feel it. There are individuals who are at the complete extreme end of the spectrum and don't even know what empathy or guilt feel like. Fallon does the right thing at least in part because he still can. However, the environment you were raised in plays a big role in shaping your behavior. Raise someone with mild psychopathy in an abusive household with neglectful parents and you might get a serial killer. Raise someone with mild psychopathy in a loving environment with caring parents and you might get a successful neuroscientist.
@ciaran3884
@ciaran3884 8 лет назад
Smoking Horsey Fuck You. I'm a psychopath I know how we work, fuck you.
@EclecticSceptic
@EclecticSceptic 8 лет назад
Lol sorry to burst your bubble Alorand but as if there's the slightest chance he actually gives a fuck about doing the right thing. I know plenty of people who I thought were great people with big hearts who did horrible things and were assholes, who weren't psychopaths, I think I'd have to give myself a lobotomy to believe a psychopath would take the noble path. Why would they???
@holocenesage
@holocenesage Год назад
"If you're treating me well, it means you're trying. That's all that matters" Regardless of the level of psycopathy of a person, I think it's important to remind ourselves that we are often mentally exhausted (from work, social interactions, etc.), and it can be difficult to be genuine and empathetic at all time. We remind ourselves of this, so that we can make conscious choice to treat people well, instead of relying purely on our emotional drive to do so. Treating people well, doesn't have to come from the heart.
@dianaverano7878
@dianaverano7878 Год назад
Psychopaths are not normal. Let us not put them in the same box. They need more personal work + counselling with a psychologist. Psychopaths can be smart & charming like this guy on video but he thinks of revenge ( last even in years ) + disregard of rules If a psychopath adapts a " just let it go" chill attitude towards things & not have revenge = great personal work on himself, shifting to normal guy category. That change is not easy. We have to be resposible & accountable with OUR OWN ACTIONS Whatever environment we have.
@dianaverano7878
@dianaverano7878 Год назад
Clinical psychologists classify them as, depending on having " psychopathic trait" ( this person has not satisfied more categories) Another category is having anti social personality disorder if they satisfy the characteristics of that disorder ( not normal, personality disorder) Also another list is the psychopathy list. If a person evaluated has more check on that psychopath list, then that person is diagnosed by the professional clinician as psychopath. Eithet way, these people all need psychological counselling on the point of view of a professional. By brain structure, according to research, the frontal side of the brain of a diagnosed psychopath IS SMALLER than the normal range. Yes. It is not normal by anatomy.
@dianaverano7878
@dianaverano7878 Год назад
@@vivianalter7688 pls go to youtubes about psychopaths and their brains. It is already documented by clinical psychologists. For many yrs now. Self awareness + personal work is done by a patient with the help of these clinical professionals towards the path of psychological healing
@dianaverano7878
@dianaverano7878 Год назад
@@vivianalter7688 whatever
@curoseba5363
@curoseba5363 2 месяца назад
I agree with you 100%
@Conformist138
@Conformist138 7 лет назад
I always laugh when someone switches from "I'm not a criminal" to "I don't have a record." I also wonder what crimes they got away with.
@huzaifa-682
@huzaifa-682 Год назад
you are a rude person ... plz stop existing
@huzaifa-682
@huzaifa-682 Год назад
u're projecting
@ronniesal7436
@ronniesal7436 Год назад
Exactly! That you were never convicted for something doesn't mean you are not guilty!
@ronniesal7436
@ronniesal7436 Год назад
@@huzaifa-682 you obviously never met one of those guys in person. Or you are one of them?
@NotoriousHighBP
@NotoriousHighBP Год назад
Followed by " I didn't get caught" and then "I had fun" lol.
@aamidjaythreepointoh
@aamidjaythreepointoh 8 лет назад
This man is the quintessential high-functioning individual with Antisocial Personality d/o/Psychopathy. The beauty of this is that the man understands his impairment (emotional empathy) and is able to operationalize growth within his area of deficit such that he can *function* (I can't stress the significance of that) along with others effectively.
@birdlover6842
@birdlover6842 Год назад
I didn't know about emotional empathy until as of late. I was deeply disturbed to find out I have zero emotional empathy. I try to be a good person and mostly am. This video makes me feel some relief. I wonder how many good people out there who have no empathy.
@katieghoul0092
@katieghoul0092 Год назад
@NoName1 I am the same way. I have no empathy, very low emotions (almost non existant) and no guilt/remorse. As far as getting mad, I am the same as the guy in this video. However I was raised with morals/ethics. Never had/kept any friends, however I have tons of business acquaintances, which doesn't bother me whatsoever because I enjoy being alone. But I am in a long term relationship, it takes work on my part.
@MrCmon113
@MrCmon113 9 лет назад
Wow. Now that is applaudable. Trying to do the right thing even though you don't have the natural urge to do so.
@MaDrung
@MaDrung 4 года назад
@Lona 87 It's serving his ego. That's selfish.
@dreamlandnightmare
@dreamlandnightmare 4 года назад
@@MaDrung Every act is selfish. Even completely altruistic acts are selfish in that they serve to ease the distress WE feel due to the suffering of others. There is no unselfish act.
@MaDrung
@MaDrung 4 года назад
@@dreamlandnightmare I agree. I'm just pointing out he is not doing it out of the emotional good feeling of trying to help others.
@faithalessandri1879
@faithalessandri1879 3 года назад
Sociopaths are the ones with no emotion. I thought he's a borderline psychopath
@lindasapiecha2515
@lindasapiecha2515 2 года назад
@@dreamlandnightmare untrue
@DSDMovies
@DSDMovies 10 лет назад
"No record, but I've done some fun things."
@kornswe
@kornswe 10 лет назад
Yeah, someone should check his backyard.
@DoJoPetro
@DoJoPetro 10 лет назад
Yeah-a lot of people could say the same-among other things.... Methinks the percentage of how many psychopaths exist is greatly underestimated. Either that, or I've met more than my fair share.
@kokofan50
@kokofan50 10 лет назад
DoJo Epics It's been estimated to be about 3% of the population, so in the US alone that's something like 10 million people.
@DoJoPetro
@DoJoPetro 10 лет назад
kokofan50 Yeah-I've met enough. Half the people I meet have too many of the "fun-loving" traits mentioned here. Wait long enough and you'll see it all around you.... o.O I often wonder how many of that 3% are teachers, police, doctors, lawyers, judges, politicians, lobbyists, corporate executives, .... O.O I'm just locking my door and staying on the internet-where all of the *normal* crazy people are. Yeah. 8D
@movement2contact
@movement2contact 10 лет назад
DoJo Epics =]] Yeah, those thoughts haunt me too... >.
@Conformist138
@Conformist138 8 лет назад
Starting around 5:34, listen to how he casually switches between moral culpability (having had done something) and legal culpability (having been caught for something). Classic. It's almost amazing that he didn't realize this about himself sooner.
@derekbrunette222
@derekbrunette222 6 лет назад
He's toning it down. He's known for a long long time. It's just been advantageous for him to do it now
@Ceolskog
@Ceolskog 6 лет назад
Derek Brunette That's what I was thinking too, haha.
@MzSoulll
@MzSoulll 6 лет назад
i agree.
@devlishanjel13
@devlishanjel13 6 лет назад
The narcissist is never at fault! Remember that. ;)
@Theroadneverending
@Theroadneverending 5 лет назад
Conformist138 holy shit
@newjsb123
@newjsb123 10 лет назад
Treat people right is good advice for everyone.
@oc5515
@oc5515 6 лет назад
JS B hmmm🤔 that’s exactly what a psychopath would say.
@ImSimplyAHuman
@ImSimplyAHuman 3 года назад
Matt Foley 🤣👌🏼
@1thousandwattz
@1thousandwattz Год назад
This was utterly fascinating to me...the introspection, the bravery of delvng into oneself...and with genuine curosity and deepend self-knowledge...Damn I wish more humans approached THEMSELVES with this kind of seeking, compassion and desire to improve themselves through looking at their darkest parts.
@UnbornHeretic
@UnbornHeretic 9 лет назад
"I've had conversations with the police many times, but I'm always able to talk my way out of it..." That is very psychopathic behavior.
@bootmanbill2362
@bootmanbill2362 6 лет назад
Unborn Heretic or just someone with good social skills or a good con man
@hassi44
@hassi44 6 лет назад
Being calm, decisive and pretending to be respectful is the best way to talk to police officers. You don't ever have to acknowledge whatever law was being broken as long as you circumvent the topic, insert appropriate complements ("you're just doing your job and I think you're doing it well") and play with the feelings solicited by it ("I have immense respect for what you do") and posture yourself with one foot to the side as if you're getting ready to walk away, keep looking at your watch (to show your time is being wasted) and then thank them for intervening when they let you go. Rinse and repeat.
@joea1433
@joea1433 6 лет назад
Law enforcement, the ones that see a lot if action, know when they are being played. It is funny to watch the person being so obvious thinking they are really talking their way out of it! LE is thinking all along, "Asshole".
@ehiskhaleradio
@ehiskhaleradio 6 лет назад
hassi44 true..
@florencevandermeer9447
@florencevandermeer9447 4 года назад
No, it's not. Police are corrupt too.
@Skoda130
@Skoda130 6 лет назад
Really liked the home stretch of this talk. I think this makes him stand out as a good example amongst people with a substantial degree of psychopathy.
@ArmagonAuthor
@ArmagonAuthor 10 лет назад
Good for him for taking control of himself like this! This is inspirational!
@John_Doe62
@John_Doe62 2 года назад
He's just playing a game and feeding his narcissism, look how famous and liked he became.
@soniat4895
@soniat4895 2 года назад
@@John_Doe62 this is beneficial to science stupid
@prisonisinourminds8070
@prisonisinourminds8070 Год назад
Most psychopaths have good control duh
@EduardoSanchez-in9zj
@EduardoSanchez-in9zj 8 лет назад
"Bad hombres" 1:16
@doctormagnifishit357
@doctormagnifishit357 7 лет назад
Eduardo Sanchez I thought that was funny too, since Trump said it & he's clearly a psychopath
@DaUnaDistanza
@DaUnaDistanza 7 лет назад
MAGA
@SteamBunneh
@SteamBunneh 7 лет назад
What are the damn odds that trump said something from a psychopath video.. xD
@TanningMiami
@TanningMiami 7 лет назад
you sir win the internet 2 days ago lol
@KittySnicker
@KittySnicker 6 лет назад
😅😅😅
@Ollychamberlain
@Ollychamberlain 9 лет назад
The more he talks, the more obvious it becomes.
@Sorryscene
@Sorryscene 7 лет назад
Olly Chamberlain how?
@JoshuaMcKenzieIautomation
@JoshuaMcKenzieIautomation 6 лет назад
Sorryscene His discussion encases the perspective essence of psychopaths so well that it's convincing that he is one. Especially on the end where he tries to do good.
@mikeshoults4155
@mikeshoults4155 6 лет назад
Olly Chamberlain I watched him a couple times, the first time I thought, "oh he's a decent guy". Next time I was like, "actually he's a bit shifty," than third time I was like "holy shit this guy is fucking dangerous. He is so good at miming and manipulating but in his core, it's all about that revenge thing and putting himself first. Goodness gracious, he's probably done so many fucked up things to people and manipulate countless others.... You never really know if you did something to be put on his list, he will never tell you, and with his intelligence and social skills, man he can fuck with you....guy is so dangerous and unpredictable.
@tinygirl9300
@tinygirl9300 4 года назад
Mike Shoults lol
@MOON-zo3ik
@MOON-zo3ik 4 года назад
Mike Shoults I’m not saying I’m a psychopath bc I’m not diagnosed but I know for a fact I wouldn’t answer the questions a psychologist or whatever would ask bc I’m not risking that shit being on my record. But what you said is 💯 . I don’t tell people they’re on my list - friends,family, etc. Robert Greene talked about the serpent with the long memory and it speaks for itself. Wait however long it takes and when the moment is presented strike like lighting
@smylulula
@smylulula 7 лет назад
The idea that people can be a psychopath and live fine with others appeals to me, and at least it is far more compassionate and rational alternative than any Mad Scare. To me, I take this video as a message that people will try to create a society which everyone's differences(even like how extreme and notorious in the case of psychopaths) can be considered and allowed by itself, and evaluated only by consequences, not the trait.
@Asha-pb2bc
@Asha-pb2bc 8 лет назад
Wow. Thank you for sharing your personal story. I'm in my 20s but this has really made me think about my loved ones' (and my) behaviour. Fascinating video.
@akhelundar931
@akhelundar931 9 лет назад
I like how not all psychopaths are bad.
@princeofruins3287
@princeofruins3287 9 лет назад
+TNBBravo IceCobalt Its the actions that are bad or good , people are just people.
@pthompson108
@pthompson108 8 лет назад
+TNBBravo IceCobalt Yeah, he described himself in another video as what he called a " pro social psychopath " and he went on to say how this form of psychopathy benefits people in high stress, high performance professions, such as brain surgeon, or search and rescue pilot.
@CR-kl5fz
@CR-kl5fz 8 лет назад
Most people called psychopaths have antisocial personality disorder. Most psychiatrists don't ever use term psychopath diagnostically. Complete psychopaths are actually very rare. An example of a complete psychopath with literally almost no emotions or feelings is Napoleon Bonaparte or Shoko Asahara. Most people with antisocial personality disorder are like deliberately violent gangsters or an abusive boss.
@starbarker2
@starbarker2 8 лет назад
+Mr. Popo And Hillary Clinton.
@becool1615
@becool1615 8 лет назад
Well, the problem is that someone like him could very well have ended up as a vicious serial killer had he been raised in a different environment. And even as he is he's kind of a dick without even realizing it. So if there was some way to treat/prevent this sort of thing(such as genetic manipulation) I think it's important to do so. A world without psychopaths would certainly be a safer and probably friendlier place.
@howedelamitri
@howedelamitri 8 лет назад
I've had many, many long deep discussions about Life, Love, relationships with my psychopath friend. It's a real trip! They aren't 'crazy serial killers' despite what the TV is telling you
@pacioklot
@pacioklot 8 лет назад
There is nothing wrong with being a serial killer.
@ronniesal7436
@ronniesal7436 Год назад
They are actually worse than serial killers. Serial killers kill yoir body. Low profile psychopaths kill your soul!
@ngsunny4550
@ngsunny4550 6 лет назад
he is living his psychopath dream, he gets to tell his story about himself and back it up with science so he is interest and true haha
@heatherpack2643
@heatherpack2643 9 лет назад
Thanks for posting this video. It gave me some insight. There is so much controversy over physcopathy vs. Sociopathy that it has been hard for me to fully understand being a physcopath. After listening to your talk, I believe your book will be a great source of information.
@zuutlmna
@zuutlmna 9 лет назад
Wow.. What an outstanding speaker!
@peterreynolds7343
@peterreynolds7343 10 лет назад
You should win an award for intellectual honesty. You're a good person, not because of the way you were born or the way your mind works. But because you are honest with yourself and others and you CHOOSE to do the good thing.
@UniqueCuriousMakeupArtist
@UniqueCuriousMakeupArtist Месяц назад
Brilliant!!! 🤩 “I have to use my ego, my sense of narcissism, to manipulate myself to handle it.” That was psychologically orgasmic 😂😂😂 I love it. 🥰
@krollic
@krollic 10 лет назад
Really cool talk. Especially the final bits.
@flavio5046
@flavio5046 5 лет назад
If someone all emotional acts nicely to people around them, that means they are just in peace with themselves and act nicely by consequence, so it wouldn't be their fault that they are nice. If someone got you mad, but you make the concious decision to not be at war with that person and voluntarily be nice to the person, that means something about your character.
@growingstruggle5493
@growingstruggle5493 Год назад
This videogame quote really sums it up: “What is better? To be born good, or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?” ~ Paarthurnax This also brings out the question of what is really free will and what's the normality. We love the idea of free will and being free to decide what to do, but when we're genetically wired to be influenced by our emphaty, that means we're born somewhat good natured, of course we can decide to act selfishly and in an evil manner, but this makes me wonder, how many "good" thing we do, just because we function that way and not because we really mean it or we consciously decide to.
@mikeshoults4155
@mikeshoults4155 6 лет назад
I watched this guy a couple times now. He scares the shit outta me. His wife, kids co-workers they weren't protecting their tormentors....they were protecting themselves. They knew how he was, "dotn worry I'm not going to try and get back at you." Why would they believe that. In fact the better they know him the more likely they will know his tendencies towards revenge, his intellectual capacity and the length he holds a grudge. How do he isn't lying when he says "I promise I won't get mad"? How many times have we heard that line followed by anger? He hides his anger, he is quite proud that no one knows. So how do we know if he's angry? How can anyone make peace with him if they slighted him or harmed him? Maybe he says it's "it's fine I'm not mad". How do you know he's not lying and waiting to get back at you? He will hurt them...... eventually. That's dangerous. I would avoid this man like the fucking plague. ...his Mom was right. He shouldn' t have told people. His mom knew the extent of it beyond anyone else....I trust his mother. I don't trust him.
@MarcusAndersonsBlog
@MarcusAndersonsBlog 10 лет назад
Incredibly insightful and indeed heroic of James Fallon to share this with the world. The definition of psychopath has changed dramatically in the last few decades but is still both simplistic and lacking. The 40 year old Hare Test upon which these shifts in definition are based has been accepted relatively without question by the scientific community, in spite of the Hare Test (and others like it) being developed from a statistical association only. The Hare Test cannot be applied to individuals because probabilistic implications for individuals yield false positives and false negatives. Consequently, a "borderline" psychopath based on the Hare Test (etc) is in fact a high probability false positive. In a Court of Law requiring a standard of proof beyond reasonable doubt, one must conclude James Fallon is NOT a "psychopath" (borderline or otherwise) because reasonable doubt exists and will always exist for anyone "diagnosed" under the Hare Test. In particular, the subtype "borderline" is a statistical Non sequitur (ie it does not follow), and to derive it the maths must be abused. Psychopathy is extremely difficult to diagnose, more so today because the definition itself has changed. Originally, psychopathy was a term coined to identify persons who committed acts considered "sub-human". There is considerable debate as to whether psychopathy even exists, and yet James Fallon himself would argue that it is a physically identifiable. Yet he omits that the evidence so far is only statistical (circumstantial), and his viewpoint is far from objective as he is himself a researcher claiming to have that evidence in addition to being such a person. The Hare Test likewise is little more than a personality test and has about as much credibility as similar statistical personality tests used by Astrologers, Scientologists and Opinion Polls. While there appears to be some legitimate maths involved, the fact is that reverse association of statistical patterns to individual cases is not valid logic or mathematics. You cannot tell how a individual is going to vote based on their membership of a group that highly favours one party. Statistics say nothing about individuals, only groups and probabilities in the group. This fundamental abuse of basic statistical mathematics to create an invalid association is propaganda not evidence, and does nothing to advance the science of Psychiatry but rather brings it into justifiable ridicule and disrepute.
@babybirdhome
@babybirdhome 9 лет назад
And yet if you were to categorically exclude psychopaths from your personal and professional life, you will universally have a better quality of life and a lot less drama. On the other hand, if you spend your entire life surrounding yourself only by psychopaths, you're likely to wind up broke, devastated, and quite possibly dead by an act of violence. It's almost like statistics don't lie, and reality is actually real.
@MarcusAndersonsBlog
@MarcusAndersonsBlog 9 лет назад
babybirdhome Nice in theory. But how do you know who is a psychopath ? The only way to know for sure is to be a surviving victim.
@disorganizedclutter5513
@disorganizedclutter5513 9 лет назад
babybirdhome So completely true. You've described my life except for the dead part. Life can be so peaceful if you can pick your relationships wisely.
@devynselnes4282
@devynselnes4282 9 лет назад
Said it was wrong, then didn't mention what he thinks is right... TROLL
@MarcusAndersonsBlog
@MarcusAndersonsBlog 9 лет назад
Devyn Selnes Critical Analysis does not involve launching ones own replacement theory. For example, any book reviewer who concudes their review with a promotion of their own work on the same subject would have no credibility whatsoever. Your accusation of me as a "TROLL" is a personal attack and the mark of an intellectual coward.
@Falconcoder
@Falconcoder 9 лет назад
That really has to be the greatest _"Holy fucking shit"_-moment in recent history.
@markwilliamdarus5592
@markwilliamdarus5592 10 лет назад
Thank you for this vid! You are not alone, Dr. Fallon. I found out about myself just over two and a half years ago. Keep up the great work!
@ronniesal7436
@ronniesal7436 Год назад
I bet you are not a psychopath! But he is, and he doesn't care about your support! Not in the sense of needing emotional support (and not from an individual, unless you could make him famous and rich) he only cares that he could fool you and the other thoudands of people he fooled, too!
@GTAiMaster
@GTAiMaster 10 лет назад
I can relate to your story, though I've started to be less selfish a lot before you (I've been told from my kiddo days that I cannot be selfish, maybe that's why). The thing is - it will harm you badly. I've been helping my girlfriend to get out of things like sexual harrasement, drugs, no self esteem and lot of others (all of this sitting deeply in her memories of past events, she couldn't handle it). I've changed her, shown the new way, gave her higher ego and taught a lot of useful things. I had to logically think each time to help her (hide my own emotions, what I'm willing for etc.) so I won't hurt her with my psycho-traits. My goal was to help her and I've succeeded. It turned out to be a bad move. I got kicked in the ass in return... Really harshly kicked. That's when 'real me' got into play - I drove her into suicide attempt. Felt joy and sensed the beauty of that event, everything would be even between us. Unluckily it failed. All of the people going rough on those 'nasty psychopats' - fuck off, you're no better. Sometimes psychos are morally greater than you are, you are just to blind to see it.
@deadprivacy
@deadprivacy 10 лет назад
Yeah right- your too blind to see the truck coming down the road that is your exposure. you were never helping her- you were remaking her how you wanted her to be- your too sick to see it.
@zhawqamadraque2728
@zhawqamadraque2728 9 лет назад
I love to help people and have helped more than one person with things like those you mention. But I have no illusion about being selfless. My gratification just happens to be invisible to those I help because it makes ME feel great to see them succeed and know I played a part in them getting to where they are. I agree with deadprivacy : You're not selfless, you just don't have insight enough to see that you're just as self serving as you always were - if in a more constructive way. The danger is that without insight you'll be more vulnerable to relapse into your past behavior patterns.
@OldmansCC
@OldmansCC 10 лет назад
Very cool talk! And actually from a perspective that can not be reached artificially. Thought provoking... Where do opinions on ethics end and psychopathy starts? How controversial must someone's views and values be for them to be psychos?
@lightloveandawake3114
@lightloveandawake3114 6 месяцев назад
Good job taking better care of those around you, like your wife. I’ve been on the receiving end of abuse and it sure is a hard way to live. Thank you for learning how to be kind. Thank you for being brave enough, to come out to the world.
@UniqueCuriousMakeupArtist
@UniqueCuriousMakeupArtist Месяц назад
I love his self-insight. He stops what he is doing and psychologically asks himself, “What should I be doing?” He’s learned to manipulate himself 😂. Love this guy. So brilliant! 🤩🥰👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I find him quite fascinating. 😊
@imfrommanndame
@imfrommanndame 10 лет назад
*licks left corner of lip*
@Clayful1000
@Clayful1000 10 лет назад
No, I wiped it.
@KowaiKami
@KowaiKami 10 лет назад
"Hello, father"
@Kayvon12321
@Kayvon12321 10 лет назад
Kanra Laoghaire Barty Crouch.....JOONIEEYORR
@krpcannon123
@krpcannon123 9 лет назад
I noticed a slew of psychopathic tendencies just during this video, e.g. does seem pretty narcissistic, even without mentioning narcissism, as in "I'm pretty cool that way."
@smilestreets
@smilestreets 9 лет назад
thanks for your honesty that was an inspiring talk
@robbabcock_
@robbabcock_ 9 лет назад
Brilliant video! We are our genes but we're also more. Just rationally understanding right and wrong and committing to doing right is perhaps sufficient to turn us into better people. Just as Dr. Fallon says towards the end of the piece I find myself having to deliberately pause occasionally to make a rational inventory looking for the right course of action. I do wind up doing what I know is right even when I don't particularly want to do it.
@disorganizedclutter5513
@disorganizedclutter5513 9 лет назад
I remember hearing somewhere that psychopaths who read are less likely to do wrong things. I believe it referred to reading fiction in particular. I wish I remembered where I'd heard that.
@bethbartlett5692
@bethbartlett5692 9 лет назад
I find that paise necessary, due to my Irish genes and an overabundance od undereducated, judgemental, narrow minded Southerners, that love to reference Faux News PROGRAMS and hearsay! ha! Am serious - Mercy I THINK I'M ON THE NONPSYCHOPATH SIDE OF THE ROOM! :-)
@anonamos225
@anonamos225 7 лет назад
My jaw dropped at around 13 minutes too. Blew my mind just the same. Universe tilting. The part about being angry too. The thing about it is that I don't "get angry" and grudges don't keep me up at night, I don't write them down but they may as well be written down. It doesn't show, at all, but I never truly forgive. Now things make more sense. I don't experience that "cooling down" part of the process. It's not a fiery burning thing that drives me, it's a cold and arctic kind of anger that doesn't burn itself out. It just kind of sits there until I decide the outcome was satisfactory. With all that being said, I can't possibly be a psychopath. I don't have the qualifications to diagnose myself and if I was I'm pretty sure I'd be better off if no one knew.
@Matthew-im4rw
@Matthew-im4rw 10 лет назад
it almost makes me wonder: are we in this day and age over-thinking our own behaviors? In my pondering, we are either overthinking our own dispositions, or the past cases have gone unnoticed. Either way, the ability to comprehend one's own disposition such as this neuroscientist is the important thing in my opinion. Everyone should be on this level of comprehension and understanding about one's own behavior
@bengali548
@bengali548 10 лет назад
"I've had conversations with the police many times but i was able to talk my way out of it and get them to laugh, I've done some fun things". That's our police for ya
@vijaysridhar351
@vijaysridhar351 3 года назад
Co-ed killer was friends with cops.
@majdavojnikovic
@majdavojnikovic 3 года назад
Everybody likes a good story. Make people laugh, laugh together and ... I am sure that his crimes were smaller than the laughter. Sure he gets offers from publushers.
@chrisrodgers4950
@chrisrodgers4950 3 года назад
I totally agree - the police should arrest wrongdoers and not laugh in the fields with them.
@gfxlab
@gfxlab 10 лет назад
It's been a while, but this was a great upload for Big Think. I was starting to lose faith in this channel lol
@kweejibodali3078
@kweejibodali3078 2 года назад
that's scary, that people never know that he is mad. that's definitely not good. and the revenge thing is pretty horrifying. most people, if they just refrain from reacting to their anger, often cool down and let it go. but holding onto the revenge is scary.
@algorithmgeneratedanimegir1286
It's downright terrifying, and the reason you can not trust men like him. We as a society need to come together and recognize that no, these creatures are not good for us or society no matter how much they try and convince us that is the case. They are not benign, we can not coexist. As long as they are around, they will prey on normal people.
@AbandonedVoid
@AbandonedVoid 8 лет назад
My God, just stop with your tongue
@djpsykixofficial8397
@djpsykixofficial8397 6 лет назад
Abandoned Void He's the Big Pharma Joker... He kills through medication and psychiatric distribution, instead of physically hurting.
@joshualeahy2162
@joshualeahy2162 6 лет назад
*TONGUE MOVEMENT INTENSIFIES* 0_0
@NoWay1969
@NoWay1969 10 лет назад
There are two kinds of empathy. There is an emotional empathy that happens unconsciously, and then there is calculated empathy where you consciously try to put yourself in someone else's place. The first kind is what most people refer to, but it only seems to work with people that we identify with. This is very evident in the political right. They can feel emotional empathy towards an imagined unborn child but easily dismiss immigrant children who are hungry in their home country. They can identify with George Zimmerman when he says that he was afraid, but cannot identify at all with Trevon Martin who died for a bag of skittles and watermelon soda. They identify with Israeli mothers but see Palestinian ones as using their children for human shields. Mothers that aren't part of the perceived tribe could easily not love their children. We hear all the time how we need more empathy, and by this people mean the unconscious emotional kind, but this doesn't help society. It seems to me that emotional empathy just leads to more problems, as emotionality does in general.
@007lutherking
@007lutherking 3 года назад
Don't try to make it political. You're right about the two types of empathy, real and cold/calculated. Cold empathy is a trait of cluster b personality disorder because due to their cptsd they've buried their inner child and so they dont really exist or play the game of life and hence they cant get hurt. They live vicariously through others. Equating politicians to justify your political views is misrepresenting mental illness. Dont go around mixing two very complex topics which you seem to have a very elementary knowledge of just to make your life easier. You're living your own version of illusion which is also a trait of trauma.
@NoWay1969
@NoWay1969 3 года назад
@@007lutherking We need to recognize that animal empathy doesn't help us. You don't solve the systemic problem of hungry children by feeling bad about it.
@007lutherking
@007lutherking 3 года назад
@@NoWay1969 no such thing as animal empathy. Whatre you on about? People with cold empty are mentally ill. Look into cluster b personality disorder. You have no idea what youre talking about. You need a concept of mental illness.
@Ocanaldabelinha
@Ocanaldabelinha 2 года назад
I have calculated empathy only with my friends ❤❤
@MaryDunford
@MaryDunford Год назад
There's no emotional payoff to developing healthy relationships for a psychopath. I love that he repurposed his narcissism to give himself that emotional payoff, instead. He actually took something poisonous and used it to treat the greater problem. (Like chemo and cancer.) That's next level. Respect. 💯
@GrahamChapman
@GrahamChapman 7 лет назад
I think it was healthy for me to watch this video and get reminded of the fact that psychopaths _can_ be humans... If it wasn't for people like James here, I'd probably promote the extinction of psychopaths... even if it turned out that I am one myself... (Personally, I don't think I am a psycopath. Why? 'Cuz I'm way too emotional. Even my prejudice against psychopaths is primarily emotionally motivated. Also, just seeing this guy and hearing him talk about how psychopaths _can_ be humans is enough to slightly elevate my hatred of them and give me _some_ faith in even the borderline worst parts of humanity... at the same time, that cynical part of my brain keeps arguing that that's exactly what James was trying to accomplish here; reducing the danger posed to himself and, by inadvertent extention, psychopaths in general.)
@taro5980
@taro5980 6 лет назад
You don't need a brain scan if you can just look into his eyes
@kevinevans7507
@kevinevans7507 2 года назад
Interestingly, he's describing Agape [Greek word for the way God loves] in that Agape means doing the most caring thing even if you don't feel love or actively despise the other.
@jonathanfelso
@jonathanfelso 3 года назад
Thanks. This is my reality, and it's nice to know I'm not alone.
@vrstovsek
@vrstovsek 10 лет назад
Honest dude
@deadprivacy
@deadprivacy 10 лет назад
No- genetically predisposed to cause others pain and a pathological liar to boot- go look up what a psychopath is instead of falling for this guys pity plea.
@stopmotiondude221
@stopmotiondude221 9 лет назад
He licks his lips a lot..
@66kaisersoza
@66kaisersoza 9 лет назад
Apparently it's a psychopathic trait.. That and chewing on the inside of you're mouth. But that's when they are listening to other people talk
@SwedudeEPIC
@SwedudeEPIC 9 лет назад
66kaisersoza Psychopaths can lie very convincingly. When a normal person lies, their guilt triggers a variety of “tells”, lip licking, eye aversion, blinking, etc. xD
@MrGlassnipples
@MrGlassnipples 9 лет назад
+SMD-221 He most likely takes Adderall/amphetamines or some type of psychoactive drug that probably depleted his human neurotransmitters responsible for empathy would be my guess; but I could be wrong. I'm taking some of my own personal experience into this observation, as Adderall has stunted my ability to perceive emotions to a degree. I mostly see things objectively, instead of subjectively. (Lip licking was a common side effect of Adderall for me, & clenching my jaw)
@thismaybeworks9232
@thismaybeworks9232 8 лет назад
it's like he breathes with it...
@Eddielevit
@Eddielevit 8 лет назад
+thismaybeworks He's a snake.
@harrypehkonen
@harrypehkonen 5 лет назад
Thank you for your honesty. Brilliant idea for a video -- an expert with first-hand experience! I didn't notice the tongue until I read some comments.
@ayounglivelysoulinanoldtir3512
@ayounglivelysoulinanoldtir3512 4 года назад
that moment when you realise you've always been a psychopath, but have only just discoverd it. first second:"oh fuck!!!" couple of seconds later:"so THATS why iv'e always felt ,somehow, different from other people!" next second ; " my god!!!!, im an actual psychopath!!!!!" next second:" WOW!!!!! THIS IS FASCINATEING, !!!!WHAT AN AMAZEING, CONTROVERSIAL, TOTALY WAY OUT PERSON I AM !!!!" walks away, grinning all over your face, feeling like your a super- villain in a marvel comic!
@MrJamesLongstreet
@MrJamesLongstreet 10 лет назад
Does this guy even lift?
@gordythecreator
@gordythecreator 2 года назад
It's fascinating because you understand it
@CilVine
@CilVine Год назад
Really interesting. I do think, however, that the scope brought forward in this video, only scratches the surface.
@guamaniac100
@guamaniac100 8 лет назад
Crazy how I am going into the Neuropsychology path for my studies too.
@krisbest6405
@krisbest6405 10 лет назад
I was hurt when a 6 mth friend said twice, l'd hate to have your eyes. I let it go. Two weeks later when she moaned about her horrible figure, and her bad eating habits. She said l don't eat enough.. And l replied, but i've got a good figure so l must be doing something right. The look on her face was priceless. Touche
@liannettmendez6393
@liannettmendez6393 Год назад
We all are selfish, but trained to make a good impression. Trying not to be so obvious. Caring for others is not a constant, is a complex process; with ups and downs.
@LilyBlossom1337
@LilyBlossom1337 10 лет назад
Perhaps psychopathy, OCD, and other "brain disorders" are simply evolved traits due to their fantastic ability for self-preservation. Even ADHD is a stupid concept, since it's just kids being kids. All children, for thousands, hundreds of thousands of years, got to run around and play, which is completely normal. But in this day and age, they are forced to unnaturally sit still, told memorize endless amounts of boring stuff; THAT, I feel, is the psychotic part. Yet we label them as problem children 'cause they can't be contained and fight for their freedom. We as humans need more wisdom, as opposed to more knowledge, or we will see the downfall of our and many other species. These are just my opinions, but what do I know; I'm just a 24 year old! ^ -^
@hannagille7418
@hannagille7418 7 лет назад
GuardianKiyoshi ADHD isn't a concept
@KManAbout
@KManAbout 7 лет назад
I disagree but agree
@moonlily1
@moonlily1 7 лет назад
Sorry, but you are incorrect and gravely misunderstand the concepts at hand. OCD does not offer a "fantastic ability for self-preservation", but significantly impairs one's daily functioning. OCD is essentially being a slave to irrational thought patterns, knowing they are irrational, and still not being able to ignore them, and from this people can suffer greatly. Imagine washing your hands til they were cracked and bleeding, or not being able to leave your house without flipping every light switch 30 times or simply getting from one place to another without stepping on any cracks. Another form OCD can take for some is a compulsion to confess to crimes, even though you know that you did not commit them. Can you imagine how detrimental THAT is to your self-preservation? Being a psychopath has an advantage in some situations- ruthlessness can be useful sometimes if applied to in certain directions, but whatever use a complete lack of sympathy, empathy and guilt might have towards individual self-preservation, is ultimately detrimental to the survival of the species. To say that being emotionally dead inside is to have a "fantastic ability for self-preservation" is a failure to consider how detrimental low impulse control, disregard for consequences, disrespect for societal structures and the inability to form meaningful bonds would be for anyone not in a position of wealth and privilege as well as great talents and intelligence- anyone else will spend their lives rotting in prison or die young from fool hardy risk taking. Psychopaths are frequently criminally inclined even when they are not specifically violent, abuse drugs and alcohol, abuse children and spouses, and make catastrophic mistakes due to the inability to consider repercussions and self-regulate. ADHD is not simply "kids being kids". Children with ADHD have an abnormal amount of energy and an abnormal inability to focus or be physically still in relation to normal developmental levels at their respective age. People with ADHD are easily distracted, struggling with organizing tasks, which impairs their ability to learn, work, and form relationships. The inability to learn or make friends or carry out tasks is not in any way "a fantastic ability for self-preservation" but rather an obstacle to self-preservation. Despite your belief that it is a side effect of educational structures of "this day and age", schooling in previous decades and centuries was actually FAR more restrictive and disciplinarian with far more rote memorization and creative engagement. Knowledge and wisdom are both needed, but while you can attain knowledge without wisdom, you cannot attain wisdom without knowledge. I recommend you attain more knowledge on the subject of the various unrelated disorders you've remarked upon in order to comment on them wisely.
@uhuraenterprise6372
@uhuraenterprise6372 7 лет назад
GuardianKiyoshi Spot on
@InvaderTak176
@InvaderTak176 7 лет назад
moonlily1 Well OCD can then be considered an extreme aspect if a self preservation aspect though. You can, through technicality say that OCD exists on a spectrum and to a point OCD can be a useful habitual benefit.
@ethantaylor5425
@ethantaylor5425 7 лет назад
Thank you, I hope people like you will be able to change the way we are viewed.
@nikosk.736
@nikosk.736 9 лет назад
"I have no record. But I have done some fun things." LOL
@crazy8sdrums
@crazy8sdrums 9 лет назад
Psychologists, psychiatrists and neuroscientists do possess psychopathic traits because of their chosen careers. A psychopath detaches themselves from the emotions of others, and mind-scientists must also do this in order to not let their subjects affect them on an emotional level.
@crazy8sdrums
@crazy8sdrums 9 лет назад
Crazy 8s Drums Additionally, they, in general, tend to believe that their mind power is greater than their subjects...which is also a psychopathic trait.
@reynal_omnicide9217
@reynal_omnicide9217 9 лет назад
Crazy 8s Drums Stop projecting your perspective into other people. I do it all the time as well. Acknowledging it helps.
@robertl5105
@robertl5105 7 лет назад
when people do wrong by me I sometimes get them back in the exact same way. not as revenge, or out anger, but as a teaching experience so that they can see the consequences of their actions. my goal is to help them improve their own behavior. however the result is the same as if I were a psychopath?
@JacobBrownacro
@JacobBrownacro 9 лет назад
This is my favorite Big Think episode. I love this guy. Maybe I am part psychopath. I also want to wear his skin.
@Dexerinos
@Dexerinos 10 лет назад
THIS ONE was quite something !!! I almost got the feel he lost a tear there :) .. And yeah .. quite some things to think about ...
@mitchumsport
@mitchumsport 10 лет назад
omg it's jimmy fallon!
@alfonshomac
@alfonshomac 10 лет назад
I came here for this. Well done, Sir. You win my internets.
@rijubhatt8366
@rijubhatt8366 2 года назад
Dexter is quite the character. Yes, he is fair in an atypical manner - one could even say it is like money, the lowest common denominator of exchange in markets, though this time the concern is one for pain and pleasure at the biological level.
@MrConformation
@MrConformation 5 лет назад
Makes sense to me... Genes load the gun. Life style pulls the trigger... We all have the capability to be all these & more described. Ones programming (the brain) not feed the detectable traits.
@jessiturner48
@jessiturner48 3 года назад
Im a noncriminal phsycopath..I always knew I was different..I thought that I was such a strong person..I was so brave , not scared of a single thing in this world..Thought I was so strong I didnt need any friends or a man in my life...thought it was all my personality...come to find out everything in my life was symptons
@akankshasingh9606
@akankshasingh9606 3 года назад
It's fun being a psychopath.... People not know what's going inside your head.... Playing up with these minds.....It almost feels perfect... Doesn't it
@akankshasingh9606
@akankshasingh9606 3 года назад
It's fun being a psychopath.... People not know what's going inside your head.... Playing up with these minds.....It almost feels perfect... Doesn't it
@allisondoak9425
@allisondoak9425 7 лет назад
I struggle to define psychopathy as mental illness when it does not intrinsically negatively impact a person's life. It's more like a different way of being, it's not inherently bad or good, it just is.
@rayquesada6437
@rayquesada6437 10 лет назад
This is so interesting, I've always daydreamed about being a subject in brain scans, etc. To make a VERY long story short, I first suffered a complete mental breakdown at age 17, and while I was never officially diagnosed, I know for a fact that what i developed was in fact full blown schizophrenia. I was put on medications for bi-polar, which made my depressions and delusions WORSE. I never told the doctors what some of my deeper, darker delusions and paranoias were though, because I KNEW they would lock my ass up if they knew what was really going on in my head. Plus I believed they were CIA alien agents at the time...Well, somehow, through very long periods of introspection and literally driving myself mad with racing thoughts, hallucinations, delusions of grandeur, (you name it I had it), I literally snapped myself back to normal. I like...reverse-engineered my own insanity and came out with so much inner knowledge and peace that I was fine. This has happened to me now more times than i can think of, but I somehow have the strength every time it happens to not get totally lost in insanity. I can practically go to the edge, where, if you go an inch further you never come back, but i always know how to get back somehow. Its a subconscious thing though I believe... I also experience heightened states of creativity, energy, eloquence, etc. when i come back from these "episodes".
@stephanielapco1
@stephanielapco1 2 года назад
Dann. This was 7 yrs ago. You still good?
@reallysingh8297
@reallysingh8297 8 лет назад
Just a quick question for everyone. He started treating other well because he realized that his idea of self is flawed. That he isn't the good man he supposed he was. If this idea is his motivation to treat others well then isn't this overcompensation? Isn't this what all psychopaths do to fit in better? Wearing a socially acceptable mask? A possible psychopath here.
@PrestonBannister
@PrestonBannister 7 лет назад
When a test does not strongly distinguish between folk who do great harm, and folk who lead positive and constructive lives, the fault is in the test. The "psychopath" label is such a fault.
@Natedawg422
@Natedawg422 10 лет назад
It's like I've been saying for a decade now, everyone has a little "crazy" in them. The important thing is to embrace it, and try to direct it into something beautiful that doesn't hurt people! It could be painting, writing, philosophy, stand up comedy, music, programming, analyzing or all of the above! I for one am mildly OCD, socially awkward, short tempered, and slightly pyro maniacal. Therefore, I'm a cook! a damn good cook too! But like I said, crazy needs to be channeled, and hopefully, those that are to far gone get some kind of help...
@OTHERVERSETCG
@OTHERVERSETCG 10 лет назад
Enjoyable to relate to, guess that makes me an anti-lone wolf for a moment
@OTHERVERSETCG
@OTHERVERSETCG 10 лет назад
I let go though. Quickly.
@vladimiraofficial
@vladimiraofficial Год назад
Well... I unfortunately feel that the person who's "trying to treat me well" or is "treating me amazingly" doesn't really mean it and it affects me negatively quite early into such experience. Maybe the people who are telling you that they don't care if you mean it or not should check with themselves what is their level of self care and self love and if they truly know what is good for them. Besides all that, it is great you reached the point of self awareness and you are doing something constructive with your current level of self understanding.
@mindofown
@mindofown 6 лет назад
excellent, insightful and generous, thankyou
@Lakbra69
@Lakbra69 10 лет назад
Looking at this man talk makes me want to pet my dog... strange.
@proudargie
@proudargie 10 лет назад
He used the word ''hombres'' (men in spanish) when he refered to very bad guys, like serial killers. It's not the first time I notice it. ¿Can somebody tell me where that habit came from?
@bob3913
@bob3913 10 лет назад
It wasn't simply an absent minded interjection. He didn't just toss out the word "hombres" to hint at his underlying racist motifs. It was probably just a reference to the notorious Latin-American drug cartel operations of the last 50 years. Pablo Escobar, the Mexican mafia, etc, etc.
@proudargie
@proudargie 10 лет назад
I disagree. I've heard the word hombres with the same meaning in american films back in the 40's.
@deadprivacy
@deadprivacy 10 лет назад
proudargie it appears to be inherent racism. he thinks criminal- he thinks "mexican" - cant help but force this association on us as well- its why youve heard it before just as you have heard psychopathic mexicans call whites "gringos" with the same distain- its a subconcious divisive inferred "other" inviting you to feel at one with his whiteness and think him not as psycho as those foreign psychos when hes just the same- he looks like a fat washed up old drug lord in fact. Oh thats what he is in fact! psychiatrist is modern slang for stae sponsored drug dealer.
@losgryfog
@losgryfog 10 лет назад
deadprivacy You are correct it's rasict. But his use of it is more akin to pop culture..."classic" American western films. Which typically portray native Americans and Mexicans as underdeveloped, "savage", and generally an enemy/others vibe.
@deadprivacy
@deadprivacy 10 лет назад
losgryfog Thing is i dont think he himself is actually racist- its an invite for you to think racistly- he doesnt even know hes doing it i suspect, Its actually sort of subconcious racist trolling- he just stood there and told you hes a psychopath so hes trying to find something you can dislike more than him i would think. In fallons case he thinks "mexican psychopaths they are worse than ME- they have guns- ill subconciously frighten my audience with this comment - then i will provide them with my own psychopathic thinking as "protection" from these "hombres" (which actually means "dudes" in any case) So we get cognitive dissonance into the bargain- we get an inferred association reinforcing a cultural stereotype - and Fallon gets to feel racistly bonded to all the white people hes made the video to "educate"- the focus goes from his behaviour to all the OTHER psychopaths hes "warning" you about. This is the psychopath. This is what they do- charm you just enough to get you to listen and then proceed to lie and to confuse and in fallons case flounder to try to gain further reads on you and convince you with a well placed tie that you should definitely listen to him on the subject. When the most insightful and truthful thing he says is "gandalf told me "youre it"-? - i believe this transaltes as Dr David Hare told me i should confess to be a incurable shithead. even when they are telling thetruth its coded and conspiratorial. you can trust me on this both my parents love a bit of DR Fallon. Do you want the Psychopath inside? look hes coming closer and he wants to show you something...now just lean forward...
@Iightbeing
@Iightbeing 17 дней назад
What a great thing, hats off to you sir.
@MacDKB
@MacDKB 9 лет назад
I know people like this guy. That is, people who are totally blind to the fact that they're psychopaths, but their behaviour, though often subtle, is unmistakable. Having said that, he talks about settling the score, and holding a grudge often for years. To me, that's not psychopathic. Psychopathy is going out of your way to harm someone just to be a predator, or over something trivial. I'm certain that I have been victimized in the last several years (since around 2009) by such people. Obviously, I won't get into details, but I'm almost certain. And they're still stalking me, even now...
@hebince44
@hebince44 9 лет назад
Yes true. I know someone in my family who has been played by by a psychopath. They have extreme manipulative power and she was able to hold him for 20 years, full of constant mental torture. Yet she was able to manipulate everyone. Some of my family members said at times her personality just came to the surface and she would show how much she enjoyed hurting people mentally. These people are no joke. They're not the average "oh we all have a psychopath in us because we'd like to fantasize about hurting someone we hate". No, real psychopaths are on a whole different level of evil. They do it just because. Just because they are. It's the equivalent of breathing for them.
@babybirdhome
@babybirdhome 9 лет назад
Holding a grudge over some slight for years before getting even for it so that you can do it without the person having a clue where it's coming from or why is pretty trivial, and very cold-blooded. It's definitely psychopathic.
@MacDKB
@MacDKB 9 лет назад
babybirdhome Over a _slight_, yes. The word "slight" means that the thing is minor. But he's not talking about little things. In fact, he _explicitly_ says in the video little things don't bother him, but if someone screws him over in big way, he'll get back at that person eventually. The only way you could see that as psychopathic as far as I'm concerned is if you're the kind of no-account person who's used to getting away with screwing people over. Or, just used to not giving much care for how your actions affect others. I think, as a culture, we're way too forgiving of heinous things. We don't hold people to account _nearly_ as much as we ought to. It allows scummy people to get away with all kinds of depraved stuff. I think that's wrong. If it takes a little time to settle the score, and you have to do it under the table because it's not socially acceptable to hold people to account, well then so be it.
@disorganizedclutter5513
@disorganizedclutter5513 9 лет назад
***** Psychopaths very well may be similar to borderlines. On the outside, the things they get upset about may seem like something trivial, but from the inside of their minds, it's a big deal. In my experience, they'll even perceive you as doing something against them that didn't actually happen and start to seek revenge or punish you for it. Or they'll be out to get you simply because you didn't do what they wanted or where defending yourself. So, on the outside it'll seem like they just enjoy hurting people, but in reality, they're oversensitive and, because of their lack of empathy, they can't understand other people's actions so they overreact to things. They may think they're innocent and just evening the score and that the whole world has wronged them, but in reality they're hurting people way beyond what's "even".
@MacDKB
@MacDKB 9 лет назад
Silvy Honey Yes; _however_, it's also the case that people do nasty things they aren't aware of (cognitive bias). And such oblivious people are strongly inclined, given how self-centred they are in their thoughtlessness, to label as psychopathic those who see them for who they really are. By the reasoning of such people, the law is psychopathic, since it says ignorance is no excuse. And yet ignorance for their kind is their _only_ excuse, even when it's willful. And as far as they're concerned, it's a perfectly valid excuse...
@jacobzaranyika9334
@jacobzaranyika9334 3 года назад
Thank you 🙏 Big Think. This has followed me everywhere too and I get the message. I will watch it later.
@j03150315
@j03150315 Год назад
Omg…this is such an amazing episode!!
@sageryan25
@sageryan25 10 лет назад
Perhaps in the future we can treat selfishness like a disease with stem cells and gene therapy.
@lukejw9399
@lukejw9399 10 лет назад
i doubt it as its a nurture trait more than nature but i suppose you can manipulate hormones
@pisiupo
@pisiupo 10 лет назад
Luke Willey I'm pretty sure that selfish people are too selfish to want to become more selfless.
@sageryan25
@sageryan25 10 лет назад
Who said they had to want to?
@199NickYT
@199NickYT 10 лет назад
It would just re-wire people's brains to do things for others *because* it feels good to themselves.
@sumdumgai19
@sumdumgai19 10 лет назад
I think selfishness is a defense mechanism. people learn to be selfish because of the way others treated them in the past. the if I don't look out for me no one will way of thinking.
@WhisperingChocoTaco
@WhisperingChocoTaco 10 лет назад
Are all selfish people borderline psychotic? The only part that sounded out of the range of normal behavior was the revenge bit, most people want to minimize things that are a chore and maximize fun.
@wiccaantje
@wiccaantje 10 лет назад
***** Why? I concider that the better behaviour. It's not the best behaviour for the group (or society) but it's the best behaviour for you personally. Why is that concidered a personality disorder instead of just acting different?
@WhisperingChocoTaco
@WhisperingChocoTaco 10 лет назад
wiccaantje confirmed for borderline psychopath
@wiccaantje
@wiccaantje 10 лет назад
WhisperingChocoTaco Well I knew that before I watched this video, so what?
@WhisperingChocoTaco
@WhisperingChocoTaco 10 лет назад
They should get a house together full of borderline psychos and make a reality show about them. Better yet a survival program, they would probably start cannibalizing eachother on day one.
@Greyz174
@Greyz174 10 лет назад
everyone is selfish. even people who are entirely "unselfish". theyre like that because being unselfish makes them feel better. if being unselfish depressed them they wouldnt do it
@flyingmobias
@flyingmobias 9 лет назад
Amazing talk!
@ShawnRavenfire
@ShawnRavenfire 10 лет назад
Sounds like he's describing me. Yes, I probably could have become a psycho serial killer or something (I've felt tempted to on many occasions), but I've managed to keep it under control. So what makes one person go off on a rampage, and another person retrain himself to be a "good" person? Maybe there's a missing element, or maybe it's just free will taking over.
@mecemodzada8315
@mecemodzada8315 10 лет назад
Is it possible that I am a psychopath? I honestly have a low empathy towards other humans. I laugh and enjoy when I see the bad things happen to people. I enjoy seeing a video of mother crying in agony holding her freshly killed child. Something about violence that makes me fee alive. Yet on the other side I sometimes am very gentle. I can feel emotions in other person that I love. I sometimes cry myself to sleep thinking about what would happen if my friend or loved one died. I feel confused in my own mind. On one side, I think I could seriously kill people for living and enjoy torturing them while they scream in agony since I often watch those kind of videos (real not movies), and I often fantasize about it. Yet on the other side I am very emotional (and I did read that psychopaths don't have emotions). I also have some trouble with my ego, it seems like I always need to be correct and people around me only make mistakes. Feels like I am a god walking among them, but a god with a flaw.
@TheBernas24
@TheBernas24 10 лет назад
Maybe you're displaying symptons of OCD. Intrusive thoughts (thinking about killing people, thinking about people close to you dying) are very commmon. Interestingly enough , at 16 I recently discovered I had been experiencing these thoughts since I was 8 years old. I also read that these thoughts are common among people who don't have OCD, but it's obviously connected to the Obsession part of the disorder. All these years I thought I was a psychopath too, one thing that made me think even more about it is that I used to be a very emotional person (thinking about my family dying etc) and with the onset of puberty all that empathy just dissapeared (although I had been depressed for some time, so that might have helped) I still can't quite understand myself though, hopefully time will tell and I'll get to know myself better.
@TubeYouUser123ABC
@TubeYouUser123ABC 10 лет назад
You are one sick fuck. You need to get some help.
@BathroomTile
@BathroomTile 10 лет назад
You suffer from severe edginess.
@mecemodzada8315
@mecemodzada8315 10 лет назад
The thing is I heard that psychopaths remain cold and solid when they murder someone. When I was hanging a cat I was nothing but that. My heart was pounding and I was really full of adrenaline, not cold. The thing is cat managed to cut the rope since it was very thin so later I was thinking about why I didn't use thicker rope. I am 21 now and I have been in this mind state for the past 3-4 years. Sometimes I even think if things won't work out the best that I should just start killing people, ether for money or for my own pleasure. If I can't have a good life why should others have a good life ether?
@TheBernas24
@TheBernas24 10 лет назад
Mećem Odzada alright, that's definitely psychopathic behaviour. Dont worry though, you can still fit in society and have a decent life. You know right from wrong, you have some kind of empathy, if what you described is true. May I ask you this though, when do you think did you start to display those kind of behaviours?
@LucasRodmo
@LucasRodmo 8 лет назад
Unlikely everybody in this comment session, I'm not a psychopath, I'm very empathic, cool, nice person, and I want the best to people, and I respect and congregate with people that values this.
@cmw12
@cmw12 4 года назад
Is it courageous for someone to come forward who objectively doesn’t care what you think and can’t really feel shame? Interesting talk.
@cee8697
@cee8697 8 лет назад
It's really sweet of him to try to improve and be more selfless towards his wife and family
@Elle-xf8mw
@Elle-xf8mw 2 года назад
Congratulation you just got manipulated by a Psychopath!!!! That's exactly what they do! He didn't do anything selfless! He just meant if he was selfish all the time all his life, now he changed something minor a bit to blend in not to show love or being selfless, That is nothing compare to their narcissistic behavior! They are not capable of being selfless ever.
@otecfabricationstynagh6365
@otecfabricationstynagh6365 6 лет назад
Have to admire this man's courage.
@someperson2500
@someperson2500 8 лет назад
The end got to me. I've been wondering if faking caring was an insult or not. But this gives a more positive outlook for faking. Makes... sense?
@AbstruseDecapod
@AbstruseDecapod 10 лет назад
"You're gonna like the way you look. I guarantee it!"
@amberenergyhealertarot6617
@amberenergyhealertarot6617 Год назад
A similar thing happened to me. My son's dad had always told me "You're a psychopath." I'd just laugh and blow it off. Then, I went to prison, and saw a psychologist...my results? Borderline Psychopath. Along with a few other more common things. (This was JUST a psychological diagnosis, no physical brain scans). When I got released and went back home, I told my Mom. Her reaction? "Yea? Well, we all already knew that." And I was like, "Well, shit." And then I began to actively pursue change. Why? I saw it as a challenge. I like conquering challenges. And I have a belief that if you can't lead your own mind then you aren't worth leading anyone else. Then, I used my manipulation tools purposely on myself. I worked my ass off for years. I studied myself. I did MAJORLY DEEP shadow work, self healing, inner child work, learned more about spirituality, studied energy healing, became a Reiki Master practitioner, studied Rapid Transitional Therapy and began using it. I self counciled and just worked on one symptom at a time. I learned how to cry, care, soothe, connect. No idea what my formal "diagnosis" would be currently. But I DO know that I am practically a whole new human. I feel like society needs to be more willing to embrace the ability to change. Stop labeling people, and fearing or stigmatizing mental health irregularities. We need to start utilizing people for their strengths, before villainizing them because of their weaknesses. Most importantly, start providing the tools to cope BEFORE needing to heal. We should start testing for this pattern of brain activity in children, and teach them tools and awareness very early, before any trauma occurs. Maybe they'd end up being congratulated soldiers, surgeons, or business CEOs in their futures instead of addicts, murderers, thieves.
@216trixie
@216trixie 10 лет назад
This was powerful for me. Thanks for this.
@lisasays6174
@lisasays6174 10 лет назад
This is information is so helpful, and I'm very grateful for this man's (bravery? apathy? both?).
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